WEBVTT - Donna D. Saturday Night Relationship Show -- 12/6/25 0:00:00.200 --> 0:00:01.319 Are you back again? 0:00:02.840 --> 0:00:05.440 But we do a little bit of a different show 0:00:05.480 --> 0:00:10.400 on Saturday night. We focus primarily on relationships, and you know, 0:00:10.480 --> 0:00:13.840 they are the most important things that matter in your life. 0:00:14.000 --> 0:00:16.400 Estra Perell says, and I quote her all the time, 0:00:16.720 --> 0:00:19.320 the quality of your life is determined by the quality 0:00:19.400 --> 0:00:22.799 of your relationships. Not only the relationships with others, but 0:00:22.840 --> 0:00:24.840 the relationship with yourself more important. 0:00:25.079 --> 0:00:27.440 Tonight on the show, I have a true. 0:00:27.200 --> 0:00:34.200 Healer, a psychic Clara Everything claravoyant yoga instructor, basically certified 0:00:34.200 --> 0:00:39.040 in everything healing. Vicky Fairchild, Welcome to the show tonight. 0:00:39.240 --> 0:00:40.520 Yeah, you got your mic gun. 0:00:40.560 --> 0:00:44.600 Look at your pro Anna. You're awesome. Thanks for asking me. 0:00:45.159 --> 0:00:45.800 Can I just. 0:00:45.880 --> 0:00:49.040 Tell you very quickly with the brief moment that we 0:00:49.159 --> 0:00:52.000 have shared here tonight, and your husband Larry is in 0:00:52.040 --> 0:00:54.280 the studios while watching the Ohio. 0:00:53.880 --> 0:00:56.880 State game, which who are winning? 0:00:56.920 --> 0:00:59.200 By the way, We'll keep you updated on that. But 0:00:59.320 --> 0:01:08.000 your energy is so light and lovely and open. I mean, 0:01:09.280 --> 0:01:12.479 there's words that I have to I'm trying to describe 0:01:12.520 --> 0:01:16.479 your energy. But it's peaceful, it's stillness, it's it's it's 0:01:17.120 --> 0:01:21.360 a presence that I'm feeling from you do you get 0:01:21.360 --> 0:01:22.480 that wherever you go. 0:01:22.760 --> 0:01:24.880 That's just the first thing I have to ask you. 0:01:25.560 --> 0:01:29.000 That's real sweet, Thanks so much. I've had many things 0:01:29.040 --> 0:01:31.920 said to me. That's a lovely thing to say. There's 0:01:31.959 --> 0:01:35.600 a presence that I think one can cultivate when you've 0:01:35.640 --> 0:01:41.440 had certain experiences and spiritual practices and being in the 0:01:41.480 --> 0:01:44.520 profession that I've been in, there's a healing field that 0:01:44.720 --> 0:01:49.560 is created between two people. So it's real easy for 0:01:49.640 --> 0:01:53.240 me to drop into that space and get still, so 0:01:53.360 --> 0:01:56.440 that I call it holding sacred space, yep. And being 0:01:56.480 --> 0:02:00.360 able to be a sacred witness for people's process, us 0:02:00.960 --> 0:02:04.800 and their voice to be heard. I think we all 0:02:04.880 --> 0:02:08.000 need to be seen and heard, and the greatest gift 0:02:08.040 --> 0:02:10.880 we can bring to any situation is our full presence. 0:02:10.960 --> 0:02:11.760 Yeah, I agree. 0:02:11.960 --> 0:02:14.360 Power of Now Eckertley one of my favorite books of 0:02:14.400 --> 0:02:18.080 all time. So we're going to discuss what you're seeing 0:02:18.200 --> 0:02:21.240 happen with the collective energy as the human family heading 0:02:21.280 --> 0:02:23.720 into twenty twenty six, because we've talked a little bit 0:02:23.760 --> 0:02:27.080 about that and it seems, you know, if you're paying 0:02:27.120 --> 0:02:30.080 attention on social media, things might look a little crazy. 0:02:31.560 --> 0:02:38.960 We're divided politically, we're disconnected with others through social media 0:02:39.000 --> 0:02:41.679 and iPhones, and people are staying home where they work 0:02:41.720 --> 0:02:45.920 from home. So we're going to talk about the collective 0:02:46.080 --> 0:02:49.280 energy and what you see happening in twenty twenty six, 0:02:49.320 --> 0:02:52.000 And we're also going to be taking your calls and 0:02:52.120 --> 0:02:56.560 answering questions tonight. So Vicky would answer any clear question 0:02:56.720 --> 0:03:00.120 that you have. Maybe you have been struggling with something 0:03:00.160 --> 0:03:02.240 in your life, maybe you want just a little bit 0:03:02.280 --> 0:03:04.880 of clarity around it. She's going to take calls and 0:03:04.919 --> 0:03:07.360 we're going to pepper them through the hour. So if 0:03:07.400 --> 0:03:10.720 you want to call right now five one, three, seven, four, nine, seven, one, 0:03:10.800 --> 0:03:11.840 eight hundred, the big one. 0:03:12.080 --> 0:03:14.400 Make sure your question is clear and concise. 0:03:14.480 --> 0:03:17.839 Is there anything any more specific rules that you have 0:03:18.440 --> 0:03:21.360 when somebody's calling and they want to know something like 0:03:22.000 --> 0:03:23.919 am I going to get a new job in twenty 0:03:23.960 --> 0:03:24.519 twenty six? 0:03:24.600 --> 0:03:27.120 Where am I going to move? Love? 0:03:27.200 --> 0:03:30.400 Life is a big one. Is there anything should they 0:03:30.480 --> 0:03:34.840 ask past present? Or I know you channel past lives 0:03:34.920 --> 0:03:35.840 too as well. 0:03:36.840 --> 0:03:39.480 I think it's important to stay with the present moment 0:03:39.520 --> 0:03:42.400 and what's on your own heart and ask the question 0:03:42.560 --> 0:03:45.920 as it pertains to you, not necessarily for anyone else. 0:03:45.960 --> 0:03:48.840 So I can pick up on the person that's calling. 0:03:49.040 --> 0:03:52.720 Okay, great, So if you are the one that wants 0:03:52.760 --> 0:03:55.840 clarity on some question that's going on in your life, 0:03:55.880 --> 0:03:59.520 give us call five one, three, seven four, nine, seven thousand, one, 0:03:59.560 --> 0:04:02.040 eight hundred the big one again. Vicky's going to be 0:04:02.040 --> 0:04:03.880 with us in the nine o'clock hours. So if you 0:04:03.960 --> 0:04:07.120 have something, you can start the process of calling now 0:04:07.200 --> 0:04:08.640 and we'll get to you first. 0:04:08.760 --> 0:04:10.040 Let's start though. 0:04:10.040 --> 0:04:13.320 With explaining the presence of being, the premise of being 0:04:13.400 --> 0:04:16.360 a healer, and how you came to this calling, VICKI. 0:04:17.440 --> 0:04:21.560 I think that I came in this lifetime with a 0:04:21.640 --> 0:04:30.279 mission to create more connections between people and the nature 0:04:30.640 --> 0:04:34.480 around us, and to be more present with the healing 0:04:34.560 --> 0:04:37.719 part of ourself. I would say that there's the ego 0:04:37.839 --> 0:04:39.720 part of us and there's the sole part of us. 0:04:39.760 --> 0:04:42.279 So at a sole level, I feel like I came 0:04:42.320 --> 0:04:45.440 in that some of us are predestined to do certain things. 0:04:45.800 --> 0:04:48.880 I always wanted to be in the healing profession. I 0:04:49.000 --> 0:04:52.679 chose physical therapy. I didn't even know that much about 0:04:52.720 --> 0:04:55.880 it actually, but it has fit me really well. It 0:04:55.920 --> 0:04:58.440 suited me really well. I'm up and about a lot. 0:04:58.520 --> 0:05:02.560 It's movement oriented, I realize that I'm an impath, like 0:05:02.640 --> 0:05:04.800 maybe in the top one percent of the field. 0:05:05.040 --> 0:05:07.800 Explain what an impath is a lot of people have 0:05:07.839 --> 0:05:09.240 different definitions of that word. 0:05:09.480 --> 0:05:12.479 An impath to me is somebody that can feel the 0:05:12.680 --> 0:05:17.440 underlying emotion of anybody that walks into the room. You 0:05:17.520 --> 0:05:20.960 have a deep knowing about something that's more gnosis. But 0:05:21.640 --> 0:05:25.320 for me, I can feel what's going on in somebody, 0:05:25.480 --> 0:05:29.640 especially at a body level. I'm very more kinesthetic. You 0:05:29.680 --> 0:05:32.680 know how some people musicians can hear a song and 0:05:33.440 --> 0:05:37.520 play it, and if you're a soma, you can taste 0:05:37.560 --> 0:05:40.800 that wine and you can taste the nuances. That's the 0:05:40.800 --> 0:05:44.360 way I am naturally Energetically, I can read energy fields 0:05:44.400 --> 0:05:46.880 and what's happening in somebody's body. 0:05:46.680 --> 0:05:54.040 And so have you always had this healing power? And 0:05:54.839 --> 0:05:56.960 how long did it take for you to tap into that? 0:05:57.320 --> 0:05:59.040 One of the things I want to say about being 0:05:59.200 --> 0:06:03.120 a healer not necessarily always me Vicky that heals, but 0:06:03.279 --> 0:06:05.520 I open a space for it to come through me. 0:06:05.560 --> 0:06:09.400 And I've had some absolutely amazing experiences where people been 0:06:09.440 --> 0:06:13.200 healed on the spot. And that is not always my 0:06:13.960 --> 0:06:19.200 practitioner or license or the manual therapy or anything that 0:06:19.279 --> 0:06:22.120 I've been trained. But there's an energy that comes through 0:06:22.160 --> 0:06:25.560 that is a very high vibration. It's high frequency, and 0:06:25.600 --> 0:06:29.599 I've noticed that when the person is ready, the healing appears. 0:06:29.920 --> 0:06:32.279 Of course, when the student is read, when the student 0:06:32.320 --> 0:06:34.640 is ready, the teacher appears. Let's get to Anne. We're 0:06:34.640 --> 0:06:37.039 already getting quite a few calls ready. Let's get to 0:06:37.120 --> 0:06:40.719 Anne and let's answer and see what she has. Anne, 0:06:40.800 --> 0:06:43.520 do you have a question for Vicky Fairchild? 0:06:45.279 --> 0:06:49.160 Yeah? Am I truly going to be happy? 0:06:51.160 --> 0:06:54.000 Anne? Do you want to be Do you want to 0:06:54.040 --> 0:06:57.320 be happy? 0:06:57.760 --> 0:06:58.080 Yes? 0:06:58.120 --> 0:06:58.560 Of course. 0:07:00.040 --> 0:07:03.239 And I feel like happiness is always literally a state 0:07:03.279 --> 0:07:06.600 of mind and something that we choose. It's about what 0:07:06.680 --> 0:07:09.680 you focus on. Do you notice what you focus on 0:07:09.760 --> 0:07:14.000 during the day, your thoughts, your feelings, where your mind 0:07:14.120 --> 0:07:15.760 goes in any given situation. 0:07:17.520 --> 0:07:17.920 Mm hmm. 0:07:21.240 --> 0:07:23.280 Give me an example, so. 0:07:23.920 --> 0:07:29.360 Well, do you do you notice your thoughts or Anne? 0:07:30.840 --> 0:07:32.840 Oh? Boys, I don't know what happened to Anne. We 0:07:32.960 --> 0:07:35.080 just oh, Anne, are you still there? 0:07:36.080 --> 0:07:38.760 Okay, I'm sorry. I'm trying to get out of this one. 0:07:38.840 --> 0:07:39.000 Here. 0:07:44.840 --> 0:07:47.560 I sit and stare at walls because I have no 0:07:47.680 --> 0:07:55.560 idea what's wrong and my life in my personal life 0:07:57.200 --> 0:08:00.200 I try to be like different people that everybody wants me. 0:08:00.120 --> 0:08:00.400 To be. 0:08:02.040 --> 0:08:04.400 So. And I just like to ask, do you have 0:08:04.480 --> 0:08:06.960 any kind of practice that you do to help you 0:08:07.440 --> 0:08:10.400 be more mindful? Do you have a meditation practice? Do 0:08:10.480 --> 0:08:13.720 you like to take walks? Do you call up a friend? 0:08:14.560 --> 0:08:17.680 Do you process your feelings with anyone? 0:08:19.880 --> 0:08:27.080 Oh, I'll talk to my friends, and I try to 0:08:27.120 --> 0:08:32.320 go some more quiet and trying to get in a different, 0:08:32.520 --> 0:08:33.240 I guess state. 0:08:34.240 --> 0:08:37.560 And something something that I like to tell people to 0:08:37.640 --> 0:08:41.200 do is to start a journaling practice, where you know, 0:08:41.280 --> 0:08:43.080 when you wake up in the morning and things are 0:08:43.120 --> 0:08:46.840 a little bit more quiet, just start putting down some thoughts, 0:08:47.000 --> 0:08:50.240 the first thoughts that come out, and put them on paper, 0:08:50.679 --> 0:08:53.920 and then sit quietly, take some deep breaths in and out, 0:08:54.120 --> 0:08:56.680 and actually write on the paper what would what would 0:08:56.760 --> 0:09:00.120 make me happy? What brings me the greatest joy? And 0:09:00.200 --> 0:09:03.360 start breathing into your heart space and listen for the 0:09:03.480 --> 0:09:06.199 answers at a deeper level that might be beyond what 0:09:06.280 --> 0:09:07.680 your ego has been telling. 0:09:07.840 --> 0:09:09.480 And that's what I was going to say. 0:09:10.600 --> 0:09:13.920 These are great questions and a great practice is to journal. 0:09:14.280 --> 0:09:16.560 Do you know what makes you happy? 0:09:16.679 --> 0:09:22.120 Anne? 0:09:22.440 --> 0:09:23.480 My granddaughters? 0:09:24.000 --> 0:09:26.800 Yeah, your granddaughters, anything else. 0:09:27.000 --> 0:09:34.000 Yeah, I do kids. 0:09:34.720 --> 0:09:39.240 Okay, so kids and grandkids and she just so Vicky. 0:09:39.280 --> 0:09:42.200 This is interesting because Anne is just saying, you know, 0:09:42.360 --> 0:09:45.200 she's really given herself to a lot of people. She 0:09:45.280 --> 0:09:48.000 tries to be everything for everyone. That's what I'm getting 0:09:48.000 --> 0:09:52.480 from her. How can she focus on herself? Because really, 0:09:52.760 --> 0:09:56.240 if you're focused on giving, that's an exhausting task, right, 0:09:56.600 --> 0:09:59.320 Giving and receiving is great, but you have to do 0:09:59.400 --> 0:10:01.640 something just for you. 0:10:02.240 --> 0:10:05.280 And the underlying question to that is you have to 0:10:05.320 --> 0:10:07.760 feel worthy of your time. You know, you need to 0:10:07.800 --> 0:10:10.920 take time for yourself and it's like filling your own 0:10:11.000 --> 0:10:13.000 vessel and then you have a lot, a lot more 0:10:13.040 --> 0:10:16.920 to give. And the thing about grandchildren, right, they're young, 0:10:17.360 --> 0:10:22.560 They're usually vibrant energy, their emotions are raw, they're authentic, right, 0:10:23.120 --> 0:10:27.839 So maybe the mirror from your family is that you 0:10:27.880 --> 0:10:31.200 can start to be more your authentic self and try 0:10:31.240 --> 0:10:32.920 to do the things that bring you joy. 0:10:35.160 --> 0:10:36.440 Oh is that helpful? 0:10:36.480 --> 0:10:39.840 And and authenticity really is say what you mean and 0:10:39.920 --> 0:10:40.600 mean what you say. 0:10:40.679 --> 0:10:41.120 That's it. 0:10:41.360 --> 0:10:44.720 If you start giving conflicting things to the universe, like 0:10:45.160 --> 0:10:47.640 you know, I want to be happy, but I don't 0:10:47.679 --> 0:10:50.800 do anything about it right. You have to really focus 0:10:50.920 --> 0:10:54.280 on there's things that you can do and it doesn't 0:10:54.320 --> 0:10:58.360 take long. It's not like this giant journey. If you start, 0:10:58.720 --> 0:11:01.800 if you start writing the best thing that happened to 0:11:01.840 --> 0:11:05.360 you yesterday, or three things that matter to you or 0:11:05.360 --> 0:11:08.600 that you're grateful for today, and then what makes you happy, 0:11:08.640 --> 0:11:11.760 write three things. You start focusing on those things, and 0:11:11.800 --> 0:11:16.240 what you focus on expands. We all know that, right, Vicky, 0:11:16.520 --> 0:11:17.079 that makes. 0:11:16.960 --> 0:11:20.160 Sense, And thank you so much for calling. We appreciate it. 0:11:20.360 --> 0:11:22.599 Have a good night. Thank you, Joanne. We're going to 0:11:22.679 --> 0:11:24.959 get to you in a moment. Let's get to Alyssa 0:11:25.000 --> 0:11:25.440 real quick. 0:11:25.480 --> 0:11:25.640 Hi. 0:11:25.720 --> 0:11:29.079 Alyssa, you're on with Donna Dee and Vicky Fairchild. Do 0:11:29.080 --> 0:11:30.200 you have a question for Vicky? 0:11:32.280 --> 0:11:32.840 I do. 0:11:35.000 --> 0:11:40.920 I have somebody that I'm very close to and I'm 0:11:41.440 --> 0:11:47.120 I'm really struggling to discern the role that this person 0:11:47.240 --> 0:11:52.440 is to truly be in my life because I have 0:11:52.520 --> 0:11:55.439 a I love this person very. 0:11:55.559 --> 0:12:08.400 Dearly and I am I I just don't know who 0:12:10.960 --> 0:12:16.560 if I should have him as a friend or if 0:12:17.240 --> 0:12:20.360 I need to allow the time for him to go 0:12:20.440 --> 0:12:26.000 through whatever. Everything that he's going through right now is 0:12:26.240 --> 0:12:34.240 like I feel that he's my person, and I guess 0:12:34.280 --> 0:12:36.559 maybe I'm just looking for confirmation of an. 0:12:36.520 --> 0:12:42.040 Adject So this isn't just a diverted yes or no question. 0:12:42.559 --> 0:12:45.360 The thing is, your heart really knows, and don't you 0:12:45.440 --> 0:12:48.240 know that some of us just go through different times 0:12:48.600 --> 0:12:51.120 And sometimes I don't know about you, but I've been 0:12:51.120 --> 0:12:55.640 through a dark night. And sometimes you can either be 0:12:55.800 --> 0:12:59.200 with somebody when they're going through things. It's not so 0:12:59.320 --> 0:13:02.560 much you need to fix them help them, but just 0:13:02.600 --> 0:13:08.680 to bring your steady, loving presence and give them the 0:13:08.720 --> 0:13:11.880 support that they need to get through whatever they're going through. 0:13:12.360 --> 0:13:16.800 And be confident with your own self, know that at 0:13:16.880 --> 0:13:20.480 your heart level, you know what is right for you. 0:13:21.040 --> 0:13:24.760 And Don and I were talking beforehand. Sometimes there's these 0:13:24.840 --> 0:13:28.319 contracts I think we have in relationships and we have 0:13:28.360 --> 0:13:32.000 to see them through. Other times your heart goes, yeah, 0:13:32.040 --> 0:13:34.120 I think this is it. I think that I can 0:13:34.200 --> 0:13:40.280 leave this person. I feel like he has some some 0:13:41.040 --> 0:13:45.000 I would say, some density around him, like he's confused, 0:13:45.040 --> 0:13:47.400 trying to figure some things out. And if you give 0:13:47.480 --> 0:13:52.640 him some space and tell him that he knows what's 0:13:52.679 --> 0:13:55.360 best for him and hang in there for a while 0:13:55.400 --> 0:14:00.160 and make sure that it's healthy and loving because you 0:14:00.200 --> 0:14:01.240 know love always wins. 0:14:03.360 --> 0:14:03.920 Does that help? 0:14:04.080 --> 0:14:07.840 There's also a moment where somebody is looking for you 0:14:07.920 --> 0:14:08.720 to have their back. 0:14:08.800 --> 0:14:09.440 Alyssa too. 0:14:09.840 --> 0:14:13.040 Maybe he's not given you everything that you're looking for 0:14:13.200 --> 0:14:15.520 right now, and as time ticks on, you're like, oh, 0:14:15.600 --> 0:14:18.400 should I should I even wait for this guy to 0:14:18.480 --> 0:14:22.040 get his stuff together or or you know, or or 0:14:22.560 --> 0:14:24.880 but it's nice to hear I have your back one 0:14:24.880 --> 0:14:25.680 thousand percent. 0:14:25.800 --> 0:14:26.520 Take your time. 0:14:26.680 --> 0:14:30.760 I'm gonna be here if you really feel like giving 0:14:30.840 --> 0:14:33.400 that to him. If you feel like this, listen, let 0:14:33.400 --> 0:14:35.760 me ask you something. Do you feel like this guy 0:14:35.800 --> 0:14:38.000 you said he's your person? Do you feel that in 0:14:38.040 --> 0:14:40.920 your heart? 