WEBVTT - 7am Hour - Certified Legend 0:00:00.160 --> 0:00:04.240 Katy wb Ooh that sounds really good. Chips and salsa 0:00:04.320 --> 0:00:06.640 or chips and casa. While you're thinking about that one, 0:00:06.680 --> 0:00:08.800 I've got a keyword for you. This is the last 0:00:08.880 --> 0:00:10.240 day that our show is doing, and I think he 0:00:10.280 --> 0:00:13.000 continues this weekend. So play the game, win that trip. 0:00:13.760 --> 0:00:14.760 Let's take a trip. 0:00:14.560 --> 0:00:17.200 Before Yes, just win a trip to Los Angeles to 0:00:17.200 --> 0:00:19.520 see Sabrina Carpenter at one of our sold out shows. 0:00:19.600 --> 0:00:22.599 Happens now. 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Tell me about what happened in the process 0:01:02.160 --> 0:01:03.560 and what's going on now? 0:01:05.080 --> 0:01:09.480 Okay, Yeah, I was. I was thinking about divorcing my husband. 0:01:10.800 --> 0:01:14.559 You know, he's like he's fine, he's he's this kind 0:01:14.560 --> 0:01:19.759 of dull, kind of boring. And I started thinking like, hmm, 0:01:19.760 --> 0:01:22.160 what if there was, like, you know, somebody else out 0:01:22.200 --> 0:01:25.200 there that that if I was, if I was single, 0:01:25.280 --> 0:01:27.160 if I was free, if I was able to figure 0:01:27.160 --> 0:01:31.040 out who I'd want to be with. Uh, I kind 0:01:31.080 --> 0:01:33.080 of thought that I would just be looking for the 0:01:33.120 --> 0:01:34.600 same man as my husband. 0:01:35.640 --> 0:01:39.000 Oh okay, so you're making like a list of like 0:01:39.120 --> 0:01:42.240 qualities that you want in a man or something if 0:01:42.240 --> 0:01:44.840 you ended up leaving him. 0:01:44.959 --> 0:01:45.240 Yeah. 0:01:45.520 --> 0:01:49.640 Yeah, Like you know, if I I would want somebody 0:01:49.680 --> 0:01:54.360 who's like a steady eddy that's my husband, you know, 0:01:55.680 --> 0:01:59.440 I would I would want somebody that's involved with with 0:01:59.520 --> 0:02:03.560 my son, our son. My husband coaches te ball for 0:02:03.720 --> 0:02:07.080 her son, Like he's you know, he's we don't fight, 0:02:07.160 --> 0:02:10.960 we don't have any financial problems. But I was just like, 0:02:11.919 --> 0:02:14.160 you know, I was thinking about this, and I was like, 0:02:14.880 --> 0:02:17.040 instead of going through all the divorce, if you meet 0:02:17.120 --> 0:02:20.320 somebody that you know kind of checks all the boxes 0:02:20.360 --> 0:02:23.080 and you think, oh that could work, just think like, 0:02:23.320 --> 0:02:28.160 maybe don't get divorced. Maybe your husband's fine, and you know, I. 0:02:28.120 --> 0:02:29.880 Think I think I get what she's saying. You can 0:02:29.960 --> 0:02:31.320 think about this when if you broke up, and I 0:02:31.560 --> 0:02:33.240 want you to picture this. If you're married right now, 0:02:33.280 --> 0:02:34.960 and maybe you're you know, there's a lot of marriages 0:02:35.000 --> 0:02:38.079 that are okay, there's some that are wonderful, and there's 0:02:38.120 --> 0:02:41.200 a lot that are like, we're kind of roommates. Think 0:02:41.200 --> 0:02:43.600 about this if you were single, because I think what 0:02:43.639 --> 0:02:46.040 she's saying is if you're single and you're like out 0:02:46.160 --> 0:02:49.360 dating again and you met somebody who was like kind 0:02:49.360 --> 0:02:51.720 of like your current partner, would you go like, they're 0:02:51.800 --> 0:02:54.840 kind of a catch. You know, they're they're just different, 0:02:54.960 --> 0:02:57.680 they're steady, addy, they do you know, they're involved with 