WEBVTT - Serious Relationship Questions 0:00:00.080 --> 0:00:02.160 Bailey brought this up the other day that your friend 0:00:02.200 --> 0:00:05.320 Katie Cap, who is you know, she's been you know single, yeah, 0:00:05.320 --> 0:00:07.320 for years and years, but now she's being a little 0:00:07.320 --> 0:00:09.959 bit more serious. She's having a conversation with this with 0:00:10.039 --> 0:00:12.320 this fella, yes, about life and things. 0:00:12.480 --> 0:00:12.720 Yeah. 0:00:12.760 --> 0:00:14.360 So Katie Cap and I have been kind of on 0:00:14.400 --> 0:00:17.160 the same route with singleness, and she got a boyfriend 0:00:17.200 --> 0:00:19.880 kind of at the same time as me, and she 0:00:20.040 --> 0:00:23.680 is very serious with this guy, so pretty much on 0:00:23.720 --> 0:00:27.360 their third date, she gave me this list of questions 0:00:27.360 --> 0:00:29.400 that she asked him and they went like back and 0:00:29.440 --> 0:00:33.080 forth answering these questions. And I think me and regular 0:00:33.120 --> 0:00:36.159 guy have maybe answered five five of these questions. 0:00:36.360 --> 0:00:38.720 And that's here is what they are. Okay, So here 0:00:38.720 --> 0:00:39.000 they are. 0:00:39.040 --> 0:00:40.559 It is a long list, but I'll try and get 0:00:40.560 --> 0:00:42.760 through them with enough time for you to soak in. 0:00:42.920 --> 0:00:43.240 Okay. 0:00:43.880 --> 0:00:46.760 Do you have a mental timeline of when you want 0:00:46.840 --> 0:00:50.480 to be married by Am I someone you generally want 0:00:50.520 --> 0:00:53.199 to be with or am I just fitting into that timeline? 0:00:53.280 --> 0:00:57.880 M Do you want kids? How many kids? What if 0:00:57.920 --> 0:01:01.840 those kids can't biologically be you? What if you could 0:01:01.920 --> 0:01:05.520 never have children that are biologically yours? What if those 0:01:05.640 --> 0:01:10.039 children were never of infant age. How much money do 0:01:10.080 --> 0:01:12.280 you make? Do you receive an annual raise? 0:01:12.360 --> 0:01:14.720 I'm going to stop there only because yeah, the other 0:01:14.760 --> 0:01:17.240 ones I totally get it. But that's an interesting one 0:01:17.720 --> 0:01:20.080 because you do need to know how much someone makes. 0:01:20.080 --> 0:01:21.920 Are you going to be the financial, like, you know, 0:01:21.959 --> 0:01:24.600 responsible person in the in the relationship, right? You know? 0:01:24.720 --> 0:01:26.880 Do they, like you know, work part time here and 0:01:26.920 --> 0:01:30.000 there down in the valley records and they make three 0:01:30.160 --> 0:01:33.640 thirty five an hour? Or do they make some that's 0:01:33.680 --> 0:01:34.639 a question. 0:01:34.720 --> 0:01:36.760 Yeah, yeah, And Katie cap has been known to like 0:01:36.880 --> 0:01:38.480 if when she would go on dates with people, she 0:01:38.520 --> 0:01:40.320 would see what their job title was and she would 0:01:40.360 --> 0:01:42.440 google it with salary on the end to see how 0:01:42.520 --> 0:01:45.240 much they love Katie Castles, I know. So, how much 0:01:45.280 --> 0:01:47.360 money do you make? Do you make an annual raise? 0:01:47.480 --> 0:01:50.240 If yes, what was that raise last year? How much 0:01:50.240 --> 0:01:52.600 do you have in savings? Do you have separate accounts 0:01:52.920 --> 0:01:53.600 for retirement? 