Speaker 1: It's Mojoe in the Morning Show. I didn't even know
Speaker 1: people do this until Shannon mentioned this about her friend,
Speaker 1: and then Lydia spoke up and said she does it too.
Speaker 1: Do you have a list? What's up? So?
Speaker 2: I know Lydia does, Which is funny that we're talking
Speaker 2: about this because she could speak from her personal experience.
Speaker 2: But I know a guy who has a list of
Speaker 2: fifty five qualities. The girl he's looking for must have
Speaker 2: fifty five qualities. And I understand having a few things
Speaker 2: that are non negotiables for you, Like for me, I
Speaker 2: wanted to make sure that the person that I ended
Speaker 2: up with, you know, shared the same faith as me
Speaker 2: and was cool that I had kids. Like there are
Speaker 2: obviously those really big things, but fifty five, I said
Speaker 2: to him, you are never going to find anybody that
Speaker 2: can check the box of fifty five things.
Speaker 3: I don't even think I'll come close.
Speaker 1: There has to be be a point where you sit
Speaker 1: there with fifty five qualities and say, if she has.
Speaker 2: Majority of a majority, know they are they are.
Speaker 4: All not negotiable, the fifty list.
Speaker 2: Yeah, and some of them, Okay, I'm trying to think
Speaker 2: because I just saw him the other day one of
Speaker 2: them was she has to be an immigrant like he
Speaker 2: or her family. Her parents have to be immigrants. No,
Speaker 2: it's more so about like I don't even know. He
Speaker 2: gave me like a whole story about why that that
Speaker 2: was important to him. There was a faith piece on there.
Speaker 4: Do they have to have the same faith?
Speaker 2: There were have to have the same faith there. There
Speaker 2: were different things on there too, like obviously there were
Speaker 2: some esthetic ones of what he No, boob size was
Speaker 2: not on there.
Speaker 4: I'm sure of that.
Speaker 2: There was one on there about basically being spontaneous, being
Speaker 2: down for anything, not needing to stay in and go
Speaker 2: to bed early on a work night.
Speaker 4: God, I'm trying.
Speaker 2: I wish I would have written some of them.
Speaker 3: When it comes to personality attributes, I feel like some
Speaker 3: of them kind of go together sometimes. Like usually if
Speaker 3: someone's like a really active person, they might enjoy going
Speaker 3: to sports games. Yeah, let's say that's something they wanted.
Speaker 4: Like for sure.
Speaker 2: And this guy, by the way, very normal, very successful,
Speaker 2: good looking at like would be a catch. But there's
Speaker 2: a lot of there's a lot of boxes you have
Speaker 2: to tick off.
Speaker 1: If you're interested LYDIA, what is on your list that
Speaker 1: you can share with the listeners of things that must
Speaker 1: have must.
Speaker 5: Be taller than me, must have hair because I did
Speaker 5: a lot of guys who don't. Must have the same
Speaker 5: faith and political views as I do. And then also
Speaker 5: has a good mom.
Speaker 4: I think that that's a good relationship with mom. Probably right,
Speaker 4: that's a solid like five things?
Speaker 1: Can I can? I throw out something real quick? What
Speaker 1: happens if he is with you with hair and then
Speaker 1: loses his hair? Are you leaving him once he loses
Speaker 1: his hair?
Speaker 6: Maybe?
Speaker 4: No, that's that one. You're not going to do it.
Speaker 5: I would become unattracted to a guy I think over again.
Speaker 5: Oh sorry, Oh my gosh, I know that sounds so terrible. Yep, shallow.
Speaker 5: I probably would would lose attraction, but maybe not, maybe not.
Speaker 5: I just don't like the guys that have like a
Speaker 5: bald spot in the back of their head.
Speaker 2: Or like a tuft of hair that they're hanging hunt
Speaker 2: for dear life.
Speaker 5: Yes, maybe if they were to just lose all of it,
Speaker 5: that would be better than just keeping strands.
Speaker 1: See, I will tell you, yes, I will tell you
Speaker 1: that this to me seems like a like a thing
Speaker 1: more women would probably do than men. But Shannon's guy
Speaker 1: is you know, doing this with fifty five things that
Speaker 1: come up to play. To me, the only thing that
Speaker 1: I would want to look at is I would like
Speaker 1: us to have the same faith, for sure, but I
Speaker 1: would be open minded to, you know, whatever their faith was,
Speaker 1: as long as their faith respected my faith, you know
Speaker 1: what I mean, Like if there was kind of like, hey,
Speaker 1: you know what, because I know some people actually have
Speaker 1: a friend of mine has probably one of the best
Speaker 1: marriages ever. He is Catholic, He's a Christian, and his
Speaker 1: wife is Jehovah's witness. You would never think that we
Speaker 1: work together. Yeah, and they work together and actually the
Speaker 1: kids believe it or not do both things as weird
Speaker 1: as that would be because Jehovah's witnesses.
