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Speaker 1: It's Marcus in the morning and we're back. Second date update,

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Speaker 1: it's midweek. Let's bring on, Colin. I almost called you

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Speaker 1: a contestant. Colin Jesus like this is a love games

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Speaker 1: to death or something.

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Speaker 2: I have no idea its like a love game, right.

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Speaker 3: No kidding, man, I'm sorry you got ghosted first of all.

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Speaker 3: But let's uh, yeah, let's talk about Tessa. A very

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Speaker 3: sort of halfway unconventional. Most people come to the city,

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Speaker 3: but you guys stayed right there in Livermore. So tell

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Speaker 3: me about Yeah, tell me about her, tell me about

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Speaker 3: the first date.

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Speaker 4: Yeah. Well, I mean, you know, we're downtown Livermore, Right,

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Speaker 4: it's cute there, that busy wine bar right on First Street.

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Speaker 5: Sure, somebody kind of ends up there on the weekend.

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Speaker 5: There's we just had everything set up.

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Speaker 4: We have you know, spider local reds. We're just really,

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Speaker 4: you know, we're having a good time where vibe. And

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Speaker 4: she shows up. She looks lovely. She she shows up.

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Speaker 5: She's got this this little vintage denim jacket on.

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Speaker 4: You know, Uh, she's pushing the sleeves up constantly and stuff.

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Speaker 4: I just noticed little things.

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Speaker 2: I was going to say, you're writing a novel right now,

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Speaker 2: it's very poetic.

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Speaker 4: Well, no, I'm I'm just free. I'm remembering everything. Sure,

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Speaker 4: the moment she walked in, you know, you have those

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Speaker 4: nerves for a second where you're like unsure of like

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Speaker 4: how the meeting's gonna go, or first moment is gonna go.

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Speaker 4: And just right away she's cracking jokes plenty, quirky girl

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Speaker 4: but also beautiful, blows your away. That's how it's all.

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Speaker 4: And I don't know. It seemed like we were having

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Speaker 4: a great time. It seemed like vibe was there and

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Speaker 4: I thought for sure there was a clear second date,

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Speaker 4: and she just disappeared.

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Speaker 1: Okay, I'll tell you what. What we're gonna do is we're

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Speaker 1: gonna call her with you on the phone. I We'll

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Speaker 1: have them listening in, so make sure your phone is muted.

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Speaker 2: But we're gonna see what she thought. Okay of the date.

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Speaker 4: That sounds good.

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Speaker 2: Their main Okay, calling you ready to do this?

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Speaker 4: Yes, sir?

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Speaker 2: All right, deep breath, here we go. Hello, Hi, Tessa.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, this is Tessa.

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Speaker 2: It's Marcus calling from U Star one on one three

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Speaker 2: in the morning show.

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Speaker 6: Okay, did I wake you up?

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Speaker 4: It?

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Speaker 2: Legit sounds like I woke you up.

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Speaker 6: I'm sorry, No, no, I'm just just kind of wondering

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Speaker 6: if if this is about a date I would on recently,

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Speaker 6: So you listen, Yes, okay, it is.

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Speaker 2: It's second date update.

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Speaker 6: It's Colin, isn't it?

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Speaker 2: It is Colin?

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Speaker 4: Colin?

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Speaker 2: Go ahead and unmute. I guess are you there?

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Speaker 4: Yeah? I'm here? High.

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Speaker 1: Oh this makes my life so much easier, you guys,

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Speaker 1: So tesa do I even have to ask?

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Speaker 2: Did you? Did you ghost? And why?

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Speaker 6: Okay? I don't think Colin. I mean you're nice, you're

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Speaker 6: good dudes, but do you realize that you were just

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Speaker 6: like your head was on his swivel. I felt like

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Speaker 6: we needed a corner booth. You couldn't stop turning your

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Speaker 6: head around and checking out the room. You were like

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Speaker 6: cirkly neurotic on our date and like, I don't even

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Speaker 6: know if you realize you do it, but it was

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Speaker 6: driving me nut. It was impossible to pay attention.

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Speaker 1: Quirkily might be the most descriptive adverb I think I've

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Speaker 1: ever heard interesting. So hold on, like, was he checking

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Speaker 1: out other chicks or what?

