Speaker 1: It's Marcus in the morning, and we're back with its
Speaker 1: second date update. You know how this works. You go
Speaker 1: on a first date. If you get ghosted, just call
Speaker 1: me and we will call your date together. Steven is
Speaker 1: on the phone. Good morning, Steven, Good morning.
Speaker 2: How you doing. I'm doing well. How long you have
Speaker 2: been listening to the show? Steven? I'm curious? Oh yours? Okay?
Speaker 2: So you know how this works. You know what's up?
Speaker 3: Yeah?
Speaker 1: Tell me Aboutanelle. So, you guys, I love Lafayette. It's
Speaker 1: a great place for our first date. That whole that
Speaker 1: whole town is a first date. So I understand she's disappeared. However,
Speaker 1: run me through the date.
Speaker 2: How did it go?
Speaker 3: I thought it was actually pretty great.
Speaker 4: We had a really fun time and I took her out,
Speaker 4: like I said, Adam was great.
Speaker 2: Yeah, we're just walking.
Speaker 3: Around, you know.
Speaker 4: We had some dinner and the whole time we're like,
Speaker 4: it felt really nice, like the small hand tan touching
Speaker 4: accidentally and all that stuff was it was great and
Speaker 4: it felt easy the whole time, which was really fantastic.
Speaker 3: I don't have that that often, you know.
Speaker 4: So we lingered over coffee and we're just walking around
Speaker 4: and everything and when I left, I was like, oh,
Speaker 4: I'm definitely gonna see her again.
Speaker 3: And I sent her a text.
Speaker 2: I called, and I'm running over my head like what
Speaker 2: did I do? I say anything stupid?
Speaker 3: Do anything stupid?
Speaker 2: Sure?
Speaker 3: I don't think I did.
Speaker 2: Okay, well, let's see what happened. Go ahead and meet
Speaker 2: your phone. Let's give her a shout.
Speaker 3: Okay, Hello, Hi, is this Danielle.
Speaker 5: This is Danielle.
Speaker 2: Danielle. It's Marcus calling from a star one O one three?
Speaker 5: Oh.
Speaker 2: How are you well?
Speaker 5: Hello? I'm pretty good.
Speaker 2: How are you do you do you listen to the show?
Speaker 5: I do?
Speaker 2: Yes, I love it. Okay, what did I do?
Speaker 5: No?
Speaker 2: No, you're I don't know yet. We're doing second date
Speaker 2: update and you're the Hi.
Speaker 5: Wow, what a world? How exciting?
Speaker 2: Can you go sit on a date recently? We'll lead there.
Speaker 5: Look, I guess you could call it that. Okay, Oh sure, yeah.
Speaker 2: So I'm hoping it's Stephen with Stephen.
Speaker 5: Is he listening? I see with.
Speaker 2: Yes, yes he is. May I all right, Steven.
Speaker 5: Yep, here we are.
Speaker 1: Hey, Hi, this is the problem with you stay for
Speaker 1: like a decade. Everybody's in on it now, So Danielle,
Speaker 1: we can be adults, right, so you do yeah, or
Speaker 1: did something like ghosting?
Speaker 3: Yeah?
Speaker 2: I guess, So did something go wrong?
Speaker 5: Stephen wants to know at this point, Yeah, what happened?
Speaker 5: I did have a good time. Things were going well.
Speaker 5: I feel like we were vibing okay. But then Stephen's
Speaker 5: phone rang. I remember this very specifically, and he looked
Speaker 5: at the collar idea and he smiled and answered. And
Speaker 5: it was very casual and it wasn't an emergency call
Speaker 5: and nobody was sick or in a tough situation. It
Speaker 5: was just his ex girlfriend's mom. And they talked for
Speaker 5: like a solid five minutes, so not forever, but significant, right,
Speaker 5: five minutes is longer, you know, that's a whole conversation.