0:14:42.320 --> 0:14:47.880 I do, But I'm also at an age to where 0:14:48.080 --> 0:14:52.040 I'm like, I've been through enough to where it's just like, 0:14:52.400 --> 0:14:56.720 can I really try? You know where I question? You know, 0:14:57.320 --> 0:15:00.640 can I truly trust that? And I say, you know, yes, 0:15:00.720 --> 0:15:03.640 I can. But I also see where he's at, and 0:15:04.200 --> 0:15:11.080 I know he's in a very dark place and I'll 0:15:11.080 --> 0:15:13.120 always show up for him. But at the same time, 0:15:13.200 --> 0:15:17.000 it's just like, but do do I wait for you? 0:15:17.800 --> 0:15:19.240 And you know what I mean? 0:15:19.960 --> 0:15:23.560 Like, are you like how long has he been in 0:15:23.640 --> 0:15:26.360 a dark place? And Vicky's shaking her head, nod in 0:15:26.440 --> 0:15:27.920 her head. She's got something to say to you. 0:15:28.120 --> 0:15:29.000 What I could say? 0:15:29.120 --> 0:15:31.320 How long would you say? And then Vicky's got I'm 0:15:31.320 --> 0:15:33.960 sure a question. Joanne and others. We're going to get 0:15:33.960 --> 0:15:34.800 to you as well too. 0:15:42.160 --> 0:15:46.680 This darkest phase has been since Midsummer. 0:15:48.400 --> 0:15:51.600 He uh, he. 0:15:53.800 --> 0:15:57.960 Mmm, sorry, I don't want to. 0:15:57.960 --> 0:16:01.720 Start crying, but Alissa, can I say something? 0:16:02.760 --> 0:16:03.080 Yes? 0:16:04.120 --> 0:16:06.840 So there's something about the dark night. Let me tell 0:16:06.840 --> 0:16:10.200 you something about the Dark Knight. It's a real important 0:16:10.200 --> 0:16:13.520 place to be. The thing about the dark The thing 0:16:13.560 --> 0:16:15.960 about the Dark Knight is it'll take you to the 0:16:16.080 --> 0:16:22.000 precipice of your own biggest fear. Once you confront your 0:16:22.080 --> 0:16:25.480 biggest fear, the rest of your life is going to 0:16:25.560 --> 0:16:29.200 break open and it'll be so much easier now for 0:16:29.320 --> 0:16:32.800 me personally, In that dark night, I found the source 0:16:32.840 --> 0:16:35.640 of all that is just everybody has a different word 0:16:35.680 --> 0:16:38.600 for that, but I truly feel that the purpose of 0:16:38.640 --> 0:16:42.560 the Dark Knight is for you to know that higher source. 0:16:43.400 --> 0:16:46.400 No matter what, you could trust that, no matter what, 0:16:46.520 --> 0:16:49.640 people will come and go, but there's a source inside 0:16:49.640 --> 0:16:52.400 your heart space that never has left you, never will 0:16:53.000 --> 0:16:57.080 And the more you can reflect back that for anyone, 0:16:57.160 --> 0:17:00.880 but especially for someone that you care for. I wouldn't 0:17:00.920 --> 0:17:04.800 so much think about it as waiting as being able 0:17:04.840 --> 0:17:08.360 to show up so fully present in your life that 0:17:08.400 --> 0:17:11.159 you become the living example and the and the beacon 0:17:11.280 --> 0:17:12.600 of light that shines the. 0:17:12.520 --> 0:17:17.919 Way from that. Wow, Alyssa, did you get that? 0:17:19.520 --> 0:17:23.320 I did? And I actually have chills as well, because 0:17:23.480 --> 0:17:28.280 I know he's he is a Christian and he's really 0:17:28.400 --> 0:17:34.840 working on buttering himself, but he's been going through a 0:17:34.880 --> 0:17:43.199 lot of turmoil and his mental health is I'll be 0:17:43.240 --> 0:17:48.880 honest with you, he has TBI and PTSD from Afghanistan 0:17:49.280 --> 0:17:53.640 and it really has affected a lot of his decisions 0:17:53.680 --> 0:17:59.199 and reactions that to certain situations within his life to 0:17:59.280 --> 0:18:02.960 where it's. 0:18:03.800 --> 0:18:07.119 And Alyssa, I want to say something about PTSD. You know, 0:18:07.960 --> 0:18:11.320 it's really important that people like that get professional help. 0:18:11.440 --> 0:18:15.639 There are psychologists that specialize in trauma response, and I 0:18:15.640 --> 0:18:20.000 think that's really really important and if it's appropriate. There 0:18:20.040 --> 0:18:23.280 are things like emd R that gets deep inside the 0:18:23.320 --> 0:18:25.879 brain where the trauma is held in the amygdala and 0:18:25.920 --> 0:18:29.439 the occipital lobe, but there's also the body trauma and 0:18:29.480 --> 0:18:33.359 the body memory, and these people need a team. I 0:18:33.440 --> 0:18:37.480 think that you're It's like the role that you play 0:18:38.119 --> 0:18:42.200 is the love perhaps of his life. But let's get 0:18:42.240 --> 0:18:46.879 some therapeutic things for him that he absolutely needs. And 0:18:47.480 --> 0:18:54.119 prayer circles and spiritual community is real important. But also 0:18:54.320 --> 0:18:57.760 I think the therapeutic is really important in these cases. 0:18:57.840 --> 0:19:00.879 It's a physiological thing. These are body memories that are 0:19:00.880 --> 0:19:04.080 held at the cellular level. And as a body worker, 0:19:04.080 --> 0:19:07.480 I've had a lot of somato emotional release happen on 0:19:07.560 --> 0:19:11.119 my table. You know it's in your field as well. 0:19:11.560 --> 0:19:14.000 So if we could find him some help, I think 0:19:14.080 --> 0:19:15.360 that would be great. 0:19:16.160 --> 0:19:18.920 Alissa, thank you. We're up against the wall. 0:19:18.960 --> 0:19:20.760 I'm so sorry we got to take a break, but no, 0:19:21.200 --> 0:19:23.760 I appreciate it. And I'm just gonna say, you sound 0:19:23.960 --> 0:19:25.439 like a very strong woman. 0:19:26.040 --> 0:19:28.920 You got this. You'll know, you'll know what to do. 0:19:29.800 --> 0:19:30.320 You got this. 0:19:30.880 --> 0:19:32.840 Thank you so much for the call, Joey, And we're 0:19:32.840 --> 0:19:35.479 going to get back with you. I'm so sorry that 0:19:35.520 --> 0:19:37.440 we're not going to get because we got thirty seconds 0:19:37.440 --> 0:19:39.240 before we have to take a quick break and we'll 0:19:39.240 --> 0:19:41.760 come back. You will be the first person we answer 0:19:41.800 --> 0:19:44.240 five one, three, seven, four, nine, seven thousand. Do you 0:19:44.560 --> 0:19:48.439 have something that you need to get clear on. Do 0:19:48.520 --> 0:19:52.200 you have something that's been that's been challenging you give 0:19:52.280 --> 0:19:55.000 us a call. Five one, three, seven, four, nine, seven thousand. 0:19:55.000 --> 0:19:58.720 We're with Vicky Fairchild tonight. She's a psychic medium, healer 0:19:59.600 --> 0:20:02.280 and their voyant and she does speak with people on 0:20:02.320 --> 0:20:03.320 the other side as well. 0:20:03.400 --> 0:20:05.880 We're gonna possibly get into that and more. 0:20:06.359 --> 0:20:09.440 Ohio State, Larry, are they winning ten something that's now? 0:20:09.720 --> 0:20:12.440 Yeah, Ohio State is winning. We're gonna come back. 0:20:12.480 --> 0:20:16.159 It's done a d Saturday Night, seven hundred WLW tonight. 0:20:16.320 --> 0:20:20.400 My guest a very spiritual healer. I can feel her 0:20:20.520 --> 0:20:25.399 energy from across the table here. Vicky Fairchild, We've already 0:20:25.440 --> 0:20:29.119 had quite a few callers. Mark Callback, I know you 0:20:29.119 --> 0:20:32.120 were waiting online. I have to get to Joe Anne. Joeanne, 0:20:32.119 --> 0:20:34.280 I know you have been waiting for quite some time. 0:20:34.560 --> 0:20:38.320 Do you have a specific question that you want Vicky' 0:20:38.359 --> 0:20:42.520 so little clarity from Vicky to you know, I know 0:20:42.560 --> 0:20:43.520 you've been waiting a while. 0:20:43.600 --> 0:20:44.840 Thank you so much for waiting. 0:20:46.119 --> 0:20:49.000 I did have a question, but if she does mediumship, 0:20:49.080 --> 0:20:51.480 I would like to know if she could. 0:20:54.520 --> 0:20:56.040 I had several. 0:20:55.760 --> 0:20:59.760 Different people this year pass away and I'm wondering if 0:21:00.040 --> 0:21:06.439 there's atty messages from either one of them. One was 0:21:06.480 --> 0:21:08.920 my niece and the other one was my brother. 0:21:11.560 --> 0:21:14.240 Joanne. Hi, Yes, nice to meet you. 0:21:15.320 --> 0:21:15.439 Hi. 0:21:16.000 --> 0:21:19.080 Yeah, Hi, dear. Did you have a particular question that 0:21:19.160 --> 0:21:23.320 would that you feel that they one of them would 0:21:23.440 --> 0:21:26.080 have any insight in or do you want to try 0:21:26.119 --> 0:21:32.000 to get to it another way via your own wisdom? 0:21:32.600 --> 0:21:37.320 Ill, I was we were supposed to get together with 0:21:37.400 --> 0:21:42.560 my brother. I thought he was getting well and apparently, 0:21:43.040 --> 0:21:47.360 you know, he wasn't, and he died like the day 0:21:47.400 --> 0:21:50.600 before we were supposed to get together. So I just 0:21:51.160 --> 0:21:56.439 didn't know if I guess it was his time to go. 0:21:57.840 --> 0:22:01.640 Maybe can I can we talk about that for a moment, 0:22:01.640 --> 0:22:03.960 because that's a big subject that you just you just 0:22:04.040 --> 0:22:07.760 opened up a big subject, right, Yes, I did. And 0:22:07.800 --> 0:22:10.199 that subject is what happens when we get on the 0:22:10.240 --> 0:22:13.960 other side, what happens to the people. And I'm going 0:22:14.040 --> 0:22:16.200 to tell you a couple of experiences, and then I'm 0:22:16.240 --> 0:22:18.640 gonna ask for his name and I'll try to get 0:22:18.640 --> 0:22:23.320 it in touch with him. What I have been in 0:22:23.400 --> 0:22:27.000 situations like in a restaurant where somebody has come up 0:22:27.040 --> 0:22:31.800 to me and a stranger, right, and I'll be off 0:22:32.200 --> 0:22:35.120 I'll feel somebody trying to get a message to them. 0:22:36.160 --> 0:22:38.800 I had a time when I was actually up in 0:22:38.880 --> 0:22:42.320 Michigan and a woman was in this store and I 0:22:42.400 --> 0:22:44.760 felt her sister with me, and I felt like her 0:22:44.760 --> 0:22:47.199 sister was trying to get a message to her. So 0:22:47.320 --> 0:22:49.840 I politely went up and said, Hi, I know this 0:22:49.920 --> 0:22:51.680 is going to sound weird, but have you been trying 0:22:51.720 --> 0:22:53.439 to get in touch with your sister? And so we 0:22:53.480 --> 0:22:59.160 had a lovely conversation about that. Sometimes when people initially 0:22:59.280 --> 0:23:02.080 pass over to the other side, there's a time period 0:23:02.119 --> 0:23:06.080 there where there really into themselves. Actually they're being debriefed 0:23:06.119 --> 0:23:11.880 about their life, and if there's something unresolved with them 0:23:12.200 --> 0:23:16.560 with somebody else, that's when usually I'll have a message 0:23:16.680 --> 0:23:19.920 come through me for them. The message from the other 0:23:20.040 --> 0:23:22.840 side is always this, They want you to live your 0:23:22.840 --> 0:23:27.080 best life. They want you to be happy. Anything that 0:23:27.440 --> 0:23:30.720 needs to be forgiven needs to be forgiven, to be 0:23:30.880 --> 0:23:34.520 free and to move on. They want you to carry 0:23:34.560 --> 0:23:38.080 on with your life. It's like they now have their 0:23:38.119 --> 0:23:41.359 own life on the other side. And what I was 0:23:41.400 --> 0:23:47.040 told by a mystic and a spiritual teacher of mine 0:23:47.119 --> 0:23:50.760 years ago, he had three near death experiences and what 0:23:50.880 --> 0:23:53.439 he said, was he got on the other side, and 0:23:53.560 --> 0:23:57.160 every time the light asked him how much and how 0:23:57.240 --> 0:24:01.120 deeply have you loved? And the message was this, there 0:24:01.160 --> 0:24:04.200 are no accidents. If it's not your time to go, 0:24:04.840 --> 0:24:07.480 you won't. If it is nothing, I'll hold you here. 0:24:07.960 --> 0:24:11.200 We have some points of exit that we have choices 0:24:11.240 --> 0:24:14.439 about at a soul level. So at some point we 0:24:14.520 --> 0:24:18.080 need to trust your brother's soul and the timing of that. 0:24:18.840 --> 0:24:24.919 And is there something specific you'd like to ask him? 0:24:25.160 --> 0:24:25.960 And what is his name? 0:24:26.000 --> 0:24:32.520 By the way, his name was Richard. There really isn't 0:24:34.080 --> 0:24:42.320 anything specific. I just thought maybe he would have a 0:24:42.440 --> 0:24:47.760 message of, you know, some sort of a message if 0:24:47.800 --> 0:24:51.800 I'm doing the right thing with why I'm living my life. 0:24:51.880 --> 0:24:52.760 Maybe I don't know. 0:24:53.240 --> 0:24:54.240 Does he have children? 0:24:55.160 --> 0:24:55.520 Yes? 0:24:56.040 --> 0:24:56.359 Daughter? 0:24:57.520 --> 0:24:57.879 Yes. 0:24:58.640 --> 0:25:01.679 The message I get is more more about his daughter 0:25:01.920 --> 0:25:08.240 and that he really feels she needs some support and 0:25:08.359 --> 0:25:12.399 guidance and looks up to you and would appreciate if 0:25:12.480 --> 0:25:17.080 you took her, you know, by the hand, and reassured 0:25:17.119 --> 0:25:20.760 her of her life and to walk the path together 0:25:20.800 --> 0:25:21.440 as family. 0:25:22.400 --> 0:25:24.960 Okay, okay, yeah, I've been to see that. 0:25:26.640 --> 0:25:27.000 Wow. 0:25:27.720 --> 0:25:29.000 Was that helpful, Joanne? 0:25:29.720 --> 0:25:30.440 Very helpful? 0:25:30.520 --> 0:25:33.800 Thank you And you were concerned about whether you should 0:25:33.800 --> 0:25:36.000 be moving or not. Is that what I heard you say? 0:25:36.200 --> 0:25:39.760 Yeah, yeah, I was. I was thinking maybe within like 0:25:39.880 --> 0:25:42.359 the next year or something. I wasn't sure. 0:25:42.960 --> 0:25:46.600 If it isn't a definite yes, I'd say wait until 0:25:46.640 --> 0:25:50.000 it's a definite yes and that you're going towards something 0:25:50.480 --> 0:25:51.760 that you really really want. 0:25:52.680 --> 0:25:54.320 Okay, okay, good. 0:25:54.119 --> 0:25:56.159 Well, thank you so much for holding so long, and 0:25:56.160 --> 0:25:57.159 thanks for the call, Joanne. 0:25:57.160 --> 0:25:57.920 I appreciate it. 0:25:58.440 --> 0:26:01.280 Okay, thank you, share you You're welcome. 0:26:01.359 --> 0:26:03.679 Five one three seven four ninety seven thousand. Do you 0:26:03.800 --> 0:26:07.720 have a question for Vicky Fairchild. It's got to be specific, right, 0:26:07.800 --> 0:26:11.040 it's it's I'm sure you're gonna ask clarifying questions, but 0:26:11.119 --> 0:26:15.000 if it's something that you have been wanting clarity on, 0:26:15.320 --> 0:26:19.679 wanting some some advice, or not being able to figure 0:26:19.720 --> 0:26:22.240 this out, and you need a little bit of help, 0:26:22.280 --> 0:26:25.080 give us a call. Five one three seven eight hundred 0:26:25.080 --> 0:26:27.760 The big one, Vicky, let's talk about because we were 0:26:27.920 --> 0:26:32.280 really getting into the energy, the collective energy of the 0:26:32.359 --> 0:26:37.080 human experience. It seems like we've been very divided with politics, 0:26:37.280 --> 0:26:41.920 and you know, we're not connected because we're working from 0:26:41.960 --> 0:26:45.880 home and we have cell phones, and you know, social 0:26:45.960 --> 0:26:49.639 media is really challenging on all of us. What do 0:26:49.760 --> 0:26:53.280 you see happening in twenty twenty six in the new 0:26:53.359 --> 0:26:57.320 year of of of of our human energy. 0:26:57.400 --> 0:26:59.040 Is it going to get worse? Is it going to 0:26:59.080 --> 0:27:03.440 get better? Are we enlightening or you know what's happening? 0:27:03.960 --> 0:27:07.760 I think we're undergoing an evolution of consciousness at a 0:27:07.800 --> 0:27:12.600 point where humanity has never had before. And I doubt that. 0:27:12.640 --> 0:27:16.720 My guides tell me all the time that there are 0:27:17.000 --> 0:27:24.840 finally enough people on this planet that are conscious, aware, awake, positive, 0:27:25.760 --> 0:27:28.480 and wanting to complete the mission that they came to do. 0:27:28.560 --> 0:27:31.800 Some people might call them light workers, but we're all 0:27:31.800 --> 0:27:35.199 here to do something and we have a deep knowing 0:27:35.720 --> 0:27:40.200 at a soul level. I feel that the darkness has 0:27:40.280 --> 0:27:42.600 had its time. I think it's going to put up 0:27:42.640 --> 0:27:46.280 a really good fight, and that the forces of the light, 0:27:46.760 --> 0:27:49.280 if you will. I mean it sounds like Star Wars, 0:27:49.359 --> 0:27:51.560 but it really is kind of like that. I mean, 0:27:51.600 --> 0:27:53.960 I've always wanted to be a Jedi. Who doesn't want 0:27:53.960 --> 0:27:58.439 to be a Jedi, you know exactly? So I just 0:27:58.520 --> 0:28:01.560 feel like those of us that keep the most important 0:28:01.560 --> 0:28:04.920 thing is that we keep our heart open, that we 0:28:04.960 --> 0:28:09.240 do some really self analysis and self contemplation to bring 0:28:09.320 --> 0:28:12.439 forth that which we came to do. Look at what 0:28:12.480 --> 0:28:15.520 your gifts are, look at what your strengths are, take 0:28:15.640 --> 0:28:19.879 time to really put those to use. I feel like 0:28:19.960 --> 0:28:25.199 there was a time when the big institutions were dependent. 0:28:26.000 --> 0:28:27.800 Let's just say it this way. Some people have been 0:28:27.800 --> 0:28:31.800 dependent on institutions. I see that what's going to happen, 0:28:31.880 --> 0:28:34.000 If something good's going to happen, it's going to come 0:28:34.000 --> 0:28:37.320 from each one of us. We can't pass the buck anymore. 0:28:37.680 --> 0:28:41.080 You can't say that somebody in the government or somebody 0:28:41.400 --> 0:28:44.760 else besides yourself. I think we need to be proactive. 0:28:44.800 --> 0:28:47.240 We need to be spiritual warriors, and we need to 0:28:47.280 --> 0:28:49.200 help each other. We need to love each other. We 0:28:49.200 --> 0:28:51.880 need to see what is more the same in each 0:28:51.920 --> 0:28:54.480 other and love each other, because you can't live in 0:28:54.560 --> 0:28:57.160 fear and love at the same time, and so you 0:28:57.240 --> 0:28:59.840 have to. I think we're being asked to choose, and 0:29:00.320 --> 0:29:03.640 a judgment is part of that fear, and so we 0:29:03.840 --> 0:29:08.360 have to let go of the judgment and not even look. 0:29:08.560 --> 0:29:11.680 When I look at the collective consciousness, which I've been inside, 0:29:11.720 --> 0:29:16.719 the collective consciousness, it's sticky, it's gooey. It's dense, and 0:29:16.760 --> 0:29:19.720 it's real, real, real, real, fear based. And what I 0:29:19.760 --> 0:29:22.200 was told that there are some souls in there that 0:29:22.240 --> 0:29:26.360 have chosen to stay in that fear based darkness. They're 0:29:26.440 --> 0:29:30.000 learning something that's their thing. But those of us that 0:29:30.080 --> 0:29:32.480 want out, we need to choose it. We need to 0:29:32.520 --> 0:29:35.720 get out. We need to surround ourselves by really goodness 0:29:35.760 --> 0:29:39.160 and people, and we need to pick something and action 0:29:39.920 --> 0:29:44.400 that you're really passionate about. For me, it's animal rights 0:29:44.440 --> 0:29:48.200 and the environment. So I'm always trying to do what 0:29:48.320 --> 0:29:51.560 I can in that way. But pick something that you're 0:29:51.600 --> 0:29:56.280 really passionate about and take an action step for it, 0:29:56.520 --> 0:30:01.280 and keep on your own evolutionary journey. Look at your shadow, 0:30:01.800 --> 0:30:03.560 because the way that we're going to get out of 0:30:03.560 --> 0:30:06.480 the darkness is that we keep working on ourselves. 