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Speaker 1: Make a decision, worried he didn't make the right decision.

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Speaker 1: Not sure if you should apologize, change up that decision.

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Speaker 1: We do am Ida hole for that, so you can

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Speaker 1: always call in eight hundred and four and ninety three

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Speaker 1: ninety three. Leah's on ninety three three fl Z with

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Speaker 1: us right now, Leah, your son wants to meet his dad?

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Speaker 2: Right?

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Speaker 3: Yep? Yeah to what's going on? Okay, So my son

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Speaker 3: is seventeen, he's about to turn eighteen in a couple months.

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Speaker 3: And I've never told him about his biological father, and

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Speaker 3: I've never plan to, and he's like pushing me about it.

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Speaker 3: He wants to know. He wants to meet his dad.

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Speaker 3: But his dad is just, let's say, like a horrible,

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Speaker 3: horrible person. He's not great. He's out of jail. He

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Speaker 3: could be in jail right now. I have no idea,

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Speaker 3: and I don't want him in my son's life, and

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Speaker 3: I don't want to give him this information. But I

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Speaker 3: know when he turns eighteen he might be able to

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Speaker 3: figure it out his self. And I don't know.

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Speaker 4: I like, what information does he have with him.

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Speaker 3: That he's a man? That's about it? He doesn't he

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Speaker 3: knows that I was young when I had him and

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Speaker 3: when I was with his dad, and he knows his

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Speaker 3: dad is a bad, bad guy, like just not you know,

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Speaker 3: I don't even know why he wants to meet him

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Speaker 3: from all the things I've said about him and I.

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Speaker 3: I remarried. I have an amazing husband now who's been

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Speaker 3: a great dad to my son.

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Speaker 4: And but it's not biological dad. So he kind of

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Speaker 4: just wants to, you know, find out who his father

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Speaker 4: is and probably maybe get close to that side of

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Speaker 4: the family. I know he was probably a terrible boyfriend

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Speaker 4: or whatever he was to you. But it's been seventeen years.

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Speaker 4: Why not, you know, give your son a chance to

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Speaker 4: at least try to have a relationship. It's not gonna

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Speaker 4: he's not gonna know what's type of father he has

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Speaker 4: until you know he actually needs him.

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Speaker 3: Well he is.

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Speaker 1: What does your husband think of all of this?

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Speaker 3: Well, that's a great question. He gets his feelings hurt.

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Speaker 3: You know, you've been this dad for a long time.

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Speaker 3: We got together when my son was like two, so

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Speaker 3: it's it's he's his dad, you know, so like he

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Speaker 3: doesn't want him, but he also he doesn't know my

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Speaker 3: ex but he he knows what I've said, and he

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Speaker 3: knows more than my son knows, and he agrees that,

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Speaker 3: like we should not let this man back into our

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Speaker 3: lives in any way and and just leave him where

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Speaker 1: Eight four nine ninety three ninety three, eight hundred four

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Speaker 1: ow nine ninety three ninety three. Now, Ashley, you always

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Speaker 1: knew your dad. I did, and you guys went back

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Speaker 1: and forth within your relationship. Things are so much better

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Speaker 1: though now, which is awesome. So I guess like I

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Speaker 1: can't really say like you can completely relate to it, right.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, but I just even if it's not something that

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Speaker 4: is relatable, I think just trying to put myself in

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Speaker 4: your shoes, like even your son's shoes, I would want

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Speaker 4: to know, like if what you're saying about my dad

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Speaker 4: is true, Like I would want to make that decision,

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Speaker 4: like you've been to my mom for seventeen years, but like, yeah,

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Speaker 4: I just want to make that decision if he is

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Speaker 4: really a crappy guy like you say he is. And

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Speaker 4: although I love my mom and I trust my mom's

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Speaker 4: decisions and what you know about you know, protecting me,

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Speaker 4: but I also want to venture out and you know,

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Speaker 4: experience who this person.

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Speaker 1: Is let's see how many people have been in like

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Speaker 1: the kid's side of this, or also maybe you've been

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Speaker 1: in Lea's side. I know my mom knew her dad

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Speaker 1: but like till she was three. He left at three

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Speaker 1: and he did really bad things. He ended up in jail,

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Speaker 1: and she ended up wanting to meet him when I

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Speaker 1: was I think I met. I met him at like twenty,

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Speaker 1: and my mom re kindled the relationship kind of, but uh,

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Speaker 1: she also had it. I'm named after my my real papa,

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Speaker 1: maybe not by blood, but you know, Jules.

