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Speaker 1: So Emily had quite the week last week. Last week,

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Speaker 1: you were basically going to the hospital almost every day, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: some health issues, and so you had to go in

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Speaker 1: there quite a bit last week, right.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean it's been like three weeks now, but

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Speaker 2: last week amped up. But like three weeks ago, he

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Speaker 2: went to the big VA hospital for the emergency room

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Speaker 2: and just breathing. He's just not the healthiest and so

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Speaker 2: he's okay, but he just needed to be in there

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Speaker 2: to be taken care of, get some medication stuff and

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Speaker 3: But he got super week.

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Speaker 2: And so anyway, what Dae's referred to though, is like

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Speaker 2: last week he moved. He got moved to like the

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Speaker 2: rehabilitation hospital kind of a thing where it's not in

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Speaker 2: the big VA building.

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Speaker 3: It's a smaller place.

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Speaker 2: It's one floor, kind of a convalescent home kind of sense,

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Speaker 2: where there's some nurses and doctors and still running around.

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Speaker 3: But it's a little bit like, you know, lower level.

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Speaker 3: It's not like the big VA hospital, but.

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Speaker 2: It's still it's like a low level hospital. Right.

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Speaker 3: Still, everybody's in there, you know, not doing well.

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Speaker 4: You have his own room.

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Speaker 3: He didn't. He didn't, I know because I got the VA.

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Speaker 2: We've he's been in there so many times, like sometimes

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Speaker 2: he'll get in there and one time he was in

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Speaker 2: an eight man room. So it's four beds on one side,

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Speaker 2: have curtains, but it's like not everybody shuts their curtains.

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Speaker 3: It's just such a while. It seems hard to get healthy,

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Speaker 3: it seems hard to get hell like that, you know.

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Speaker 2: Sorry not to get off topic, but our veterans shouldn't

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Speaker 2: be going through that.

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Speaker 3: I'm sorry. Sorry, totally not the best place to be honest.

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Speaker 3: There are great people there as well, but I just

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Speaker 3: had to get that out off our check. Thank you

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Speaker 2: And so anyway, you got moved to this uh reabentation

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Speaker 2: you know, hospital last week, and I was going in there,

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Speaker 2: like Eddie said, to visit him almost every day after work,

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Speaker 2: and went in there the first time and kind of

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Speaker 2: like when I got in there, immediately I jumped into

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Speaker 2: was going to be like and kind of start talking

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Speaker 2: to nurses and kind of get a lay of the land.

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Speaker 3: Of who's in charge and what's going on.

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Speaker 1: Oh you don't say that you would get in there

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Speaker 1: and try to take over things. How weird of you?

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Speaker 1: That seems so unlike you.

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Speaker 4: I don't think.

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Speaker 3: I don't think I was taking over things. And I

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Speaker 2: And immediately I could tell that these people were a

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Speaker 2: these guys that are in there are constantly ringing buttons

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Speaker 2: pissed when they're not coming to go answer them when

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Speaker 3: So a lot of these you know, a lot of

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Speaker 2: Lots of grumpy gusses, right, And so I did get

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Speaker 2: in there, asking lots of questions and all this other stuff,

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Speaker 4: Well, you know, were they probably like hoping for the

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Speaker 4: You she's way worse.

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Speaker 2: All really really, And so at that point though, I

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Speaker 2: And so that's when I see outside by the nurses

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Speaker 3: Okay, and I start cleaning, and I start cleaning that,

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Speaker 1: Is this you're actually helping or you're just so fidgeting

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Speaker 4: Something has got to do. You can't just sit there

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Speaker 3: I did that.

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Speaker 2: Then I walked over with the same wipes that I had,

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Speaker 3: Let's keep going, start wiping down the counter, wiping it down.

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Speaker 4: Crazy.

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Speaker 2: I decided that I was going to go take a

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Speaker 2: to see, like what's where and where my dad does this?

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Speaker 3: Pete and all this other stuff.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, starts mopping the entire floor.

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Speaker 5: Signs that says wet floor on it, Like where do

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Speaker 2: That's what I stumble upon upon the cafeteria. And when

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Speaker 2: I stumble upon the cafeteria. Right outside the cafeteria, I

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Speaker 2: alternate meal sign up. And I think that's when the

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Speaker 2: nurses are supposed to like sign up, Like they give

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Speaker 2: my dad an option if my dad doesn't want to

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Speaker 2: eat what they have. They have a basic menu with

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Speaker 2: like a turkey sandwich, PB and J, fruit plate, all

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Speaker 2: that hamburger, and they can order that if they don't want.

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Speaker 4: The other food the daily special.

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Speaker 2: And so that's when I'm standing there. I know my

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Speaker 2: when I grab the clipboard and I start filling out

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Speaker 2: which is the PBNJ and the fruit plate. I don't think,

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Speaker 2: so I'm starting to fill fill that up. They're very

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Speaker 2: spread thin here. You guys are very spread thin here.