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Speaker 6: First off? Like if there was a glasst dropped or fell,

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Speaker 6: or if there was somebody that laughed. It doesn't even

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Speaker 6: matter if maybe an ant was crawling on the outside

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Speaker 6: of the building. Every three minutes, he would turn his

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Speaker 6: body in a total one eighty and just check out

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Speaker 6: the room and until he realized what the source was

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Speaker 6: and he it would come right back to the conversation, like,

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Speaker 6: doesn't happen. I'm like, what in the world is happening?

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Speaker 6: It was so hard to keep up.

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Speaker 2: Okay, Colin, is this a thing or what's the deal?

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Speaker 4: I mean, I'm very aware of my surroundings and I

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Speaker 4: like minutia and details, So I guess maybe I was.

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Speaker 4: I do remember, you know, being excited about the environment,

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Speaker 4: and there was a lot of conversations and a lot of.

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Speaker 5: Different interesting people, so I think I was aware. It's

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Speaker 5: I kind of an instinct that it's like to know

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Speaker 5: what's happening around me. But it doesn't mean I wasn't

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Speaker 5: focused or completely into you, Tessa.

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Speaker 6: I was competing with the room. I couldn't even get

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Speaker 6: your attention. You were you were like an owl. Honestly, Okay,

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Speaker 6: there's a little bit more. I think near the end

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Speaker 6: of the day we were talking about long term goals, right,

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Speaker 6: and he just casually admitted to me that he could

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Speaker 6: a job once without telling anyone in his life for

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Speaker 6: six months. But like he pretended to go to work

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Speaker 6: every day for six months, six months. He didn't tell

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Speaker 6: his friends, he didn't tell his family. He said he

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Speaker 6: wanted to control the narrative whatever that means, until he

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Speaker 6: figured out his next move. But like the fact he

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Speaker 6: pretended to go to work every day, I don't even know.

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Speaker 4: I mean, I thought that was kind of private, but

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Speaker 4: I guess it's out there. Yeah, I mean, it's I

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Speaker 4: don't know. Way, she says, it sounds worse than the

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Speaker 4: way I think I told it. But for me, I

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Speaker 4: want to be you know, independent. I don't like outside pressure.

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Speaker 4: I like to process things alone. So I needed some time,

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Speaker 4: and I didn't want you know, people involved. So I

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Speaker 4: just I decided to uh just protect myself so to speak.

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Speaker 4: You know.

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Speaker 6: Okay, people like like worried about you.

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Speaker 4: Well that's what I didn't want. I didn't want concern.

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Speaker 4: I didn't want people to, uh to try to give

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Speaker 4: me advice or to make suggestions. So I just I

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Speaker 4: just needed some time to recharge the battery, which I did.

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Speaker 4: I think you're over interpreting, like what exactly I meant

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Speaker 4: by that story.

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Speaker 6: I don't know. I don't really understand how disappearing from

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Speaker 6: your own life for six months, Like, how is that

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Speaker 6: independence that couldceal me? That doesn't make sense.

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Speaker 4: So basically that's it. Though. That's why you're ghosting me

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Speaker 4: is because I.

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Speaker 5: Was swiveling around a little bit, and you know, I

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Speaker 5: took some space to think, And that's weird, do it?

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Speaker 6: Was it a little bit swiveling, But also like both

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Speaker 6: of those things point to somebody half in the moment

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Speaker 6: and also half managing something else. And I just don't

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Speaker 6: know how I sit in that.

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Speaker 2: You guys, I don't know if this is a match.

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Speaker 2: I mean, I think we could go back and forth here,

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Speaker 2: test that with some clarity here. Would you want a

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Speaker 2: second date at all?

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Speaker 6: No? I mean, if you sure that, I'm like over

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Speaker 6: interpreting it, Like I think I'm just paying attention and

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Speaker 6: while he may have an inability to pay attention, lots

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Speaker 6: of people do, and I just think that we're probably

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Speaker 6: not a good match.

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Speaker 2: No offense, All right, hang on the line, Hang on, Yeah,

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Speaker 2: that's not happening.

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Speaker 1: Second date update if you missed that one, We're going

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Speaker 1: to replay at nine o'clock, but also there is a

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Speaker 1: podcast on the iHeartRadio app, so you can download Marcus

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Speaker 1: in the Morning.

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Speaker 2: A second date update