1 00:00:00,360 --> 00:00:04,000 Speaker 1: Every year for thirty five years. Think about that for 2 00:00:04,040 --> 00:00:05,640 Speaker 1: a minute. Okay, there are a lot of you driving 3 00:00:05,680 --> 00:00:09,000 Speaker 1: around that have not even been alive that long, and 4 00:00:09,039 --> 00:00:11,840 Speaker 1: a lot of us who can't remember thirty five years ago, 5 00:00:11,960 --> 00:00:14,280 Speaker 1: and we were around at an age where we should 6 00:00:14,320 --> 00:00:17,079 Speaker 1: be able to remember it. But for thirty five years 7 00:00:17,239 --> 00:00:21,560 Speaker 1: there has been the Marti Gras benefiting homeless children in 8 00:00:21,640 --> 00:00:24,759 Speaker 1: Northern Kentucky, this year at the Northern Kentucky Convention Center. 9 00:00:25,239 --> 00:00:31,040 Speaker 1: The date of this year's gallup is Tuesday, February the seventeenth. 10 00:00:31,120 --> 00:00:34,960 Speaker 1: Then it is a pleasure to have with us today. 11 00:00:35,040 --> 00:00:39,000 Speaker 1: Gordy Snyder, the founding chairman of this event, Amy Floyd, 12 00:00:39,040 --> 00:00:43,519 Speaker 1: the executive director of the Joe Burrow Foundation, and Don Paparella, 13 00:00:43,720 --> 00:00:46,800 Speaker 1: the general manager of Mercedes Benz of Fort Mitchell, all 14 00:00:47,240 --> 00:00:51,960 Speaker 1: heavily involved directly involved in this event. I want to start, 15 00:00:51,960 --> 00:00:54,400 Speaker 1: Gordy with you. You've been around here saying a long time. 16 00:00:55,880 --> 00:00:59,040 Speaker 1: What prompted you to start this event? 17 00:01:00,040 --> 00:01:02,240 Speaker 2: Well, Tom, thank you first of all for having us on, 18 00:01:02,240 --> 00:01:04,600 Speaker 2: so I appreciate it. Glad you're here, thank you, and 19 00:01:04,760 --> 00:01:09,480 Speaker 2: thank you for being the MC this year. Wait, so 20 00:01:09,560 --> 00:01:13,039 Speaker 2: thirty six years ago, maybe thirty seven now, there were 21 00:01:13,080 --> 00:01:16,840 Speaker 2: four homeless children that were actually locked in a garage 22 00:01:16,880 --> 00:01:21,160 Speaker 2: by the father and they started playing with matches. The 23 00:01:21,200 --> 00:01:24,880 Speaker 2: garage caught on fire and burned down, and all four 24 00:01:25,000 --> 00:01:28,440 Speaker 2: children perished. The Cincinnati Public School System came out and 25 00:01:28,440 --> 00:01:31,240 Speaker 2: did a study telling people in Cincinnati there's more homeless 26 00:01:31,319 --> 00:01:34,319 Speaker 2: children than you realize. They estimated that there was anywhere 27 00:01:34,360 --> 00:01:38,560 Speaker 2: between twelve to fifteen thousand children that were homeless during 28 00:01:38,600 --> 00:01:42,400 Speaker 2: the course of a year. And so the Northern Kentucky 29 00:01:42,440 --> 00:01:45,679 Speaker 2: Restaurant Association decided to do something about that thirty five 30 00:01:45,760 --> 00:01:50,040 Speaker 2: years ago and we started the Mardi Grass benefiting Holmost children. 31 00:01:50,200 --> 00:01:52,880 Speaker 2: And it's on a good run here. We're in thirty 32 00:01:53,080 --> 00:01:55,640 Speaker 2: Like you said, thirty five years. We've raised two point 33 00:01:55,720 --> 00:01:58,600 Speaker 2: nine three million dollars so far. This year we'll go 34 00:01:58,600 --> 00:01:59,880 Speaker 2: over three million dollar mark. 35 00:02:00,720 --> 00:02:02,760 Speaker 1: I can't wait for the event, and I hear it's 36 00:02:02,840 --> 00:02:04,600 Speaker 1: just a lot of fun. I'll ask you about how 37 00:02:04,600 --> 00:02:08,200 Speaker 1: people can get tickets in a second. The Joe Burrow Foundation, 38 00:02:09,040 --> 00:02:11,280 Speaker 1: you know, I will never forget as long as I live. 39 00:02:11,400 --> 00:02:14,520 Speaker 1: I went to school in Athens, Ohio, where Joe roughly 40 00:02:14,560 --> 00:02:19,120 Speaker 1: grew up in the planes right outside Athens. But anyway, Amy, 41 00:02:20,560 --> 00:02:24,000 Speaker 1: you are the executive director of this foundation. We read 42 00:02:24,080 --> 00:02:27,200 Speaker 1: so much about the Joe Burrow Foundation. I feel like 43 00:02:27,280 --> 00:02:30,120 Speaker 1: a lot of it started on that Heisman Trophy speech. 44 00:02:30,360 --> 00:02:32,360 Speaker 1: Is that fair to say? And then what has led 45 00:02:32,400 --> 00:02:34,200 Speaker 1: to the mission of this foundation? 46 00:02:34,919 --> 00:02:38,320 Speaker 3: Yeah, absolutely, definitely. Joe's Heisman speech has been a catalyst 47 00:02:38,360 --> 00:02:40,880 Speaker 3: for the launch of the foundation. Knowing that there are 48 00:02:40,960 --> 00:02:45,040 Speaker 3: families that don't have the resources, resources or opportunities to 49 00:02:45,120 --> 00:02:49,240 Speaker 3: succeed in life, and Joe witnessed that as a kid 50 00:02:49,280 --> 00:02:53,280 Speaker 3: growing up in the planes, growing up in Athens, seeing 51 00:02:54,000 --> 00:02:57,920 Speaker 3: his friends coming to school without food, without consistent access 52 00:02:57,960 --> 00:03:01,640 Speaker 3: to food, but not only healthy food. And so when 53 00:03:01,720 --> 00:03:04,440 Speaker 3: he was drafted by the Bengals, it was a natural 54 00:03:04,480 --> 00:03:08,160 Speaker 3: fit to start this. So the conversation really started when 55 00:03:08,200 --> 00:03:11,680 Speaker 3: he started here in Cincinnati and we launched the foundation 56 00:03:11,760 --> 00:03:15,440 Speaker 3: in twenty two with the focus of mental health and 57 00:03:15,440 --> 00:03:16,320 Speaker 3: food and security. 58 00:03:16,840 --> 00:03:20,200 Speaker 1: Why is a foundation stepping in now to be a 59 00:03:20,280 --> 00:03:23,440 Speaker 1: presenting sponsor for this event this year? 60 00:03:23,960 --> 00:03:27,040 Speaker 3: I think really this event and all the charities that 61 00:03:27,080 --> 00:03:29,520 Speaker 3: are involved are doing great work in our city, and 62 00:03:29,919 --> 00:03:32,240 Speaker 3: it felt just like a natural partnership for us to 63 00:03:32,320 --> 00:03:35,720 Speaker 3: join and be a part of this, you know, like 64 00:03:35,760 --> 00:03:39,400 Speaker 3: I said, our focus is providing resources and opportunities, and 65 00:03:39,520 --> 00:03:41,240 Speaker 3: there's a lot of people in our city that don't 66 00:03:41,240 --> 00:03:44,200 Speaker 3: have consistent access to healthy food, and so to come 67 00:03:44,240 --> 00:03:48,440 Speaker 3: alongside these organizations and make an impact and attend a 68 00:03:48,440 --> 00:03:50,920 Speaker 3: really fun event that happens to be about