WEBVTT - Hasn't Told His Friend Is It a Red Flag?

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<v Speaker 1>All right, it is Mojo in the Morning phone number

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<v Speaker 1>eight four to four Mojo Live textas nine to five

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<v Speaker 1>to five zero zero. I want you guys, tell me

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<v Speaker 1>if you think this is a red flag. We have

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<v Speaker 1>a friend who has been dating a guy for gosh

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<v Speaker 1>over a month or so, and he still hasn't told

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<v Speaker 1>his friends or coworkers that he's dating this this girl,

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<v Speaker 1>and I want to know. They're staying at each other's

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<v Speaker 1>places and uh, touching naughty bits and hanging out with

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<v Speaker 1>each other all the time. They're going to dinners, they

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<v Speaker 1>hold hands, they do things like that red flag if

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<v Speaker 1>you don't tell friends, like you don't tell your actual

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<v Speaker 1>close friends, or you don't tell like your family that hey,

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<v Speaker 1>I've been seeing this person. I think that there's something

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<v Speaker 1>that you got to be aware that this is not

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<v Speaker 1>a relationship. This is not going to be for some reason.

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<v Speaker 1>He's something's crazy, there's something.

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<v Speaker 2>So you're saying the person that's being dated if the

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<v Speaker 2>other person doesn't tell everybody, I should think that's a

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<v Speaker 2>real Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>Like, like we were having a conversation and we said, hey,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, uh, so have you met like anybody like

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<v Speaker 1>you've been together for a couple of months. I think

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<v Speaker 1>it has been, have you you know?

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<v Speaker 3>Oh so it has, it hasn't just been. I was

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<v Speaker 3>just gonna say, cause a month to me is not

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<v Speaker 3>that crazy. Like her friends have met, but his friends haven't,

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<v Speaker 3>and I just think that they're like to me, I

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<v Speaker 3>would do war the roses on this guy.

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<v Speaker 2>It's too early.

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<v Speaker 1>I would think that there's somebody else.

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<v Speaker 3>I would tell you that when West and I started dating,

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<v Speaker 3>that I had started dating somebody because I was trying

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<v Speaker 3>to keep our newness in this little protective cocoon, just

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<v Speaker 3>to see like, Okay, I want this, do I want this?

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<v Speaker 1>But do you go somewhere?

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<v Speaker 3>And then I was like, okay, now I can tell everybody,

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<v Speaker 3>but you told somebody.

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<v Speaker 1>I guarantee you told oh yeah somebody. Yeah, tell you

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<v Speaker 1>didn't tell us because we're you know, the show. But

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<v Speaker 1>I guarantee you told your closest friends. You're right, I did, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>and maybe family like your sister or somebody. But so

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<v Speaker 1>this is this is weird. He has not told anybody. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>after a couple of minds serious to him?

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<v Speaker 3>Huh?

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<v Speaker 1>Is it that serious to him? Well? I could tell

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<v Speaker 1>you this that he looks like he's enjoying every bit

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<v Speaker 1>of her.

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<v Speaker 4>See.

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<v Speaker 2>That's the thing though, brocause I've been in situations before

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<v Speaker 2>where the girl and I we were just smashed and

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<v Speaker 2>she would come over, we would do our thing, we

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<v Speaker 2>might go outside and get a bite to eat, hit

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<v Speaker 2>the movies.

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<v Speaker 1>But it's not a relationship.

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<v Speaker 2>So it's not going to be something that I feel

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<v Speaker 2>is serious enough for me to involve other people.

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<v Speaker 1>If you're a guy and you don't let your best

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<v Speaker 1>guy friends know that you met somebody, you're not into

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<v Speaker 1>that person. That's what I'm saying.

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<v Speaker 2>It's not serious.

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<v Speaker 1>Now.

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<v Speaker 2>I can be into the person, but it doesn't mean

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<v Speaker 2>that I see this person as somebody I'm going to.

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<v Speaker 1>Be in a relationship with her. And if I was

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<v Speaker 1>a girl, I would think that that is a I

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<v Speaker 1>would be red flagging that and taking this from a

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<v Speaker 1>guy that you know has dated but also has a

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<v Speaker 1>lot of friends that date. I have a lot of

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<v Speaker 1>guy friends. I know when they're serious about a girl

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<v Speaker 1>when they're telling the group text, Hey man, it went

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<v Speaker 1>out with her, we had a great time like stuff

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<v Speaker 1>like that, or.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know, bro, I've never liked See I agree

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<v Speaker 3>with that if I know, if I if I'm dating

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<v Speaker 3>a guy hypothetically Obviously, if I'm dating a guy and

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<v Speaker 3>it's been two three months and he hasn't told any

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<v Speaker 3>of his friends about me or family, I haven't met anybody,

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<v Speaker 3>I'm thinking there something is very very wrong now.

