Speaker 1: All right, it is Mojo in the morning. Yes, good
Speaker 1: to have you guys here with us today. A couple
Speaker 1: of things I thought were interesting I want to talk
Speaker 1: about real quick. One is there was a study that
Speaker 1: was just recently done that says that the whole theory
Speaker 1: of couples should never go to bed angry is actually
Speaker 1: they say bs. They say people never going to bed
Speaker 1: angry isn't always the best advice for couples. Arguing late
Speaker 1: at night can make things worse because people are tired, hungry,
Speaker 1: and emotional, but experts suggest waiting until you're both calm
Speaker 1: and rested to actually work out the argument is probably
Speaker 1: the healthier thing to do. It's funny because of I
Speaker 1: always have heard in therapists have always said, you don't
Speaker 1: ever want to go to bed angry because it's going
Speaker 1: to give you a bad night's sleep, and you know
Speaker 1: all this stuff.
Speaker 2: My therapist says totally the opposite. Yes, Mike, Karen who
Speaker 2: actually going to see later today. She said, especially like
Speaker 2: Wes and I have learned this the hard way, where
Speaker 2: we've tried to come to a resolution. If we're having
Speaker 2: some sort of conflict and then it's midnight and we're
Speaker 2: both just like exhausted and not our best.
Speaker 3: But I like, I think it's.
Speaker 2: Better to separate a little bit and process and calm
Speaker 2: down and then come back the next morning and like
Speaker 2: finish whatever.
Speaker 3: And that you were talking about. That's what the therapists say. Yeah,
Speaker 3: it's so much better. We can be angry.
Speaker 4: We don't got to be best friends in cool bay
Speaker 4: yea and set our differences. But you better say I
Speaker 4: love you. Well, here's an interesting I'll go to.
Speaker 3: Sleep and say I love you. I don't like you
Speaker 3: right now, I love you.
Speaker 1: I always say that it's always better to just get
Speaker 1: a little angry.
Speaker 3: Section, right, huh. Ain't nothing wrong with that person.
Speaker 1: By the way, I will say this to you, And
Speaker 1: I've talked to my therapist about this one. My therapist
Speaker 1: always says, beware of the people that bring fights up
Speaker 1: at night, right before bed, because usually those people are
Speaker 1: trying to manipulate your sleep habits. And it's interesting because
Speaker 1: I told him, Yeah, a couple of times, tell us
Speaker 1: and I would get in fights because I'd bring something
Speaker 1: up before bed, and he says, you better be careful.
Speaker 1: You're trying to manipulate her sleeping And like, what do
Speaker 1: you mean like, he's basically saying, you got a problem,
Speaker 1: bring it up at three in the afternoon. Don't bring
Speaker 1: it up at you know, nine o'clock at night or
Speaker 1: ten o'clock at night. He says, you're manipulating her and
Speaker 1: her rest, and he is, that's a little too much, bro. Honestly,
Speaker 1: I are you intentionally not wanting her to get a good,
Speaker 1: nice sleep? Throw Well, you don't necessarily think you are,
Speaker 1: but you are. I think manipulation has an intentionality factor.
Speaker 1: Associate with and on it. But I'll be honest with you,
Speaker 1: I'd stop doing it. And I realized that it made
Speaker 1: me healthier person to say, hey, I'm a little you know,
Speaker 1: upset by something at two in the afternoon, you know,
Speaker 1: before the kids are home and all that. Here's something interesting.
Speaker 1: Zip coding is a new dating trend. There's a new
Speaker 1: dating trend called zip coding, where people look up dat
Speaker 1: it's close to their own zip code. So the idea
Speaker 1: of dating the local, because you don't want to find
Speaker 1: yourself in a And we're going to talk about something
Speaker 1: with Anna a little later this morning on the show,
Speaker 1: because Anna is not a very good zip coding person.
Speaker 1: But that's interesting. I want to know if any of
Speaker 1: our listeners do that. Do you set your range on
Speaker 1: whatever your dating app is to be a lot tighter
Speaker 1: range because the idea that you don't potentially want to
Speaker 1: find yourself driving forty five minutes to an hour to
Speaker 1: go see the person. Because they say that one of
Speaker 1: the reasons why zip coding is so good is they
Speaker 1: find that the relationships last because people will find themselves
Speaker 1: more comfortable in that.
Speaker 3: And I like this.
