Speaker 1: All right, it's Mojo in the Morning show. I was
Speaker 1: talking about what was it? Zip coding? Is that what
Speaker 1: it's called? It's yeah. Zip coding is when you're dating
Speaker 1: within your same zip code. That's like a more popular
Speaker 1: trend right now where people are doing it on dating
Speaker 1: apps because they just don't want to have to travel.
Speaker 1: One person that does not zip code is Anna Rob
Speaker 1: the member of the Mojo on the Morning Show that
Speaker 1: just recently joined.
Speaker 2: And she.
Speaker 1: Was going to Pittsburgh to go see a guy and
Speaker 1: she's not now.
Speaker 3: Canceled the flight. Oh you, I canceled the flight.
Speaker 4: And I think I'm going to remove him as a
Speaker 4: follower and I'm about to unfollow him because it's deep.
Speaker 3: It's that deep. I don't want to waste my time.
Speaker 1: Wait, why is he kind of like giving you crap
Speaker 1: right now? Or what's he doing?
Speaker 5: No?
Speaker 4: Ever since the I mean yes, he has been giving
Speaker 4: me crap ever since I said something to him about
Speaker 4: how I felt like his mood changed after I booked
Speaker 4: the flight. I was like, I just don't like it,
Speaker 4: Like I feel like now he's punishing me for saying that.
Speaker 6: Are you guys still talking at all? Are you like
Speaker 6: totally ghosted here.
Speaker 4: No, like we like little talking, but it's not the same,
Speaker 4: and it's even worse now than before. And you would
Speaker 4: think after I brought that up and been like, no,
Speaker 4: your your moods changed, like I don't like this, he
Speaker 4: would have changed, But no, he's gotten worse.
Speaker 1: He was kinder before you book the flight than when
Speaker 1: you booked the flight. He all of a sudden became
Speaker 1: So it happens a little cocky, probably, yeah.
Speaker 3: And I was like, no, I'm not wasting my time
Speaker 3: coming there.
Speaker 1: Well, let's talk. Let's talk about you and your extensive
Speaker 1: dating outside of the three one, three, two, four eight seven,
Speaker 1: three four, six, one six, all of our six seven,
Speaker 1: any of our zip codes, within our listening areas, Like
Speaker 1: you don't even it's not even so much that you
Speaker 1: live in downtown Detroit and you will date somebody that's
Speaker 1: an hour or two away, Like you got to go
Speaker 1: on an airplane whenever you're going.
Speaker 4: Why is that we talked recently about this one Literally,
Speaker 4: I've talked to one guy in Detroit and everyone's like,
Speaker 4: you can't be a homie hopper. I feel like when
Speaker 4: you date in Detroit, everyone knows everyone somehow or at
Speaker 4: least in my circle of friends, Like we're all somehow
Speaker 4: tied to each other. So if I'm dating someone in Detroit,
Speaker 4: I'm gonna be a homie hopper. And I don't want
Speaker 4: to be a homie hopper. So I've just I've I've
Speaker 4: been finding guys have been finding me outside of Detroit.
Speaker 4: So before Pittsburgh Man, there was New York Man and
Speaker 4: he was like, actually kind of serious, also an athlete,
Speaker 4: not an athlete, a business owner. Okay, yeah, So I
Speaker 4: was going to New York last summer probably every other
Speaker 4: weekend to see him, and it was like the best
Speaker 4: experience of my life. I would I would pay for
Speaker 4: the flights at first, but then he did, so it
Speaker 4: was like a free trip every time I went there,
Speaker 4: and I just I prefer it.
Speaker 1: I think, I think that you're doing this is probably
Speaker 1: a lot of work, isn't it. I mean you, I
Speaker 1: mean I used to.
Speaker 4: Be self employed, so I didn't have a lot to do.
Speaker 4: Nothing really at me and Detroit. Now I have to
Speaker 4: be here Monday through Friday, so it's a little more difficult.
Speaker 3: But I liked it.
Speaker 4: I felt like we were really focused on each other
Speaker 4: when I was visiting him in New York and we
Speaker 4: had like the best time, and then I could come
Speaker 4: back to Detroit and be really focused on my job,
Speaker 4: which was fun.
Speaker 1: Boy. It makes for your weekends definitely not RESTful because
Speaker 1: you're getting on planes and getting off planes. I want
Speaker 1: to know dating long distance to dating local and pros
Speaker 1: and cons and thoughts on this one. Here at eight
Speaker 1: four to four Mojo Live eight four four sixty six
Speaker 1: five sixty five four eight is our telephone number. I mean,
Speaker 1: I guess it does enable you to actually I don't know,
Speaker 1: up your sky miles, you know what I mean? Yeah?
