Speaker 1: I got to tell you, guys, hey, a story this Uh,
Speaker 1: a buddy of mine. I wasn't going to mention this
Speaker 1: on the air, but I'm going to mention it because
Speaker 1: I think it's it's an interesting story. A buddy of
Speaker 1: mine's going on his first date since his divorce. He
Speaker 1: was married for seventeen years. How long ago was he
Speaker 1: was the divorce probably seven months ago or eight months ago,
Speaker 1: which is crazy because I always said if I got divorced,
Speaker 1: i'd be out on a.
Speaker 2: Date the next day.
Speaker 3: And I'm thinking seven months that's really fast.
Speaker 2: I would be like, man, let's go. I don't know.
Speaker 2: You would not shoot me.
Speaker 1: Up, to believe me. But seven months going on his
Speaker 1: first date. Dating is different since seventeen plus years ago,
Speaker 1: very different. He is dating a girl. He's going on
Speaker 1: a date with a girl. They are going to dinner
Speaker 1: in Northville. If anybody doesn't know where Northville is, it's
Speaker 1: a very nice community in the Detroit area.
Speaker 2: Is it the opposite of Southville?
Speaker 1: Northville, north south that's something, Yeah, Norville in South Phill No.
Speaker 2: So she lives in ann Arbor.
Speaker 1: And for those that don't know the vicinities, because you're
Speaker 1: listening to us, and you're not in the know area
Speaker 1: here Northville, ann Arbor, probably fifteen to twenty minute drive tops,
Speaker 1: depending on if they're doing construction on them.
Speaker 2: Fourteen.
Speaker 1: She asked him and tell me if this is normal,
Speaker 1: because I didn't know if this was. She asked him
Speaker 1: to send her an uber to come pick her up
Speaker 1: to go to dinner. I thought that was young girls
Speaker 1: to I got to be on And this is, by
Speaker 1: the way, a fifty year old dude. This is a
Speaker 1: fifty year old guy.
Speaker 4: Does he want her to get drunk because that's responsible?
Speaker 1: Why is it his responsibility to send her.
Speaker 4: The y'all are going out to have drinks and she
Speaker 4: thinks she doesn't want to drive.
Speaker 2: That would be right. I never thought of it. She is.
Speaker 1: She is a forty year old woman. She's kind of
Speaker 1: like Shannon. She's like, yeah, she's born. Yeah, she's a mom,
Speaker 1: a single mom, lives in ann Arbor, also divorced, and said,
Speaker 1: are you gonna send me an uber?
Speaker 2: And he was kind of taken back.
Speaker 1: He sent it in our group text and he said
Speaker 1: to all of us, he goes, is this normal?
Speaker 2: The funniest was the guy.
Speaker 1: Guys all commented, there's like five or six guys in there.
Speaker 1: One of the guys that commented in there was like,
Speaker 1: as long as she's ready to have like she gotta like.
Speaker 2: Tell her you see, and this is their first date.
Speaker 1: First date, first date tonight. By the way, you might
Speaker 1: see him at Hyde Park in Northfield because that's where
Speaker 1: they're going, say send him a drink, so and so.
Speaker 5: Yes, I think that is something that for some reason
Speaker 5: has been a consistent.
Speaker 2: Thing in dating these days.
Speaker 5: It isn't so much picked me up, is can you
Speaker 5: send me a car? I've never thought about it until
Speaker 5: Anna just said that. It could mean that maybe she's
Speaker 5: down to have a good time, but she can pay
Speaker 5: for it herself.
Speaker 3: See, I don't. Yeah, I don't like this whatsoever because
Speaker 3: I want to have control over everything about my evening,
Speaker 3: because what happens if I there? In five minutes after
Speaker 3: I get there, I realized I do not like you,
Speaker 3: and now my fate of getting home is in your hands. No, No,
Speaker 3: you can call your own No you can. But that's
Speaker 3: what I'm saying. I just think I feel like it.
Speaker 3: That's that's I don't know.