Speaker 1: This is one of those topics where I sat there
Speaker 1: and I saw it and I thought, oh, this is
Speaker 1: this is actually really good. A woman goes on a
Speaker 1: date with a guy when he rejects When she rejects
Speaker 1: his advance, he asks her to pay him back. She
Speaker 1: posted on Reddit after spending a weekend with a man
Speaker 1: who visited her. She received a text later from him
Speaker 1: asking to pay for half of the weekend, a total
Speaker 1: cost of about one hundred and six dollars, claiming that
Speaker 1: she actually should pay for this because it didn't turn
Speaker 1: out to be a great date. People on Reddit are
Speaker 1: commenting on this saying, yeah, I think that you should
Speaker 1: probably pay if the date didn't go necessarily as planned,
Speaker 1: And then another person said that I don't think you
Speaker 1: deserve to have to pay for it. If he paid
Speaker 1: for it in the beginning, just because it didn't turn
Speaker 1: out great doesn't mean that you should be paying for it.
Speaker 2: The risk you take going out on a date not guaranteed.
Speaker 1: She claims that she already paid some of the expenses.
Speaker 1: She said she paid seventy dollars at a bar, and
Speaker 1: she had to pay forty dollars for parking, But the
Speaker 1: extra hundred bless you. The extra hundred and six dollars.
Speaker 1: She didn't feel like she needed to pay because he
Speaker 1: chose to put his card down initially for that.
Speaker 4: Yeah, like I said, that's the risk. Now's a guy
Speaker 4: like that's what you You go out, you pay.
Speaker 3: For the date.
Speaker 1: I like the whole before you go on a date
Speaker 1: with somebody, I like the whole boy.
Speaker 3: Year, Are you doing okay over there?
Speaker 1: This is cold and flu season, Michael, I can you
Speaker 1: didn't turn your mic off and every other MIC's on.
Speaker 3: Remember we're in.
Speaker 1: A little studio here. But I had a buddy of
Speaker 1: mine that you should say or your money back. He
Speaker 1: used to tell girls before he would go on the date.
Speaker 1: He would say to them, I will promise you a
Speaker 1: great date or your money back.
Speaker 3: And he said that he went with girls and they
Speaker 3: were like.
Speaker 1: Oh, okay, great, and they thought that that was kind
Speaker 1: of fun, and it was he would pay for everything
Speaker 1: that was on the date, and he found that going
Speaker 1: into the date with that attitude was them having more
Speaker 1: fun knowing, Okay, this is actually going to be kind
Speaker 1: of cool. Yeah, he never got his money back, And
Speaker 1: I actually use a single guy still, so uh, text
Speaker 1: here here in nine five five zero zero, going to
Speaker 1: bed angry is actually, now, that's a good thing to do.
Speaker 1: My husband and I fight all the time, and I
Speaker 1: actually think that when we're fighting at night and we
Speaker 1: go to bed angry, we wake up the next morning
Speaker 1: and carry it on to a really bad work day.
Speaker 4: Uh.
Speaker 1: And then a couple other people here that say that Mojo,
Speaker 1: I think Mojo needs a new therapist.
Speaker 3: Have a great day.
Speaker 1: Everyone is probably who knows, Lee, we were talking about
Speaker 1: going to bed angry. You want to comment on.
Speaker 3: That, Lee, Yeah, I just my mom always told me
Speaker 3: not to go to bed angry because you never know,
Speaker 3: like what are you or the other person is going.
Speaker 4: To wake up?
Speaker 3: You know, that's actually a really good point I get
Speaker 3: with that guilt if God forbid that happen.
Speaker 1: Could you imagine, honestly, that would be horrendous guilt to
Speaker 1: have to go to h and live with for the
Speaker 1: rest of your life.
Speaker 3: But I'll take my chances. I want a good nights. No,
Speaker 3: I'm that way.
Speaker 1: I actually feel that same way, and that's why I'm like,
Speaker 1: I got to work it out.
Speaker 3: That's what I feel like, Sam, I.
Speaker 4: Love you with my husband all the time to make
Speaker 4: sure that we're in a good before we.
Speaker 3: Go, even if you don't solve it.
Speaker 4: In my mind, like you never want to leave a
Speaker 4: situation with hating your heart, everyone to go to sleep
Speaker 4: with hating your heart.
Speaker 3: And by saying I love you that releases some of it,
Speaker 3: at least in my opinion.
Speaker 1: Absolutely, Lee, I think angry sex is about sex too.
Speaker 3: I don't know if you think that, But what do
Speaker 3: you think? My kids are in the car, so I
Speaker 1: Can't all right, Sorry about that, Mom,