Speaker 1: I saw something interesting that was on the news this morning.
Speaker 1: I can't find the story. See if you can find
Speaker 1: this one, because I wonder if any of us could
Speaker 1: pull this off. But I saw on Good Morning America
Speaker 1: they I just saw the last part of a story
Speaker 1: about people who are doing I think it's twelve day
Speaker 1: or fourteen day digital detox, where there were they're doing
Speaker 1: a stay away from their phones and not being on
Speaker 1: their phone at all, not doing social media, logging off
Speaker 1: for I think it's two weeks. I can do social media,
Speaker 1: but you got to have your phone. They're staying off
Speaker 1: of it and they're fine. They actually did a study
Speaker 1: with it, and they said they had all these people
Speaker 1: that were on there that did to study, and they
Speaker 1: all said that they felt happier okay, and away from
Speaker 1: their slves.
Speaker 2: So it's so funny.
Speaker 3: I just read something over the weekend, and it couldn't
Speaker 3: have been the same thing, because it was like digital
Speaker 3: detoxes are great for the time you're doing them, but
Speaker 3: they don't actually do anything in the long run, really
Speaker 3: like you still you come back to them, however many
Speaker 3: days later, twelve days later, and it's like all the anxiety,
Speaker 3: all the comparison, all the things just filter right back.
Speaker 1: In, so you don't find yourself then looking in at
Speaker 1: that's how you were watching it.
Speaker 2: Maybe differently, maybe in the short term, because I think
Speaker 2: that has its own level of benefit, though I agree.
Speaker 3: I'm just saying I think people do like a detox
Speaker 3: and think, oh, it's going to change my life to
Speaker 3: life changing.
Speaker 1: Yeah, because the once when I was trying to look
Speaker 1: for that story about the digital detox, they said that
Speaker 1: from a study that they did of a bunch of
Speaker 1: college kids that digitally detoxed, they found that majority of
Speaker 1: them cut down on their phone usage after they came
Speaker 1: back from their digital detox.
Speaker 3: Yeah, they said it's like a crash diet. So like, yeah,
Speaker 3: in the short term, it's great for you. But instead
Speaker 3: of doing like a total detox, you're supposed to say, like, Okay,
Speaker 3: I'm going to put restrictions on you know how long
Speaker 3: I'm on TikTok. I'm going to set a timer for
Speaker 3: thirty minutes, and once that's done, I'm done for the day.
Speaker 3: Like to try to just manage your it's like change
Speaker 3: them a little bit by a little bit. Have you
Speaker 3: guys seen this brick? Have you guys seen the brick.
Speaker 3: Some of my friends have the brick. No, it's something, No,
Speaker 3: look it up, Google it. It's a device that you
Speaker 3: put in another room and.
Speaker 4: B R I C or b r I. Oh the
Speaker 4: brick here it is the brick.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's b R I a few of my friends.
Speaker 3: Yeah, And basically, you can have your phone with you,
Speaker 3: but you like lock up certain apps on your phone
Speaker 3: so that you don't you are not even tempted. Well,
Speaker 3: even if you're tempted, you can't get in so so,
Speaker 3: but you're not getting like you're not getting rid of Instagram,
Speaker 3: you're not getting rid of snapchatter, TikTok.
Speaker 2: It's you brick it.
Speaker 1: So it's kind of like having something that will digitally
Speaker 1: just shut it off if you're here, it is right here.
Speaker 2: Yeah, take brick your time.
Speaker 4: Yeah that is that is kind of cool.
Speaker 1: I know what is if you don't have self control,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna buy two bricks.
Speaker 5: Some going to give one to Kevin. I don't need
Speaker 5: a break, brick you. I don't need to break at all.
Speaker 5: I'm comfortable with where I am now. I did have,
Speaker 5: like they say, it's a mental and emotional rollercoaster when
Speaker 5: you're scrolling. One minute, you can be extremely high. The
Speaker 5: next second, you can be jealous, the next secting, you
Speaker 5: can feel inferior. And I've done a social media detox
Speaker 5: before and it felt amazing. I'm not in a place
Speaker 5: right now where I feel balked down or worried or
Speaker 5: changed by what I what I'm consuming, but I highly
Speaker 5: encourage people.
Speaker 4: To do absolutely. What do you spend the most of
Speaker 4: your time? Twitter? Twitter?
Speaker 5: Twitter is my favorite everything.
Speaker 1: On minus Instagram, So it's Instagram reels and I find
Speaker 1: myself watching, you know, endless of them and seeing what
Speaker 1: everybody's posting.
Speaker 4: And all that stuff.