Speaker 2: I don't like that at all.
Speaker 5: I'm gonna say it is I've been put off by
Speaker 5: every girl that's asked me to send her uber I.
Speaker 3: I think that's very off putting.
Speaker 5: I haven't. I haven't went out with any of them.
Speaker 4: I'm on the opposite side though, because I want a
Speaker 4: man to pick me up for our first date. So
Speaker 4: if you're not gonna pick me up, the least you
Speaker 4: can do is send an over.
Speaker 2: So recently I went on a date with a girl.
Speaker 5: We met up the first time, and then I picked
Speaker 5: her up the second time on a first date?
Speaker 2: You cool? Would a guy coming to pick you up?
Speaker 1: Yeah?
Speaker 2: See see, I'm surprised. I would rather meet you there
Speaker 2: on a first date.
Speaker 3: I don't want you to know where I live, but
Speaker 3: I don't even know if you're a creepy at Oh.
Speaker 2: I guess the.
Speaker 6: Guys that I'm talking to are like guys.
Speaker 1: I okay, and I gotta be honest, and I maybe
Speaker 1: and this is why I'm married. I think that you
Speaker 1: got to prove that you, uh, you're worthy of the date,
Speaker 1: just as much as the guy has to.
Speaker 2: Prove to you.
Speaker 1: And I think you showing up at the date and
Speaker 1: being your own person, I think it says something, and
Speaker 1: honestly being in your own person doesn't mean you have
Speaker 1: to drive your car, take your own uber. I think
Speaker 1: it looks like you're I think it looks like you're
Speaker 1: out for something. Like I get the idea that the
Speaker 1: guy should pay for the date. I don't think he
Speaker 1: should have to pay for the uber. I could be wrong.
Speaker 6: Would you pick up her on the first date?
Speaker 2: Oh that's back in the back in my day. That's
Speaker 2: how you get.
Speaker 6: That's what I'm saying.
Speaker 2: So, yes, that's like the same.
Speaker 6: Thing to me.
Speaker 3: But back in your date, it was like your sister's
Speaker 3: day was not far away, and the old fashioned days
Speaker 3: when everything was black and white. Your sister set you
Speaker 3: up with somebody that you, you guys knew as a family,
Speaker 3: so that it wasn't like you were going out with
Speaker 3: a complete stranger. That if I met someone on a
Speaker 3: dat won your wife.
Speaker 1: No, I didn't meet her in a bar. I met
Speaker 1: her at her high school graduation. It was a whole
Speaker 1: different story. But I just just say bar next time.
Speaker 1: I know that sounds bad. I've been working in bar
Speaker 1: since I.
Speaker 3: Was seventeen, But I do see something very needy and
Speaker 3: high maintenance about somebody saying, are you going to send
Speaker 3: me an uber?
Speaker 2: It is an immediate turn off.
Speaker 4: I would have praise a different like are we drinking?
Speaker 4: Do you mind if you send.
Speaker 2: Me an uber?
Speaker 6: I don't know.
Speaker 3: Then I would say I will, I will meet you there.
Speaker 2: I'm gonna grab an uber yeah yeah.
Speaker 6: And then if he offers more points.
Speaker 1: Hey, Kim, uh are you gonna go see Joe at
Speaker 1: Hyde Park tonight with his girlfrien man Arbor? Is she is?
Speaker 7: She sending an uber?
Speaker 8: No?
Speaker 2: What do you think? Uh? No?
Speaker 7: Literally, like I feel like the fact that she's asking
Speaker 7: for an uber, I don't. I don't know what their
Speaker 7: their past is and how they know each other and
Speaker 7: all of those details obviously right, So so like I
Speaker 7: feel like the next question is can I have your
Speaker 7: credit card? I'm gonna go like stopping at sex or
Speaker 7: something like. Those expectations are really high for a first
Speaker 7: date to me, and I'm speaking from from a middle
Speaker 7: aged woman like this woman who is forty and also
Speaker 7: has kids. To Shannon's point, yeah, it's just it's just
Speaker 7: strange red flags. In my opinion, it.