0:30:06.720 --> 0:30:07.000 Well. 0:30:07.080 --> 0:30:12.040 I remember Marianne Williamson wrote a speech for Nelson Mandela 0:30:12.240 --> 0:30:15.000 and she said, we are all more afraid of our 0:30:15.080 --> 0:30:18.200 light than we are of our darkness. And I think 0:30:18.240 --> 0:30:22.640 people would rather be unhappy in the in what they're 0:30:22.800 --> 0:30:27.720 used to and what they know, versus change and grow 0:30:28.120 --> 0:30:31.760 and go into the unknown, even if they knew it 0:30:31.840 --> 0:30:35.240 was going to be so exciting and so amazing, and 0:30:35.280 --> 0:30:38.080 I think it stops a lot of us in growing 0:30:38.120 --> 0:30:40.440 of like, uh, I mean, you really have to be 0:30:40.520 --> 0:30:44.280 careful about what you put out into the universe, what 0:30:44.400 --> 0:30:47.200 you say. If you say I'm never going to succeed 0:30:47.480 --> 0:30:49.840 or this stuff kind of always happens to me, I'm 0:30:49.880 --> 0:30:53.440 always you know, failing at something, then that's what you're 0:30:53.480 --> 0:30:54.120 going to get. 0:30:54.720 --> 0:30:56.760 When you say waking. 0:30:56.480 --> 0:31:03.760 Up the collective human consciousness or human beings individually are 0:31:03.800 --> 0:31:06.240 waking up? Do you just mean out of the ego 0:31:06.720 --> 0:31:09.760 or out of the stream of thinking, they're present and 0:31:09.920 --> 0:31:10.640 have purpose? 0:31:10.920 --> 0:31:11.680 Is that what you mean? 0:31:12.400 --> 0:31:15.680 I think we're waking up at a global level. I 0:31:15.720 --> 0:31:19.320 think that internationally we're going to see a lot of 0:31:19.480 --> 0:31:24.240 movement towards community and helping each other out at a 0:31:24.320 --> 0:31:27.720 level that we never had before. I mean my generation, 0:31:27.920 --> 0:31:30.240 I grew up in the seventies and so you know, 0:31:30.600 --> 0:31:34.560 I grew up we were protesting the war and the 0:31:34.680 --> 0:31:38.000 killing and watching you know, the body bags come and 0:31:38.080 --> 0:31:41.160 you know, as a young person, that really affected me 0:31:41.200 --> 0:31:44.000 and I started thinking, why do we have war? Why 0:31:44.000 --> 0:31:47.600 are we killing each other? Why are we still doing that? 0:31:48.320 --> 0:31:50.840 And I feel like we're at the edge where people 0:31:50.880 --> 0:31:53.360 are waking up. I mean, let's look at some of 0:31:53.400 --> 0:31:56.880 the situations in the world. You know, it's like, no, 0:31:56.960 --> 0:32:00.920 it's not okay to wipe out a whole people, It's 0:32:00.960 --> 0:32:04.400 not okay to hoard money to the point where nobody 0:32:04.480 --> 0:32:08.760 else has access. We all deserve certain things, and I 0:32:08.880 --> 0:32:11.840 feel that that's the awakening and that we need to 0:32:11.880 --> 0:32:13.640 help each other more and more. 0:32:13.760 --> 0:32:15.880 That's interesting, and I know that. 0:32:17.440 --> 0:32:21.880 There's a there's a book called Power Versus Force by 0:32:21.960 --> 0:32:22.400 David R. 0:32:22.400 --> 0:32:23.480 Hawkins. He's a doctor. 0:32:23.520 --> 0:32:28.360 It's a great book on the energy scale of humans 0:32:28.560 --> 0:32:31.360 and where shame is at the absolute bottom. 0:32:31.440 --> 0:32:33.600 That's like registers at a twenty percent. 0:32:34.000 --> 0:32:37.960 That's where you know people contemplate ending things for themselves 0:32:38.040 --> 0:32:41.760 and stuff on the top. On the absolute reverse scale 0:32:41.800 --> 0:32:47.720 of shame, which is the lowest, forgiveness, love, compassion, those 0:32:47.760 --> 0:32:50.640 are up there in the five six hundred range. 0:32:50.720 --> 0:32:53.480 That's the stuff that you see people. 0:32:53.640 --> 0:32:56.160 We still talk about Jesus and walk the earth in 0:32:56.240 --> 0:33:02.560 the forgiveness type of energy. How do people shift their 0:33:02.800 --> 0:33:06.400 energy and their awakenings personally? You think it's a personal thing. 0:33:06.440 --> 0:33:08.840 It's not going to be an institution doing this. It's 0:33:08.880 --> 0:33:11.360 going to be on an individual basis that is happening. 0:33:11.680 --> 0:33:14.600 I do my work, You do your work. Larry, your 0:33:14.680 --> 0:33:17.719 husband here does his work. What is the work that 0:33:17.840 --> 0:33:20.760 needs to be done so that we can all move 0:33:20.840 --> 0:33:24.040 into the longest journey we'll ever take? Gary Zukov says, 0:33:24.080 --> 0:33:26.360 is from our head to our heart. How can we 0:33:26.440 --> 0:33:29.640 get to that loving place which feels so connected and 0:33:29.680 --> 0:33:31.240 so good within ourselves and others? 0:33:31.840 --> 0:33:34.440 I think you need to live a real heart centered life, 0:33:34.880 --> 0:33:37.440 and I think a lot of us have learned to 0:33:37.480 --> 0:33:40.760 shut it down because of different things that were said, 0:33:40.840 --> 0:33:44.160 maybe even as a child, but as we grow as 0:33:44.160 --> 0:33:46.280 an adult, I think we need to be aware of 0:33:46.320 --> 0:33:49.360 the inner child that has been wounded and pay attention 0:33:49.600 --> 0:33:52.880 to those feelings and get some help with it. You know, 0:33:52.960 --> 0:33:56.960 there's different psychological ways to do regressions and stuff like that, 0:33:57.160 --> 0:34:01.680 and I talked about EMDR. But from a spiritual standpoint, 0:34:01.840 --> 0:34:04.840 I find that there's different types of meditation that works 0:34:04.840 --> 0:34:08.239 with people. You can do just a mindfulness practice, you 0:34:08.239 --> 0:34:11.680 can do a breath practice. Nature works for me more 0:34:11.760 --> 0:34:13.359 than anything I can tell you. 0:34:13.760 --> 0:34:14.560 And animals. 0:34:14.600 --> 0:34:17.080 You talked about animal I don't know how anybody can 0:34:17.120 --> 0:34:21.000 survive without meditating to be honest. It's only because if 0:34:21.040 --> 0:34:24.799 I go two days without meditating, I feel off. I 0:34:24.840 --> 0:34:28.879 feel there's there's like a sense of irritability or I'm 0:34:28.920 --> 0:34:31.640 not as peaceful. No, nowhere near. Let's go to the phones. 0:34:31.640 --> 0:34:35.239 We're going to get Nancy. Nancy from Cincinnati. Thank you 0:34:35.280 --> 0:34:37.839 for calling. Do you have a question for Vicky Fairchild? 0:34:38.000 --> 0:34:38.160 Yes? 0:34:38.200 --> 0:34:38.440 I do. 0:34:39.400 --> 0:34:42.160 I'm currently going through a medical issue and I was 0:34:42.280 --> 0:34:45.400 wondering if my treatment will continue the same as it 0:34:45.480 --> 0:34:45.879 is now? 0:34:47.320 --> 0:34:50.040 The same as it is now, like from a medical 0:34:50.120 --> 0:34:55.440 standpoint is me? Are you talking about your medical treatment? 0:34:56.520 --> 0:34:56.880 Yes? 0:34:57.600 --> 0:35:00.880 And are you talking about like having any kind of 0:35:00.920 --> 0:35:07.000 integrative practice with it as well? Are you going allopathic medicine? 0:35:07.040 --> 0:35:08.240 Is that what we're talking about? 0:35:09.080 --> 0:35:12.760 No, No, I was just wondering if the current treatment 0:35:12.800 --> 0:35:14.239 that I am on will continue. 0:35:15.239 --> 0:35:17.240 Tell me a little bit more about where you feel 0:35:17.239 --> 0:35:21.880 it in your body, what's the symptoms that you feel 0:35:21.920 --> 0:35:22.640 in your body. 0:35:24.560 --> 0:35:28.160 I feel that things are going fine and that they 0:35:28.239 --> 0:35:31.000 probably will continue. 0:35:32.239 --> 0:35:34.799 Have you ever done like a body scan and did 0:35:35.239 --> 0:35:38.080 some full body breath work and start talking to your 0:35:38.120 --> 0:35:42.920 body intelligence? It's really an amazing practice. If you if 0:35:42.960 --> 0:35:46.360 you yoga and meditation and the kind of body work 0:35:46.480 --> 0:35:48.799 and the healing work that I do, But I try 0:35:48.840 --> 0:35:51.920 to help people go inside and we literally work with 0:35:52.000 --> 0:35:54.520 the intelligence of the body. And that's what I would 0:35:54.560 --> 0:35:58.400 recommend for you, Like you have your treatment that has 0:35:58.520 --> 0:36:02.759 has happened medically, but work on your lifestyle and work 0:36:02.800 --> 0:36:04.640 with your own body intelligence. 0:36:04.760 --> 0:36:07.600 Like what would she say to her body? And what 0:36:07.640 --> 0:36:08.560 do you need? Seconds? 0:36:08.680 --> 0:36:11.040 Yeah, what do you body? What do you need? What 0:36:11.080 --> 0:36:13.319 does healing look like to you? And what can I 0:36:13.360 --> 0:36:17.040 do to support you to continue to experience vibrant health 0:36:17.040 --> 0:36:17.640 and well being? 0:36:19.040 --> 0:36:22.040 Okay, Nancy? Does that help? I even say to my body. 0:36:22.120 --> 0:36:25.440 I always talk to my body because I think the 0:36:25.480 --> 0:36:28.280 more that you are aware of your body, the better 0:36:28.320 --> 0:36:29.920 you're going to do. And I always say thank you 0:36:29.960 --> 0:36:32.920 for being so strong and healthy, thank you for always 0:36:33.239 --> 0:36:35.520 carrying me around and getting me to the places I 0:36:35.560 --> 0:36:37.480 need to go and the things that I need to do. 0:36:37.560 --> 0:36:42.400 I honestly feel like body awareness and body conversation is 0:36:42.520 --> 0:36:44.080 really really important. 0:36:45.320 --> 0:36:46.839 Okay, thank you. 0:36:46.960 --> 0:36:50.600 I wish you lucky. I wish you lucky your medical journey. 0:36:50.600 --> 0:36:53.520 Thank you Nancy for calling. Appreciate it. All Right, we're 0:36:53.560 --> 0:36:55.319 going to come back. We're going to talk about the 0:36:55.360 --> 0:36:59.520 things that you can control the energy that you that 0:37:00.040 --> 0:37:04.000 you're walking with and how you can raise your energy level. 0:37:04.080 --> 0:37:07.640 Coming back with Vicky Fairchild after this break. It is 0:37:07.760 --> 0:37:13.640 Donna d on seven hundred WLW, Cincinnati, Saturday Night, seven 0:37:13.719 --> 0:37:15.360 hundred WLW, First of All. 0:37:15.239 --> 0:37:17.520 Ohio State up ten six. 0:37:17.600 --> 0:37:20.200 It's they're getting ready to start this again. Good they're 0:37:20.239 --> 0:37:24.000 playing in Indiana. That's fun to watch tonight. But tonight 0:37:24.080 --> 0:37:29.440 we have a special guest. She's a healer, she's a clairvoyant, 0:37:29.640 --> 0:37:32.480 she's a medium, she does all kinds of work, a 0:37:32.520 --> 0:37:35.880 psychic and you have been so great to have on 0:37:35.920 --> 0:37:38.640 the show. Vicky Fairchild, thank you for being here tonight. 0:37:39.320 --> 0:37:41.680 We've had so many calls. And by the way, if 0:37:41.680 --> 0:37:45.120 you feel like calling in seven five one three seven 0:37:45.360 --> 0:37:48.000 nine seven thousand, if you have a specific question for 0:37:48.080 --> 0:37:52.400 Vicky Fairchild. She has been answering some tough questions about 0:37:52.800 --> 0:37:55.719 moving and of course we all have these crazy questions 0:37:56.120 --> 0:37:59.200 about love and are we ever going to find find it? 0:37:59.320 --> 0:38:01.560 Or should we stay with this person that's in a 0:38:01.640 --> 0:38:05.719 dark period. You've had some tough questions tonight, give us 0:38:05.719 --> 0:38:07.680 a call five one three seven for ninety seven thousand. 0:38:07.840 --> 0:38:11.280 Now when we talk about some of the things maybe 0:38:11.320 --> 0:38:16.480 people haven't quite heard of, like being living in the 0:38:16.760 --> 0:38:22.080 collective consciousness and it's mushy and spongy in dense, and 0:38:22.320 --> 0:38:24.319 I mean, I've never even heard of that stuff either. 0:38:25.520 --> 0:38:26.759 And then body talk. 0:38:26.840 --> 0:38:29.719 We had somebody that was not you know, she was 0:38:29.840 --> 0:38:32.000 in a healing journey, and you said to talk to 0:38:32.040 --> 0:38:35.160 her body. Can you go over and Dea I see you, 0:38:35.239 --> 0:38:37.920 and Steven Moore and Dick I see you. We'll get 0:38:37.920 --> 0:38:40.600 to you in just a minute. Can you talk about 0:38:40.600 --> 0:38:43.040 what it means? Because I know that you have been 0:38:43.520 --> 0:38:47.120 a physical therapist and you get a lot of energy 0:38:47.160 --> 0:38:49.520 from people just touching their bodies and stuff. 0:38:49.840 --> 0:38:51.879 What do you mean by body talk? 0:38:52.880 --> 0:38:56.080 I'm going to give you an example, personal example. So, 0:38:56.320 --> 0:38:59.279 I had a disc injury in my low back that 0:38:59.360 --> 0:39:02.439 gave me some satica, some severe pain down my leg. 0:39:02.760 --> 0:39:06.160 I did everything I know to do to help it, 0:39:06.400 --> 0:39:09.560 all the treatments, all the spiritual work, all the physical work, 0:39:09.920 --> 0:39:12.719 and one day I just got real quiet. I went 0:39:12.800 --> 0:39:16.360 to my back and I said, what do you need? 0:39:16.920 --> 0:39:20.439 And I heard a voice literally inside myself, go, You've 0:39:20.480 --> 0:39:23.000 got to get this off of me. You've got to 0:39:23.040 --> 0:39:23.920 have the surgery. 0:39:24.400 --> 0:39:24.680 Wow. 0:39:25.640 --> 0:39:30.000 Because the nerve is getting weak, and so the disc 0:39:30.400 --> 0:39:34.040 was was herniated, it was compressing the sidic nerve. So 0:39:34.080 --> 0:39:36.319 I still even have a little tat of numbness from 0:39:36.320 --> 0:39:39.000 that and a little weakness from that. But that was 0:39:39.120 --> 0:39:42.160 like a voice. It was like, you've got to get 0:39:42.160 --> 0:39:45.239 this off of me. And sometimes it's like when you 0:39:45.360 --> 0:39:47.960 get real tired. I always call it the two by 0:39:48.040 --> 0:39:51.400 four technique, when you're run and real fatigued. You know, 0:39:51.520 --> 0:39:54.160 one day your body'll just say I've had enough, and 0:39:54.200 --> 0:39:56.400 that's when you get sick. That's when you get a cold. 0:39:56.480 --> 0:39:58.719 That's when you have to call off work. So it 0:39:58.760 --> 0:40:02.880 could be as simple as that. Your body starts to 0:40:02.960 --> 0:40:05.560 run down, it starts to get fatigued. Pain is a 0:40:05.600 --> 0:40:09.080 really big factor. I think that that we can that 0:40:09.120 --> 0:40:11.560 we can listen to and. 0:40:11.520 --> 0:40:12.759 Ask questions about asking. 0:40:13.280 --> 0:40:17.560 When you say I got real quiet, what does that mean, 0:40:18.120 --> 0:40:19.480 I mean I stilled my mind. 0:40:19.560 --> 0:40:21.680 I want to talk to the listeners about the mind 0:40:21.680 --> 0:40:24.760 for a moment. Okay, there's different aspect of the mind. 0:40:25.320 --> 0:40:28.319 There's the chit chat that we have, like you know, 0:40:28.360 --> 0:40:31.480 and we call it the monkey mind. But that's the 0:40:31.800 --> 0:40:35.439 that's the most superficial part of the mind. The other 0:40:35.520 --> 0:40:39.080 part of the mind is the unconscious mind, and that's 0:40:39.160 --> 0:40:42.480 like having a glacier so that there's more of the 0:40:42.520 --> 0:40:45.360 ice is below the surface than what you see above it. 0:40:45.480 --> 0:40:49.680 That's your unconscious mind, and there's techniques to get to 0:40:49.719 --> 0:40:53.080 that that therapists have used for years. But there's also 0:40:53.280 --> 0:40:57.600 what I would call a bigger consciousness, the great mind. 0:40:57.920 --> 0:41:00.920 There are many names for that. And when I talked 0:41:00.920 --> 0:41:06.160 about the collective consciousness, we're very influenced about our surroundings, 0:41:06.400 --> 0:41:11.040 our culture are whatever beliefs we were brought up with. 0:41:11.400 --> 0:41:15.799 That's what I'm talking about in the collective mindset. And 0:41:15.880 --> 0:41:19.959 we're evolving. So the individual we evolve on our own 0:41:20.280 --> 0:41:24.799 kind of spiral and timing. But as a collective as humanity, 0:41:25.040 --> 0:41:27.560 think about to the dark ages? Are we better than 0:41:27.600 --> 0:41:31.480 the dark ages? Do we have more information and how 0:41:31.520 --> 0:41:33.680 to work with it? I mean, we had look at 0:41:33.719 --> 0:41:36.440 the things that humanity has been through, from you know, 0:41:36.640 --> 0:41:40.200 burning witches at this quote witches at the stake, to 0:41:40.320 --> 0:41:44.040 all the things that as humanity we have done. So 0:41:44.400 --> 0:41:47.840 some of us are wanting to have a better world, 0:41:48.600 --> 0:41:52.480 and I feel like the mind is where it starts. 0:41:53.400 --> 0:41:57.680 All right, let's get to Steve from Batavia and Dia 0:41:57.760 --> 0:42:03.240 and Dick on the way. Steve, do a question for Vicky, 0:42:03.400 --> 0:42:06.560 and I think you It says something about you had 0:42:06.600 --> 0:42:08.440 an experience with some spirit? 0:42:08.960 --> 0:42:09.520 Is that right? 0:42:12.200 --> 0:42:12.640 Is there? 0:42:12.760 --> 0:42:13.040 Okay? 0:42:13.080 --> 0:42:14.160 Yeah, Steve, can you hear me? 0:42:15.760 --> 0:42:16.000 Yes? 0:42:16.239 --> 0:42:18.400 Okay? What's your question for Vicky? 0:42:19.120 --> 0:42:23.720 Well? I was one asked, well, I'm a Christian everything, 0:42:23.760 --> 0:42:28.400 and I believe in the Bible. I'm just a basic Christian, 0:42:28.920 --> 0:42:34.560 you know, and everything. So I stayed in a hotel 0:42:34.960 --> 0:42:40.840 days in hotel down on Beachmont Avenue, and I stayed 0:42:40.880 --> 0:42:46.000 there for thirty days, and there was something about that 0:42:46.160 --> 0:42:51.040 room that was so heavy. I couldnot even be in 0:42:51.080 --> 0:42:54.000 that room. I would have to stay outside that room, 0:42:54.080 --> 0:42:56.960 like something very bad happened in that room. 0:42:58.320 --> 0:43:02.799 And you never you'd never fell to anything like this prior. 0:43:02.719 --> 0:43:07.440 Never ever in my life, like pressure, like something really 0:43:07.520 --> 0:43:12.080 happened bad at that in that hotel room. I've never 0:43:12.120 --> 0:43:17.000 felt that in my life. It was like total pressure, 0:43:17.080 --> 0:43:19.680 like I was being suffocated. I would have to leave 0:43:19.719 --> 0:43:21.279 the room and then it would leave. 0:43:23.239 --> 0:43:24.520 Wow, that's interesting. 0:43:25.680 --> 0:43:27.560 What was your question about that? Steve? 0:43:29.520 --> 0:43:32.160 Bould you believe in demons? 0:43:32.719 --> 0:43:37.080 I would say that there are darker forces that we 0:43:37.280 --> 0:43:44.200 are that coexist here with us. I have seen dark attachments. 0:43:44.320 --> 0:43:49.719 Something happened in that room, like like a murder or 0:43:49.719 --> 0:43:54.640 a rapist or a ediphile or something really weird happened. 0:43:55.520 --> 0:43:59.319 Does that spirit hang around because it just felt like 0:44:00.120 --> 0:44:01.120 something was heavy. 0:44:02.000 --> 0:44:06.279 I think that what energetically things do linger in spaces. 