Speaker 1: Are you back again?
Speaker 2: But we do a little bit of a different show
Speaker 2: on Saturday night. We focus primarily on relationships, and you know,
Speaker 2: they are the most important things that matter in your life.
Speaker 2: Estra Perell says, and I quote her all the time,
Speaker 2: the quality of your life is determined by the quality
Speaker 2: of your relationships. Not only the relationships with others, but
Speaker 2: the relationship with yourself more important.
Speaker 1: Tonight on the show, I have a true.
Speaker 2: Healer, a psychic Clara Everything claravoyant yoga instructor, basically certified
Speaker 2: in everything healing. Vicky Fairchild, Welcome to the show tonight.
Speaker 1: Yeah, you got your mic gun.
Speaker 3: Look at your pro Anna. You're awesome. Thanks for asking me.
Speaker 1: Can I just.
Speaker 2: Tell you very quickly with the brief moment that we
Speaker 2: have shared here tonight, and your husband Larry is in
Speaker 2: the studios while watching the Ohio.
Speaker 1: State game, which who are winning?
Speaker 2: By the way, We'll keep you updated on that. But
Speaker 2: your energy is so light and lovely and open. I mean,
Speaker 2: there's words that I have to I'm trying to describe
Speaker 2: your energy. But it's peaceful, it's stillness, it's it's it's
Speaker 2: a presence that I'm feeling from you do you get
Speaker 2: that wherever you go.
Speaker 1: That's just the first thing I have to ask you.
Speaker 3: That's real sweet, Thanks so much. I've had many things
Speaker 3: said to me. That's a lovely thing to say. There's
Speaker 3: a presence that I think one can cultivate when you've
Speaker 3: had certain experiences and spiritual practices and being in the
Speaker 3: profession that I've been in, there's a healing field that
Speaker 3: is created between two people. So it's real easy for
Speaker 3: me to drop into that space and get still, so
Speaker 3: that I call it holding sacred space, yep. And being
Speaker 3: able to be a sacred witness for people's process, us
Speaker 3: and their voice to be heard. I think we all
Speaker 3: need to be seen and heard, and the greatest gift
Speaker 3: we can bring to any situation is our full presence.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I agree.
Speaker 2: Power of Now Eckertley one of my favorite books of
Speaker 2: all time. So we're going to discuss what you're seeing
Speaker 2: happen with the collective energy as the human family heading
Speaker 2: into twenty twenty six, because we've talked a little bit
Speaker 2: about that and it seems, you know, if you're paying
Speaker 2: attention on social media, things might look a little crazy.
Speaker 2: We're divided politically, we're disconnected with others through social media
Speaker 2: and iPhones, and people are staying home where they work
Speaker 2: from home. So we're going to talk about the collective
Speaker 2: energy and what you see happening in twenty twenty six,
Speaker 2: And we're also going to be taking your calls and
Speaker 2: answering questions tonight. So Vicky would answer any clear question
Speaker 2: that you have. Maybe you have been struggling with something
Speaker 2: in your life, maybe you want just a little bit
Speaker 2: of clarity around it. She's going to take calls and
Speaker 2: we're going to pepper them through the hour. So if
Speaker 2: you want to call right now five one, three, seven, four, nine, seven, one,
Speaker 2: eight hundred, the big one.
Speaker 1: Make sure your question is clear and concise.
Speaker 2: Is there anything any more specific rules that you have
Speaker 2: when somebody's calling and they want to know something like
Speaker 2: am I going to get a new job in twenty
Speaker 2: twenty six?
Speaker 1: Where am I going to move? Love?
Speaker 2: Life is a big one. Is there anything should they
Speaker 2: ask past present? Or I know you channel past lives
Speaker 2: too as well.
Speaker 3: I think it's important to stay with the present moment
Speaker 3: and what's on your own heart and ask the question
Speaker 3: as it pertains to you, not necessarily for anyone else.
Speaker 3: So I can pick up on the person that's calling.
Speaker 2: Okay, great, So if you are the one that wants
Speaker 2: clarity on some question that's going on in your life,
Speaker 2: give us call five one, three, seven four, nine, seven thousand, one,
Speaker 2: eight hundred the big one again. Vicky's going to be
Speaker 2: with us in the nine o'clock hours. So if you
Speaker 2: have something, you can start the process of calling now
Speaker 2: and we'll get to you first.
Speaker 1: Let's start though.
Speaker 2: With explaining the presence of being, the premise of being
Speaker 2: a healer, and how you came to this calling, VICKI.
Speaker 3: I think that I came in this lifetime with a
Speaker 3: mission to create more connections between people and the nature
Speaker 3: around us, and to be more present with the healing
Speaker 3: part of ourself. I would say that there's the ego
Speaker 3: part of us and there's the sole part of us.
Speaker 3: So at a sole level, I feel like I came
Speaker 3: in that some of us are predestined to do certain things.
Speaker 3: I always wanted to be in the healing profession. I
Speaker 3: chose physical therapy. I didn't even know that much about
Speaker 3: it actually, but it has fit me really well. It
Speaker 3: suited me really well. I'm up and about a lot.
Speaker 3: It's movement oriented, I realize that I'm an impath, like
Speaker 3: maybe in the top one percent of the field.
Speaker 2: Explain what an impath is a lot of people have
Speaker 2: different definitions of that word.
Speaker 3: An impath to me is somebody that can feel the
Speaker 3: underlying emotion of anybody that walks into the room. You
Speaker 3: have a deep knowing about something that's more gnosis. But
Speaker 3: for me, I can feel what's going on in somebody,
Speaker 3: especially at a body level. I'm very more kinesthetic. You
Speaker 3: know how some people musicians can hear a song and
Speaker 3: play it, and if you're a soma, you can taste
Speaker 3: that wine and you can taste the nuances. That's the
Speaker 3: way I am naturally Energetically, I can read energy fields
Speaker 3: and what's happening in somebody's body.
Speaker 2: And so have you always had this healing power? And
Speaker 2: how long did it take for you to tap into that?
Speaker 3: One of the things I want to say about being
Speaker 3: a healer not necessarily always me Vicky that heals, but
Speaker 3: I open a space for it to come through me.
Speaker 3: And I've had some absolutely amazing experiences where people been
Speaker 3: healed on the spot. And that is not always my
Speaker 3: practitioner or license or the manual therapy or anything that
Speaker 3: I've been trained. But there's an energy that comes through
Speaker 3: that is a very high vibration. It's high frequency, and
Speaker 3: I've noticed that when the person is ready, the healing appears.
Speaker 2: Of course, when the student is read, when the student
Speaker 2: is ready, the teacher appears. Let's get to Anne. We're
Speaker 2: already getting quite a few calls ready. Let's get to
Speaker 2: Anne and let's answer and see what she has. Anne,
Speaker 2: do you have a question for Vicky Fairchild?
Speaker 4: Yeah? Am I truly going to be happy?
Speaker 3: Anne? Do you want to be Do you want to
Speaker 3: be happy?
Speaker 4: Yes?
Speaker 5: Of course.
Speaker 3: And I feel like happiness is always literally a state
Speaker 3: of mind and something that we choose. It's about what
Speaker 3: you focus on. Do you notice what you focus on
Speaker 3: during the day, your thoughts, your feelings, where your mind
Speaker 3: goes in any given situation.
Speaker 5: Mm hmm.
Speaker 4: Give me an example, so.
Speaker 3: Well, do you do you notice your thoughts or Anne?
Speaker 1: Oh? Boys, I don't know what happened to Anne. We
Speaker 1: just oh, Anne, are you still there?
Speaker 4: Okay, I'm sorry. I'm trying to get out of this one.
Speaker 6: Here.
Speaker 4: I sit and stare at walls because I have no
Speaker 4: idea what's wrong and my life in my personal life
Speaker 4: I try to be like different people that everybody wants me.
Speaker 6: To be.
Speaker 3: So. And I just like to ask, do you have
Speaker 3: any kind of practice that you do to help you
Speaker 3: be more mindful? Do you have a meditation practice? Do
Speaker 3: you like to take walks? Do you call up a friend?
Speaker 3: Do you process your feelings with anyone?
Speaker 4: Oh, I'll talk to my friends, and I try to
Speaker 4: go some more quiet and trying to get in a different,
Speaker 4: I guess state.
Speaker 3: And something something that I like to tell people to
Speaker 3: do is to start a journaling practice, where you know,
Speaker 3: when you wake up in the morning and things are
Speaker 3: a little bit more quiet, just start putting down some thoughts,
Speaker 3: the first thoughts that come out, and put them on paper,
Speaker 3: and then sit quietly, take some deep breaths in and out,
Speaker 3: and actually write on the paper what would what would
Speaker 3: make me happy? What brings me the greatest joy? And
Speaker 3: start breathing into your heart space and listen for the
Speaker 3: answers at a deeper level that might be beyond what
Speaker 3: your ego has been telling.
Speaker 1: And that's what I was going to say.
Speaker 2: These are great questions and a great practice is to journal.
Speaker 1: Do you know what makes you happy?
Speaker 3: Anne?
Speaker 4: My granddaughters?
Speaker 1: Yeah, your granddaughters, anything else.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I do kids.
Speaker 1: Okay, so kids and grandkids and she just so Vicky.
Speaker 2: This is interesting because Anne is just saying, you know,
Speaker 2: she's really given herself to a lot of people. She
Speaker 2: tries to be everything for everyone. That's what I'm getting
Speaker 2: from her. How can she focus on herself? Because really,
Speaker 2: if you're focused on giving, that's an exhausting task, right,
Speaker 2: Giving and receiving is great, but you have to do
Speaker 2: something just for you.
