WEBVTT - EITM: Cutting Queue 10/22/26 0:00:00.290 --> 0:00:03.630 When you are standing in line, and I don't care 0:00:03.670 --> 0:00:06.050 if you've been in line for an hour, if you've 0:00:06.070 --> 0:00:08.990 been in line for 20 minutes, but if you're in line, 0:00:10.289 --> 0:00:13.200 few things will make your, you'll get that pit in 0:00:13.220 --> 0:00:16.560 your stomach. You'll get that blood boil feeling no matter 0:00:16.600 --> 0:00:21.540 what it is. If somebody cuts. Thank you, Diane. Thank you. 0:00:23.579 --> 0:00:25.400 Can I ask you this? I was reading something about 0:00:25.440 --> 0:00:26.160 cutting yesterday. 0:00:26.880 --> 0:00:29.080 Do you get pissed if you see somebody cut behind 0:00:29.120 --> 0:00:30.640 you or just in front of you? 0:00:32.650 --> 0:00:34.930 It obviously aggravates you more if they're ahead. 0:00:34.970 --> 0:00:35.190 Yeah. 0:00:35.470 --> 0:00:37.590 But I don't love to see it at any point 0:00:37.610 --> 0:00:38.050 in the line. 0:00:38.370 --> 0:00:41.470 But do you? I mean, yes. So let's say if 0:00:41.510 --> 0:00:43.300 somebody cuts you, right? 0:00:43.420 --> 0:00:43.620 Right. 0:00:43.720 --> 0:00:46.160 Whether it's right in front of you, five feet in 0:00:46.200 --> 0:00:48.199 front of you, you just see someone has cut you. 0:00:51.000 --> 0:00:55.080 Blood boils. Blood boils. Like who the hell? Oh, like 0:00:55.160 --> 0:00:57.930 you're so important. And it does. It ramps you up. 0:00:58.180 --> 0:01:00.100 So let's put that at a nine. 0:01:01.060 --> 0:01:03.380 Like that's where you are on the I'm pissed off 0:01:03.400 --> 0:01:04.940 scale or I'm annoyed scale. 0:01:05.660 --> 0:01:07.000 What is it when it's behind you? 0:01:09.420 --> 0:01:10.670 Half the time you probably don't even know. 0:01:10.690 --> 0:01:13.069 No, but I mean if you're standing there and you're 0:01:13.209 --> 0:01:15.090 looking around, you may notice. 0:01:15.230 --> 0:01:19.110 Because you wonder, before I got in line, was this happening? 0:01:19.190 --> 0:01:22.330 Like is this line longer because– I'm unaware that people 0:01:22.380 --> 0:01:23.520 were cutting behind. 0:01:23.800 --> 0:01:24.060 Sure. 0:01:24.280 --> 0:01:27.920 So, yeah, I would say it's still at a five. 0:01:28.319 --> 0:01:30.459 So it's it's not a nine, but it's a five. 0:01:31.000 --> 0:01:32.390 You know, they said for a lot of people, it's 0:01:32.440 --> 0:01:33.770 still right up there at a nine. 0:01:34.050 --> 0:01:36.330 Just because it's a morals thing. 0:01:36.830 --> 0:01:39.509 Yeah, I guess so. I guess so. And it is 0:01:39.590 --> 0:01:41.310 one of those things that chaps your ass. 0:01:42.780 --> 0:01:45.880 For sure. Although you, on multiple occasions, have given us 0:01:45.980 --> 0:01:47.170 tips on how to do it. 0:01:47.770 --> 0:01:50.650 Oh, what were we supposed to say? Like, if you 0:01:50.670 --> 0:01:52.030 walk up to the front of the line, what. 0:01:51.990 --> 0:01:52.460 Were we supposed to say? 0:01:52.470 --> 0:01:53.770 Oh, it was a specific line. 0:01:53.810 --> 0:01:54.870 It was one word. 0:01:55.170 --> 0:01:55.750 What was it? 0:01:56.270 --> 0:01:56.730 Because. 0:01:57.250 --> 0:02:01.900 Oh, that's right. That's right. But you just never finish. Like, oh, because. 