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Speaker 1: It's Marcus in the morning, and we got to get

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Speaker 1: our guy Ryan on because we're doing second date update

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Speaker 1: right now.

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Speaker 2: It's everybody's favor Ryan. Are you there?

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Speaker 3: Hey, Yes, I am.

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Speaker 2: What's up Ryan?

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Speaker 1: We're gonna go ahead and help you out here. First

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Speaker 1: of all, I'm sorry you got ghosted on. That stinks.

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Speaker 1: That's a but B tell me about Lennia. I mean,

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Speaker 1: you guys, so you both kind of live in the

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Speaker 1: nine two five, and you said you went to dinner

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Speaker 1: in Martinez, which I think is adorable, So tell us

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Speaker 1: about it.

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Speaker 3: It was awesome. It was downtown and we got a

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Speaker 3: table right outside on Main Street and it was just amazing.

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Speaker 3: It was like a perfect date. And then I walked

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Speaker 3: her to her car afterward, he huggs. Everything sounded good,

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Speaker 3: She said, text me when you get home. I did,

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Speaker 3: and then nothing, no response.

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Speaker 2: Okay, did anything weird happen on the day?

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Speaker 3: Really confused from my perspective, nothing that I could figure out.

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Speaker 3: I just I was a nice guy. I was polite

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Speaker 3: and I held the door open for her. The dinner

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Speaker 3: went fine, like nobody the food was correct, it was

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Speaker 3: I don't know what happened.

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Speaker 2: Okay, Well, let's call her. You ready to go? You're

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Speaker 2: ready to make this call?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, let's do it.

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Speaker 1: Okay, go ahead and meet your phone so you can

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Speaker 1: listen in. Here we go and try to figure out

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Speaker 1: why you got ghosted.

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Speaker 4: Hello?

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Speaker 3: Hi?

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Speaker 2: Is this Lenaia? Yeah? Who is this Lenia? This is

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Speaker 2: Marcus calling from Star one one three? How are you?

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Speaker 4: I'm good? How are you? Did I bring something?

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Speaker 2: No? Are you familiar with second date update at all?

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Speaker 4: Oh? Yeah?

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Speaker 2: Sweet? You want to be on it?

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Speaker 4: I'm sure?

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Speaker 2: Okay?

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Speaker 4: Is this the part where you bring Ryan on? Because

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Speaker 4: I'm I know he's there?

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Speaker 2: Sure? Why not? Ryan? Go ahead and unmute?

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Speaker 3: Hey Lenaia?

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Speaker 2: Hey, here we go. Hi, Lenna? Did you ghost?

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Speaker 4: Yeah? Yeah I did?

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Speaker 2: Okay? Did something go sideways? What happened?

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Speaker 3: Yeah? What happened?

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Speaker 2: How was the date?

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Speaker 4: Okay?

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Speaker 3: Do you want me to be honest?

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Speaker 2: Yes?

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Speaker 4: Look, Ryan was very sweet, but it was great up

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Speaker 4: until point and then something weird happened and I just

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Speaker 4: I couldn't.

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Speaker 3: Let that go.

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Speaker 2: Okay, wait, go.

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Speaker 4: Ahead, all right. So the first thing is that Ryan

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Speaker 4: doesn't like drink water normally, you know what I mean? Like,

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Speaker 4: he'll he'll take a sip and then he'll swish it

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Speaker 4: around in his mouth, like, not in a subtle way,

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Speaker 4: just like a full rinse and then swallow it like

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Speaker 4: every single time we were we were waiting for the food,

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Speaker 4: and I counted twelve times before it even got to

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Speaker 4: the table. It was weird. So I finally asked him

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Speaker 4: about it. So he said that it preps the palette.

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Speaker 3: I guess it.

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Speaker 4: What not the palette is? I don't jump in here.

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Speaker 3: I see. This is the thing people don't understand. You

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Speaker 3: need to prep the palette needs to cleanse your tongue

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Speaker 3: and everything to really appreciate the food.