0:44:08.000 --> 0:44:11.480 So sometimes I've had people see apparitions, Like I had 0:44:11.560 --> 0:44:15.200 a client that had somebody hang themselves, you know, like 0:44:15.280 --> 0:44:18.480 in their house, right, So she kept seeing this. It 0:44:18.520 --> 0:44:21.719 was an apparition. She kept seeing that happen, and I 0:44:21.800 --> 0:44:25.240 actually went to her house and helped clear the energy 0:44:25.280 --> 0:44:25.600 from it. 0:44:25.760 --> 0:44:26.759 That's what I was going to ask. 0:44:27.520 --> 0:44:29.640 This was a hotel room, so I mean, Steve has 0:44:29.680 --> 0:44:33.320 already been you know, long gone from there, but haven't 0:44:33.360 --> 0:44:37.360 you walked in Because Steve, I've walked into rooms before 0:44:38.040 --> 0:44:41.600 where I have felt like there was a really weird 0:44:41.719 --> 0:44:43.279 vibe and I had to get out of there. So 0:44:43.360 --> 0:44:47.479 I really know what you're talking about. And I don't 0:44:47.520 --> 0:44:49.720 know what it is. I don't know where the energy 0:44:49.760 --> 0:44:52.360 is coming from. But all of a sudden, and especially 0:44:52.400 --> 0:44:55.799 when you said suffocating, because there are times where I 0:44:55.840 --> 0:44:58.680 was like, whooh, I'm having difficulty breathing in this space. 0:44:59.640 --> 0:45:02.239 So yeah, I know exactly what you mean, Steve. Thank 0:45:02.239 --> 0:45:05.520 you so much for the call. I appreciate it. Thank you. 0:45:05.520 --> 0:45:05.719 You know. 0:45:05.840 --> 0:45:09.480 I mean there's times where there are people feel energy 0:45:11.040 --> 0:45:13.399 out of the blue. I mean, Steve said he's never 0:45:13.400 --> 0:45:16.759 had any of this stuff. The more you work on 0:45:16.840 --> 0:45:22.200 yourself and the more that you are aware of your 0:45:22.320 --> 0:45:27.360 own energy, I feel like that really supports an awareness 0:45:27.480 --> 0:45:30.560 of not only your environment but other people when you walk. 0:45:30.760 --> 0:45:33.640 I mean, obviously the first I started this show tonight 0:45:33.719 --> 0:45:36.399 telling you how your energy has affected me. And it's 0:45:36.520 --> 0:45:40.080 light and it's still, and it's calm, and it's quiet 0:45:40.160 --> 0:45:41.120 and it's present. 0:45:42.239 --> 0:45:44.000 But there's people that I feel. 0:45:43.719 --> 0:45:46.680 Are who have a lot going on in their plate 0:45:47.239 --> 0:45:49.960 and I want to just wish them well from afar. 0:45:50.840 --> 0:45:53.239 You got it done. And it's like there's I think 0:45:53.239 --> 0:45:55.880 there's different kinds of feelings that we have. You know, 0:45:56.000 --> 0:46:00.160 that gut feeling and then there's that intuitive feeling, and 0:46:00.200 --> 0:46:04.120 then there's that heart feeling. So we have we were 0:46:04.160 --> 0:46:06.920 born with what we need to be able to feel things. 0:46:07.239 --> 0:46:10.160 That's survival. When you walk into a place and you 0:46:10.200 --> 0:46:12.399 go something to wrong here, I've got to get out 0:46:12.400 --> 0:46:15.759 of here. Yeah, that's instinct and that we're given that 0:46:16.320 --> 0:46:17.920 I think to reason. 0:46:19.239 --> 0:46:24.080 Yeah, but also like, wow, I'm to be aware of 0:46:24.120 --> 0:46:27.520 the body even I can. I'm feeling the tingling now 0:46:27.680 --> 0:46:31.200 of of what Steve was talking about, because that's happened 0:46:31.200 --> 0:46:34.719 to me before. Let's get to dia Ida from Glenn Dale. 0:46:34.800 --> 0:46:35.640 Do you have a question? 0:46:35.719 --> 0:46:39.279 Is this my buddy dia Yes, it is Hi. 0:46:40.040 --> 0:46:40.239 Hi. 0:46:40.560 --> 0:46:43.040 Do you have a question for VICKI It's good. 0:46:43.000 --> 0:46:46.000 I do well, So I was. 0:46:46.120 --> 0:46:49.520 I've been giving this more thought lately because of just 0:46:49.560 --> 0:46:53.640 some new family members have three little grandchildren now, and 0:46:54.120 --> 0:46:57.440 so I've been with my same company or in my 0:46:57.520 --> 0:47:01.040 same career for the past thirty years, and it's an 0:47:01.040 --> 0:47:04.759 exceptional career that I get to teach group fitness and 0:47:04.800 --> 0:47:07.640 I get to sell tennis memberships, and I see a 0:47:07.680 --> 0:47:11.560 lot of retired people that are able to come to 0:47:11.640 --> 0:47:17.200 the morning classes play more tennis. And so I'm wondering 0:47:17.280 --> 0:47:22.040 if you have any prediction or when I should retire, 0:47:22.080 --> 0:47:24.440 because I work in a place that people come to 0:47:24.520 --> 0:47:29.360 when they retire, and is my time more valuable to 0:47:29.480 --> 0:47:34.279 spend with those, you know, grandchildren and family members who 0:47:34.360 --> 0:47:38.799 may not be around or much longer, and is my 0:47:38.920 --> 0:47:41.600 time more valuable? So I'm getting to the point I've 0:47:41.640 --> 0:47:44.880 got a few more years before the official age of retirement. 0:47:45.640 --> 0:47:49.200 But I'm just being tugged in a few directions that 0:47:49.239 --> 0:47:51.760 I've never been really tugged before. 0:47:53.640 --> 0:47:57.799 Take this one real quick. You're not going anywhere to 0:47:58.200 --> 0:48:02.359 that's the first thing retiring. That's my take on it. 0:48:03.160 --> 0:48:06.280 But now I will give it to the professional across 0:48:06.320 --> 0:48:06.960 the board here. 0:48:07.040 --> 0:48:07.640 What do you think? 0:48:07.680 --> 0:48:10.600 Because actually this is a very big topic, and we're 0:48:10.640 --> 0:48:13.440 going to have a friend of mine, Lisa with with 0:48:13.560 --> 0:48:17.320 some counselors on for retirement on the next Saturday show, 0:48:17.400 --> 0:48:19.200 So Dia, you're going to want to tune into that. 0:48:19.640 --> 0:48:21.839 But let's hear what Vicky has to say about this. 0:48:21.960 --> 0:48:26.160 Well, I think retirement as an old phrase in our culture. 0:48:26.239 --> 0:48:28.040 You know, there was a set time that we were 0:48:28.040 --> 0:48:31.040 supposed to quote retire. Well then, what so if you're 0:48:31.080 --> 0:48:34.279 somebody Dia that has loved what you've done, You've been 0:48:34.320 --> 0:48:36.560 in the fitness, it's brought you joy, You've met all 0:48:36.600 --> 0:48:41.480 these wonderful people, I would project yourself out in the future. 0:48:41.640 --> 0:48:44.840 So what does it feel like not doing what you're doing? 0:48:45.560 --> 0:48:48.200 You know? I would like live your life, like just 0:48:48.239 --> 0:48:51.279 take some time, like do that little visioning and say, well, 0:48:51.320 --> 0:48:54.000 what's it going to feel like when I quote stop? 0:48:54.200 --> 0:48:57.000 And how long? How much longer do I do I 0:48:57.120 --> 0:48:59.560 have here? And I always tell people start planning what 0:48:59.600 --> 0:49:03.319 you're going to do afterwards, because there's going to be 0:49:03.320 --> 0:49:06.440 a big gap there, especially if you had a routine 0:49:06.880 --> 0:49:10.480 and you had a community. I think it's important that 0:49:10.600 --> 0:49:13.360 you have something else that you know you are going 0:49:13.440 --> 0:49:16.239 to want to do after that. And anything that we 0:49:16.280 --> 0:49:19.200 spend our time on isn't really a waste. We're always learning, 0:49:19.200 --> 0:49:22.719 we're always growing, and there's always something to be had 0:49:22.760 --> 0:49:24.560 for it. I'll tell you a story. I had to 0:49:24.600 --> 0:49:28.920 move my practice. I almost quit my practice, and I 0:49:29.719 --> 0:49:32.680 kept putting myself in the future about is it time 0:49:32.719 --> 0:49:34.839 to go? Is it time? Is it time? Is it time? 0:49:35.360 --> 0:49:37.239 And then I had to just sit with my heart 0:49:37.280 --> 0:49:41.960 and I imagined not seeing those people anymore, and I 0:49:42.000 --> 0:49:45.000 got real emotional because they're like, you know, I've been 0:49:45.400 --> 0:49:47.560 in practice for forty eight years. Some of these people 0:49:47.600 --> 0:49:50.200 come back to me after thirty years. They become like family. 0:49:50.480 --> 0:49:52.279 Have these people become like family to you? 0:49:54.080 --> 0:49:54.239 Oh? 0:49:54.280 --> 0:49:54.880 Absolutely? 0:49:54.960 --> 0:49:59.000 Yeah, Yeah, So that I'd feel into I'd feel into that, 0:49:59.440 --> 0:50:01.520 you know, right. 0:50:01.440 --> 0:50:04.000 Okay, that's really good advice because I think my four 0:50:04.080 --> 0:50:07.160 year old little granddaughter kind of knows me as Dedie 0:50:07.239 --> 0:50:10.279 at the tennis club, and that would kind of you know, 0:50:10.719 --> 0:50:15.080 I think she relates to and will benefit from being 0:50:15.120 --> 0:50:18.760 around where I work as well. So I think that's 0:50:18.920 --> 0:50:22.759 it just helped me. I want to make sure I 0:50:22.800 --> 0:50:25.240 may make the right decision because you can't take it back, 0:50:25.280 --> 0:50:27.200 and I you know, I want to make sure. And 0:50:27.200 --> 0:50:31.000 it's really good to hear your opinion and get Donna's 0:50:31.000 --> 0:50:31.399 take on. 0:50:31.400 --> 0:50:32.600 It as well. Well. 0:50:32.640 --> 0:50:35.640 You know you already said your not going anywhere, So 0:50:36.880 --> 0:50:39.200 make sure to listen next Saturday because it's going to 0:50:39.239 --> 0:50:41.719 be on retirement. It is a big perfect It is 0:50:41.760 --> 0:50:44.600 a huge question that so many people have when should 0:50:44.640 --> 0:50:48.839 I retire? I'm more aligned with Willie Nelson, who said, 0:50:48.880 --> 0:50:51.400 what am I retiring from? Going to playing music with 0:50:51.440 --> 0:50:54.280 my friends. I'm always going to teach yoga, I'm always 0:50:54.360 --> 0:50:57.239 going to do some radio. I'll always have you know, 0:50:57.320 --> 0:51:00.120 these jobs that I that I absolutely love it and 0:51:00.160 --> 0:51:02.799 have passion for. So what am I actually retiring? 0:51:03.920 --> 0:51:06.359 And you've been a role model for your grandchildren. 0:51:06.640 --> 0:51:10.759 Yes, exactly, exactly, Okay, I know what I'm gonna do. 0:51:10.920 --> 0:51:11.840 Na, thank you. 0:51:11.960 --> 0:51:14.000 I'm so glad we helped you out. I'll see you 0:51:14.040 --> 0:51:15.799 tomorrow in class. 0:51:15.960 --> 0:51:16.800 Okay, perfect. 0:51:17.360 --> 0:51:20.239 So, Vicky, just a quick question on me, like, can 0:51:20.280 --> 0:51:23.680 you read? Can you give me some advice? I'm surprised 0:51:23.719 --> 0:51:25.680 I'm even going to ask you this, but because Dia 0:51:25.719 --> 0:51:29.480 called in, so we're going to talk about breakups in 0:51:29.520 --> 0:51:32.160 the next segment and then I will reluctantly let you 0:51:32.239 --> 0:51:32.840 and Larry go. 0:51:33.000 --> 0:51:35.160 But as long as Ohio State is. 0:51:35.160 --> 0:51:37.719 Winning, I think your husband is good in the studio here. 0:51:39.360 --> 0:51:44.000 I this was a big year for breakups and myself included. 0:51:44.239 --> 0:51:47.960 And you know I was tough. Breakups are always going 0:51:48.000 --> 0:51:49.840 to be hard. They're always going to be hard. What 0:51:49.960 --> 0:51:54.120 do you see happening for me and that kind of 0:51:54.640 --> 0:51:56.440 love life in twenty twenty six. 0:51:56.880 --> 0:52:00.040 I think you're gonna need a pause and within a 0:52:00.120 --> 0:52:03.400 year you'll see some excitement coming up. 0:52:03.440 --> 0:52:05.840 I did get a new foster puppy and he's turning 0:52:05.840 --> 0:52:06.880 out to be the love. 0:52:06.760 --> 0:52:07.520 Of my life. 0:52:08.000 --> 0:52:10.400 Well, I would go with that. Talks are the talks 0:52:10.400 --> 0:52:13.920 are the past art thing. Okay, Dick, we're gonna come 0:52:13.920 --> 0:52:15.760 back to you. We got to take a quick break. 0:52:16.080 --> 0:52:20.080 We do want to talk about again relationships. 0:52:20.120 --> 0:52:24.200 There was a big year about breakups. There's a whole. 0:52:25.840 --> 0:52:28.600 Paper on this, and I wrote it down and for 0:52:28.640 --> 0:52:32.080 some reason, oh, here it is. There was an article 0:52:32.120 --> 0:52:34.960 written about it. And the article was talking about how 0:52:35.080 --> 0:52:38.520 so many myself and many of my friends had breakups 0:52:38.560 --> 0:52:42.719 in twenty twenty five, and what's happening in twenty twenty six. 0:52:42.760 --> 0:52:45.800 I'm gonna read what I read and I am very 0:52:45.840 --> 0:52:48.920 interested to see if you agree with it or not. 0:52:49.000 --> 0:52:50.880 So when we come back, we're going to talk about 0:52:51.080 --> 0:52:54.560 breakups and what is going to happen in twenty twenty 0:52:54.600 --> 0:52:57.759 six in terms of the energy shift for all of us. 0:52:58.200 --> 0:53:02.000 You'll either agree or not. And Dick, hang on, hang on, 0:53:02.120 --> 0:53:04.520 We're gonna get to you in just a moment. Uh, 0:53:04.600 --> 0:53:09.920 Donna D Saturday Night OSU is still winning. Oh no, 0:53:10.560 --> 0:53:14.439 I'm sorry. Oh okay, that's a bummer. We'll be back 0:53:14.480 --> 0:53:17.640 with an update on it is thirteen to ten. Sorry, Larry, 0:53:18.280 --> 0:53:21.000 Indiana is ahead for the first time in the game. 0:53:21.080 --> 0:53:22.520 That's a bummer. We'll be back. 0:53:22.600 --> 0:53:29.080 Dona D seven hundred WLW Cincinnati amazing guest Vicky Fairchild, 0:53:29.160 --> 0:53:34.840 a medium, a psychic, claravoyant, overall healer. It's been so 0:53:35.000 --> 0:53:37.520 great having you on the show. This is our last segment. 0:53:37.560 --> 0:53:39.520 If you have anything that you want to talk to 0:53:39.600 --> 0:53:43.480 Vicky about a specific question that you have five one, three, seven, four, nine, 0:53:43.560 --> 0:53:46.560 seven thousand, one, eight hundred, the big one. If you've 0:53:46.560 --> 0:53:50.960 been stuck somewhere or you need clarity on something. She 0:53:51.080 --> 0:53:54.000 has been given some very good advice and even pulling 0:53:54.040 --> 0:53:58.000 some channels here this uh from tonight, Dick. 0:53:58.080 --> 0:53:59.520 I know you've been waiting for so long. 0:53:59.560 --> 0:54:02.600 I want to get to this article though, real quick 0:54:02.600 --> 0:54:05.319 because we only have a short amount of time and 0:54:05.400 --> 0:54:07.680 one break left. So we talked about why there were 0:54:07.680 --> 0:54:10.279 so many breakups in twenty twenty five. 0:54:10.360 --> 0:54:11.799 It was an article written about it. 0:54:12.040 --> 0:54:15.440 I myself had a breakup, some family members had breakups, 0:54:15.640 --> 0:54:19.360 some friends had breakups. The title of the article, Vicky 0:54:19.719 --> 0:54:23.560 is why are there so many breakups this year? Relationships 0:54:23.600 --> 0:54:28.600 are collapsing, hearts are awakening, and everything is shifting. Twenty 0:54:28.680 --> 0:54:32.279 twenty five has been in untangling and a shedding of 0:54:32.320 --> 0:54:36.400 love out of fear versus truth, and it says that 0:54:36.520 --> 0:54:40.520 twenty twenty six is going to bring movement, clarity and 0:54:40.600 --> 0:54:46.840 alignment and truer relationships like more connected out of love 0:54:47.040 --> 0:54:47.680 versus fear. 0:54:47.719 --> 0:54:48.520 Do you agree with that? 0:54:49.719 --> 0:54:51.520 The worst that come to me when you speak to 0:54:51.560 --> 0:54:55.200 that is there's a revolution of truth happening. I think 0:54:55.280 --> 0:54:59.359 people are unwilling to settle anymore for anything less than 0:54:59.440 --> 0:55:05.080 an off entic, heart based relationship. But isn't it when 0:55:05.160 --> 0:55:10.280 you look around, people are demanding more information about truth 0:55:10.320 --> 0:55:13.920 and so in relationships. That's the bottom line is that 0:55:13.960 --> 0:55:16.040 we have to stand in the center of our truth 0:55:16.360 --> 0:55:20.839 if something's not working anymore. The more we become courageous 0:55:21.440 --> 0:55:25.560 and strong and intuitive and honest with ourselves, you'll have 0:55:25.640 --> 0:55:28.320 to ask yourself, is this still in my highest good? 0:55:29.040 --> 0:55:33.120 There's a real evolution happening on the planet, I think, 0:55:33.719 --> 0:55:36.799 and astrologically you could look at it. I have a 0:55:36.800 --> 0:55:40.280 lot of friends that are really into that, but there's 0:55:40.400 --> 0:55:41.680 been a big shift. 0:55:42.040 --> 0:55:46.560 So I'm kind of big on intention. I talk about 0:55:46.600 --> 0:55:50.000 it in my yoga classes all the time, and what 0:55:50.160 --> 0:55:55.480 I have found out is people have mixed intentions, especially 0:55:55.520 --> 0:55:59.759 if you randomly are going through you know, heartache and 0:55:59.800 --> 0:56:03.239 things like that. You want to stay together, but you 0:56:03.480 --> 0:56:07.040 know that the relationship is over and the stronger intention 0:56:07.360 --> 0:56:08.600 always wins out. 0:56:09.239 --> 0:56:11.600 So if if you really. 0:56:11.239 --> 0:56:13.839 Want to work it out, but then this other thing 0:56:14.000 --> 0:56:16.839 knows that it's never going to happen, that's what's going 0:56:16.920 --> 0:56:17.360 to happen. 0:56:17.480 --> 0:56:19.359 Do you agree? I do? 0:56:19.400 --> 0:56:21.520 And I feel like there comes a time and a 0:56:21.600 --> 0:56:25.440 relationship where it's run its course and sometimes you just 0:56:25.600 --> 0:56:28.880 you don't want that to be. You can still have 0:56:28.960 --> 0:56:32.440 a relationship with somebody, but the nature of the relationship 0:56:32.560 --> 0:56:36.360 changes and sometimes it's just not good for you, and 0:56:36.400 --> 0:56:39.280 you know that and you get the courage to really 0:56:39.320 --> 0:56:39.840 walk away. 0:56:40.160 --> 0:56:43.359 What do you what if you're in a marriage and 0:56:43.400 --> 0:56:46.160 you have young kids and you feel like, wow, we 0:56:46.719 --> 0:56:50.520 really have not been getting along, how do you manage that? 0:56:51.120 --> 0:56:53.719 I mean, I know so many people have. I mean, 0:56:53.760 --> 0:56:56.920 this has always been so challenging. Do you go to therapy? 0:56:57.040 --> 0:56:57.719 Do you do? 0:56:57.800 --> 0:57:02.000 You start, you know, just doing things kind as loving 0:57:02.040 --> 0:57:04.840 as you possibly can be and giving it everything you 0:57:04.960 --> 0:57:07.640 got and then if it still doesn't work, then it's 0:57:07.680 --> 0:57:09.000 time to leave a relationship. 0:57:09.080 --> 0:57:10.160 How do you feel about that? 0:57:11.040 --> 0:57:14.720 I actually asked that question to somebody who I really 0:57:14.760 --> 0:57:19.280 really really respect. Her name is Ama. She's known as 0:57:19.400 --> 0:57:24.920 the Hugging Saints. Amma. Yes, and I've had amazing experiences 0:57:24.920 --> 0:57:27.440 with her. I asked her that question because I was 0:57:27.480 --> 0:57:31.200 at a precipice myself, and her answer to me was, 0:57:31.920 --> 0:57:34.640 you have to give it one hundred percent before you leave. 