1 00:00:00,080 --> 00:00:03,360 Speaker 1: Welcome to another episode of I Tell You all Right, 2 00:00:03,360 --> 00:00:05,160 Speaker 1: I'm going to send it over to dubs. I would 3 00:00:05,200 --> 00:00:08,040 Speaker 1: love to get some teachers on talkback in the iHeartRadio 4 00:00:08,039 --> 00:00:09,680 Speaker 1: app and tell us what you think about this. I 5 00:00:09,680 --> 00:00:12,920 Speaker 1: already have formed my opinion, okay, but I'm gonna just 6 00:00:12,960 --> 00:00:14,720 Speaker 1: at face value of the story here. But let her 7 00:00:14,760 --> 00:00:15,280 Speaker 1: rip your dubs. 8 00:00:15,320 --> 00:00:17,079 Speaker 2: Yeah, I just want your opinion if this mom is 9 00:00:17,160 --> 00:00:20,200 Speaker 2: overreacting her, if she has a legit argument. Her son 10 00:00:20,280 --> 00:00:23,480 Speaker 2: is in fifth grade and he struggled with confidence at school, 11 00:00:23,560 --> 00:00:25,880 Speaker 2: especially when it comes to speaking up in class. His 12 00:00:26,000 --> 00:00:29,440 Speaker 2: teacher has been very supportive, encouraging, and last week he 13 00:00:29,480 --> 00:00:32,360 Speaker 2: came home with the sealed envelope that was addressed to 14 00:00:32,440 --> 00:00:34,720 Speaker 2: him and his backpack, and the mom opened it and 15 00:00:34,760 --> 00:00:36,959 Speaker 2: inside the note it says, I'm really proud of how 16 00:00:37,000 --> 00:00:40,240 Speaker 2: brave you've been lately. Keep believing in yourself. You're doing great. 17 00:00:40,760 --> 00:00:44,480 Speaker 2: And mom kind of felt weird when she read the note, 18 00:00:44,560 --> 00:00:47,839 Speaker 2: like the teacher should be communicating this to us instead 19 00:00:47,880 --> 00:00:51,400 Speaker 2: of directly to the child. She did, and the dad 20 00:00:51,440 --> 00:00:53,360 Speaker 2: says she's overreacting. 21 00:00:53,200 --> 00:00:56,560 Speaker 1: Saying that the mother's father, yes, the wife his wife, Okay. 22 00:00:57,640 --> 00:01:00,400 Speaker 3: I'm sorry. So that she's a teacher who wrote an 23 00:01:00,440 --> 00:01:02,320 Speaker 3: encouraging note to a student. 24 00:01:02,560 --> 00:01:05,399 Speaker 1: To the student, to the student, gave it to the 25 00:01:05,440 --> 00:01:10,480 Speaker 1: student sealed in the backpack, right, yeah, which is basically 26 00:01:10,520 --> 00:01:13,959 Speaker 1: public property, meaning it's family property. Right the backpack Mom 27 00:01:14,040 --> 00:01:16,960 Speaker 1: and dad and he pulled it out and there was 28 00:01:17,000 --> 00:01:21,960 Speaker 1: a note to him, and she's over hold on. She's 29 00:01:22,040 --> 00:01:25,200 Speaker 1: reacting that. I was almost she's reacting to it, thinking 30 00:01:25,240 --> 00:01:28,240 Speaker 1: that it should have been addressed more to the parent. 31 00:01:28,360 --> 00:01:34,160 Speaker 1: The parent. Now, I think everything I love the parent 32 00:01:34,200 --> 00:01:37,280 Speaker 1: involvement thing. We need that constantly. There should never be 33 00:01:37,360 --> 00:01:42,120 Speaker 1: anything that really goes behind a parent's back in any capacity. 34 00:01:42,280 --> 00:01:43,800 Speaker 1: I know that a lot of people disagree with me 35 00:01:43,840 --> 00:01:45,960 Speaker 1: when it comes to education and everything. You know. I mean, 36 00:01:45,959 --> 00:01:47,560 Speaker 1: we could really go down a political road to that, 37 00:01:47,600 --> 00:01:50,920 Speaker 1: and we don't need to. But I think you have 38 00:01:51,040 --> 00:01:54,120 Speaker 1: private conversations with a student, a fifth grader in your class, 39 00:01:54,760 --> 00:01:57,800 Speaker 1: and you can leave a note if that's the subject matter. 