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Speaker 3: Do you have to like put a signature next to.

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Speaker 2: Me his name, his name, what he wants in the

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Speaker 3: Of course I know all of that.

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Speaker 4: So then what the.

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Speaker 3: Hell I'm doing?

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Speaker 2: And like, as I'm doing the clipboard and putting it

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Speaker 4: You don't work at the hospital. You don't at the hospital,

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Speaker 3: Each other on the whole, And I'm kind of doing a.

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Speaker 2: Head nod like you know, to in front places, filling

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Speaker 2: the nurses station, all this other stuff. Right what she's

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Speaker 5: Okay, They're very busy, they're spread them.

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Speaker 2: And so then I go back and I'm sitting with

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Speaker 2: then that's when I see they bring in a new guy,

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Speaker 3: To the door. My dad's in the middle bed, which sucks.

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Speaker 2: And this other guy he's sitting there and he's arguing

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Speaker 3: And I'm overhearing some stuff that's going on. I'm listening.

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Speaker 2: I'm eavesdropping the whole time, and this guy wants to

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Speaker 2: go for a walk. But I guess when you get there,

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Speaker 2: the protocol is you need to first be evaluated by

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Speaker 2: and to see if you could go walking. By I'm

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Speaker 2: hearing all this, the older gentleman doesn't seem to really

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Speaker 3: Angry, grumpy gus.

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Speaker 4: He's grubbing us. He sees eye.

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Speaker 3: I can walk. I've been walking for eighty five years.

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Speaker 3: I bought for this country. Get the hell away from.

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Speaker 1: Me, you know what I mean.

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Speaker 2: I'm loving his attitude, by the way, and my dad's

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Speaker 2: my dad's making faces.

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Speaker 3: It's a whole scene. And so then the nurse leaves.

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Speaker 2: Then all of a sudden, this guy is kind of

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Speaker 3: On his own.

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Speaker 2: So he picks up his phone and he calls somebody

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Speaker 2: this gentleman apparently had seen me shuffling around, thought I

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Speaker 2: would you please talk to my sister in Pennsylvania for me?

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Speaker 4: What you.

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Speaker 2: I heard him ask this, and I go, you know what,

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Speaker 3: I did hear him say there's a nurse here and

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Speaker 3: I want you to talk. You're not a nurse, and

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Speaker 3: so he asked me, he goes, hey, can you talk

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Speaker 2: What I go, absolutely, absolutely, because I heard enough what's

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Speaker 3: He's not doing a good job about it. And I

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Speaker 3: My dad's been in this place like three other times.

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Speaker 3: I know the deal. Another the deal. So I pick

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Speaker 3: up the phone and say, Hi, there, it's Pat.

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Speaker 2: By the way, of course, Pat for Pennsylvania. I do

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Speaker 2: explain to her that I am not a nurse. I

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Speaker 2: do say that, Thank God. I do say that we.

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Speaker 3: Would have some legal liabilities. I do explain that.

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Speaker 4: She said she was the doctor, and so.

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Speaker 3: I do say that. And then I say, here's what's

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Speaker 3: Here's what's going on.

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Speaker 2: He needs to be evaluated by physical therapy and then

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Speaker 2: they're going to let him walk around. Once they do that,

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Speaker 2: it's a whole process. It's going to take a while.

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Speaker 2: They take a while to come et cetera, et cetera,

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Speaker 2: et cetera. As I'm sitting here doing this, the actual nurse.

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Speaker 3: And says, ma'am, what are you doing?

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Speaker 2: Who are you because I just saw you sitting here

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Speaker 2: visiting bed number two, and can you tell me why

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Speaker 2: I said, oh, I am visiting my dad in bed

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Speaker 2: number two. But I just heard there was a bit

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Speaker 3: A little bit.

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Speaker 2: That's when his face is like, I'm sorry, man, that's

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Speaker 2: completely inappropriate. There are laws here wo and there's hippo

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Speaker 2: laws that are being violated right now by me talking

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Speaker 2: to a patient's parent related to and asked me to

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Speaker 2: not do that anymore and to stop trying to help out.

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Speaker 3: It was Oh, it was mortified all of that happened.

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Speaker 1: I mean all that happened because you can't sit still.

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Speaker 1: Because you can't sit still, that's not true. Yes, they

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Speaker 1: were probably waiting for you to do something because like

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Speaker 1: this chick, she's yes, go and get in our supply.

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Speaker 4: She's writing on our.

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Speaker 1: Charts, she's diagnosing patients.

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Speaker 4: What the hell is going on?

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Speaker 5: Somebody had to Okay, I don't think somebody had to.

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Speaker 5: She gives somebody a sponge mab. The hell is going on?

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Speaker 5: It's a little much, little much, okay, So lesson learned.

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Speaker 3: What they know.

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Speaker 4: You violated the loss again. Nutcase case