Marni girl 69 00:03:51,080 --> 00:03:52,440 Speaker 3: really just felt like a natural fit. 70 00:03:53,200 --> 00:03:55,720 Speaker 1: You know, you stop and think about it for a second, 71 00:03:55,880 --> 00:03:57,840 Speaker 1: and don you and I have known each other for 72 00:03:58,240 --> 00:04:01,200 Speaker 1: a number of years. The great work you guys do 73 00:04:01,320 --> 00:04:03,680 Speaker 1: over there at Mercedes Benz of Fort Mitchell in Northern 74 00:04:03,760 --> 00:04:07,720 Speaker 1: Kentucky thirteen years now, you guys have been affiliated with this. 75 00:04:08,720 --> 00:04:11,840 Speaker 1: Share with me why you guys do it? And maybe 76 00:04:11,840 --> 00:04:14,040 Speaker 1: there's a business owner out there that's thinking, you know, 77 00:04:14,040 --> 00:04:16,280 Speaker 1: our a business person out there that's thinking, hey, you 78 00:04:16,360 --> 00:04:19,040 Speaker 1: know what, this sounds like something we should get involved with. 79 00:04:19,120 --> 00:04:21,240 Speaker 1: Why should they and why are you guys all right? 80 00:04:21,279 --> 00:04:23,480 Speaker 4: Well, first of all, I agree, you know, businesses and 81 00:04:23,880 --> 00:04:26,279 Speaker 4: families should get involved in it. We decided a long 82 00:04:26,320 --> 00:04:28,279 Speaker 4: time ago when we came into it, because again, everybody 83 00:04:28,320 --> 00:04:31,320 Speaker 4: always said, oh, there shouldn't be a Mercedes Benz dealership 84 00:04:31,320 --> 00:04:35,240 Speaker 4: in Northern Kentucky. That's the demographics, aren't there? This that 85 00:04:35,400 --> 00:04:38,240 Speaker 4: we heard that over you'll never succeed, et cetera, et cetera. 86 00:04:38,320 --> 00:04:40,240 Speaker 4: So we always said, okay, well here's what we're going 87 00:04:40,279 --> 00:04:42,440 Speaker 4: to do. We're gonna prove everybody wrong and we're gonna 88 00:04:42,440 --> 00:04:44,880 Speaker 4: make the community better yep than when we got there. 89 00:04:44,960 --> 00:04:47,040 Speaker 4: And so we've always have been about giving back and 90 00:04:47,040 --> 00:04:50,560 Speaker 4: supporting charities. And this is I mean, quite frankly, this 91 00:04:50,640 --> 00:04:54,160 Speaker 4: is my favorite favorite event and favorite charity. The work 92 00:04:54,200 --> 00:04:57,159 Speaker 4: that these these three, these three charities do is just 93 00:04:57,480 --> 00:05:00,800 Speaker 4: absolutely spectacular. They have the tough job, there's no question, 94 00:05:00,920 --> 00:05:03,920 Speaker 4: and I'll never forget when you know, things like they 95 00:05:03,920 --> 00:05:06,640 Speaker 4: actually got a refrigerator because theirs that they had it 96 00:05:06,680 --> 00:05:09,520 Speaker 4: for ten years, you or fell out when hearing these stories. 97 00:05:10,000 --> 00:05:12,440 Speaker 4: You know, I'm fortunate enough we have you know, get 98 00:05:12,680 --> 00:05:15,159 Speaker 4: I get to selling service the nicest cars in the world, 99 00:05:15,200 --> 00:05:17,679 Speaker 4: but probably the strongest brand in the world. And because 100 00:05:17,720 --> 00:05:20,279 Speaker 4: of that, we always said we should give back. We 101 00:05:20,360 --> 00:05:22,800 Speaker 4: have the opportunity to give back, and why wouldn't we 102 00:05:22,839 --> 00:05:25,760 Speaker 4: do that? So I invite anyone that wants to give back, 103 00:05:25,839 --> 00:05:27,840 Speaker 4: first of all, on an event like this where you 104 00:05:27,839 --> 00:05:31,120 Speaker 4: can people have a great time. The charities get a 105 00:05:31,120 --> 00:05:32,839 Speaker 4: lot of money, which is great and they know what 106 00:05:32,839 --> 00:05:35,120 Speaker 4: they're doing with that and they do a wonderful job. 107 00:05:35,200 --> 00:05:37,240 Speaker 4: So we've been involved for thirteen years. 108 00:05:37,279 --> 00:05:37,800 Speaker 5: We love it. 109 00:05:37,800 --> 00:05:39,920 Speaker 4: It's kind of the cornerstone of what we do. And 110 00:05:40,080 --> 00:05:42,760 Speaker 4: you know, we've been very proud to be affiliated with everybody. 111 00:05:42,839 --> 00:05:44,400 Speaker 5: And again it is not too late. 112 00:05:44,480 --> 00:05:46,760 Speaker 1: Whether you're a person that might want to buy a table, 113 00:05:47,000 --> 00:05:49,560 Speaker 1: might want to buy a single ticket, your business is saying, hey, 114 00:05:49,560 --> 00:05:51,440 Speaker 1: I'd love to bring some of my employees down to 115 00:05:51,480 --> 00:05:53,960 Speaker 1: this kind of thing, and it's going to provide what 116 00:05:54,120 --> 00:05:59,279 Speaker 1: Gordy helped me here one hundred and fifty thousand meals 117 00:05:59,800 --> 00:06:02,840 Speaker 1: and annually that's correat through a number of different affiliated 118 00:06:02,839 --> 00:06:05,960 Speaker 1: programs that you have that actually do the quote unquote 119 00:06:06,160 --> 00:06:07,200 Speaker 1: real work, right. 120 00:06:07,160 --> 00:06:07,640 Speaker 5: That's right. 121 00:06:08,240 --> 00:06:12,520 Speaker 2: The three agencies involved are Bethany House in Cincinnati, Brighton 122 00:06:12,560 --> 00:06:15,920 Speaker 2: Center in Newport, and Welcome House in Covington, and all 123 00:06:15,960 --> 00:06:19,480 Speaker 2: three of those agencies house homeless children and families, and 124 00:06:19,640 --> 00:06:22,680 Speaker 2: the money that we raise goes to feed all those 125 00:06:22,760 --> 00:06:26,160 Speaker 2: children and families in those three agencies. So one hundred 126 00:06:26,200 --> 00:06:28,919 Speaker 2: and fifty thousand is a total annally of what the 127 00:06:28,960 --> 00:06:30,000 Speaker 2: meals that they prepare. 128 00:06:30,480 --> 00:06:32,560 Speaker 1: You know, look, I know there are people listening to 129 00:06:32,600 --> 00:06:35,400 Speaker 1: this program right now who might be in this exact 130 00:06:35,480 --> 00:06:39,480 Speaker 1: kind of situation. And we pray for you, for those 131 00:06:39,520 --> 00:06:43,080 Speaker 1: of us who can easily lose touch. And I am 132 00:06:43,120 --> 00:06:46,240 Speaker 1: guilty as charge at the very top of this list, 133 00:06:46,920 --> 00:06:49,159 Speaker 1: and maybe some of you listening are too. And look, 134 00:06:49,200 --> 00:06:52,159 Speaker 1: you're not alone. You know, we get into our I 135 00:06:52,240 --> 00:06:55,200 Speaker 1: call them the first world problems. Oh my gosh, you 136 00:06:55,200 --> 00:06:56,880 Speaker 1: know this is going on in my life or that's 137 00:06:56,880 --> 00:06:59,160 Speaker 1: going on in my life. And Amy, you know, I 138 00:06:59,520 --> 00:07:02,960 Speaker 1: know that. You know you talked about, you know, what 139 00:07:03,160 --> 00:07:05,240 Speaker 1: Joe saw in Athens. And for those that do not 140 00:07:05,560 --> 00:07:09,120 Speaker 1: hear his Heisman speech, I've always said it was the 141 00:07:09,160 --> 00:07:13,920 Speaker 1: best Heisman Trophy Award winning speech there has ever been 142 00:07:14,160 --> 00:07:18,280 Speaker 1: agreed in that program's history. But you know, he talked 143 00:07:18,320 --> 00:07:20,920 Speaker 1: about Amian and what you guys are stepping up to 144 00:07:20,960 --> 00:07:24,280 Speaker 1: help do, along with Don and Gordy and many many others. 