0:02:57.680 --> 0:03:01.640 the kids. But you had said you didn't say this 0:03:01.680 --> 0:03:03.560 now because maybe you got shy about it. You said 0:03:03.560 --> 0:03:05.240 you want a guy with a sex drive, but not 0:03:05.320 --> 0:03:10.360 somebody who wants it all the time. Yes, okay, all right, 0:03:10.800 --> 0:03:12.640 So you want a guy who's like, you don't want 0:03:12.639 --> 0:03:14.560 a guy who doesn't have any kind of a sex drive, 0:03:14.960 --> 0:03:16.560 But you don't want a guy who's like, you know, 0:03:16.800 --> 0:03:19.040 you can't even like bend over the kitchen sink. Or 0:03:19.080 --> 0:03:21.400 empty the trash without him being like, hey, let's go 0:03:21.639 --> 0:03:22.760 what So. 0:03:24.560 --> 0:03:27.799 Is that normal that way? 0:03:27.880 --> 0:03:29.560 So he's like, yeah, he has the drive, but not 0:03:29.639 --> 0:03:31.840 all the time. So then you start to realize if 0:03:31.880 --> 0:03:33.720 you were out dating and you met somebody on hinge 0:03:33.760 --> 0:03:36.640 that was a steady eddy, maybe a little bit dull, 0:03:37.720 --> 0:03:40.240 wasn't you know, like always you know, pestering you for 0:03:40.320 --> 0:03:43.160 the loving, you'd be like, this guy's quite a catch. 0:03:44.280 --> 0:03:46.320 Oh wait, that's my husband. 0:03:46.360 --> 0:03:47.119 I already have that. 0:03:48.120 --> 0:03:53.040 But yeah, comes mister Cinek over here. I just fething 0:03:53.080 --> 0:03:53.640 to say. 0:03:53.560 --> 0:03:56.200 I should never be in a thought process where I'm like, 0:03:56.960 --> 0:03:58.920 maybe I should get a divorce, because if I get 0:03:58.960 --> 0:04:00.640 to that point, then I don't think that is saving it. 0:04:00.680 --> 0:04:02.200 I think, you know, if you think you should get 0:04:02.240 --> 0:04:03.280 the voice, then it should happen. 0:04:03.680 --> 0:04:07.680 Though I really disagree, because like there's so many like 0:04:07.800 --> 0:04:11.200 chances when you're even in just a relationship prior to marriage, 0:04:11.200 --> 0:04:13.040 where you're like, is this the one right for me? 0:04:13.080 --> 0:04:14.560 And it's a lot of self sabotage. 0:04:14.760 --> 0:04:16.839 You said it right there, before marriage when you when 0:04:16.839 --> 0:04:19.000 you marry somebody, you make vows to commit for better 0:04:19.080 --> 0:04:20.800 or for worse, for richard, for poor, for all those things. 0:04:20.880 --> 0:04:22.680 Yeah, but there's fifty percent divorce rate. 0:04:22.960 --> 0:04:23.359 I think. 0:04:23.600 --> 0:04:27.640 I think it's hard to say. Like us three on 0:04:27.680 --> 0:04:30.000 the show, Dave's been married for a long time. We 0:04:30.080 --> 0:04:33.400 have never been in a super super super long relationship, 0:04:33.600 --> 0:04:35.679 So I don't think we can necessarily relate to someone. 0:04:35.680 --> 0:04:37.960 I don't know how long you've been married, Chaila, but like, 0:04:38.200 --> 0:04:40.760 if you've been in a relationship for fifteen years, like, 0:04:41.320 --> 0:04:42.120 does it change? 0:04:42.320 --> 0:04:42.680 Does it? 0:04:42.760 --> 0:04:45.440 Like Lauren? No, it changes for sure. 0:04:45.520 --> 0:04:47.280 But I think that you made a commitment to be 0:04:47.360 --> 0:04:47.919 with this person. 