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<v Speaker 1>And I think that if you're spending like weekends like

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<v Speaker 1>where you're spending the whole weekend. And I said this

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<v Speaker 1>to her, I said, hey, like, does he take calls

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<v Speaker 1>when you guys are around? And he goes, no, He's

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<v Speaker 1>really good about like not picking up his phone or

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<v Speaker 1>doing stuff like we spend time together. We really are

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<v Speaker 1>with each other. I'm like going, Okay, guess what, he's

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<v Speaker 1>turning his phone off because he don't want people know

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<v Speaker 1>he's got somebody over. I holds hiding.

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<v Speaker 2>I hold my friends and my family to the highest

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<v Speaker 2>of standards, and everybody just not about to come around

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<v Speaker 2>and meet them. Some of my family members have only

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<v Speaker 2>met one person that I've dealt with literally okay. And

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<v Speaker 2>it's not because I was ashamed of the person or

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<v Speaker 2>I was hiding them. I just like, no, my family

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<v Speaker 2>is my f but they're gonna meet the one.

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<v Speaker 1>But have you been consistent you're solo with or you're

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<v Speaker 1>only with that person and you still haven't even talked.

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<v Speaker 1>You're with other people exactly. That's what I'm saying. I

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<v Speaker 1>think that she's got to be worried about I think

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<v Speaker 1>she's got to be worried that there's other people that are.

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<v Speaker 5>Are we are?

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<v Speaker 2>Do we believe that she's only dealing with him? Yes,

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<v Speaker 2>I know her intentions, she's she's a friend. What's going on, Gina?

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<v Speaker 2>What do you think?

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<v Speaker 5>Hey, Gina and Nathan, Why what's happening?

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<v Speaker 1>Guys?

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<v Speaker 2>So we're just in here listening.

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<v Speaker 5>We think that it's not a red flat because what

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<v Speaker 5>if the family is crazy and they just get all

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<v Speaker 5>up in their business and try to like interfere in

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<v Speaker 5>their relationship.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, but what about friends though? What about close guy buddies?

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<v Speaker 1>What about that? What about he hasn't told anybody, She

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<v Speaker 1>has not much. She has not met anybody associated with him,

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<v Speaker 1>not even coworkers, not, you know what I mean, Like,

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<v Speaker 1>it's the only the only person that she she has.

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<v Speaker 1>Matt is the DoorDash delivery guy that comes and brings

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<v Speaker 1>food to their house when they go over to his playoffs.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, I mean, maybe maybe he just wants a little

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<v Speaker 5>privacy and he just don't want empty in his business.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, that's the doordass driver.

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<v Speaker 2>Sometimes people rush into stuff too much and start introducing

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<v Speaker 2>him to everybody.

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<v Speaker 4>It is my son.

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<v Speaker 1>Like, no, take it easy, bro, slow down.

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<v Speaker 5>I don't even know what this is like said too

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<v Speaker 5>about you know, maybe it's just now I'm curious.

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<v Speaker 1>You don't even get health insurance to you ninety days in?

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<v Speaker 1>Why are you? Melissa? Do you agree that it's not

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<v Speaker 1>a red flag like the last callers?

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<v Speaker 4>Oh no, it's a big red ferend. Even my twelve

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<v Speaker 4>year old daughter, she's a texted and thinks it is

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<v Speaker 4>a big red flash.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh my gosh, I like it. I like we're taking

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<v Speaker 1>advice from a twelve year old daughter. Here, what's going on, Melissa?

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<v Speaker 4>He's right here, so Bella say hi, Hi, Bella, Bella.

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<v Speaker 1>How do you know it's a red flag? Are you

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<v Speaker 1>a twelve year old that actually is? Dates?

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<v Speaker 3>No, my uncle is doing it was right now?

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<v Speaker 1>Oh wait a second, hold on your uncles. Let's sell

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<v Speaker 1>out your uncle here a little bit. He's hiding a

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<v Speaker 1>girl form everybody. Yes, how do you know?