Speaker 3: And the underlying question to that is you have to
Speaker 3: feel worthy of your time. You know, you need to
Speaker 3: take time for yourself and it's like filling your own
Speaker 3: vessel and then you have a lot, a lot more
Speaker 3: to give. And the thing about grandchildren, right, they're young,
Speaker 3: They're usually vibrant energy, their emotions are raw, they're authentic, right,
Speaker 3: So maybe the mirror from your family is that you
Speaker 3: can start to be more your authentic self and try
Speaker 3: to do the things that bring you joy.
Speaker 1: Oh is that helpful?
Speaker 2: And and authenticity really is say what you mean and
Speaker 2: mean what you say.
Speaker 1: That's it.
Speaker 2: If you start giving conflicting things to the universe, like
Speaker 2: you know, I want to be happy, but I don't
Speaker 2: do anything about it right. You have to really focus
Speaker 2: on there's things that you can do and it doesn't
Speaker 2: take long. It's not like this giant journey. If you start,
Speaker 2: if you start writing the best thing that happened to
Speaker 2: you yesterday, or three things that matter to you or
Speaker 2: that you're grateful for today, and then what makes you happy,
Speaker 2: write three things. You start focusing on those things, and
Speaker 2: what you focus on expands. We all know that, right, Vicky,
Speaker 2: that makes.
Speaker 1: Sense, And thank you so much for calling. We appreciate it.
Speaker 2: Have a good night. Thank you, Joanne. We're going to
Speaker 2: get to you in a moment. Let's get to Alyssa
Speaker 2: real quick.
Speaker 5: Hi.
Speaker 2: Alyssa, you're on with Donna Dee and Vicky Fairchild. Do
Speaker 2: you have a question for Vicky?
Speaker 7: I do.
Speaker 8: I have somebody that I'm very close to and I'm
Speaker 8: I'm really struggling to discern the role that this person
Speaker 8: is to truly be in my life because I have
Speaker 8: a I love this person very.
Speaker 9: Dearly and I am I I just don't know who
Speaker 9: if I should have him as a friend or if
Speaker 9: I need to allow the time for him to go
Speaker 9: through whatever. Everything that he's going through right now is
Speaker 9: like I feel that he's my person, and I guess
Speaker 9: maybe I'm just looking for confirmation of an.
Speaker 3: Adject So this isn't just a diverted yes or no question.
Speaker 3: The thing is, your heart really knows, and don't you
Speaker 3: know that some of us just go through different times
Speaker 3: And sometimes I don't know about you, but I've been
Speaker 3: through a dark night. And sometimes you can either be
Speaker 3: with somebody when they're going through things. It's not so
Speaker 3: much you need to fix them help them, but just
Speaker 3: to bring your steady, loving presence and give them the
Speaker 3: support that they need to get through whatever they're going through.
Speaker 3: And be confident with your own self, know that at
Speaker 3: your heart level, you know what is right for you.
Speaker 3: And Don and I were talking beforehand. Sometimes there's these
Speaker 3: contracts I think we have in relationships and we have
Speaker 3: to see them through. Other times your heart goes, yeah,
Speaker 3: I think this is it. I think that I can
Speaker 3: leave this person. I feel like he has some some
Speaker 3: I would say, some density around him, like he's confused,
Speaker 3: trying to figure some things out. And if you give
Speaker 3: him some space and tell him that he knows what's
Speaker 3: best for him and hang in there for a while
Speaker 3: and make sure that it's healthy and loving because you
Speaker 3: know love always wins.
Speaker 1: Does that help?
Speaker 2: There's also a moment where somebody is looking for you
Speaker 2: to have their back.
Speaker 1: Alyssa too.
Speaker 2: Maybe he's not given you everything that you're looking for
Speaker 2: right now, and as time ticks on, you're like, oh,
Speaker 2: should I should I even wait for this guy to
Speaker 2: get his stuff together or or you know, or or
Speaker 2: but it's nice to hear I have your back one
Speaker 2: thousand percent.
Speaker 1: Take your time.
Speaker 2: I'm gonna be here if you really feel like giving
Speaker 2: that to him. If you feel like this, listen, let
Speaker 2: me ask you something. Do you feel like this guy
Speaker 2: you said he's your person? Do you feel that in
Speaker 2: your heart?
Speaker 8: I do, But I'm also at an age to where
Speaker 8: I'm like, I've been through enough to where it's just like,
Speaker 8: can I really try? You know where I question? You know,
Speaker 8: can I truly trust that? And I say, you know, yes,
Speaker 8: I can. But I also see where he's at, and
Speaker 8: I know he's in a very dark place and I'll
Speaker 8: always show up for him. But at the same time,
Speaker 8: it's just like, but do do I wait for you?
Speaker 9: And you know what I mean?
Speaker 2: Like, are you like how long has he been in
Speaker 2: a dark place? And Vicky's shaking her head, nod in
Speaker 2: her head. She's got something to say to you.
Speaker 1: What I could say?
Speaker 2: How long would you say? And then Vicky's got I'm
Speaker 2: sure a question. Joanne and others. We're going to get
Speaker 2: to you as well too.
Speaker 8: This darkest phase has been since Midsummer.
Speaker 10: He uh, he.
Speaker 8: Mmm, sorry, I don't want to.
Speaker 3: Start crying, but Alissa, can I say something?
Speaker 6: Yes?
Speaker 3: So there's something about the dark night. Let me tell
Speaker 3: you something about the Dark Knight. It's a real important
Speaker 3: place to be. The thing about the dark The thing
Speaker 3: about the Dark Knight is it'll take you to the
Speaker 3: precipice of your own biggest fear. Once you confront your
Speaker 3: biggest fear, the rest of your life is going to
Speaker 3: break open and it'll be so much easier now for
Speaker 3: me personally, In that dark night, I found the source
Speaker 3: of all that is just everybody has a different word
Speaker 3: for that, but I truly feel that the purpose of
Speaker 3: the Dark Knight is for you to know that higher source.
Speaker 3: No matter what, you could trust that, no matter what,
Speaker 3: people will come and go, but there's a source inside
Speaker 3: your heart space that never has left you, never will
Speaker 3: And the more you can reflect back that for anyone,
Speaker 3: but especially for someone that you care for. I wouldn't
Speaker 3: so much think about it as waiting as being able
Speaker 3: to show up so fully present in your life that
Speaker 3: you become the living example and the and the beacon
Speaker 3: of light that shines the.
Speaker 1: Way from that. Wow, Alyssa, did you get that?
Speaker 8: I did? And I actually have chills as well, because
Speaker 8: I know he's he is a Christian and he's really
Speaker 8: working on buttering himself, but he's been going through a
Speaker 8: lot of turmoil and his mental health is I'll be
Speaker 8: honest with you, he has TBI and PTSD from Afghanistan
Speaker 8: and it really has affected a lot of his decisions
Speaker 8: and reactions that to certain situations within his life to
Speaker 8: where it's.
Speaker 3: And Alyssa, I want to say something about PTSD. You know,
Speaker 3: it's really important that people like that get professional help.
Speaker 3: There are psychologists that specialize in trauma response, and I
Speaker 3: think that's really really important and if it's appropriate. There
Speaker 3: are things like emd R that gets deep inside the
Speaker 3: brain where the trauma is held in the amygdala and
Speaker 3: the occipital lobe, but there's also the body trauma and
Speaker 3: the body memory, and these people need a team. I
Speaker 3: think that you're It's like the role that you play
Speaker 3: is the love perhaps of his life. But let's get
Speaker 3: some therapeutic things for him that he absolutely needs. And
Speaker 3: prayer circles and spiritual community is real important. But also
Speaker 3: I think the therapeutic is really important in these cases.
Speaker 3: It's a physiological thing. These are body memories that are
Speaker 3: held at the cellular level. And as a body worker,
Speaker 3: I've had a lot of somato emotional release happen on
Speaker 3: my table. You know it's in your field as well.
Speaker 3: So if we could find him some help, I think
Speaker 3: that would be great.
Speaker 1: Alissa, thank you. We're up against the wall.
Speaker 2: I'm so sorry we got to take a break, but no,
Speaker 2: I appreciate it. And I'm just gonna say, you sound
Speaker 2: like a very strong woman.
Speaker 1: You got this. You'll know, you'll know what to do.
Speaker 1: You got this.
Speaker 2: Thank you so much for the call, Joey, And we're
Speaker 2: going to get back with you. I'm so sorry that
Speaker 2: we're not going to get because we got thirty seconds
Speaker 2: before we have to take a quick break and we'll
Speaker 2: come back. You will be the first person we answer
Speaker 2: five one, three, seven, four, nine, seven thousand. Do you
Speaker 2: have something that you need to get clear on. Do
Speaker 2: you have something that's been that's been challenging you give
Speaker 2: us a call. Five one, three, seven, four, nine, seven thousand.
Speaker 2: We're with Vicky Fairchild tonight. She's a psychic medium, healer
Speaker 2: and their voyant and she does speak with people on
Speaker 2: the other side as well.
Speaker 1: We're gonna possibly get into that and more.
Speaker 2: Ohio State, Larry, are they winning ten something that's now?
Speaker 1: Yeah, Ohio State is winning. We're gonna come back.
Speaker 2: It's done a d Saturday Night, seven hundred WLW tonight.
Speaker 2: My guest a very spiritual healer. I can feel her
Speaker 2: energy from across the table here. Vicky Fairchild, We've already
Speaker 2: had quite a few callers. Mark Callback, I know you
Speaker 2: were waiting online. I have to get to Joe Anne. Joeanne,
Speaker 2: I know you have been waiting for quite some time.
Speaker 2: Do you have a specific question that you want Vicky'
Speaker 2: so little clarity from Vicky to you know, I know
Speaker 2: you've been waiting a while.
