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Speaker 1: It's Marcus in the morning, and it's time once again

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Speaker 1: for everybody's favorite.

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Speaker 2: This is second date update.

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Speaker 1: Literally, you go on a first date and you get ghosted,

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Speaker 1: and then you call me, and then you and I

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Speaker 1: will call your date together.

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Speaker 2: Let's do this for Maya am.

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Speaker 3: Iya, good morning, good morning.

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Speaker 4: Hi.

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Speaker 2: Now, hi, I understand you got ghosted. Guys.

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Speaker 3: Name's Trevor, Is that right?

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Speaker 5: Yeah, that's right.

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Speaker 2: Okay, what can you tell me about the date?

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Speaker 1: I understand you guys met online, but let's talk about

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Speaker 1: what you did exactly.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 5: So we had a little coffee okay in Redwood City, easy,

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Speaker 5: and like I liked him so much. He was just

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Speaker 5: like funny and like super cute, and I just really

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Speaker 5: enjoyed our conversation and it was just like, I don't know,

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Speaker 5: we just met for like a low key coffee date,

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Speaker 5: but we ended up staying for a really long time,

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Speaker 5: and I don't know, I just walked away thinking that

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Speaker 5: it was success.

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Speaker 2: Okay, And you have not heard from him since?

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Speaker 1: No, not at all.

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Speaker 5: I'm so confused.

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Speaker 2: It's so weird because it's so low key. Well, I know,

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Speaker 2: like I said, I'm gonna why don't we do this?

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Speaker 1: We'll play a song, and then I'm gonna call him

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Speaker 1: and then I'm gonna try to figure out Hey, I

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Speaker 1: want to figure out if he ghosted and y and

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Speaker 1: then b let's let's try to get you a second date.

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Speaker 2: Okay, it's time to mute. Take a deep breath. Are

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Speaker 2: you nervous?

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Speaker 5: I kind of am?

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Speaker 2: That? All right?

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Speaker 1: Me too, I'm just kidding. All right, let's call Trevor.

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Speaker 1: Let's try to figure some things out. Go ahead and

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Speaker 1: listen in. But like I said, mute your phone.

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Speaker 2: Here we go.

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Speaker 3: Okay, Hello, Hi, is this Trevor.

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Speaker 2: Yep, Hey Trevor, this is Marcus calling from Star one

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Speaker 2: one three. Well, good morning. First of all, good morning.

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Speaker 2: I do a radio morning show. I don't suppose you listen,

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Speaker 2: do you?

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Speaker 4: I don't know.

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Speaker 1: That's fine, So we do a segment on our show.

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Speaker 1: I wonder if you might have a second to be

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Speaker 1: on the air with us. It's called second Date Update.

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Speaker 1: A woman gave me your phone number saying that that

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Speaker 1: the two of you had gone on our first date

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Speaker 1: and that she's feeling like maybe you ghosted, and I'm

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Speaker 1: just trying to figure out for her what happened. Maybe

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Speaker 1: you've just been busy but there maybe something went sideways

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Speaker 1: on the date.

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Speaker 2: Would you mind talking on the air about your date

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Speaker 2: with Maya?

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Speaker 3: Oh yeah, yeah, I'm sure.

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Speaker 2: Okay, thank you. So how did it go for you? Well,

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Speaker 2: first of all, did you ghost?

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Speaker 4: I guess I guess, yes, I guess I have been ghosting.

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Speaker 2: Okay.

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Speaker 4: The date itself was fine. Yeah, we got coffee and

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Speaker 4: like we had a nice conversation and stuff, and she

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Speaker 4: seems like a cool person. But there are like two

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Speaker 4: red flags from me that it just kept like pulling

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Speaker 4: me out of the moment.

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Speaker 2: Okay.

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Speaker 4: The first one was she was chewing gum like the

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Speaker 4: entire date and not just like you know, chewing it,

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Speaker 4: but like it like loudly chopping and like popping her

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Speaker 4: gum like between sentences. It was like at least a

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Speaker 4: loud like pop, and like I just once I noticed it,

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Speaker 4: I couldn't stop.

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Speaker 3: I couldn't stop, Like.

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Speaker 4: You're sitting on it, honestly, And I like I did

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Speaker 4: like mention and she said it like helps her her

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Speaker 4: focus and stuff.