Speaker 4: And that's yeah. I would say.
Speaker 2: I have several friends that you know, the husband or
Speaker 2: wife is Jewish and the other one is like Catholic,
Speaker 2: you know, and they just celebrate a lot of our days.
Speaker 4: But yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1: Eight four four Mojo Live eight four four six six
Speaker 1: five six five four eight. I think my wife wishes
Speaker 1: she had a list like this. I think I think
Speaker 1: she probably looks at this and goes, if I could
Speaker 1: have come up with a list of what you want.
Speaker 4: I you know, like, this is what I would want
Speaker 4: and be like, oh, we none of that.
Speaker 3: If you have a.
Speaker 2: List, if you're single and dating, I want to know
Speaker 2: what the not weirdest thing is. But what what is
Speaker 2: something that's on yours that maybe we would think is interesting?
Speaker 1: All right, here's the question for you. So, yeah, you
Speaker 1: had been in a marriage before you are now in
Speaker 1: a marriage with Wes. Did you start looking at when
Speaker 1: you started going and this is what I'm going I'm
Speaker 1: going to start dating again. Did you start looking at Okay,
Speaker 1: this is what I want? And did you if you
Speaker 1: did do that, did you say this is what I
Speaker 1: had with the first guy, and this is what I
Speaker 1: also had with the first guy that I don't want again, Like,
Speaker 1: did you ever do that at all?
Speaker 4: Well? Yeah, I mean yeah.
Speaker 2: Was I looking for different things than I was looking
Speaker 2: the first for the first time around? Absolutely, And one
Speaker 2: of the biggest things was that I needed somebody who
Speaker 2: understood my desire for independence, because that was something that
Speaker 2: I found after I got divorced. I used to be
Speaker 2: very code dependent, I think in every relationship that I
Speaker 2: was in, starting in high school and then when I
Speaker 2: got divorced, I really wanted to work on myself, and
Speaker 2: I think I did a good job of that, and
Speaker 2: I realized I liked being by myself. I liked having
Speaker 2: my own life and doing my own things with my
Speaker 2: own friends. And not that I didn't want to find
Speaker 2: somebody that wanted to do a lot of things together
Speaker 2: and create a group of friends together. But I needed
Speaker 2: somebody who respected my need for independence, and that was
Speaker 2: a big one for me.
Speaker 4: I'm going because a lot of guys don't.
Speaker 2: A lot of guys don't like that. They want they
Speaker 2: want somebody who really depends on them, and that is
Speaker 2: not me.
Speaker 1: Eight four four Mojo Live eight four four six six
Speaker 1: five six five four eight text is nine five five
Speaker 1: zero zero. I like the text that says, this just
Speaker 1: seems exhausting to have a list like that. What's going on? Actually,
Speaker 1: I think it was Jake that sent that text. What's up,
Speaker 1: Jake Kai.
Speaker 7: Yay, Hey you hear it?
Speaker 4: Yeah, what's going on? You think this would be exhausting?
Speaker 5: I think I've been trying to keep up with these
Speaker 5: bless for years.
Speaker 1: And are you what kind of phone are you on? Jake?
Speaker 1: Jake speaking to the phone, You're you've got a lot
Speaker 1: of wind noise.
Speaker 6: You hear me better?
Speaker 1: Now?
Speaker 4: Yeah that's better? Way better go ahead? Oh okay, sorry,
Speaker 4: these let's start exhausting. Man, Like, I'm in dating and
Speaker 4: on a date.
Speaker 6: For a lot for a couple of years, and girls
Speaker 6: have these lists too, and it's just like trying to
Speaker 6: keep up with being taller.
Speaker 7: Being educated and having money and all.
Speaker 6: These other things. It's like it's a list that you
Speaker 6: sometimes can now never live up to.
Speaker 1: You know, that's a great point. Get to know the
Speaker 1: person and maybe what you're wanting. And this is something
Speaker 1: for Lydia to say this. Maybe if you look past
Speaker 1: the things that are on that list, you may actually
Speaker 1: realize that you're looking for the wrong person on that list.
Speaker 1: I mean I do. I will say this to you.
Speaker 1: If you look at my wife and I have talked
Speaker 1: about this on our podcast, if you look at what
Speaker 1: both of us looked for in a partner, it was
Speaker 1: not each other, and then eventually it became each other.
Speaker 1: And I think the biggest thing that she looked in
Speaker 1: at me, and she actually said this to me one
Speaker 1: time during one of the podcasts, is that she wanted
Speaker 1: to have somebody that she knew was going to be
Speaker 1: good to her children, in good to her family, and listen,
Speaker 1: I looked at the way you know that I looked
Speaker 1: at that time, and I wasn't the guy. You know,
Speaker 1: I wasn't the greatest looking guy. I did have a
Speaker 1: full head of hair though, Lydia. But I do think
Speaker 1: that sometimes you miss out by looking at a list,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean? Like if if if you
Speaker 1: were to hire for a job and say this person
Speaker 1: has to have this, this, this, and this, you may
Speaker 1: miss out on the talent of what particular person comes
Speaker 1: in for a job interview.