0:01:53.720 --> 0:01:59.120 That's a question that's I think that's reserved for you're 0:01:59.360 --> 0:02:03.600 deep into relationship asking someone how much they have in savings. Yeah, 0:02:03.640 --> 0:02:06.040 that's a deeply personal question. 0:02:06.320 --> 0:02:07.960 Well, that's it's on the list. 0:02:08.480 --> 0:02:10.040 What do you think about that one? Jenny, would you 0:02:10.120 --> 0:02:11.760 be what would you How would you feel if you're, like, 0:02:11.800 --> 0:02:13.440 you know, seeing this new guy and he's like, you know, 0:02:14.040 --> 0:02:15.640 or just wondering how much have in shavings? 0:02:16.680 --> 0:02:19.240 I would be perfectly fine saying what I have because 0:02:19.320 --> 0:02:22.680 I'm very financially responsible. I would be uncomfortable asking that 0:02:22.800 --> 0:02:24.000 to whoever I'm seeing. 0:02:24.080 --> 0:02:25.919 You'd be okay telling him what you have in. 0:02:25.880 --> 0:02:28.400 Savings, absolutely, because I'm proud of how I handle my money. 0:02:29.040 --> 0:02:32.280 I do very well with money, so I'm okay with that. 0:02:32.360 --> 0:02:34.160 You're like me, you just don't really spend it, Yeah, 0:02:34.200 --> 0:02:36.000 pretty much. You spend it on the things that you love. 0:02:36.120 --> 0:02:39.760 Yeah. Do you have a separate account set up for retirement? 0:02:39.919 --> 0:02:42.880 If yes, what is your annual contribution? Do you have 0:02:42.919 --> 0:02:46.440 any debt? If so, how much and from what? What 0:02:46.560 --> 0:02:48.800 is your plan for paying that down? What is the 0:02:48.840 --> 0:02:49.520 interest of the US. 0:02:49.520 --> 0:02:51.720 Are all questions that you might want to ask in 0:02:51.760 --> 0:02:54.239 a relationship. Yeah, let me know whether you think these 0:02:54.240 --> 0:02:56.760 are too intrusive to be like date number three and 0:02:56.880 --> 0:03:00.240 Katie Key is asking this guy Katie. 0:03:00.120 --> 0:03:02.560 But yeah, it's bold, but like he answered them and 0:03:02.560 --> 0:03:06.200 they like went back and forth with these questions. So wild, 0:03:06.360 --> 0:03:09.560 but Okay, have you ever lived alone? Have you ever 0:03:09.680 --> 0:03:13.800 lived with a girlfriend? When was your last relationship and 0:03:13.840 --> 0:03:15.120 how long was that last time? 0:03:15.120 --> 0:03:17.000 When was your last bowel movement? I mean that's a 0:03:17.000 --> 0:03:18.840 fair question too, fair gut health, it's fair. 0:03:18.919 --> 0:03:21.239 You need to know, you know how you move long term. 0:03:21.320 --> 0:03:23.520 Do you see yourself still living in the city or 0:03:23.560 --> 0:03:27.680 living in the suburbs. What religion are you? Is it 0:03:27.720 --> 0:03:29.760 important to you that your children be the same religion 0:03:29.800 --> 0:03:33.040 as you? What are your three biggest fears in life? 0:03:33.480 --> 0:03:35.800 And what does a meaningful life look like to you? 0:03:37.000 --> 0:03:37.800 I like all of those. 0:03:37.840 --> 0:03:40.080 I think one I would add to the like talking 0:03:40.120 --> 0:03:44.400 about previous relationships, is like why did the relationship end? Yeah, 0:03:44.520 --> 0:03:46.400 if someone sits there and says that the other person 0:03:46.520 --> 0:03:49.000 was crazy, or they say that about a lot of people, 0:03:49.120 --> 0:03:50.520 that's Oh. 0:03:50.560 --> 0:03:52.680 I think it's one of those things like somebody can 0:03:52.760 --> 0:03:55.160 be crazy. You can date a guy who's crazy, you 