Speaker 1: Date update. Why are you not getting a call back
Speaker 1: after you went on a date? We're going to try
Speaker 1: to find out this morning here on the show. Jason
Speaker 1: not getting a call back? He's getting ghosted. Is this
Speaker 1: the first time that this has ever happened to you?
Speaker 2: Yes? Hey, how's it going? I mean I wouldn't say
Speaker 2: it's the first time I've ever been ghosted, but it's.
Speaker 1: You have been on dates before with girls and then
Speaker 1: they've not called you back or wanted another date.
Speaker 2: That's probably happened to happen to everyone this. By the way,
Speaker 2: I'm so sorry to hear about your brother.
Speaker 1: By the way, Oh, thank you man. I appreciate that. Jason,
Speaker 1: So what do you think is the reason why? Like,
Speaker 1: do you think that there's anything that you might have
Speaker 1: done that could have caused problems?
Speaker 2: I don't know, I really can't think of anything. We
Speaker 2: met at a nightclub and we were vibing, we were
Speaker 2: getting along, definitely had like really good chemistry, and took
Speaker 2: her up to dinner, walked around a little bit and
Speaker 2: haven't seen her since and can't really seem to get
Speaker 2: her to respond.
Speaker 1: Okay, well, she responded to us, and it was through
Speaker 1: text and then through Bianca reaching out to her a
Speaker 1: few times. She was okay with going on the air
Speaker 1: with us. Her name is Lauren, and Jason say hello
Speaker 1: to Lauren. Hey, Hey, what's up Lauren? How are you?
Speaker 3: I'm doing pretty good. I guess how are you?
Speaker 1: Guys? We're doing okay. So what's the what's the story?
Speaker 1: Why why the and the no call?
Speaker 3: Well, so we met and we had a really good
Speaker 3: time and everything was going good, and we went up
Speaker 3: to dinner, and we went to the DA and we're
Speaker 3: walking around and stuff like that. And but then when
Speaker 3: we're walking around and there, he's like telling me that
Speaker 3: this is where he used to go with his ex
Speaker 3: fiance and that they used to go to the d
Speaker 3: i A together all the time, and you know, was
Speaker 3: kind of continuously referencing her, and I'm like, kind of
Speaker 3: first off, like why are you bringing up your ex?
Speaker 3: That was really weird for me. I also personally, I
Speaker 3: just I don't like that he has been engaged before.
Speaker 4: That just really threw me off.
Speaker 5: So I don't know how well you.
Speaker 1: Were you engaged, Jason.
Speaker 2: We split up last year, so.
Speaker 1: It's been a year that And have you been dating
Speaker 1: a lot since your engage engagement was called off.
Speaker 2: You know, I try to. I try to get out
Speaker 2: there sometimes work and keep me, you know, busy, But yeah,
Speaker 2: I mean I'm definitely not you know, it's hard to
Speaker 2: let it go, I guess sometimes, but I don't, you know,
Speaker 2: try not to ruminate on it. I think that's really
Speaker 2: weird though, that you wouldn't that you think it's like
Speaker 2: it's kind of judgmental just because I had a fiance.
Speaker 3: Would you say you try to not ruminate on it,
Speaker 3: but like you brought her up several times and can
Speaker 3: kind of continuously talked about it, but then you didn't
Speaker 3: necessarily like I didn't want to ask questions and get
Speaker 3: all into it, so I didn't ask any particular questions
Speaker 3: about the relationship.
Speaker 1: But like, are you are you a regular go to
Speaker 1: the d I A kind of guy? Like do you
Speaker 1: ever go to the dad for those who don't know
Speaker 1: that Detroit but fantastic place. Are you a guy that like,
Speaker 1: because here's the thing. You may be a guy that
Speaker 1: likes to go to the d I A and that's
Speaker 1: your thing, but to bring up that this was a
Speaker 1: place that you and your fiance would go to and
Speaker 1: then to bring her up a couple of times.
Speaker 4: Maybe that was the best place for a date right now,
Speaker 4: it sounds like that there.
Speaker 3: But then.
Speaker 4: For him, if if it's like a flood of memories
Speaker 4: of that past relationship, that probably wasn't a good place
Speaker 4: to start.
Speaker 1: Or it's a great place, just don't bring it up, Like,
Speaker 1: even if it brings back memories, don't like bring up
Speaker 1: some people.
Speaker 4: Yeah, but that's what I'm saying, Like, I mean.