Speaker 1: Have you check your your horoscope?
Speaker 5: Yeah?
Speaker 3: And it hasn't been about my dating life.
Speaker 1: No, so you shouldn't be about your dating life. Really.
Speaker 3: I know. Well I'm not. I'm not right now. I
Speaker 3: just canceled the flight with my one date.
Speaker 1: You follow a horse go that much? Uh, that's amazing,
Speaker 1: that's to me. I I you know, I don't know.
Speaker 1: I do think that this is interesting that you canceled
Speaker 1: this flight with this guy because he changed. And I
Speaker 1: often wonder sometimes like if that happens in relationships with
Speaker 1: people locally too, Like if you make a plan for
Speaker 1: a date and then once you make the plan for
Speaker 1: a date, They all of a sudden don't need to
Speaker 1: chase anymore because they know that there's something on the
Speaker 1: calendars that's exactly what it is. You think there's a
Speaker 1: thrill of the hunt.
Speaker 7: Yeah, there is, man, I'm there's a I can't really
Speaker 7: explain it, but there's a feeling that's associated with getting
Speaker 7: you at least to say yes.
Speaker 1: And then once that feeling is gone.
Speaker 6: You got that dopamine hit.
Speaker 7: I've got that hit. And I was just like, okay,
Speaker 7: well you'll be here on the sixteen. If I can't
Speaker 7: just see when you get here.
Speaker 1: Okay.
Speaker 6: Question for you, what did he say when you told
Speaker 6: him that you aren't coming anymore?
Speaker 3: You're just not going to show up. I haven't talked
Speaker 3: him since I canceled it, and he.
Speaker 1: Has reached out to you.
Speaker 6: No, Oh, you made the right decision.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 4: The last time I talked to him was like maybe
Speaker 4: two days ago, and I canceled a flight like one
Speaker 4: day ago. But he was like, nope, he's still not
Speaker 4: acting right.
Speaker 1: When you were talking to him, was he assuming that
Speaker 1: you're still coming this weekend?
Speaker 4: Yeah?
Speaker 2: He was.
Speaker 4: He likes he said something like I need to figure
Speaker 4: out if my family's coming, because I'm not trying to
Speaker 4: meet his family, So I think that's assuming that I'm
Speaker 4: going to be there.
Speaker 6: It's or also I need to figure out if my
Speaker 6: family is coming, because I might not have time for
Speaker 6: you to me. That's another excuse that he had in
Speaker 6: his back pocket.
Speaker 7: Even have family, is somebody else coming?
Speaker 3: This is not the man for me. This is not
Speaker 3: the man.
Speaker 1: And again for those that don't know, he's a pro athlete,
Speaker 1: so he's a pro football player that she was going
Speaker 1: to see. What's going on? Phil? Hi, Hey, good morning, Mojoe,
Speaker 1: good morning, morning, morning morning. I just got to call
Speaker 1: you out. You seld the ZIP coding and he named
Speaker 1: all the area code. That's funny.
Speaker 6: We all just like.
Speaker 1: You're right, Yeah, zip coding is dating within your same
Speaker 1: zip code, So I guess what four eight something whatever? Yeah,
Speaker 1: but no, but that no, that's uh that Thank you
Speaker 1: for the correction, Phil, I appreciate it. What's up, Sarah?
Speaker 4: Hi?
Speaker 1: Hi, Sarah, Hello Sarah Sarah. What's better dating? Dating local
Speaker 1: or dating long distance?
Speaker 8: I would say that like dating.
Speaker 9: Oh gosh, I don't know. I'm new to the dating
Speaker 9: field again after a thirteen and a half year relationship.
Speaker 1: Okay, were you married in that relationship or just long
Speaker 1: term dating?
Speaker 9: I was married for four and a half out of
Speaker 9: it before, so infidelity for you separated us.
Speaker 3: But that's a story for a different day.
Speaker 9: No, So now I have a boyfriend. He's an hour away,
Speaker 9: and I will say I love it because when we
Speaker 9: are together, it is like just us together. But like
Speaker 9: on days that you're having a rough day, you can't
Speaker 9: just like run over and get a hug, you know,
Speaker 9: it's that's a drive, Like you can't just drive an
Speaker 9: hour for a little kiss or a hug to to
Speaker 9: make you feel better. You gotta get on the phone,
Speaker 9: and then it's still not the same. But like, also
Speaker 9: that space is nice after being with somebody for such
Speaker 9: a long time and constantly being with them. So I
Speaker 9: don't know, there's pros and tons.