0:57:35.640 --> 0:57:39.120 So if we know we've given it one hundred percent, 0:57:39.720 --> 0:57:43.080 you know, the kids are a really complicated thing. Having 0:57:43.160 --> 0:57:45.880 grown up, I went to my mother and said, why 0:57:45.920 --> 0:57:48.560 don't you leave? This is dysfunctional when I got old 0:57:48.680 --> 0:57:52.080 enough to figure it out. Yeah, but little ones, little 0:57:52.120 --> 0:57:55.880 ones are taken in everything. You know. They're taken in 0:57:55.920 --> 0:57:59.200 what you say and what you don't say. They're observing 0:57:59.320 --> 0:58:01.640 and they're actually watching to see how you going to 0:58:01.720 --> 0:58:05.720 handle this? How do you make amends? How do you 0:58:06.560 --> 0:58:10.040 negotiate when there's such differences here? So I think that 0:58:10.320 --> 0:58:13.680 when there's children involved, you know, there's a lot of course, 0:58:13.880 --> 0:58:16.880 some people don't have the financial security to leave. That 0:58:17.080 --> 0:58:21.600 has been an issue for a lot of people. So 0:58:21.640 --> 0:58:26.120 they we stay because we think we're secure, you know. 0:58:26.240 --> 0:58:29.360 So some people stay because they feel more secure in 0:58:29.360 --> 0:58:32.680 a relationship than out. Some people just have to be 0:58:32.920 --> 0:58:35.120 in a relationship, you know, they just go from one 0:58:35.200 --> 0:58:38.520 person to another. Of the serial relationships. Yeah, I just 0:58:38.520 --> 0:58:40.680 think it's real important to be honest with yourself, but 0:58:40.720 --> 0:58:43.080 you have to really get help and make sure that 0:58:43.120 --> 0:58:46.200 if you leave, that the children have all the support 0:58:46.280 --> 0:58:50.440 that they need and you know, the professional advice that 0:58:50.520 --> 0:58:52.840 helps a family get through those kinds. 0:58:52.920 --> 0:58:56.360 Do you know you've given one hundred percent? How do 0:58:56.400 --> 0:58:59.200 you know that there's nothing left in the tank that 0:58:59.360 --> 0:58:59.840 is hard? 0:59:00.360 --> 0:59:01.640 How do you know that? 0:59:03.120 --> 0:59:03.440 For me? 0:59:03.520 --> 0:59:06.640 It was a feeling, you know, because I've been through 0:59:06.680 --> 0:59:10.280 it myself, But it's a feeling. Sometimes it's like the 0:59:10.840 --> 0:59:12.040 it's run its course. 0:59:12.320 --> 0:59:12.520 You know. 0:59:12.600 --> 0:59:15.840 Some people would call it karma, some people would call 0:59:15.920 --> 0:59:21.640 it other things. But I feel like some relationships are karmic. 0:59:22.360 --> 0:59:25.520 Some relationships, if you look at it, if you've heard 0:59:25.560 --> 0:59:31.360 of twin flames or twin rays or soulmates, sometimes you've 0:59:31.440 --> 0:59:34.200 just come to work things out. Sometimes you came to 0:59:34.240 --> 0:59:38.480 have those children and to create a legacy that way. 0:59:38.520 --> 0:59:41.880 You know, it's hard to look so many years down 0:59:41.920 --> 0:59:46.960 the way. Boats we're creating whole lineages and ancestral lines, 0:59:47.040 --> 0:59:50.240 and so sometimes I feel like if we could look back, 0:59:50.280 --> 0:59:54.040 we'd see why things happen, why we stayed, and why 0:59:54.080 --> 0:59:56.160 we chose the timing we did to leave. 0:59:56.160 --> 0:59:58.320 Do I need to ask this question? Do you believe 0:59:58.360 --> 0:59:59.680 in soulmates? Yes? 1:00:00.440 --> 1:00:02.600 I didn't think I had to. Let's get to Mike 1:00:02.640 --> 1:00:06.680 real quick. Mike from Richmond, Kentucky. Mike, how are. 1:00:06.560 --> 1:00:08.480 You hi, Donna? 1:00:08.520 --> 1:00:09.160 How are you all? 1:00:09.400 --> 1:00:12.800 I'm good. Do you have a question for Vicky Well? 1:00:12.840 --> 1:00:17.800 I do, and this is respectful, But you know, eighty 1:00:17.840 --> 1:00:21.920 percent of divorces right now, and of course she'll understand that. 1:00:22.000 --> 1:00:26.280 Gray divorces are the biggest percentage of divorces. But eighty 1:00:26.320 --> 1:00:33.320 percent of divorces are from women. And I don't think 1:00:33.360 --> 1:00:37.480 anybody asks men if they're happy in a marriage and 1:00:37.520 --> 1:00:40.720 give up real fast, but women, if they're not happy, 1:00:40.760 --> 1:00:44.840 they tend to give up pretty quick, and they've already 1:00:44.840 --> 1:00:47.800 found somebody else two years ahead of time. Does that 1:00:47.840 --> 1:00:48.520 make any sense? 1:00:48.520 --> 1:00:50.320 There's a lot in there of Vicky. 1:00:50.560 --> 1:00:52.760 Well, Mike, I probably ask you if you have any 1:00:52.800 --> 1:00:53.720 experience with that. 1:00:55.040 --> 1:00:59.000 Well, I was married twenty eight years day, they're per seven, 1:00:59.480 --> 1:01:01.640 and I get surprised after Christmas. 1:01:02.000 --> 1:01:04.360 So that's what I forget. 1:01:05.160 --> 1:01:06.960 So now I'm going to fly in your ointment, is 1:01:06.960 --> 1:01:08.840 what I'm doing. And I hate to say that, but 1:01:09.200 --> 1:01:12.720 there is a great divorce and you can look that up. 1:01:12.800 --> 1:01:14.960 I did, and I know what you're talking about, Mike, 1:01:15.000 --> 1:01:19.400 because seventy's I think it's seventy percent of women do 1:01:19.760 --> 1:01:20.880 ask for the divorce. 1:01:21.040 --> 1:01:22.560 Why do you think that is, Vicky? 1:01:23.600 --> 1:01:27.280 I wonder sometimes if it's because typically we think that 1:01:27.480 --> 1:01:31.120 women are more in touch with their emotions and their feelings, 1:01:31.560 --> 1:01:34.280 and that what I hear from women a lot. I 1:01:34.320 --> 1:01:36.640 sit in a lot of women's circles, and I've been 1:01:36.680 --> 1:01:40.200 on you know, in healing environments with people, is that women, 1:01:40.520 --> 1:01:43.800 when we get together, we talk our emotions out and stuff. 1:01:43.920 --> 1:01:46.520 And sometimes if you can be in a relationship where 1:01:46.520 --> 1:01:51.240 you're constantly able to be in communication and communicating that 1:01:51.360 --> 1:01:54.600 way with what's work and what isn't, what your feelings 1:01:54.640 --> 1:01:57.840 are and stuff. I think I think that we grew 1:01:57.880 --> 1:02:00.640 up in a culture where men weren't allowed to have that. 1:02:00.840 --> 1:02:04.400 I mean, it's different now, but I can tell you 1:02:04.440 --> 1:02:08.040 that my father was a stoic and that was that 1:02:08.240 --> 1:02:13.040 generation back in the fifties, you know, And so maybe 1:02:13.080 --> 1:02:16.200 it's just that we need to give permission for men 1:02:16.280 --> 1:02:19.240 to have all the emotions and feelings and talk about 1:02:19.280 --> 1:02:24.040 it and have women give women permission to stay and 1:02:24.080 --> 1:02:28.120 listen and to be you know, understanding to other sides 1:02:28.120 --> 1:02:31.760 of it. And I believe in a masculine and feminine 1:02:31.840 --> 1:02:34.600 qualities within each one of us too. 1:02:34.800 --> 1:02:37.560 Mike, I'm going to give you permission to be emotional 1:02:37.880 --> 1:02:41.360 right now and talk about your feelings. 1:02:42.600 --> 1:02:45.400 No, I think it's just a weird time period in 1:02:45.440 --> 1:02:47.160 the past, and I'm going to go back ten or 1:02:47.160 --> 1:02:52.800 twelve years. Things are kind of flip flopped. Women have 1:02:52.880 --> 1:03:00.120 almost taken the place of men when it comes to promiscuity. 1:03:01.160 --> 1:03:04.000 It's almost like men and women switch places. 1:03:04.480 --> 1:03:08.000 This is interesting because I talk to like a lot 1:03:08.040 --> 1:03:11.600 of the producers around here and my co host Sterling. 1:03:11.800 --> 1:03:15.360 Guys don't know how to act around women anymore. It's 1:03:15.400 --> 1:03:19.080 like almost the me too movement stop them from a 1:03:19.080 --> 1:03:21.800 asking any woman to go out on a date. B. 1:03:22.360 --> 1:03:24.120 They don't know if they want Do you want me 1:03:24.160 --> 1:03:25.720 to pick you up? Do you want me to open 1:03:25.760 --> 1:03:28.080 your car door? Do you want me to Mike, am 1:03:28.080 --> 1:03:29.920 I Is this sounding familiar? 1:03:31.080 --> 1:03:36.120 Absolutely? Absolutely, they're almost offended. If you go chivalry, you 1:03:36.160 --> 1:03:37.200 know that's a weird word. 1:03:38.400 --> 1:03:40.400 Well, let me just say my thoughts on this, and 1:03:40.440 --> 1:03:43.160 then I'm gonna get Vicky's thoughts on it as well. 1:03:43.200 --> 1:03:45.640 And if there's any way that we can come back 1:03:45.880 --> 1:03:49.120 to men being men, because I love men to open 1:03:49.160 --> 1:03:49.919 my car door. 1:03:50.400 --> 1:03:53.200 I like men to be chivalrous. I like men to 1:03:53.280 --> 1:03:53.800 be men. 1:03:54.040 --> 1:03:57.320 I want I want a strong man in my life, 1:03:57.320 --> 1:03:58.720 and all. 1:03:58.600 --> 1:04:00.480 Of my women friends like that too. 1:04:01.040 --> 1:04:04.240 I think the me too movement there's an overcorrection that 1:04:04.440 --> 1:04:08.920 happens sometimes when when something comes out of the surface 1:04:09.000 --> 1:04:14.480 and women were, you know, had all these inappropriate things 1:04:14.520 --> 1:04:17.600 happened to them, and they spoke out, but men just 1:04:17.640 --> 1:04:19.480 didn't know what to do, and now all of a sudden, 1:04:19.480 --> 1:04:23.000 the over correction happens, and men don't. Men don't know 1:04:23.040 --> 1:04:26.680 how how women want to behave and shouldn't they just 1:04:27.400 --> 1:04:30.240 be who they are? Authentic? If you like opening the 1:04:30.280 --> 1:04:32.520 car door for a woman, do it. What do you 1:04:32.560 --> 1:04:35.160 think about that, VICKI, I want to talk to Mike 1:04:35.240 --> 1:04:35.880 for a minute. 1:04:36.000 --> 1:04:41.480 I pick up on you that you're very respectful. Is 1:04:41.480 --> 1:04:41.880 that right? 1:04:43.040 --> 1:04:44.240 Absolutely? Yes. 1:04:44.280 --> 1:04:47.760 So I feel the most important things that we respect 1:04:47.800 --> 1:04:51.680 each other and that we express what feels good and not. 1:04:51.920 --> 1:04:56.840 I I love to be respected and honored and politeness, 1:04:57.520 --> 1:05:00.760 and I love a compliment. Who doesn't like a compliment? 1:05:00.840 --> 1:05:04.640 I mean it. The pendulum has swung both ways. Now, 1:05:04.680 --> 1:05:07.960 I can tell you growing up in nineteen eighties, when 1:05:08.000 --> 1:05:11.400 I was working at a hospital, I had some situations 1:05:11.440 --> 1:05:13.880 there that was a me too kind of incident. 1:05:14.080 --> 1:05:16.720 I've had me too moments as well that I don't 1:05:16.720 --> 1:05:19.800 know any woman past the age of thirty. 1:05:20.240 --> 1:05:23.880 But I took I took care of it myself. I 1:05:24.000 --> 1:05:28.240 confronted the I confronted him myself, you know. And I 1:05:28.280 --> 1:05:30.800 think that if we can just keep the lines of 1:05:30.840 --> 1:05:35.320 communication open and to be honest when you feel hurt, 1:05:36.040 --> 1:05:38.680 you know, because that's what I feel from that, that 1:05:38.720 --> 1:05:41.520 you're hurt. And I wish that we didn't have to 1:05:41.600 --> 1:05:47.160 be so generalizing of things like they we then were separate, 1:05:47.360 --> 1:05:51.520 separating ourselves. Every human being wants the same thing. We 1:05:51.560 --> 1:05:54.680 want to be seen, we want to be respected, we 1:05:54.720 --> 1:05:58.720 want to be loved. That's the that's the bottom line. 1:05:58.760 --> 1:06:00.800 And if we can do that, I think we have a. 1:06:00.880 --> 1:06:03.640 Much better Well, and listen, it's not the guys, mic, 1:06:03.720 --> 1:06:06.680 it's not your fault either, for any like they grew 1:06:06.760 --> 1:06:09.120 up with Animal House, I mean, you know, we grew 1:06:09.280 --> 1:06:10.760 up with movies that. 1:06:10.800 --> 1:06:13.120 Were the craziest. 1:06:14.000 --> 1:06:15.480 Sounds crazy. 1:06:16.600 --> 1:06:20.440 I mean you know that that's movies reflect a great 1:06:20.880 --> 1:06:23.200 deal of what people think is correct. 1:06:23.200 --> 1:06:25.240 It's exactly the culture. 1:06:24.920 --> 1:06:27.919 And submission from God. By the way, don't you remember. 1:06:29.160 --> 1:06:32.600 Right, but guys actually thought, you know, looking at people 1:06:32.680 --> 1:06:36.760 in girls windows who were changing for bed was actually funny. 1:06:36.920 --> 1:06:38.520 And it's not so. 1:06:38.800 --> 1:06:41.040 Like women had to correct that. It took us a 1:06:41.080 --> 1:06:42.680 long time to get up the. 1:06:42.640 --> 1:06:43.520 Nerve to do it. 1:06:44.680 --> 1:06:47.000 Yeah. Well, it's just like women. Women have to have 1:06:47.040 --> 1:06:51.000 two things in a marriage and a relationship is emotional 1:06:51.040 --> 1:06:53.720 security and financial security. 1:06:54.080 --> 1:06:56.720 That not sound right, vickey, that's true. 1:06:56.960 --> 1:06:59.800 But we all need that, right, I think we all 1:06:59.800 --> 1:07:00.160 need that. 1:07:00.400 --> 1:07:02.760 Yeah, but men are a little bit different. That's why 1:07:02.760 --> 1:07:04.680 we need to I guess my bottom line is we 1:07:04.720 --> 1:07:09.280 need to respect each other's differences. 1:07:09.320 --> 1:07:10.200 What do men mean? 1:07:10.800 --> 1:07:11.000 Love? 1:07:11.120 --> 1:07:14.280 God? Yeah, you know, love for a guy to open 1:07:14.360 --> 1:07:16.520 up a door, be a little bit masculine or I 1:07:16.560 --> 1:07:21.360 mean we're so metro sexual? Is that the word? Or metro? Yes? 1:07:22.760 --> 1:07:24.080 Okay, And that's okay. 1:07:24.200 --> 1:07:27.080 Sometimes you can look nice with a blazer and put 1:07:27.080 --> 1:07:29.840 on a cute hat and some funky shoes and look, 1:07:30.120 --> 1:07:34.200 that's fine. That that's absolutely fine. You can get dressed up. 1:07:34.240 --> 1:07:37.280 Women liked But but Mike, you said something interesting. You 1:07:37.320 --> 1:07:40.880 said two things women want? What do men want? 1:07:43.000 --> 1:07:45.600 Respect? And you're getting ready to know the other one. 1:07:45.840 --> 1:07:47.640 Donna and Dicky you both know the second one. 1:07:47.720 --> 1:07:50.320 Get ready to respect and love? 1:07:58.560 --> 1:08:01.440 No, I love it. That's what we're here for, be honest. 1:08:01.760 --> 1:08:07.960 Well, yeah, you're not to appreciate each other's differences and 1:08:08.480 --> 1:08:13.720 female and male and go back to bear you know. Uh, 1:08:14.120 --> 1:08:15.880 we appreciate each other, that's all. 1:08:16.080 --> 1:08:18.640 Yeah, No, I we agree, We agree, Mike, thank you 1:08:18.680 --> 1:08:20.400 so much for the call. Let me let me just 1:08:20.439 --> 1:08:22.840 grab Dick real quick. He's been hanging on forever. 1:08:23.120 --> 1:08:24.960 Dick from Dayton. You got a minute. What do you 1:08:25.000 --> 1:08:26.240 do you have a question for Vicky? 1:08:27.240 --> 1:08:30.160 Yeah, Vicky, that was really nice what you were talking 1:08:30.160 --> 1:08:33.880 about tonight, because I experienced. I've lived with my mom 1:08:33.920 --> 1:08:36.320 and dad for a long time and I had to 1:08:36.439 --> 1:08:40.200 make an adjustment. I retired, you know, and I had 1:08:40.240 --> 1:08:42.880 to sell the house and my say friend got sick 1:08:42.920 --> 1:08:46.360 and I couldn't uh I uh you know, and I 1:08:46.439 --> 1:08:49.320 found it a little rough, but uh I found some 1:08:49.360 --> 1:08:51.960 friends to be what you guys had good information tonight. 1:08:52.400 --> 1:08:55.040 And I still can play my music. I take the 1:08:55.120 --> 1:08:58.639 bus and everything, but uh I, I just try to 1:08:58.680 --> 1:09:02.479 be friends with everybody at our our hYP radio. But 1:09:02.640 --> 1:09:05.160 you guys had some really good points tonight. It was 1:09:05.200 --> 1:09:05.719 really good. 1:09:05.880 --> 1:09:08.000 Thank you, Dick. I appreciate it awesome. 1:09:08.040 --> 1:09:10.160 And I know you've been on for a long time 1:09:10.160 --> 1:09:14.200 and thanks for being a longtime listener. We really appreciate it. So, Vicky, 1:09:14.280 --> 1:09:15.960 I hate that we're coming to the end of the 1:09:16.040 --> 1:09:20.080 hour here. Tell us about how people can get a 1:09:20.080 --> 1:09:21.759 hold of you. And I know you have a really 1:09:21.800 --> 1:09:24.120 cool zoom event coming up, so talk about that. 1:09:24.640 --> 1:09:27.800 Yeah, So I just moved my office to Blue ash 1:09:27.880 --> 1:09:32.080 So if you go to my website light touch pt 1:09:32.360 --> 1:09:34.760 dot com at l I g h T T O 1:09:34.880 --> 1:09:37.479 U c h p T dot com. That's the name 1:09:37.520 --> 1:09:39.720 that I had from my physical therapy practice for a 1:09:39.760 --> 1:09:42.040 long time. But it does have my phone number on there, 1:09:42.080 --> 1:09:45.519 which is five one three seven nine two twenty three hundred. 1:09:45.880 --> 1:09:48.719 You can reach out to me on my email. It's 1:09:48.800 --> 1:09:50.760 Vick E v E spelled v I c k I 1:09:50.880 --> 1:09:53.519 E Fairchild f A I R c h I L 1:09:53.680 --> 1:09:57.679 D at yahoo dot com. And what I'm excited about 1:09:58.000 --> 1:10:01.200 is this zoom call that I been doing for about 1:10:01.240 --> 1:10:03.719 four or five years with an intimate group of friends 1:10:03.760 --> 1:10:07.240 and I'm going to open it up. This call that 1:10:07.280 --> 1:10:11.639 we have had has been amazing transformation for each other. 1:10:12.200 --> 1:10:15.840 So if you are interested in that, give me a call. 1:10:15.960 --> 1:10:18.280 It'll be about an hour and a half. It'll be 1:10:18.400 --> 1:10:21.880 in the evening, and I'll send out a zoom link 1:10:22.000 --> 1:10:24.799 and we're going to talk about some high mystical things 1:10:24.840 --> 1:10:28.240 and get some vibration really high. I do some guided 1:10:28.280 --> 1:10:31.120 imagery and some meditation, and then we have a discussion 1:10:31.200 --> 1:10:35.200 afterward and we share our deepest feeling And it's an 1:10:35.280 --> 1:10:38.800 evolution I think to be able to come together and 1:10:38.880 --> 1:10:42.240 be intimate with each other in a way that feels safe. 1:10:42.320 --> 1:10:46.000 So I feel like I create a safe, sacred space 1:10:46.040 --> 1:10:49.559 for people to enter and that we can ask these 1:10:49.600 --> 1:10:53.360 deep spiritual questions and support each other on the journey, 1:10:53.960 --> 1:10:57.400 and so that as a community we can come together. 1:10:58.200 --> 1:11:00.720 I love I love it. Thank you so much for 1:11:00.800 --> 1:11:03.400 being on the show. Vicky Fairchild. I'm gonna put her 1:11:03.479 --> 1:11:08.639 information on my Instagram page. Relationship Radio Donna d thank 1:11:08.680 --> 1:11:11.320 you so much. Thank you, Larry. I know you're watching 1:11:11.360 --> 1:11:17.320 the game. Yeah, Indiana is still up. We see, we will, 1:11:17.680 --> 1:11:20.000 We'll come back. Sterling is going to join me in 1:11:20.040 --> 1:11:23.360 the eleven o'clock hour because we had really interesting conversation 1:11:23.880 --> 1:11:26.519 on tipping and things like that. So Sterling's going to 1:11:26.560 --> 1:11:28.240 come back because we had a ton of calls on 1:11:28.280 --> 1:11:32.000 that and we couldn't get to everything. Donna d Saturday Night, 1:11:32.280 --> 1:11:35.280 seven hundred WLW, Cincinnati. 