0:04:48.000 --> 0:04:50.160 I'm not going to get too a marriage considering that 0:04:50.200 --> 0:04:51.080 it might end one day. 0:04:51.320 --> 0:04:53.240 I think that it is a very that's a commitment 0:04:53.320 --> 0:04:55.960 to I think if it's a religious ceremony, I think 0:04:55.960 --> 0:04:59.200 it's a commitment to God. I don't think you should 0:04:59.240 --> 0:05:03.040 commit to ten years of a happy marriage and thirty 0:05:03.080 --> 0:05:05.679 more years of being miserable with each other. Yeah. 0:05:05.720 --> 0:05:08.560 So a lot of people are texting in that this 0:05:08.640 --> 0:05:10.919 is the Pina Colada song, which is what I thought. 0:05:11.360 --> 0:05:16.480 And I never knew that you like Piniina by the way, Pina, 0:05:17.760 --> 0:05:20.760 and she said, I never knew that part of the 0:05:20.760 --> 0:05:23.080 song was like because he walked into the bar and 0:05:23.120 --> 0:05:24.520 He's like, oh, it's you. 0:05:24.839 --> 0:05:27.400 So the song is that these two people they put 0:05:27.400 --> 0:05:30.160 out like ads because they want to find someone else 0:05:30.200 --> 0:05:32.719 outside of their marriage, so they're looking to cheat. But 0:05:32.760 --> 0:05:35.200 then when they fulfill the ad, they go on this 0:05:35.320 --> 0:05:37.960 date to go and meet this person that was fulfilling 0:05:37.960 --> 0:05:40.839 the ad, and it's their spouse that is. 0:05:40.880 --> 0:05:42.960 So you know what, Sheila, you brought up a really 0:05:43.000 --> 0:05:44.680 interesting topic. I wish we had more time to talk 0:05:44.720 --> 0:05:46.240 about it, but thank you because I think it made 0:05:46.320 --> 0:05:50.160 a lot of people think. But I I gotta say 0:05:50.160 --> 0:05:54.360 that if you really sometimes you know, it's like, man, yeah, 0:05:54.400 --> 0:05:56.760 I have a commitment, but I also don't want to 0:05:56.760 --> 0:05:59.359 commit myself to being bored and lonely and miserable for 0:05:59.400 --> 0:06:01.480 the next thirty Sheila, thanks for being on. Have a 0:06:01.520 --> 0:06:05.920 great day. Okay, yeah, yeah, thank you. We're gonna we'll 0:06:05.920 --> 0:06:07.560 talk about this a little bit more when we come back. 0:06:07.600 --> 0:06:09.920 Somebody says vont is showing his age with that answer, 0:06:10.279 --> 0:06:13.320 and then said it's kind of true. Somebody else says, 0:06:13.360 --> 0:06:15.359 the grass is not always greener. We got a lot 0:06:15.400 --> 0:06:17.000 of response on this one. We got to take a break. 0:06:17.000 --> 0:06:18.760 We'll come back in a second and we'll talk more 0:06:18.760 --> 0:06:21.440 about this in a little bit on kd WB one 0:06:21.520 --> 0:06:24.800 hour commercial free, including our favorite part of the week, 0:06:24.920 --> 0:06:28.160 no phone screen or Friday. What are you gonna call him? 0:06:28.160 --> 0:06:31.400 It's this radio show that's kind of sketchy, the Dave 0:06:31.440 --> 0:06:32.000 Frine Show. 0:06:32.160 --> 0:06:34.880 I'm kd W. I would not listen to this radio 0:06:34.880 --> 0:06:40.360 station alone in the dark, that's for sure. Ooh, sketchee. 0:06:40.440 --> 0:06:43.159 Where have you been, Jenny? We've been missing you. We 0:06:43.200 --> 0:06:45.080 wonder where you were. And Bailey said, you're probably taking 0:06:45.120 --> 0:06:47.919 a big you did, yeah? I said she pooping And 0:06:47.960 --> 0:06:49.719 Bailey said she taking a big, fat poop. 0:06:49.880 --> 0:06:52.440 Yeah, And he's like, Bailey, disgusting, and you said it. 0:06:52.480 --> 0:06:55.080 I thought I had till seven nineteen, so I thought 0:06:55.080 --> 0:06:56.680 I was right on time. I guess I was just 0:06:56.720 --> 0:06:58.599 a little My phone must be behind. 