0:02:02.480 --> 0:02:03.620 Because my ass. 0:02:07.540 --> 0:02:09.679 Now, let me ask you this. Let me ask you this. 0:02:10.320 --> 0:02:15.990 When somebody cuts you, Are you a sayer or no? 0:02:17.850 --> 0:02:21.650 I usually rely on whomever I'm with to say, speak up, 0:02:21.830 --> 0:02:23.980 speak up. Well, what if you're by yourself? People are 0:02:24.060 --> 0:02:25.889 quick to kick your ass these days. 0:02:25.910 --> 0:02:28.369 But wait a second. Okay. Hold on to that thought 0:02:28.389 --> 0:02:28.889 for a second. 0:02:29.150 --> 0:02:30.250 TikTok's made me fearful. 0:02:31.570 --> 0:02:34.910 So you are, you're in line with, you and Kristen 0:02:34.950 --> 0:02:35.870 are in line for something. 0:02:35.889 --> 0:02:36.010 Yeah. 0:02:36.510 --> 0:02:37.970 Oh, she's definitely saying something. 0:02:38.590 --> 0:02:39.880 Whether she does or she doesn't. 0:02:39.919 --> 0:02:40.579 Yeah. 0:02:40.800 --> 0:02:42.260 If somebody cuts, you're pissed. 0:02:43.000 --> 0:02:45.940 Your expectation is that she's going to say something. 0:02:46.550 --> 0:02:46.810 Right. 0:02:47.330 --> 0:02:49.910 If I'm in line with you, your expectation is I'm 0:02:49.950 --> 0:02:51.429 going to say something. 0:02:51.430 --> 0:02:54.310 100%. But you are not going to say anything. 0:02:55.470 --> 0:02:56.929 I'm leaning that way, yeah. 0:02:57.270 --> 0:03:00.290 Now, go back to what Tyler said. You're by yourself. 0:03:01.110 --> 0:03:02.210 Oh, I'm definitely not saying anything. 0:03:02.610 --> 0:03:02.850 Why? 0:03:02.870 --> 0:03:06.049 Because I'm going to get my ass kicked. At least 0:03:06.090 --> 0:03:09.790 I recognize that. 0:03:09.889 --> 0:03:13.730 Now, they do say that you do need to take 0:03:13.770 --> 0:03:15.470 your own safety into account. 0:03:16.360 --> 0:03:19.519 Yeah, that's more important. Yeah, you're going to be pissed. 0:03:19.540 --> 0:03:21.240 But don't you want to say something? You don't want 0:03:21.260 --> 0:03:21.840 to feel taken advantage of. 0:03:21.840 --> 0:03:22.940 Of course you do, but you also don't want to 0:03:22.960 --> 0:03:23.400 get your ass kicked. 0:03:23.419 --> 0:03:24.200 And you're upset. 0:03:24.240 --> 0:03:25.220 You don't want to get your ass kicked. 0:03:25.280 --> 0:03:26.380 It's not worth it. 0:03:26.500 --> 0:03:30.580 Not only are they cheating you, they're cheating society. 0:03:30.700 --> 0:03:34.650 Yeah. I mean, namely the people in line, but they're 0:03:34.690 --> 0:03:35.690 cheating society. 0:03:35.710 --> 0:03:36.310 It's not worth it. 0:03:37.930 --> 0:03:41.510 And that feeling of anger, of getting up to a nine, 0:03:42.190 --> 0:03:43.530 that starts when you're a kid. 0:03:45.000 --> 0:03:48.040 That's when you first learn about budging or cutting. There's 0:03:48.080 --> 0:03:49.280 a million different words for it. 0:03:49.320 --> 0:03:50.620 No, no, but that's what I'm saying. 0:03:50.960 --> 0:03:53.840 It is like you learn that at a really, really 0:03:53.940 --> 0:03:56.360 young age that that angers you. 0:03:57.620 --> 0:03:58.740 That angers you. 0:04:00.100 --> 0:04:02.220 You also learn to be fearful of getting your ass 0:04:02.240 --> 0:04:04.460 kicked from the same thing. 0:04:04.480 --> 0:04:10.680 Yeah, but that's in school. That's like almost lesson number one. 0:04:10.740 --> 0:04:14.530 No, no, but I agree. But you don't grow out 0:04:14.590 --> 0:04:18.400 of it. You don't mature out of it. You probably 0:04:18.460 --> 0:04:20.640 get worse as you get older. 