145 00:07:24,720 --> 00:07:27,520 Speaker 1: Is you know, he saw kids that were coming to 146 00:07:27,600 --> 00:07:34,280 Speaker 1: school that had no idea the next bite of food 147 00:07:34,320 --> 00:07:36,800 Speaker 1: they were going to get, or when they left school 148 00:07:37,440 --> 00:07:39,679 Speaker 1: if there would be any food at home. 149 00:07:41,080 --> 00:07:44,440 Speaker 3: Yeah, exactly. And his mom was an elementary school principal. 150 00:07:44,560 --> 00:07:47,760 Speaker 3: She retired to work on the Foundation full time, and 151 00:07:47,800 --> 00:07:50,320 Speaker 3: so not only did they see it through the eyes 152 00:07:50,360 --> 00:07:52,800 Speaker 3: of Joe, but through the eyes of Robin as a 153 00:07:52,840 --> 00:07:59,120 Speaker 3: principal and educator, and so really just taking this opportunity, 154 00:07:59,200 --> 00:08:01,960 Speaker 3: taking his platform forum and turning it into doing good, 155 00:08:02,000 --> 00:08:06,360 Speaker 3: which is really our motto for the foundation. Everybody has 156 00:08:06,360 --> 00:08:09,800 Speaker 3: the opportunity to do good is something that Joe lives by, 157 00:08:10,320 --> 00:08:12,600 Speaker 3: and so this is a chance for anybody that wants 158 00:08:12,640 --> 00:08:15,680 Speaker 3: to step up and be a part of something spectacular 159 00:08:15,720 --> 00:08:18,320 Speaker 3: and make an impact in our city to join us. 160 00:08:18,880 --> 00:08:21,880 Speaker 3: You know, the Jeffrey By Foundation is a part of 161 00:08:21,920 --> 00:08:24,560 Speaker 3: it as well, and so join us in this mission 162 00:08:24,720 --> 00:08:27,520 Speaker 3: to help and feed the homeless kids in our city. 163 00:08:27,600 --> 00:08:29,800 Speaker 1: Well, I just think it's so fantastic that you guys 164 00:08:29,800 --> 00:08:32,200 Speaker 1: are stepping up as a presenting sponsor and of course 165 00:08:32,240 --> 00:08:35,079 Speaker 1: also sponsoring. This event would not be possible without the 166 00:08:35,120 --> 00:08:40,079 Speaker 1: support of many businesses, including Don Paparella, the general manager 167 00:08:40,120 --> 00:08:45,480 Speaker 1: over at Mercedes Benz of Fort Mitchell. You know, Don, 168 00:08:45,559 --> 00:08:47,440 Speaker 1: before we get to some of the particulars of the event, 169 00:08:47,520 --> 00:08:49,400 Speaker 1: I know you go to the event I do, and 170 00:08:49,400 --> 00:08:50,920 Speaker 1: you said it's actually your favorite event. 171 00:08:50,960 --> 00:08:53,360 Speaker 5: It's our favorite event. We love that wife and I go, 172 00:08:53,600 --> 00:08:55,440 Speaker 5: what do you like about it for people never been. 173 00:08:55,559 --> 00:08:57,360 Speaker 5: I've never been, and I got to work to think. 174 00:08:57,440 --> 00:09:00,280 Speaker 4: If you've never been, the food become hungry for okay, 175 00:09:00,360 --> 00:09:03,800 Speaker 4: all right, food is great. You get all the local restaurants. 176 00:09:03,840 --> 00:09:05,880 Speaker 4: I think they try to outdo one another. The Jeff 177 00:09:06,280 --> 00:09:09,200 Speaker 4: the Ruby crew is unbelievable and all the restaurants are 178 00:09:09,400 --> 00:09:12,400 Speaker 4: so the come hungry. The food's great, the drinks are great. 179 00:09:12,760 --> 00:09:15,680 Speaker 4: The atmosphere is unbelievable. It was one time I'm cut 180 00:09:15,679 --> 00:09:18,559 Speaker 4: off from the Silent Auction because one time I I've 181 00:09:18,559 --> 00:09:20,480 Speaker 4: been on twelve of them, and all of a sudden 182 00:09:20,640 --> 00:09:22,080 Speaker 4: we got to call the next day that I had 183 00:09:22,120 --> 00:09:23,000 Speaker 4: won eight of the twelve. 184 00:09:23,160 --> 00:09:27,160 Speaker 5: My wife's shaking her head for the kids. That's right, 185 00:09:27,200 --> 00:09:29,200 Speaker 5: that's right, kids, that's right. We had a great time. 186 00:09:29,240 --> 00:09:30,520 Speaker 5: It was very but she was right. 187 00:09:30,520 --> 00:09:31,800 Speaker 4: I don't think we used any of the stuff, but 188 00:09:31,800 --> 00:09:34,040 Speaker 4: it was well worth it. But you know that's and 189 00:09:34,080 --> 00:09:37,840 Speaker 4: the music's great, and you know the celebrities that'll be there, 190 00:09:38,000 --> 00:09:39,240 Speaker 4: and it's just a it's. 191 00:09:39,080 --> 00:09:39,800 Speaker 5: A great time. 192 00:09:39,880 --> 00:09:42,080 Speaker 1: Well, I know you're going to see Sarah. She is 193 00:09:42,360 --> 00:09:45,679 Speaker 1: co hosting this event with John John Uh and myself 194 00:09:45,720 --> 00:09:47,920 Speaker 1: and today Sarah's birthday I don't know if you knew that. Well, 195 00:09:48,080 --> 00:09:50,560 Speaker 1: so when you see her, make sure you wish her 196 00:09:50,840 --> 00:09:54,040 Speaker 1: a happy, happy birthday, Sarah. At least before we get 197 00:09:54,040 --> 00:09:58,760 Speaker 1: out of here, Gordy, tell them everybody all the particulars, 198 00:09:59,120 --> 00:10:00,960 Speaker 1: because right now they might I'd be riding in their car. 199 00:10:01,280 --> 00:10:05,160 Speaker 1: They're wondering, Okay, when is it before we go any further. 200 00:10:05,240 --> 00:10:08,280 Speaker 1: I've been told by everybody here at the station that's 201 00:10:08,320 --> 00:10:11,199 Speaker 1: been a part of this forever, right, yes, Tom, take 202 00:10:11,240 --> 00:10:13,280 Speaker 1: the next day off. 203 00:10:13,960 --> 00:10:15,640 Speaker 5: I think that was the first thing I mentioned to 204 00:10:15,679 --> 00:10:16,520 Speaker 5: you here. 205 00:10:16,559 --> 00:10:19,280 Speaker 1: Go on right you started it, and then I've heard 206 00:10:19,280 --> 00:10:21,880 Speaker 1: it from like thirty five other people around here. Okay, 207 00:10:22,040 --> 00:10:26,480 Speaker 1: date time, where how much does it cost? All those 208 00:10:26,559 --> 00:10:28,880 Speaker 1: kind of things where we can find tickets? Well, it's 209 00:10:28,920 --> 00:10:31,679 Speaker 1: fat Tuesday, Okay, That's why I said the next day 210 00:10:31,679 --> 00:10:34,439 Speaker 1: of getting up at three am aut February seventeenth. 