0:03:55.200 --> 0:03:57.160 can date a woman who's crazy, you can date anybody 0:03:57.160 --> 0:04:00.800 who's crazy. But if everybody they dated up, oh she's crazy, 0:04:00.840 --> 0:04:03.240 Oh she's really crazy. Oh, well, then it's like he 0:04:03.680 --> 0:04:08.080 It's kind of like I read somewhere years ago, like 0:04:08.240 --> 0:04:10.800 if you think everybody around you is a jerk. Oh, 0:04:10.840 --> 0:04:13.320 my boss is a jerk. Bailey's a jerk, vonds of 0:04:13.320 --> 0:04:18.640 pain and that should you're the jerk. So but really interesting. 0:04:18.800 --> 0:04:21.600 Yeah, somebody texted in saying those questions yikes, how can 0:04:21.600 --> 0:04:22.640 you ask these questions? 0:04:22.640 --> 0:04:24.120 Sounds like a business transaction? 0:04:24.600 --> 0:04:25.520 Wow? Wow. 0:04:25.800 --> 0:04:28.680 I think that maybe in your twenties it might be 0:04:28.680 --> 0:04:31.320 a little bit too much. But like me, Bailey, Katiekap, 0:04:31.320 --> 0:04:33.560 we're in our thirties now, and like, if you want 0:04:33.560 --> 0:04:35.279 to settle down and have kids and have a marriage 0:04:35.320 --> 0:04:36.719 and stuff, you kind of have to get to the 0:04:36.720 --> 0:04:38.080 harder questions much quicker. 0:04:38.240 --> 0:04:41.760 Yeah, in life, But I think maybe my generation is different, 0:04:41.839 --> 0:04:44.479 or at least my thought is different. You will learn 0:04:44.680 --> 0:04:48.400 these things organically as you go through their life. If 0:04:48.440 --> 0:04:51.280 they bring up like what religion are you, well, if 0:04:51.320 --> 0:04:54.640 it never comes up, then I'm going to assume that 0:04:54.760 --> 0:04:58.320 religion is not particularly important to them. However, if they're like, yeah, 0:04:58.320 --> 0:05:01.040 I'm going to temple on Saturday. You know I can't 0:05:01.080 --> 0:05:02.760 go out on Saturday. We got temple and then we 0:05:02.800 --> 0:05:04.400 got a bar mitzvah, and then I'd be like, oh, well, 0:05:04.440 --> 0:05:06.880 their faith is very important to them. But if they 0:05:07.080 --> 0:05:09.800 never bring it then it's like you learn it organically. 0:05:09.920 --> 0:05:11.599 I do agree with that, because last night I just 0:05:11.640 --> 0:05:14.080 had these conversations with the guy I'm seeing because we 0:05:14.080 --> 0:05:17.120 were talking about like four oh one k's roth iras 0:05:17.120 --> 0:05:19.400 because my mom sent me something about an old roth 0:05:19.839 --> 0:05:22.240 ira I have, and I was kind of trying to 0:05:22.279 --> 0:05:24.880 clock what he was saying about what he has to 0:05:24.960 --> 0:05:28.039 figure out how financially responsible he's been in life. So 0:05:28.080 --> 0:05:29.839 I do agree you do kind of get that through 0:05:29.880 --> 0:05:32.880 like context clues eventually, but sometimes you do have to 0:05:32.960 --> 0:05:33.360 just before. 0:05:34.200 --> 0:05:34.320 Well. 0:05:34.320 --> 0:05:36.200 I think the kid thing is important. I think it's like, 0:05:36.240 --> 0:05:38.039 you know, I want to have kids. I really want 0:05:38.040 --> 0:05:40.000 to have kids, and if I find out that, you know, 0:05:40.040 --> 0:05:42.520 like three years in that you don't want to have 0:05:42.600 --> 0:05:45.039 kids or you're unable to have kids, that might be 0:05:45.120 --> 0:05:46.640 really important to me. We got to take a break, 0:05:46.640 --> 0:05:49.440 but we're gonna come back both with more of this. 0:05:49.440 --> 0:05:51.160 This kind of came up out of nowhere, and it's 0:05:51.200 --> 0:05:54.479 really been fascinating. Bailey was talking about her friend Katie 0:05:54.520 --> 0:05:56.320 Cap and Katie Cap is a character I don't have 0:05:56.400 --> 0:05:57.080 I ever met her. 0:05:56.960 --> 0:05:59.520 Before, not in real life I have. She's delightful. 