Speaker 5: He asked about her knee surgery and her garden flower
Speaker 5: or something like that, and her dog, and then before
Speaker 5: they finished the phone call, he promised that he was
Speaker 5: going to stop by to help her set up a
Speaker 5: new Wi Fi router. So I was just there sipping
Speaker 5: my drink, being like, what is happening right now? So
Speaker 5: my own first date was someone speaking to their ex girlfriend.
Speaker 5: Like I didn't understand. I was like who. Anyway, he
Speaker 5: got off the phone and he just shrugged and said, oh, yeah,
Speaker 5: we're really close. She's basically like family. So I asked,
Speaker 5: does your actually know you guys still talk and Stephen said,
Speaker 5: of course. He said he doesn't talk to his ex anymore,
Speaker 5: but the mom and him stayed really close friends and
Speaker 5: they still do like business cards. And he said that
Speaker 5: she sends her cookies every year, which is very sweet,
Speaker 5: even though it's I will say, it's just a little
Speaker 5: bit off putting. He even said that they text so
Speaker 5: often that sometimes she has made extra leftovers, like sheil
Speaker 5: She'll say, oh, no, I made too much lasagna. Do
Speaker 5: you want some leftovers?
Speaker 2: Okay?
Speaker 5: So I could it was just kind of over.
Speaker 2: The top, Steven. They're ridiculous, Steven.
Speaker 1: Yeah, so I'm going to gloss over the fact that
Speaker 1: you still talk to your ex's mom.
Speaker 2: That's okay, I guess.
Speaker 1: However, how come you couldn't just tell her you were
Speaker 1: on a first date and then call her back later,
Speaker 1: because this is low key rude.
Speaker 4: It is, and I understand that, but if I told
Speaker 4: Cheryl and I was on a gate, she would have
Speaker 4: started asking a hundred questions.
Speaker 2: Gime me on the phone an longer.
Speaker 4: She's she's a big talk, and it was actually just
Speaker 4: faster to let me just do the five minute thing,
Speaker 4: as opposed.
Speaker 1: To you.
Speaker 5: Could have thought of any reason to get off the phone.
Speaker 5: That's insane to just say, no, I'm just gonna let
Speaker 5: my ex's mom dmbinate the moment of my first date.
Speaker 1: Ty, your timing is sus my man like, Yes, you
Speaker 1: have to like situational awareness, other big psychology.
Speaker 5: You need to have some kind of strategy or some
Speaker 5: kind of exit plan. Like that's a little that's very intense.
Speaker 5: Do you see how that's intense for me?
Speaker 2: I don't think it's too weird, though. I mean I
Speaker 2: dated her daughter for like six years.
Speaker 3: You know what I mean, And you don't.
Speaker 4: You don't necessarily like just erase people from your life
Speaker 4: that you associate with.
Speaker 5: I understand that. No, that makes sense. I'm not asking
Speaker 5: you to delete this person from your life, but to
Speaker 5: bring that up on a first date that you're still
Speaker 5: so close with your previous relationships mother is pretty intense.
Speaker 5: It is kind of a lot, and it doesn't really
Speaker 5: set a good foundation for being with a new person.
Speaker 5: Does that make sense?
Speaker 2: Yeah, I know it does, but.
Speaker 4: I'm not It's only I'm choosing her over a future
Speaker 4: partner or anything like that.
Speaker 5: You know.
Speaker 3: I mean, it's just I'm just being.
Speaker 5: Kind, Okay, but there's you aren't being kind to me,
Speaker 5: and it just makes me feel like you have a close,
Speaker 5: no our relationship. If you and I were to continue
Speaker 5: forward and something went wrong, that you would then call
Speaker 5: Carol or whatever her name is.
Speaker 3: Sorry.
Speaker 5: Can you see how this is very strange for me?
Speaker 2: It's weird for me. I wasn't even there, Okay, I
Speaker 2: understand what.
Speaker 3: I'm just being a nice person.
Speaker 2: I don't see how this is about that, right, So
Speaker 2: second date or not?
Speaker 5: I have to say I'm pretty hesitant about that.
Speaker 2: All right, I'm calling and hang on a sec. Wow, okay,
Speaker 2: Second date update