211 00:10:34,440 --> 00:10:37,400 Speaker 2: Okay, yep, it's a great day. And keep in mind 212 00:10:37,559 --> 00:10:42,360 Speaker 2: that Valentine's Day is February fourteenth, so what a great 213 00:10:42,400 --> 00:10:44,960 Speaker 2: way to celebrate Valentine's Day, maybe a couple of days 214 00:10:45,040 --> 00:10:47,959 Speaker 2: later on the seventeenth, and a great way to support 215 00:10:48,000 --> 00:10:51,040 Speaker 2: this event. But it is the Northern Kentucky Convention Center 216 00:10:51,160 --> 00:10:54,599 Speaker 2: right across the bridge, and again five point thirty to 217 00:10:55,800 --> 00:10:59,199 Speaker 2: ten o'clock, we have some wonderful entertainment there. DV eight 218 00:10:59,400 --> 00:11:02,280 Speaker 2: is live and entertainment. We have a parade that night 219 00:11:02,840 --> 00:11:10,080 Speaker 2: that'll be led by the the you know, Beachmont right, Beachwood, Beachwood, 220 00:11:10,080 --> 00:11:13,040 Speaker 2: I'll get right Beachwood Marching band, great school. 221 00:11:12,840 --> 00:11:15,800 Speaker 5: Marching Bandwood right there across the highway for you. Yeah. 222 00:11:15,840 --> 00:11:17,760 Speaker 2: Yeah, And they do a wonderful job for us of year. 223 00:11:17,800 --> 00:11:19,160 Speaker 2: I think they've been a part of it now for 224 00:11:19,200 --> 00:11:23,040 Speaker 2: about ten or twelve years, at least maybe fifteen years. 225 00:11:23,360 --> 00:11:25,640 Speaker 2: And in addition to that, in addition to the prey, 226 00:11:25,720 --> 00:11:27,880 Speaker 2: we have a as Don mentioned, we have a great 227 00:11:27,920 --> 00:11:30,840 Speaker 2: silent auction with probably over one hundred items to bid on, 228 00:11:31,240 --> 00:11:33,520 Speaker 2: and we also have a live live auction that night too, 229 00:11:33,760 --> 00:11:35,600 Speaker 2: about six wonderful items to bid on. 230 00:11:35,760 --> 00:11:39,280 Speaker 1: Now, one question I have for you about this gig. Okay, 231 00:11:40,120 --> 00:11:42,840 Speaker 1: am I doing the live auction or do you bring 232 00:11:42,840 --> 00:11:44,040 Speaker 1: in a live auctioneer? 233 00:11:44,080 --> 00:11:46,600 Speaker 2: How does that work? We have a live auction? Yeah, 234 00:11:47,000 --> 00:11:49,480 Speaker 2: actually pretty damn good. It's a father and son. But 235 00:11:50,120 --> 00:11:52,160 Speaker 2: you're also part of it. Okay, you're a big part 236 00:11:52,200 --> 00:11:54,760 Speaker 2: of it, all right, and you're also I mean, I'm 237 00:11:54,760 --> 00:11:56,720 Speaker 2: not very good at many things, but I ain't bad 238 00:11:56,760 --> 00:11:57,000 Speaker 2: at that. 239 00:11:57,440 --> 00:11:59,360 Speaker 5: You're You're going to be right in the mix of it. Okay, 240 00:11:59,440 --> 00:12:00,560 Speaker 5: all right, that's fair enough. 241 00:12:00,760 --> 00:12:04,080 Speaker 1: I just can't you know, I really get emotional about 242 00:12:04,120 --> 00:12:07,800 Speaker 1: it because you don't have to be a parent to 243 00:12:09,080 --> 00:12:15,960 Speaker 1: understand that there are a homeless children out there, a 244 00:12:16,080 --> 00:12:18,520 Speaker 1: lot of them, tens of thousands, as you mentioned just 245 00:12:18,559 --> 00:12:22,600 Speaker 1: a minute ago, Gordy, and that there are even more 246 00:12:23,360 --> 00:12:29,720 Speaker 1: that might have a home, but there's no open in 247 00:12:29,720 --> 00:12:33,600 Speaker 1: the fridge and making a ham sandwich and so anything 248 00:12:33,600 --> 00:12:37,000 Speaker 1: we can do, and we are very proud here at 249 00:12:37,320 --> 00:12:40,000 Speaker 1: iHeartMedia to be a part of this, Jen, You've done 250 00:12:40,040 --> 00:12:43,040 Speaker 1: a phenomenal job putting this whole thing together, and I 251 00:12:43,080 --> 00:12:46,240 Speaker 1: can't thank all of you enough. I can't waitinful and 252 00:12:46,320 --> 00:12:48,480 Speaker 1: thankful and humble to be a part of it. So 253 00:12:48,960 --> 00:12:50,760 Speaker 1: all the best at night, I can't wait. 254 00:12:51,040 --> 00:12:53,160 Speaker 2: We can't wait to see you that night and thank 255 00:12:53,200 --> 00:12:56,200 Speaker 2: you for everything that you guys do, and as an MC, 256 00:12:56,400 --> 00:12:58,920 Speaker 2: that night you will be part of the life buks. 257 00:12:59,000 --> 00:13:01,400 Speaker 5: Okay, I'm game for that. A lot of people. You know, 258 00:13:01,440 --> 00:13:03,640 Speaker 5: my dad, he's like I'm not doing nothing to do 259 00:13:03,720 --> 00:13:03,880 Speaker 5: with that. 260 00:13:04,679 --> 00:13:07,040 Speaker 1: I'm like, I love it because I'll know a lot 261 00:13:07,080 --> 00:13:07,600 Speaker 1: of people there. 262 00:13:07,640 --> 00:13:11,880 Speaker 5: I think I can humiliate a lot here right feel 263 00:13:11,880 --> 00:13:12,480 Speaker 5: like they have the bit. 264 00:13:12,559 --> 00:13:15,640 Speaker 1: You're the absolutely call them out by name and reach 265 00:13:15,679 --> 00:13:16,640 Speaker 1: in those pockets and. 266 00:13:16,640 --> 00:13:19,800 Speaker 5: Let's feed kids that need. 267 00:13:21,200 --> 00:13:26,640 Speaker 1: The most simple thing air, water, food, right, love love 268 00:13:26,880 --> 00:13:27,360 Speaker 1: number one. 269 00:13:27,440 --> 00:13:29,760 Speaker 2: Okay, And lastly, Tom, you can go out and find 270 00:13:29,800 --> 00:13:32,960 Speaker 2: out more information or get tickets or even become a 271 00:13:33,000 --> 00:13:36,400 Speaker 2: sponsor of the event at Marti Graw twenty twenty six 272 00:13:36,480 --> 00:13:37,080 Speaker 2: dot org. 273 00:13:37,160 --> 00:13:40,199 Speaker 1: Okay, that is Marty Graw m A R d I 274 00:13:40,480 --> 00:13:45,600 Speaker 1: Graw g r A S twenty twenty six dot org. 275 00:13:46,080 --> 00:13:48,120 Speaker 1: You guys are the best. 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This is part four of 286 00:14:21,440 --> 00:14:25,280 Speaker 1: our four week series Chad, good morning. Let's take everybody 287 00:14:25,320 --> 00:14:31,000 Speaker 1: through in case they miss the first three, summarize one, two, 288 00:14:31,040 --> 00:14:32,800 Speaker 1: and three in our series. 