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Speaker 1: Well, guess what is just a duo today? The Minnesota

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Speaker 1: Goodbye Jenny is taking a well deserved Does it seem

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Speaker 2: Well, I think both you and Jenny get a lot

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Speaker 1: I've been here for six hundred years. I get six

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Speaker 2: Yeah, but she's been here nine that's a long time.

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Speaker 1: I remember how many you get it? Nine years?

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Speaker 2: I don't know, maybe even ten? Do I think this

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Speaker 1: You still get two weeks a year.

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Speaker 1: Okay, Well Jenny is not here, but we are sorry.

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Speaker 1: Brent writes in following up on yesterday's email regarding hard

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Speaker 1: boiled eggs in lasagna. And now remember Brent wrote in

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Speaker 1: and said you've not lived until you've experienced hard boiled

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Speaker 1: eggs in lasagna. So I said, Brent, please clarify, And

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Speaker 1: he says the eggs were layered in with the lasagna,

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Speaker 1: While I'm here, I might provide one of the more

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Speaker 1: rant and a bit of PSA. If you're buying a

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Speaker 1: it makes home ownership one hundred percent easier. Oh, with

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Speaker 1: especially in a smaller association. I live in an eight

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Speaker 1: unit association new community. When we joined it four years ago,

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Speaker 1: so I joined the board. It's turned into a life

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Speaker 1: sentence or until I sell. Nobody else is willing to

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Speaker 1: Well so are we. We have full time jobs. So

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Speaker 1: if you're considering buying a place with an association, please

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Speaker 1: or assist with special projects like getting painting quotes. It's

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Speaker 1: all folks, stay warn safe up there in Minneapolis. Brent

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Speaker 1: from Chicago. One comment on that one Chase is a

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Speaker 1: member of his association, which really impressed me. I've never

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Speaker 1: another place in Chanhassen years ago, and I put the

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Speaker 2: Oh and the trouble or something.

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Speaker 1: I didn't get in trouble, but I got scolded and reminded.

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Speaker 1: It had panels of glass in different patterns than they accepted. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: I don't have any horse in this race. I've never

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Speaker 1: No. And that's the thing is they don't want a

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Speaker 1: Well, there's fucking rules, Bailey, pay attention.

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Speaker 2: Forty eight kids I have on my team, two parents

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Speaker 1: And I said, I don't know that he would be.

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Speaker 2: Yes. I had the same thing where somebody called me

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Speaker 2: But I felt the same way. I was like, I

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Speaker 2: can't tell you anything good about him, sorry.

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Speaker 1: But at the same time, you don't want to get sued,

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Speaker 1: all right, Any advice for that person, any thoughts on

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Speaker 1: anything else, let us know. Always love to hear from you.

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Speaker 1: Ryan Show at KDWB dot com on the Minnesota Goodbye