0:05:59.680 --> 0:06:02.159 She sounds like a riot but she's seeing a guy, 0:06:02.279 --> 0:06:04.080 so she's like, I'm going to ask you some questions 0:06:04.080 --> 0:06:06.920 about like your future and your romance. And then before 0:06:06.920 --> 0:06:09.640 we get to the list of questions again, they were 0:06:09.680 --> 0:06:11.800 basically like how much money do you make, how much 0:06:11.800 --> 0:06:13.920 do you have in savings? What is your religion? Are 0:06:13.920 --> 0:06:16.919 you serious about your religion? And I said, man, I 0:06:16.920 --> 0:06:19.719 don't know about this. I think those are very intrusive 0:06:19.760 --> 0:06:23.120 for being early, but it's a fascinating topic. But Laura 0:06:23.240 --> 0:06:26.679 is on the phone with kind of an opinion. Hi, Laura, Hello, 0:06:26.920 --> 0:06:30.120 what about asking your partner, future partner or present short 0:06:30.200 --> 0:06:31.839 term partner all these questions? What do you think? 0:06:32.880 --> 0:06:35.600 Well, when I first started dating my husband, I asked 0:06:35.680 --> 0:06:38.040 them on the first date quite a few of those questions. 0:06:38.200 --> 0:06:40.240 I was just in a place in my life where 0:06:40.600 --> 0:06:43.720 I wasn't going to give people the time if it 0:06:43.760 --> 0:06:44.760 wasn't worth my time. 0:06:44.920 --> 0:06:47.360 And on date number one you might have asked him 0:06:47.400 --> 0:06:48.880 like how many kids do you want? Or do you 0:06:48.920 --> 0:06:50.520 want to have kids? Or you know what? 0:06:51.720 --> 0:06:54.760 Yeah, I kind of coming off of the relationships that 0:06:54.800 --> 0:06:57.440 I had before, I kind of focused on the financial ones, 0:06:57.560 --> 0:06:59.800 like how much debt do you have? Are you good 0:06:59.839 --> 0:07:02.880 with your money, you know, I'll get that. 0:07:02.960 --> 0:07:05.360 I think if you're burned by something like it, by 0:07:05.400 --> 0:07:09.000 a cheater or a gambler or whatever, that's the first 0:07:09.000 --> 0:07:11.400 thing you're going to like watch for on your radar 0:07:11.680 --> 0:07:13.640 when you're seeing somebody news like so you have a 0:07:13.640 --> 0:07:16.320 gambling problem, but you wouldn't ask that and if you 0:07:16.360 --> 0:07:18.320 hadn't had a problem with that with your past, okay, 0:07:18.480 --> 0:07:20.800 But how's it worked out now all these years later. 0:07:21.640 --> 0:07:23.800 We've gone together for almost sixteen years. 0:07:24.000 --> 0:07:30.840 Whoa sixteen baby? Would you recommend asking those questions? If 0:07:30.880 --> 0:07:33.440 you were Bailey, I. 0:07:33.400 --> 0:07:35.280 Would say it's good to get it out of the 0:07:35.320 --> 0:07:39.800 way early on in the relationship because sometimes like things, 0:07:39.880 --> 0:07:42.120 yes you can get them out naturally, but sometimes those 0:07:42.160 --> 0:07:46.800 things take time. And if it's a big topic for you, 0:07:46.920 --> 0:07:47.920 then I would say. 0:07:48.280 --> 0:07:49.880 Ah, yeah, okay. 0:07:50.000 --> 0:07:52.200 I also think you said to you, by the way, 0:07:52.240 --> 0:07:52.560 thank you. 0:07:53.280 --> 0:07:55.880 It's been sixteen years since Laura and her now husband 0:07:55.880 --> 0:07:57.280 went on that first day. I also think we're just 0:07:57.320 --> 0:07:59.960 in a different time in the world whereas asking certain questions, 0:08:00.000 --> 0:08:03.160 it might be the little like at bro pol you 0:08:03.200 --> 0:08:04.760 know what I'm saying, Like people might not be as 0:08:04.800 --> 0:08:06.960 willing to share that now as they were sixteen years ago. 0:08:07.080 --> 0:08:09.320 I feel like people are more willing to share that stuff, though. 0:08:09.400 --> 0:08:10.360 I think it's just different. 0:08:10.480 --> 0:08:12.480 You know, I don't know which questions people would or wouldn't, 0:08:12.520 --> 0:08:14.920 but there's definitely some that are different than others. 0:08:14.960 --> 0:08:15.960 Now, leave this text us. 0:08:16.080 --> 0:08:18.119 Two of my friends want to get married and have kids. 0:08:18.160 --> 0:08:20.000 That is their plan and their goal, and they don't 0:08:20.000 --> 0:08:22.440 want to waste their time, so they're happy to find 0:08:22.480 --> 0:08:26.160 out so many things throughout the relationship, like likes and dislikes, 0:08:26.160 --> 0:08:28.800 little quirk stuff like that. But they ask the kids 0:08:28.880 --> 0:08:31.640 questions among other serious ones from the get go. They 0:08:31.680 --> 0:08:33.559 don't want to spend time with someone who doesn't want 0:08:33.640 --> 0:08:37.559 kids or isn't financially stable. It might be intense for some, 0:08:37.720 --> 0:08:41.440 but it's totally fine. They're just not interested in dating 0:08:41.679 --> 0:08:45.000 men who think those conversations are too much. It's just 0:08:45.040 --> 0:08:46.240 simply not compatible. 0:08:46.320 --> 0:08:48.439 No, it might be wrong. It might be a generational thing, 0:08:48.480 --> 0:08:50.520 not that our generation got a right because our divorce 0:08:50.600 --> 0:08:53.800 rate I think among across all demos is fifty percent. Yeah, 0:08:54.080 --> 0:08:56.600 after five years or ten years or whatever. But here's 0:08:56.600 --> 0:08:59.960 somebody who says I'm sixty three. I do not believe it. 0:09:00.080 --> 0:09:02.480 You meet them and you grow to learn these and 0:09:02.480 --> 0:09:04.480 then somebody else says, I don't know how old they are. 0:09:04.679 --> 0:09:07.600 I agree with Dave. Organic is more intimate, not a 0:09:07.679 --> 0:09:11.160 job interview. But I get how one can be very practical, 0:09:11.880 --> 0:09:13.679 But I don't know. I think there's something to be 0:09:14.040 --> 0:09:16.400 unfolding them, like on peeling of like peeling an onion, 0:09:16.640 --> 0:09:18.240 and you learn a little bit more about them, and 0:09:18.240 --> 0:09:20.800 the more you learn, the more you love them. And 0:09:20.840 --> 0:09:23.160 then don't ever look the dumb red flags like yeah, 0:09:23.200 --> 0:09:25.440 he's you know, he's like one hundred thousand dollars in debt, 0:09:25.480 --> 0:09:28.040 has no plans on paying it back because it wasn't 0:09:28.040 --> 0:09:29.080 his problem, right. 