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Speaker 2: But it was just like I can't even imagine the

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Speaker 2: taste of like coffee and chewing gum.

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Speaker 4: That's no, that's the thing she would like drink coffee

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Speaker 4: with the gum in her mouth, which is also like

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Speaker 4: kind of insane to me.

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Speaker 2: Too, Right was that it was? That? Was that it?

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Speaker 3: Well?

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Speaker 4: Okay, the second part was actually the like, I guess

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Speaker 4: the real reason why I like, I didn't you know,

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Speaker 4: text her back is that she said that she like

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Speaker 4: hates silence, like she she always has like some something

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Speaker 4: playing in the background, like a TV or podcast or

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Speaker 4: just like stuff on while she's sleeping. And that's like

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Speaker 4: crazy to me. I don't do you.

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Speaker 2: Don't do the white noise, and a lot of people

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Speaker 2: do the white noise.

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Speaker 3: No I get yeah, I.

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Speaker 4: Mean I get it, but like always having something on

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Speaker 4: in the background, Like I don't know, I like, I.

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Speaker 3: Like quiet moments.

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Speaker 4: I like kind of like being in silence.

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Speaker 3: I know, I don't.

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Speaker 4: I don't mind that.

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Speaker 3: I like sure gives me time to think.

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Speaker 4: You know.

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Speaker 1: Okay, well listen. The other half of this is that

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Speaker 1: I've got Maya listening in oh and so I.

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Speaker 2: I'd like to bring her on so we can discuss

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Speaker 2: if that's okay. Why are you there?

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Speaker 1: I am here, Hi, I don't want to do you

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Speaker 1: really chew gum while drinking coffee?

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Speaker 3: Why is that?

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Speaker 2: So strange to me.

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Speaker 5: Well, I'm actually chewing dumb by now, Okay, it just

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Speaker 5: you know, I yeah, he was right, that's what I said.

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Speaker 5: It helps me focus.

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Speaker 2: And the taste though with coffee, though, is it not weird?

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Speaker 5: I'm just so used to it that its like doesn't

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Speaker 5: bother me.

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Speaker 2: Yeah. What about I wrote down constant need for noise?

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Speaker 2: Is that accurate?

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Speaker 1: Yeah?

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Speaker 2: Like always always, I mean pretty much.

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Speaker 5: It just helps me, like focus. I have like a

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Speaker 5: startle reflex, so it drowns out like really sudden noises.

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Speaker 3: You know.

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Speaker 5: It's not like I'm blasting music. It's just kind of

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Speaker 5: barely audible. Okay, It's just that silence feels heavy to me.

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Speaker 4: Well for me, it's just like I just I just

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Speaker 4: feel like I would never really be able to fully

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Speaker 4: like relax around you if there's always something going on

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Speaker 4: in the background.

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Speaker 3: You know.

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Speaker 5: Well, okay, I got it. But like I'm not asking

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Speaker 5: to live in a night club, you know what I mean,

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Speaker 5: like opromize, Yeah, but like I'm not.

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Speaker 4: It just makes me feel like we're both kind of

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Speaker 4: living in like separate worlds, you know. And it's it's

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Speaker 4: not like a bad thing that you like to do

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Speaker 4: that but it's like, you know, we just live life differently.

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Speaker 2: And I just think that's not your thing.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, it's not my thing.

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Speaker 5: Okay, I'm just like I'm feeling a little bit judged.

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Speaker 5: That's part of who I am, you know, Well, it's

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Speaker 5: not judging.

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Speaker 4: I'm just it's just something that I noticed.

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Speaker 1: Listen, there might be a guy out there that's into

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Speaker 1: that too. So let's you guys, why don't we call this?

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Speaker 1: Just hang on the line. Okay, Trevor, thanks for picking

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Speaker 1: up my arm. Sorry I didn't work out. Can you

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Speaker 1: guys hang on for me? Sure?

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Speaker 2: Sometimes it just doesn't happen.

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Speaker 1: I guess Second Date Update will be back tomorrow, uh

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Speaker 1: Evan nine o'clock. Of course, you got the podcast on

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Speaker 1: the iHeartRadio app that you can binge listen to all

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Speaker 1: the past phone calls. You literally go look for Marcus

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Speaker 1: in the morning Second Date Update set a preset and

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Speaker 1: the app is free.

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Speaker 2: The Star one on one three