289 00:14:32,920 --> 00:14:36,280 Speaker 5: If you wouldn't mind, please yeah, sure. 290 00:14:36,440 --> 00:14:37,720 Speaker 6: Well, if you want to be who you want to 291 00:14:37,720 --> 00:14:39,600 Speaker 6: be or the me I want to be, number one, 292 00:14:39,680 --> 00:14:41,880 Speaker 6: you got to tell yourself I need to stop saying 293 00:14:41,920 --> 00:14:44,760 Speaker 6: I'm too busy. Instead say it's not a priority, and 294 00:14:44,800 --> 00:14:47,560 Speaker 6: that will immediately kind of focus you on what you're 295 00:14:47,600 --> 00:14:50,320 Speaker 6: really saying and get rid of those deflection and those 296 00:14:50,360 --> 00:14:53,840 Speaker 6: excuses that we all make. Secondly, instead of focusing on 297 00:14:53,880 --> 00:14:56,120 Speaker 6: a to do list, focus on a to B list, 298 00:14:56,520 --> 00:14:59,240 Speaker 6: which is what kind of person am I becoming? And 299 00:14:59,360 --> 00:15:02,440 Speaker 6: are the things I'm prioritizing helping me become that person? 300 00:15:03,000 --> 00:15:05,400 Speaker 6: And that to B list then drives the real sense 301 00:15:05,400 --> 00:15:09,080 Speaker 6: of who I'm becoming. You can even think about real purposely, 302 00:15:09,280 --> 00:15:13,640 Speaker 6: who's someone in my life, my grandpa, my coach, my father, 303 00:15:13,840 --> 00:15:16,520 Speaker 6: somebody who you really emulates and it might be accommodation 304 00:15:16,640 --> 00:15:20,280 Speaker 6: of people who make that to be lists. And then lastly, 305 00:15:20,360 --> 00:15:22,520 Speaker 6: we talked about last week was a hierarchy of needs, 306 00:15:22,640 --> 00:15:24,920 Speaker 6: which is at some point we're going to cheat one 307 00:15:24,920 --> 00:15:28,280 Speaker 6: priority for another. And so do you know which of 308 00:15:28,320 --> 00:15:31,760 Speaker 6: your priorities comes first, second, third, fourth, So when they're 309 00:15:31,760 --> 00:15:34,280 Speaker 6: in collision, and they will often be in collision, do 310 00:15:34,320 --> 00:15:36,600 Speaker 6: you know which one are you're going to cheat, or 311 00:15:36,600 --> 00:15:38,760 Speaker 6: which one you're going to deprioritize, or which ones are 312 00:15:38,760 --> 00:15:40,760 Speaker 6: going to be subordinated to the other ones. And that 313 00:15:40,800 --> 00:15:44,000 Speaker 6: really helps you understand what's the bigger issues here as 314 00:15:44,040 --> 00:15:47,080 Speaker 6: you're prioritizing. And I liken that to the hierarchy of 315 00:15:47,080 --> 00:15:52,320 Speaker 6: needs by Masla Maslaw and thinking that maybe our spiritual needs, 316 00:15:52,720 --> 00:15:55,320 Speaker 6: our immaterial needs are more important than we think we 317 00:15:55,440 --> 00:15:57,360 Speaker 6: if they are. Instead of being the last thing on 318 00:15:57,400 --> 00:15:58,800 Speaker 6: the list, maybe they should be the first thing in 319 00:15:58,800 --> 00:16:01,040 Speaker 6: the list. Who am I? What am I becoming? What 320 00:16:01,160 --> 00:16:03,920 Speaker 6: really matters? Can I answer questions like, you know, what's 321 00:16:03,920 --> 00:16:05,760 Speaker 6: the problem in life? The solution in life? What am 322 00:16:05,800 --> 00:16:07,720 Speaker 6: I doing about it? What's the truth? Stuff like that? 323 00:16:07,880 --> 00:16:10,480 Speaker 1: Well, you know, before we get to before we get 324 00:16:10,480 --> 00:16:12,440 Speaker 1: to number four, you know, really at the end of 325 00:16:12,520 --> 00:16:15,200 Speaker 1: the day, I would imagine and correct me if I'm wrong. 326 00:16:15,240 --> 00:16:18,760 Speaker 1: I mean, you're around a lot of people that have 327 00:16:18,960 --> 00:16:21,680 Speaker 1: been believers for a long time. They've been in the 328 00:16:21,760 --> 00:16:24,400 Speaker 1: church for a long time, they work at the church, 329 00:16:24,480 --> 00:16:28,320 Speaker 1: they volunteer at the church, but they still might find 330 00:16:28,360 --> 00:16:32,840 Speaker 1: themselves asking those eternal questions like you just said, right. 331 00:16:32,800 --> 00:16:35,720 Speaker 6: Without a doubt. Yeah, And even if you're asking those questions, 332 00:16:36,120 --> 00:16:37,560 Speaker 6: it doesn't mean you know how to apply it. A 333 00:16:37,560 --> 00:16:40,240 Speaker 6: lot of folks might think, Hey, I'm asking the question 334 00:16:40,360 --> 00:16:43,480 Speaker 6: who am I? What happens when I die? And you know, 335 00:16:43,480 --> 00:16:46,080 Speaker 6: what's a problem and solution to life? It's one thing 336 00:16:46,120 --> 00:16:48,120 Speaker 6: to wrestle with the questions. And I talk with folks 337 00:16:48,200 --> 00:16:50,840 Speaker 6: who are just starting that journey, and I talk to 338 00:16:50,880 --> 00:16:53,600 Speaker 6: folks who think they have answers. But just because you 339 00:16:53,640 --> 00:16:56,160 Speaker 6: think you have an answer, then suddenly you hit a 340 00:16:56,200 --> 00:16:59,480 Speaker 6: cancer diagnosis, you hit a prodigal sun issue, you hit 341 00:16:59,560 --> 00:17:03,480 Speaker 6: a really devastating moment. Then you start asking yourself, what 342 00:17:03,520 --> 00:17:05,800 Speaker 6: does it look like for someone who believes this to 343 00:17:05,840 --> 00:17:09,760 Speaker 6: apply it in this situation. And there's no Jewish concept, 344 00:17:09,920 --> 00:17:12,159 Speaker 6: which is that not just what do you believe? But 345 00:17:12,200 --> 00:17:15,840 Speaker 6: how deeply do you believe what you believe? And oftentimes 346 00:17:15,880 --> 00:17:18,720 Speaker 6: we believe something, it just hasn't saturated or soaked in 347 00:17:18,840 --> 00:17:21,720 Speaker 6: deeply into our minds and hearts. It means it has. 348 00:17:21,760 --> 00:17:23,399 Speaker 6: Then you're like I just don't know how to apply 349 00:17:23,480 --> 00:17:26,000 Speaker 6: it here. I've never been on this road, I've never 350 00:17:26,040 --> 00:17:29,879 Speaker 6: been in this situation, and so really helping people wherever 351 00:17:29,880 --> 00:17:34,240 Speaker 6: they are the spiritual pilgrimage, whether they're rookies or veterans. 352 00:17:34,640 --> 00:17:36,159 Speaker 6: It's a chance to say I want to know what 353 00:17:36,280 --> 00:17:38,760 Speaker 6: really matters and I want to try and incorporate that 354 00:17:38,800 --> 00:17:39,440 Speaker 6: in my life. 355 00:17:39,920 --> 00:17:42,800 Speaker 1: All Right, we now come to the fourth and final 356 00:17:42,880 --> 00:17:45,560 Speaker 1: chapter of the series, The Me I Want to Be 357 00:17:45,760 --> 00:17:49,520 Speaker 1: And you called this one the time machine. 