0:09:29.600 --> 0:09:32.000 Well, I cause somebody else texted in saying like these 0:09:32.040 --> 0:09:35.080 sound like deal breaker questions, and I think that's that's 0:09:35.120 --> 0:09:37.320 the reasoning for Katie Cap, Like, I want to get 0:09:37.360 --> 0:09:40.320 these deal breaker questions out of the way, because like, 0:09:40.760 --> 0:09:42.440 if I don't know the answer to these questions and 0:09:42.480 --> 0:09:44.880 I find them out six months in, then have I 0:09:44.960 --> 0:09:48.640 wasted my time? So someone else texted saying, I'm thirty five, 0:09:48.640 --> 0:09:50.880 single female, ask all these questions on the first date 0:09:50.960 --> 0:09:52.960 as well, because I have no interest in wasting my 0:09:53.080 --> 0:09:56.440 time or their time if it isn't going anywhere, and 0:09:56.520 --> 0:09:59.520 I feel that that's kind of why where I'm like, oh, shoot, 0:09:59.520 --> 0:10:01.720 I should be asking some of these questions because like, 0:10:01.760 --> 0:10:04.120 I know some of these answers about regular guy, but 0:10:04.200 --> 0:10:06.319 not all of them. And anytime I say that to 0:10:06.400 --> 0:10:08.880 Katie Capps, She's like, you don't know if he wants 0:10:08.960 --> 0:10:11.920 kids or not, Like, no, I've only been dating him 0:10:11.920 --> 0:10:14.640 for three months, Like no, do you want me to 0:10:14.640 --> 0:10:15.560 reread all these questions? 0:10:15.800 --> 0:10:17.199 You know, it's a little bit of a list, but 0:10:17.240 --> 0:10:19.199 it's very valuable and we're gonna put this up on 0:10:19.440 --> 0:10:21.960 the Graham Yes, on them so you can go and 0:10:22.080 --> 0:10:23.880 you can like, you know, you don't have to remember 0:10:23.880 --> 0:10:24.480 all these questions. 0:10:24.600 --> 0:10:27.200 Yes. Do you have a mental timeline of when you 0:10:27.240 --> 0:10:30.119 want to be married by? Am I someone you genuinely 0:10:30.160 --> 0:10:32.160 want to be with or am I just fitting into 0:10:32.200 --> 0:10:35.680 that timeline? Do you want kids? How many kids? What 0:10:35.720 --> 0:10:39.160 if those kids can't biologically be yours? What if you 0:10:39.200 --> 0:10:42.559 could never have children that are biologically yours? What if 0:10:42.600 --> 0:10:46.319 those children were never of infant age? How much money 0:10:46.360 --> 0:10:49.040 do you make? Do you receive an annual raise? If yes, 0:10:49.120 --> 0:10:51.360 what was that raise last year? How much do you 0:10:51.400 --> 0:10:53.840 have in savings. Do you have separate accounts set up 0:10:53.840 --> 0:10:57.120 for retirement? If yes, what is your annual contribution. Do 0:10:57.160 --> 0:11:00.280 you have any debt? If so, how much and from what? 0:11:00.280 --> 0:11:02.520 What is your plan for paying that down? What is 0:11:02.559 --> 0:11:05.280 the interest on that debt? Have you ever lived alone? 0:11:05.559 --> 0:11:07.880 Have you ever lived with a girlfriend? When was your 0:11:07.960 --> 0:11:11.960 last relationship? How long was that last relationship one added 0:11:11.960 --> 0:11:14.520 by Jenny. How did that last relationship end? 0:11:15.520 --> 0:11:16.000 Long term? 0:11:16.040 --> 0:11:18.280 Do you see yourself still living in the city or 0:11:18.320 --> 0:11:21.160 living in the suburbs. What religion are you? Is it 0:11:21.200 --> 0:11:23.679 important to you that your children be the same religion 0:11:23.720 --> 0:11:26.079 as you? What are your three biggest fears in life? 0:11:26.360 --> 0:11:28.600 And what does a meaningful life look like to you? 0:11:29.320 --> 0:11:31.040 Man, I think I only know the answer to like 0:11:31.080 --> 0:11:32.760 two or three of those questions with the person I 0:11:32.800 --> 0:11:34.040 am saying right pretty early. 