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<v Speaker 4>Because we're still friends with her?

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<v Speaker 1>Oh you really do you think that you your do

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<v Speaker 1>you think your uncle is uh? He's got some other

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<v Speaker 1>girls on the side, some potential. Yes, really, Oh my god,

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<v Speaker 1>I like this. By the way, we need to have

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<v Speaker 1>we need to have more twelve year old moments where

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<v Speaker 1>they're given a absolutely all. They're giving us all the

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<v Speaker 1>gossip about what's going on in their family's business exactly. Melissa,

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<v Speaker 1>are you are you? Uh you know a guy right now?

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<v Speaker 1>Or who you? What do you got in your life? Uh?

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<v Speaker 4>Sort of? Yeah, yes, yes I am.

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<v Speaker 1>Did your daughter give you advice on relationships? Oh?

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, she's my bilt and best friend, and.

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<v Speaker 5>She gives advice to you guys, just not.

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<v Speaker 4>On the phone, but on the way to school every morning.

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<v Speaker 2>Are there any red flags with mom's boyfriend? Yes? Many?

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<v Speaker 1>Which ones are? Does she know this? Yes?

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<v Speaker 4>The flags the way he acts, like.

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<v Speaker 1>What specifically, just like his like his emotions.

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<v Speaker 4>He's still like I don't want to explain it, but

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<v Speaker 4>he's back and forth, up.

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<v Speaker 3>And down, hot and cold.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, this is amazing. You think that kids don't notice

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<v Speaker 1>stuff that goes on. They notice everything that's unbelievable. You

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<v Speaker 1>guys need to call us more off And I like that.

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<v Speaker 1>Anaya what's up? A Naya morning?

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<v Speaker 5>Guys, Good morning, I say It's definitely a red flag

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<v Speaker 5>or maybe even yellow flag, because my first date with

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<v Speaker 5>my now boyfriend of five years is actually with his

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<v Speaker 5>best friends.

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<v Speaker 1>So it.

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<v Speaker 5>Was more so like his best friends mean the world

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<v Speaker 5>to him. So if I kind of passed that test

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<v Speaker 5>with mingling with his friends and I was good to go.

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<v Speaker 5>So now we're five years stop.

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<v Speaker 1>I agree. If you are that good, he's going to

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<v Speaker 1>bring everybody and want you to be around everybody because

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<v Speaker 1>his goal is that he wants to show you off

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<v Speaker 1>first date.

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<v Speaker 5>So you should ask her though, if the guy, if

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<v Speaker 5>his friends are that important to where they really need to.

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<v Speaker 2>Know with the first first date with best friends, I

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<v Speaker 2>feel like you don't know how you know, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>you don't know how to operate on your own.

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<v Speaker 1>But within the first within the first month or two,

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<v Speaker 1>you you can't wait to introduce him to your family.

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<v Speaker 1>Unless your family is like Shannon's family and they'rembarrassing, then

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<v Speaker 1>you don't want them. What's up, Tiffany High?

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, I think it's a red flag. I kind of

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<v Speaker 4>feel dumb. But I dated a guy for six years

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<v Speaker 4>and never met any of his friends or coworkers.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, why why was he keeping you a secret?

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<v Speaker 2>Well?

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<v Speaker 4>He was cheating the whole entire time. But he was

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<v Speaker 4>cheating with coworkers and he was a R nurse, but

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<v Speaker 4>they cheated within the whole entire you know, working industry.

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<v Speaker 4>But I've heard, yeah I met his family, but yeah,

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<v Speaker 4>I never met any of his coworkers or friends.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, that's I'm telling you. I think this is maybe

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<v Speaker 1>not going to go six years before he introduces, But

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<v Speaker 1>I think that there is something to this relationship. Not

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<v Speaker 1>introducing to people that you supposedly care about, including your

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<v Speaker 1>best friend.

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<v Speaker 2>Has he had a lot of failed relationships.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know. I don't know this story.

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<v Speaker 2>Maybe he's like, I don't want to just keep introducing people.

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<v Speaker 2>I want to make sure this is someone that will last,

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<v Speaker 2>and then I'll introduce.

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<v Speaker 1>Or maybe you're the embarrassing friend.

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<v Speaker 4>I'm not.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm actually not. I'm friends with We're friends with her.

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<v Speaker 1>So that's why why I bring it up, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>because I think that there's definitely something to be said

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<v Speaker 1>about that.