Speaker 2: I figured it would be something that we talked about eventually,
Speaker 2: but you know, you could have just she cheated on
Speaker 2: me and so I ended it and it's kind of painful.
Speaker 2: So I think that.
Speaker 5: Just because.
Speaker 6: You bring it up, why did you bring.
Speaker 3: It up if it was painful, because, if anything, it
Speaker 3: just gave me the ick.
Speaker 2: I don't even know how to respond to that. I mean,
Speaker 2: it seems like something that would come up eventually.
Speaker 1: So listen, listen when I ruminate. Yeah, by the way,
Speaker 1: what is ruminated? I've never heard that before. That's amazing.
Speaker 1: That's at a great use of the vocabulary that you
Speaker 1: have there, j this is a guy that goes to DA.
Speaker 1: You can tell I don't go to the DA real quick.
Speaker 1: But I think that I'm always amazed with dating and
Speaker 1: second date update, there's a lot of times where people
Speaker 1: will use like frequently visited places as their places of
Speaker 1: dates and it will come back and bite them in
Speaker 1: the ass. And I don't necessarily think that it's really
Speaker 1: a good thing to Like, maybe it might be good
Speaker 1: to go on a first date and go to a
Speaker 1: place that might not be comfortable for both of you,
Speaker 1: like a new place for both of you, guys, unless
Speaker 1: it's Applebee's or Buffalo Wild Wings because it's a chain.
Speaker 1: But don't bring them to the same one you always
Speaker 1: go to. Jody, what are your thoughts?
Speaker 5: Good morning and your family.
Speaker 2: Thank you, Jody.
Speaker 5: I think it's not ready to be dating right now.
Speaker 5: You don't take a date to somewhere where you're you
Speaker 5: and your ex used to go.
Speaker 6: To and keep bringing her throughout a date.
Speaker 5: Yeah, find somewhere else to go, and yeah, he's not
Speaker 5: ready to be dating.
Speaker 1: But you know what, it would have been a good thing, though, Jody,
Speaker 1: if he'd brought her there and just didn't bring up.
Speaker 4: His yea, yeah, even if that were the case. Internally,
Speaker 4: he's feeling all the things and his brain is probably
Speaker 4: going to my limited so he's not going to be
Speaker 4: his normal, great self. I don't think so well.
Speaker 1: I'm saying it's just from personal experiences. I've brought people
Speaker 1: to places that I've been before with others and had
Speaker 1: the ability to separate the past.
Speaker 5: And the break game.
Speaker 4: But it sounds like it's still too fresh for him
Speaker 4: the fields. I understand going somewhere and making a having
Speaker 4: to make a new memory, whatever, but for him, he
Speaker 4: just doesn't sound like he's there yet.
Speaker 1: What's up? Matt, Hey, mo Joe Mornon, Good morning man.
Speaker 1: What's happening.
Speaker 2: So this has.
Speaker 5: Definitely been a worry about me getting back into.
Speaker 2: The dating scene.
Speaker 5: Eladio ready to detect.
Speaker 1: What's going on?
Speaker 5: No?
Speaker 1: No, what was your text?
Speaker 2: What'd you say?
Speaker 5: Well? It was uh a topic of worry for me
Speaker 5: because I was married for almost fifteen years and just
Speaker 5: being recently divorced. You know, you have so many memories
Speaker 5: of going to different places with somebody, not just Applebee's
Speaker 5: Red Rocks, but you know, you try to make these
Speaker 5: new memories of Hey, I want to take this person here.
Speaker 5: Oh why is this significant? Oh I've been here before?
Speaker 5: Oh really for one occasion? I mean everybody has a
Speaker 5: person yeah you know, oh, you know I came here
Speaker 5: with you know, my former spouse or you know that
Speaker 5: kind of thing. You know, there's no subtle way of
Speaker 5: bringing you up.
Speaker 1: Where would be your place?
Speaker 5: Man?
Speaker 1: What's your dia? What would be your place?
Speaker 5: Oh? I'd have to stay a gun range.
Speaker 1: That's actually not a bad place though, to go, you know,
Speaker 1: go to a gun range, especially if she's into it.
Speaker 5: I can't, I can't recall the guy's name. Sure to
Speaker 5: bring it up, Jason, was it probably bad Chase to
Speaker 5: bring it up. Maybe, but it's also on her to
Speaker 5: accept that as bad tastes or not, or you know,
Speaker 5: just forget about it and move along with the date.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 2: Well, yeah, Like I said, everybody's everybody's got a past.