1:11:34.680 --> 1:11:36.080 Thank you, Donna. 1:11:36.160 --> 1:11:41.479 Tonight overnight Cold Blow of twenty four, Tomorrow High of 1:11:41.560 --> 1:11:44.000 thirty four, Big game tomorrow Bills and. 1:11:44.000 --> 1:11:45.479 Bengals and Go Bengals. 1:11:46.160 --> 1:11:48.160 So today it was on three to six doing a 1:11:48.200 --> 1:11:51.880 doubleheader today and I asked my co host Sterling to 1:11:52.040 --> 1:11:54.760 jump on with me because we had a really interesting 1:11:54.920 --> 1:11:57.960 topic that we did not get to any of the 1:11:57.960 --> 1:12:00.719 phone calls barely. Any of the phone calls could have gone, 1:12:00.880 --> 1:12:02.759 you know, the whole show with that Sterling. 1:12:02.800 --> 1:12:05.719 How you doing, I'm good? How are you you watching 1:12:05.760 --> 1:12:06.800 the Ohio State game? 1:12:07.720 --> 1:12:09.800 It was until I started talking to you and it's 1:12:09.880 --> 1:12:11.640 I mean, you know, it's not going the way i'd like. 1:12:11.720 --> 1:12:13.840 That's nothing against the hood. Here's I have many friends 1:12:13.840 --> 1:12:16.800 who wonder Indiana freely, and you know, and good for them. 1:12:18.280 --> 1:12:21.240 We'll just see what happens. We're all watching it. So 1:12:21.240 --> 1:12:24.200 so we had this caller in. We started talking about 1:12:24.240 --> 1:12:26.799 tips because there's two stories in the news of servers 1:12:26.800 --> 1:12:29.759 getting arrested after harassing customers for not tipping. 1:12:29.960 --> 1:12:31.640 I mean, it's sad and frustrating. 1:12:31.680 --> 1:12:34.840 These poor girls that were waiting on giant tables and 1:12:34.880 --> 1:12:37.599 nobody left them a tip or very very small tip 1:12:37.640 --> 1:12:42.200 at that got you know, got arrested for harassing these patrons. 1:12:43.400 --> 1:12:46.000 But then this guy, James called in this afternoon to 1:12:46.040 --> 1:12:48.719 talk about taking his friend on a bachelor party. 1:12:48.960 --> 1:12:51.839 Well, Sean, let's play the clip. What's up James? 1:12:53.280 --> 1:12:56.760 Hey, guys, I'll the gone good love to hear both 1:12:56.800 --> 1:13:01.240 your voices. So this happened just you know, ten days ago. 1:13:01.280 --> 1:13:06.120 It was a Saturday after Thanksgiving and our friend was 1:13:06.160 --> 1:13:10.120 getting married for the third time. So we thought, hey, no, 1:13:10.200 --> 1:13:13.080 obviously no bachelor party. That's crazy. But we took them 1:13:13.080 --> 1:13:15.160 to Twin Peaks, which you know, I love Twin Peaks. 1:13:15.160 --> 1:13:16.639 I've got good salmon, good beer. 1:13:17.000 --> 1:13:27.280 Fine, you're not throwing them bolt party another, but that's 1:13:27.280 --> 1:13:27.760 not going to do. 1:13:28.240 --> 1:13:29.920 That's not going to get you the side eye when 1:13:29.960 --> 1:13:32.479 you say where you've gone compared to some other places 1:13:32.479 --> 1:13:34.559 where they may or may not wear a cryllic heels. 1:13:35.120 --> 1:13:36.960 Go ahead, I'm sorry, I digress. 1:13:36.920 --> 1:13:39.200 Well, all right, so I got to continue my story. 1:13:39.200 --> 1:13:40.720 So we didn't go off to Vegas, right, We went 1:13:40.760 --> 1:13:43.720 to Twin Peaks, which is an awesome place. So then 1:13:43.840 --> 1:13:45.760 some one of the guys there's like, let's go to 1:13:45.840 --> 1:13:47.639 the strip club. Like we're all like, you know, we're 1:13:47.680 --> 1:13:49.960 in our fifties. You know, like this, you know, probably 1:13:50.000 --> 1:13:53.679 doesn't make sense, but bottom line is the entourage went 1:13:53.720 --> 1:13:56.759 to a strip club. So you get the strip club, 1:13:57.479 --> 1:13:59.639 and you know, I mean, at this point in my life, 1:13:59.680 --> 1:14:01.639 I'm kind of uncomfortable as trip clubs. 1:14:01.880 --> 1:14:02.800 But whatever, so. 1:14:02.760 --> 1:14:05.040 We all go and like, all right, the right thing 1:14:05.080 --> 1:14:05.360 to do. 1:14:05.400 --> 1:14:07.040 I guess this could be his third matchup party. 1:14:07.120 --> 1:14:07.639 Let's get him. 1:14:08.400 --> 1:14:08.720 I don't know. 1:14:08.720 --> 1:14:12.040 It's called a private dance, a lap dance and a 1:14:12.080 --> 1:14:12.920 booth or whatever. 1:14:13.520 --> 1:14:19.800 You I knows, we all know. I am, I know, 1:14:19.960 --> 1:14:24.439 I know, Jay, you go, we'll keep it. 1:14:24.479 --> 1:14:26.520 We won't say anything to anybody. 1:14:26.720 --> 1:14:28.639 So so we pony up the cash and I think 1:14:28.760 --> 1:14:31.360 Donna you had said, like who carried cash anymore? 1:14:31.439 --> 1:14:32.280 Like good point. 1:14:33.600 --> 1:14:39.920 So but we had some cash and and so. 1:14:38.479 --> 1:14:39.800 So they take the guy in. 1:14:39.960 --> 1:14:41.000 The woman takes the guy. 1:14:41.080 --> 1:14:44.240 Into the booth, and and it was you know again 1:14:44.439 --> 1:14:49.200 two days after Thanksgiving for approaching the Christmas season, and 1:14:49.200 --> 1:14:52.160 and so they get done, he gets done whatever, and 1:14:52.200 --> 1:14:54.559 she's like, hey, how about a tip. He's like, I 1:14:54.600 --> 1:14:57.120 thought my my friends paid for this. He's like, yeah, 1:14:57.160 --> 1:14:58.960 but they didn't leave me at tips. Like she's like, 1:14:59.520 --> 1:15:01.920 I don't have any cash and she's like, but it's 1:15:01.920 --> 1:15:04.400 the holidays. He even come on, man, so it's like 1:15:04.520 --> 1:15:09.559 begging for money. And so like I think an assistant 1:15:09.600 --> 1:15:12.280 manager came out like, now, I mean, we paid what 1:15:12.320 --> 1:15:15.680 you asked for. We're not giving her a tip, you know, 1:15:15.920 --> 1:15:18.160 for for for the holidays. 1:15:18.160 --> 1:15:18.800 Not gonna happen. 1:15:20.640 --> 1:15:24.679 So, James, that's a that's an interesting story. I love 1:15:24.760 --> 1:15:30.080 this story because he's right, you pay for a service, 1:15:30.439 --> 1:15:34.559 and then you know, you think, you think that that's it. 1:15:34.720 --> 1:15:38.400 You know, she's negotiated the price, they paid it. 1:15:38.360 --> 1:15:41.720 And she didn't have like a swipe to pay. I 1:15:41.800 --> 1:15:44.479 think that's what's coming like a bar on our wrist. 1:15:44.800 --> 1:15:47.000 Actually said she said, I taken. 1:15:46.800 --> 1:15:56.320 Venmo the phones where I mean, there's so many questions. 1:15:56.680 --> 1:15:59.040 Well, I will say I will say this, that is 1:15:59.080 --> 1:16:02.360 a tricky situation. And when that happens, it just makes 1:16:02.520 --> 1:16:06.800 everybody feel uncomfortable. So I think so because tipping is 1:16:06.840 --> 1:16:09.439 optional and like I like I said, I have been 1:16:09.520 --> 1:16:12.320 a bartender for years and years and years and a 1:16:12.360 --> 1:16:15.760 server and I worked for tips for many, many years, 1:16:15.800 --> 1:16:18.759 and it's important to tip, and I am a huge tipper. 1:16:19.080 --> 1:16:22.760 But if somebody doesn't automatically give it to you or 1:16:22.840 --> 1:16:25.240 wants you to have something, you don't need to go 1:16:25.280 --> 1:16:28.320 and ask for it, you really puts everybody in a 1:16:28.360 --> 1:16:29.599 real uncomfortable position. 1:16:29.720 --> 1:16:33.600 James appreciate the call. Man's hard to start that dangerous. 1:16:34.200 --> 1:16:35.920 Let me just say this, that whole not that I 1:16:36.439 --> 1:16:39.200 know much about. I've had friends in that business right 1:16:39.680 --> 1:16:42.519 on the pole and in the DJ booth and running 1:16:42.600 --> 1:16:45.040 club or two here or there. I will say it 1:16:45.080 --> 1:16:46.080 is based on tips. 1:16:49.280 --> 1:16:52.599 So Sterling, it was a long call and we talked 1:16:52.640 --> 1:16:57.680 about it a lot. Should people tip even if they 1:16:57.720 --> 1:16:58.840 don't want to write? 1:16:58.880 --> 1:17:01.679 He clearly didn't on to the girl didn't get the tip? 1:17:04.040 --> 1:17:06.280 Is it begging? Is it begging? For five? 1:17:06.320 --> 1:17:08.479 One, three, seven, four ninety seven thousand? We had a 1:17:08.479 --> 1:17:11.679 lot of calls on this earlier. What are your thoughts, Sterling? 1:17:13.160 --> 1:17:15.320 Well, I'm not going to say it was her first 1:17:15.360 --> 1:17:19.639 of all, you know, tips are supposed to ensure prompt service. 1:17:19.680 --> 1:17:24.080 I think that's the acronym rate. So the prompt service 1:17:24.120 --> 1:17:27.080 in that endeavors a whole other animal altogether when it 1:17:27.080 --> 1:17:30.799 comes to the entertainment with a private room kind of scenario, 1:17:30.920 --> 1:17:34.920 I guess on it in general, though I don't anyone like, 1:17:35.000 --> 1:17:38.200 you know, tips are appreciated or in your grill about it. 1:17:38.439 --> 1:17:42.240 I mean, but you're also in his case, he's in 1:17:42.280 --> 1:17:45.439 a strip club, so it's kind of it's kind of 1:17:45.520 --> 1:17:47.920 you know where you're at, you got to know, well, 1:17:47.960 --> 1:17:50.000 we always talk about, you know, know the room you're 1:17:50.120 --> 1:17:52.519 you know, and who you're talking to. Yeah, so I 1:17:52.560 --> 1:17:55.360 mean she's there taking it and shaking it for cash. 1:17:56.439 --> 1:18:00.840 Come up with some cash, right, But the right thing 1:18:00.960 --> 1:18:03.759 to do. You paid the man who let you into 1:18:03.800 --> 1:18:06.240 the room. You did not pay her. 1:18:06.880 --> 1:18:09.439 Oh okay. I didn't understand that part. 1:18:10.400 --> 1:18:12.799 That's the impression that I've gotten and how that works. 1:18:12.960 --> 1:18:15.519 I don't know all of that business overall, but I 1:18:15.840 --> 1:18:19.439 just don't like the side eye and the aggressive nature 1:18:19.479 --> 1:18:22.200 that some of the tipping thing has gotten into. And 1:18:22.280 --> 1:18:24.000 I think a lot of people are in that place. 1:18:24.120 --> 1:18:26.120 Right, we talked about this today. 1:18:26.600 --> 1:18:30.920 Everybody has, you know, some sort of a tip function. 1:18:31.400 --> 1:18:33.639 I don't care if it's you know, going to get 1:18:33.640 --> 1:18:37.000 a coffee, going to get a smoothie, going, you know, 1:18:37.080 --> 1:18:37.679 going to get. 1:18:37.520 --> 1:18:38.200 Your hair cut. 1:18:38.680 --> 1:18:43.439 I mean everybody is now is now you know, very 1:18:43.600 --> 1:18:46.200 tip oriented, and we're all used to it. But some 1:18:46.280 --> 1:18:49.320 of us, you know, I do give tips. I do 1:18:50.240 --> 1:18:53.559 you know, I've worked for tips. Like we've said, some 1:18:53.760 --> 1:18:56.040 of it is getting to the point of extreme. 1:18:57.439 --> 1:19:00.760 Yeah. Sure, have you ever paid to have someone leave 1:19:00.800 --> 1:19:03.120 you alone or to go away aside from the person 1:19:03.120 --> 1:19:04.240 who's requesting the tip? 1:19:04.280 --> 1:19:04.719 I mean. 1:19:06.560 --> 1:19:10.640 No, I mean here, here's why I asked. Okay, I 1:19:10.640 --> 1:19:14.400 can go back before Times Square turned into Disneyland and 1:19:14.439 --> 1:19:17.120 more wholesome, which of course is right in my wheelhouse 1:19:17.160 --> 1:19:18.679 because I'm naive of the ways of the world. 1:19:18.720 --> 1:19:18.920 Done. 1:19:19.080 --> 1:19:21.639 Yes, I was in New York for a business thing 1:19:22.160 --> 1:19:25.679 and it was before everything got super gentrified in Times Square, 1:19:26.240 --> 1:19:28.639 and it was late and we had gone from bar 1:19:28.760 --> 1:19:31.280 to bar beer and shot beer and shot a lot 1:19:31.320 --> 1:19:34.160 of Irish pubs, bars, whatever, and then we ended up 1:19:34.160 --> 1:19:37.439 in an establishment where they shook it for cash. You know, 1:19:37.479 --> 1:19:41.000 I had to. I was just with the group and 1:19:40.439 --> 1:19:43.200 it usually you'd say, you know, the you know, the 1:19:43.240 --> 1:19:45.280 next girl on the stage or whatever. Now coming to 1:19:45.320 --> 1:19:48.160 the stage and it's a girl. This was this was 1:19:48.160 --> 1:19:52.679 a woman, and she was working very hard and doing 1:19:52.720 --> 1:19:56.400 things that it was. It was beyond just on the 1:19:56.479 --> 1:20:00.559 pole and being social. It was disturbing and I actually 1:20:00.600 --> 1:20:03.640 gave her money to go away. Everyone was very disturbed. 1:20:03.680 --> 1:20:06.960 She was very aggressive and she was quite scary. It 1:20:07.040 --> 1:20:09.559 wasn't a girl that you would hope that would come 1:20:09.560 --> 1:20:13.440 over and do that. And I paid her to lead 1:20:13.680 --> 1:20:14.760 instead of to do more. 1:20:15.840 --> 1:20:18.800 I mean she got her tips some way, right, Yeah, 1:20:19.080 --> 1:20:19.360 I was. 1:20:19.560 --> 1:20:21.960 Yeah, it was a different type of shakedown. And it's Almo. 1:20:23.200 --> 1:20:27.799 Listen, people, people really need to make money in this world. 1:20:27.840 --> 1:20:30.920 That's how we all live. And if you're you know, 1:20:31.040 --> 1:20:34.280 in especially in that industry. First of all, you know, 1:20:34.320 --> 1:20:37.280 when you go to a bar like that, a club 1:20:37.360 --> 1:20:39.720 like that, you got to have cash. You got to 1:20:39.760 --> 1:20:43.280 have money to give, because that's what that's all about, 1:20:43.720 --> 1:20:47.280 that's what making it rain. You know, you have to 1:20:47.360 --> 1:20:50.760 have so you know the fact that none of us 1:20:50.840 --> 1:20:55.000 carry cash anymore because everything is you know, Apple pay 1:20:55.040 --> 1:20:56.040 and everything else. 1:20:56.600 --> 1:20:58.360 You have to you have to be mindful of that. 1:20:58.439 --> 1:21:02.280 But the tipping thing is on another level, and seeing 1:21:02.320 --> 1:21:05.080 these girls. Like the story that that guy read today 1:21:05.160 --> 1:21:09.280 about the server that was waiting on ten people and 1:21:09.520 --> 1:21:11.840 it was a big birthday party and she filled all 1:21:11.840 --> 1:21:14.320 the drinks and she cut the cake and they left 1:21:14.320 --> 1:21:19.040 her five to one dollar bills. That's infuriating. That is infuriating. 1:21:20.240 --> 1:21:21.479 Week very weak. 1:21:21.640 --> 1:21:24.320 Well, you you know, you have to understand that even 1:21:24.360 --> 1:21:27.360 if you don't agree with tips, because that's what those 1:21:27.360 --> 1:21:31.760 people said, we don't agree in tipping, then then you know, 1:21:32.800 --> 1:21:36.439 don't go out to dinner and in a service place 1:21:36.520 --> 1:21:38.479 like that where you have to you have to tip 1:21:38.520 --> 1:21:40.840 and you have somebody working so hard. That's a big 1:21:40.880 --> 1:21:43.040 deal for a lot of people. What are your thoughts? 1:21:43.080 --> 1:21:46.360 Five one, three, seven, four nite seven eight hundred, the 1:21:46.360 --> 1:21:46.880 Big One. 1:21:47.000 --> 1:21:49.960 We've had a really good show. I don't know if you've. 1:21:49.840 --> 1:21:54.800 Listened to Vicky Fairchild, who just left Sterling on you know, 1:21:54.880 --> 1:21:56.920 the psychic medium that I had on the show. 1:21:57.080 --> 1:21:58.920 Had you heard any I was hoping that you were 1:21:59.800 --> 1:22:02.760 not much the game, I mean, not the personal and 1:22:02.800 --> 1:22:04.600 we spent time together. You don't hate on me, but 1:22:04.680 --> 1:22:06.720 I had questions and I was a little upset she 1:22:06.760 --> 1:22:08.640 didn't stay over. Only to know, you know, well, the 1:22:09.120 --> 1:22:13.280 red signed for. Uh, you know what, will the Bengals 1:22:13.400 --> 1:22:15.960 beat the Browns? Will they? It will be they make 1:22:16.200 --> 1:22:18.240 they over the under on that. Well, you know, I 1:22:18.280 --> 1:22:19.240 have a lot of questions. 1:22:19.439 --> 1:22:20.040 Well she did. 1:22:20.200 --> 1:22:22.679 She did say that she's picked the Super Bowl winner 1:22:22.680 --> 1:22:25.720 every year since she started, which has been about I 1:22:25.760 --> 1:22:27.479 don't know, she said, five or six years. 1:22:27.520 --> 1:22:29.360 And I said, are they How can we prove that? 1:22:29.400 --> 1:22:31.280 By the way, you know what, I say that too, 1:22:31.439 --> 1:22:32.320 How does anyone know? 1:22:33.520 --> 1:22:34.080 We don't? 1:22:34.160 --> 1:22:37.280 But I did ask her if she saw the Bengals 1:22:37.280 --> 1:22:40.040 in the Super Bowl, at least in the Super Bowl? 1:22:40.400 --> 1:22:43.200 What do you think? She said, not this year? 1:22:43.439 --> 1:22:48.280 No, no, no, she said, they're not going to be 1:22:48.320 --> 1:22:49.439 in the super Bowl this year. 1:22:51.160 --> 1:22:53.160 They were a few a couple of years ago. 1:22:53.200 --> 1:22:56.080 Right, they made and they made it to Are you 1:22:56.120 --> 1:22:57.360 talking about playing the Rams? 1:22:58.560 --> 1:23:02.080 Yea yeah. I mean in this situation, you just got 1:23:02.080 --> 1:23:04.160 to hope that they can string some double us together 1:23:04.400 --> 1:23:06.599 and maybe, you know, a borough can go up there 1:23:06.640 --> 1:23:10.320 and upset Allan and all those Bills fans in the 1:23:10.600 --> 1:23:12.720 in the land where the wind blows across the lake 1:23:12.760 --> 1:23:17.000 and brings snow if they're expecting tomorrow, and then that's 1:23:17.000 --> 1:23:22.800 all you can do. I mean Blaine chose Toe. Well, 1:23:22.840 --> 1:23:25.680 I mean think about I mean seriously, they got an 1:23:25.680 --> 1:23:28.560 early start and then they were losing, and then he 1:23:28.640 --> 1:23:31.720 got healthy again, and here we are, So I mean, 1:23:31.760 --> 1:23:34.320 we wanted him to not start out for four or 1:23:34.320 --> 1:23:36.080 oh for three, and then we got it in the 1:23:36.080 --> 1:23:39.519 middle of the whole season there. So I mean it's 1:23:40.600 --> 1:23:42.479 I think with him in there, they've got a chance. 1:23:42.520 --> 1:23:45.360 So we'll see what happened. I have been born and 1:23:45.439 --> 1:23:48.839 bred to live better through lowered expectations, so I'm hoping 1:23:48.960 --> 1:23:51.479 for the best, but prepared for the worst, of course, 1:23:51.560 --> 1:23:53.639 which is also my relationship situation. 1:23:53.760 --> 1:23:56.120 But that's a whole See, you could have asked Vicky 1:23:56.160 --> 1:23:58.400 about it, she said, for me, I asked her about 1:23:58.439 --> 1:24:01.000 my relationship because it was the year of breakups. It's 1:24:01.000 --> 1:24:04.120 the year of shedding. It's the year of people not 1:24:04.800 --> 1:24:08.160 being together just out of fear. People want love. 1:24:08.200 --> 1:24:09.160 And she agreed with that. 1:24:09.200 --> 1:24:11.519 And I said, I broke up with someone this year, 1:24:12.320 --> 1:24:15.240 what is she see happening? And she said, it's going 1:24:15.320 --> 1:24:17.880 to take about a year before you find somebody new. 1:24:18.840 --> 1:24:20.639 She just break hearts all over the place. 1:24:22.080 --> 1:24:24.600 Well, this guy, this guy Mike, called in and he 1:24:24.760 --> 1:24:27.559 was interesting and he was very, very honest. 1:24:27.600 --> 1:24:29.120 He talked about women, Sterling. 