Speaker 1: Thank you so much for waiting.
Speaker 11: I did have a question, but if she does mediumship,
Speaker 11: I would like to know if she could.
Speaker 10: I had several.
Speaker 11: Different people this year pass away and I'm wondering if
Speaker 11: there's atty messages from either one of them. One was
Speaker 11: my niece and the other one was my brother.
Speaker 3: Joanne. Hi, Yes, nice to meet you.
Speaker 2: Hi.
Speaker 3: Yeah, Hi, dear. Did you have a particular question that
Speaker 3: would that you feel that they one of them would
Speaker 3: have any insight in or do you want to try
Speaker 3: to get to it another way via your own wisdom?
Speaker 11: Ill, I was we were supposed to get together with
Speaker 11: my brother. I thought he was getting well and apparently,
Speaker 11: you know, he wasn't, and he died like the day
Speaker 11: before we were supposed to get together. So I just
Speaker 11: didn't know if I guess it was his time to go.
Speaker 3: Maybe can I can we talk about that for a moment,
Speaker 3: because that's a big subject that you just you just
Speaker 3: opened up a big subject, right, Yes, I did. And
Speaker 3: that subject is what happens when we get on the
Speaker 3: other side, what happens to the people. And I'm going
Speaker 3: to tell you a couple of experiences, and then I'm
Speaker 3: gonna ask for his name and I'll try to get
Speaker 3: it in touch with him. What I have been in
Speaker 3: situations like in a restaurant where somebody has come up
Speaker 3: to me and a stranger, right, and I'll be off
Speaker 3: I'll feel somebody trying to get a message to them.
Speaker 3: I had a time when I was actually up in
Speaker 3: Michigan and a woman was in this store and I
Speaker 3: felt her sister with me, and I felt like her
Speaker 3: sister was trying to get a message to her. So
Speaker 3: I politely went up and said, Hi, I know this
Speaker 3: is going to sound weird, but have you been trying
Speaker 3: to get in touch with your sister? And so we
Speaker 3: had a lovely conversation about that. Sometimes when people initially
Speaker 3: pass over to the other side, there's a time period
Speaker 3: there where there really into themselves. Actually they're being debriefed
Speaker 3: about their life, and if there's something unresolved with them
Speaker 3: with somebody else, that's when usually I'll have a message
Speaker 3: come through me for them. The message from the other
Speaker 3: side is always this, They want you to live your
Speaker 3: best life. They want you to be happy. Anything that
Speaker 3: needs to be forgiven needs to be forgiven, to be
Speaker 3: free and to move on. They want you to carry
Speaker 3: on with your life. It's like they now have their
Speaker 3: own life on the other side. And what I was
Speaker 3: told by a mystic and a spiritual teacher of mine
Speaker 3: years ago, he had three near death experiences and what
Speaker 3: he said, was he got on the other side, and
Speaker 3: every time the light asked him how much and how
Speaker 3: deeply have you loved? And the message was this, there
Speaker 3: are no accidents. If it's not your time to go,
Speaker 3: you won't. If it is nothing, I'll hold you here.
Speaker 3: We have some points of exit that we have choices
Speaker 3: about at a soul level. So at some point we
Speaker 3: need to trust your brother's soul and the timing of that.
Speaker 3: And is there something specific you'd like to ask him?
Speaker 3: And what is his name?
Speaker 11: By the way, his name was Richard. There really isn't
Speaker 11: anything specific. I just thought maybe he would have a
Speaker 11: message of, you know, some sort of a message if
Speaker 11: I'm doing the right thing with why I'm living my life.
Speaker 11: Maybe I don't know.
Speaker 3: Does he have children?
Speaker 11: Yes?
Speaker 3: Daughter?
Speaker 11: Yes.
Speaker 3: The message I get is more more about his daughter
Speaker 3: and that he really feels she needs some support and
Speaker 3: guidance and looks up to you and would appreciate if
Speaker 3: you took her, you know, by the hand, and reassured
Speaker 3: her of her life and to walk the path together
Speaker 3: as family.
Speaker 11: Okay, okay, yeah, I've been to see that.
Speaker 12: Wow.
Speaker 1: Was that helpful, Joanne?
Speaker 11: Very helpful?
Speaker 2: Thank you And you were concerned about whether you should
Speaker 2: be moving or not. Is that what I heard you say?
Speaker 11: Yeah, yeah, I was. I was thinking maybe within like
Speaker 11: the next year or something. I wasn't sure.
Speaker 3: If it isn't a definite yes, I'd say wait until
Speaker 3: it's a definite yes and that you're going towards something
Speaker 3: that you really really want.
Speaker 13: Okay, okay, good.
Speaker 2: Well, thank you so much for holding so long, and
Speaker 2: thanks for the call, Joanne.
Speaker 1: I appreciate it.
Speaker 11: Okay, thank you, share you You're welcome.
Speaker 2: Five one three seven four ninety seven thousand. Do you
Speaker 2: have a question for Vicky Fairchild. It's got to be specific, right,
Speaker 2: it's it's I'm sure you're gonna ask clarifying questions, but
Speaker 2: if it's something that you have been wanting clarity on,
Speaker 2: wanting some some advice, or not being able to figure
Speaker 2: this out, and you need a little bit of help,
Speaker 2: give us a call. Five one three seven eight hundred
Speaker 2: The big one, Vicky, let's talk about because we were
Speaker 2: really getting into the energy, the collective energy of the
Speaker 2: human experience. It seems like we've been very divided with politics,
Speaker 2: and you know, we're not connected because we're working from
Speaker 2: home and we have cell phones, and you know, social
Speaker 2: media is really challenging on all of us. What do
Speaker 2: you see happening in twenty twenty six in the new
Speaker 2: year of of of of our human energy.
Speaker 1: Is it going to get worse? Is it going to
Speaker 1: get better? Are we enlightening or you know what's happening?
Speaker 3: I think we're undergoing an evolution of consciousness at a
Speaker 3: point where humanity has never had before. And I doubt that.
Speaker 3: My guides tell me all the time that there are
Speaker 3: finally enough people on this planet that are conscious, aware, awake, positive,
Speaker 3: and wanting to complete the mission that they came to do.
Speaker 3: Some people might call them light workers, but we're all
Speaker 3: here to do something and we have a deep knowing
Speaker 3: at a soul level. I feel that the darkness has
Speaker 3: had its time. I think it's going to put up
Speaker 3: a really good fight, and that the forces of the light,
Speaker 3: if you will. I mean it sounds like Star Wars,
Speaker 3: but it really is kind of like that. I mean,
Speaker 3: I've always wanted to be a Jedi. Who doesn't want
Speaker 3: to be a Jedi, you know exactly? So I just
Speaker 3: feel like those of us that keep the most important
Speaker 3: thing is that we keep our heart open, that we
Speaker 3: do some really self analysis and self contemplation to bring
Speaker 3: forth that which we came to do. Look at what
Speaker 3: your gifts are, look at what your strengths are, take
Speaker 3: time to really put those to use. I feel like
Speaker 3: there was a time when the big institutions were dependent.
Speaker 3: Let's just say it this way. Some people have been
Speaker 3: dependent on institutions. I see that what's going to happen,
Speaker 3: If something good's going to happen, it's going to come
Speaker 3: from each one of us. We can't pass the buck anymore.
Speaker 3: You can't say that somebody in the government or somebody
Speaker 3: else besides yourself. I think we need to be proactive.
Speaker 3: We need to be spiritual warriors, and we need to
Speaker 3: help each other. We need to love each other. We
Speaker 3: need to see what is more the same in each
Speaker 3: other and love each other, because you can't live in
Speaker 3: fear and love at the same time, and so you
Speaker 3: have to. I think we're being asked to choose, and
Speaker 3: a judgment is part of that fear, and so we
Speaker 3: have to let go of the judgment and not even look.
Speaker 3: When I look at the collective consciousness, which I've been inside,
Speaker 3: the collective consciousness, it's sticky, it's gooey. It's dense, and
Speaker 3: it's real, real, real, real, fear based. And what I
Speaker 3: was told that there are some souls in there that
Speaker 3: have chosen to stay in that fear based darkness. They're
Speaker 3: learning something that's their thing. But those of us that
Speaker 3: want out, we need to choose it. We need to
Speaker 3: get out. We need to surround ourselves by really goodness
Speaker 3: and people, and we need to pick something and action
Speaker 3: that you're really passionate about. For me, it's animal rights
Speaker 3: and the environment. So I'm always trying to do what
Speaker 3: I can in that way. But pick something that you're
Speaker 3: really passionate about and take an action step for it,
Speaker 3: and keep on your own evolutionary journey. Look at your shadow,
Speaker 3: because the way that we're going to get out of
Speaker 3: the darkness is that we keep working on ourselves.
Speaker 6: Well.
Speaker 2: I remember Marianne Williamson wrote a speech for Nelson Mandela
Speaker 2: and she said, we are all more afraid of our
Speaker 2: light than we are of our darkness. And I think
Speaker 2: people would rather be unhappy in the in what they're
Speaker 2: used to and what they know, versus change and grow
Speaker 2: and go into the unknown, even if they knew it
Speaker 2: was going to be so exciting and so amazing, and
Speaker 2: I think it stops a lot of us in growing
Speaker 2: of like, uh, I mean, you really have to be
Speaker 2: careful about what you put out into the universe, what
Speaker 2: you say. If you say I'm never going to succeed
Speaker 2: or this stuff kind of always happens to me, I'm
Speaker 2: always you know, failing at something, then that's what you're
Speaker 2: going to get.
Speaker 1: When you say waking.
