WEBVTT - Tamara Ghosted Josh Over Tapas

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<v Speaker 1>More variety from the two thousands, the nineties, and today

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<v Speaker 1>it's Star one O one three. It is Marcus. Good morning.

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<v Speaker 1>We're back with Second Date Update again this morning. Thank

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<v Speaker 1>you to everybody tuning in every morning. Appreciate you. Josh

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<v Speaker 1>Is on the phone, Hello, I loved your DM where

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<v Speaker 1>you were like, I can't believe I'm actually calling to

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<v Speaker 1>be on Second Date Update, but here we are. I

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<v Speaker 1>want to talk about your date with Tamra because I

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<v Speaker 1>want to help you out.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, it's been a little weird for me here right.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean we met on Hinge.

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<v Speaker 3>We met up after we exchanged some messages, and we

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<v Speaker 3>went to dinner and Walnut Creek a couple weekends ago

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<v Speaker 3>at this point, okay, and we had tapas, went super smooth,

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<v Speaker 3>good food.

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<v Speaker 2>Good wine, good energy.

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<v Speaker 3>And she seemed really impressed by how confidently I came in.

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<v Speaker 3>I thought everything was just one hundred percent top to bottom. Okay,

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<v Speaker 3>especially considering a tap us, it can be very intimidating.

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<v Speaker 1>All those small plates rolling around.

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<v Speaker 2>Everything's in Spanish, all small plates. Honestly, not enough commitment,

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<v Speaker 2>everything so small.

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<v Speaker 3>You know, I thought everything went really easily. I mean,

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<v Speaker 3>we ate absolutely everything to put in front of us, so,

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<v Speaker 3>you know, seemed to be enjoying it, and we absolutely

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<v Speaker 3>hit it off about our feelings on books.

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<v Speaker 2>You know, we're very.

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<v Speaker 1>Are you read you reader?

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<v Speaker 2>Oh yeah, okay, a.

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<v Speaker 3>Big reader, and I just I can't get behind screen

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<v Speaker 3>based reading.

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<v Speaker 2>This is very much I'm not I'm not there for

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<v Speaker 2>the pixels, you know.

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<v Speaker 1>Sure, were there any awkward moments that you can think of?

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<v Speaker 1>I'm just trying to dissect why she might have ghosted?

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<v Speaker 2>No, not at all.

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<v Speaker 3>In fact, she went out of her way to tell

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<v Speaker 3>me about previous bad dates that she was on, and

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<v Speaker 3>it was like, oh, good, at least I'm.

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<v Speaker 2>Not that guy.

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<v Speaker 1>Sure, but she's gone.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I haven't heard a thing.

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<v Speaker 1>All right, we're going to see what she says about

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<v Speaker 1>the date. I'd love to get you a second date,

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<v Speaker 1>but let's the very least get some answers. All right,

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<v Speaker 1>but let's positive thinking we're going to get you a

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<v Speaker 1>second date. Can you hang on the line? Well, variety

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<v Speaker 1>for the two the nineties and today it's star one,

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<v Speaker 1>O one three. It is Marcus, good morning, we're doing

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<v Speaker 1>second date update right now. I've been chatting with my

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<v Speaker 1>guy Josh offline. I love this date so dinner and

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<v Speaker 1>Walnut Creek top us and Josh, you did all the ordering?

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<v Speaker 2>Is that? Oh yeah, okay, perfectly well.

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<v Speaker 1>But Tamra has ghosted, so let's try to figure some

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<v Speaker 1>things out. Go ahead and meet your phone and we will.

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<v Speaker 1>We'll give her a shout here we go.

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<v Speaker 2>Hello.

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<v Speaker 1>Hi is this Tamrah?

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<v Speaker 2>Yes?

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<v Speaker 1>Hi, my name is Marcus. I do a radio show

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<v Speaker 1>in the morning on a station called Star one O

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<v Speaker 1>one three. I don't suppose you listen.

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<v Speaker 4>I don't, unfortunately.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, that's fine. We're doing a segment on the show.

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<v Speaker 1>It's called second Date Update, and I got floated your

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<v Speaker 1>phone number by a guy who listens to the show

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<v Speaker 1>who went on a date with you recently. He's feeling ghosts.

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<v Speaker 1>I wanted to check in with you and see how

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<v Speaker 1>the date went. It's kind of like a teachable moment.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm trying to figure out if my guy did something wrong,

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<v Speaker 1>or if you've just been busy, or what the deal is.

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<v Speaker 1>Do you have a second to talk about it? Your

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<v Speaker 1>date with a guy named Josh, Uh sure.