Speaker 1: You know. What's interesting is that you're right. It does
Speaker 1: make for tough to get the hug, but it makes
Speaker 1: things more intentional when you know that you're an hour away,
Speaker 1: you're gonna have to make a commitment to going. But
Speaker 1: it's even bigger for Anna who goes to New York
Speaker 1: or Pittsburgh. You know, she's I think that is insane.
Speaker 9: How can you and like also meeting them for the
Speaker 9: first time, like, girl, I hope you have your life
Speaker 9: Thtory sixty on for everybody around.
Speaker 4: Yeah, that's another topic for another the heart.
Speaker 1: The hardest part of what she was saying and the
Speaker 1: reason why she does it is then she doesn't have
Speaker 1: There's no person that can say, hey, I dated that
Speaker 1: same per so out of the area. What's up, James?
Speaker 1: How you doing?
Speaker 2: James?
Speaker 5: The bartender on the phone man robs to come to
Speaker 5: the l She needs to come to Lavoni your date
Speaker 5: some local.
Speaker 3: You know what?
Speaker 1: That's interesting. Everybody always talks about, you know, uh, support local.
Speaker 1: She needs to support local guys.
Speaker 2: Huh, that's right.
Speaker 5: Can I say one more thing.
Speaker 1: To yes, Yeah, as long as it's not something like statistic,
Speaker 1: just go ahead.
Speaker 5: If you were the blonde girl that came to the
Speaker 5: bar on Saturday and the orange shirt and the blue jeans,
Speaker 5: I gave you that patron shot, you need to come
Speaker 5: back on working Friday.
Speaker 1: Yeah, we've now just started doing misconnections with this poor guy, Tracy,
Speaker 1: what's up? Good morning morning.
Speaker 8: I was just gonna comment a couple of things. One is,
Speaker 8: you know when you're when you have kids, especially, I
Speaker 8: have two kids in high school, and so dating someone
Speaker 8: that's not local is very difficult to go around sports
Speaker 8: schedules because even when I don't.
Speaker 9: Have them, they have games, yes, And so if you
Speaker 9: date someone that doesn't live anywhere near you, then that
Speaker 9: kind of takes away an entire weekend.
Speaker 1: Well, and that actually is an interesting one for a
Speaker 1: lot of the listeners of ours that are single parents,
Speaker 1: because when you're talking about dating local, you're right. Even
Speaker 1: just dating somebody in a town over is not really
Speaker 1: dating local, right when your kids are involved in so much.
Speaker 8: Exactly, And so if they're closer, you can maybe see
Speaker 8: them after the kids' games, or there's still time to
Speaker 8: you know, maybe grab lunch, and you know, you can
Speaker 8: do little things here and there and still be available
Speaker 8: for your kids.
Speaker 1: Yeah. Well, in Shannon, your case, you ended up marrying
Speaker 1: and you guys had a distance when you guys were
Speaker 1: dating each other, right, it.
Speaker 6: Yeah, it was a drivable difference, but it's still definitely
Speaker 6: you know, was at times if it was rush hour,
Speaker 6: it was a good fifty minutes to an hour difference there.
Speaker 1: Wow, Yeah, Ali, what's up?
Speaker 8: Hye?
Speaker 1: How you doing?
Speaker 9: My boyfriend and I are four hours apart, and we
Speaker 9: have five children, two of us.
Speaker 1: Wow.
Speaker 7: Wow, did you guys meet when you were four hours aparty?
Speaker 7: Did somebody move away?
Speaker 8: We didn't meet on Facebook dating.
Speaker 1: Actually that's wild, So okay, so talk to us about locations.
Speaker 1: Where are you? Where is he?
Speaker 8: I'm in Holly and he's in Malbourne, Ohio.
Speaker 3: Oh my god, exactly four hours away.
Speaker 1: Yeah. And for those people that don't know, like the Holly,
Speaker 1: Ohio thing, that's a bit that's a that's four hours,
Speaker 1: Like you said, I mean, that's that's a little bit
Speaker 1: of a distance. It's not like you're, you know, in Monroe
Speaker 1: or something like that and can get across the border
Speaker 1: in less than thirty No, our.
Speaker 8: First date was two and a half hours. We met
Speaker 8: in the middle.
Speaker 1: That's the one I'm wondering. Do you guys meet in
Speaker 1: the middle a lot of times?
