Speaker 1: Can I complain about my upstairs neighbor?
Speaker 2: David?
Speaker 1: Sure, I've complained about her a lot.
Speaker 2: She's very nice person, but she has the loudest feet.
Speaker 2: She walks around very loudly all the time, and I
Speaker 2: swear she's constantly.
Speaker 1: Walking back and forth, back and forth.
Speaker 2: But a new thing, not a new thing, but a
Speaker 2: thing that she's been doing that has also irked me,
Speaker 2: especially like last night, I'm laying in bed, it's like
Speaker 2: ten fifteen after I saw Wicked, came home, laying in bed,
Speaker 2: and I can hear her doing the loven upstairs, and
Speaker 2: it's like it's usually it it creeps in because you
Speaker 2: can hear something and you're like, what is that thing
Speaker 2: that I hear? Because her bedroom is one hundred percent
Speaker 2: right right right above mine, and if I can hear
Speaker 2: her walking, then I can definitely her hear her doing
Speaker 2: the loven. But what's annoying about it? Because I wouldn't
Speaker 2: care if it was just kind of like a week
Speaker 2: weeky weeky weeky, because then it's over eventually, and then
Speaker 2: I can you know it's calming, she's giving right there,
Speaker 2: she's but yes, because she's making sounds.
Speaker 1: She's constantly making.
Speaker 3: Thump, it would be.
Speaker 1: That's what I said.
Speaker 2: Vonn Okay, that's what I said, because she's it's it's
Speaker 2: not just the like rhythmic nature of the sound, because
Speaker 2: that's fine.
Speaker 1: I don't care, you know, you do you. I'm glad
Speaker 1: you're getting some grillly pop.
Speaker 2: But it's the loud exclamation during it, and I can
Speaker 2: hear you.
Speaker 3: You're right underneath.
Speaker 2: You're literally right there, and I can hear you. And
Speaker 2: I think that's all put on. That's all an act.
Speaker 2: She's not making those sounds in earnest.
Speaker 3: Come on, so she's got so she's putting on a show.
Speaker 2: Yeah, she's putting on a show for whoever she's up
Speaker 2: there with.
Speaker 3: I've heard somebody one said sex is naked theater, and
Speaker 3: I don't disagree with that. That sounds right because I
Speaker 3: think that some people sex is naked theater. It's a
Speaker 3: chance to bend and perform and try to get the
Speaker 3: best reaction you can out of your audience, which is
Speaker 3: a lot of the time it's the woman who is
Speaker 3: doing the theatrics and the guy is going the best
Speaker 3: lover in the world, look at me. Her exclamations.
Speaker 2: I'm listening to her and I'm like, there's no way
Speaker 2: she's naturally making those sounds.
Speaker 1: So she's faking it. You don't know, you don't know
Speaker 1: what she she's putting it on.
Speaker 4: Well, I was going along with your joke.
Speaker 2: I just think she is like, oh god, how often
Speaker 2: is it happening? I don't know, Like once every two
Speaker 2: weeks is when I hear it. Sometimes I'm sure I'm
Speaker 2: sleeping by the time it happens. It could be that good.
Speaker 2: It's not that good every single night.
Speaker 5: Well, I don't think she's getting every yeah, so if
Speaker 5: it was every single night, I'd be like, relax.
Speaker 3: But so the theory is, and we talk about this
Speaker 3: after the kids were in school, because you know, we
Speaker 3: don't want little Cynthia to be like what is that?
Speaker 1: What does that mean?
Speaker 3: But I think that there is something too performative reactions.
Speaker 3: And I think that, well, there's a lot of women
Speaker 3: that do because they just wanted to be over with
Speaker 3: because what are you doing. You're going and he's going, oh, yeah,
Speaker 3: she's loving this. Let's keep going for a.
Speaker 1: Long Then you just hear my upstairs neighbor, oh my yeah.
Speaker 3: Then you go and then you go hoping that he'll
Speaker 3: stop because he's just slapping away.
Speaker 2: Sometimes I do want to yell up there, come on,
Speaker 2: give it a rest, But then I don't want to
Speaker 2: embarrass her because I don't think she knows that I
Speaker 2: can hear.
Speaker 1: Everything she does.
Speaker 3: You're right about that.
Speaker 2: Yeah, No, she's like probably even younger than I am. Honestly,
Speaker 2: she's around my a girl.
Speaker 3: How bad that everybody else is getting some except you.