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Speaker 3: Hey, my man.

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Speaker 2: Homegirl, I'm knock ay a homegirl. I'm not gonna call

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Speaker 2: you an a hole. I'm gonna call you a mother

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Speaker 2: because you are protecting your son. Bet, understand that I

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Speaker 2: was that father. I was that father that was in

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Speaker 2: and my son changed me. Bet, you have to let

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Speaker 2: your son see for himself. Is he that bad of

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Speaker 2: a person, Because what happened was when my son found

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Speaker 2: out that I was actually alive and not a dead soldier,

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Speaker 2: became a single dad at twelve. Now my son graduated

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Speaker 2: high school and now he's a cop. I raised him.

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Speaker 2: I was the bad guy. But let him find out

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Speaker 2: if he's really the bad guy, and are you're the

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Speaker 2: good person? You know, because but he might still be

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Speaker 2: a pos Bet him meeting his son might be like,

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Speaker 2: you know what, I'm done, I have something to lift

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Speaker 2: for Bet. Like I said, you're not an ahole, you're

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Speaker 2: a mother, and I can knock you for that. I

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Speaker 2: am that dad though, I was that dad. Though. You know,

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Speaker 2: my son is my best friend. He's twenty two years old.

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Speaker 2: He's been with me for ten years, and you got

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Speaker 2: to give him the chance to find out for himself.

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Speaker 2: Because of that, he's gonna become resentful and he's not

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Speaker 2: gonna and it's not gonna turn out nice for you.

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Speaker 1: So with your aki, does she ever still try to

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Speaker 1: get in contact with him?

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Speaker 2: Oh no, we're all best friends now, like no, okay, okay, yeah, no,

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Speaker 2: like her and Naomi are best friends, cole parent like

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Speaker 2: we're like until he became a man. But you know,

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Speaker 2: here like he's because he was like, I don't want

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Speaker 2: to be my dad. You know, he found out that

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Speaker 2: I was actually alive at nine years old, you know that. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: I was. He was told his whole life that you know,

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Speaker 2: I was dead, you know, until he's nine, and then

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Speaker 2: he found out the truth through my parents, like your

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Speaker 2: dad is not dead. Actually he's in prison and actually

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Speaker 2: on the phone right now. He wants to talk to him.

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Speaker 2: How we found out.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, so, Jules, I always wondered when one day I

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Speaker 1: knew one day you were in calling you were to

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Speaker 1: start talking about everything. I know a little bit that

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Speaker 1: we're not. We're gonna talk about one day when you're ready.

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Speaker 1: But people think that this is just a guy who

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Speaker 1: calls it and says he oh my man. But he

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Speaker 1: is quite the interesting uh story.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, you know everybody, everybody doesn't stay same, you know,

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Speaker 2: like nobody stays Samos. Some people do. But you know,

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Speaker 2: to her, I said, you know, I know you're trying

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Speaker 2: you knew at one point, you know, like at one

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Speaker 2: point that he's probably still the same person. But you can't.

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Speaker 2: You gotta let your son be the judge of that,

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Speaker 2: because it's not like I said, it'll come back backfire

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Speaker 2: pop in the face, and then you'll have somebody that

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Speaker 2: resents you because he finds out that it's actually his.

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Speaker 2: Was actually pretty cool, it's just not cool to you.

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Speaker 1: Jules. You're the best. Yeah, I love you so much.

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Speaker 1: I h I still want to talk with Leah. Do

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Speaker 1: you mind if I can I take a Can I

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Speaker 1: take a two minute break? Can take it to just

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Speaker 1: like a two minute break, Lee, And then I want

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Speaker 1: to come back to so many more people want to

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Speaker 1: talk to you. And there's a lot of people who

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Speaker 1: with differing opinions. And I know that you know with

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Speaker 1: this you're probably still dead set right like on can't

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Speaker 1: can't meet him, can't meet this biological father. But we'll see. So, Leah,

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Speaker 1: if you're just turning to radio, is you know a

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Speaker 1: wants to meet his biological father and because of this

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Speaker 1: father's past, Leah doesn't want him to. She's not giving

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Speaker 1: him any information. We'll talk more about it next, Okay,