WEBVTT - Send Me an Uber 

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<v Speaker 1>I got to tell you, guys, hey, a story this Uh,

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<v Speaker 1>a buddy of mine. I wasn't going to mention this

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<v Speaker 1>on the air, but I'm going to mention it because

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<v Speaker 1>I think it's it's an interesting story. A buddy of

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<v Speaker 1>mine's going on his first date since his divorce. He

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<v Speaker 1>was married for seventeen years. How long ago was he

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<v Speaker 1>was the divorce probably seven months ago or eight months ago,

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<v Speaker 1>which is crazy because I always said if I got divorced,

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<v Speaker 1>i'd be out on a.

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<v Speaker 2>Date the next day.

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<v Speaker 3>And I'm thinking seven months that's really fast.

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<v Speaker 2>I would be like, man, let's go. I don't know.

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<v Speaker 2>You would not shoot me.

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<v Speaker 1>Up, to believe me. But seven months going on his

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<v Speaker 1>first date. Dating is different since seventeen plus years ago,

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<v Speaker 1>very different. He is dating a girl. He's going on

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<v Speaker 1>a date with a girl. They are going to dinner

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<v Speaker 1>in Northville. If anybody doesn't know where Northville is, it's

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<v Speaker 1>a very nice community in the Detroit area.

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<v Speaker 2>Is it the opposite of Southville?

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<v Speaker 1>Northville, north south that's something, Yeah, Norville in South Phill No.

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<v Speaker 2>So she lives in ann Arbor.

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<v Speaker 1>And for those that don't know the vicinities, because you're

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<v Speaker 1>listening to us, and you're not in the know area

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<v Speaker 1>here Northville, ann Arbor, probably fifteen to twenty minute drive tops,

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<v Speaker 1>depending on if they're doing construction on them.

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<v Speaker 2>Fourteen.

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<v Speaker 1>She asked him and tell me if this is normal,

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<v Speaker 1>because I didn't know if this was. She asked him

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<v Speaker 1>to send her an uber to come pick her up

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<v Speaker 1>to go to dinner. I thought that was young girls

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<v Speaker 1>to I got to be on And this is, by

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<v Speaker 1>the way, a fifty year old dude. This is a

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<v Speaker 1>fifty year old guy.

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<v Speaker 4>Does he want her to get drunk because that's responsible?

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<v Speaker 1>Why is it his responsibility to send her.

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<v Speaker 4>The y'all are going out to have drinks and she

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<v Speaker 4>thinks she doesn't want to drive.

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<v Speaker 2>That would be right. I never thought of it. She is.

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<v Speaker 1>She is a forty year old woman. She's kind of

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<v Speaker 1>like Shannon. She's like, yeah, she's born. Yeah, she's a mom,

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<v Speaker 1>a single mom, lives in ann Arbor, also divorced, and said,

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<v Speaker 1>are you gonna send me an uber?

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<v Speaker 2>And he was kind of taken back.

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<v Speaker 1>He sent it in our group text and he said

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<v Speaker 1>to all of us, he goes, is this normal?

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<v Speaker 2>The funniest was the guy.

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<v Speaker 1>Guys all commented, there's like five or six guys in there.

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<v Speaker 1>One of the guys that commented in there was like,

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<v Speaker 1>as long as she's ready to have like she gotta like.

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<v Speaker 2>Tell her you see, and this is their first date.

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<v Speaker 1>First date, first date tonight. By the way, you might

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<v Speaker 1>see him at Hyde Park in Northfield because that's where

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<v Speaker 1>they're going, say send him a drink, so and so.

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<v Speaker 5>Yes, I think that is something that for some reason

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<v Speaker 5>has been a consistent.

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<v Speaker 2>Thing in dating these days.

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<v Speaker 5>It isn't so much picked me up, is can you

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<v Speaker 5>send me a car? I've never thought about it until

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<v Speaker 5>Anna just said that. It could mean that maybe she's

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<v Speaker 5>down to have a good time, but she can pay

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<v Speaker 5>for it herself.

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<v Speaker 3>See, I don't. Yeah, I don't like this whatsoever because

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<v Speaker 3>I want to have control over everything about my evening,

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<v Speaker 3>because what happens if I there? In five minutes after

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<v Speaker 3>I get there, I realized I do not like you,

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<v Speaker 3>and now my fate of getting home is in your hands. No, No,

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<v Speaker 3>you can call your own No you can. But that's

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<v Speaker 3>what I'm saying. I just think I feel like it.

