Speaker 1: It's the second date update Mojoe in the morning.
Speaker 2: So not getting a call back after you went on
Speaker 2: a date. We're going to find out what the story
Speaker 2: is here this morning, Nathan. What's going on? First off,
Speaker 2: how'd you guys meet? Nathan?
Speaker 3: We met through mutual friends.
Speaker 1: And what'd you guys do for your date?
Speaker 3: You know, we've been on a few days, you know,
Speaker 3: first time we just met for coffee and you know,
Speaker 3: then we went out to dinner, and you know, we've
Speaker 3: been to each other's houses and stuff.
Speaker 2: Too, So this is cool. So you guys have actually
Speaker 2: been on multiple dates. But then all of a sudden,
Speaker 2: now she is not wanting another date, or at least
Speaker 2: is not allowing you to ask her on another date.
Speaker 3: Basically, I don't I don't know what's going on.
Speaker 1: Rachel's on the phone with us right now. Nathan, say
Speaker 1: hey to Rachel.
Speaker 4: Hey, Hey, Nathan.
Speaker 1: Oh that's a.
Speaker 2: Nice Hey Nathan, everything everything okay in your world?
Speaker 1: Rachel?
Speaker 5: Yeah, everything's good.
Speaker 6: I mean I like him, so yeah, I'll be I'll
Speaker 6: be nice to him.
Speaker 2: Okay, Nathan, she likes you. Do you want to ask
Speaker 2: her out? Or do you want to ask her where
Speaker 2: she's been?
Speaker 3: Yeah? Hey, Rachel, how you doing.
Speaker 6: Hey, I'm good, I'm good.
Speaker 2: What's the problem, Yeah, Rachel? Have you just been busy?
Speaker 2: Or is there something more to this that you can
Speaker 2: add to us?
Speaker 6: I know he's just he's dating other people, so I
Speaker 6: don't really Yeah, I don't really want to put any.
Speaker 1: Wait what do you mean by that, Nathan? What do
Speaker 1: you What does she mean by that? Oh?
Speaker 3: Well, I don't know what she's heard or anything.
Speaker 1: But what do you mean by that? Rachel?
Speaker 6: I just I know that he's dating other people.
Speaker 1: I have Yeah, I'm my friend.
Speaker 6: She's on this Facebook group called are we Dating the
Speaker 6: same Guy? And he's kind of all over it, and
Speaker 6: I just don't want to be putting anything into that,
Speaker 6: Like is it Wait? I like him, but I don't
Speaker 6: want to put anything more into it.
Speaker 1: Nathan.
Speaker 2: Would that be from from like pre Rachel? Or are
Speaker 2: you currently dating while you're you're dating Rachel and you've
Speaker 2: gone on a few dates with her?
Speaker 6: Well?
Speaker 3: No, I'm still meeting new people too, but like you know,
Speaker 3: I'm definitely open to, you know, doing something serious with Rachel.
Speaker 3: But until then, like, I don't see what the problem is.
Speaker 4: So you guys haven't really had a conversation about that yet,
Speaker 4: about where what the status is of your relationship?
Speaker 6: Right?
Speaker 2: So here here's a question, really and I want to
Speaker 2: I'm mean, I'll ask the listeners this question too so
Speaker 2: they can weigh in on this. Here's a question if
Speaker 2: you if you go on a few dates with somebody
Speaker 2: that you met and you guys met on dating apps,
Speaker 2: should they stop going on and meeting other people and
Speaker 2: doing more dates? Because you've been on at least three dates,
Speaker 2: it seems like you guys been on possibly now a
Speaker 2: fourth date coming up. If you guys do it? Or
Speaker 2: is it okay to continue to keep dating Rachel? You
Speaker 2: think that he should have stopped?
Speaker 6: Yeah, I mean, I would just expect that when you
Speaker 6: feel like the connection is good and we'd even been
Speaker 6: talking about future dates, like i'd expect at that point,
Speaker 6: you're not pursuing other people because you have someone right
Speaker 6: in front of you.
Speaker 1: What do you guys think, Shannon and everybody else, I'm.
Speaker 7: With the guy for once. I think that if you
Speaker 7: haven't sat down and had a conversation about being exclusive,
Speaker 7: then he's allowed to date other people.
Speaker 2: Would it be weird though, to know that he's going
Speaker 2: out with you a couple of days a week and
Speaker 2: then going out with another girl on I.
Speaker 7: Don't blame him. He has to figure out what he wants,
Speaker 7: what he likes, and then once he decides if that's her.
Speaker 4: I get that personal preference. And this is completely my opinion.
Speaker 4: If if I were in that situation, I think after like
Speaker 4: two three dates which you guys have had of going okay,
Speaker 4: like I see something happening here, we're talking about future plans,
Speaker 4: I would hope that he would put everything else on
Speaker 4: pause to see where it goes.