0:04:22.960 --> 0:04:27.760 Right, because you start to question their upbringing. What school 0:04:27.779 --> 0:04:29.860 did you go to? Come on, everyone knows you can't. 0:04:30.540 --> 0:04:31.620 jump a line or. 0:04:31.520 --> 0:04:33.479 Just tyler's not saying anything are you. 0:04:33.700 --> 0:04:36.880 No okay you wouldn't at all i'm more afraid of 0:04:36.900 --> 0:04:41.000 getting beat up than probably you are they punch men 0:04:41.200 --> 0:04:43.680 but what if or at least people who present as 0:04:43.860 --> 0:04:45.219 men but what. 0:04:45.100 --> 0:04:47.380 If what but can i ask you this can i 0:04:47.440 --> 0:04:50.440 ask you this why not say something on the outside 0:04:50.520 --> 0:04:54.000 chance that it actually is an accident that they got. 0:04:53.839 --> 0:04:54.800 In line in front of. 0:04:54.779 --> 0:04:56.020 You An accident. 0:04:56.100 --> 0:04:56.360 Yeah. 0:04:56.520 --> 0:04:59.839 No, that happens. That happens. Sometimes people don't realize where. 0:04:59.720 --> 0:05:00.020 The line is. 0:05:00.020 --> 0:05:02.099 Oh, my God. I didn't see the 400 people in 0:05:02.140 --> 0:05:02.900 line behind me. 0:05:03.000 --> 0:05:04.110 Okay. You know what? 0:05:04.190 --> 0:05:06.610 Actually, I just had this happen the other day. What 0:05:06.710 --> 0:05:07.950 grocery store were we at? 0:05:10.089 --> 0:05:11.530 Not Giant. 0:05:11.550 --> 0:05:15.610 No, it wasn't Giant. Where did I have to pop in? Anyway, 0:05:15.630 --> 0:05:20.390 it was like a self-checkout line that extended into the aisle. 0:05:20.430 --> 0:05:22.250 Yeah, you got to leave a gap for people to 0:05:22.310 --> 0:05:22.690 walk through. 0:05:22.710 --> 0:05:23.049 Exactly. 0:05:23.589 --> 0:05:26.880 And it picks up in the produce section. Mine does 0:05:26.960 --> 0:05:27.680 at the Harris Teeter. 0:05:28.500 --> 0:05:32.360 I don't know. It wasn't close to produce. But basically, 0:05:32.620 --> 0:05:34.500 people see the separation. 0:05:34.720 --> 0:05:34.980 Right. 0:05:35.120 --> 0:05:39.200 So that happens constantly. And then I don't say anything, 0:05:39.620 --> 0:05:44.450 but I definitely assert myself physically. Well, that sounds absurd. 0:05:44.470 --> 0:05:46.490 I put my hand right on my hip. 0:05:46.510 --> 0:05:48.150 Like the Superman stance? Yeah. 0:05:49.120 --> 0:05:51.060 No, you just, you make it sort of like when 0:05:51.080 --> 0:05:53.909 you see a black bear. Like you make yourself. 0:05:53.930 --> 0:05:54.789 Oh, you make yourself big. 0:05:54.910 --> 0:05:55.110 Big. 0:05:55.150 --> 0:05:55.370 Right. 0:05:55.390 --> 0:05:55.950 Yeah. 0:05:56.150 --> 0:05:56.370 Yeah. 0:05:56.410 --> 0:05:57.890 So you like puffed up a little bit. 0:05:57.970 --> 0:05:58.130 Yeah. 0:05:58.230 --> 0:06:00.310 I didn't see that because I'm actually in front of 0:06:00.350 --> 0:06:01.250 you paying for my stuff. 0:06:01.290 --> 0:06:02.890 No, because they come in from the side. 0:06:02.990 --> 0:06:03.250 Right. 0:06:03.529 --> 0:06:06.349 Because they, they too realize, well, I can't just stand 0:06:06.390 --> 0:06:06.909 in the middle. 0:06:07.029 --> 0:06:07.309 Right. 