WEBVTT - Second Date Update: She's Not Over Her Ex 

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<v Speaker 1>It's the second date update on Mojo in the Morning.

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<v Speaker 2>All right, it is timed out for the second date update.

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<v Speaker 2>You're not getting a call back after you went on

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<v Speaker 2>a date text date to nine five five zero zero.

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<v Speaker 2>We are going to get you on second date update

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<v Speaker 2>here on the Mojo in the Morning show Mondays and Wednesdays.

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<v Speaker 1>Uh, is this Anica that's on with us right now? Anica?

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<v Speaker 1>You there?

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, I am so not getting a call back after

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<v Speaker 2>you went on a date and you're bummed out about

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<v Speaker 2>that thing, and you thought that things went well.

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<v Speaker 1>What did you guys do on your date?

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<v Speaker 3>So it was just pretty normal.

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<v Speaker 2>We just went folding, okay, and after the date was

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<v Speaker 2>over with hug and kiss whatever.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, we did actually kiss, okay.

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<v Speaker 2>And did you guys talk about the future of another date?

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<v Speaker 3>Not then?

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<v Speaker 4>No, we didn't, but.

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<v Speaker 1>You guys text back and forth afterwards.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, but I mean we work together, so.

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<v Speaker 1>He's just okay. So do you guys see each other

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<v Speaker 1>while you're working?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, we worked the front desk and he's been doing

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<v Speaker 3>random other jobs instead, like he won't be near me.

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<v Speaker 2>So he's changed his work pattern since the date that

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<v Speaker 2>you guys went on. Do you think it has anything

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<v Speaker 2>to do with the fact that he doesn't want other

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<v Speaker 2>people in the office to know that you guys went

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<v Speaker 2>on a date with each other.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean that's why I called.

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<v Speaker 2>We're going to.

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<v Speaker 1>Figure that out. Okay, let's figure it out. Then. Will

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<v Speaker 1>is on the phone with us right now. Say hello

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<v Speaker 1>to Will?

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<v Speaker 5>Hi, Will, Hello?

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<v Speaker 1>Will? Why are you hiding? Will? Are you hiding? Are

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<v Speaker 1>you or you just have no work where you're seeing

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<v Speaker 1>a little bit of both?

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<v Speaker 4>But yeah, I'm hiding a little.

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<v Speaker 1>I guess what's going on. Did you not enjoy bowling

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<v Speaker 1>and hanging out with her?

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<v Speaker 4>It was cool at first, but I don't know, I

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<v Speaker 4>just wasn't really feeling it.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, okay, you said it was cool. Why weren't you

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<v Speaker 1>feeling it?

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<v Speaker 2>She started talking about her ex the whole date, So

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<v Speaker 2>the entire time that you guys are on a date

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<v Speaker 2>with each other.

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<v Speaker 1>What is she saying? What is she talking about?

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<v Speaker 4>She misses her ax? She you know, she's like still

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<v Speaker 4>looking at his Instagram.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know if she brought.

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<v Speaker 6>Up that he Gotnica.

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<v Speaker 1>Why are you doing I was talking to her?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, yeah, your boy girl is Ona Honka.

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<v Speaker 1>Why why are you talking about your axe?

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<v Speaker 3>Okay? Well, I wasn't talking about him the entire time,

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<v Speaker 3>but I did mention him because that was I mean,

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<v Speaker 3>that's just kind of what you do. If you're going

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<v Speaker 3>on a date with people you know, you kind of

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<v Speaker 3>give your history.

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<v Speaker 1>A little bit. You miss your ax.

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<v Speaker 3>No, I do not miss my ex, but he just

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<v Speaker 3>got married and it was pretty quick, so I don't know.

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<v Speaker 3>I just feel like if I got vulnerable with you,

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<v Speaker 3>and I don't know, like me like telling you all

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<v Speaker 3>of that stuff means that I was getting vulnerable with

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<v Speaker 3>you means that I trusted you, and you just kind

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<v Speaker 3>of like flip it on a head.

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<v Speaker 7>I understand making that like part of a comment and

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<v Speaker 7>your story, because that is you know, your past and

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<v Speaker 7>your story to get you where you are right now,

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<v Speaker 7>What did you actually say, like I miss him and

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<v Speaker 7>shed some tears over it, or it wasn't that intense.