Speaker 2: Up the collective human consciousness or human beings individually are
Speaker 2: waking up? Do you just mean out of the ego
Speaker 2: or out of the stream of thinking, they're present and
Speaker 2: have purpose?
Speaker 1: Is that what you mean?
Speaker 3: I think we're waking up at a global level. I
Speaker 3: think that internationally we're going to see a lot of
Speaker 3: movement towards community and helping each other out at a
Speaker 3: level that we never had before. I mean my generation,
Speaker 3: I grew up in the seventies and so you know,
Speaker 3: I grew up we were protesting the war and the
Speaker 3: killing and watching you know, the body bags come and
Speaker 3: you know, as a young person, that really affected me
Speaker 3: and I started thinking, why do we have war? Why
Speaker 3: are we killing each other? Why are we still doing that?
Speaker 3: And I feel like we're at the edge where people
Speaker 3: are waking up. I mean, let's look at some of
Speaker 3: the situations in the world. You know, it's like, no,
Speaker 3: it's not okay to wipe out a whole people, It's
Speaker 3: not okay to hoard money to the point where nobody
Speaker 3: else has access. We all deserve certain things, and I
Speaker 3: feel that that's the awakening and that we need to
Speaker 3: help each other more and more.
Speaker 1: That's interesting, and I know that.
Speaker 2: There's a there's a book called Power Versus Force by
Speaker 2: David R.
Speaker 1: Hawkins. He's a doctor.
Speaker 2: It's a great book on the energy scale of humans
Speaker 2: and where shame is at the absolute bottom.
Speaker 1: That's like registers at a twenty percent.
Speaker 2: That's where you know people contemplate ending things for themselves
Speaker 2: and stuff on the top. On the absolute reverse scale
Speaker 2: of shame, which is the lowest, forgiveness, love, compassion, those
Speaker 2: are up there in the five six hundred range.
Speaker 1: That's the stuff that you see people.
Speaker 2: We still talk about Jesus and walk the earth in
Speaker 2: the forgiveness type of energy. How do people shift their
Speaker 2: energy and their awakenings personally? You think it's a personal thing.
Speaker 2: It's not going to be an institution doing this. It's
Speaker 2: going to be on an individual basis that is happening.
Speaker 2: I do my work, You do your work. Larry, your
Speaker 2: husband here does his work. What is the work that
Speaker 2: needs to be done so that we can all move
Speaker 2: into the longest journey we'll ever take? Gary Zukov says,
Speaker 2: is from our head to our heart. How can we
Speaker 2: get to that loving place which feels so connected and
Speaker 2: so good within ourselves and others?
Speaker 3: I think you need to live a real heart centered life,
Speaker 3: and I think a lot of us have learned to
Speaker 3: shut it down because of different things that were said,
Speaker 3: maybe even as a child, but as we grow as
Speaker 3: an adult, I think we need to be aware of
Speaker 3: the inner child that has been wounded and pay attention
Speaker 3: to those feelings and get some help with it. You know,
Speaker 3: there's different psychological ways to do regressions and stuff like that,
Speaker 3: and I talked about EMDR. But from a spiritual standpoint,
Speaker 3: I find that there's different types of meditation that works
Speaker 3: with people. You can do just a mindfulness practice, you
Speaker 3: can do a breath practice. Nature works for me more
Speaker 3: than anything I can tell you.
Speaker 1: And animals.
Speaker 2: You talked about animal I don't know how anybody can
Speaker 2: survive without meditating to be honest. It's only because if
Speaker 2: I go two days without meditating, I feel off. I
Speaker 2: feel there's there's like a sense of irritability or I'm
Speaker 2: not as peaceful. No, nowhere near. Let's go to the phones.
Speaker 2: We're going to get Nancy. Nancy from Cincinnati. Thank you
Speaker 2: for calling. Do you have a question for Vicky Fairchild?
Speaker 5: Yes?
Speaker 3: I do.
Speaker 14: I'm currently going through a medical issue and I was
Speaker 14: wondering if my treatment will continue the same as it
Speaker 14: is now?
Speaker 3: The same as it is now, like from a medical
Speaker 3: standpoint is me? Are you talking about your medical treatment?
Speaker 12: Yes?
Speaker 3: And are you talking about like having any kind of
Speaker 3: integrative practice with it as well? Are you going allopathic medicine?
Speaker 3: Is that what we're talking about?
Speaker 14: No, No, I was just wondering if the current treatment
Speaker 14: that I am on will continue.
Speaker 3: Tell me a little bit more about where you feel
Speaker 3: it in your body, what's the symptoms that you feel
Speaker 3: in your body.
Speaker 14: I feel that things are going fine and that they
Speaker 14: probably will continue.
Speaker 3: Have you ever done like a body scan and did
Speaker 3: some full body breath work and start talking to your
Speaker 3: body intelligence? It's really an amazing practice. If you if
Speaker 3: you yoga and meditation and the kind of body work
Speaker 3: and the healing work that I do, But I try
Speaker 3: to help people go inside and we literally work with
Speaker 3: the intelligence of the body. And that's what I would
Speaker 3: recommend for you, Like you have your treatment that has
Speaker 3: has happened medically, but work on your lifestyle and work
Speaker 3: with your own body intelligence.
Speaker 1: Like what would she say to her body? And what
Speaker 1: do you need? Seconds?
Speaker 3: Yeah, what do you body? What do you need? What
Speaker 3: does healing look like to you? And what can I
Speaker 3: do to support you to continue to experience vibrant health
Speaker 3: and well being?
Speaker 1: Okay, Nancy? Does that help? I even say to my body.
Speaker 2: I always talk to my body because I think the
Speaker 2: more that you are aware of your body, the better
Speaker 2: you're going to do. And I always say thank you
Speaker 2: for being so strong and healthy, thank you for always
Speaker 2: carrying me around and getting me to the places I
Speaker 2: need to go and the things that I need to do.
Speaker 2: I honestly feel like body awareness and body conversation is
Speaker 2: really really important.
Speaker 11: Okay, thank you.
Speaker 2: I wish you lucky. I wish you lucky your medical journey.
Speaker 2: Thank you Nancy for calling. Appreciate it. All Right, we're
Speaker 2: going to come back. We're going to talk about the
Speaker 2: things that you can control the energy that you that
Speaker 2: you're walking with and how you can raise your energy level.
Speaker 2: Coming back with Vicky Fairchild after this break. It is
Speaker 2: Donna d on seven hundred WLW, Cincinnati, Saturday Night, seven
Speaker 2: hundred WLW, First of All.
Speaker 1: Ohio State up ten six.
Speaker 2: It's they're getting ready to start this again. Good they're
Speaker 2: playing in Indiana. That's fun to watch tonight. But tonight
Speaker 2: we have a special guest. She's a healer, she's a clairvoyant,
Speaker 2: she's a medium, she does all kinds of work, a
Speaker 2: psychic and you have been so great to have on
Speaker 2: the show. Vicky Fairchild, thank you for being here tonight.
Speaker 2: We've had so many calls. And by the way, if
Speaker 2: you feel like calling in seven five one three seven
Speaker 2: nine seven thousand, if you have a specific question for
Speaker 2: Vicky Fairchild. She has been answering some tough questions about
Speaker 2: moving and of course we all have these crazy questions
Speaker 2: about love and are we ever going to find find it?
Speaker 2: Or should we stay with this person that's in a
Speaker 2: dark period. You've had some tough questions tonight, give us
Speaker 2: a call five one three seven for ninety seven thousand.
Speaker 2: Now when we talk about some of the things maybe
Speaker 2: people haven't quite heard of, like being living in the
Speaker 2: collective consciousness and it's mushy and spongy in dense, and
Speaker 2: I mean, I've never even heard of that stuff either.
Speaker 1: And then body talk.
Speaker 2: We had somebody that was not you know, she was
Speaker 2: in a healing journey, and you said to talk to
Speaker 2: her body. Can you go over and Dea I see you,
Speaker 2: and Steven Moore and Dick I see you. We'll get
Speaker 2: to you in just a minute. Can you talk about
Speaker 2: what it means? Because I know that you have been
Speaker 2: a physical therapist and you get a lot of energy
Speaker 2: from people just touching their bodies and stuff.
Speaker 1: What do you mean by body talk?
Speaker 3: I'm going to give you an example, personal example. So,
Speaker 3: I had a disc injury in my low back that
Speaker 3: gave me some satica, some severe pain down my leg.
Speaker 3: I did everything I know to do to help it,
Speaker 3: all the treatments, all the spiritual work, all the physical work,
Speaker 3: and one day I just got real quiet. I went
Speaker 3: to my back and I said, what do you need?
Speaker 3: And I heard a voice literally inside myself, go, You've
Speaker 3: got to get this off of me. You've got to
Speaker 3: have the surgery.
Speaker 2: Wow.
Speaker 3: Because the nerve is getting weak, and so the disc
Speaker 3: was was herniated, it was compressing the sidic nerve. So
Speaker 3: I still even have a little tat of numbness from
Speaker 3: that and a little weakness from that. But that was
Speaker 3: like a voice. It was like, you've got to get
Speaker 3: this off of me. And sometimes it's like when you
Speaker 3: get real tired. I always call it the two by
Speaker 3: four technique, when you're run and real fatigued. You know,
Speaker 3: one day your body'll just say I've had enough, and
Speaker 3: that's when you get sick. That's when you get a cold.
Speaker 3: That's when you have to call off work. So it
Speaker 3: could be as simple as that. Your body starts to
Speaker 3: run down, it starts to get fatigued. Pain is a
Speaker 3: really big factor. I think that that we can that
Speaker 3: we can listen to and.
Speaker 1: Ask questions about asking.