0:06:07.510 --> 0:06:08.930 And then they usually, so that. 0:06:09.270 --> 0:06:12.039 But why, but that's, that's somebody who's accidentally cutting you. 0:06:12.220 --> 0:06:12.440 I know. 0:06:12.460 --> 0:06:13.880 Why not just say, excuse me. 0:06:13.940 --> 0:06:17.529 That's one more person's 15 items or less to me. 0:06:18.880 --> 0:06:22.260 But if they see you, then they'll– they're being honest. 0:06:22.279 --> 0:06:22.960 They're not acting. 0:06:22.980 --> 0:06:23.919 They'll say like, oh, I. 0:06:23.940 --> 0:06:24.480 Had no idea. 0:06:24.520 --> 0:06:24.919 Sorry. 0:06:25.060 --> 0:06:29.180 Yeah. But why not– why not– why not in a nice, 0:06:29.440 --> 0:06:31.740 I'm trying to be helpful tone, right? 0:06:32.080 --> 0:06:35.770 So not like, oh, excuse me. We're in line here. 0:06:36.050 --> 0:06:41.430 Well, that's a tone that's– That's another case where I'm 0:06:41.450 --> 0:06:43.150 relying on somebody else to say something. 0:06:43.170 --> 0:06:45.660 No, no, but why couldn't you just in a very helpful, 0:06:45.720 --> 0:06:49.700 you're being helpful, just say, oh, excuse me, the line 0:06:49.720 --> 0:06:50.580 starts back here. 0:06:51.240 --> 0:06:55.200 People are loose cannons. No, but again, you're being helpful. 0:06:55.370 --> 0:06:56.170 Doesn't matter. 0:06:56.330 --> 0:06:56.750 Doesn't matter. 0:06:57.180 --> 0:06:58.240 Oh, excuse me. 0:06:58.260 --> 0:07:00.760 You never know how somebody's going to react. 0:07:00.779 --> 0:07:03.840 You're actually helping them. You're not correcting them. 0:07:04.140 --> 0:07:06.729 You're helping them because what you're saying to them, you 0:07:06.760 --> 0:07:07.930 hear how friendly my tone is? 0:07:08.190 --> 0:07:10.610 Oh, excuse me. The line actually starts back here. 0:07:10.990 --> 0:07:15.770 I'm actually helping them understand like, oh, I taught them something. 0:07:16.050 --> 0:07:17.110 Not that the line is here. 0:07:17.170 --> 0:07:19.590 And it's a rude 15-year-old who's going to go, F you, 0:07:19.650 --> 0:07:26.060 old lady. And then he won twice. So why embarrass myself? 0:07:26.630 --> 0:07:28.090 I'm there looking at my phone. 0:07:28.150 --> 0:07:31.990 No, no, but you're even failing to hear me say, 0:07:32.550 --> 0:07:33.390 you're helping them. 0:07:33.450 --> 0:07:36.010 It doesn't matter if you think that you're using a 0:07:36.070 --> 0:07:37.270 kind tone. They don't care. 0:07:37.330 --> 0:07:40.090 It's I'm giving off a helpful, like, oh, you didn't 0:07:40.150 --> 0:07:41.070 know where it was. 0:07:41.490 --> 0:07:43.250 The same way if somebody said, I don't know where 0:07:43.290 --> 0:07:45.310 the bread is, and you were like, oh, it's on 0:07:45.330 --> 0:07:47.270 aisle four, you've helped them. 0:07:47.570 --> 0:07:49.810 The same way you would go, oh, I'm sorry, the 0:07:49.830 --> 0:07:50.890 line starts back here. 0:07:51.170 --> 0:07:52.910 And they would go, oh, my God, I didn't even 0:07:52.970 --> 0:07:55.100 realize where the line starts. 0:07:55.510 --> 0:07:57.300 I'm going to go back there. You've helped them. 0:07:58.220 --> 0:08:00.460 I guess they're not hearing me. I said it. 0:08:00.460 --> 0:08:00.540 Yeah. 0:08:01.520 --> 0:08:02.460 And when did you say it? 0:08:04.080 --> 0:08:05.380 As soon as they did it. 0:08:05.660 --> 0:08:08.220 You have to say it the second it happens. You 0:08:08.300 --> 0:08:11.300 can't sit and stew and debate. No, because a lot 0:08:11.340 --> 0:08:12.640 of people do. They're like, am I going to? 0:08:12.920 --> 0:08:13.900 Because it eats at you. 0:08:13.990 --> 0:08:14.200 Right. 