1:24:29.200 --> 1:24:31.439 You and I have talked about this a ton of 1:24:31.479 --> 1:24:35.639 times in terms of how men don't know how to 1:24:35.720 --> 1:24:38.880 act with women anymore. They don't know should they pull 1:24:38.920 --> 1:24:41.559 out their chair at dinner, should they open their card door? 1:24:42.479 --> 1:24:43.240 What do they want? 1:24:43.280 --> 1:24:46.040 Ever since the Me Too movement, you haven't seen men 1:24:46.160 --> 1:24:48.519 step up and you know, ask women for days. They 1:24:48.600 --> 1:24:51.679 just don't know how to handle women anymore. And we've 1:24:51.720 --> 1:24:55.960 talked about it. Is there and what Vicky's response was 1:24:56.000 --> 1:25:00.280 that I absolutely loved is if you're respectful and you 1:25:00.360 --> 1:25:03.599 like to give respect, then just do what you feel 1:25:04.160 --> 1:25:07.640 you would want to represent well for yourself. 1:25:07.760 --> 1:25:12.000 If you're respectful, then be respectful, right yeah. 1:25:11.840 --> 1:25:14.160 I mean, think about it if it was your sister, 1:25:14.280 --> 1:25:16.360 or your mother or your daughter, and how you would 1:25:16.400 --> 1:25:20.320 hope that they'd be treated. It is a strange world 1:25:20.400 --> 1:25:23.040 to navigate at this point. But you know, I think 1:25:23.080 --> 1:25:25.800 the simple thing is no means no. But it's nice 1:25:25.800 --> 1:25:28.639 to have the woman make the first move and then 1:25:28.720 --> 1:25:32.160 you know, and that would make life better. I guess 1:25:32.280 --> 1:25:34.680 you don't want to be like, hey, I thought we 1:25:34.680 --> 1:25:36.600 were good and then the next thing, you know, you know, 1:25:36.760 --> 1:25:39.479 there's a problem. You don't be an idiot, a moron 1:25:39.560 --> 1:25:40.160 or a molester. 1:25:40.479 --> 1:25:45.799 Serling, don't you get signals from women on whether or not. 1:25:47.200 --> 1:25:52.800 You they're into you? Because women want to know go ahead. 1:25:53.000 --> 1:25:57.240 Women ultimately like the man for the most part, like 1:25:57.360 --> 1:26:00.360 the man to make the first move, or you know, 1:26:00.479 --> 1:26:02.040 be the man in the relationship. 1:26:03.160 --> 1:26:03.360 Right. 1:26:03.680 --> 1:26:07.120 Can I chime in, well, sure, yeah, I wish you would. 1:26:07.240 --> 1:26:10.000 I just this has been a fun topic to talk about. 1:26:10.080 --> 1:26:15.400 I think I think it's such a tricky world to navigate, 1:26:15.439 --> 1:26:18.479 like you guys were saying, because speaking from my experience 1:26:18.520 --> 1:26:21.240 I'm twenty five. For those who don't know, I do 1:26:21.360 --> 1:26:23.920 agree that it is kind of hard to navigate from 1:26:23.960 --> 1:26:25.880 the standpoint of a man because I feel like we 1:26:26.000 --> 1:26:29.320 really don't We don't want to be embarrassed. We don't 1:26:29.360 --> 1:26:31.799 want to be publicly like shamed because you know, everything 1:26:31.800 --> 1:26:34.240 goes on the internet these days, or it feels like 1:26:34.320 --> 1:26:36.720 it will. You know, you don't want a girl to 1:26:36.760 --> 1:26:39.599 call you a creep. That's the biggest thing. So it's 1:26:39.720 --> 1:26:42.519 it's really tricky in that sense, and I don't really 1:26:42.520 --> 1:26:44.240 know what to do either. But I think you guys 1:26:44.240 --> 1:26:46.800 made a great point that you have to do what 1:26:46.920 --> 1:26:49.439 you would want someone to do to you know, your 1:26:49.439 --> 1:26:52.599 sister or whoever that you know, any any girl that's 1:26:52.640 --> 1:26:55.439 related to you, and kind of stick to who you are. 1:26:58.320 --> 1:27:01.920 Yeah, do what you think you should be doing to 1:27:01.960 --> 1:27:02.360 your sister. 1:27:02.520 --> 1:27:04.040 No, no, no, if someone else. 1:27:05.680 --> 1:27:09.040 I mean, but you basically echoed what I said. But 1:27:09.120 --> 1:27:11.720 when I heard you say it, I don't want to 1:27:11.760 --> 1:27:16.080 think about my sister. I don't even have sister, but 1:27:16.160 --> 1:27:18.280 I mean it sounded weird, like, yeah, I just want 1:27:18.320 --> 1:27:21.040 you to do it to her like you would my sister. 1:27:21.160 --> 1:27:21.360 Yeah. 1:27:22.840 --> 1:27:26.920 It was not the best phrasing from my end either. 1:27:26.960 --> 1:27:28.719 I will admit I've. 1:27:28.600 --> 1:27:30.880 Made a career out of saying things in weird ways. 1:27:30.920 --> 1:27:32.880 We don't worry about it. I was just like, man, 1:27:32.920 --> 1:27:35.320 that's it is challenging. I felt pretty good about it, 1:27:35.360 --> 1:27:36.519 and then you made me more nervous. 1:27:36.880 --> 1:27:39.880 Sean is the is the worst thing that you could 1:27:39.920 --> 1:27:42.800 be called creepy by a girl. 1:27:42.960 --> 1:27:45.080 I think it's a huge blow to a guy's self 1:27:45.160 --> 1:27:48.880 esteem because I think a lot of the time guys 1:27:49.000 --> 1:27:51.839 just want to be upfront and honest, and they want 1:27:51.880 --> 1:27:55.679 direct answers. And when a girl calls you a creep 1:27:55.720 --> 1:27:58.519 even though you're you might be genuinely trying your best 1:27:58.600 --> 1:28:01.200 not to be like you are trying to be courteous 1:28:01.720 --> 1:28:04.200 because like you guys brought up the whole chivalry thing. Like, yes, 1:28:04.280 --> 1:28:06.960 a lot of women seem to shame that these days, 1:28:06.960 --> 1:28:08.720 and it's like, what do I do? What's the right 1:28:08.800 --> 1:28:12.400 move here? It's it's incredibly it can be incredibly frustrating. 1:28:12.439 --> 1:28:14.280 It's not the same for every woman out there. It's 1:28:14.320 --> 1:28:17.000 not the same for every guy. It's obviously a person 1:28:17.040 --> 1:28:19.240 to person experience, but yeah, it is kind of like 1:28:19.240 --> 1:28:21.880 a minefield nowadays, more so than it's ever been. 1:28:22.520 --> 1:28:22.560 So. 1:28:23.200 --> 1:28:26.639 Sean McMahon is producing the show and he's twenty five 1:28:26.720 --> 1:28:29.600 years old. It's tough, I know, at this age with 1:28:30.479 --> 1:28:34.680 iPhones and social media and things like that, can you 1:28:34.800 --> 1:28:37.800 even tell at a point, Wait, you're on a date 1:28:38.240 --> 1:28:43.120 and you're liking her, can you tell if she likes you? 1:28:43.320 --> 1:28:44.639 It's all in the body language? 1:28:44.760 --> 1:28:49.080 Yeah, it is completely in Honestly, the eyes kind of 1:28:49.120 --> 1:28:53.240 tend to be the dead giveaway. But it's it's really 1:28:53.280 --> 1:28:57.120 tough sometimes because I've seen examples online of girls who 1:28:57.160 --> 1:28:59.120 are like, yeah, if she flicks her hair at you, 1:28:59.320 --> 1:29:02.320 she likes you. That's a sign I'm supposed to look 1:29:02.360 --> 1:29:05.240 for that. What are you talking about that? There's no way, 1:29:05.600 --> 1:29:08.880 I Donna. You mentioned the whole idea of women want 1:29:08.960 --> 1:29:12.360 men to make the first move. Yeah, I think there 1:29:12.400 --> 1:29:15.440 has to be a bit of a societal shift. Personally. 1:29:15.920 --> 1:29:18.280 I think women have to be less afraid to make 1:29:18.320 --> 1:29:20.479 the first move on a guy, because a lot of 1:29:20.520 --> 1:29:23.080 the time guys are afraid to make the move nowadays, 1:29:23.760 --> 1:29:27.639 and guys like confident women just as you know, women 1:29:27.760 --> 1:29:30.640 like confident men. And I feel like that needs to 1:29:30.680 --> 1:29:33.320 be brought up a lot, and it's not talked about enough. 1:29:33.920 --> 1:29:36.400 Charlie, you agree with what Sean just said. 1:29:36.640 --> 1:29:39.520 Yeah, it makes all kinds of sense there, I mean absolutely, 1:29:39.560 --> 1:29:41.439 I mean it. Ever, I mean I like a woman 1:29:41.439 --> 1:29:44.920 who's like, here, let's go. Yeah, you know I'm digging 1:29:44.960 --> 1:29:48.479 you because then, you know, yeah, rather than And I've 1:29:48.479 --> 1:29:52.000 never even thought about the whole calling me a creepy 1:29:52.040 --> 1:29:56.599 online that never even I've been called so much worse. 1:29:58.640 --> 1:30:00.800 I can't I might be I don't even know. 1:30:02.560 --> 1:30:05.960 Oh gosh, well, I hope both of you stay around 1:30:06.240 --> 1:30:08.960 for the next segment because we have to continue this. Sean, 1:30:09.000 --> 1:30:11.320 you're still in the studio, Sterling, can you hang on 1:30:11.439 --> 1:30:13.080 for a minute and stay. 1:30:13.120 --> 1:30:15.200 Anything else to do, but spend this time with you. 1:30:15.439 --> 1:30:18.200 Yeah, okay, good, all right, we'll be back. We'll continue 1:30:18.520 --> 1:30:21.040 what guys have to do and what they really want 1:30:21.120 --> 1:30:22.719 for women in this day and age. 1:30:22.920 --> 1:30:25.960 They want them to make the move. We'll see. 1:30:26.560 --> 1:30:31.439 Welcome back, Donna D seven hundred WLW, Cincinnati, Woo. 1:30:31.479 --> 1:30:34.360 Our last segment of the night. What a fun night 1:30:34.400 --> 1:30:35.960 it's been here in the. 1:30:35.800 --> 1:30:39.719 iHeart Studio, seven hundred WLW. I am Dona D talking 1:30:39.760 --> 1:30:43.200 about relationships. We do it a little bit different on 1:30:43.280 --> 1:30:47.240 Saturday nights, and before the break, we started having an 1:30:47.240 --> 1:30:50.880 interesting conversation. Sterling, my co host is on the line 1:30:50.880 --> 1:30:53.360 with us right now, and Sean McMahon producing the show. 1:30:53.720 --> 1:30:58.160 The three of us started talking about how guys don't 1:30:58.240 --> 1:31:01.360 really know how to behave around women. And I think 1:31:01.400 --> 1:31:06.080 it started with the Me Too movement where women were 1:31:06.120 --> 1:31:10.559 coming out and saying men were, you know, inappropriate here 1:31:10.600 --> 1:31:15.000 and inappropriate there, and guys just really started to overcorrect and. 1:31:14.960 --> 1:31:15.920 Said, I'm not doing this. 1:31:15.960 --> 1:31:18.360 I'm not saying that, I'm not giving her a hug, 1:31:18.400 --> 1:31:20.400 I'm not touching her, I'm not in any way. I 1:31:20.479 --> 1:31:25.080 don't want to be looked at as inappropriate at all, Sterling, 1:31:25.120 --> 1:31:26.000 do you agree with that? 1:31:27.920 --> 1:31:30.759 Well, yeah, I don't want to be considered inappropriate at all. 1:31:30.920 --> 1:31:34.599 No, but do you feel like we've done an over correction? 1:31:35.360 --> 1:31:37.599 I mean, and we'll we'll get to Sean here too, 1:31:37.680 --> 1:31:40.479 because he will get to Sean in a minute. 1:31:40.479 --> 1:31:41.320 What do you think, Sterling? 1:31:42.880 --> 1:31:47.559 Look, I've been sort of dumb my whole life when 1:31:47.560 --> 1:31:51.160 it comes to this. There was a girl that a 1:31:51.280 --> 1:31:54.240 woman that we had worked together, that not work together, 1:31:54.400 --> 1:31:57.920 used to hang out. I thought she was not interested. 1:31:57.960 --> 1:32:01.200 I thought she was incredible and fun and apparent. Then 1:32:01.280 --> 1:32:04.120 years later we've got together at some sort of reunion 1:32:04.160 --> 1:32:07.040 thing and she's like, why did you never ask me out? 1:32:07.120 --> 1:32:09.080 And I'm like, because I didn't think you were interested. 1:32:09.120 --> 1:32:11.640 She goes, well, we wasted like five years. I'm like 1:32:11.680 --> 1:32:15.280 what and had no clue. And I've talked to so 1:32:15.400 --> 1:32:18.120 many dudes, and every there there was at least one 1:32:18.160 --> 1:32:20.320 of those that most of us guys can say, yeah, 1:32:20.680 --> 1:32:23.240 I've had a situation like that. I don't know that 1:32:23.240 --> 1:32:26.360 it's a generational thing. I think that we're dense and 1:32:26.640 --> 1:32:30.160 most of us don't want to offend, and sometimes we 1:32:30.200 --> 1:32:32.840 get intimidated especially when it's someone that we you know, 1:32:33.040 --> 1:32:36.240 are really really interested in sometimes but you know that's 1:32:36.280 --> 1:32:37.639 that's just me. But I like it. One and one 1:32:37.720 --> 1:32:40.080 tells me let me know. And the do you guys 1:32:40.080 --> 1:32:42.879 give off the signals? I mean, you know, eye contact, 1:32:42.880 --> 1:32:47.880 getting clothes, touchy feely, suggesting you get together and do stuff, 1:32:47.920 --> 1:32:51.240 you know, inviting you. That's a telltale sign. Usually, well 1:32:51.320 --> 1:32:52.160 that's that's. 1:32:52.000 --> 1:32:55.640 A giant green flag. If a girl is saying, you 1:32:55.680 --> 1:32:56.760 know all those things that. 1:32:56.720 --> 1:33:00.960 You just yeah, Sean, you, Sean McMahon, You prefer the 1:33:01.040 --> 1:33:03.400 girl at this point to make the first move. 1:33:03.479 --> 1:33:04.000 Tell me why. 1:33:04.160 --> 1:33:06.920 I Well, I wouldn't say I prefer that she make 1:33:07.000 --> 1:33:07.679 the first move. 1:33:07.760 --> 1:33:09.200 I would not hate if she did. 1:33:09.320 --> 1:33:11.600 I would I would love if she did because that 1:33:11.640 --> 1:33:16.479 would make me feel pretty good about myself. And I again, 1:33:16.560 --> 1:33:18.719 I don't know that I prefer, but if I'm gonna 1:33:18.720 --> 1:33:22.639 make the first move, she better respond with a with 1:33:22.720 --> 1:33:25.479 a good amount of energy that I can be like, oh, okay, 1:33:25.560 --> 1:33:29.640 she liked the way that I approached her. She's responding 1:33:29.680 --> 1:33:31.200 well to this, you know, if it's if I go 1:33:31.360 --> 1:33:33.200 up and I'm getting at my best shot. But it's 1:33:33.200 --> 1:33:35.920 not clear that she likes it. Yeah, that's where it 1:33:35.960 --> 1:33:39.240 gets really tricky. So I think you have to give 1:33:39.840 --> 1:33:42.519 a firm response, like you have to show the other 1:33:42.600 --> 1:33:45.599 person that you like the attention that you're getting from them, 1:33:45.840 --> 1:33:47.920 and not just for selfish reasons, but because you are 1:33:47.960 --> 1:33:51.320 also interested in them and their feelings for you. 1:33:52.120 --> 1:33:54.200 So it is a two way street. 1:33:54.240 --> 1:33:56.240 But yeah, I mean, if a girl came up to 1:33:56.240 --> 1:33:57.960 me and made the first move, I'm not gonna lie. 1:33:58.040 --> 1:34:00.120 I'm I'm not gonna turn her away immediately. I'm to 1:34:00.160 --> 1:34:01.559 be like, oh, this is different. 1:34:01.720 --> 1:34:02.040 Okay. 1:34:02.200 --> 1:34:05.320 So that's different from the last caller Mike, which he 1:34:05.360 --> 1:34:08.960 basically said girls have taken on the role of men 1:34:09.120 --> 1:34:12.840 in this society right now, where they're the aggressors there, 1:34:13.120 --> 1:34:16.519 and he doesn't like that. You haven't witnessed that, Sterling. 1:34:16.600 --> 1:34:17.960 You haven't witnessed that either. 1:34:19.880 --> 1:34:23.080 No, women are strong and they are aggressive and all 1:34:23.120 --> 1:34:26.599 those things. Yeah, I mean, my observation or hallucination, there 1:34:26.680 --> 1:34:29.720 is a generational thing. You know, I'm a guy in 1:34:29.760 --> 1:34:32.320 my fifties and you know dat a woman in her 1:34:32.320 --> 1:34:35.840 mid thirties to forty, and they are not the same. 1:34:36.720 --> 1:34:38.360 And that's not a bad thing. 1:34:39.280 --> 1:34:39.479 You know. 1:34:39.560 --> 1:34:41.559 I might want to be held in coddle and they're 1:34:41.560 --> 1:34:45.800 done and leave me at home, and I you know, 1:34:46.200 --> 1:34:48.080 that's okay. It used to be me that would leave, 1:34:48.120 --> 1:34:50.480 But there's a whole other story. Now I just feel used. 1:34:51.120 --> 1:34:53.920 Five seven four nine, seven thousand. 1:34:53.960 --> 1:34:57.240 Sean McMahon, who is producing this show, went to get 1:34:57.240 --> 1:35:01.160 a caller who's calling in guys too much. Don Yes, 1:35:01.280 --> 1:35:03.800 you always share way too much, Sterling. 1:35:03.720 --> 1:35:05.320 I should, I'm sorry. 1:35:05.400 --> 1:35:07.360 We want to know. We want to know, guys. 1:35:08.000 --> 1:35:11.679 And add to the add to the opinions of Sterling 1:35:11.760 --> 1:35:14.519 and our producer Sean McMahon, guys, do you want a 1:35:14.560 --> 1:35:16.040 woman to make the first move? 1:35:16.280 --> 1:35:17.680 Is that off putting to you? 1:35:18.040 --> 1:35:21.439 Because sometimes, and you know, Sterling, I am a very 1:35:21.479 --> 1:35:24.920 strong woman, and I have no problem in in in 1:35:25.160 --> 1:35:27.599 if I really like somebody, I'm going to let them 1:35:27.640 --> 1:35:30.559 know that. You really will know whether I like you 1:35:30.680 --> 1:35:33.920 or not. But I also like the men. The man 1:35:34.080 --> 1:35:35.960 to make the first move, and that's one of the 1:35:36.000 --> 1:35:41.679 indicators of of me liking them or not. Right sure, 1:35:41.800 --> 1:35:44.840 it's one of the indicators of a woman. So Sean 1:35:44.960 --> 1:35:47.479 just said, basically, if I make the first move and 1:35:47.520 --> 1:35:50.800 he's using courage to do it, she better be receptive. 1:35:51.000 --> 1:35:52.439 But what if you don't know yet? 1:35:52.720 --> 1:35:53.040 What if? 1:35:53.160 --> 1:35:55.759 What if? What if you think you like Sean? 1:35:55.840 --> 1:35:58.320 What if I think I like Sean and Sean makes 1:35:58.320 --> 1:36:00.679 the first move and I don't. 1:36:00.800 --> 1:36:05.120 I'm not quite there yet. Is it so alarming to. 1:36:05.160 --> 1:36:10.000 The guy that it's it hurts It hurts his heart 1:36:10.000 --> 1:36:11.960 and he doesn't want to try From there? 1:36:14.840 --> 1:36:16.240 You're asking me, Yes. 1:36:16.080 --> 1:36:16.680 I'm asking you. 1:36:16.720 --> 1:36:20.160 Sean is answering phone. We've got calls coming up long, okay, 1:36:20.200 --> 1:36:20.519 all right? 1:36:21.080 --> 1:36:25.599 Because I can't see you, and normally I can. I mean, 1:36:25.680 --> 1:36:28.840 it helps to know, and you don't want to necessarily 1:36:28.880 --> 1:36:31.280 be in the dark, But you know, I guess the 1:36:31.320 --> 1:36:33.800 trick is to be able to ask and not be 1:36:33.960 --> 1:36:36.200 so offended and crushed if they say. 1:36:36.000 --> 1:36:38.720 No, right right, right exactly. 1:36:38.760 --> 1:36:41.879 And that's the thing. People have a fear of rejection. 1:36:42.320 --> 1:36:45.200 But here's the other side. I mean, you're an attractive woman, right, 1:36:45.320 --> 1:36:49.120 professional woman, smart woman, and all the fun and all 1:36:49.120 --> 1:36:52.479 that other stuff, breaking hearts all over the place. But 1:36:52.720 --> 1:36:55.519 men come out of the woodwork. How how annoying and 1:36:55.720 --> 1:36:58.280 testering are we to you? 1:36:58.320 --> 1:36:58.679 Guys? 1:36:59.520 --> 1:37:03.040 Because why I ask, even if I'm not being flirtacious 1:37:03.120 --> 1:37:06.040 or hanging around, I get the impression sometimes that younger 1:37:06.120 --> 1:37:10.280 woman maybe thinking that you're like being creepy even though 1:37:10.280 --> 1:37:15.280 you're not. So when where is that line for you? Well, 1:37:15.280 --> 1:37:17.160 not to turn it around, but I'm turning it around. 