Speaker 1: That's what I would want.
Speaker 2: keV, You've gone on dates with a few at the
Speaker 2: same time, probably right, m h.
Speaker 1: What do you so? You obviously think that Nathan's doing okay?
Speaker 8: At first, I was thinking, like she tripping, she need
Speaker 8: to fall back and relax. But she may want different
Speaker 8: things at the moment. She may be dating with intentionality.
Speaker 8: She likes one guy, she wants to be with one
Speaker 8: guy and live her life in a way that she
Speaker 8: wants to, whereas he might be just be playing the
Speaker 8: field and trying to identify who is the priority, where
Speaker 8: she has already placed him in that number one position.
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, Nathan, anything that you want to say to
Speaker 2: Rachel about this.
Speaker 3: No, just like, you know, I really like Rachel and
Speaker 3: like you know, I was up open to something more serious.
Speaker 3: But yeah, I don't feel like it did anything wrong.
Speaker 3: I'm just sorry for her.
Speaker 4: It's funny. You really didn't do anything wrong. I think
Speaker 4: you it's just miscommunication.
Speaker 1: A listener Megan you there? Yes, good morning, Hey Megan.
Speaker 2: We got listener Nathan and listener Rachel on with us
Speaker 2: right now for second date update.
Speaker 1: What did you want to say?
Speaker 6: So?
Speaker 5: I want to say, well, Rachel is totally okay for
Speaker 5: like protecting herself. I definitely feel like maybe she should
Speaker 5: have said, like, hey, seeing your face on this Facebook page,
Speaker 5: what's this about? It's you know, it's pre Rachel or
Speaker 5: you know, if it's current. He needs to be honest
Speaker 5: with her as well and say, you know, like yeah,
Speaker 5: I am dating you know, other people, because that's what
Speaker 5: dating is, you know, like you date people, see who
Speaker 5: you're vibing with, tell your intentions with that person, and
Speaker 5: see if it works out. And that's what they need
Speaker 5: to do that. I think that it's just like a miscommunication.
Speaker 5: I feel like they need to just have a conversation
Speaker 5: and see where they want to each go and then
Speaker 5: go from there because it seems like they like each other.
Speaker 2: Yeah, what about this, You guys have spent the night
Speaker 2: with each other, so I'm assuming if you guys had sex, yes, okay,
Speaker 2: So if you start having sex with somebody, is it
Speaker 2: okay to be out having sex with us?
Speaker 6: It's not?
Speaker 1: What's up Julia High?
Speaker 9: So I think they're both right. Yeah, yeah, I think
Speaker 9: if he can still date other people, they haven't had
Speaker 9: a conversation about being exclusive. But if she feels the
Speaker 9: way she feels and she's not comfortable by, you know,
Speaker 9: being part of that, and then she's out.
Speaker 3: Yeah, and that's fair.
Speaker 2: What do you think about the whole idea that these
Speaker 2: guys have had sex with each other?
Speaker 1: And that was just commented? Oh see, that's I didn't
Speaker 1: hear that.
Speaker 9: That's then they probably should have had that conversation about
Speaker 9: being exclusive before they.
Speaker 2: Have Exactly he's so worried not uh so, so sex
Speaker 2: is now because keV you kind of took that off guard.
Speaker 1: Can you have sex with multiple people at the same time.
Speaker 8: Well, I mean, I'm not trying to bash or anything,
Speaker 8: and I hope it doesn't come off this way, but
Speaker 8: I don't know the right way to say. I just
Speaker 8: feel like, like the caller just said, other questions should
Speaker 8: have been asked. If you was, you know, worried about
Speaker 8: one thing, I don't know how you couldn't been worried
Speaker 8: about the other.
Speaker 2: So definitely, if you guys are going to try to
Speaker 2: decide if you're going to be exclusive with each other,
Speaker 2: you have to have that conversation. But if you have
Speaker 2: sex with somebody, should you say to them, Hey, since
Speaker 2: we're having sex, I'm assuming we're just together or does
Speaker 2: that make it more that you're speeding the relationship faster?
Speaker 8: I think three dates it's crazy to assume that I'm
Speaker 8: supposed to cut off everybody that I've met before you
Speaker 8: and we just supposed to be together at this point.
Speaker 6: I think that I'm saying That's not what I'm saying
Speaker 6: at all.
Speaker 1: What are you saying?
Speaker 6: It's just being decent, you know, like, Okay, do you
Speaker 6: really have the inner to like have sex with multiple
Speaker 6: peoples When you get to the point of like having,
Speaker 6: you know, having sex with someone you like them enough
Speaker 6: to like, you know, like you said, he sees it
Speaker 6: maybe being a long term thing, Like okay, well, then
Speaker 6: do we have to have a conversation.