0:08:14.260 --> 0:08:15.170 So at first you're like. 0:08:15.190 --> 0:08:16.490 Then you get more angry. 0:08:16.510 --> 0:08:16.930 F that dude. 0:08:17.110 --> 0:08:18.870 F that dude. F that dude. 0:08:19.310 --> 0:08:22.370 Screw him. Who does he think he is? And you 0:08:22.470 --> 0:08:24.390 sit there and you stew, and then finally you're like, 0:08:24.510 --> 0:08:27.429 I'm pissed. I'm saying something. Well, now it's been five minutes, 0:08:27.790 --> 0:08:30.140 and you're like, hey, excuse me. And now I can't 0:08:30.180 --> 0:08:31.080 really sound helpful. 0:08:31.500 --> 0:08:34.059 Excuse me. The line's back here. And the guy's like, 0:08:34.100 --> 0:08:35.740 I don't even know what you're talking about. I'm in line. 0:08:36.420 --> 0:08:41.030 So you have to intervene before they've even gotten into 0:08:41.070 --> 0:08:43.449 the line as they take a step towards it? 0:08:44.429 --> 0:08:48.250 No, as they get in, yes, you see someone cut 0:08:48.370 --> 0:08:52.350 and you say, oh, excuse me, the line starts back here. 0:08:52.370 --> 0:08:54.310 I'm being helpful. The line starts back here. 0:08:54.750 --> 0:08:57.670 Or, hey, I'm not sure you noticed, but there's actually 0:08:57.750 --> 0:09:00.700 a really long line here and people have been waiting 0:09:00.770 --> 0:09:01.420 for a while. 0:09:01.440 --> 0:09:03.600 That sounded condescending. 0:09:03.880 --> 0:09:05.100 How did that sound condescending? 0:09:05.600 --> 0:09:07.580 I'm not sure if you noticed, but there's a really 0:09:07.640 --> 0:09:08.920 long line here. They know. 0:09:09.670 --> 0:09:11.890 He said it with a real high pitch, though. 0:09:11.929 --> 0:09:12.199 Yeah. 0:09:12.320 --> 0:09:15.520 Yeah, like I'm helpful. I don't know if you noticed this. 0:09:15.540 --> 0:09:18.120 You may not have. You may not have, but there 0:09:18.160 --> 0:09:19.579 is a really long line here. 0:09:19.600 --> 0:09:23.179 And all these people, they've been waiting for a while. 0:09:23.450 --> 0:09:24.210 They don't care. 0:09:24.230 --> 0:09:27.429 Yeah, that is known with a line that there has 0:09:27.470 --> 0:09:29.870 been a wait, and the people in said line are 0:09:29.890 --> 0:09:30.650 the ones waiting. 0:09:30.690 --> 0:09:33.310 But again, I'm giving the approach, even if they did 0:09:33.330 --> 0:09:35.579 it on purpose, I'm giving the approach that I'm assuming 0:09:35.620 --> 0:09:36.420 they made an accident. 0:09:36.460 --> 0:09:37.740 I don't want to tack on that last line. 0:09:38.040 --> 0:09:38.660 Which one? 0:09:38.720 --> 0:09:40.459 The one where I explain lines to the person. 0:09:41.960 --> 0:09:43.250 Oh, so you think I'm stupid. 0:09:47.330 --> 0:09:51.230 Now, what happens when you said these things in a 0:09:51.270 --> 0:09:56.020 very helpful and positive tone if they don't move? 0:09:56.320 --> 0:09:59.360 Because now you've been friendly. Now what happens? 0:10:01.400 --> 0:10:02.260 You relent. 