40 00:01:58,400 --> 00:02:00,240 Speaker 1: I think it can go to the student. I think 41 00:02:00,280 --> 00:02:03,360 Speaker 1: it's also for the family. I think she didn't say 42 00:02:04,120 --> 00:02:07,000 Speaker 1: don't give this to anybody else, right, don't let anybody 43 00:02:07,000 --> 00:02:09,160 Speaker 1: else see this. It's an open letter to him, and 44 00:02:09,200 --> 00:02:11,880 Speaker 1: it's encouraging and I like the one on one encouragement 45 00:02:11,919 --> 00:02:14,600 Speaker 1: from a teacher to a student, and I love the approach. 46 00:02:14,800 --> 00:02:16,960 Speaker 1: I don't I think she's getting I think mom's getting 47 00:02:16,960 --> 00:02:19,800 Speaker 1: a little uh, she's a little sensitive to it. There. 48 00:02:20,160 --> 00:02:23,680 Speaker 3: I agree. I do think it's a little a little 49 00:02:23,680 --> 00:02:25,760 Speaker 3: bit strange and it's in like a sealed envelope. I 50 00:02:25,800 --> 00:02:27,520 Speaker 3: feel this seems like something that could easily have been 51 00:02:27,560 --> 00:02:30,480 Speaker 3: written on like the front of some homework or on 52 00:02:30,520 --> 00:02:31,000 Speaker 3: a planner. 53 00:02:31,200 --> 00:02:33,560 Speaker 1: But I love that because it's more formal and it's 54 00:02:33,639 --> 00:02:36,359 Speaker 1: for him and she's proud of him. The teacher's proud 55 00:02:36,400 --> 00:02:37,480 Speaker 1: of him in his progress. 56 00:02:37,560 --> 00:02:39,280 Speaker 3: Yeah, And to be clear, I don't really see an 57 00:02:39,320 --> 00:02:43,360 Speaker 3: issue overall with this. Slightly odd it was delivered, but 58 00:02:43,440 --> 00:02:45,680 Speaker 3: I don't really I think that this is awesome. I 59 00:02:45,680 --> 00:02:49,919 Speaker 3: think that a good you know, teacher student rapport and 60 00:02:50,560 --> 00:02:53,800 Speaker 3: the support of a teacher like that is really important 61 00:02:53,840 --> 00:02:55,359 Speaker 3: and it can go a really long way and make 62 00:02:55,400 --> 00:02:57,240 Speaker 3: a lifelong impact on a child. 63 00:02:57,560 --> 00:03:01,240 Speaker 1: You hear a lot of the nasty stuff, not a lot, 64 00:03:01,280 --> 00:03:04,040 Speaker 1: but I mean it's fairly isolated, but the stories that 65 00:03:04,120 --> 00:03:06,440 Speaker 1: do come out when there's a teacher that behaves poorly 66 00:03:07,160 --> 00:03:09,840 Speaker 1: and how nasty, that is right, But this to me 67 00:03:10,320 --> 00:03:16,600 Speaker 1: is it's personal. It's intimate on a just define the 68 00:03:16,639 --> 00:03:19,520 Speaker 1: word intimate and an intimate level to the student. And 69 00:03:19,600 --> 00:03:22,079 Speaker 1: I think it's I think maybe I'm wrong, you guys 70 00:03:22,080 --> 00:03:24,320 Speaker 1: you writ me on talkback. I think it's I think 71 00:03:24,360 --> 00:03:29,480 Speaker 1: it's beautiful because you know, there's nothing. She's not trying 72 00:03:29,480 --> 00:03:32,079 Speaker 1: to hide anything from the parents. It is for him, 73 00:03:32,680 --> 00:03:36,560 Speaker 1: this fifth grader. She's excited for him, she's happy for him, 74 00:03:36,960 --> 00:03:39,320 Speaker 1: she wants him to succeed. She knows that that letter 75 00:03:39,320 --> 00:03:42,120 Speaker 1: could be shared with anybody, and if there's something beyond that, 76 00:03:42,280 --> 00:03:44,760 Speaker 1: well then who knows. But there isn't. I mean, it's 77 00:03:44,880 --> 00:03:46,640 Speaker 1: just you look at it the way it was intended. 