1:37:17.200 --> 1:37:19.120 No, no, no, here's one here. 1:37:19.360 --> 1:37:23.240 I will I will divulge something because yes, I had 1:37:23.240 --> 1:37:25.760 a breakup this year. I will talk about it. This 1:37:25.800 --> 1:37:27.719 is the first time I've ever been on a dating app. 1:37:27.920 --> 1:37:30.839 So I have gone on a couple of dates lately. 1:37:31.439 --> 1:37:34.320 And Sandra, we're going to get to you in a minute. 1:37:35.120 --> 1:37:39.360 When the guy moves so close to me in the chair, 1:37:40.320 --> 1:37:44.320 that feels a little uncomfortable. So he'll say, you know, 1:37:44.439 --> 1:37:46.680 get I want to get a little bit closer to you, 1:37:48.080 --> 1:37:51.200 and I'm not ready for that. That feels a little uncomfortable. 1:37:51.280 --> 1:37:54.280 Let's get to Sandra from Cleave. Sandra, what do you 1:37:54.320 --> 1:37:57.120 think about this? Help us figure this out? For uh, 1:37:57.560 --> 1:37:58.800 this this topic here. 1:38:00.080 --> 1:38:01.200 Well, I'm a great grandmother. 1:38:01.240 --> 1:38:04.799 But somebody told me that I didn't have enough education 1:38:04.920 --> 1:38:07.439 to be somebody like doctor Ruths. But I've read a 1:38:07.439 --> 1:38:10.519 couple of books of doctor ruth and she said, try 1:38:10.520 --> 1:38:13.800 a different position. And it seems to me like the 1:38:13.840 --> 1:38:17.000 golden rule that says do unto others, as you would 1:38:17.040 --> 1:38:20.480 have them to do unto you. And Solomon, the wisest 1:38:20.479 --> 1:38:23.840 man who ever lived, he had seven hundred wives and 1:38:23.920 --> 1:38:27.720 three hundred concubines. And he didn't ask for that specifically. 1:38:27.920 --> 1:38:29.880 He asked the Lord to give him with him to 1:38:30.320 --> 1:38:32.400 you know, be the ruler of the people. But along 1:38:32.439 --> 1:38:34.559 with that, God gave him a lot of extra things. 1:38:34.920 --> 1:38:38.599 But even having that many wives and concubines get in there, 1:38:38.640 --> 1:38:42.080 he said, it was all. It was all a vexation. 1:38:43.280 --> 1:38:49.960 Yeah, that's too much. That's too much on anybody's plate. Yeah, sure, Sandra, thank. 1:38:49.800 --> 1:38:52.120 You so much for the call. I appreciate it. Adding 1:38:52.160 --> 1:38:55.080 a little bit of how did we get this? And 1:38:55.479 --> 1:38:57.759 there we go, Sterling? Do you Sterling? 1:38:57.800 --> 1:38:59.000 Are you there? Oh? 1:38:59.040 --> 1:39:00.120 I lot you? 1:39:00.160 --> 1:39:00.439 Okay? 1:39:00.439 --> 1:39:02.160 God, yeah, you hung up on me for a minute. 1:39:02.840 --> 1:39:03.519 All I can't. 1:39:05.040 --> 1:39:05.559 For a second. 1:39:05.560 --> 1:39:09.680 That's the technology is full. Well, there he goes. Now 1:39:09.680 --> 1:39:10.639 he's actually gone. 1:39:12.200 --> 1:39:14.880 I was trying to hang up on Sandra because we 1:39:14.880 --> 1:39:15.759 were done with the calls. 1:39:15.760 --> 1:39:16.840 Sean, Can you do that for me? 1:39:16.920 --> 1:39:18.280 Yeah, I got it. I think I'll get him back here. 1:39:18.439 --> 1:39:20.799 There he is right there, all right, Sterling. 1:39:20.800 --> 1:39:21.519 Can you hear us? 1:39:22.200 --> 1:39:24.479 Oh? I can hear you, O, car is good. 1:39:24.920 --> 1:39:27.400 So so you lost me before you lost me. The 1:39:27.439 --> 1:39:31.120 first time I heard her say, I bounce back and 1:39:31.120 --> 1:39:34.599 I hear something about being a concubine. What the hell happened? 1:39:36.200 --> 1:39:40.040 She was talking about Solomon, the wisest man that ever lived, 1:39:40.120 --> 1:39:45.879 and how he had She said, hundreds of concubine. Nobody 1:39:45.920 --> 1:39:48.639 wants that trust me on that ask for wisdom. And 1:39:48.680 --> 1:39:51.120 she basically her point was due unto others as you 1:39:51.120 --> 1:39:51.920 would want them to. 1:39:51.880 --> 1:39:54.800 Do unto you. So basically, treat people the way you 1:39:54.840 --> 1:39:55.200 want them to. 1:39:55.439 --> 1:39:57.080 And I think it's very good advice. 1:39:57.160 --> 1:40:00.599 But Sean Sterling said something while you were answer calls 1:40:00.600 --> 1:40:02.280 and things like that, when. 1:40:03.640 --> 1:40:05.400 Because here here's what I heard. 1:40:06.720 --> 1:40:09.160 When you get the courage to say, hey, I'm gonna 1:40:09.200 --> 1:40:10.719 I want to move forward with this girl. 1:40:10.760 --> 1:40:11.960 We've been on a date all night. 1:40:12.000 --> 1:40:14.200 This is our second maybe it's a second or third date, 1:40:14.560 --> 1:40:16.439 and you've been dating her and you like her and 1:40:16.520 --> 1:40:21.840 everything seems mutual, right, But then you go in and 1:40:22.280 --> 1:40:24.599 move a little bit and whatever that means, hold her 1:40:24.640 --> 1:40:27.120 hand or ask for another date, or do we want 1:40:27.120 --> 1:40:29.599 to you know, move go to go, you know, sit 1:40:29.840 --> 1:40:34.040 sit by yourself somewhere and she doesn't respond accordingly. 1:40:34.200 --> 1:40:36.599 Are you going to be able to not get offended 1:40:36.600 --> 1:40:39.240 by that? Oh? 1:40:39.280 --> 1:40:42.080 Man, it's tough, because if you're that far into the 1:40:42.200 --> 1:40:45.320 dating side of the relationship, if you're two or three 1:40:45.439 --> 1:40:48.320 in and it seemed like things are going well, it 1:40:48.720 --> 1:40:50.439 definitely is going to sting. 1:40:51.400 --> 1:40:51.880 I think. 1:40:52.000 --> 1:40:54.320 I think I'm at the point in my life where, yeah, 1:40:54.400 --> 1:40:57.200 I can learn to accept that, and I can learn 1:40:57.240 --> 1:40:59.360 to say, Okay, maybe this isn't going as well as 1:40:59.400 --> 1:41:00.800 I thought. I'm gonna go home and I'm going to 1:41:00.840 --> 1:41:03.040 be pretty bummed about it, and it might take me 1:41:03.360 --> 1:41:06.479 a little bit of time to get over it. In 1:41:06.560 --> 1:41:08.240 the moment, it might be hard not to kind of 1:41:08.240 --> 1:41:10.960 show that emotion because then things can get pretty awkward 1:41:11.000 --> 1:41:15.160 after that. I haven't I have, Fortunately, I haven't been 1:41:15.160 --> 1:41:18.599 in that position yet. Yes, but I cannot. I would 1:41:18.720 --> 1:41:21.000 like to think that I'm mature enough that I could 1:41:21.040 --> 1:41:22.640 handle that if that were happened to me. 1:41:23.120 --> 1:41:24.160 It's hot. It's hard. 1:41:25.040 --> 1:41:28.439 It's hard to be rejected, Sterling. That's what you were 1:41:28.439 --> 1:41:29.360 talking about earlier. 1:41:30.280 --> 1:41:33.640 Yeah, absolutely it is. And that's for anybody. I mean, 1:41:33.680 --> 1:41:35.320 I don't I don't care where you are, you know, 1:41:35.360 --> 1:41:37.920 whether you're back in the dating pool after or being 1:41:37.960 --> 1:41:40.680 you know, in a committed saying married or otherwise for 1:41:40.720 --> 1:41:42.400 a long period of time. I've never been married, but 1:41:42.439 --> 1:41:46.599 I'm a serial monogamoust in long term relationships and that's 1:41:46.640 --> 1:41:50.559 just one of those things you do. But I will say, uh, women, 1:41:50.920 --> 1:41:55.479 seemingly confident women will just simply tell you. And when 1:41:55.479 --> 1:41:58.519 they call you or tell you, you know, hey, I 1:41:58.600 --> 1:42:01.200 want to come over and it's ten or eleven o'clock 1:42:01.240 --> 1:42:03.360 at night, you kind of pretty much have an idea 1:42:03.400 --> 1:42:07.559 as to why you're getting together. Yeah you know, and 1:42:07.600 --> 1:42:10.519 that's but sometimes you don't know. But it's like, let's 1:42:10.600 --> 1:42:12.640 let's just be honest here. You know, we've been out 1:42:12.680 --> 1:42:14.000 for a couple of drinks and you ask me over 1:42:14.040 --> 1:42:17.960 and it's one thirty. Okay, we know why we're here. 1:42:18.240 --> 1:42:18.479 Yep. 1:42:18.800 --> 1:42:20.719 Usually I I am okay. 1:42:21.280 --> 1:42:24.200 I've had conversations with with girls that I know who 1:42:24.800 --> 1:42:27.200 they go on dating apps or they're like, oh, there's 1:42:27.200 --> 1:42:29.639 a cute guy over there. I'm like, listen, men are 1:42:29.640 --> 1:42:31.760 incredibly simple. You walk up to a guy, you tell 1:42:31.800 --> 1:42:33.360 him you like, and you tell him he's cute whatever, 1:42:33.400 --> 1:42:35.240 He's probably gonna respond pretty well. 1:42:35.280 --> 1:42:35.559 To that. 1:42:35.640 --> 1:42:37.439 And I get that women are just as afraid of 1:42:37.439 --> 1:42:41.639 rejection as men are, but I feel like men, more 1:42:41.680 --> 1:42:44.560 often than not, are probably going to respond pretty positively 1:42:44.640 --> 1:42:47.320 to a girl walking up to them because we're not 1:42:47.520 --> 1:42:50.840 used to having to do that, and like I said, 1:42:50.840 --> 1:42:53.160 we're incredibly simple. A girl walks up says you're cute, 1:42:53.160 --> 1:42:54.880 I might get a little scared at first, but I'm 1:42:55.000 --> 1:42:56.040 I'm gonna get over that. 1:42:56.320 --> 1:42:59.040 I'm gonna be way more scared to go up to bear. 1:43:00.200 --> 1:43:02.840 I'm just saying, man, it's it's scary, but if she 1:43:02.960 --> 1:43:05.040 comes up to me that that makes me feel a 1:43:05.120 --> 1:43:07.080 little less intimidated. 1:43:07.160 --> 1:43:09.320 Okay, what would you like her to say she comes 1:43:09.400 --> 1:43:12.280 up to you? Because here's the thing, Sean, I don't 1:43:12.320 --> 1:43:15.120 want you and Sterling to go over correct on this 1:43:15.280 --> 1:43:20.320 because men women want you to be assertive. It's a 1:43:20.360 --> 1:43:23.160 sign of confidence, it's a sign of courage. 1:43:23.280 --> 1:43:24.320 It's a sign of you. 1:43:24.520 --> 1:43:27.839 Being able to not be offended and get over it quickly, 1:43:28.320 --> 1:43:29.599 and and and that's all. 1:43:29.640 --> 1:43:31.240 All of that stuff is appealing. 1:43:31.320 --> 1:43:34.839 So I don't want you guys to think that women 1:43:34.960 --> 1:43:37.720 don't want that. But if a girl came up to 1:43:37.760 --> 1:43:40.800 you in a bar, what would be something if she 1:43:41.000 --> 1:43:43.920 said to you that that would be appealing. 1:43:43.880 --> 1:43:46.840 Sterling, you want to go first on this, Hey, what 1:43:46.880 --> 1:43:47.599 are you doing here? 1:43:47.720 --> 1:43:51.599 I mean I don't that's all you got. 1:43:51.760 --> 1:43:53.040 What are you doing here? 1:43:53.320 --> 1:43:53.639 Sean? 1:43:53.720 --> 1:43:53.960 You go? 1:43:54.240 --> 1:43:56.280 So you said what I would want her to say, 1:43:56.439 --> 1:43:56.960 or I. 1:43:57.040 --> 1:44:00.759 Want her to say to you? Sean said, if hello? 1:44:01.160 --> 1:44:02.960 I mean, I don't know what are you doing later? 1:44:03.040 --> 1:44:04.320 I mean what I want her to say? 1:44:04.600 --> 1:44:04.920 Yeah, I. 1:44:06.400 --> 1:44:09.840 Don't have anything in particular that I'm looking for necessarily, 1:44:10.080 --> 1:44:12.560 but I mean, if she's coming over and engaging in conversation, 1:44:12.720 --> 1:44:14.840 my guess is she's interested, or she wouldn't be coming 1:44:14.880 --> 1:44:16.600 over to talk. But I don't I don't necessarily have 1:44:16.640 --> 1:44:17.800 a menu of ideas that. 1:44:17.720 --> 1:44:20.679 I wanted to say less and so much. 1:44:21.360 --> 1:44:23.360 I mean, I mean, Sean, what about you? I mean, 1:44:23.400 --> 1:44:24.880 do you immediately do you have an idea as to 1:44:24.960 --> 1:44:27.320 what you want to be hearing from her? I mean, 1:44:27.520 --> 1:44:29.040 unless you're looking at her already, what. 1:44:29.080 --> 1:44:31.479 Would be what would be cool for her to say 1:44:31.520 --> 1:44:33.400 if she walked up to If she walked up to 1:44:33.479 --> 1:44:35.559 me and she just said, Hey, I saw you across 1:44:35.600 --> 1:44:36.800 the bar, I thought you were cute. 1:44:36.840 --> 1:44:38.960 I just wanted to come say hello, and introduce myself. 1:44:39.040 --> 1:44:41.280 If it was that plain and simple, I'd be like, 1:44:41.360 --> 1:44:44.040 this is amazing, this is a great start. 1:44:43.800 --> 1:44:46.840 Because I feel like that's probably what the donna. Can 1:44:46.880 --> 1:44:48.439 you help me with? Is that what women would want? 1:44:48.439 --> 1:44:51.160 If I walked up and I said that exactly. 1:44:51.439 --> 1:44:53.400 I was just going to say the same thing if 1:44:53.520 --> 1:44:56.000 any guy and I and they used to do it, 1:44:56.120 --> 1:44:58.559 used to do it, like I used to have guys 1:44:58.600 --> 1:45:01.800 come up to me as a tender and would say, 1:45:01.920 --> 1:45:04.559 would say just those things. Hey, I saw you across 1:45:04.600 --> 1:45:07.920 the room, you're you're really pretty, and I just wanted 1:45:07.960 --> 1:45:09.000 to come up and talk to you. 1:45:09.920 --> 1:45:13.559 And that works. It absolutely works. 1:45:13.640 --> 1:45:17.439 And guys don't do that anymore because of the Me 1:45:17.560 --> 1:45:20.560 Too movement. They don't ask women out. They don't know 1:45:20.640 --> 1:45:24.040 how to handle women. But I promise you if you 1:45:24.160 --> 1:45:26.320 went up to a girl and said that, she would 1:45:26.360 --> 1:45:28.559 be as receptive as you. 1:45:28.479 --> 1:45:30.639 Would be Sean. I think also the other thing, too, 1:45:30.720 --> 1:45:32.439 is this is the setting. You have to be in 1:45:32.479 --> 1:45:35.000 the right setting to do that, you know, Like I like, 1:45:35.080 --> 1:45:38.120 one thing that gets brought up in the dating world 1:45:38.320 --> 1:45:40.719 is like, oh, should you talk to your gym crush? 1:45:40.880 --> 1:45:43.000 And I've seen videos about this and people will walk 1:45:43.080 --> 1:45:44.599 up to girls at the gym and they're like, hey, 1:45:44.920 --> 1:45:47.360 would you want a guy to ask you out while 1:45:47.360 --> 1:45:48.080 you're working out? 1:45:48.360 --> 1:45:50.920 And it's so fifty to fifty? So that's setting? Is 1:45:51.000 --> 1:45:52.400 I just avoid that entirely. 1:45:52.560 --> 1:45:53.400 That is amazing. 1:45:53.439 --> 1:45:56.000 So if you walked up to a girl in the 1:45:56.080 --> 1:45:58.799 gym setting and you said, listen, I know this is awkward. 1:45:59.160 --> 1:45:59.839 This is awkward. 1:46:00.080 --> 1:46:02.840 I've seen the TikTok videos where it's fifty to fifty, 1:46:03.080 --> 1:46:05.120 but I have to say, I have to take a 1:46:05.160 --> 1:46:08.200 shot when I see it, and you are gorgeous? Do 1:46:08.240 --> 1:46:10.320 you have a boyfriend? Should I leave you alone? Should 1:46:10.320 --> 1:46:11.320 I never speak to you again? 1:46:11.560 --> 1:46:12.280 Door spotter? 1:46:13.760 --> 1:46:17.400 Right? Do you need a spotter? Because I'm available any 1:46:17.560 --> 1:46:20.040 What time do you come here? I mean, so you 1:46:20.080 --> 1:46:22.320 can women love comedy too. 1:46:22.439 --> 1:46:25.120 You can actually joke about it and say, I know 1:46:25.200 --> 1:46:28.920 this is super absurd and weird and stuff, but like, 1:46:29.280 --> 1:46:32.559 I don't come across many women that look like you, 1:46:32.880 --> 1:46:34.559 and I know it's a gym setting and you want 1:46:34.600 --> 1:46:37.840 to be left alone. But can can Is it okay 1:46:37.880 --> 1:46:40.439 if I just say that you're pretty? And can we 1:46:40.640 --> 1:46:43.799 can I get your Instagram? Because even the Instagram, even. 1:46:43.600 --> 1:46:47.400 The Instagram instead of your phone number is way cooler, right. 1:46:48.840 --> 1:46:49.200 I don't know. 1:46:49.600 --> 1:46:51.760 Does that play into the confidence thing, Like if I 1:46:51.760 --> 1:46:53.960 ask for a girl's phone number, does that make me 1:46:54.000 --> 1:46:56.519 seem more confident? Or do you think asking for the 1:46:56.560 --> 1:46:58.240 Instagram is a bit of a safer play. 1:46:58.320 --> 1:47:00.960 It's a safer play and it and also if you're 1:47:01.000 --> 1:47:02.880 in the gym where it's already fifty to fifty and 1:47:02.960 --> 1:47:05.040 women are like, I'm just here to work out. But 1:47:06.040 --> 1:47:09.000 if you because Sean, you're a good looking guy, if 1:47:09.040 --> 1:47:13.000 you walked up to a girl that was your equal 1:47:13.080 --> 1:47:17.479 in terms of looks and age and everything, and you're 1:47:17.520 --> 1:47:20.040 both working out, I think you would have a very 1:47:20.080 --> 1:47:23.360 good shot of getting her Instagram and then you message, 1:47:23.400 --> 1:47:25.080 and then you talk a little bit and then you 1:47:25.120 --> 1:47:25.839 get her number. 1:47:26.040 --> 1:47:27.720 Yeah, well there is a girl in my gym that 1:47:27.840 --> 1:47:29.000 is like that, I think. 1:47:29.080 --> 1:47:30.880 So I don't know. Maybe she's out of my league, 1:47:30.880 --> 1:47:33.200 but I'm here to help you. I've been debating this 1:47:33.280 --> 1:47:35.240 for weeks, so maybe I don't know. Maybe I've been 1:47:35.280 --> 1:47:36.840 getting signs from the universe to tray. 1:47:36.800 --> 1:47:39.720 There's one for you. There's one for you. You could 1:47:39.720 --> 1:47:42.559 have asked Vicky, she was here all night. I can't 1:47:42.600 --> 1:47:44.560 believe it's time to go. You're gonna shoot me in 1:47:44.880 --> 1:47:47.400 a minute, Sterling. The big what are you doing for 1:47:47.479 --> 1:47:49.760 the big game tomorrow? Bengals and Bills. It's gonna be 1:47:49.800 --> 1:47:50.200 a good one. 1:47:50.200 --> 1:47:52.200 You're gonna sit quietly in the house mine in my 1:47:52.320 --> 1:47:55.080 own business, just focused at what I'm doing. Here's the 1:47:55.120 --> 1:47:57.720 one simple thing. If you're out somewhere, though, and if 1:47:57.720 --> 1:47:59.600 you see a woman and she may or may not 1:47:59.640 --> 1:48:01.800 be with the guy, let's just say, and she looks 1:48:01.840 --> 1:48:03.559 like she's not having the best of time to take 1:48:03.760 --> 1:48:05.519 if you could find like either a napkin or a 1:48:05.560 --> 1:48:08.799 sugar pack or something like that, you say, drop the zero, 1:48:09.040 --> 1:48:11.080 get with the hero, and then you give it to 1:48:11.160 --> 1:48:13.599 her and then you see if she comes back over 1:48:14.600 --> 1:48:17.360 how that's going. I did do that and it did 1:48:17.400 --> 1:48:18.760 work out. 1:48:19.000 --> 1:48:22.760 Or Sean, you can do if you want to come 1:48:22.800 --> 1:48:25.280 on a date with me and leave that guy behind, 1:48:25.439 --> 1:48:31.160 check this box yes or no. Gosh, Sterling, you are 1:48:31.240 --> 1:48:34.240 the best. Sean McMahon, thank you so much. Have a 1:48:34.280 --> 1:48:36.120 great rest of your night. Is Stanade. 1:48:36.320 --> 1:48:37.240 I am out of here. 1:48:37.360 --> 1:48:41.560 Go Bengals, come in for the big win tomorrow and 1:48:41.600 --> 1:48:45.559 we'll see you next week, right, Sterling, We're on Saturday. 1:48:45.600 --> 1:48:47.519 Yeah, Saturday, I think six to nine, and I'll be 1:48:47.560 --> 1:48:49.280 on Friday night too, or on Monday night. 1:48:49.320 --> 1:48:50.240 Holy crap, them all over. 1:48:50.360 --> 1:48:53.639 Yeah, you're all over. So my seven hundred WLW. Thank 1:48:53.680 --> 1:48:54.800 you so much. Cincinnati,