Speaker 2: It didn't feel like it was I don't know. It
Speaker 2: didn't feel like it was too much for me. I
Speaker 2: don't know. It feels like a judgmental.
Speaker 1: Matt get out in the dating world, buddy, you deserve it.
Speaker 1: Fifteen years of marriage, that was wonderful, that was part
Speaker 1: of your your store. Now now the next part of
Speaker 1: your story is going to be fabulous.
Speaker 5: Okay from what I from what I hear about the
Speaker 5: dating world recently, I'm better off climbing on the story.
Speaker 1: Okay, you may be right. Hold on, Denise, what's up? Denise?
Speaker 5: All right? Hey, first time, long time it's Lady Bitch
Speaker 5: Girls from the Saturday.
Speaker 4: Hey.
Speaker 2: I disagree.
Speaker 3: I think he can bring it up.
Speaker 6: I think that people cannot.
Speaker 5: Wipe out their memories of their past, the norse should
Speaker 5: they have to. You know, it's part of their life
Speaker 5: and it's good memories. So why do you want to
Speaker 5: You know, if you're mature enough, you can handle it.
Speaker 4: You can handle it in a relationship or even on
Speaker 4: a date.
Speaker 5: You know.
Speaker 4: I do agree with you. I do agree with you.
Speaker 4: I think maybe on a first date it might have
Speaker 4: been a lot for her and all. So she had
Speaker 4: just found out that he had been engaged too, you know,
Speaker 4: so I think it was just kind of the cherry
Speaker 4: on top of that piece of information too.
Speaker 6: Right.
Speaker 5: It goes back to how secure are you with yourself?
Speaker 4: You know?
Speaker 1: I mean, well, if you're constantly bringing it up, then
Speaker 1: it sounds to me like he may not be ready.
Speaker 1: If you're somebody that brings it up and the person
Speaker 1: says I just don't even want you talking about the
Speaker 1: fact that you were engaged, I think that you may
Speaker 1: not be ready. But Caitlin, last call, what's up, Hey, Modro,
Speaker 1: i'ma going It's okay, Caitlyn. I feel like this second
Speaker 1: date update is just okay, not because of any reason
Speaker 1: of the content that has taken place. I want my
Speaker 1: music bad back, but go ahead, what's going on?
Speaker 6: Honestly, I think she's being very like cynical and judgmental
Speaker 6: about his situation. He's like, yeah, he shouldn't have said anything,
Speaker 6: that's bottom line, but honest and all to see she
Speaker 6: from the words that she how she broke down, what happened,
Speaker 6: and things like that, I.
Speaker 5: Think you dodge a bullet.
Speaker 6: On this one. She doesn't seem like she's very sympathetic
Speaker 6: to him or doesn't seem to like him, because if
Speaker 6: you like somebody, you would you would kind of look
Speaker 6: try to ease up on it.
Speaker 5: Yeah, you look past it. And she just definitely did.
Speaker 6: Not do that in the situation.
Speaker 1: Kaitlin. When he brought up the word or the phrase,
Speaker 1: I don't know what it would be ruminate, because I
Speaker 1: don't even know if ruminate is.
Speaker 4: A really ruminating.
Speaker 1: It is a word. It is a word that when
Speaker 1: you brought that up, honestly, did it turn you on
Speaker 1: don't know.
Speaker 5: Who are you talking to?
Speaker 1: Yeah, Caitlyn, when he brought that up during a second
Speaker 1: date update, did it make you think Lauren should go
Speaker 1: on another date with him?
Speaker 2: That was a great.
Speaker 4: Yeah.
Speaker 6: Anybody that uses big adult words.
Speaker 4: Like that, I'm telling you, I guarantee at some point
Speaker 4: this week just going to use it again.
Speaker 5: And you want to You're smart.
Speaker 1: Everybody watch out for Jason. If you would like to
Speaker 1: be my uh, I don't know, hooked up fonts. I
Speaker 1: was trying to think of your lexicon. If you would like,
Speaker 1: if you would like to be my linguist to teach
Speaker 1: me words, I'll take you out to the d I
Speaker 1: a my friend.
Speaker 2: I'll do everything. I'll do anything I can to help.
Speaker 1: You know, thank thank you for that. I appreciate it.
Speaker 1: Good luck, guys, thanks for thanks for joining us. And
Speaker 1: Jason good you know things are out there for you, buddy,