Speaker 4: Yeah, then we again, he didn't do anything wrong, but
Speaker 4: that he.
Speaker 1: Has the energy.
Speaker 2: Actually the things that Rachel's wrong, What do you think
Speaker 2: she's wrong about?
Speaker 10: I think she's wrong because she didn't just speak up
Speaker 10: and communicate like. That's why. The issue I always have
Speaker 10: with this second day updating is that people just goot
Speaker 10: people and don't tell them the reasons. And then if
Speaker 10: you're upset with me for dating other people, and then
Speaker 10: you go with me, I'm dating other people. Still, I'm
Speaker 10: not gonna sit around waiting for you to tell me
Speaker 10: what the.
Speaker 3: Hell is wrong with you?
Speaker 1: But what about having sex with multiples?
Speaker 10: I think again that they should have had You should
Speaker 10: have had a conversation with him. Hey, I like you are.
Speaker 10: We're going to know each other. We've been having to say.
Speaker 10: Likely if I'm the only one that you deal.
Speaker 2: With, Rachel, Rachel was going to say something to you.
Speaker 2: What are you gonna say, Rachel to Ashley, I mean
Speaker 2: grow up?
Speaker 10: That's yes, that's you're you're a grown woman and you're
Speaker 10: dating and if you do not want.
Speaker 6: Woman, and I don't need to deal with you know,
Speaker 6: a boy who is having sex with multiple people, dating
Speaker 6: a bunch of people at once, Like when you find
Speaker 6: someone that you like, pursue them after other.
Speaker 10: People them the same way. You just said that to me.
Speaker 10: You could have said that to him.
Speaker 1: And she brings up a good women communicate.
Speaker 10: Why not just say it?
Speaker 6: Girl?
Speaker 1: You got it? Speak up.
Speaker 6: Man.
Speaker 2: Hold on, Wendy wants to make a point about that
Speaker 2: Facebook group that you saw him on.
Speaker 1: What did you want to say, Wendy?
Speaker 5: Oh, Rachel, So a friend of mine that I work
Speaker 5: with ended up up on that Facebook page.
Speaker 3: A girl he was dating completely ripped him to shreds
Speaker 3: put his picture out there and she posted it anonymously
Speaker 3: and she was just angry because the relationship went our.
Speaker 5: Page. Just take that Facebook page with a grain of felts.
Speaker 9: Yeah yeah, like have the conversations up front, but girl, don't.
Speaker 5: Base your relationships on social media at garbage.
Speaker 2: Thanks Wendy, I appreciate it. And hold on, Chelsea, what
Speaker 2: did you want to say?
Speaker 5: To each their own? But maybe wait longer than three
Speaker 5: dates to have sex with someone so you really know
Speaker 5: that person and what they have going on. You can
Speaker 5: make like an actual decision on a relationship the smart
Speaker 5: way with your brain instead of your body. Like you
Speaker 5: don't know, just because he's someone doesn't mean that you
Speaker 5: have to sleep with them automatically, like get to know
Speaker 5: them as a person first.
Speaker 1: Her point, that's fair, and you follow that all the
Speaker 1: time to No.
Speaker 8: I mean I think her point is, you know, maybe
Speaker 8: you shouldn't have sex with him before you found out
Speaker 8: if he was to Day and other people.
Speaker 1: I think that's her point. Jay wants to make the
Speaker 1: last comment. What's up? Jay?
Speaker 5: I think that girls would just shut up because I
Speaker 5: hear women.
Speaker 6: Say all the time that data mals listen until you
Speaker 6: find the one for you.
Speaker 5: He was dating the one for him.
Speaker 2: There you go, all right, Jay, Well, thank you for
Speaker 2: the call. We appreciate it. Rachel, will there be another
Speaker 2: date with Nathan?
Speaker 1: Though?
Speaker 6: It's up to him. I mean, I just don't want
Speaker 6: to know that he actually wants to pursue this, you know,
Speaker 6: I need to. I need to have some sort of assurance.
Speaker 1: What do we think, Nathan?
Speaker 3: Yeah, Like, I'm totally open to it.
Speaker 6: Like I said, I think.
Speaker 1: Had this happen in a long time, I'm like, uh,
Speaker 1: so you're.
Speaker 7: Willing to cut the rest of the women, Nathan, because
Speaker 7: that's what she's asking you to do.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm definitely open to I mean, after this, it's
Speaker 3: kind of weird. You know what the crazy thing is is.
Speaker 3: I don't know what this group Facebook group is, but
Speaker 3: the person who made that post about me is probably
Speaker 3: somebody who's jealous because I kind of started cutting them
Speaker 3: off for Rachel.
Speaker 2: All Right, we got another date lydia. Make sure we
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