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Speaker 1: Fair and fairh Tampa Accident Attorneys ninety three three f

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Speaker 1: l Z eight hundred and four oh nine ninety three,

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Speaker 1: ninety three. Do you find yourself surface acting? When I

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Speaker 1: say that? Do you guys know what that means?

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Speaker 2: No?

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Speaker 1: All right, So this is ruining people's lives. This is

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Speaker 1: what this study says. And if you are surface acting,

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Speaker 1: I want to hear from you. Eight hundred four own

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Speaker 1: nine ninety three, ninety three. It's the practice of forcing

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Speaker 1: emotions you don't actually feel while at work. So researchers

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Speaker 1: tracked employees energy and emotional regulation during the workday and

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Speaker 1: found that workers who regularly faked upbeat reactions, you know,

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Speaker 1: they try to be like the the vibes king at

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Speaker 1: work and all of that, those workers felt more disconnected

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Speaker 1: and dissatisfied in their life. The study found two big effects.

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Speaker 1: Workers stated they sorry workers started their days more fatigued

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Speaker 1: and burned out faster as the week went on. You know,

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Speaker 1: right around Thursday, they were basically you know, baggy eyed

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Speaker 1: and had trouble kind of getting through their day, yawn

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Speaker 1: and a lot not really wanting to be there. Now

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Speaker 1: there is always good news to bad news. There is

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Speaker 1: light just as much as there is dark. Researchers say,

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Speaker 1: fully unplugging from work, that's what you got to do,

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Speaker 1: especially through low effort relaxation like reading or listening to

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Speaker 1: music can help break that cycle and restore energy surface acting.

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Speaker 1: What do you guys think about that? I think that it.

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Speaker 3: Holds true for a lot of people at this Uh. Well,

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Speaker 3: but you can't get mad at me when I when

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Speaker 3: you bring up the study, it's like, is the place

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Speaker 3: that we come to work.

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Speaker 4: Every single days time? Here?

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Speaker 3: You can you can sense it the energy that's the

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Speaker 3: there's like a hand full of like raw rob people

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Speaker 3: where I'm like, dude, just you know, pipe it down

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Speaker 3: just a little bit. You're trying to just try and

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Speaker 3: force it upon me correct, actually tryhards. But you know what,

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Speaker 3: on that same point, because I'm kind of being a

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Speaker 3: hypocrite here, I'm that guy. I'm the guy who's trying

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Speaker 3: to be like, really, you.

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Speaker 4: Know, a great job.

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Speaker 1: Do you feel like sometimes.

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Speaker 3: I feel like I have to because I want the

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Speaker 3: reputation of not just myself but the show within the

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Speaker 3: hallways to be good. And even if there's somebody that

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Speaker 3: I absolutely despise and and would never you know, attend

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Speaker 3: the bird they party. I still live. Yeah, you have

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Speaker 3: to be because then it's like then you get called

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Speaker 3: into the boss's office and then here's how that conversation goes.

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Speaker 4: Joe, you're not being a team player.

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Speaker 3: Ashley took the words from right out of my mouth.

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Speaker 1: Is that what happens?

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Speaker 3: Okay? Just you know, you know, I just want to

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Speaker 3: make sure everybody's playing nice around here.

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Speaker 1: Have you heard that before?

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Speaker 3: Not? Not since we've been in the new building. It's

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Speaker 3: been in a couple of years. But I remember I'm

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Speaker 3: being remembered a couple of times being called in be like,

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Speaker 3: is everything okay?

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Speaker 1: Like you know, it just.

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Speaker 3: Seems like there's some tension here and just like yeah,

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Speaker 3: because you are surface acting, because there is a little

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Speaker 3: too much yes going on in the hallway. Just tell

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Speaker 2: Is, and surface acting, I think it keeps the It

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Speaker 2: does keep the vibes, and it keeps people from being

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Speaker 4: I'll surface act on time.

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Speaker 1: You do.

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Speaker 4: Yes, listen, you do what you got to do.

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Speaker 1: Because of that, you do you feel one more time?

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Speaker 1: Said the surface acting, do you're forcing emotions that don't

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Speaker 1: declining well being. I think it is really important though,

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Speaker 1: as we say this, because it is kind of like

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Speaker 1: a it's it isn't negative, right, and we don't want

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Speaker 1: you to wake up with just horrible news and not

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Speaker 1: have a solution. So the good news is that researchers say,

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Speaker 1: and this works, you gotta fully unplug from work when

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Speaker 1: it didn't trust me, you know, and not getting into

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Speaker 1: too much. I get it. And as someone who does

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Speaker 1: not unplug, you know, reading this, it's you know, I'm

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Speaker 1: looking for a therapist right now, but this, this research

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Speaker 1: you know moment. Listening to music, reading, I'll learn how

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Speaker 1: to read. Maybe I'll do them. But you do feel

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Speaker 1: like you surface hacked.

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Speaker 4: I do.