Speaker 2: When you say I got real quiet, what does that mean,
Speaker 2: I mean I stilled my mind.
Speaker 3: I want to talk to the listeners about the mind
Speaker 3: for a moment. Okay, there's different aspect of the mind.
Speaker 3: There's the chit chat that we have, like you know,
Speaker 3: and we call it the monkey mind. But that's the
Speaker 3: that's the most superficial part of the mind. The other
Speaker 3: part of the mind is the unconscious mind, and that's
Speaker 3: like having a glacier so that there's more of the
Speaker 3: ice is below the surface than what you see above it.
Speaker 3: That's your unconscious mind, and there's techniques to get to
Speaker 3: that that therapists have used for years. But there's also
Speaker 3: what I would call a bigger consciousness, the great mind.
Speaker 3: There are many names for that. And when I talked
Speaker 3: about the collective consciousness, we're very influenced about our surroundings,
Speaker 3: our culture are whatever beliefs we were brought up with.
Speaker 3: That's what I'm talking about in the collective mindset. And
Speaker 3: we're evolving. So the individual we evolve on our own
Speaker 3: kind of spiral and timing. But as a collective as humanity,
Speaker 3: think about to the dark ages? Are we better than
Speaker 3: the dark ages? Do we have more information and how
Speaker 3: to work with it? I mean, we had look at
Speaker 3: the things that humanity has been through, from you know,
Speaker 3: burning witches at this quote witches at the stake, to
Speaker 3: all the things that as humanity we have done. So
Speaker 3: some of us are wanting to have a better world,
Speaker 3: and I feel like the mind is where it starts.
Speaker 2: All right, let's get to Steve from Batavia and Dia
Speaker 2: and Dick on the way. Steve, do a question for Vicky,
Speaker 2: and I think you It says something about you had
Speaker 2: an experience with some spirit?
Speaker 1: Is that right?
Speaker 6: Is there?
Speaker 12: Okay?
Speaker 1: Yeah, Steve, can you hear me?
Speaker 9: Yes?
Speaker 1: Okay? What's your question for Vicky?
Speaker 6: Well? I was one asked, well, I'm a Christian everything,
Speaker 6: and I believe in the Bible. I'm just a basic Christian,
Speaker 6: you know, and everything. So I stayed in a hotel
Speaker 6: days in hotel down on Beachmont Avenue, and I stayed
Speaker 6: there for thirty days, and there was something about that
Speaker 6: room that was so heavy. I couldnot even be in
Speaker 6: that room. I would have to stay outside that room,
Speaker 6: like something very bad happened in that room.
Speaker 1: And you never you'd never fell to anything like this prior.
Speaker 6: Never ever in my life, like pressure, like something really
Speaker 6: happened bad at that in that hotel room. I've never
Speaker 6: felt that in my life. It was like total pressure,
Speaker 6: like I was being suffocated. I would have to leave
Speaker 6: the room and then it would leave.
Speaker 1: Wow, that's interesting.
Speaker 3: What was your question about that? Steve?
Speaker 6: Bould you believe in demons?
Speaker 3: I would say that there are darker forces that we
Speaker 3: are that coexist here with us. I have seen dark attachments.
Speaker 6: Something happened in that room, like like a murder or
Speaker 6: a rapist or a ediphile or something really weird happened.
Speaker 6: Does that spirit hang around because it just felt like
Speaker 6: something was heavy.
Speaker 3: I think that what energetically things do linger in spaces.
Speaker 3: So sometimes I've had people see apparitions, Like I had
Speaker 3: a client that had somebody hang themselves, you know, like
Speaker 3: in their house, right, So she kept seeing this. It
Speaker 3: was an apparition. She kept seeing that happen, and I
Speaker 3: actually went to her house and helped clear the energy
Speaker 3: from it.
Speaker 1: That's what I was going to ask.
Speaker 2: This was a hotel room, so I mean, Steve has
Speaker 2: already been you know, long gone from there, but haven't
Speaker 2: you walked in Because Steve, I've walked into rooms before
Speaker 2: where I have felt like there was a really weird
Speaker 2: vibe and I had to get out of there. So
Speaker 2: I really know what you're talking about. And I don't
Speaker 2: know what it is. I don't know where the energy
Speaker 2: is coming from. But all of a sudden, and especially
Speaker 2: when you said suffocating, because there are times where I
Speaker 2: was like, whooh, I'm having difficulty breathing in this space.
Speaker 2: So yeah, I know exactly what you mean, Steve. Thank
Speaker 2: you so much for the call. I appreciate it. Thank you.
Speaker 14: You know.
Speaker 2: I mean there's times where there are people feel energy
Speaker 2: out of the blue. I mean, Steve said he's never
Speaker 2: had any of this stuff. The more you work on
Speaker 2: yourself and the more that you are aware of your
Speaker 2: own energy, I feel like that really supports an awareness
Speaker 2: of not only your environment but other people when you walk.
Speaker 2: I mean, obviously the first I started this show tonight
Speaker 2: telling you how your energy has affected me. And it's
Speaker 2: light and it's still, and it's calm, and it's quiet
Speaker 2: and it's present.
Speaker 1: But there's people that I feel.
Speaker 2: Are who have a lot going on in their plate
Speaker 2: and I want to just wish them well from afar.
Speaker 3: You got it done. And it's like there's I think
Speaker 3: there's different kinds of feelings that we have. You know,
Speaker 3: that gut feeling and then there's that intuitive feeling, and
Speaker 3: then there's that heart feeling. So we have we were
Speaker 3: born with what we need to be able to feel things.
Speaker 3: That's survival. When you walk into a place and you
Speaker 3: go something to wrong here, I've got to get out
Speaker 3: of here. Yeah, that's instinct and that we're given that
Speaker 3: I think to reason.
Speaker 2: Yeah, but also like, wow, I'm to be aware of
Speaker 2: the body even I can. I'm feeling the tingling now
Speaker 2: of of what Steve was talking about, because that's happened
Speaker 2: to me before. Let's get to dia Ida from Glenn Dale.
Speaker 2: Do you have a question?
Speaker 1: Is this my buddy dia Yes, it is Hi.
Speaker 2: Hi.
Speaker 1: Do you have a question for VICKI It's good.
Speaker 7: I do well, So I was.
Speaker 15: I've been giving this more thought lately because of just
Speaker 15: some new family members have three little grandchildren now, and
Speaker 15: so I've been with my same company or in my
Speaker 15: same career for the past thirty years, and it's an
Speaker 15: exceptional career that I get to teach group fitness and
Speaker 15: I get to sell tennis memberships, and I see a
Speaker 15: lot of retired people that are able to come to
Speaker 15: the morning classes play more tennis. And so I'm wondering
Speaker 15: if you have any prediction or when I should retire,
Speaker 15: because I work in a place that people come to
Speaker 15: when they retire, and is my time more valuable to
Speaker 15: spend with those, you know, grandchildren and family members who
Speaker 15: may not be around or much longer, and is my
Speaker 15: time more valuable? So I'm getting to the point I've
Speaker 15: got a few more years before the official age of retirement.
Speaker 15: But I'm just being tugged in a few directions that
Speaker 15: I've never been really tugged before.
Speaker 1: Take this one real quick. You're not going anywhere to
Speaker 1: that's the first thing retiring. That's my take on it.
Speaker 2: But now I will give it to the professional across
Speaker 2: the board here.
Speaker 1: What do you think?
Speaker 2: Because actually this is a very big topic, and we're
Speaker 2: going to have a friend of mine, Lisa with with
Speaker 2: some counselors on for retirement on the next Saturday show,
Speaker 2: So Dia, you're going to want to tune into that.
Speaker 2: But let's hear what Vicky has to say about this.
Speaker 3: Well, I think retirement as an old phrase in our culture.
Speaker 3: You know, there was a set time that we were
Speaker 3: supposed to quote retire. Well then, what so if you're
Speaker 3: somebody Dia that has loved what you've done, You've been
Speaker 3: in the fitness, it's brought you joy, You've met all
Speaker 3: these wonderful people, I would project yourself out in the future.
Speaker 3: So what does it feel like not doing what you're doing?
Speaker 3: You know? I would like live your life, like just
Speaker 3: take some time, like do that little visioning and say, well,
Speaker 3: what's it going to feel like when I quote stop?
Speaker 3: And how long? How much longer do I do I
Speaker 3: have here? And I always tell people start planning what
Speaker 3: you're going to do afterwards, because there's going to be
Speaker 3: a big gap there, especially if you had a routine
Speaker 3: and you had a community. I think it's important that
Speaker 3: you have something else that you know you are going
Speaker 3: to want to do after that. And anything that we
Speaker 3: spend our time on isn't really a waste. We're always learning,
Speaker 3: we're always growing, and there's always something to be had
Speaker 3: for it. I'll tell you a story. I had to
Speaker 3: move my practice. I almost quit my practice, and I
Speaker 3: kept putting myself in the future about is it time
Speaker 3: to go? Is it time? Is it time? Is it time?
Speaker 3: And then I had to just sit with my heart
Speaker 3: and I imagined not seeing those people anymore, and I
Speaker 3: got real emotional because they're like, you know, I've been
Speaker 3: in practice for forty eight years. Some of these people
Speaker 3: come back to me after thirty years. They become like family.
Speaker 3: Have these people become like family to you?
Speaker 6: Oh?
Speaker 9: Absolutely?
Speaker 3: Yeah, Yeah, So that I'd feel into I'd feel into that,
Speaker 3: you know, right.