0:06:58.440 --> 0:07:00.800 Yes, so let's get back to the action here. Yes, 0:07:01.160 --> 0:07:03.440 we talked to a woman a minute ago, Sayla, I 0:07:03.440 --> 0:07:06.000 believe her name was, Yeah, really really interesting take on 0:07:06.200 --> 0:07:08.800 a divorce because she said, Hey, I've been married for 0:07:08.839 --> 0:07:12.000 a while. My husband's boring. He's like a steady eddy, 0:07:12.120 --> 0:07:14.600 he coaches t ball, he's you know, a good you 0:07:14.640 --> 0:07:18.560 know husband whatever, He's just boring. And she started to 0:07:18.600 --> 0:07:21.960 go through like divorce and like thinking about divorce and 0:07:22.160 --> 0:07:24.360 working it through in her mind and going out and 0:07:24.400 --> 0:07:26.200 seeing what she could get as far as a new 0:07:26.240 --> 0:07:29.040 partner and meeting people, and the idea is maybe kind 0:07:29.040 --> 0:07:32.200 of exciting to her. So then she started thinking about, God, well, 0:07:32.200 --> 0:07:35.040 what if I met a guy. I really would if 0:07:35.080 --> 0:07:37.600 I met a guy that had all those boxes like 0:07:37.840 --> 0:07:41.280 kind of boring and steady, eddy, good with the kids. 0:07:43.120 --> 0:07:45.720 Once I had to have a sex life, it's not 0:07:46.080 --> 0:07:50.040 crazed about it. And then she realized that's what her 0:07:50.160 --> 0:07:52.480 husband is. So then she said, I am not going 0:07:52.560 --> 0:07:55.280 to get a divorce. So and I thought that was 0:07:55.320 --> 0:07:58.680 really interesting because if you were divorced and single and 0:07:58.720 --> 0:08:01.880 you found somebody who was just like, I mean, the 0:08:01.960 --> 0:08:02.800 good qualities. 0:08:02.920 --> 0:08:04.640 M hmm, yeah, because everybody has. 0:08:04.560 --> 0:08:09.640 Bad qualities too, except they're boor Yeah yeah, maybe borings not. 0:08:09.920 --> 0:08:13.400 I'd rather have a boring relationship than somebody who is 0:08:13.480 --> 0:08:15.520 full of drama, right, I had to bail them out 0:08:15.560 --> 0:08:18.320 of prison and take him to Betty Ford and all that. 0:08:18.400 --> 0:08:21.960 You know. I just Okay, So I'm talking to somebody 0:08:22.040 --> 0:08:26.680 named Angela, and you're kind of in the same boat 0:08:26.840 --> 0:08:29.760 that she was. Hi, Angela, tell me your story. 0:08:30.880 --> 0:08:33.199 Good morning, same boat. 0:08:34.720 --> 0:08:36.440 I mean I thought of over you know, I thought 0:08:36.440 --> 0:08:38.360 about divorce on and off. It's not that I don't 0:08:38.360 --> 0:08:41.000 love my husband. Of course, I love my husband. We've 0:08:41.040 --> 0:08:44.400 been married over fifteen years. But I mean he's kind 0:08:44.440 --> 0:08:47.000 of an overtime, you know, marriage has change, and he 0:08:47.160 --> 0:08:48.679 just doesn't want to go out. He doesn't want to 0:08:48.720 --> 0:08:50.880 go out to dinner. He doesn't want to go do things, 0:08:50.960 --> 0:08:53.559 you know, like go out and dates, you know, little dates. Yeah, 0:08:53.600 --> 0:08:55.400 so I've just decided. I thought about it. 0:08:55.440 --> 0:08:56.360 You know, I thought about the. 0:08:56.280 --> 0:08:59.080 Divorce thing, but I mean I trust my husband. Trust 0:08:59.200 --> 0:09:02.560 is hard. I have single friends. The dating world is terrible. 0:09:02.960 --> 0:09:05.360 So I'm just gonna go out. I decided to date myself. 0:09:05.480 --> 0:09:07.839 Like we should normalize being able to go to dinner 0:09:07.880 --> 0:09:11.080 by yourself, go do things by yourself. I deserve to 0:09:11.120 --> 0:09:14.760 be happy. She deserves to be happy. I mean, I 0:09:14.800 --> 0:09:16.959 mean it doesn't like she does not have like she's 0:09:17.120 --> 0:09:19.880 she doesn't like hate him or anything. Stay married, take 0:09:19.920 --> 0:09:23.280 yourself out, do things for yourself. Nobody deserves your your 0:09:23.320 --> 0:09:24.280 time more than yourself. 