0:10:05.040 --> 0:10:06.660 So you're like okay well. 0:10:08.309 --> 0:10:12.790 Go ahead you're like I tried it's not worth getting 0:10:13.350 --> 0:10:14.790 into a confrontation over. 0:10:15.650 --> 0:10:19.220 You think confrontation is a fight no I'm also talking 0:10:19.240 --> 0:10:21.510 verbal So the guy's going to. 0:10:21.450 --> 0:10:23.750 Turn around and go, I'm not moving. And you go, yes. 0:10:23.790 --> 0:10:24.170 You are. 0:10:24.770 --> 0:10:26.089 Oh, my. 0:10:27.070 --> 0:10:30.630 Now I'm leaving the line. I don't need this detergent. 0:10:31.150 --> 0:10:34.650 Screw it. Yesterday I told you if my glasses come 0:10:34.750 --> 0:10:37.770 off in a scuffle, I'm dead meat. 0:10:40.820 --> 0:10:41.840 Where am I going, Kristen? 0:10:41.860 --> 0:10:43.780 Take another phrase from elementary school. 0:10:44.020 --> 0:10:44.980 Hi, Elliot in the morning. 0:10:46.429 --> 0:10:47.190 Elliot, morning. 0:10:47.250 --> 0:10:50.490 Pat from Philly here. Hey, I'm much like Tyler. I'm 0:10:50.510 --> 0:10:54.000 not confrontational, but the one time I did, I was 0:10:54.050 --> 0:10:55.319 at the car wash. 0:10:55.360 --> 0:10:57.360 Can I interrupt you for a second? Can I interrupt 0:10:57.380 --> 0:11:00.300 you for a second? Do you currently live in Philly? 0:11:01.640 --> 0:11:04.439 I am outside of 30th Street about to walk downtown. 0:11:04.500 --> 0:11:05.100 Listen to you. 0:11:05.179 --> 0:11:06.880 Lower your voice. 0:11:07.300 --> 0:11:10.010 If it's standing in the middle of Philadelphia, if you say, 0:11:10.150 --> 0:11:14.390 I'm like Tyler, I'm not confrontational, they will throw you out. 0:11:16.850 --> 0:11:19.750 My wife's a Delta native, so I'm learning to adjust 0:11:19.770 --> 0:11:21.750 to their style up here. Very good. 0:11:22.070 --> 0:11:24.370 Hey, what is the— anyway, I'm sorry. Go ahead. Go ahead. 0:11:25.330 --> 0:11:28.410 Yeah, yeah, yeah. So we bounce back and forth, D.C. 0:11:28.450 --> 0:11:28.890 To Philly. 0:11:28.910 --> 0:11:32.080 I grew up in Calvert County. Listen to you from— years. 0:11:32.240 --> 0:11:35.719 But anyhow, down in, down in Alexandria there, there's a 0:11:35.760 --> 0:11:38.510 car wash near the Belpre apartments, right? And we used 0:11:38.530 --> 0:11:41.090 to live down there and I'm in line and this guy, 0:11:41.510 --> 0:11:43.510 you know, whips in with his nice fancy car. He's 0:11:43.550 --> 0:11:45.929 got a showboat and around, ends up cutting in front 0:11:45.950 --> 0:11:47.590 of me in line. And I mind you, the line's 0:11:47.650 --> 0:11:49.770 only like three deep, but I'm like, all right, this 0:11:49.830 --> 0:11:51.340 is my stance. This is the hill I'm going to 0:11:51.380 --> 0:11:54.080 die on here. I'm going to say something. And again, 0:11:54.340 --> 0:11:57.660 not confrontational. I say, Hey man, like lines back here. 0:11:58.280 --> 0:12:02.050 dude whips around, pulls off his sunglasses, was like, excuse me? 0:12:02.070 --> 0:12:07.660 I was like, uh... And he's just like... I'm like, 0:12:07.679 --> 0:12:08.360 what do I do now? 0:12:08.540 --> 0:12:09.120 And he's like. 0:12:10.450 --> 0:12:13.109 He's like, are you serious? Like, you're literally the last 0:12:13.150 --> 0:12:17.010 person behind me. I'm like, I am the line, I guess. 