Speaker 15: Okay, that's really good advice because I think my four
Speaker 15: year old little granddaughter kind of knows me as Dedie
Speaker 15: at the tennis club, and that would kind of you know,
Speaker 15: I think she relates to and will benefit from being
Speaker 15: around where I work as well. So I think that's
Speaker 15: it just helped me. I want to make sure I
Speaker 15: may make the right decision because you can't take it back,
Speaker 15: and I you know, I want to make sure. And
Speaker 15: it's really good to hear your opinion and get Donna's
Speaker 15: take on.
Speaker 1: It as well. Well.
Speaker 2: You know you already said your not going anywhere, So
Speaker 2: make sure to listen next Saturday because it's going to
Speaker 2: be on retirement. It is a big perfect It is
Speaker 2: a huge question that so many people have when should
Speaker 2: I retire? I'm more aligned with Willie Nelson, who said,
Speaker 2: what am I retiring from? Going to playing music with
Speaker 2: my friends. I'm always going to teach yoga, I'm always
Speaker 2: going to do some radio. I'll always have you know,
Speaker 2: these jobs that I that I absolutely love it and
Speaker 2: have passion for. So what am I actually retiring?
Speaker 3: And you've been a role model for your grandchildren.
Speaker 15: Yes, exactly, exactly, Okay, I know what I'm gonna do.
Speaker 1: Na, thank you.
Speaker 2: I'm so glad we helped you out. I'll see you
Speaker 2: tomorrow in class.
Speaker 15: Okay, perfect.
Speaker 2: So, Vicky, just a quick question on me, like, can
Speaker 2: you read? Can you give me some advice? I'm surprised
Speaker 2: I'm even going to ask you this, but because Dia
Speaker 2: called in, so we're going to talk about breakups in
Speaker 2: the next segment and then I will reluctantly let you
Speaker 2: and Larry go.
Speaker 1: But as long as Ohio State is.
Speaker 2: Winning, I think your husband is good in the studio here.
Speaker 2: I this was a big year for breakups and myself included.
Speaker 2: And you know I was tough. Breakups are always going
Speaker 2: to be hard. They're always going to be hard. What
Speaker 2: do you see happening for me and that kind of
Speaker 2: love life in twenty twenty six.
Speaker 3: I think you're gonna need a pause and within a
Speaker 3: year you'll see some excitement coming up.
Speaker 2: I did get a new foster puppy and he's turning
Speaker 2: out to be the love.
Speaker 1: Of my life.
Speaker 2: Well, I would go with that. Talks are the talks
Speaker 2: are the past art thing. Okay, Dick, we're gonna come
Speaker 2: back to you. We got to take a quick break.
Speaker 2: We do want to talk about again relationships.
Speaker 1: There was a big year about breakups. There's a whole.
Speaker 2: Paper on this, and I wrote it down and for
Speaker 2: some reason, oh, here it is. There was an article
Speaker 2: written about it. And the article was talking about how
Speaker 2: so many myself and many of my friends had breakups
Speaker 2: in twenty twenty five, and what's happening in twenty twenty six.
Speaker 2: I'm gonna read what I read and I am very
Speaker 2: interested to see if you agree with it or not.
Speaker 2: So when we come back, we're going to talk about
Speaker 2: breakups and what is going to happen in twenty twenty
Speaker 2: six in terms of the energy shift for all of us.
Speaker 2: You'll either agree or not. And Dick, hang on, hang on,
Speaker 2: We're gonna get to you in just a moment. Uh,
Speaker 2: Donna D Saturday Night OSU is still winning. Oh no,
Speaker 2: I'm sorry. Oh okay, that's a bummer. We'll be back
Speaker 2: with an update on it is thirteen to ten. Sorry, Larry,
Speaker 2: Indiana is ahead for the first time in the game.
Speaker 1: That's a bummer. We'll be back.
Speaker 2: Dona D seven hundred WLW Cincinnati amazing guest Vicky Fairchild,
Speaker 2: a medium, a psychic, claravoyant, overall healer. It's been so
Speaker 2: great having you on the show. This is our last segment.
Speaker 2: If you have anything that you want to talk to
Speaker 2: Vicky about a specific question that you have five one, three, seven, four, nine,
Speaker 2: seven thousand, one, eight hundred, the big one. If you've
Speaker 2: been stuck somewhere or you need clarity on something. She
Speaker 2: has been given some very good advice and even pulling
Speaker 2: some channels here this uh from tonight, Dick.
Speaker 1: I know you've been waiting for so long.
Speaker 2: I want to get to this article though, real quick
Speaker 2: because we only have a short amount of time and
Speaker 2: one break left. So we talked about why there were
Speaker 2: so many breakups in twenty twenty five.
Speaker 1: It was an article written about it.
Speaker 2: I myself had a breakup, some family members had breakups,
Speaker 2: some friends had breakups. The title of the article, Vicky
Speaker 2: is why are there so many breakups this year? Relationships
Speaker 2: are collapsing, hearts are awakening, and everything is shifting. Twenty
Speaker 2: twenty five has been in untangling and a shedding of
Speaker 2: love out of fear versus truth, and it says that
Speaker 2: twenty twenty six is going to bring movement, clarity and
Speaker 2: alignment and truer relationships like more connected out of love
Speaker 2: versus fear.
Speaker 1: Do you agree with that?
Speaker 3: The worst that come to me when you speak to
Speaker 3: that is there's a revolution of truth happening. I think
Speaker 3: people are unwilling to settle anymore for anything less than
Speaker 3: an off entic, heart based relationship. But isn't it when
Speaker 3: you look around, people are demanding more information about truth
Speaker 3: and so in relationships. That's the bottom line is that
Speaker 3: we have to stand in the center of our truth
Speaker 3: if something's not working anymore. The more we become courageous
Speaker 3: and strong and intuitive and honest with ourselves, you'll have
Speaker 3: to ask yourself, is this still in my highest good?
Speaker 3: There's a real evolution happening on the planet, I think,
Speaker 3: and astrologically you could look at it. I have a
Speaker 3: lot of friends that are really into that, but there's
Speaker 3: been a big shift.
Speaker 2: So I'm kind of big on intention. I talk about
Speaker 2: it in my yoga classes all the time, and what
Speaker 2: I have found out is people have mixed intentions, especially
Speaker 2: if you randomly are going through you know, heartache and
Speaker 2: things like that. You want to stay together, but you
Speaker 2: know that the relationship is over and the stronger intention
Speaker 2: always wins out.
Speaker 1: So if if you really.
Speaker 2: Want to work it out, but then this other thing
Speaker 2: knows that it's never going to happen, that's what's going
Speaker 2: to happen.
Speaker 1: Do you agree? I do?
Speaker 3: And I feel like there comes a time and a
Speaker 3: relationship where it's run its course and sometimes you just
Speaker 3: you don't want that to be. You can still have
Speaker 3: a relationship with somebody, but the nature of the relationship
Speaker 3: changes and sometimes it's just not good for you, and
Speaker 3: you know that and you get the courage to really
Speaker 3: walk away.
Speaker 2: What do you what if you're in a marriage and
Speaker 2: you have young kids and you feel like, wow, we
Speaker 2: really have not been getting along, how do you manage that?
Speaker 2: I mean, I know so many people have. I mean,
Speaker 2: this has always been so challenging. Do you go to therapy?
Speaker 1: Do you do?
Speaker 2: You start, you know, just doing things kind as loving
Speaker 2: as you possibly can be and giving it everything you
Speaker 2: got and then if it still doesn't work, then it's
Speaker 2: time to leave a relationship.
Speaker 1: How do you feel about that?
Speaker 3: I actually asked that question to somebody who I really
Speaker 3: really really respect. Her name is Ama. She's known as
Speaker 3: the Hugging Saints. Amma. Yes, and I've had amazing experiences
Speaker 3: with her. I asked her that question because I was
Speaker 3: at a precipice myself, and her answer to me was,
Speaker 3: you have to give it one hundred percent before you leave.
Speaker 3: So if we know we've given it one hundred percent,
Speaker 3: you know, the kids are a really complicated thing. Having
Speaker 3: grown up, I went to my mother and said, why
Speaker 3: don't you leave? This is dysfunctional when I got old
Speaker 3: enough to figure it out. Yeah, but little ones, little
Speaker 3: ones are taken in everything. You know. They're taken in
Speaker 3: what you say and what you don't say. They're observing
Speaker 3: and they're actually watching to see how you going to
Speaker 3: handle this? How do you make amends? How do you
Speaker 3: negotiate when there's such differences here? So I think that
Speaker 3: when there's children involved, you know, there's a lot of course,
Speaker 3: some people don't have the financial security to leave. That
Speaker 3: has been an issue for a lot of people. So
Speaker 3: they we stay because we think we're secure, you know.
Speaker 3: So some people stay because they feel more secure in
Speaker 3: a relationship than out. Some people just have to be
Speaker 3: in a relationship, you know, they just go from one
Speaker 3: person to another. Of the serial relationships. Yeah, I just
Speaker 3: think it's real important to be honest with yourself, but
Speaker 3: you have to really get help and make sure that
Speaker 3: if you leave, that the children have all the support
Speaker 3: that they need and you know, the professional advice that
Speaker 3: helps a family get through those kinds.
Speaker 2: Do you know you've given one hundred percent? How do
Speaker 2: you know that there's nothing left in the tank that
Speaker 2: is hard?
Speaker 1: How do you know that?
Speaker 6: For me?
Speaker 3: It was a feeling, you know, because I've been through
Speaker 3: it myself, But it's a feeling. Sometimes it's like the
Speaker 3: it's run its course.
Speaker 13: You know.
Speaker 3: Some people would call it karma, some people would call
Speaker 3: it other things. But I feel like some relationships are karmic.
Speaker 3: Some relationships, if you look at it, if you've heard
Speaker 3: of twin flames or twin rays or soulmates, sometimes you've
Speaker 3: just come to work things out. Sometimes you came to
Speaker 3: have those children and to create a legacy that way.