Speaker 2: Yeah, she can't hear me doing anything downstairs because I
Speaker 2: think the only thing that she can probably hears my
Speaker 2: cat crying.
Speaker 3: How sad and text messages Bailey at Katie wb One.
Speaker 3: Bailey's claiming that the next door upstairs neighbor is loud
Speaker 3: and faking it noises make it more of a turn on.
Speaker 3: I think that's probably true, rather than sit there unexpressive
Speaker 3: and be like, but you.
Speaker 4: Can't be overdoing it.
Speaker 5: There's an episode of Euphoria where she's clearly making fake noises,
Speaker 5: and I think she stops in the middle She's like,
Speaker 5: are you just faking? And a big oh, and you
Speaker 5: can't be doing it, like like it's clearly like oh
Speaker 5: oh oh, like stop, just cut it out.
Speaker 3: I don't think I would know whether they were faking
Speaker 3: or not. I'm not going to get into details, but
Speaker 3: it's kind of like I'm sure that I probably was
Speaker 3: like thinking I'm doing a really good job many times,
Speaker 3: and my partner was like, oh god, uh uh uh
Speaker 3: uh uh, get off, get off of me, please text messages.
Speaker 3: I'm loud, but it's partly feedback for my partner. Another one,
Speaker 3: my upstairs neighbor walks very loudly too, all day long.
Speaker 5: Yeah, I wonder how many people and if you feel
Speaker 5: comfortable texting fake it?
Speaker 4: And how I do you fake it?
Speaker 2: If there's a bold statement, I would say, like if
Speaker 2: you're doing the love and all the time and you're.
Speaker 1: Always going, oh my gosh, you're faking it. Period, you're
Speaker 1: faking it.
Speaker 2: So I mean it might be for feedback, great, give feedback,
Speaker 2: But why you gotta be so loud that I can
Speaker 2: hear you downstairs?
Speaker 1: Why God be so loud. I'll be morning in upstairs apartment.
Speaker 3: All you ever gonna be is loud. Some day I'll
Speaker 3: be sleeping with my little kid and all your ever
Speaker 3: gonna be is loud. Oh God, she's okay. You just
Speaker 3: heard the genius happen just now. It's amazing. All right,
Speaker 3: bring Jenny no kidding, Jenny, when you coming back to
Speaker 3: going back really briefly, and we don't want to get
Speaker 3: too hung up on this, but Bailey was complaining about
Speaker 3: her neighbor upstairs.
Speaker 1: My neighbor upstairs.
Speaker 2: She she walks really loud, and now she has taken
Speaker 2: to having the love and very loud, and I think
Speaker 2: she's faking it because it's just, you know, you hear
Speaker 2: the rhythmic.
Speaker 1: And then you hear her going, oh my god.
Speaker 2: It's annoying, and I think she's faking it, and I
Speaker 2: think she should stop.
Speaker 3: We got a text from somebody who said, eight years
Speaker 3: with the same guy, faked it every single time.
Speaker 2: Wow.
Speaker 3: And so then it's like, well, why do you fake it?
Speaker 3: I mean redirect your partner to tell them what to do.
Speaker 3: And a lot of women have probably tried that and
Speaker 3: he just e's it or it's not cooperating or it's
Speaker 3: not working or whatever. So we just have an expert
Speaker 3: on the show and I can't remember her name, but
Speaker 3: she said women will fake it to get it over with.
Speaker 3: It's like like you know, slapping away, and it's like
Speaker 3: you just wanted to be done, so you'll be you know,
Speaker 3: we pretend that you're finished. Yeah, so he'll finally be
Speaker 3: like But the only problem with that is it builds
Speaker 3: up a sense of well, that worked, I'm going to
Speaker 3: do that again.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I must be so good.
Speaker 2: I what I'm doing is so magical that this text
Speaker 2: says women should not fake so much, because then dudes
Speaker 2: think what they're doing is so great every succession. Yeah,
Speaker 2: we're filling their heads with an ego that will not
Speaker 2: suit them with future partners. It's like telling someone they're
Speaker 2: good at something when they're just average or they suck
Speaker 2: at it.
Speaker 5: Women do this all the time. Forget future partners. What
Speaker 5: if that is your future partner? Yeah, you tell them
Speaker 5: to help them, critique them, you know what I'm.
Speaker 1: Saying, and then you end up faking it for eight years.
Speaker 3: Well we'll hear his Eron fake it for eight years.