Speaker 3: Sure, I think it's smart to have like a few,
Speaker 3: not like three, non negotiables. Like Lydia's faith is so
Speaker 3: big to her, for example, So I think that is
Speaker 3: something like that makes total sense.
Speaker 4: But Jana list, But.
Speaker 1: If you're if you are truly a Christian, one of
Speaker 1: the things that you do is you can bring somebody
Speaker 1: to your faith.
Speaker 4: True, and that's a big deal. Shawna, what's going on?
Speaker 2: Hi? How are we doing? God?
Speaker 1: We're good, Shawna? Would what did you want to say
Speaker 1: about the lists?
Speaker 4: So?
Speaker 6: I my number one thing is that you have to
Speaker 6: be available the bake cookies balth times a week.
Speaker 4: Now, what Is that an issue for you?
Speaker 6: I mean, it's not for me, but it seems to
Speaker 6: be for everybody.
Speaker 1: That's a day.
Speaker 4: Really, you're talking about sex. So you've never met Kevin Irwin.
Speaker 1: So you have to be able to be available for
Speaker 1: baking cookies. Now, that's a list that I think majority
Speaker 1: of guys will sign up for.
Speaker 4: What's up, Jalen? How you doing?
Speaker 6: Hey?
Speaker 4: Pretty good? That's going good. What's on your list? Jalen?
Speaker 1: Well, they have to be clean.
Speaker 4: I can't date a slove. I did it before, and yeah,
Speaker 4: I can't date anybody that's messy.
Speaker 1: Can I tell you I thought about this. My wife
Speaker 1: is the cleanest human being in the world, and I
Speaker 1: am probably one of the dirtiest. If I wasn't with
Speaker 1: my wife, could you imagine how dirty life would be? Like?
Speaker 1: I think that's a good point, Like you got to
Speaker 1: be clean, right, yeah.
Speaker 4: Because you're gonna have somebody who's always doing the cleaning.
Speaker 6: That's kind of unfair that one person always cleaning us.
Speaker 4: I'm you just making the mess. Quiet. Hold on a second,
Speaker 4: I'm in trouble. Jacob. Hi, what's on your list? Jacob?
Speaker 4: The first time? Long time? He first time? Long time?
Speaker 4: You can get exhausting, can't they?
Speaker 1: Yes, but it's good. We got What's what's on your list?
Speaker 4: Jacob? They gotta have que feet? Oh? Really?
Speaker 2: So do you on a first date or before a
Speaker 2: first date? Do you ask to see a photo of
Speaker 2: their feet or their feet in person?
Speaker 4: Not on the first dast couple of days. Yeah, but
Speaker 4: they got.
Speaker 1: Q feet that I'm in I'd be so if you
Speaker 1: notice they don't call you back afterwards, I'd probably wait
Speaker 1: a few more dates before you look at their feet,
Speaker 1: or at least look at them live instead of asking
Speaker 1: for pictures.
Speaker 4: That would be a weird one. H Jessica, what's up, Jessica?
Speaker 4: How you doing?
Speaker 7: It's not that weird, but a must for me is
Speaker 7: that they must be taller than me because I'm six.
Speaker 6: Foot Oh my god, and.
Speaker 7: I want to look up at my man like all
Speaker 7: the short queens do.
Speaker 1: Jessica, how will it be with heels on? If you're
Speaker 1: six foot without heels, what are you with heels?
Speaker 7: I don't really wear heels, okay, but if I were.
Speaker 7: If I were to wear heels, it would depend on
Speaker 7: like what height you know.
Speaker 6: I was wearing.
Speaker 7: You know, I could go up to like six.
Speaker 4: Flour do you play in the w n B A
Speaker 4: And do you know Caitlin Clark? I don't.
Speaker 1: Can I tell you though? Tall women are beautiful in heels.
Speaker 1: You ever see a really tall woman with legs? For yeah,
Speaker 1: you got great legs?
Speaker 7: Uh kind of? I think?
Speaker 4: So okay, we have.
Speaker 1: Any tall dudes looking for a beautiful tall woman? By
Speaker 1: the way, what do they call they? If they call?
Speaker 1: Is it a tall drink of water? Isn't that what
Speaker 1: it is called? Are you a tall drink of water?
Speaker 4: Jessica? Have you ever been called that?
Speaker 6: Uh?
Speaker 4: Yes, Oh my gosh.
Speaker 1: All right, the War of the Roses guy rubbed off
Speaker 1: on me today. All right, have a great morning. We'll
Speaker 1: talk to you later.