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Speaker 1: It's Marcus in the morning midweek with second date update.

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Speaker 1: You go on a first date and then if your

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Speaker 1: date ghosts, then you call me and then we try

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Speaker 1: to work it out together. Basically, I call your date

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Speaker 1: on your behalf. Have you listening in so we can

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Speaker 1: try to figure some things out. Devin has been waiting patiently.

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Speaker 1: Good morning, Devin. Morning, Hey man, So Nisha right, let's

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Speaker 1: talk about it. Yeah, you guys had some of my

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Speaker 1: favorite food. Not a lot of people have the courage

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Speaker 1: to do Korean barbecue on a first date because you

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Speaker 1: are going to walk out of there smelling like campfire.

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Speaker 2: Typically it's true, but like it's worth it. I mean

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Speaker 2: it is very smoky and it smells like sensame oil.

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Speaker 2: But you know, you leave your jacket in the car

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Speaker 2: and sure fine.

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Speaker 3: I mean for some people, smelling like grilled meat could

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Speaker 3: be for play. I don't know.

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Speaker 2: I think it is very honest.

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Speaker 3: Tell me about Nisha, what was your first impression.

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Speaker 2: Honestly, she just seems like she's really got herself put

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Speaker 2: together and she knows what she wants, Like she just

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Speaker 2: came in, took over grill in the meat, like put

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Speaker 2: her hair up so that way, I wouldn't get in

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Speaker 2: the grill like. I like that. I like somebody that

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Speaker 2: like is decisive sure and knows what she wants. So

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Speaker 2: it's like, it was great.

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Speaker 3: How the conversation go, would you guys talk about We.

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Speaker 2: Talked about hiking, and we had like a little fun

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Speaker 2: debate about whether it's the sunset's more beautiful like behind

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Speaker 2: the hills, or if it's like more beautiful reflecting off

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Speaker 2: the water. I personally would choose the water. But it

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Speaker 2: was just fun and we had a really good time.

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Speaker 3: Okay, and then what happened, Well.

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Speaker 2: I mean we went outside, she jumped on bart and

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Speaker 2: I never heard from her again. That was the last time.

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Speaker 3: It's like a movie.

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Speaker 1: All right, here's what we're gonna do. We'll have you

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Speaker 1: on the line. We're gonna call her. I would love

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Speaker 1: to get you a second date. I'm hoping for some

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Speaker 1: sort of misunderstanding. So you ready to make this call?

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Speaker 2: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Okay, let's call her and try to figure some things out.

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Speaker 3: Hello, I'm looking for Nisha. Please.

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Speaker 4: This is Nisa.

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Speaker 3: Hey niche, It's Marcus calling from Star one on one three?

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Speaker 3: Oh my god, how are you? What's happening?

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Speaker 4: Bye?

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Speaker 3: Will did the coworker submit me for not a coworker

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Speaker 3: necessarily it's her second date update. Oh no, you know

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Speaker 3: what that is.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I've heard of it.

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Speaker 3: Perfect.

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Speaker 1: So I got your phone number. Guy named Devin who

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Speaker 1: you went out to dig with? Right, he may or

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Speaker 1: may not be lurking right now? Hell, no, Den, are

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Speaker 1: you there?

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Speaker 3: Devin?

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Speaker 2: Hello?

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Speaker 3: Hello?

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Speaker 4: Hello? How are you?

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Speaker 2: I'm good. It is a little awkward.

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Speaker 1: I mean we're all adults, right, I understand that you

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Speaker 1: know the assignment.

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Speaker 3: So, Nisha, did you ghost.

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Speaker 2: On our guy here?

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Speaker 4: You know it wasn't planned. I had a good time

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Speaker 4: and he was a nice, nice guy, No problem there.

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Speaker 4: I just think we have different values. I'm looking for

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Speaker 4: someone with a different type of personality.

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Speaker 3: Okay, I hate to ask, but do you mind elaborating

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Speaker 3: a little bit.

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Speaker 4: Well, we were having a great time. I love Korean barbecue.

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Speaker 4: I used to help my dad on the barbecue all

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Speaker 4: the time, and so that part of it was great.