0:09:24.400 --> 0:09:26.600 Okay, I like that. I don't like that. Angela, and 0:09:26.640 --> 0:09:28.720 you've been married for fifteen years and you said that 0:09:28.760 --> 0:09:30.800 what has changed? So he used to want to go 0:09:31.360 --> 0:09:35.080 out to you know, play darts or go dance or go. 0:09:35.000 --> 0:09:38.599 To a movie or what you absolutely, and just it 0:09:38.720 --> 0:09:41.280 just hasn't. He's more of a homebody now, which is fine, 0:09:41.360 --> 0:09:43.680 you know. I mean I do I ask for it 0:09:43.679 --> 0:09:46.640 every night. No, but I mean there's I mean, life 0:09:46.679 --> 0:09:48.440 just changed. He just wants to be a homebody. Doesn't 0:09:48.480 --> 0:09:50.080 want to go out on dates, doesn't want to go 0:09:50.080 --> 0:09:52.120 to you know, just doesn't want to go to like 0:09:52.160 --> 0:09:54.840 different sports events or like you said, go bowling or 0:09:54.920 --> 0:09:57.080 go out with friends or go play Bengo. 0:09:57.160 --> 0:09:58.120 He just doesn't want to do that. 0:09:58.200 --> 0:09:59.960 So I'm just I'll do it myself yoursel. 0:10:00.400 --> 0:10:02.600 Are you happy with that? And you don't have to 0:10:02.640 --> 0:10:04.680 be you know, I think you're being real honest, But 0:10:04.760 --> 0:10:07.199 do you kind of wish that it was? Like, Man, 0:10:08.360 --> 0:10:10.800 I'm kind of looking around going I wish I had 0:10:10.800 --> 0:10:14.079 a partner that wanted to go to can Can Wonderland, 0:10:14.440 --> 0:10:17.320 who wanted to go to Nick Universe type of thing. 0:10:17.840 --> 0:10:20.520 I mean, yes and no, but I mean nowadays it's 0:10:20.800 --> 0:10:23.400 hard to find somebody. And I mean, I definitely all 0:10:23.400 --> 0:10:26.360 the qualities he has. I love everything that he has. 0:10:26.679 --> 0:10:28.400 So I just feel like, if, like she said, if 0:10:28.440 --> 0:10:30.440 I went and found I would I would think about 0:10:30.520 --> 0:10:33.000 him more than anything. I mean, it's hard to trust 0:10:33.000 --> 0:10:36.079 and I you know, and so nobody deserves my time 0:10:36.160 --> 0:10:36.560 more than me. 0:10:36.800 --> 0:10:39.120 You know what. I love, Angela. I love that attitude. 0:10:39.160 --> 0:10:40.800 I'm so glad that you were able to be on 0:10:40.840 --> 0:10:43.000 the radio with us. Yea, and a great week you take. 0:10:43.040 --> 0:10:44.720 You're taking yourself out this weekend. 0:10:45.559 --> 0:10:47.280 And you know what, yes, because he's going hunting. 0:10:49.960 --> 0:10:52.079 By the way, you win, you win the Minnesota Accents 0:10:52.120 --> 0:10:52.840 of the Day award. 0:10:53.040 --> 0:10:56.000 So the body, thank you. 0:10:55.440 --> 0:10:56.880 Thank you, have a good day. 0:10:57.000 --> 0:10:59.320 I'm glad that she's choosing to date herself though, and 0:10:59.360 --> 0:11:01.440 not go find other people, because I said that the 0:11:01.480 --> 0:11:05.120 minute divorce or even like going to find somebody else 0:11:05.120 --> 0:11:07.160 crosses your mind, just do it. Because I feel like 0:11:07.240 --> 0:11:09.520 you made a commitment to your partner when you just 0:11:09.760 --> 0:11:11.800 decided to get married, the thought of going to somebody 0:11:11.840 --> 0:11:13.160 else shouldn't cross your mind. 0:11:14.240 --> 0:11:18.520 Oh you got I disagree with me. I think if 0:11:18.559 --> 0:11:20.199 you're gonna be honest, I think that you know, I 0:11:20.320 --> 0:11:23.280 thought about divorce before. I'm sure