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<v Speaker 3>I mean, it's not that it was like, okay, it's

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<v Speaker 3>not that it was like intense. But when you start

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<v Speaker 3>having conversations about you know, past exes and everything, I

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<v Speaker 3>did get a little emotional because he just moved on

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<v Speaker 3>really quickly. And it's not that I miss him, it's

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<v Speaker 3>just the fact that it makes me feel as if

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<v Speaker 3>all of those years that I spent with somebody doesn't

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<v Speaker 3>matter because so.

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<v Speaker 1>Quickly he just got married.

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<v Speaker 7>So that was a comment you made, I'm more or

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<v Speaker 7>less yes.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, who brought the exes up?

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<v Speaker 8>Like?

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<v Speaker 1>How did that start?

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<v Speaker 2>Did you just bring it out yourself or did he

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<v Speaker 2>ask you about past relationships?

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<v Speaker 3>I mean, I think it just kind of happened in

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<v Speaker 3>regular conversation.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, how did it happen?

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<v Speaker 2>Will?

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<v Speaker 4>She brought him up because they had been to that

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<v Speaker 4>bowling alley before.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, so she brought up and then she started talking

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<v Speaker 2>about him getting married, and then she started getting Was

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<v Speaker 2>she emotional?

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<v Speaker 1>She cried cried about him.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 4>I had to like console her on our first date,

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<v Speaker 4>and I just thought, it's kind of weird that you're still,

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<v Speaker 4>you know, in love with this guy. And I'm not

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<v Speaker 4>trying to be anybody's rebound to be honest.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, I literally just said that I'm not in love

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<v Speaker 3>with him. I said that it was more reflection on

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<v Speaker 3>my own self worth that I spent five years with

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<v Speaker 3>somebody and pretty much none.

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<v Speaker 1>Of that mattered.

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<v Speaker 3>It was a reflection on my own self worth.

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<v Speaker 1>It wasn't that I missed the person and.

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<v Speaker 3>I got vulnerable with I know you're saying that that's weird.

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<v Speaker 1>First date though, Yeah, thank you.

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<v Speaker 2>Let's see what the listeners think about this, if you

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<v Speaker 2>guys don't mind eight four four Mojo Live eight four

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<v Speaker 2>four six six five six five four eight is bringing

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<v Speaker 2>up your ex okay, and then taking it to the

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<v Speaker 2>level that Anica took it where she started like crying

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<v Speaker 2>about him, and you know she's I she says that

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<v Speaker 2>she was getting vulnerable. Is she getting vulnerable or is

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<v Speaker 2>she saying is she doing it in a way where

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<v Speaker 2>she's not over him? Because I would I would start

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<v Speaker 2>worrying if it was that you're just all of a sudden,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, bringing this guy up and talking about him

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<v Speaker 2>so much that it sounds like you guys are still

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<v Speaker 2>you still have a thing for this guy.

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<v Speaker 1>Brianna, what did you want to say? Brianna?

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<v Speaker 6>Okay, So I think talking about access and how the

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<v Speaker 6>relationships what in the history is definitely a conversation you've

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<v Speaker 6>had with someone, But to try to attempt to have

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<v Speaker 6>it on the first date is literally the craziest thing

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<v Speaker 6>I've ever heard in my entire life. If someone broke

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<v Speaker 6>down crying when we went on a first date, I

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<v Speaker 6>literally would be like, what is happening right now?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 2>That is that's interesting, And I think you've got to

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<v Speaker 2>let them bring it up and ask you questions about it.

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<v Speaker 2>You can't just randomly do it. Because you start bringing

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<v Speaker 2>it up, you sound a little crazy. Eric, what's up?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 4>I do have to side with him on this one

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<v Speaker 4>a little bit, because well, what's your name?

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<v Speaker 5>What's your name? Anika Honka?

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<v Speaker 1>Yes.

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<v Speaker 8>From from his perception, your first is the first dates

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<v Speaker 8>are all about first impressions and like it.

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<v Speaker 1>And you guys may have had a first impression at work,

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<v Speaker 1>but then like your first impression outside of work.

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<v Speaker 2>You were talking, you got so emotional of a previous relationship,

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<v Speaker 2>whether it was regardless of the left over feelings or

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<v Speaker 2>the fact that.

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<v Speaker 1>It's your self worth as a impression on this is

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<v Speaker 1>the most deep. Yeah. I appreciate the vulnerability.

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<v Speaker 7>I think that that's such a good quality in anybody,

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<v Speaker 7>But it's not on the first date. I do agree

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<v Speaker 7>with you, yet even even the second date.