Speaker 7: No, that was the only time we met in the middle.
Speaker 8: Other than that, we just go to each other. He
Speaker 8: actually got a job here now.
Speaker 1: So he's coming here more. But it's funny live there.
Speaker 1: What you end up learning is you end up learning
Speaker 1: truck stops, you know what I mean?
Speaker 6: Which ones have the good bathrooms, which ones have the
Speaker 6: good food inside where.
Speaker 3: The cracker barrels are.
Speaker 1: Yeah, exit, that's got a Starbucks. That's interesting. I you
Speaker 1: know what. And also it's tough to do that when
Speaker 1: you're leasing a car. So if you got it, you
Speaker 1: only got twelve thousand miles a year. I got a
Speaker 1: guy for that. What's going on? John? How you going?
Speaker 9: Hey?
Speaker 1: What's are you? First off?
Speaker 2: I want to I just want to say, do not
Speaker 2: support local dudes?
Speaker 1: What? How dare you are? Local guys? Bad guys? No,
Speaker 1: I ain't say you that.
Speaker 2: I'm just saying, don't support local dudes. Just support yourself
Speaker 2: let them support you.
Speaker 1: Oh that's a good point.
Speaker 2: Also, if a mark unders giving you free drinks to
Speaker 2: catch a number, run, I like it.
Speaker 1: This is his commentary, James, what do you date? Where
Speaker 1: do you?
Speaker 2: I'm listening? I'm married. I'm married and I've been with
Speaker 2: my wife for seventeen years. We got married seven years ago.
Speaker 2: But I just I got to be honest with you.
Speaker 2: I've had one long distance relationship. I was much younger
Speaker 2: when that occurred, and it is like one. It is
Speaker 2: extremely difficult. And we were together before the distance occurred,
Speaker 2: so you know, the distance was actually became an issue
Speaker 2: and end of the relationship. Really, But I've been around people,
Speaker 2: have friends, coworkers that have these long distance relationships, and
Speaker 2: I'm just trying to tell you, ninety nine percent of
Speaker 2: the time, it's not a quality relationship. A lot of
Speaker 2: people want that distance because they can't handle a real relationship.
Speaker 2: A real relationship requires commitment in daily interaction. If you
Speaker 2: don't have daily interaction with somebody, you are not making
Speaker 2: a real lifelong connection.
Speaker 1: Wells. Although I got to tell you, there's a lot
Speaker 1: of people that seem to find themselves dating on FaceTime
Speaker 1: or or whatever, Like they see each other every day,
Speaker 1: so they're but they're not in person with each other.
Speaker 4: I think you just have to get more creative with it,
Speaker 4: like I've had when I was dating the New York guy,
Speaker 4: Like he's sending me flowers every week, or he's buying
Speaker 4: me door dash like here's like things like that make
Speaker 4: me feel connected to him even when I'm not with him.
Speaker 4: Plus we text all day or we're on the phone
Speaker 4: all day.
Speaker 1: Do you ever look at it though, like the relationship
Speaker 1: has to get to a level where we one of
Speaker 1: us make the decision.
Speaker 4: That you're sure And I would say That's why I'm
Speaker 4: more hesitant now to date outside of Detroit, because I
Speaker 4: know I'm in Detroit, especially like now that I'm here
Speaker 4: with all.
Speaker 6: Of that just has to be you have to say
Speaker 6: that right off the bat. I'm not moving so right.
Speaker 1: I do think that there's something to what he said, though,
Speaker 1: when you sit there and say I don't want them
Speaker 1: in my face all the time, you know, and and
Speaker 1: I like the idea that we're a little bit distance apart.
Speaker 1: If you're saying that, is it really the right person
Speaker 1: for you? You know what I mean? Because what happens when
Speaker 1: they are in your face all the time? Then is
Speaker 1: it going to be tough for you to deal with
Speaker 1: all of that? So, by the way, the iHeartRadio app
Speaker 1: is blasting right now with listeners from all over the
Speaker 1: world wanting to meet Anna rob This is can imagine
Speaker 1: look at it. I'm looking at a text right now,
Speaker 1: texting at ninety five five zero zero. I'm in New
Speaker 1: York listening to you guys all the time. I'd love
Speaker 1: if Hannah would like to come visit me another one here.
Speaker 1: I'm in West Palm Beach, Florida. If Anna would like
Speaker 1: to get out of the cold and into the sun
Speaker 1: kind of down there.
Speaker 3: Okay, send the IG profile