Susan has thought about 0:11:23.280 --> 0:11:27.959 it before, and not for any like wow reason, like wow, 0:11:28.120 --> 0:11:31.560 you have a gambling problem or whatever, just kind. 0:11:31.440 --> 0:11:35.240 Of like you know, yeah, and it's not. 0:11:35.160 --> 0:11:38.080 Like we ever like got serious about it. But I 0:11:38.080 --> 0:11:41.000 think that if every couple is being honest, there's probably 0:11:41.000 --> 0:11:44.000 a part of every couple that's been married for forty 0:11:44.080 --> 0:11:48.960 years where they've at one point said, well, yeah, is 0:11:49.000 --> 0:11:50.040 this making me happy? 0:11:50.600 --> 0:11:52.320 I think go ahead, Jenny, I was gonna say. 0:11:52.360 --> 0:11:54.880 I think that once you get into a longer relationship, 0:11:54.920 --> 0:11:56.880 you still like really care about your partner, if you 0:11:56.960 --> 0:11:59.560 chose the right partner. It just is a matter of like, 0:11:59.600 --> 0:12:02.600 there are certain things every person evolves throughout their life, 0:12:02.600 --> 0:12:05.120 It's true, and you don't necessarily evolve in the same 0:12:05.120 --> 0:12:05.960 way as your partner. 0:12:06.040 --> 0:12:07.920 Look at this guy. He used to go out. He 0:12:07.960 --> 0:12:08.520 doesn't go out. 0:12:08.679 --> 0:12:11.120 It's like it's like you, there are parts of you 0:12:11.160 --> 0:12:13.600 that probably question, like is there someone else that fits 0:12:14.040 --> 0:12:15.240 who I am as a person? 0:12:15.280 --> 0:12:15.559 Better? 0:12:15.600 --> 0:12:15.760 Now? 0:12:16.160 --> 0:12:18.240 Like the point of likes though you say for better, 0:12:18.280 --> 0:12:20.360 for worse, rich, for poor, I commit like my life 0:12:20.400 --> 0:12:20.560 to you. 0:12:20.600 --> 0:12:21.600 That's the point of marriage. 0:12:21.679 --> 0:12:22.520 But if you change in. 0:12:22.880 --> 0:12:26.440 A way that's not beneficial to like the relationship, then 0:12:26.679 --> 0:12:29.080 I think it's better to get a divorce, but in 0:12:29.120 --> 0:12:31.679 her case, like the person she would be looking for 0:12:31.760 --> 0:12:33.640 is essentially going to be the same guy anyway. 0:12:33.720 --> 0:12:36.600 I hear what you're saying, like you should not feel 0:12:36.679 --> 0:12:39.560 confined right to that person whatever changes. But again, I 0:12:39.640 --> 0:12:43.160 just you know, if something happened tomorrow or in twenty 0:12:43.240 --> 0:12:45.360 years Alyssa changes, we get married, I don't know. 0:12:45.760 --> 0:12:48.600 I said, Hey, I'm with you for life. 0:12:48.679 --> 0:12:50.240 I just think you shouldn't go into a situation of 0:12:50.240 --> 0:12:51.360 commitment with a notion in. 0:12:51.320 --> 0:12:53.199 The back of your head that I don't know if 0:12:53.679 --> 0:12:54.199 I don't think you do. 0:12:54.360 --> 0:12:56.640 Nobody goes into marriage thinking like someday I'm going to 0:12:56.679 --> 0:12:58.839 get a divorce. At least I hope they don't, or 0:12:59.080 --> 0:13:01.520 if you do, then you probably know right off the 0:13:01.559 --> 0:13:03.560 bat that's not the right person for you. Yeah, I 0:13:03.640 --> 0:13:05.559 just think that it's a naive thing to say that 0:13:05.640 --> 0:13:09.360 you wouldn't potentially think about someone else. I'm all for 0:13:09.559 --> 0:13:11.920 working for the relationship. I am all for trying to 0:13:11.960 --> 0:13:14.240 get through hard times with people, or if you are 0:13:14.320 --> 0:13:16.560 getting bored in your relationship, I'm all for trying to 0:13:16.600 --> 0:13:17.679 like figure out what the. 0:13:17.640 --> 0:13:18.520 Solution is for that. 0:13:18.760 --> 0:13:22.319 Yes, but I do think that it would be I 0:13:22.360 --> 0:13:23.960 don't know. I just think it'd be silly to say 0:13:24.000 --> 0:13:25.160 that people don't have those thoughts. 