WEBVTT - Priya Ghosted Javier After Happy Hour

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<v Speaker 1>It's Marcus in the morning, back with second date update.

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<v Speaker 1>We got to say what's up to Javier this morning?

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<v Speaker 1>Good morning, Yvier.

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<v Speaker 2>Hey, thanks for having me on the show.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, dude, thanks for calling, thanks for listening. Let's see

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<v Speaker 1>if we can help you out. So your date's name

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<v Speaker 1>is Priya and she ghosted. So let's talk about like

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<v Speaker 1>what went down on the first date. Tell me all

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<v Speaker 1>about it.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, So met Pria. She she's amazing, right, she really

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<v Speaker 2>sparked my interests. I thought everything was going well. We

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<v Speaker 2>met at this busy, topest place over on Castro Street.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, my favorite place to eat in Mountain View, period.

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<v Speaker 1>Like it's so festive there.

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<v Speaker 2>Right, So she came straight from work and you know,

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<v Speaker 2>she still had her badge clipped on. I thought we

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<v Speaker 2>had a cute little moment where you know, I pointed

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<v Speaker 2>out she laughed about it and clipped it, and then

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<v Speaker 2>you know we kind of went into that happy hour mode.

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<v Speaker 2>Uh you know, sure, you know, we had a couple

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<v Speaker 2>of plates people watched for a bit, and then you know,

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<v Speaker 2>I thought everything was going well. Uber pulled up, she

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<v Speaker 2>got in, she gave me a hug. So I thought

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<v Speaker 2>all good signs, right, and I was like ninety five

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<v Speaker 2>percent sure there's gonna be a second date, and just nothing,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, just ghost Yeah, just nothing, and so like,

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know if I did something or if something happened.

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<v Speaker 1>But I'm assuming you've replayed this in your head a

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<v Speaker 1>few times.

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<v Speaker 2>Like forever, like I don't know if. Like again, it's like,

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<v Speaker 2>was there something in my teeth? Was my breast smelling bad?

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<v Speaker 2>Like I thought I showed up fresh. I thought I

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<v Speaker 2>showed up smart, And here I am with nothing and

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know what happened.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, Well, we're gonna call her. I mean, you know

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<v Speaker 1>the drill. We'll have you on the line. We'll have

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<v Speaker 1>you muted so you could listen in. But let me

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<v Speaker 1>see if I can give her a shout for you.

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<v Speaker 1>I would love to get some answers. I'd love to

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<v Speaker 1>get you a second date. It's kind of why we're here.

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<v Speaker 1>Let's just get to it. Let's call her and see

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<v Speaker 1>what's up. Go ahead and meet your phone. Here we go. Hello,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm looking for Priya.

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<v Speaker 3>Please all right, this is Pria.

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<v Speaker 1>Good morning, Pria. It's Marcus calling from Star one oh

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<v Speaker 1>one three. How are you?

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<v Speaker 3>I'm okay, how are you doing doing all right?

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<v Speaker 1>Do you have a moment?

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<v Speaker 3>Sure? So?

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<v Speaker 1>Do you listen to my radio show. We're doing second

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<v Speaker 1>Date Update right now. Does that mean anything to you?

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<v Speaker 3>It sure does. Great, let's do this, Pria.

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<v Speaker 1>Why do I feel like you're already at work, like

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<v Speaker 1>you're one of the early riser types.

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<v Speaker 3>I am at work, actually okay, stepping out really quickly.

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<v Speaker 1>I appreciate it so much. So we're doing second Date

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<v Speaker 1>Update right now. And I did get it. I got

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<v Speaker 1>I got a DM from a guy who just took

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<v Speaker 1>you out, and he's feeling like maybe you ghosted. And

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<v Speaker 1>I'm wondering if we could talk about your date with Javier.

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<v Speaker 3>So Javier is listening right now, isn't he is?

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<v Speaker 1>Are you there?

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<v Speaker 2>Yes?

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<v Speaker 3>I am, Oh, Hi.

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<v Speaker 1>Well here we are. Can we talk about the dates?

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<v Speaker 1>What did he do?

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<v Speaker 3>Now?

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<v Speaker 1>I'm just I'm I'm just figuring he did something strange.

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<v Speaker 3>But you tell me, yeah, you know, I'm not gonna lie.

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<v Speaker 3>This is a little awkward for me, Xavier, but if

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<v Speaker 3>you're going to this great length to find out, then

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<v Speaker 3>I owe it to you to be honest with you. You know,

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<v Speaker 3>it was nothing like huge. It wasn't like some dramatic

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<v Speaker 3>reason why I'm I guess in your words ghosted, it

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<v Speaker 3>was like two smaller things that happened that night that

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<v Speaker 3>felt a little strange for me.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay.