358 00:17:49,920 --> 00:17:51,879 Speaker 6: Yes, the time machines. I don't know if you're a 359 00:17:51,880 --> 00:17:54,159 Speaker 6: fan of Oh love it? 360 00:17:55,000 --> 00:17:55,320 Speaker 5: Okay? 361 00:17:55,400 --> 00:17:57,400 Speaker 6: Well, I think I'm Mary, the only woman who loves 362 00:17:57,400 --> 00:18:00,600 Speaker 6: sci fi more than me. Of Perfect Marriage, But one 363 00:18:00,640 --> 00:18:02,679 Speaker 6: of my favorites is back to the future, just the 364 00:18:02,720 --> 00:18:04,520 Speaker 6: idea of what would you like to go back and 365 00:18:04,520 --> 00:18:07,520 Speaker 6: see your parents in high school? And I love of course? 366 00:18:07,720 --> 00:18:09,440 Speaker 6: Uh the doc Doc Brown. 367 00:18:11,240 --> 00:18:12,200 Speaker 5: Take a multipling? 368 00:18:13,840 --> 00:18:18,080 Speaker 6: What ye like? Doc comes back to Marty. What if 369 00:18:18,280 --> 00:18:22,440 Speaker 6: suddenly flex capacitor Deloreian comes flying into your neighborhood, door 370 00:18:22,480 --> 00:18:26,439 Speaker 6: flies open and it's you from five years later? So 371 00:18:26,520 --> 00:18:29,080 Speaker 6: five years from now? Uh, you know, what is a 372 00:18:29,200 --> 00:18:32,720 Speaker 6: twenty thirty one and you show up? What would you 373 00:18:33,560 --> 00:18:36,840 Speaker 6: tell you, if you came back in time from five 374 00:18:36,920 --> 00:18:40,800 Speaker 6: years from now, you might say, you know what, if 375 00:18:40,840 --> 00:18:43,040 Speaker 6: you just put a little bit more savings in each week, 376 00:18:43,800 --> 00:18:46,639 Speaker 6: if you just reprioritize a little less spending in a 377 00:18:47,000 --> 00:18:49,760 Speaker 6: and a little more giving and be you'd be a 378 00:18:49,800 --> 00:18:52,920 Speaker 6: more generous person. Oh my goodness, is really some incredible 379 00:18:52,920 --> 00:18:54,720 Speaker 6: investments to be possible if you just have a little 380 00:18:54,720 --> 00:18:57,160 Speaker 6: more discipline. There are some habits right now that are 381 00:18:57,160 --> 00:18:58,720 Speaker 6: really good. If you could just put a little more 382 00:18:58,760 --> 00:19:01,240 Speaker 6: time into that. You're not going to believe the benefit 383 00:19:01,320 --> 00:19:03,840 Speaker 6: that's going to have for the friendships you're going to 384 00:19:03,880 --> 00:19:05,440 Speaker 6: form because you're kind of put that off for the last 385 00:19:05,480 --> 00:19:08,160 Speaker 6: twenty years. More the times you can put a little 386 00:19:08,160 --> 00:19:11,119 Speaker 6: bit more time to this area, if you could kind 387 00:19:11,160 --> 00:19:14,439 Speaker 6: of harness your energy into this area. Or maybe in 388 00:19:14,480 --> 00:19:17,080 Speaker 6: a warning side, hey listen, if you don't stop that habit, 389 00:19:17,320 --> 00:19:19,400 Speaker 6: or if you don't do some things about your health, 390 00:19:19,400 --> 00:19:22,320 Speaker 6: there's a heart attack coming you would suddenly. Or maybe 391 00:19:22,359 --> 00:19:24,920 Speaker 6: it's a habit like hey, right now, I know you love, 392 00:19:25,240 --> 00:19:27,320 Speaker 6: you know, whether it's a son or daughter, or whether 393 00:19:27,359 --> 00:19:29,840 Speaker 6: it's a person in your life, but it's really not 394 00:19:30,040 --> 00:19:34,080 Speaker 6: as much love as an enabling codependent behavior, and boy, 395 00:19:34,200 --> 00:19:36,920 Speaker 6: if you don't let that person hit rock bottom, they 396 00:19:37,040 --> 00:19:40,119 Speaker 6: are not going to hurt bad enough to change. And 397 00:19:40,160 --> 00:19:41,560 Speaker 6: so I know it's going to be hard right now, 398 00:19:41,600 --> 00:19:44,440 Speaker 6: but you might need to actually stop enabling some behaviors 399 00:19:44,440 --> 00:19:48,240 Speaker 6: so they can hit rock bottom sooner so that you're 400 00:19:48,280 --> 00:19:50,160 Speaker 6: not kind of tangled in that and they can make 401 00:19:50,160 --> 00:19:53,080 Speaker 6: the change they want. So what would you tell you 402 00:19:53,520 --> 00:19:55,480 Speaker 6: if you came back in time from five years from 403 00:19:55,520 --> 00:19:58,680 Speaker 6: now and said, hey, there's some real things you could 404 00:19:58,680 --> 00:20:01,240 Speaker 6: do that could make a big difference. So we've had 405 00:20:01,240 --> 00:20:03,000 Speaker 6: this kind of two ideas. One is called the principle 406 00:20:03,000 --> 00:20:04,560 Speaker 6: of the path and the other is the honing of 407 00:20:04,560 --> 00:20:08,160 Speaker 6: habits and the proverbs kind of moving the stained class 408 00:20:08,160 --> 00:20:10,800 Speaker 6: for a second. There's these ancient proverbs that say all 409 00:20:10,800 --> 00:20:13,080 Speaker 6: of us are on a path. We like to think 410 00:20:13,080 --> 00:20:15,800 Speaker 6: of everything we do as isolated moments, but we're on 411 00:20:15,840 --> 00:20:19,560 Speaker 6: a path. And this old proverb says the fool while 412 00:20:19,640 --> 00:20:22,560 Speaker 6: say the wise man. The wise man sees danger coming 413 00:20:22,880 --> 00:20:27,280 Speaker 6: and hides himself. The fool keeps going and suffers for it, 414 00:20:28,320 --> 00:20:30,240 Speaker 6: And the wise man goes, this is just a decision. 415 00:20:30,280 --> 00:20:34,159 Speaker 6: I just started down a path. Oh, I've seen people 416 00:20:34,200 --> 00:20:36,920 Speaker 6: on this path. And there's two ways to learn in life. 417 00:20:36,960 --> 00:20:38,679 Speaker 6: You know, the fool learns from his own mistakes. The 418 00:20:38,680 --> 00:20:41,399 Speaker 6: wise man learns from the other people's mistakes. And you 419 00:20:41,440 --> 00:20:44,560 Speaker 6: start recognizing, I'm on a path here, and this path 420 00:20:44,600 --> 00:20:47,679 Speaker 6: in two years, three years, or four years, this is 421 00:20:47,760 --> 00:20:51,159 Speaker 6: going to either be great benefits to me or it's 422 00:20:51,240 --> 00:20:55,280 Speaker 6: going to be quite destructive. And every person I've ever 423 00:20:55,320 --> 00:20:57,880 Speaker 6: known who's been on a path and you pass them, 424 00:20:57,960 --> 00:21:00,800 Speaker 6: you have counties with your kids, a friend, whatever your path, 425 00:21:00,840 --> 00:21:03,160 Speaker 6: I'm not sure this is really healthy for your marriage. 