78 00:03:46,880 --> 00:03:48,720 Speaker 1: I think it's really nice to get something. I remember 79 00:03:48,720 --> 00:03:51,960 Speaker 1: getting notes from teachers and stuff and feeling like wow, 80 00:03:52,360 --> 00:03:55,040 Speaker 1: you know, yeah, you run in the class the next 81 00:03:55,120 --> 00:03:58,520 Speaker 1: day and you're like, let's go. I really want to succeed. 82 00:03:58,680 --> 00:03:58,880 Speaker 1: You know. 83 00:03:59,120 --> 00:04:01,720 Speaker 3: I hate to be that person. But do you think 84 00:04:01,760 --> 00:04:03,680 Speaker 3: that your outlook on it would be different if you 85 00:04:03,720 --> 00:04:07,160 Speaker 3: had a male teacher and a young girl student receiving it. 86 00:04:07,960 --> 00:04:09,240 Speaker 3: Would you have a different opinion. 87 00:04:09,600 --> 00:04:13,200 Speaker 1: I've never had a daughter. I know that my life 88 00:04:13,240 --> 00:04:16,200 Speaker 1: would have changed dramatically. Again, You'll get back to you 89 00:04:16,200 --> 00:04:22,359 Speaker 1: in a couple of years. I'm just like, that's a great, 90 00:04:22,440 --> 00:04:25,400 Speaker 1: great point. But if I'm looking at it from a 91 00:04:25,640 --> 00:04:29,039 Speaker 1: teacher in instruction and my daughter and a note to 92 00:04:29,120 --> 00:04:33,920 Speaker 1: her encouraging her, I would be it's weird. It sounds 93 00:04:33,960 --> 00:04:36,000 Speaker 1: sexist in a sense. Yes, there'd be a little bit 94 00:04:36,040 --> 00:04:38,120 Speaker 1: more of a because I know for a fact, let 95 00:04:38,160 --> 00:04:39,720 Speaker 1: me just say it, man, I'd be a little more 96 00:04:39,720 --> 00:04:41,599 Speaker 1: guarded with the daughter. I just would because there were 97 00:04:41,600 --> 00:04:43,160 Speaker 1: a lot of mes out there in fifth grade too, 98 00:04:43,200 --> 00:04:46,040 Speaker 1: you know, little boys put on big tails, you know 99 00:04:46,080 --> 00:04:48,800 Speaker 1: what I mean. But I still would admire the teacher 100 00:04:49,720 --> 00:04:52,320 Speaker 1: because the situation is still a situation that doesn't matter 101 00:04:52,360 --> 00:04:54,359 Speaker 1: what the sex is. It's still here's a kid that 102 00:04:54,480 --> 00:04:56,680 Speaker 1: was having some problems and confidence issues. It's all of 103 00:04:56,720 --> 00:05:00,120 Speaker 1: a sudden taken off and doing better in class and 104 00:05:00,160 --> 00:05:03,159 Speaker 1: gets a note from the teacher. You know. And if now, 105 00:05:03,240 --> 00:05:05,080 Speaker 1: if the teacher said don't let your parents see this, 106 00:05:05,200 --> 00:05:07,560 Speaker 1: I problem with that. Yeah, you know, if. 107 00:05:07,520 --> 00:05:09,080 Speaker 3: There's like your boobs on it or something. 108 00:05:12,080 --> 00:05:14,360 Speaker 2: I just think this gives him validation and gives them 109 00:05:14,360 --> 00:05:16,640 Speaker 2: even more confidence because he's like all right, she says, 110 00:05:16,640 --> 00:05:19,120 Speaker 2: I'm putting in the work. I'm doing great, so I'm 111 00:05:19,839 --> 00:05:21,880 Speaker 2: like doing what I should. I'm gonna keep doing that. 112 00:05:22,080 --> 00:05:25,200 Speaker 3: I I agree. I agree, And I as a well 113 00:05:25,240 --> 00:05:26,920 Speaker 3: as a female, I. 114 00:05:26,839 --> 00:05:27,400 Speaker 1: Have had you. 115 00:05:28,480 --> 00:05:32,560 Speaker 3: I am so as a young lady that has been 116 00:05:32,600 --> 00:05:34,760 Speaker 3: in a class with male and female teachers. I've had 117 00:05:34,800 --> 