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Speaker 1: More variety from the two thousands, the nineties, and today

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Speaker 1: it's Star one on one three, It's Marcus. We're back

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Speaker 1: with second date update. Just trying to help you with

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Speaker 1: your love life, trying to help you navigate. I know

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Speaker 1: it can get rough, especially obviously online dating is terrible.

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Speaker 1: Let's bring Jenna on. Jen. Are you there?

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Speaker 2: Yeah? Hi? How are you good?

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Speaker 1: I don't think I've ever heard a good word about

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Speaker 1: online dating.

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Speaker 2: I mean, that's like all we have now, So like,

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Speaker 2: even though it's the worst, where are we going to do?

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Speaker 1: The other part that stinks about it is if it

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Speaker 1: happens to work, nobody wants to tell anybody that they

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Speaker 1: met online. You're not going to necessarily announce that at

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Speaker 1: your wedding. So I understand.

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Speaker 2: I went to a wedding where they met on match

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Speaker 2: dot com and they gave out little match boxes and

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Speaker 2: we're like, we met on match. It was like, good

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Speaker 2: for you, I'm glad I worked for you, like the

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Speaker 2: one in a million, I guess, but it was kind

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Speaker 2: of cute.

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Speaker 1: What if you lean into it? Why not? I want

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Speaker 1: to talk about Chris. I understand he's ghosted since your date. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: sounds like it was a good time. So let's bring

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Speaker 1: everybody up to speed. Tell me how did it kind

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Speaker 1: of unfold? And then what did you do for your

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Speaker 1: first date?

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Speaker 2: So we chatted for a few weeks because I feel

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Speaker 2: like that's pretty standard for online dating, and then we

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Speaker 2: went on a date and like his texts were really

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Speaker 2: funny and he was like really excited like before we

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Speaker 2: went out, So like that's what really won me over,

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Speaker 2: you know, is he's funny. So of course that works.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, funny always works.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and he took me to sushi in the mission,

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Speaker 2: which was amazing, Like I love sushi, so green check

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Speaker 2: right there? Sure, and like yeah, like he was just

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Speaker 2: like really witty and confident and like gave off that

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Speaker 2: like cool artist energy literally.

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Speaker 1: In your head? Was it like green flag, green flag,

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Speaker 1: green flag? Check check check.

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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, like funny in real life, Thank goodness, Thank goodness.

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Speaker 2: Like you know, sometimes when you chat with these people

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Speaker 2: online or like you know, over text before you meet them,

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Speaker 2: it's literally like is this chat chypet? Like what am

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Speaker 2: I talking to?

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Speaker 3: Right?

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Speaker 1: Because then you meet him in person and it's like

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Speaker 1: a one eighty.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, So it was nice to be like, oh, I

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Speaker 2: think you're genuinely your text version of you. Okay, we

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Speaker 2: both like talked about like you know, all these like

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Speaker 2: different like art things, and how we have like an

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Speaker 2: obsession with like really really bad reality TV.

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Speaker 1: Okay, this sounds amazing.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it was amazing. And like I even show a

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Speaker 2: pictures of like my Corgy on the first day, which

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Speaker 2: I don't normally do because I don't know that's like

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Speaker 2: my child, like that's my son. So it feels really vulnerable,

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Speaker 2: and I felt comfortable enough to do that with him.

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Speaker 1: So like, I'm sorry that he ghosted. We're gonna call him.

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Speaker 1: We're gonna see how the date went for him. I'd

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Speaker 1: love to get you a second date. You sound amazing.

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Speaker 2: Thank you so much.

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Speaker 1: Let's get you a second date that I'm just gonna

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Speaker 1: put that in the universe. Can you go ahead and

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Speaker 1: hold for a song.

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Speaker 2: Absolutely all right.

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Speaker 1: We're gonna call Chris. Next Second date update Star one

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Speaker 1: on one three, just doing second date update. We've been

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Speaker 1: talking to Jenna called in about her date with Chris

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Speaker 1: dy met online and then sushi in the Mission district.

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Speaker 1: That's a green check mark. And my favorite part about this,

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Speaker 1: Jenna is that he was as kind of genuine in

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Speaker 1: person as kind of on chat, because I also think

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Speaker 1: it's weird where you meet somebody, you start chatting in there,

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Speaker 1: super funny, and then you meet him in person and

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Speaker 1: it's like I don't know a cucumber.

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Speaker 2: Yes, that's the worst. I feel like most dates are

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Speaker 2: like that.

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Speaker 1: Okay, let's go ahead and call him and see what's okay.

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Speaker 1: I do understand he's ghosted, so I don't like that,

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Speaker 1: but let's let's give him a shout and see how

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Speaker 1: the date went from his perspective. Go ahead and meet

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Speaker 1: your phone so you can listen in Okay, right here

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Speaker 1: we go. Hello, Can I talk to Chris please?