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Speaker 2: I feel like in this day and age, you have to,

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Speaker 2: school all over again. You're gonna work with people who

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Speaker 2: don't like so you have to surface level to our

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Speaker 2: surface act to make it through the day. Have you

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Speaker 2: ever seen that meme or the guy he's like got

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Speaker 2: a happy suit on and then when he goes home,

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Speaker 2: That's how I feel sometimes.

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Speaker 1: Oh my god, that's deep. You're wearing a skin suit listener, Katie,

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Speaker 1: not our Katie Summers, but Winter Haven Zone Katie. Hi Katie,

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Speaker 1: they do so, Katie. You're a mental health counselor.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, So, no matter how I'm feeling that day, sometimes

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Speaker 5: I'm just really not feeling it, but I have to

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Speaker 5: match the kind of the vibe of the client. If

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Speaker 5: they're really happy, then I kind of have to match that.

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Speaker 5: If they're not so much, then I can't be happy.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, how hard is that?

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Speaker 5: It can be very difficult. Definitely have to learn how

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Speaker 5: to regulate my emotions.

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Speaker 1: How long have you been a mental health counselor?

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Speaker 5: About five years?

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Speaker 1: When you were in year one, was it a lot

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Speaker 1: harder to fake it than you know, year five? Oh?

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Speaker 5: Definitely definitely.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah, I'm working on that too. You know, we

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Speaker 1: kind of relate as far as how long we've been

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Speaker 1: doing our jobs. I have been doing this now for

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Speaker 1: you know, five and a half almost six years, and

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Speaker 1: oh if I was telling Katie Summers, this our Katie,

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Speaker 1: although winter Haven Zone Katie is our Katie too. I

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Speaker 1: was telling Katie a couple of days ago, we were

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Speaker 1: out over the weekend, and I told her, like, you know,

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Speaker 1: if I could delete three years, I delete the first

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Speaker 1: three years of the show. I was not good at acting.

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Speaker 1: I feel like I especially, and I still kind of

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Speaker 4: I say it all the time.

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Speaker 2: Life was already tough, so like, if I couldn't be happy,

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Speaker 2: let me just be happy.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, Well, if I feel like sometimes I got to acted,

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Speaker 1: it would be completely honest. I've definitely been. I'm you know,

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Speaker 1: I'm struggling right now with some and you know, I

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Speaker 1: that probably turned off a lot of people. That's probably

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Speaker 1: why people don't listen. But I feel like now I'm

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Speaker 1: starting to kind of figure it out. Like, for example,

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Speaker 1: right now, I'm not revealing too much. I'm just reporting

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Speaker 1: what surface acting is.

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Speaker 5: And that's another thing. Like if I'm having a crappy

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Speaker 5: day or I'm having my own problems. I just have

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Speaker 5: to listen to other people's problems who said I'm dealing

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Speaker 5: with mine.

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Speaker 1: You ever hear any problems and you go, well, it

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Speaker 1: could be worse.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, I don't say it, but.

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Speaker 1: Yes, Katie, thank you for doing what you do.

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Speaker 5: Thank you.

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Speaker 1: I have a question because I am trying to figure

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Speaker 1: this out and maybe people are listening right now who

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Speaker 1: are in the same spot as me. How do I

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Speaker 5: The best thing is to call around looking up mental

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Speaker 5: health counselors near me, or there's even online one like

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Speaker 5: better Help or things like that.

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Speaker 1: Things.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I just I put in our our health insurance

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Speaker 2: to see which people are available in the closest and

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Speaker 2: then they got the time availabilities and then you can.

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Speaker 5: See like you Yeah, you can also put like your

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Speaker 5: preferences and female or things.

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Speaker 4: Like that, LGBTQ friendly, things like that.

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Speaker 5: No way you can even get the referral from your

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Speaker 5: like primary doctor.

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Speaker 1: Where do I find a primary Katie? Thank you for

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Speaker 1: doing what you do. I love you more. I'm surface

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Speaker 1: acting well. Listen. The main reason why I wanted to

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Speaker 1: bring this up is truthfully, I'm kind of going through

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Speaker 1: that and when I read that the whole like you

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Speaker 1: You know, surface acting, acting like you're super good at

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Speaker 1: work and whatnot. It's causing a lot of Americans to

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Speaker 1: really have their health decline. In truth, you know, I've

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Speaker 1: been gaining weight recently. I haven't been stressed. Yeah, I've

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Speaker 1: way I truly i've been feeling, we've got our homework

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Speaker 4: What are you doing to restore your energy and restore

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Speaker 4: your emotions?

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Speaker 1: And I got not doing anything. I had a horrible

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Speaker 1: night last night, But I gotta.

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Speaker 4: I would have known because you're doing a great job.

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Speaker 4: Surface accent.

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Speaker 1: Well, you guys want to talk about it. I don't

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Speaker 1: want to talk about it. I don't bring it up. Well,

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Speaker 1: I don't want to talk allay book.

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Speaker 4: You guys are doing a terrible job right now, Surface act.

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Speaker 1: What do you mean? I'm a man, I'm bad at

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Speaker 1: my emotions. This portion of The Joe Show podcast is

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