00:05:39,640 Speaker 3: some phenomenal teachers male and female in your homeschool. I 118 00:05:39,640 --> 00:05:43,159 Speaker 3: went to elementary school and middle school, public school, in high. 119 00:05:43,000 --> 00:05:47,400 Speaker 1: School, just like wondering, just looking at the lab and uh. 120 00:05:47,520 --> 00:05:49,800 Speaker 3: And I did take some classes at the high school 121 00:05:50,040 --> 00:05:52,760 Speaker 3: in Buffalo as well, but I had some male teachers 122 00:05:53,040 --> 00:05:56,320 Speaker 3: and female teachers, but especially for some reason like male 123 00:05:56,560 --> 00:05:59,119 Speaker 3: that were just phenomenal. And I think that they would 124 00:05:59,240 --> 00:06:03,720 Speaker 3: also write nice things like this and give me great feedback, 125 00:06:03,880 --> 00:06:06,600 Speaker 3: regardless of male or female. I just it was curious 126 00:06:07,080 --> 00:06:08,599 Speaker 3: if you'd be a little bit more guarded. 127 00:06:09,000 --> 00:06:12,160 Speaker 1: If I'm guarded with my kids on absolutely everything. Yeah, 128 00:06:12,560 --> 00:06:13,599 Speaker 1: you know, especially nowadays. 129 00:06:13,680 --> 00:06:13,880 Speaker 3: Yeah. 130 00:06:13,960 --> 00:06:17,520 Speaker 1: Yeah. I remember once being at a doctor and one 131 00:06:17,560 --> 00:06:21,760 Speaker 1: of my kids was fourteen, and they she said, I 132 00:06:21,760 --> 00:06:23,680 Speaker 1: would like a moment alone with you. Can the parents 133 00:06:23,680 --> 00:06:27,960 Speaker 1: step out of the room, And I remember going, what's 134 00:06:28,000 --> 00:06:29,920 Speaker 1: going on with it? Because it was one of those questions, 135 00:06:30,160 --> 00:06:32,359 Speaker 1: you know, like it was just in her practice. It 136 00:06:32,440 --> 00:06:36,000 Speaker 1: was in her practice to ask every patient that was 137 00:06:36,040 --> 00:06:38,920 Speaker 1: a minor, you know, how's your home life? That kind 138 00:06:38,920 --> 00:06:41,479 Speaker 1: of thing. Yep, And I'm like, and I knew what 139 00:06:41,560 --> 00:06:44,839 Speaker 1: the intent was, but I did, we did step out, 140 00:06:45,120 --> 00:06:47,760 Speaker 1: but it burnt. It chapped my ass that even looking 141 00:06:47,800 --> 00:06:50,200 Speaker 1: back that I that I did that, and I kind 142 00:06:50,240 --> 00:06:52,520 Speaker 1: of felt what it was about. And then I came 143 00:06:52,560 --> 00:06:56,040 Speaker 1: back and said, all right, let's be open here. Yeah, 144 00:06:56,040 --> 00:06:58,400 Speaker 1: what's and she goes fun and you know, he's got 145 00:06:58,440 --> 00:07:01,039 Speaker 1: a good homelan blah blah blah blah blah. But there 146 00:07:01,080 --> 00:07:03,520 Speaker 1: is a part of me that's like, that's a little controlling. 147 00:07:03,520 --> 00:07:05,440 Speaker 1: I'm not a big fan of that now. And I 148 00:07:05,440 --> 00:07:08,919 Speaker 1: don't know where you know, what other questions could have 149 00:07:08,920 --> 00:07:10,480 Speaker 1: been asked that kind of stuff. Now, I've got a 150 00:07:10,480 --> 00:07:12,480 Speaker 1: pretty bright fourteen year old at the time that shared 151 00:07:12,480 --> 00:07:15,040 Speaker 1: everything with me, you know. Yeah, And there wasn't anything 152 00:07:15,040 --> 00:07:17,120 Speaker 1: that tipped her off. It wasn't anything like that. It 153 00:07:17,160 --> 00:07:21,080 Speaker 1: was she did that with every every kid that came in. 154 00:07:21,200 --> 00:07:22,840 Speaker 1: I think it was a short period of time or 155 00:07:22,840 --> 00:07:25,040 Speaker 1: however long that that was in practice there. 