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<v Speaker 3>That's that's I don't know.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't like that at all.

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<v Speaker 5>I'm gonna say it is I've been put off by

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<v Speaker 5>every girl that's asked me to send her uber I.

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<v Speaker 3>I think that's very off putting.

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<v Speaker 5>I haven't. I haven't went out with any of them.

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<v Speaker 4>I'm on the opposite side though, because I want a

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<v Speaker 4>man to pick me up for our first date. So

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<v Speaker 4>if you're not gonna pick me up, the least you

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<v Speaker 4>can do is send an over.

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<v Speaker 2>So recently I went on a date with a girl.

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<v Speaker 5>We met up the first time, and then I picked

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<v Speaker 5>her up the second time on a first date?

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<v Speaker 2>You cool? Would a guy coming to pick you up?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 2>See see, I'm surprised. I would rather meet you there

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<v Speaker 2>on a first date.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't want you to know where I live, but

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<v Speaker 3>I don't even know if you're a creepy at Oh.

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<v Speaker 2>I guess the.

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<v Speaker 6>Guys that I'm talking to are like guys.

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<v Speaker 1>I okay, and I gotta be honest, and I maybe

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<v Speaker 1>and this is why I'm married. I think that you

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<v Speaker 1>got to prove that you, uh, you're worthy of the date,

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<v Speaker 1>just as much as the guy has to.

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<v Speaker 2>Prove to you.

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<v Speaker 1>And I think you showing up at the date and

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<v Speaker 1>being your own person, I think it says something, and

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<v Speaker 1>honestly being in your own person doesn't mean you have

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<v Speaker 1>to drive your car, take your own uber. I think

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<v Speaker 1>it looks like you're I think it looks like you're

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<v Speaker 1>out for something. Like I get the idea that the

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<v Speaker 1>guy should pay for the date. I don't think he

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<v Speaker 1>should have to pay for the uber. I could be wrong.

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<v Speaker 6>Would you pick up her on the first date?

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<v Speaker 2>Oh that's back in the back in my day. That's

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<v Speaker 2>how you get.

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<v Speaker 6>That's what I'm saying.

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<v Speaker 2>So, yes, that's like the same.

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<v Speaker 6>Thing to me.

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<v Speaker 3>But back in your date, it was like your sister's

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<v Speaker 3>day was not far away, and the old fashioned days

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<v Speaker 3>when everything was black and white. Your sister set you

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<v Speaker 3>up with somebody that you, you guys knew as a family,

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<v Speaker 3>so that it wasn't like you were going out with

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<v Speaker 3>a complete stranger. That if I met someone on a

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<v Speaker 3>dat won your wife.

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<v Speaker 1>No, I didn't meet her in a bar. I met

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<v Speaker 1>her at her high school graduation. It was a whole

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<v Speaker 1>different story. But I just just say bar next time.

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<v Speaker 1>I know that sounds bad. I've been working in bar

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<v Speaker 1>since I.

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<v Speaker 3>Was seventeen, But I do see something very needy and

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<v Speaker 3>high maintenance about somebody saying, are you going to send

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<v Speaker 3>me an uber?

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<v Speaker 2>It is an immediate turn off.

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<v Speaker 4>I would have praise a different like are we drinking?

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<v Speaker 4>Do you mind if you send.

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<v Speaker 2>Me an uber?

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<v Speaker 6>I don't know.

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<v Speaker 3>Then I would say I will, I will meet you there.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm gonna grab an uber yeah yeah.

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<v Speaker 6>And then if he offers more points.

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<v Speaker 1>Hey, Kim, uh are you gonna go see Joe at

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<v Speaker 1>Hyde Park tonight with his girlfrien man Arbor? Is she is?

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<v Speaker 7>She sending an uber?

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<v Speaker 8>No?

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<v Speaker 2>What do you think? Uh? No?

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<v Speaker 7>Literally, like I feel like the fact that she's asking

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<v Speaker 7>for an uber, I don't. I don't know what their

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<v Speaker 7>their past is and how they know each other and

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<v Speaker 7>all of those details obviously right, So so like I

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<v Speaker 7>feel like the next question is can I have your

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<v Speaker 7>credit card? I'm gonna go like stopping at sex or

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<v Speaker 7>something like. Those expectations are really high for a first

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<v Speaker 7>date to me, and I'm speaking from from a middle

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<v Speaker 7>aged woman like this woman who is forty and also

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<v Speaker 7>has kids. To Shannon's point, yeah, it's just it's just

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<v Speaker 7>strange red flags. In my opinion, it.