0:12:18.010 --> 0:12:21.890 I don't know. He rips the ticket, my car wash 0:12:21.929 --> 0:12:23.989 ticket out of my hand. He goes, watch this. And 0:12:24.030 --> 0:12:25.710 I was like, oh, God, what's going to happen now? 0:12:25.730 --> 0:12:28.390 I'm just like melting my shoes. Rips the ticket out 0:12:28.410 --> 0:12:30.270 of my hand. He goes, watch this. Hands it to 0:12:30.290 --> 0:12:34.390 the cashier. And me, in between that, he asked the cashier, 0:12:34.410 --> 0:12:36.600 he's like, did I cut in line? And I was like, oh, crap. 0:12:36.620 --> 0:12:40.580 He's friends with the cashier, too. And the cashier person's like, no, no, no, 0:12:40.620 --> 0:12:42.540 you didn't cut in line. You were fine. He looks 0:12:42.620 --> 0:12:44.079 at me, he said, see, I didn't cut you. I 0:12:44.080 --> 0:12:46.600 was like, oh, God. He ends up paying for my 0:12:46.620 --> 0:12:49.990 car wash, turns back around, and he's like, see, wasn't 0:12:50.000 --> 0:12:50.790 that a beautiful thing? 0:12:50.809 --> 0:12:52.770 I was like, I guess. 0:12:53.030 --> 0:12:54.849 People in Philly are the best. 0:12:55.410 --> 0:12:57.930 Oh, no, you were in Alexandria. You were in Alexandria. 0:12:57.990 --> 0:12:59.450 By the way, I would not. 0:13:01.460 --> 0:13:04.270 His credit card was Georgetown, and I was like, oh, 0:13:04.350 --> 0:13:06.110 I went to Georgetown, too, and now I'm trying to 0:13:06.130 --> 0:13:08.530 be friends with him. I'm like, what am I doing? 0:13:08.550 --> 0:13:12.210 This is so horrible. I just want to go home. 0:13:12.250 --> 0:13:14.710 My wife was like, why did you even do that? 0:13:14.730 --> 0:13:17.410 I said, I don't know. I was trying. I was trying. 0:13:18.760 --> 0:13:21.500 See, but what's the lesson that comes out of that? 0:13:21.540 --> 0:13:23.380 You were nervous. You were shaking. You ripped your ticket, 0:13:23.400 --> 0:13:24.059 the whole thing. 0:13:24.140 --> 0:13:25.000 But he said something. 0:13:25.340 --> 0:13:27.240 No, you said something, and it actually had a very 0:13:27.300 --> 0:13:28.099 positive outcome. 0:13:30.090 --> 0:13:30.450 I guess. 0:13:30.530 --> 0:13:32.490 I still feel very awkward about it, you know, seven 0:13:32.530 --> 0:13:36.740 years later or so. But now that I'm in Philly, 0:13:36.760 --> 0:13:38.120 I just kind of keep my mouth shut. Like, I 0:13:38.120 --> 0:13:40.350 had a crazy on the train yesterday. I was like, oh, God, 0:13:40.360 --> 0:13:43.020 I'm going to have to intervene. She's harassing this woman. 0:13:43.700 --> 0:13:46.240 I'm texting my wife like I may not make it home. 0:13:46.620 --> 0:13:48.380 She's like, please don't get involved. I was like, I 0:13:48.420 --> 0:13:50.540 just want to get off the train. Just get me home. 0:13:50.580 --> 0:13:52.179 What part of Philly do you live in? 0:13:54.650 --> 0:13:57.469 I live out in Delaware County, Ardmore, but I work downtown, 0:13:57.490 --> 0:13:58.410 like 20th and Market. 0:13:58.610 --> 0:14:01.530 I got you. Ardmore is very nice. Yeah, good for you, dude. 0:14:01.550 --> 0:14:04.000 Good for you. All right. I appreciate it. Thank you, 0:14:04.010 --> 0:14:05.000 my friend. Thank you. 0:14:05.380 --> 0:14:08.680 Corey writes, I'm getting a tight chest and anxiety just 0:14:08.860 --> 0:14:10.760 listening to all of these scenarios. 