426 00:21:03,280 --> 00:21:04,840 Speaker 6: I saw you talk to your wife, I saw you 427 00:21:04,840 --> 00:21:08,600 Speaker 6: had flirted with blah blah blah. You know. And and 428 00:21:09,119 --> 00:21:12,200 Speaker 6: all the time people say it was never my intention 429 00:21:12,560 --> 00:21:15,520 Speaker 6: to get hurt. But here's the truth. When it comes 430 00:21:15,560 --> 00:21:20,920 Speaker 6: to pass, our attention, not our intention, determines our direction. Yeah, 431 00:21:20,960 --> 00:21:24,680 Speaker 6: and so what are you giving attention to? That's your path. 432 00:21:25,040 --> 00:21:28,399 Speaker 6: What are you not giving your attention to that's your past. 433 00:21:28,760 --> 00:21:32,800 Speaker 6: I've seen people walk down horribly destructive paths with friends 434 00:21:32,840 --> 00:21:36,120 Speaker 6: and neighbors and spouses yelling, hey, they're in trouble. I'm 435 00:21:36,119 --> 00:21:39,720 Speaker 6: not in trouble. Mind your own business, get away from me. Yeah, whatever, 436 00:21:39,920 --> 00:21:42,480 Speaker 6: And you're like, oh, my goodness, buddy, if there is 437 00:21:42,520 --> 00:21:45,720 Speaker 6: a cliff coming, I've seen people follow that cliff. I'll 438 00:21:45,760 --> 00:21:47,639 Speaker 6: be delighted to throw your rope when you're off the cliff. 439 00:21:47,680 --> 00:21:50,240 Speaker 6: But man, there's so much better ways to learn this. 440 00:21:51,000 --> 00:21:55,159 Speaker 6: So I think to recognize that that phrase we tell ourselves, 441 00:21:55,400 --> 00:21:57,800 Speaker 6: I don't intend it. I never intended for that to happen. 442 00:21:58,200 --> 00:22:00,760 Speaker 6: That will not help you at all. The question you'd 443 00:22:00,760 --> 00:22:03,200 Speaker 6: ask yourself is not your intentions, but what is your 444 00:22:03,400 --> 00:22:05,880 Speaker 6: attention and what path are you on that you might 445 00:22:05,920 --> 00:22:08,399 Speaker 6: want to warn yourself about five years from now, or 446 00:22:08,400 --> 00:22:10,600 Speaker 6: on the good side, you'd want to praise yourself. Man, 447 00:22:10,680 --> 00:22:13,400 Speaker 6: way to go. You know that was hard to James 448 00:22:13,480 --> 00:22:16,320 Speaker 6: to your diet. It's really tough to put an extra 449 00:22:16,359 --> 00:22:19,359 Speaker 6: two percent in your saving that. It was really tough 450 00:22:19,359 --> 00:22:21,639 Speaker 6: to be as generous as you chose to be. But 451 00:22:21,680 --> 00:22:24,760 Speaker 6: you won't believe just a dividend that generosity has paid 452 00:22:24,800 --> 00:22:27,320 Speaker 6: in your life or in the nonprofit you gave to, 453 00:22:27,440 --> 00:22:29,360 Speaker 6: or whatever it is. So I think that's the first 454 00:22:29,359 --> 00:22:30,760 Speaker 6: thing I talked was just the principle the path. 455 00:22:31,000 --> 00:22:35,120 Speaker 1: You know, you spark something there when you talked about 456 00:22:35,200 --> 00:22:37,760 Speaker 1: how you know the difference between the wise man and 457 00:22:37,800 --> 00:22:42,439 Speaker 1: the fool. You see it all the time. I know 458 00:22:42,560 --> 00:22:47,600 Speaker 1: it from just personal experience myself. Is that I also 459 00:22:47,800 --> 00:22:50,159 Speaker 1: feel like there are a lot of us out there, 460 00:22:50,240 --> 00:22:50,640 Speaker 1: and you. 461 00:22:50,560 --> 00:22:52,639 Speaker 5: Know this, You've forgotten more about this, and I'll ever know. 462 00:22:52,720 --> 00:22:54,920 Speaker 1: And all the work that you do with counseling couples 463 00:22:55,000 --> 00:22:58,000 Speaker 1: or individuals or whatever the case may be, is that 464 00:22:58,760 --> 00:23:05,679 Speaker 1: you know one could probably be both of those things 465 00:23:05,720 --> 00:23:09,240 Speaker 1: at the same time, if there is such. So what 466 00:23:09,280 --> 00:23:12,119 Speaker 1: I mean by that is is that I can know 467 00:23:12,920 --> 00:23:15,240 Speaker 1: that I can look at that fool's path or I 468 00:23:15,359 --> 00:23:18,520 Speaker 1: might not look better yet I might know somebody else 469 00:23:18,840 --> 00:23:23,080 Speaker 1: who I've seen walk down that fool's path, whatever it is, right, 470 00:23:23,200 --> 00:23:27,800 Speaker 1: pick any number of things, okay, But as you and 471 00:23:27,840 --> 00:23:30,959 Speaker 1: I both know, Chad, it's hard to walk in another 472 00:23:31,119 --> 00:23:34,639 Speaker 1: person's shoes, good, bad, or indifferent. Yes, I mean, I 473 00:23:34,680 --> 00:23:36,680 Speaker 1: can't talk about certain things that have to do with 474 00:23:36,760 --> 00:23:41,120 Speaker 1: African Americans. I've never been black, right, I can't talk 475 00:23:41,119 --> 00:23:44,560 Speaker 1: about certain things with phil a woman, what it's like 476 00:23:44,600 --> 00:23:46,720 Speaker 1: to be pregnant, what it's like to deliver a child, 477 00:23:46,760 --> 00:23:47,520 Speaker 1: what's menopause. 478 00:23:47,720 --> 00:23:49,080 Speaker 5: I'm never going to be a woman, right. 479 00:23:49,280 --> 00:23:53,920 Speaker 1: So oftentimes I think and drifting in now to the 480 00:23:54,040 --> 00:23:57,440 Speaker 1: stained glass part of this. Don't you think a lot 481 00:23:57,440 --> 00:24:01,280 Speaker 1: of times it's not that the God is leading us 482 00:24:01,320 --> 00:24:05,679 Speaker 1: to destruction, but he might let us walk down that 483 00:24:05,840 --> 00:24:09,360 Speaker 1: path because we have to learn for ourselves and then 484 00:24:09,440 --> 00:24:12,080 Speaker 1: how we can be used to help others once we 485 00:24:12,160 --> 00:24:13,639 Speaker 1: do learn from our mistakes. 486 00:24:14,800 --> 00:24:16,840 Speaker 6: Well with that doubt, in fact, I would say that 487 00:24:17,400 --> 00:24:19,720 Speaker 6: God's never trying to leave it down path instruction. God's 488 00:24:19,720 --> 00:24:21,960 Speaker 6: almost always trying to warn you not to go down there. 489 00:24:22,200 --> 00:24:25,320 Speaker 6: But again, God is not codependent like we are. You know, 490 00:24:25,400 --> 00:24:27,280 Speaker 6: I don't like to see people I love and pain 491 00:24:27,400 --> 00:24:31,160 Speaker 6: the short term or long term. God's got a broader scale, 492 00:24:31,200 --> 00:24:32,600 Speaker 6: so he's like, you know what, You're gonna have to 493 00:24:32,680 --> 00:24:35,040 Speaker 6: learn this one the hard way. And you've ever parented 494 00:24:35,119 --> 00:24:39,120 Speaker 6: kids now usually have one kid who does learn the Ethay, Okay, 495 00:24:39,160 --> 00:24:41,040 Speaker 6: I'm gonna trust mom and dad. The other ones like, 496 00:24:41,840 --> 00:24:44,919 Speaker 6: there's like carnage around them. They haven't learned it. And 497 00:24:45,000 --> 00:24:47,680 Speaker 6: I think God knows enough to say, hey, you're gonna 498 00:24:47,760 --> 00:24:49,680 Speaker 6: learn some important things on this path. You're going to 499 00:24:49,720 --> 00:24:52,880 Speaker 6: learn some important