Speaker 2: Says a precedent.
Speaker 5: It's almost like I have to go into this knowing
Speaker 5: that I'm going to have to pay for things before
Speaker 5: I even meet you or before we even go out,
Speaker 5: I'm already paying for some people.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I get it.
Speaker 2: I don't like it.
Speaker 1: I agree with you though, that is there's what about
Speaker 1: the credit card analogy that she just gave. Don't you
Speaker 1: think that's will? I need an outfit?
Speaker 6: Asking guys to send me.
Speaker 2: An uber, it's got to be a thirty.
Speaker 6: Thing, honestly, Usually guys offer.
Speaker 2: Really yeah, like a sudden what's up, Earl, I'm old Joe.
Speaker 2: How you doing better than better than asking for limbo?
Speaker 2: I don't know. They don't have limbos anymore.
Speaker 1: Limo the other Yeah, like an old Lincoln limo, like
Speaker 1: big long stretch limos. And I thought to myself, why
Speaker 1: did we drive in those in the day?
Speaker 2: And it were fun? Were they? Well? They were fine?
Speaker 2: Those things. I don't know, they were fun.
Speaker 5: You could pack a bunch of people in there, you
Speaker 5: had alcoholics.
Speaker 1: It was a great song and the one that I
Speaker 1: saw was probably from back in the day, so that
Speaker 1: was kind of crazy. Thanks, Earl, I appreciate it. Take
Speaker 1: care of yourself. A couple of the textures that came
Speaker 1: in said, it's definitely a generational thing.
Speaker 2: I think it is, too.
Speaker 1: I think that Anna's probably the generation because it's it's
Speaker 1: like something it's like thirty years old, like twenty eight
Speaker 1: to thirty five. No, I think that that's kind of
Speaker 1: the thing, like you guys need everything done for you.
Speaker 6: Well, that's a cold statement, but.
Speaker 1: Sure, I'm not gonna lie a lie in my life.
Speaker 6: I don't think that we need it done for us,
Speaker 6: but we appreciate it.
Speaker 5: And I also think like older generations, I feel like
Speaker 5: just accepted whatever was there. Yeah, I feel like younger
Speaker 5: generations are more bold and asking for whatever it is
Speaker 5: if they want right, regardless of how they're if you,
Speaker 5: regardless if they even deserve it. I ask, what do
Speaker 5: you mean deserving us?
Speaker 2: We don't deserve everything.
Speaker 5: Well, I think you need to earn someone's love appreciation
Speaker 5: levels of it.
Speaker 8: Just that, Jay, what do you think I'm sending that uber?
Speaker 8: You're yeah, I'm sending that uber that you get to pick.
Speaker 4: The location that it drops her off on the way home.
Speaker 4: Could be your house, could be her.
Speaker 3: That's what I don't like.
Speaker 8: I mean, we'll see how that go after the date,
Speaker 8: but I'm sending that uber because she might want to
Speaker 8: go after we get done drinking.
Speaker 2: Hey, I'm definitely sending that uber. This is actually kind
Speaker 2: of cool.
Speaker 1: Send a nice uber like an uber black or something,
Speaker 1: and then on the way home, put her in a
Speaker 1: big old hoop date get her in uberpooler. Yeah, what's
Speaker 1: what's going on?
Speaker 2: Emily High? Good morning, Good morning morning.
Speaker 4: So I'm in a generation where I was picked up
Speaker 4: from my first dates. But if they send an uber,
Speaker 4: then technically don't know where They know where you live.
Speaker 1: In that is true, they know your address, so why
Speaker 1: not just have them pick you up. I know a
Speaker 1: lot of women don't exactly giving.
Speaker 2: Their address out.
Speaker 1: Yeah, thank you, Emily, I appreciate it.
Speaker 2: I'll talk to you later.
Speaker 7: You're welcome. Have a great day, guys.
Speaker 2: You two take care.