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<v Speaker 1>The first date, is it vulnerability or is it she's

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<v Speaker 1>not over? Well, we don't know that. What do you think, Kiki?

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<v Speaker 5>I think that she's not wrong only because it's not

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<v Speaker 5>like they first time meeting each other, Like they see

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<v Speaker 5>each other every day and they do work together talking

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<v Speaker 5>about more than work, obviously they're talking about more exactly,

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<v Speaker 5>So I don't feel like she's crazy for that, Like

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<v Speaker 5>you already knew what you were getting into because you

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<v Speaker 5>already personally know her.

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<v Speaker 2>And are you guys really close at work? Well, like,

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<v Speaker 2>do you guys talk a lot at work?

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<v Speaker 3>I mean we we would like banter and have inside

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<v Speaker 3>jokes and whatnot.

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<v Speaker 1>So I don't know, what do you think?

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<v Speaker 4>Well, yeah, I think we're close and I think she's fun,

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<v Speaker 4>but I wasn't ready for becoming her rebound so she

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<v Speaker 4>could forget this other guy, like I knew about him.

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<v Speaker 1>But do you think it's a rebound? That's so rid

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<v Speaker 1>of you.

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<v Speaker 4>Because you're clearly not over him, and I felt like

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<v Speaker 4>you were trying to forget him and you failed at

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<v Speaker 4>doing that.

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<v Speaker 3>So if I tell you the reason and you're still

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<v Speaker 3>just sticking to your guns that you think it's a

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<v Speaker 3>different reason, well, I'm glad that it's not working out,

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<v Speaker 3>because it's not like you would listen to me in

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<v Speaker 3>anything anyways.

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<v Speaker 2>All right, Anthony, what did you want to say, Anthony, Well,

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<v Speaker 2>I mean.

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<v Speaker 8>I get that in like, there are some kind of

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<v Speaker 8>red flags with uh, you know, being so vulnerable so

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<v Speaker 8>quickly in today's world, that's kind of like modern dating

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<v Speaker 8>is just to hide yourself for a long a long time.

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<v Speaker 8>But I think it's kind of cute that she got

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<v Speaker 8>so vulnerable so quickly. And I think just hearing her

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<v Speaker 8>voice and how she's saying that, like.

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<v Speaker 4>Hey, I felt like I could trust you to tell you.

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<v Speaker 8>Something this deep is actually, like I said, kind.

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<v Speaker 1>Of cute because.

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<v Speaker 4>Anthony, Hey, if she's single.

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<v Speaker 3>Is are you?

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<v Speaker 2>So Anthony found it to be actually something cute that

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<v Speaker 2>was going on there.

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<v Speaker 1>Some people may look.

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<v Speaker 2>At it as, hey, there is a vulnerability here that

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<v Speaker 2>I really like and this is a great end for

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<v Speaker 2>me right now to show her what a good guy is,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, I like, I like deep conversations.

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<v Speaker 9>I'm one of those people where I'm not gonna say

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<v Speaker 9>trauma dumb, but I'm very honest and very open.

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<v Speaker 1>So I'll tell you stuff you probably didn't ask for.

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<v Speaker 9>We not understanding how she went about saying it. It's

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<v Speaker 9>tough to really gauge if she was in the right

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<v Speaker 9>quote unquote in the wrong but just crying.

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<v Speaker 1>That's the part where I'm kind of like, I don't know.

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<v Speaker 2>How much were you freaking out the monday after you

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<v Speaker 2>came back from the date work weekend, Like, well, were

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<v Speaker 2>you like, oh crap, I gotta go in and we got.

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<v Speaker 1>To see each other.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, I was just looking for other things I could

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<v Speaker 4>do so we didn't have to both be sitting at

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<v Speaker 4>the front desk because I didn't really want to, you know,

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<v Speaker 4>make her cry again or anything, because she's cool, but

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<v Speaker 4>I just I wasn't ready for something so serious right away.

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<v Speaker 2>All right, Well, no second date. It looks like on

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<v Speaker 2>this one here, and this is another reason why when

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<v Speaker 2>relationships don't work out when you're dating at work, it

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<v Speaker 2>makes it awkward, like you start taking the long.

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<v Speaker 1>Way to the bathroom, you know. All right, second date updates.

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<v Speaker 4>This is a whole with the dirty on the thirty

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<v Speaker 4>fro back frown second date update, and more than roses.

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