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Speaker 4: And it was interactive, and you know, I like to

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Speaker 4: grill the bulgogi beef. That was fine, and we had

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Speaker 4: a good conversation. But Devin, you crack your knuckles like

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Speaker 4: way too much. Oh so that was not ideal.

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Speaker 2: It It's kind of like an unconscious habit because I

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Speaker 2: used to game a lot, like competitively, so I just

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Speaker 2: kind of try to keep my hand was like loose

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Speaker 2: and stretched, and like I just kind of cracked them

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Speaker 2: without thinking about it.

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Speaker 4: You know, yeah, I really it really, it's really loud.

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Speaker 4: Maybe you don't notice it, but I didn't know how

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Speaker 4: to tell you. And that wasn't really what made me

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Speaker 4: not want to continue getting to know each other. It

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Speaker 4: was for another reason, because I just grew up in

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Speaker 4: a home where like money was always tight and my

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Speaker 4: mom didn't you know, she had to hold down like

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Speaker 4: three jobs. So I'm looking for a man who is

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Speaker 4: like really on top of his finances. And when you

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Speaker 4: had said that you didn't check your bank account ever,

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Speaker 4: and you were just like living like a nomad, I

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Speaker 4: just know, like with who I am, that that is

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Speaker 4: not going to work.

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Speaker 3: Devin, what do you mean by ever?

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Speaker 2: Well, I mean honestly, I just I work hard and

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Speaker 2: I prefer not to obsess over numbers because like when

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Speaker 2: I used to check the bank account all the time,

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Speaker 2: I was always just stressing out. Like so I just

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Speaker 2: kind of decided, you know, I have enough money. I

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Speaker 2: don't have to really worry about it. I usually have

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Speaker 2: like what I need in there, and if if something

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Speaker 2: goes wrong, I mean it'll work out, you know. Yeah.

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Speaker 4: But then I had to ask you if you ever

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Speaker 4: bounce checks or like if it goes in the negative,

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Speaker 4: And I remember you said sometimes. I was like, what

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Speaker 4: that was a wrap for me?

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Speaker 2: I mean if usually if I have like a problem

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Speaker 2: like that, I'll just put it whatever it is, on

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Speaker 2: the credit Like if the dena dark gets declined, I'll

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Speaker 2: just put it on the credit card. Like it's not

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Speaker 2: that big of a deal.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I see, it is something different, right, Okay, you know,

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Speaker 4: like no disrespect Devin, like you do you But I

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Speaker 4: just know that fundamentally, I'm going to need someone who

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Speaker 4: is really on top of their finances and able to

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Speaker 4: handle the stress of dem with a normal thing like

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Speaker 4: the bank account balance. Running from that stress is not

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Speaker 4: going to serve you.

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Speaker 3: Am I hearing? Like, So no second date on this one.

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Speaker 4: I don't think so. I mean, I think he's a

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Speaker 4: great guy, but I just need someone who can handle

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Speaker 4: like the stress of an account balance, because like, think

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Speaker 4: about this, like what happens when we have kids, what

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Speaker 4: happens if you want to open a business, like you

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Speaker 4: got to be able to handle the stress of someone

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Speaker 4: not showing up. You got to be able to handle

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Speaker 4: the stress of like open up up an IRA for

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Speaker 4: your kid. You got to be able to handle the

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Speaker 4: stress of balancing multiple accounts. If you can't even look

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Speaker 4: at your own make account, what does that say about you, Devin?

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Speaker 2: I mean, I look, I've never had a serious problem.

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Speaker 2: For me, everything always like works out fine and I'm

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Speaker 2: stress free. But like, you know, I can respect that.

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Speaker 2: It's a different thing for you, but like for me,

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Speaker 2: like I just feel like you're missing out over something.

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Speaker 2: Not that big of a deal, but I get it,

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Speaker 2: you know, all.

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Speaker 1: Right, hang on, Okay, you can't say that you respect

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Speaker 1: something and then dismiss the lady like that.

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Speaker 3: That's my only advice anyway. Alright. Second gate update