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Speaker 4: It's like gargling at a table at a restaurant. That's

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Speaker 4: it's just kind of weird and a little rude.

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Speaker 2: You're serious about this, all right?

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Speaker 1: No?

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Speaker 3: I am. Yes, I've studied this pH It's like the

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Speaker 3: PhD be between six and eight, you know, preferably seven.

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Speaker 3: But like I tried it with sparkling water, it's just

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Speaker 3: too acidic. It leaves a taste in my mouth. You

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Speaker 3: need that like run of the middle, basic tap water,

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Speaker 3: and it just it clears the palette. Like I said,

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Speaker 3: it makes everything preps the way for all the food

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Speaker 3: you're gonna eat, and everything just tastes so much better.

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Speaker 2: This must have just been visually stunning, Lenia.

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Speaker 4: Yep, okay, but yeah, that's just the warm up.

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Speaker 2: Oh dear god.

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Speaker 3: Okay, yeah, okay.

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Speaker 4: So we're like midway through dinner. We're talking about, you know,

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Speaker 4: past relationships. Ryan here just casually admits that when he

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Speaker 4: was in his twenties, he used to like do like

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Speaker 4: weird loyalty tests, like he would test people to see

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Speaker 4: if they were loyal. But like, but he he, he

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Speaker 4: was very He assured me that it was nothing dramatic.

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Speaker 4: You know. It was just like these little fake scenarios

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Speaker 4: where he would be like, oh I'm locked out of

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Speaker 4: my apartment. Oh, I have car trouble, just like these

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Speaker 4: weird bad day emergencies, so that he could see if

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Speaker 4: they would actually show up.

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Speaker 1: I was about to ask you what a loyalty test was,

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Speaker 1: and now here we are.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, what's the harm in that?

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Speaker 4: I mean, that's so weird and manipulative.

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Speaker 3: Oh my god, I was just telling a story. I

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Speaker 3: was really insecure back then in my twenties. I don't

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Speaker 3: do that anymore. I told you, when did you stop

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Speaker 3: a few years ago?

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Speaker 4: A few years ago, like forever ago.

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Speaker 3: It's fine. People change. I learned. I've grown up since then.

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Speaker 4: I don't know. Man, you like made up these fake

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Speaker 4: crises to like test people. That's so weird and creepy.

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Speaker 4: Like you, okay, you said the story like it was

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Speaker 4: like this cute little anecdote, Like it was like like

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Speaker 4: you were self improving or whatever. But like I'm hearing, like, oh,

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Speaker 4: you're the type of person who would do that in

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Speaker 4: the first place, Like that's not normal. People don't just

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Speaker 4: do that.

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Speaker 3: I was telling you how where I started and where

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Speaker 3: I came where I am now. It was I'm showing

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Speaker 3: you how I progressed as a person.

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Speaker 4: Look, it's good that you've learned from it. But if

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Speaker 4: I'm being honest, like I'm I'm ghosting you because I

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Speaker 4: don't want to be constantly wondering if I'm being like

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Speaker 4: tested and evaluated by somebody I'm dating that.

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Speaker 2: It just freaked you out too much, Lena, the deal,

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Speaker 2: like we can't. Yes, there's no coming back from that.

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Speaker 4: No, I wonder if he was like testing again, Like

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Speaker 4: that's weird, right, that's not just me.

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Speaker 3: Well, I assure you that I am not test seeing you.

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Speaker 3: I'm honestly telling you I don't do that anymore.

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Speaker 1: The nay he seems sincere, like would you even consider

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Speaker 1: a second date here?

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Speaker 4: No? Sorry, no, because I'll always in the back of

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Speaker 4: my head, I'll always wonder if he's testing me, Like

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Speaker 4: I just can't. That's not something I can forget. And

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Speaker 4: it's like good for you for like growing past that,

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Speaker 4: I guess, but like, no, I can't totally get it

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Speaker 4: me neither.

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Speaker 2: Second date update