0:13:25.160 --> 0:13:27.160 Though. Well, if you just turned the radio on. We 0:13:27.200 --> 0:13:29.240 were talking about a woman called in and she said 0:13:29.320 --> 0:13:31.560 she thought about getting a divorce, but then she fast 0:13:31.600 --> 0:13:34.360 forward in her mind how it would play out. She 0:13:34.400 --> 0:13:36.520 would go out, try to find a new partner, and 0:13:36.559 --> 0:13:39.000 if she found somebody who is just like her husband, 0:13:39.040 --> 0:13:41.679 she'd be like, what a catch. And then she realized 0:13:41.679 --> 0:13:44.120 that she has what a catch. We got a lot 0:13:44.120 --> 0:13:47.960 of responses on this one. For example, this one says, 0:13:47.960 --> 0:13:49.880 I want to say thanks to Angela, who just called 0:13:49.920 --> 0:13:53.120 in and she said, my husband's boring. So instead of 0:13:53.200 --> 0:13:56.200 like me staying home at being bored, I take myself out. 0:13:56.400 --> 0:13:58.959 This text says, thanks Angela. I've been going back and 0:13:59.040 --> 0:14:00.760 forth on divorce because he doesn't want to go out, 0:14:00.760 --> 0:14:02.840 and now I'm going to take myself out. That's a 0:14:02.880 --> 0:14:04.480 great compromise. 0:14:03.960 --> 0:14:04.600 Can I. 0:14:04.400 --> 0:14:07.240 I would like to also say on that note, like, yes, 0:14:07.480 --> 0:14:10.199 I'm not married. My last relationship though, was like almost 0:14:10.240 --> 0:14:13.240 five years and I was in the same position where 0:14:13.600 --> 0:14:15.679 it was really great at the beginning, obviously, and then 0:14:15.679 --> 0:14:17.600 he just didn't want to go out anymore. So I 0:14:17.679 --> 0:14:20.080 continued living my life the way I wanted and he 0:14:20.160 --> 0:14:21.160 lived his separate life. 0:14:21.240 --> 0:14:23.240 And I feel like, yes, take yourself out. 0:14:23.240 --> 0:14:26.080 But if your lives like diverge so fully that you're 0:14:26.160 --> 0:14:28.160 just living two different lives and kind of ships in 0:14:28.200 --> 0:14:31.000 the night in your home, then like I would say, 0:14:31.040 --> 0:14:31.640 get a divorced. 0:14:31.920 --> 0:14:36.080 It could be happy. Seriously, why commit yourself. I'll give 0:14:36.080 --> 0:14:38.760 you two thoughts, And I really believe this. You might disagree. 0:14:38.880 --> 0:14:40.800 If you have to work that hard on a marriage, 0:14:40.880 --> 0:14:43.520 it ain't a good marriage. Yeah, marriage, You should not 0:14:43.640 --> 0:14:47.240 have to work that hard on a marriage. If you 0:14:47.360 --> 0:14:49.520 have to work that hard, marriage does a lot of work. 0:14:49.560 --> 0:14:51.800 It shouldn't be that much work, or it's not a 0:14:51.800 --> 0:14:52.360 good marriage. 0:14:52.400 --> 0:14:54.200 I disagree. I mean, I hope that it doesn't get 0:14:54.240 --> 0:14:56.640 to that point. But marriage is all about as far 0:14:56.680 --> 0:14:58.920 as I know, I'm not married, but like sacrifice and 0:14:58.960 --> 0:15:00.200 deciding to always show up. 0:15:00.360 --> 0:15:02.160 This other text it says I agree with. 0:15:02.360 --> 0:15:04.600 Nowhere is it vont Throughout a long marriage, people fall 0:15:04.640 --> 0:15:06.400 in and out of love all the time. The trick 0:15:06.560 --> 0:15:08.880 is to make the choice to stay, even during the 0:15:08.880 --> 0:15:11.280 seasons when the love might feel lost. However, it's normal 0:15:11.320 --> 0:15:13.280 to start considering the what ifs during those seasons two, 0:15:13.520 --> 0:15:15.760 so to be able to navigate the highs, the lows, 0:15:15.800 --> 0:15:17.880 the ups and downs, the peaks and valleys, but still 0:15:17.920 --> 0:15:18.280 get through. 