things in this valley. I'm never the 500 00:24:52,920 --> 00:24:57,160 Speaker 6: author of evil, but I'm also trying to build into 501 00:24:57,160 --> 00:24:59,600 Speaker 6: something trying to create you into something, and I want 502 00:24:59,640 --> 00:25:01,720 Speaker 6: you to some skills. And most of us look back 503 00:25:01,760 --> 00:25:04,160 Speaker 6: in our life and say, you know what the most 504 00:25:04,200 --> 00:25:07,399 Speaker 6: important skills I learned were during the valley? Was during 505 00:25:07,480 --> 00:25:10,200 Speaker 6: that path. It didn't make the path good, It didn't 506 00:25:10,240 --> 00:25:13,000 Speaker 6: make it right. I mean i'd recommend the path. And 507 00:25:13,119 --> 00:25:16,680 Speaker 6: I think back to your point, which is there's a fool, 508 00:25:16,880 --> 00:25:19,560 Speaker 6: and there is a wise man, and there's an evil 509 00:25:19,600 --> 00:25:21,879 Speaker 6: man by the way living in all of us. The 510 00:25:22,000 --> 00:25:25,400 Speaker 6: question is who's driving. So, oh my goodness, I could 511 00:25:25,400 --> 00:25:27,240 Speaker 6: be on the radio and give all the best advice 512 00:25:27,280 --> 00:25:29,600 Speaker 6: in the world and guess what. I have been a fool. 513 00:25:30,040 --> 00:25:35,080 Speaker 6: I have gone down paths. I have made stupid decisions 514 00:25:35,200 --> 00:25:40,159 Speaker 6: on house decisions or saving decisions or habits. And so 515 00:25:40,200 --> 00:25:42,199 Speaker 6: there's some kind of wisdom on how to have a 516 00:25:42,400 --> 00:25:47,359 Speaker 6: higher probability of wise decisions versus foolish ones. And one time, 517 00:25:47,680 --> 00:25:51,359 Speaker 6: one example would be, do you have friends who have 518 00:25:51,560 --> 00:25:53,119 Speaker 6: the freedom to tell you the truth? 519 00:25:53,320 --> 00:25:53,520 Speaker 5: Yeah? 520 00:25:53,600 --> 00:25:55,880 Speaker 6: You kind of watch American Idol and you're like, how 521 00:25:55,920 --> 00:25:58,480 Speaker 6: can that person have no friends who told them they 522 00:25:58,560 --> 00:26:03,400 Speaker 6: can't sing before they not television? You know, Oh my goodness, 523 00:26:03,400 --> 00:26:06,080 Speaker 6: the poor guy. But think if for you, you're overhearing 524 00:26:06,119 --> 00:26:08,800 Speaker 6: somebody in the cubicle next to you, or at a 525 00:26:08,800 --> 00:26:11,080 Speaker 6: restaurant or something that cubicle but that's a death next 526 00:26:11,119 --> 00:26:12,840 Speaker 6: to you, and you're like, as they're talking, you stand 527 00:26:12,960 --> 00:26:15,280 Speaker 6: leaning in You're like, oh, my goodness, that sounds like 528 00:26:15,320 --> 00:26:18,520 Speaker 6: the dumbest thing I've ever heard. And and you're like, 529 00:26:18,760 --> 00:26:21,560 Speaker 6: I need somebody to lean into my life. Who I trust, 530 00:26:21,560 --> 00:26:24,440 Speaker 6: who's loving, who's not judgmental, who just might say, hey, 531 00:26:24,880 --> 00:26:27,280 Speaker 6: have you thought of this, or hey, I've noticed this, 532 00:26:27,480 --> 00:26:31,080 Speaker 6: or have you noticed this about yourself? Because we can, 533 00:26:31,280 --> 00:26:33,760 Speaker 6: you know, deflect, we can lie to ourselves, and when 534 00:26:33,760 --> 00:26:36,840 Speaker 6: that fool grabs a steering wheel, oh my goodness, we 535 00:26:36,920 --> 00:26:39,320 Speaker 6: can drive ourselves anywhere. So yeah, I don't come with 536 00:26:39,400 --> 00:26:42,560 Speaker 6: any sense of self righteousness at all. In fact, I'm 537 00:26:42,600 --> 00:26:46,560 Speaker 6: always painfully aware that I think I told you this. 538 00:26:46,640 --> 00:26:50,000 Speaker 6: Last summer. A guy said one time to me. He said, 539 00:26:50,080 --> 00:26:53,040 Speaker 6: every man I know is one drink and one wink 540 00:26:53,400 --> 00:26:54,120 Speaker 6: away from. 541 00:26:53,920 --> 00:26:54,520 Speaker 5: A bad. 542 00:27:00,520 --> 00:27:03,600 Speaker 1: And everybody out there listening, those out there right now, 543 00:27:03,840 --> 00:27:06,320 Speaker 1: they know that that is spot on. You look at 544 00:27:06,320 --> 00:27:09,199 Speaker 1: most of the world's problems that we have, not all 545 00:27:09,280 --> 00:27:12,760 Speaker 1: of them, but a lot of them. Or situations people 546 00:27:12,840 --> 00:27:16,000 Speaker 1: find themselves in a lot of times have to do 547 00:27:16,119 --> 00:27:18,399 Speaker 1: with those two things and throw in money behind it. 548 00:27:19,400 --> 00:27:22,280 Speaker 6: Yeah, so have the humility to say, yeah, I don't 549 00:27:22,280 --> 00:27:24,240 Speaker 6: want to make foolish decisions with the fool in me. 550 00:27:24,359 --> 00:27:27,160 Speaker 6: So boy, God help me, others help me. I want 551 00:27:27,200 --> 00:27:29,520 Speaker 6: to have a broader perspective. I want to be open. 552 00:27:30,000 --> 00:27:33,199 Speaker 6: I say marriage is often you should ask yourself at 553 00:27:33,280 --> 00:27:36,639 Speaker 6: least once a month, what am I currently doing to 554 00:27:36,760 --> 00:27:41,960 Speaker 6: sabotage this relationship? And ask it that harshly to yourself 555 00:27:42,000 --> 00:27:44,520 Speaker 6: to go, oh, man, I just have really drifted. I 556 00:27:44,680 --> 00:27:48,679 Speaker 6: really have become unappreciative or ungrateful. But we are so 557 00:27:48,960 --> 00:27:52,480 Speaker 6: prone to deflect or finger pointed others. You've got to 558 00:27:52,600 --> 00:27:55,560 Speaker 6: really force yourself to say, but everything I'm currently doing, 559 00:27:55,680 --> 00:27:59,160 Speaker 6: what am I currently doing that is sabotaging this relationship? 560 00:27:59,200 --> 00:28:02,439 Speaker 6: And then asking at that harshly you might kind to 561 00:28:02,560 --> 00:28:04,840 Speaker 6: get maybe a little bit of truth about yourself. I've 562 00:28:04,840 --> 00:28:06,560 Speaker 6: been trying to do that, maybe not every month, I've 563 00:28:06,560 --> 00:28:08,359 Speaker 6: been doing that for the last thirty years my marriage 564 00:28:08,400 --> 00:28:08,680 Speaker 6: as well. 565 00:28:08,800 --> 00:28:11,399 Speaker 1: That is great stuff. Pastor Chad Hooven can't thank you 566 00:28:11,480 --> 00:28:13,240 Speaker 1: enough as always for your time. I know you won't 567 00:28:13,240 --> 00:28:15,400 Speaker 1: be with us next week save travels. We'll look forward 568 00:28:15,400 --> 00:28:17,280 Speaker 1: to catching up with you in a couple of weeks. 569 00:28:17,760 --> 00:28:20,120 Speaker 1: Sounds great, okay, Chad Hooven, Thanks for the time.