0:14:14.340 --> 0:14:16.780 Well, the one thing you do have to decide early 0:14:16.900 --> 0:14:20.850 on before you say something is, are you going to 0:14:20.890 --> 0:14:21.910 be able to let it go? 0:14:23.810 --> 0:14:25.500 Because you can't sit there and if you're not going 0:14:25.510 --> 0:14:27.240 to say something, you can't sit there and stew on it. 0:14:27.340 --> 0:14:27.480 Yeah. 0:14:27.510 --> 0:14:30.640 Let's say you're in line. Let's say you're in line to, to, 0:14:30.840 --> 0:14:34.060 to go into a game, right? You're, you're, you're in 0:14:34.080 --> 0:14:35.940 line at capital one arena to go into the wizards 0:14:35.960 --> 0:14:38.840 game last night. Are you going to, are you going 0:14:38.860 --> 0:14:41.180 to sit through the first three quarters going, God. 0:14:41.040 --> 0:14:41.780 Damn it, man. 0:14:41.800 --> 0:14:44.640 Cause now he's now, now he's ruined your night and 0:14:44.660 --> 0:14:45.880 you don't want it to ruin your night. 0:14:46.040 --> 0:14:47.640 No, I think people do that. 0:14:48.100 --> 0:14:51.210 Once you get out of the line, I mean, it, Personally, 0:14:51.230 --> 0:14:53.480 I wouldn't be sitting there stewing over it during a game. 0:14:53.500 --> 0:14:56.220 People will stew on it for hours. Do you know 0:14:56.260 --> 0:14:58.040 how many times I've gotten home? 0:14:58.320 --> 0:15:01.780 And again, this is really more for somebody using their 0:15:01.820 --> 0:15:03.780 body to cut you and not a car. Do you 0:15:03.800 --> 0:15:06.020 know how many times I've gotten home and somebody didn't 0:15:06.060 --> 0:15:08.490 zipper right and I'm still freaking angry? 0:15:09.050 --> 0:15:09.650 Absolutely. 0:15:10.250 --> 0:15:10.930 Absolutely. 0:15:12.350 --> 0:15:13.350 So I get that. 0:15:13.690 --> 0:15:15.650 And so one of the examples they were giving is 0:15:15.690 --> 0:15:17.830 being in line at a concert. And they said, if 0:15:17.870 --> 0:15:20.570 you can't go into that show and enjoy the entire 0:15:20.630 --> 0:15:23.380 concert and not have to wait a while to come down, 0:15:23.740 --> 0:15:26.940 you should have said something because they ruin. Even if 0:15:26.980 --> 0:15:29.660 they don't move, at least you said something and tried 0:15:29.720 --> 0:15:30.700 something as opposed to. 0:15:30.640 --> 0:15:32.800 Sitting there going, but God damn it, my night's ruined. 0:15:33.020 --> 0:15:35.160 I'm going to obsess over it. I'm going to obsess 0:15:35.260 --> 0:15:38.040 over it more if I said something and he didn't 0:15:38.080 --> 0:15:40.340 do anything because then I'm like, yep, there's the girl. 0:15:41.630 --> 0:15:42.890 Everybody's making fun of me. 0:15:42.910 --> 0:15:46.040 So, no. Wait, who's making fun of you? Nobody else 0:15:46.100 --> 0:15:47.220 said anything. 0:15:47.460 --> 0:15:49.700 The other people may be in front of me where 0:15:49.740 --> 0:15:52.880 he cut with them or whatever who saw me say 0:15:52.920 --> 0:15:57.320 something and then him just blow me off. I would 0:15:57.360 --> 0:15:59.500 be obsessing about how embarrassed I was. 0:15:59.560 --> 0:16:00.560 What are you embarrassed about? 0:16:00.800 --> 0:16:04.300 Instead of me not saying anything and still going into 0:16:04.320 --> 0:16:06.920 the show. You know what? I got in. It took 0:16:06.950 --> 0:16:07.920 a minute, but I'm here. 0:16:10.020 --> 0:16:12.690 You don't think, as Jonathan points out, that the people 0:16:12.750 --> 0:16:15.090 around you, Elliot, wouldn't make fun of you saying to 0:16:15.130 --> 0:16:17.050 the guy, are you deaf? You don't see the line 0:16:17.110 --> 0:16:22.490 behind you? Mike Jones says, this reminds me of the 0:16:22.510 --> 0:16:24.670