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<v Speaker 2>Says a precedent.

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<v Speaker 5>It's almost like I have to go into this knowing

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<v Speaker 5>that I'm going to have to pay for things before

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<v Speaker 5>I even meet you or before we even go out,

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<v Speaker 5>I'm already paying for some people.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, I get it.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't like it.

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<v Speaker 1>I agree with you though, that is there's what about

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<v Speaker 1>the credit card analogy that she just gave. Don't you

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<v Speaker 1>think that's will? I need an outfit?

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<v Speaker 6>Asking guys to send me.

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<v Speaker 2>An uber, it's got to be a thirty.

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<v Speaker 6>Thing, honestly, Usually guys offer.

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<v Speaker 2>Really yeah, like a sudden what's up, Earl, I'm old Joe.

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<v Speaker 2>How you doing better than better than asking for limbo?

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know. They don't have limbos anymore.

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<v Speaker 1>Limo the other Yeah, like an old Lincoln limo, like

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<v Speaker 1>big long stretch limos. And I thought to myself, why

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<v Speaker 1>did we drive in those in the day?

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<v Speaker 2>And it were fun? Were they? Well? They were fine?

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<v Speaker 2>Those things. I don't know, they were fun.

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<v Speaker 5>You could pack a bunch of people in there, you

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<v Speaker 5>had alcoholics.

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<v Speaker 1>It was a great song and the one that I

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<v Speaker 1>saw was probably from back in the day, so that

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<v Speaker 1>was kind of crazy. Thanks, Earl, I appreciate it. Take

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<v Speaker 1>care of yourself. A couple of the textures that came

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<v Speaker 1>in said, it's definitely a generational thing.

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<v Speaker 2>I think it is, too.

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<v Speaker 1>I think that Anna's probably the generation because it's it's

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<v Speaker 1>like something it's like thirty years old, like twenty eight

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<v Speaker 1>to thirty five. No, I think that that's kind of

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<v Speaker 1>the thing, like you guys need everything done for you.

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<v Speaker 6>Well, that's a cold statement, but.

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<v Speaker 1>Sure, I'm not gonna lie a lie in my life.

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<v Speaker 6>I don't think that we need it done for us,

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<v Speaker 6>but we appreciate it.

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<v Speaker 5>And I also think like older generations, I feel like

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<v Speaker 5>just accepted whatever was there. Yeah, I feel like younger

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<v Speaker 5>generations are more bold and asking for whatever it is

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<v Speaker 5>if they want right, regardless of how they're if you,

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<v Speaker 5>regardless if they even deserve it. I ask, what do

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<v Speaker 5>you mean deserving us?

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<v Speaker 2>We don't deserve everything.

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<v Speaker 5>Well, I think you need to earn someone's love appreciation

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<v Speaker 5>levels of it.

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<v Speaker 8>Just that, Jay, what do you think I'm sending that uber?

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<v Speaker 8>You're yeah, I'm sending that uber that you get to pick.

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<v Speaker 4>The location that it drops her off on the way home.

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<v Speaker 4>Could be your house, could be her.

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<v Speaker 3>That's what I don't like.

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<v Speaker 8>I mean, we'll see how that go after the date,

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<v Speaker 8>but I'm sending that uber because she might want to

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<v Speaker 8>go after we get done drinking.

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<v Speaker 2>Hey, I'm definitely sending that uber. This is actually kind

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<v Speaker 2>of cool.

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<v Speaker 1>Send a nice uber like an uber black or something,

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<v Speaker 1>and then on the way home, put her in a

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<v Speaker 1>big old hoop date get her in uberpooler. Yeah, what's

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<v Speaker 1>what's going on?

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<v Speaker 2>Emily High? Good morning, Good morning morning.

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<v Speaker 4>So I'm in a generation where I was picked up

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<v Speaker 4>from my first dates. But if they send an uber,

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<v Speaker 4>then technically don't know where They know where you live.

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<v Speaker 1>In that is true, they know your address, so why

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<v Speaker 1>not just have them pick you up. I know a

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<v Speaker 1>lot of women don't exactly giving.

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<v Speaker 2>Their address out.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, thank you, Emily, I appreciate it.

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<v Speaker 2>I'll talk to you later.

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<v Speaker 7>You're welcome. Have a great day, guys.

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<v Speaker 2>You two take care.