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<v Speaker 3>You know. The first thing was like in the beginning,

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<v Speaker 3>when we got our food and before, like Javier was

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<v Speaker 3>like seasoning his food. He I don't know, I guess

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<v Speaker 3>I've never seen anybody do this, but like he tasted

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<v Speaker 3>the salt that was on the table and it was

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<v Speaker 3>just like a little pinch on his finger. But then

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<v Speaker 3>he like put the salt on his tongue directly. It's

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<v Speaker 3>like he was trying to see, like, oh, is this

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<v Speaker 3>gonna taste good on the food or not? Okay, I

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<v Speaker 3>thought he was kidding, you know. At first I thought

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<v Speaker 3>he was trying to be cute and playful, But like

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<v Speaker 3>the second time, when he was like pouring on his tongue,

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<v Speaker 3>I was like, oh, okay, this dude's serious.

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<v Speaker 1>What was he doing.

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<v Speaker 3>I learned something new that salt blooms at like different rates,

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<v Speaker 3>and he just wanted to know the kind of salt

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<v Speaker 3>he was working with.

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<v Speaker 1>What do you mean by blooms?

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<v Speaker 3>Like, yeah, well, Javier, you can correct me if I'm wrong,

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<v Speaker 3>but from what you taught me. I guess kosher salt

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<v Speaker 3>gets salty like right away, and then the Himalayan salt

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<v Speaker 3>takes a minute.

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<v Speaker 1>It's that serious.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I mean, so like it's a gastro thing, right,

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<v Speaker 2>Like you you really want to experience the full flavor

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<v Speaker 2>of what somebody made for you, and you know salt

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<v Speaker 2>looms at different rates. So I just like to know, I.

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<v Speaker 1>Get it, but like you're not cooking the food, right.

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<v Speaker 2>But like I mean, like you know you are paying

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<v Speaker 2>for it, you didn't cook it, but like you want

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<v Speaker 2>to experience the full flavor, right, get the most out

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<v Speaker 2>of life.

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<v Speaker 1>Right, I mean I get it, I get it, but

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<v Speaker 1>just not on a date. So was that what weird?

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<v Speaker 1>Did you out?

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<v Speaker 3>You know? Like I just learned that you know, red

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<v Speaker 3>flags start off as pink flags, and like, you know,

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<v Speaker 3>I see a little bit further down the line where

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<v Speaker 3>let's say I'm cooking dinner for him. I don't want

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<v Speaker 3>to have to worry about the pH balance of like oregano,

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<v Speaker 3>which I'm sure hobby or can teach me about, but

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<v Speaker 3>you know that can be a little OCD for me,

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<v Speaker 3>and I am a little bit more go with the flow. Okay,

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<v Speaker 3>you know there was something else that was pink was

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<v Speaker 3>kind of going a little more red for me. It

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<v Speaker 3>came a little later, you know, as we were finishing

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<v Speaker 3>our dinner. We started talking about hobbies. Great conversation, but

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<v Speaker 3>then he just casually mentioned to me that he applied

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<v Speaker 3>to be on a reality dating show once and said

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<v Speaker 3>it was his personal experiment, not because he wanted to

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<v Speaker 3>be on TV, but he was just curious about like

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<v Speaker 3>the whole application process and he just wanted to see

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<v Speaker 3>how far he could get into the show. And then

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<v Speaker 3>the dude filled out forms, he did a casting interview,

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<v Speaker 3>and I guess he said they didn't, you know, put

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<v Speaker 3>him on the show. He never got called back, But

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<v Speaker 3>of course I asked him, were you dating anybody at

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<v Speaker 3>the time that you applied for this show? He said

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<v Speaker 3>he was, but it wasn't that serious.

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<v Speaker 1>That's red flag for me, so he didn't tell her

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<v Speaker 1>he was on the show.

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<v Speaker 2>Great, Yeah, but I didn't get on the show. First off,

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<v Speaker 2>it's reality TV, right, Like, I'm sure all that stuff scripted. Anyway.

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<v Speaker 2>He had to apply for it, just like you would

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<v Speaker 2>any other job. I just wanted to know what the

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<v Speaker 2>process was.

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<v Speaker 3>Now. See, I think if you're applying to be on

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<v Speaker 3>a televised dating competition while you're in a relationship. It

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<v Speaker 3>doesn't sound like curiosity to me. It just sounds more

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<v Speaker 3>like you're trying to audition your love life and see

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<v Speaker 3>what else is out there. The point is like it

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<v Speaker 3>could have gone somewhere, and then what would you do, Like,

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<v Speaker 3>let's say i'm your girlfriend, you'd explain it to me

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<v Speaker 3>after the fact that you auditioned, or would you telling

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<v Speaker 3>me before. I wouldn't want to open, you know, like

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<v Speaker 3>watch some show and then see my partner kissing some

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<v Speaker 3>other girl just as an experiment. To me, the fault.

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<v Speaker 3>It's a little weird, but you're harmless with it, you know.

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<v Speaker 3>But the reality show saying I don't want to just

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<v Speaker 3>be another one of your experiments just to see out

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<v Speaker 3>of curiosity.

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<v Speaker 1>Sure, now, hang on, you guys, hang on. That is

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<v Speaker 1>very strange. Second date update