156 00:07:25,240 --> 00:07:27,320 Speaker 3: Yeah, I think that's really standard a lot at a lot 157 00:07:27,320 --> 00:07:29,760 Speaker 3: of places, and unfortunately, there are a lot of kids 158 00:07:29,960 --> 00:07:33,160 Speaker 3: that don't have a great home life and that do 159 00:07:33,360 --> 00:07:35,600 Speaker 3: need to be one on one with an authority figure 160 00:07:35,640 --> 00:07:39,560 Speaker 3: that's not whoever they're guardian or parent is to in 161 00:07:40,120 --> 00:07:41,560 Speaker 3: order to be able to speak up about it. 162 00:07:41,680 --> 00:07:45,720 Speaker 1: Yeah, and also he both of my kids really shy 163 00:07:46,120 --> 00:07:50,040 Speaker 1: and shy in the doctor's office, I mean, answering questions yes, no, 164 00:07:50,240 --> 00:07:52,680 Speaker 1: I'm fine, you know, and all that, and if there was, 165 00:07:52,720 --> 00:07:54,520 Speaker 1: I mean, it would almost look like if there was 166 00:07:54,560 --> 00:07:57,800 Speaker 1: an issue because the kids so blasting quiet. Mom and 167 00:07:57,920 --> 00:07:59,920 Speaker 1: dad are answering all the questions, you know what I mean, 168 00:08:00,000 --> 00:08:01,920 Speaker 1: and it's like, no, it's we'll step out, that's fine, 169 00:08:02,000 --> 00:08:04,120 Speaker 1: came back in just like a minute later or whatever. 170 00:08:04,240 --> 00:08:06,800 Speaker 1: Everything good. Yeah, So, but we didn't really take it personally. 171 00:08:06,840 --> 00:08:08,320 Speaker 1: But at the same time, it does kind of chap 172 00:08:08,360 --> 00:08:11,040 Speaker 1: your ass, you know, is that you you don't know 173 00:08:11,200 --> 00:08:13,080 Speaker 1: what other you know, if there's another question in there 174 00:08:13,120 --> 00:08:15,920 Speaker 1: that that you wouldn't approve of, you know what I mean, 175 00:08:16,560 --> 00:08:19,800 Speaker 1: like if there's some sexuality question or something like that. 176 00:08:20,000 --> 00:08:21,840 Speaker 1: When you're afford to have a fourteen year old kid, 177 00:08:21,960 --> 00:08:25,200 Speaker 1: I want in on all that stuff. Yeah, no, you 178 00:08:25,240 --> 00:08:30,360 Speaker 1: know government thing. It sounds like I'm getting political, probably am. 179 00:08:30,480 --> 00:08:32,679 Speaker 3: I love the skepticism with the government. 180 00:08:32,400 --> 00:08:35,000 Speaker 1: Dude, you gotta be you have skeptical. Well you got 181 00:08:35,040 --> 00:08:35,920 Speaker 1: a little bit with everybody. 182 00:08:35,960 --> 00:08:36,600 Speaker 3: I'm serious. 183 00:08:36,840 --> 00:08:42,400 Speaker 1: I just went through jury duty, trust me. Well drop 184 00:08:42,440 --> 00:08:45,120 Speaker 1: it on talkback, you guys talk back on the iHeartRadio app. 185 00:08:45,200 --> 00:08:47,559 Speaker 1: And was the teacher out of line? Do you agree 186 00:08:47,600 --> 00:08:49,520 Speaker 1: with the teacher? What do you think? What are your thoughts? 187 00:08:49,640 --> 00:08:51,640 Speaker 1: Especially teachers want to hear from you if you're awake, 188 00:08:52,600 --> 00:08:56,160 Speaker 1: you guys up yet? Uh? Talk back on the iHeartRadio app. 189 00:08:56,240 --> 00:08:58,000 Speaker 1: Just punched the button and let it rip. Well, thanks 190 00:08:58,040 --> 00:09:01,480 Speaker 1: for listening to this episode of You Or You'll find 191 00:09:01,480 --> 00:09:03,720 Speaker 1: more on the iHeartRadio app and anywhere you get your podcast. 192 00:09:03,800 --> 00:09:06,880 Speaker 1: Please rate, review, subscribe, download chair and like. Thank you.