Speaker 1: I I would say TikTok is probably my wife Chelsea's.
Speaker 1: I mean, she is on TikTok a lot, so she's
Speaker 1: doing that. You gotta get on Twitter, bro. I am
Speaker 1: on Twitter. I do Twitter a lot too, But I
Speaker 1: do Twitter when I'm looking up something specific, like if
Speaker 1: I see her hair something, I'll go. Twitter is my
Speaker 1: go to to find the either clip or the full
Speaker 1: story or the details. But I don't just sit there
Speaker 1: and randomly go through Twitter, because every now and again
Speaker 1: I'll randomly go through Twitter and end up on a
Speaker 1: nipple and.
Speaker 5: I gotta be really care just kids out. Twitter is
Speaker 5: full of those, it is. I never even realized it.
Speaker 5: Twitter is his own corn site. Yeah, oh gosh, what
Speaker 5: Lydia and bionco. What are you guys on? What's your
Speaker 5: your majority stuff? And actually Lydia could speak for this.
Speaker 5: Remember she did that retreat you you were digitally detoxed.
Speaker 6: I love Instagram. That was so hard. That was the
Speaker 6: hardest thing.
Speaker 4: Yeah.
Speaker 3: I think that it has helped you cut down on
Speaker 3: your time on Instagram since you got back.
Speaker 6: No, I think it's made it worse. I don't know
Speaker 6: what it is. I feel like I have fomo if
Speaker 6: I'm not on it. It's the weirdest thing.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you feel like you're missing.
Speaker 6: So when you're single, you look forward to the cute
Speaker 6: guys looking at your stories. You know.
Speaker 1: Do you ever find your helf posting something and then
Speaker 1: going and looking at who saw it, like your you're upsets?
Speaker 6: Yep, Only if it's a cute guy that, like I
Speaker 6: have just recently followed me.
Speaker 1: Does it bother you if somebody that's close to you
Speaker 1: or some guy that you're talking to doesn't actually hurt it?
Speaker 6: Yeah, Yeah, we've been talking about that today. I'm like,
Speaker 6: there's this cute guy. There's a cute guy we were
Speaker 6: talking about that we met a couple of weeks ago.
Speaker 6: Liked all my stories. I was liking all his back
Speaker 6: then he stopped liking my story, so I stopped liking.
Speaker 2: So Bibi, if you're listening, start pulling a move on Lydia.
Speaker 3: Wait, is this the one from the the Chamber of
Speaker 3: Commerce center.
Speaker 4: He's ghosting or he's gone silent ghost.
Speaker 6: We haven't talked. He's either a player or is into
Speaker 6: Lydia and he's scared to make a move.
Speaker 2: I would like it.
Speaker 4: Or maybe he's not on social media maybe.
Speaker 2: For a while.
Speaker 4: I don't know.
Speaker 1: I think you're reading too much into this thing. That's
Speaker 1: the thing. I think this is the thing why people
Speaker 1: need to do a digital detox is because it drives
Speaker 1: you mentally crazy. Not based on just what you see,
Speaker 1: what you don't see, Like, what you don't see gets
Speaker 1: you more crazy.
Speaker 5: Can I shout out somebody as detoxy? Shut our listener?
Speaker 5: Courtney two years sober.
Speaker 3: From social media alcohol. Oh sorry, we were talking.
Speaker 2: About social media.
Speaker 6: That's why I went there.
Speaker 2: But that's amazing.
Speaker 5: Don't know Lydia and you just you don't. You'll never
Speaker 5: reach out to a guy, right Lydia, I would.
Speaker 6: Love to, Like I've thought about it, especially after I've
Speaker 6: had a couple of drinks. I'm like, I'm thinking about
Speaker 6: this guy's super cute. Maybe I'll d M him. But
Speaker 6: then it's like if I'm posting stuff and you've stopped
Speaker 6: liking my stories, I feel like that means you're not
Speaker 6: interested because you haven't DMed me like that to pursue me.
Speaker 5: What if your husband is one message away, like your
Speaker 5: simple h I could like start a whole life.
Speaker 6: What if his wife is one message away?
Speaker 4: Why I know, I know, but like.
Speaker 6: I just think that, like he could do that.
Speaker 4: He could, I think, and to take the initiative.
Speaker 6: But what if I do that and he's like, yeah,
Speaker 6: I'm talking to somebody that the rejection gets me.
Speaker 4: It's making me sweat.
Speaker 1: By the way, I just bought four bricks and I'm
Speaker 1: giving him all of you guys because you guys all
Speaker 1: need to stop this and this thing is genius, this
Speaker 1: bricks thing study.