0:11:34.080 --> 0:11:35.400 And I think that it kind of dawns on me 0:11:35.480 --> 0:11:37.880 that everybody. If you talk to somebody who's like, I'm 0:11:37.920 --> 0:11:41.880 really glad we're bringing this up, that's good. Yeah, But 0:11:41.920 --> 0:11:43.920 if you talk to somebody it's like, man, I barely 0:11:44.080 --> 0:11:46.520 know you. You're asking me how much is in my 0:11:46.600 --> 0:11:49.560 fural one? K none? Ya none? And somebody said, you 0:11:49.559 --> 0:11:51.200 know what this is the kind of a guy's going 0:11:51.280 --> 0:11:53.280 to be like, so, how much money you got into 0:11:53.320 --> 0:11:55.280 fural one K? How much gut into savings? Well, I 0:11:55.280 --> 0:11:57.920 got two hundred thousand dollars in savings right away as 0:11:57.960 --> 0:11:59.800 gears are turning while he figures out how to get 0:11:59.800 --> 0:12:01.240 that money out of your account. 0:12:01.840 --> 0:12:03.600 I agree with that, but I think too many people 0:12:03.600 --> 0:12:06.560 have been like financially scarred. So I'm totally fine would 0:12:06.559 --> 0:12:08.920 be in that intrusive about those questions. Yeah, my parents 0:12:08.920 --> 0:12:12.560 bought about money constantly, so that is why I am 0:12:12.559 --> 0:12:13.720 the way I am about money. 0:12:13.880 --> 0:12:16.520 I have no clue how me and Alyssa had those 0:12:16.520 --> 0:12:18.840 conversations when we first got together, because we've been with 0:12:18.880 --> 0:12:21.320 each other like roughly four years now, and I think, 0:12:21.360 --> 0:12:23.120 like Dave, I think it just kind of happened naturally. 0:12:23.200 --> 0:12:24.679 It wasn't like a first date, second date. 0:12:24.720 --> 0:12:26.720 It was just like, let's just see, we'll talk and 0:12:26.760 --> 0:12:28.160 if it comes up, it comes up, or when it 0:12:28.160 --> 0:12:28.559 comes up. 0:12:28.520 --> 0:12:28.960 It comes up. 0:12:29.120 --> 0:12:29.280 Right. 0:12:29.440 --> 0:12:32.320 And my last relationship, which was pretty long, I don't 0:12:32.360 --> 0:12:35.480 know if I knew any of these answers to these questions. 0:12:35.400 --> 0:12:37.360 Long ago, or are you're saying the relation the duration 0:12:37.400 --> 0:12:39.360 of it was long, like the it was the duration. 0:12:39.559 --> 0:12:40.280 Oh gotcha, gotcha. 0:12:40.360 --> 0:12:43.400 Yeah. So anyway, yeah, a lot of people are saying, like, ho, 0:12:44.080 --> 0:12:46.480 Katie Gabb whoa marriage minded? 0:12:46.520 --> 0:12:48.319 But like, so is this other guy that she's seeing? 0:12:48.320 --> 0:12:49.920 So I think they're both on the same page and 0:12:49.960 --> 0:12:51.839 she kind of looked out there because yeah, I think 0:12:51.840 --> 0:12:53.679 these would be like big questions that would be kind 0:12:53.679 --> 0:12:55.280 of like whoa, hey. 0:12:55.120 --> 0:12:58.080 Girl, really interesting. Wow, this is the most interesting you've 0:12:58.120 --> 0:12:59.560 ever been. You've been on here the show for almost 0:12:59.600 --> 0:13:02.040 two years, and you've never really been this interesting. 0:13:02.160 --> 0:13:05.360 All the time to me, though I know I'm always 0:13:05.520 --> 0:13:06.680 he hasn't said it to me yet. 0:13:06.600 --> 0:13:07.360 So it's a plus. 0:13:07.600 --> 0:13:09.800 You haven't been interesting yet working on it.