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<v Speaker 2>Thank you? So?

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<v Speaker 1>He said it went really well. He said that you

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<v Speaker 1>told some good stories, that the food was good, that

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<v Speaker 1>you were lovely, he'd love to go out again. Did

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<v Speaker 1>you ghost?

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<v Speaker 2>I mean.

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<v Speaker 4>I tried not to like ghost in general, I feel

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<v Speaker 4>like that's true, not like the greatest tactics, but honestly,

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<v Speaker 4>in this case, I just felt like I didn't want

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<v Speaker 4>to go in for a lecture on why I wasn't

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<v Speaker 4>making the right choice. I felt like there was sort

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<v Speaker 4>of a lot of lecture elements of our.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay gate can you can you elaborate on that? I'm

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<v Speaker 1>just trying to figure out what my guy did wrong totally.

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<v Speaker 4>I mean, he seems really nice and like Perston of all,

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<v Speaker 4>and we had nice conversation, but honestly, the whole thing

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<v Speaker 4>felt more like sort of a ted talk on. We

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<v Speaker 4>went out for top us and it felt like I

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<v Speaker 4>was I was there to like learn about It felt

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<v Speaker 4>like a seminar on top of us rather than like

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<v Speaker 4>getting to know you sort of date.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, he kind of ran the ordering and stuff. Was

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<v Speaker 1>that not helpful?

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<v Speaker 4>I mean he didn't really check in with me to

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<v Speaker 4>see what I wanted. And maybe that works for some people,

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<v Speaker 4>but like, I don't like being ordered for, especially if

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<v Speaker 4>I don't ask for it. And whenever I suggested something,

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<v Speaker 4>he was like, Okay, kiddo. There was a lot of

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<v Speaker 4>kiddo throughout the date, which is sort of a red

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<v Speaker 4>flag for me.

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<v Speaker 1>Like he literally said that, like that's what he called you.

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<v Speaker 4>He called me kiddo, and like maybe he thought that

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<v Speaker 4>was sort of funny, but I thought it was pretty gross.

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<v Speaker 4>And he explained Sangria to me. There was just sort

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<v Speaker 4>of a lot of dicepsic of the evening, and he

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<v Speaker 4>was like, well, you probably aren't familiar with this, even

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<v Speaker 4>though I had told him that I had been to

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<v Speaker 4>Spain and also just like have been alive for a

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<v Speaker 4>number of years, so I know what angria is. Sure,

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<v Speaker 4>So it was just a lot of condescending in that department.

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<v Speaker 4>Otherwise really nice, but maybe he thought it was my

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<v Speaker 4>first time out to dinner.

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<v Speaker 1>Other than that, it was amazing.

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<v Speaker 4>Other than that, it was amazing and I learned a lot. Actually.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, well, okay, here's where we are with this is

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<v Speaker 1>part of this is Josh's actually listening right now, and awesome, right, Sorry,

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<v Speaker 1>I'd love to bring him on. Great, Josh, are you there?

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, Okay, I think I am.

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<v Speaker 1>We've got some answers now, so, oh my gosh.

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<v Speaker 3>Hi. Okay, first of all, I thought I was taking

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<v Speaker 3>charge here because I was just trying to save us

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<v Speaker 3>from ordering six versions of the same croquette. I mean,

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<v Speaker 3>I asked you about allergies, so I knew we were

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<v Speaker 3>getting out ahead of that one.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, but just because I don't have an allergy to

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<v Speaker 4>something doesn't mean I want to eat it. It's not

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<v Speaker 4>like I was with my dad's friend at a restaurant,

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<v Speaker 4>like I needed help ordering.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, but I feel like you need to expand your palette.

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<v Speaker 3>I mean, that's why we're there. That's what the whole

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<v Speaker 3>point of proper is.

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<v Speaker 2>No.

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<v Speaker 4>Oh, really interesting, So it was sort of like a

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<v Speaker 4>learning moment for me. It was an enrichment exercise for me.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, I don't see why can't be.

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<v Speaker 3>Everything's an important opportunity for growth.

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<v Speaker 4>But you already know the answers well.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean when it comes to topics. Yeah, okay, fascinating.

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<v Speaker 1>All right, Hey you guys, hang on, hang on one second,

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<v Speaker 1>hang on, Hey, Tamera, I like you too much. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>not gonna put you through anymore of that. I don't

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<v Speaker 1>think he was listening at all. Right, I'm gonna I'm

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<v Speaker 1>gonna let you go. You're amazing, Okay, Wow, all right,

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<v Speaker 1>second date updates,