Speaker 2: I don't have one, but I keep hearing people talk
Speaker 2: about it.
Speaker 5: I think sometimes in relationships, right you know, like men,
Speaker 5: we are yes, we're leaders, like there will be times
Speaker 5: in a relationship where your wife will lead, where your
Speaker 5: girlfriend will lead. Maybe you won't have you know, the mindset,
Speaker 5: or whatever the case is, and your wife will have
Speaker 5: to lead. I think there's no reason why you can't
Speaker 5: just say hi at the beginning of it, knowing damn
Speaker 5: will you're gonna have to lead later in a relationship
Speaker 5: at some point anyway, Like, don't just immediately write the
Speaker 5: guy off now because he won't reach out to you first.
Speaker 6: Just say you're not writing him off. If he were
Speaker 6: to DM me right now, I'd probably respond before he
Speaker 6: hit son.
Speaker 5: Well, I'm saying right off, Like, if he doesn't, he's
Speaker 5: just not gonna talk to him anymore.
Speaker 4: Maybe not.
Speaker 1: Have you ever thought of reaching out to him and saying, hey,
Speaker 1: what's going on. We haven't talked in a couple of weeks.
Speaker 1: Let's you know, let's go out and grab coffee.
Speaker 6: No, I'm too scared.
Speaker 2: No, I'm telling her, I'm scared. What are you scared it?
Speaker 6: The only way me and Bryce started talking was because
Speaker 6: he didn't DM me after a month of seeing him,
Speaker 6: so I did, and not.
Speaker 4: Look at us, go do it.
Speaker 6: I've been known to day below my means so I'm like,
Speaker 6: what if he's like, yeah, she's actually not all that.
Speaker 2: No, this guy's not below her trust. No, I don't think. Wait,
Speaker 2: she dates I date below my means, but she dates.
Speaker 1: Guys that she thinks are guarantees.
Speaker 2: I thought you were.
Speaker 1: Can I say something to you, Lydia, Lydia, if you don't,
Speaker 1: if you don't take your shot, you know, I don't
Speaker 1: know if you know this. You got one shot, one opportunity.
Speaker 6: Would you capture it or just let it?
Speaker 4: Exactly?
Speaker 6: No?
Speaker 4: Can I? Can I be honest with you, Lydia?
Speaker 1: You spend more time I'm freaking out about the guy
Speaker 1: not actually liking your posts then picking up the phone
Speaker 1: and finding out the answer and moving on.
Speaker 4: And I think it would be better for you to.
Speaker 2: Give me your phone. Come here right now, give me
Speaker 2: your phone.
Speaker 6: You should be and figure out for hers.
Speaker 2: Do not let that happen. No, it is you.
Speaker 4: Got to call him Friday.
Speaker 2: What if I see him Friday?
Speaker 6: Oh my god, I'll said you guys will be great.
Speaker 2: Please don't do going to do it.
Speaker 1: I think that Lydia saying two things on this makes
Speaker 1: me bummed out to hear this, because I think Lydia's
Speaker 1: got great confidence, and it bums me out that she
Speaker 1: allows a guy to give her not the confidence that
Speaker 1: she I think has. And that is dating below yourself
Speaker 1: is kind of you know a lot. Yeah, you got
Speaker 1: to stop that, and you gotta also ask for what
Speaker 1: you want.
Speaker 4: Like, think about this. And this goes with a lot
Speaker 4: of things.
Speaker 1: Goes with work opportunities, goes with relationship opportunities where if
Speaker 1: you're just wanting to settle for it, you're just gonna
Speaker 1: get you know, people are gonna be like, oh good,
Speaker 1: you know she's happy everything. She's content with the way
Speaker 1: that I am treating or not treating you. So I
Speaker 1: think you got to say something.
Speaker 6: I'll pray about it.
Speaker 1: With that said, I never asked the hot girls out
Speaker 1: in school. I regret every minute of it.
Speaker 4: Yea.
Speaker 3: And that's why your advice is good because then you
Speaker 3: found out later that the hot girl had a crush
Speaker 3: on you.
Speaker 5: The hot girl actually said that she would have gone
Speaker 5: to a dance. I asked a girl out, and I'm
Speaker 5: bringing her to our hour party.
Speaker 4: Oh you are?
Speaker 3: Is this the girl with the booby out when you
Speaker 3: were kissing her in the parking lot?
Speaker 6: No, why did I see?
Speaker 1: Is she somebody that's like out of your league or no,
Speaker 1: potentially really.
Speaker 2: You're bringing her around us, Yeah, for
Speaker 1: Sure, she'd be all right, good song, Okay lady here,
Speaker 1: let's see what happens.