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Speaker 3: This is him?

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Speaker 1: Hey Chris, this is Marcus from Star one oh one three. iHeartRadio.

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Speaker 1: I don't suppose you listen to I do a radio

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Speaker 1: morning show. Do you happen to listen?

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Speaker 3: No?

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Speaker 1: I don't. That's fine. I wonder if you might have

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Speaker 1: a second though to be on the air. Let me explain.

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Speaker 1: We do a segment on the show called Second Date Update,

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Speaker 1: and I got sent your phone number. One of our

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Speaker 1: listeners says, she went on a date with you recently,

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Speaker 1: and she's feeling like maybe you ghosted and I'm just

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Speaker 1: trying to figure out what happened, and she'd love a

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Speaker 1: second date. But do you have a second to talk

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Speaker 1: about a date that you went on. Her name is Jenna, Okay, yeah,

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Speaker 1: her words. She said that the intimacy was real on

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Speaker 1: your first date, and so she would love to go

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Speaker 1: out again. I wanted to get your vibe how to go.

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Speaker 3: The date in and of itself was a little awkward

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Speaker 3: in my opinion. In the beginning, she seemed pretty cool

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Speaker 3: and normal and then she started talking about her ex

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Speaker 3: boyfriend for about forty five minutes. And yeah, I was

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Speaker 3: basically on a blind date with two people, her and

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Speaker 3: her ex boyfriend, so I don't know. She was like

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Speaker 3: she mentioned her name at least like six times and

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Speaker 3: called them like misunderstood and said that I gave her

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Speaker 3: like a similar vibe to her ex boyfriend on top

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Speaker 3: of it, so it just felt like really weird and yeah,

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Speaker 3: that's pretty much why.

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Speaker 1: Okay, those are very valid. Okay, So part of second

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Speaker 1: date update is that Jenna is actually listening because again,

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Speaker 1: teachable moment. Sorry to ambush you, Jen, are you there?

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Speaker 3: Uh?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, And like I was just providing context and like

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Speaker 2: it was like ment as a compliment, like you had

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Speaker 2: great vibes, you know.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, but that would seem exhausting to me if you're

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Speaker 1: bringing up your ex boyfriend like that much.

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Speaker 2: I mean, I feel like forty five minutes is a

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Speaker 2: huge stretch. Like also, like you know, you kind of

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Speaker 2: hash out or like talk about like, yeah, this is

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Speaker 2: my ex blah blah blah on first dae. It's like

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Speaker 2: a standards thing. I don't think it was that long.

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Speaker 2: And it wasn't anything horrible. It's not like I was

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Speaker 2: just there to be like I need a free mail

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Speaker 2: and I need to like, you know, say all the

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Speaker 2: bad things about my past relationship. It was like, hey, right,

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Speaker 2: look how great you are? Like he was in that way.

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Speaker 3: Okay, Yeah, I've never talked about the next on a

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Speaker 3: first date or any date. Really. I think that's a

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Speaker 3: weird conversation that you should probably just keep yourself. But yeah,

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Speaker 3: it wasn't just that.

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Speaker 2: It felt like every.

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Speaker 3: Time I was talking to you, you were launching off

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Speaker 3: an outer space, like you were playing around with your tilnils.

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Speaker 3: The chopsticks became like a fidget spinner. So a server

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Speaker 3: came over trying to tell us the specials, and you

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Speaker 3: were ignoring him. The whole time. I mean, it was

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Speaker 3: really weird. It felt awkward. It felt like you didn't

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Speaker 3: want to be there. And then the times that I

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Speaker 3: did talk to you, somehow down the line it became

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Speaker 3: something about your ex boyfriend and how it reminds you

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Speaker 3: about him, or so it was. It was weird, Like

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Speaker 3: I thought we were on a date right now, what's happening?

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Speaker 3: It was just weird. It was uncomfortable.

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Speaker 2: So I'm like shocked at this tone and everything feels

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Speaker 2: like a total like one to eighty from the date.

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Speaker 2: Like sorry, I guess I was like kind of nervous

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Speaker 2: and maybe I spoke a little too much about my

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Speaker 2: ex or whatever, and like fidgeted with my chopsticks too much.

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Speaker 1: Is anybody interested in a second date?

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Speaker 3: No, I'm good. You should call your ex. It seems

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Speaker 3: like you guys still got something going on there.

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Speaker 2: All right, I'm glad you're cool being a jerk now,

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Speaker 2: thank you for letting me know who you are.

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Speaker 1: All right, you guys, hang on and that's not working.

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Speaker 1: Second date up day. It'll be back Monday right after

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Speaker 1: seven o'clock. Replay after nine o'clock. Make sure you're listening

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