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Speaker 1: Fair and Faarah, Tampa Accident Attorneys. What did you find

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Speaker 1: out at the event? See, there's like different angles we

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Speaker 1: could take with this. I know that you specifically want

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Speaker 1: to talk about that or more broadly that, which probably

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Speaker 1: a good idea. Eight hundred and four O nine ninety

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Speaker 1: three ninety three. Colin Phillison, I wonder if we could

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Speaker 1: find out even more into funerals though.

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Speaker 2: So your cousin, yes, unfortunately passed away.

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Speaker 3: So I'll be going to his funeral next weekend, and

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Speaker 3: I already know what we're going to find out at

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Speaker 3: his funeral. So my cousin was gay. He's been gay

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Speaker 3: since I've known him. And everybody's writing on his Facebook

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Speaker 3: wall like rest in peace. I'm looking on his wall

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Speaker 3: and seeing all these gay guys and some of them

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Speaker 3: are very like some of them have to be DL,

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Speaker 3: and DL's down low. They don't want anybody to know

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Speaker 3: they're gay. But I'm like, bro, you're breaking down, crying,

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Speaker 3: balling your eyes out about my cousin, and come to

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Speaker 3: find out, some of them have been hanging out with

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Speaker 3: him alone. So I called my mom. I was like, hey, Ma,

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Speaker 3: this funeral. I guarantee you we are going to find

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Speaker 3: out so many people were in love with Corey dated Corey.

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Speaker 3: People that we've never expected are going to come off

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Speaker 3: the closet, and I cannot wait.

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Speaker 1: I ask you questions, someone who's gay, would you really

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Speaker 1: want to come out at a funeral?

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Speaker 2: Like do you think some of these.

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Speaker 3: People as a black community, it'd be a save the

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Speaker 3: space for you to do it because everybody crying, everybody's

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Speaker 3: in their feelings. I'm gay. Oh it's okay, baby, it's

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Speaker 3: so gay?

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Speaker 2: Is that how that works? Noted? Just have to wait

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Speaker 2: for someone to die.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, when everybody's on their feelings, it's just like that's

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Speaker 3: when you break the news.

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Speaker 1: Really, Oh yeah, eight hundred and four on the ninety

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Speaker 1: three ninety three? What did you find out when you

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Speaker 1: went to some sort of event tonight? I really do

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Speaker 1: think the funeral isacific angle that we can take, because

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Speaker 1: I'll never forget going to a funeral for someone who

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Speaker 1: passed away who uh there was like a father of.

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Speaker 2: Someone I went to school with, and.

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Speaker 1: Massive drama the day before find out the guy had

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Speaker 1: a different family in Ohio.

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Speaker 3: Damn, oh my god.

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Speaker 2: Oh yeah.

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Speaker 3: It happens. It happens.

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Speaker 1: One of those things where it's like you have to

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Speaker 1: be devastated your husband died, but then also what's going

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Speaker 1: through your head when you realize, Okay, like they were

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Speaker 1: a total pos and had another family.

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Speaker 4: I'd be asking where the bar is because I'd need

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Speaker 4: a drink after finding all.

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Speaker 2: One hundred percent.

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Speaker 1: I mean, there's a couple of funerals where, like I

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Speaker 1: found out my cousin's partaken, you know, extracurricular activities because

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Speaker 1: they're doing it in the church parking lot.

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Speaker 3: There be people who've gone funerals and you know the

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Speaker 3: extra girlfriend saw piece pull up. You're like, what are

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Speaker 3: you doing here? Like the family knows about you, but

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Speaker 3: you ain't supposed to be here? Yeah, how does that work?

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Speaker 3: What are the rules for a side piece and funerals?

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Speaker 3: They can't go? Unfortunately? Sorry, like this is where the

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Speaker 1: Can they get like a side funeral? Maybe it's ten

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Speaker 1: minutes instead of an hour?

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Speaker 3: No, not at all. Okay, you just got a mourning

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Speaker 3: by yourself. I'm sorry. That's how it is.

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Speaker 2: Interesting.

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Speaker 3: So that's happened a lot in my family, really.

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Speaker 1: Eight ninety ninety three text in at ninety seven seven

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Speaker 1: two zero. Yeah, we never talked about, you know, Katie

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Speaker 1: and death and all of that stuff. You ever had

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Speaker 1: any like dramatic experiences with anything like that.

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Speaker 2: Not that I can remember, Good old Wisconsin. I'm just

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Speaker 3: The cast roll afterwards.

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Speaker 2: Yeah. Why is funeral food? Good?

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Speaker 3: It is funeral potatoes.

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Speaker 2: We're chicken wings. Oh my god, Jed, you got it.

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Speaker 2: Family in the militia.

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Speaker 4: I yeah, oh no, that's but it goes back to like,

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Speaker 4: what did you find out? That's when I first found

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Speaker 4: He is like the front runner for the Michigan militia.

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Speaker 2: He was implicating.