0:15:18.320 --> 0:15:20.280 I think support. I think that's true. I mean you 0:15:20.320 --> 0:15:22.360 fight over like you know, she spent too much money 0:15:22.440 --> 0:15:24.880 or he bought a new motorcycle without asking or whatever, 0:15:25.320 --> 0:15:28.000 then yeah, those are your peaks and valleys. But if 0:15:28.040 --> 0:15:31.760 everything is like uh ho hum, I don't say I 0:15:31.800 --> 0:15:34.960 love you, we don't kiss, we don't do this, you 0:15:35.120 --> 0:15:37.280 pass each other naked in the hallway and you don't 0:15:37.280 --> 0:15:40.000 even glance at each other, then things start to be 0:15:40.080 --> 0:15:45.280 a problem. We are We thought with the story with Sheila, 0:15:45.400 --> 0:15:47.600 how she was going to get a divorced and she 0:15:47.720 --> 0:15:50.080 realized if she was dating again and she found somebody 0:15:50.120 --> 0:15:52.840 just like her husband, it would just be like the 0:15:52.920 --> 0:15:59.000 Pina Colada song, which goes back to about nineteen seventy nine. Now, 0:15:59.640 --> 0:16:02.920 this is probably the biggest boss Check song we've ever played, 0:16:03.160 --> 0:16:05.400 but we're gonna play it right now. One of the 0:16:05.440 --> 0:16:09.240 best story songs ever. You've probably heard it, but listen 0:16:09.280 --> 0:16:13.240 to the story again and how they got that together 0:16:14.640 --> 0:16:20.400 Boss Jack katiewb and one of the greatest story songs 0:16:20.400 --> 0:16:23.400 of all time. And the reason we played it was 0:16:23.480 --> 0:16:26.320 because we were talking about how if you left your 0:16:26.440 --> 0:16:29.840 partner and then went out on the dating thing and 0:16:29.880 --> 0:16:31.720 then tried to find somebody and you found somebody who 0:16:31.760 --> 0:16:33.360 was a lot like your partner, would you go, wow, 0:16:33.400 --> 0:16:37.760 they're a catch? And then you realize my partner's kind 0:16:37.800 --> 0:16:39.800 of a catch. And that's what Sheila called in a 0:16:39.840 --> 0:16:42.080 little while ago with So we said, well, let's play 0:16:42.080 --> 0:16:44.080 the Pina Colada song, which is exactly that. 0:16:44.160 --> 0:16:44.600 Exactly. 0:16:44.720 --> 0:16:48.800 Apparently Rich is in a coma because Rich would have 0:16:48.840 --> 0:16:52.120 called the radio station shrieking, get that song off of 0:16:52.280 --> 0:16:55.760 radio station. So he made a lot of songs. A 0:16:55.800 --> 0:16:57.880 lot of people texted in and said, I've heard this 0:16:57.960 --> 0:17:00.080 song a million times. I've never even paid attention that 0:17:00.120 --> 0:17:02.280 there was a story in there. Oh my god, is 0:17:02.840 --> 0:17:04.720 one of the greatest story songs. 0:17:04.440 --> 0:17:07.320 Of all They don't make story songs like they used to. 0:17:07.520 --> 0:17:09.919 Know, greatest story song of all time? You want to 0:17:09.920 --> 0:17:10.280 know what it is? 0:17:10.320 --> 0:17:14.639 What is it? It wasn't me, but Shaggy It's true. 0:17:15.960 --> 0:17:23.760 In the bathroom, it wouldn't be handed. It wasn't me. 0:17:24.200 --> 0:17:25.400 Oh wow, that. 0:17:25.480 --> 0:17:28.440 Is a great story. 0:17:28.560 --> 0:17:32.840 I tried to top that tell you the greatest story song. 0:17:32.720 --> 0:17:35.200