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Speaker 2: And that's here is what they are. Okay, So here

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Speaker 1: What do you think about that one? Jenny, would you

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Speaker 2: Sounds like a business transaction?

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Speaker 3: Two of my friends want to get married and have kids.

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Speaker 1: then don't ever look the dumb red flags like yeah,

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Speaker 3: Well, I cause somebody else texted in saying like these

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Speaker 3: reread all these questions?

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Speaker 1: You know, it's a little bit of a list, but

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Speaker 3: Yes. Do you have a mental timeline of when you

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Speaker 4: Man, I think I only know the answer to like

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Speaker 1: And I think that it kind of dawns on me

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Speaker 1: really glad we're bringing this up, that's good. Yeah, But

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Speaker 4: I agree with that, but I think too many people

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Speaker 4: have been like financially scarred. So I'm totally fine would

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Speaker 4: be in that intrusive about those questions. Yeah, my parents

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Speaker 6: I have no clue how me and Alyssa had those

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Speaker 6: like Dave, I think it just kind of happened naturally.

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Speaker 2: It wasn't like a first date, second date.

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Speaker 6: It was just like, let's just see, we'll talk and

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Speaker 6: if it comes up, it comes up, or when it

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Speaker 3: And my last relationship, which was pretty long, I don't

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Speaker 6: Long ago, or are you're saying the relation the duration

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Speaker 6: of it was long, like the it was the duration.

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Speaker 2: Oh gotcha, gotcha.

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Speaker 3: Yeah. So anyway, yeah, a lot of people are saying, like, ho,

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Speaker 3: Katie Gabb whoa marriage minded?

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Speaker 2: But like, so is this other guy that she's seeing?

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Speaker 3: So I think they're both on the same page and

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Speaker 3: of like whoa, hey.

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Speaker 1: Girl, really interesting. Wow, this is the most interesting you've

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Speaker 1: ever been. You've been on here the show for almost

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Speaker 1: two years, and you've never really been this interesting.

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Speaker 3: All the time to me, though I know I'm always

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Speaker 3: he hasn't said it to me yet.

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Speaker 1: You haven't been interesting yet working on it.