Speaker 3: Eron is on the phone eight years same guy, Aaron, Right, Yeah.
Speaker 2: That's actually been sixteen with him.
Speaker 3: Oh, so you're you're still in the relationship. Did you
Speaker 3: have to fake it? I don't want to get too personal.
Speaker 3: You can hang up if you want to. Did you
Speaker 3: have to fake it with other partners before this person?
Speaker 2: Uh? No, and the first date We're fine.
Speaker 4: It's just been the last date the first eight years. Yeah,
Speaker 4: because you've been sixteen totally.
Speaker 3: So in the last the first eight we're fine. What change?
Speaker 1: Yeah?
Speaker 3: Can I I mean again, hang up if you don't
Speaker 3: want to answer, what changed?
Speaker 2: Well, two kids and snut books.
Speaker 3: Oh and then so like yeah, how No, it's clear
Speaker 3: he's doing he's getting a stimulation from the the people he.
Speaker 4: Is okay, okay, gotcha?
Speaker 3: No no, no, no, no, no, no no no. Oh okay.
Speaker 2: I'm reading too many books and I'm getting pictures in
Speaker 2: my head and I'm asking him to try new things
Speaker 2: and he just doesn't go for it.
Speaker 1: Oh, I see.
Speaker 2: So she's getting inspiration and he's like now I don't
Speaker 2: want to.
Speaker 4: Oh okay, So after you expecting.
Speaker 3: The other way around. I thought maybe he was looking
Speaker 3: at the smut books and he was not needing the okay.
Speaker 5: Interesting, So your expectations got raised after eight years and
Speaker 5: he wasn't meeting them.
Speaker 4: Correct, gotcha? But don't you want to? I don't know.
Speaker 2: Man.
Speaker 5: Like I said to Bailey, I just wouldn't fake it,
Speaker 5: because if that's going to be your partner for life
Speaker 5: or for whatever long, the only person that benefits from
Speaker 5: you telling them that they're not good?
Speaker 4: Is you so like that way they can get better,
Speaker 4: they can improve.
Speaker 1: Maybe we can start here first, Do you heard it here? First?
Speaker 1: Stop faking it everyone.
Speaker 3: But it's so I think the problem is if you
Speaker 3: you've been do you really want your guy to know
Speaker 3: that you've been faking it for the last three years?
Speaker 3: And it's like, wait, really for the last three years,
Speaker 3: So now you're gonna come clean. And I also think
Speaker 3: that people are worried about the guy's ego. And it's like,
Speaker 3: because I've once had a girlfriend told me that's how
Speaker 3: you kiss, that's how you kiss, and I was pissed. Yeah,
Speaker 3: I was like, nobody in my life has ever told
Speaker 3: me I'm not a good kisser. And she was like,
Speaker 3: that's how you kiss. And that was the one and
Speaker 3: only time we ever made out. Oh yeah, there's a
Speaker 3: radio personality.
Speaker 4: His name is DJ Nvy. He's on the Breakfast Club.
Speaker 5: His wife wrote in a book about how for their
Speaker 5: entire relationship they've been married for thirty something years, she
Speaker 5: has faked it every single time. And I don't know
Speaker 5: why you'd put that in a book. First of all,
Speaker 5: I would never let my wife expose that. But really,
Speaker 5: but I mean, after all this time, he's like working
Speaker 5: with her to be like, Okay, this is what we
Speaker 5: should do.
Speaker 1: Let's try this wow communication. That's fine.
Speaker 5: Well now I'm not gonna trust you afterward. Now you
Speaker 5: could be like, oh, now you're doing better, and I'm
Speaker 5: still not gonna trust you.
Speaker 3: But Aaron, any advice for anybody who's like been faking
Speaker 3: it or not enjoying it.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean I keep trying to help him, keep
Speaker 4: trying new things.
Speaker 2: So I guess I don't.
Speaker 4: I just I don't know.
Speaker 1: I keep trying because it's you know, it's not just
Speaker 1: in the bedroom where he means the most to me.
Speaker 2: So that's a nice sentiment. Well, maybe today is the
Speaker 2: day that it changes, make it happen, right right.
Speaker 3: Aaron, thank you for being on. I really appreciate it.
Speaker 1: Thank you.
Speaker 3: I think what we learned is there's a lot of
Speaker 3: people are kind of in the same boat. Yeah.
Speaker 2: I like the phrase that the bedroom's not the only
Speaker 2: place that he means a lot to me.
Speaker 3: I like that a lot