Speaker 3: You know, it's hard to look so many years down
Speaker 3: the way. Boats we're creating whole lineages and ancestral lines,
Speaker 3: and so sometimes I feel like if we could look back,
Speaker 3: we'd see why things happen, why we stayed, and why
Speaker 3: we chose the timing we did to leave.
Speaker 1: Do I need to ask this question? Do you believe
Speaker 1: in soulmates? Yes?
Speaker 2: I didn't think I had to. Let's get to Mike
Speaker 2: real quick. Mike from Richmond, Kentucky. Mike, how are.
Speaker 6: You hi, Donna?
Speaker 16: How are you all?
Speaker 1: I'm good. Do you have a question for Vicky Well?
Speaker 16: I do, and this is respectful, But you know, eighty
Speaker 16: percent of divorces right now, and of course she'll understand that.
Speaker 16: Gray divorces are the biggest percentage of divorces. But eighty
Speaker 16: percent of divorces are from women. And I don't think
Speaker 16: anybody asks men if they're happy in a marriage and
Speaker 16: give up real fast, but women, if they're not happy,
Speaker 16: they tend to give up pretty quick, and they've already
Speaker 16: found somebody else two years ahead of time. Does that
Speaker 16: make any sense?
Speaker 1: There's a lot in there of Vicky.
Speaker 3: Well, Mike, I probably ask you if you have any
Speaker 3: experience with that.
Speaker 16: Well, I was married twenty eight years day, they're per seven,
Speaker 16: and I get surprised after Christmas.
Speaker 3: So that's what I forget.
Speaker 16: So now I'm going to fly in your ointment, is
Speaker 16: what I'm doing. And I hate to say that, but
Speaker 16: there is a great divorce and you can look that up.
Speaker 2: I did, and I know what you're talking about, Mike,
Speaker 2: because seventy's I think it's seventy percent of women do
Speaker 2: ask for the divorce.
Speaker 1: Why do you think that is, Vicky?
Speaker 3: I wonder sometimes if it's because typically we think that
Speaker 3: women are more in touch with their emotions and their feelings,
Speaker 3: and that what I hear from women a lot. I
Speaker 3: sit in a lot of women's circles, and I've been
Speaker 3: on you know, in healing environments with people, is that women,
Speaker 3: when we get together, we talk our emotions out and stuff.
Speaker 3: And sometimes if you can be in a relationship where
Speaker 3: you're constantly able to be in communication and communicating that
Speaker 3: way with what's work and what isn't, what your feelings
Speaker 3: are and stuff. I think I think that we grew
Speaker 3: up in a culture where men weren't allowed to have that.
Speaker 3: I mean, it's different now, but I can tell you
Speaker 3: that my father was a stoic and that was that
Speaker 3: generation back in the fifties, you know, And so maybe
Speaker 3: it's just that we need to give permission for men
Speaker 3: to have all the emotions and feelings and talk about
Speaker 3: it and have women give women permission to stay and
Speaker 3: listen and to be you know, understanding to other sides
Speaker 3: of it. And I believe in a masculine and feminine
Speaker 3: qualities within each one of us too.
Speaker 2: Mike, I'm going to give you permission to be emotional
Speaker 2: right now and talk about your feelings.
Speaker 16: No, I think it's just a weird time period in
Speaker 16: the past, and I'm going to go back ten or
Speaker 16: twelve years. Things are kind of flip flopped. Women have
Speaker 16: almost taken the place of men when it comes to promiscuity.
Speaker 16: It's almost like men and women switch places.
Speaker 2: This is interesting because I talk to like a lot
Speaker 2: of the producers around here and my co host Sterling.
Speaker 2: Guys don't know how to act around women anymore. It's
Speaker 2: like almost the me too movement stop them from a
Speaker 2: asking any woman to go out on a date. B.
Speaker 2: They don't know if they want Do you want me
Speaker 2: to pick you up? Do you want me to open
Speaker 2: your car door? Do you want me to Mike, am
Speaker 2: I Is this sounding familiar?
Speaker 16: Absolutely? Absolutely, they're almost offended. If you go chivalry, you
Speaker 16: know that's a weird word.
Speaker 2: Well, let me just say my thoughts on this, and
Speaker 2: then I'm gonna get Vicky's thoughts on it as well.
Speaker 2: And if there's any way that we can come back
Speaker 2: to men being men, because I love men to open
Speaker 2: my car door.
Speaker 1: I like men to be chivalrous. I like men to
Speaker 1: be men.
Speaker 2: I want I want a strong man in my life,
Speaker 2: and all.
Speaker 1: Of my women friends like that too.
Speaker 2: I think the me too movement there's an overcorrection that
Speaker 2: happens sometimes when when something comes out of the surface
Speaker 2: and women were, you know, had all these inappropriate things
Speaker 2: happened to them, and they spoke out, but men just
Speaker 2: didn't know what to do, and now all of a sudden,
Speaker 2: the over correction happens, and men don't. Men don't know
Speaker 2: how how women want to behave and shouldn't they just
Speaker 2: be who they are? Authentic? If you like opening the
Speaker 2: car door for a woman, do it. What do you
Speaker 2: think about that, VICKI, I want to talk to Mike
Speaker 2: for a minute.
Speaker 3: I pick up on you that you're very respectful. Is
Speaker 3: that right?
Speaker 6: Absolutely? Yes.
Speaker 3: So I feel the most important things that we respect
Speaker 3: each other and that we express what feels good and not.
Speaker 3: I I love to be respected and honored and politeness,
Speaker 3: and I love a compliment. Who doesn't like a compliment?
Speaker 3: I mean it. The pendulum has swung both ways. Now,
Speaker 3: I can tell you growing up in nineteen eighties, when
Speaker 3: I was working at a hospital, I had some situations
Speaker 3: there that was a me too kind of incident.
Speaker 2: I've had me too moments as well that I don't
Speaker 2: know any woman past the age of thirty.
Speaker 3: But I took I took care of it myself. I
Speaker 3: confronted the I confronted him myself, you know. And I
Speaker 3: think that if we can just keep the lines of
Speaker 3: communication open and to be honest when you feel hurt,
Speaker 3: you know, because that's what I feel from that, that
Speaker 3: you're hurt. And I wish that we didn't have to
Speaker 3: be so generalizing of things like they we then were separate,
Speaker 3: separating ourselves. Every human being wants the same thing. We
Speaker 3: want to be seen, we want to be respected, we
Speaker 3: want to be loved. That's the that's the bottom line.
Speaker 3: And if we can do that, I think we have a.
Speaker 2: Much better Well, and listen, it's not the guys, mic,
Speaker 2: it's not your fault either, for any like they grew
Speaker 2: up with Animal House, I mean, you know, we grew
Speaker 2: up with movies that.
Speaker 1: Were the craziest.
Speaker 16: Sounds crazy.
Speaker 2: I mean you know that that's movies reflect a great
Speaker 2: deal of what people think is correct.
Speaker 1: It's exactly the culture.
Speaker 3: And submission from God. By the way, don't you remember.
Speaker 2: Right, but guys actually thought, you know, looking at people
Speaker 2: in girls windows who were changing for bed was actually funny.
Speaker 1: And it's not so.
Speaker 2: Like women had to correct that. It took us a
Speaker 2: long time to get up the.
Speaker 1: Nerve to do it.
Speaker 16: Yeah. Well, it's just like women. Women have to have
Speaker 16: two things in a marriage and a relationship is emotional
Speaker 16: security and financial security.
Speaker 1: That not sound right, vickey, that's true.
Speaker 3: But we all need that, right, I think we all
Speaker 3: need that.
Speaker 16: Yeah, but men are a little bit different. That's why
Speaker 16: we need to I guess my bottom line is we
Speaker 16: need to respect each other's differences.
Speaker 1: What do men mean?
Speaker 10: Love?
Speaker 16: God? Yeah, you know, love for a guy to open
Speaker 16: up a door, be a little bit masculine or I
Speaker 16: mean we're so metro sexual? Is that the word? Or metro? Yes?
Speaker 1: Okay, And that's okay.
Speaker 2: Sometimes you can look nice with a blazer and put
Speaker 2: on a cute hat and some funky shoes and look,
Speaker 2: that's fine. That that's absolutely fine. You can get dressed up.
Speaker 2: Women liked But but Mike, you said something interesting. You
Speaker 2: said two things women want? What do men want?
Speaker 16: Respect? And you're getting ready to know the other one.
Speaker 16: Donna and Dicky you both know the second one.
Speaker 6: Get ready to respect and love?
Speaker 1: No, I love it. That's what we're here for, be honest.
Speaker 16: Well, yeah, you're not to appreciate each other's differences and
Speaker 16: female and male and go back to bear you know. Uh,
Speaker 16: we appreciate each other, that's all.
Speaker 2: Yeah, No, I we agree, We agree, Mike, thank you
Speaker 2: so much for the call. Let me let me just
Speaker 2: grab Dick real quick. He's been hanging on forever.
Speaker 1: Dick from Dayton. You got a minute. What do you
Speaker 1: do you have a question for Vicky?
Speaker 5: Yeah, Vicky, that was really nice what you were talking
Speaker 5: about tonight, because I experienced. I've lived with my mom
Speaker 5: and dad for a long time and I had to
Speaker 5: make an adjustment. I retired, you know, and I had
Speaker 5: to sell the house and my say friend got sick
Speaker 5: and I couldn't uh I uh you know, and I
Speaker 5: found it a little rough, but uh I found some
Speaker 5: friends to be what you guys had good information tonight.