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Speaker 4: Oh, he was implicated in the Oklahoma City bombing because

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Speaker 4: Timothy McVeigh, who blew up the federal building that day,

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Speaker 4: he was part of the Michigan militia. And because I

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Speaker 4: guess there was like a time change because Oklahoma City's

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Speaker 4: he was part of the whole entire operation. He owns

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Speaker 4: Blackhawk helicopters, He's got a conspiracy radio network that he

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Speaker 4: being eleven years old and finding this out at your

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Speaker 4: very first family reunion that your cousin is a total,

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Speaker 4: you know, wack a doodle, and that he's going around

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Speaker 4: and he actually sorry to get sidetracked here he ran

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Speaker 4: away from the FBI and shot at federal laws.

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Speaker 3: Oh my goodness.

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Speaker 2: Oh no, I didn't.

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Speaker 4: I found it out at family reunion, so that we

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Speaker 4: were all talking about him more like where's John, Where's John?

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Speaker 4: And I'm like, who's.

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Speaker 2: John character?

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Speaker 4: And this is and I didn't know until probably I

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Speaker 4: mean people my dad. He was like not brought up

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Speaker 4: at the funeral, like nobody was talking about it. But

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Speaker 4: then Google was very fresh and very new, so I

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Speaker 4: went on Google. I found his Wikipedia page and it was.

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Speaker 3: You find his Wikipedia.

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Speaker 2: So I'm in six degrees of separations Kevin Bacon theory.

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Speaker 2: Who is this? Hello?

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Speaker 1: Just hi, Jessica. What did you find out at a

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Speaker 1: funeral family event? What was the news that was broken

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Speaker 1: to you?

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Speaker 5: Okay?

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Speaker 6: So actually it was it news broke into me. But

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Speaker 6: my husband passed away in twenty sixteen. I had a

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Speaker 6: funeral for him as well as his ex.

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Speaker 3: Wife, so he had two funerals out of the body.

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Speaker 7: Well, I had him cremated before.

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Speaker 3: And then you gave it to her for this next funeral.

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Speaker 6: Oh no, she did not touch his ashes, no, ma'am.

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Speaker 6: They were buried in the ground before her funeral.

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Speaker 2: Did that bother you? It sounds like it.

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Speaker 7: Very right now, Yeah, very very much so, because there

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Speaker 7: was there was a large age gap. So he was

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Speaker 7: twenty three years older than me, but him and his

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Speaker 7: ex wife had been divorced for ten years, maybe fifteen

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Speaker 7: years by the time we even got married.

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Speaker 1: Was there any part of you when that was going

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Speaker 1: rekindle a relationship?

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Speaker 2: Was there a fling?

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Speaker 1: Why is it that fifteen years later, all of a

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Speaker 1: sudden she cares about it?

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Speaker 7: There was a little bit, Yes, absolutely, absolutely, huh. But yeah,

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Speaker 7: there there are when you have that sidepiece, there are

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Speaker 7: a lot of.

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Speaker 6: Things that come out at funerals because it's the easiest

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Speaker 6: place to do it.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, oh my god, Well yeh traumatic do you want

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Speaker 1: to laugh?

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Speaker 2: Laugh? You want to laugh.

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Speaker 7: About and make you okay.

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Speaker 1: All right, check this out. I want you to listen

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Speaker 1: in on this. We're gonna talk to Desa right now.

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Speaker 1: Is your name Deessasa?

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Speaker 5: Good? Morning guys.

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Speaker 1: Deessa, Well, uh, tell us, tell us about your your geez.

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Speaker 1: I'm not laughing because your father unfortunately, and you know,

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Speaker 1: we're talking about this right now because Ashley's got to

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Speaker 1: go to a funeral for a cousin and she's you're

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Speaker 1: you're very interested into going back to your hometown and

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Speaker 1: seeing what guys were on the d L because your

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Speaker 4: Huh.

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Speaker 2: You said you noticed a lot of straight dudes coming out,

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Speaker 2: like balling.

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Speaker 3: Their eyes out. I was like, I can't wait to find.

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Speaker 1: This out, Desa. The sad part is your father was dying.

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Speaker 1: He was in the process of passing away.

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Speaker 5: Yes, so I.

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Speaker 8: Had people come help me to like do a clean

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Speaker 8: out of his house and found an envelope, a Manila

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Speaker 8: envelope of polaroid pictures and snail mail and printed out

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Speaker 8: o L chat rooms of my parents who were apparently swingers.

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Speaker 8: Made made my childhood make a whole lot more sense.

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Speaker 8: But yeah, you can unsee that.

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Speaker 3: I can't only imagine.

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Speaker 2: But even what do you say, your mom?

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Speaker 5: She she passed away a year prior. Okay, Actually, my

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Speaker 5: dad came out of the coma and I told him

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Speaker 5: I found it, and yeah, well, I told you gotta.

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Speaker 5: I'm putting it into a book. I was like, you

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Speaker 5: gotta let me share this, and he was like, just

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Speaker 5: wait till him with your mother first.

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Speaker 2: And what do you have? Do you still have those

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Speaker 2: polaroid pictures?

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Speaker 5: Oh?

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 5: I carried it around for a year in my in

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Speaker 5: my work briefcase because I knew I was going to

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Speaker 5: make a book out of it, but it would be

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Speaker 5: like my work briefcase was like my work documents, my poetry,

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Speaker 5: and then my folder of my naked parents.

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Speaker 2: Oh my god.

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