Speaker 5: And I still can play my music. I take the
Speaker 5: bus and everything, but uh I, I just try to
Speaker 5: be friends with everybody at our our hYP radio. But
Speaker 5: you guys had some really good points tonight. It was
Speaker 5: really good.
Speaker 1: Thank you, Dick. I appreciate it awesome.
Speaker 2: And I know you've been on for a long time
Speaker 2: and thanks for being a longtime listener. We really appreciate it. So, Vicky,
Speaker 2: I hate that we're coming to the end of the
Speaker 2: hour here. Tell us about how people can get a
Speaker 2: hold of you. And I know you have a really
Speaker 2: cool zoom event coming up, so talk about that.
Speaker 3: Yeah, So I just moved my office to Blue ash
Speaker 3: So if you go to my website light touch pt
Speaker 3: dot com at l I g h T T O
Speaker 3: U c h p T dot com. That's the name
Speaker 3: that I had from my physical therapy practice for a
Speaker 3: long time. But it does have my phone number on there,
Speaker 3: which is five one three seven nine two twenty three hundred.
Speaker 3: You can reach out to me on my email. It's
Speaker 3: Vick E v E spelled v I c k I
Speaker 3: E Fairchild f A I R c h I L
Speaker 3: D at yahoo dot com. And what I'm excited about
Speaker 3: is this zoom call that I been doing for about
Speaker 3: four or five years with an intimate group of friends
Speaker 3: and I'm going to open it up. This call that
Speaker 3: we have had has been amazing transformation for each other.
Speaker 3: So if you are interested in that, give me a call.
Speaker 3: It'll be about an hour and a half. It'll be
Speaker 3: in the evening, and I'll send out a zoom link
Speaker 3: and we're going to talk about some high mystical things
Speaker 3: and get some vibration really high. I do some guided
Speaker 3: imagery and some meditation, and then we have a discussion
Speaker 3: afterward and we share our deepest feeling And it's an
Speaker 3: evolution I think to be able to come together and
Speaker 3: be intimate with each other in a way that feels safe.
Speaker 3: So I feel like I create a safe, sacred space
Speaker 3: for people to enter and that we can ask these
Speaker 3: deep spiritual questions and support each other on the journey,
Speaker 3: and so that as a community we can come together.
Speaker 2: I love I love it. Thank you so much for
Speaker 2: being on the show. Vicky Fairchild. I'm gonna put her
Speaker 2: information on my Instagram page. Relationship Radio Donna d thank
Speaker 2: you so much. Thank you, Larry. I know you're watching
Speaker 2: the game. Yeah, Indiana is still up. We see, we will,
Speaker 2: We'll come back. Sterling is going to join me in
Speaker 2: the eleven o'clock hour because we had really interesting conversation
Speaker 2: on tipping and things like that. So Sterling's going to
Speaker 2: come back because we had a ton of calls on
Speaker 2: that and we couldn't get to everything. Donna d Saturday Night,
Speaker 2: seven hundred WLW, Cincinnati.
Speaker 3: Thank you, Donna.
Speaker 2: Tonight overnight Cold Blow of twenty four, Tomorrow High of
Speaker 2: thirty four, Big game tomorrow Bills and.
Speaker 1: Bengals and Go Bengals.
Speaker 2: So today it was on three to six doing a
Speaker 2: doubleheader today and I asked my co host Sterling to
Speaker 2: jump on with me because we had a really interesting
Speaker 2: topic that we did not get to any of the
Speaker 2: phone calls barely. Any of the phone calls could have gone,
Speaker 2: you know, the whole show with that Sterling.
Speaker 1: How you doing, I'm good? How are you you watching
Speaker 1: the Ohio State game?
Speaker 10: It was until I started talking to you and it's
Speaker 10: I mean, you know, it's not going the way i'd like.
Speaker 10: That's nothing against the hood. Here's I have many friends
Speaker 10: who wonder Indiana freely, and you know, and good for them.
Speaker 2: We'll just see what happens. We're all watching it. So
Speaker 2: so we had this caller in. We started talking about
Speaker 2: tips because there's two stories in the news of servers
Speaker 2: getting arrested after harassing customers for not tipping.
Speaker 1: I mean, it's sad and frustrating.
Speaker 2: These poor girls that were waiting on giant tables and
Speaker 2: nobody left them a tip or very very small tip
Speaker 2: at that got you know, got arrested for harassing these patrons.
Speaker 2: But then this guy, James called in this afternoon to
Speaker 2: talk about taking his friend on a bachelor party.
Speaker 1: Well, Sean, let's play the clip. What's up James?
Speaker 13: Hey, guys, I'll the gone good love to hear both
Speaker 13: your voices. So this happened just you know, ten days ago.
Speaker 13: It was a Saturday after Thanksgiving and our friend was
Speaker 13: getting married for the third time. So we thought, hey, no,
Speaker 13: obviously no bachelor party. That's crazy. But we took them
Speaker 13: to Twin Peaks, which you know, I love Twin Peaks.
Speaker 13: I've got good salmon, good beer.
Speaker 1: Fine, you're not throwing them bolt party another, but that's
Speaker 1: not going to do.
Speaker 10: That's not going to get you the side eye when
Speaker 10: you say where you've gone compared to some other places
Speaker 10: where they may or may not wear a cryllic heels.
Speaker 1: Go ahead, I'm sorry, I digress.
Speaker 13: Well, all right, so I got to continue my story.
Speaker 13: So we didn't go off to Vegas, right, We went
Speaker 13: to Twin Peaks, which is an awesome place. So then
Speaker 13: some one of the guys there's like, let's go to
Speaker 13: the strip club. Like we're all like, you know, we're
Speaker 13: in our fifties. You know, like this, you know, probably
Speaker 13: doesn't make sense, but bottom line is the entourage went
Speaker 13: to a strip club. So you get the strip club,
Speaker 13: and you know, I mean, at this point in my life,
Speaker 13: I'm kind of uncomfortable as trip clubs.
Speaker 10: But whatever, so.
Speaker 12: We all go and like, all right, the right thing
Speaker 12: to do.
Speaker 16: I guess this could be his third matchup party.
Speaker 12: Let's get him.
Speaker 7: I don't know.
Speaker 13: It's called a private dance, a lap dance and a
Speaker 13: booth or whatever.
Speaker 2: You I knows, we all know. I am, I know,
Speaker 2: I know, Jay, you go, we'll keep it.
Speaker 1: We won't say anything to anybody.
Speaker 13: So so we pony up the cash and I think
Speaker 13: Donna you had said, like who carried cash anymore?
Speaker 12: Like good point.
Speaker 13: So but we had some cash and and so.
Speaker 12: So they take the guy in.
Speaker 10: The woman takes the guy.
Speaker 13: Into the booth, and and it was you know again
Speaker 13: two days after Thanksgiving for approaching the Christmas season, and
Speaker 13: and so they get done, he gets done whatever, and
Speaker 13: she's like, hey, how about a tip. He's like, I
Speaker 13: thought my my friends paid for this. He's like, yeah,
Speaker 13: but they didn't leave me at tips. Like she's like,
Speaker 13: I don't have any cash and she's like, but it's
Speaker 13: the holidays. He even come on, man, so it's like
Speaker 13: begging for money. And so like I think an assistant
Speaker 13: manager came out like, now, I mean, we paid what
Speaker 13: you asked for. We're not giving her a tip, you know,
Speaker 13: for for for the holidays.
Speaker 1: Not gonna happen.
Speaker 2: So, James, that's a that's an interesting story. I love
Speaker 2: this story because he's right, you pay for a service,
Speaker 2: and then you know, you think, you think that that's it.
Speaker 2: You know, she's negotiated the price, they paid it.
Speaker 10: And she didn't have like a swipe to pay. I
Speaker 10: think that's what's coming like a bar on our wrist.
Speaker 16: Actually said she said, I taken.
Speaker 10: Venmo the phones where I mean, there's so many questions.
Speaker 2: Well, I will say I will say this, that is
Speaker 2: a tricky situation. And when that happens, it just makes
Speaker 2: everybody feel uncomfortable. So I think so because tipping is
Speaker 2: optional and like I like I said, I have been
Speaker 2: a bartender for years and years and years and a
Speaker 2: server and I worked for tips for many, many years,
Speaker 2: and it's important to tip, and I am a huge tipper.
Speaker 2: But if somebody doesn't automatically give it to you or
Speaker 2: wants you to have something, you don't need to go
Speaker 2: and ask for it, you really puts everybody in a
Speaker 2: real uncomfortable position.
Speaker 10: James appreciate the call. Man's hard to start that dangerous.
Speaker 10: Let me just say this, that whole not that I
Speaker 10: know much about. I've had friends in that business right
Speaker 10: on the pole and in the DJ booth and running
Speaker 10: club or two here or there. I will say it
Speaker 10: is based on tips.
Speaker 2: So Sterling, it was a long call and we talked
Speaker 2: about it a lot. Should people tip even if they
Speaker 2: don't want to write?
Speaker 1: He clearly didn't on to the girl didn't get the tip?
Speaker 1: Is it begging? Is it begging? For five?
Speaker 2: One, three, seven, four ninety seven thousand? We had a
Speaker 2: lot of calls on this earlier. What are your thoughts, Sterling?
Speaker 10: Well, I'm not going to say it was her first
Speaker 10: of all, you know, tips are supposed to ensure prompt service.
Speaker 10: I think that's the acronym rate. So the prompt service
Speaker 10: in that endeavors a whole other animal altogether when it
Speaker 10: comes to the entertainment with a private room kind of scenario,
Speaker 10: I guess on it in general, though I don't anyone like,
Speaker 10: you know, tips are appreciated or in your grill about it.
Speaker 10: I mean, but you're also in his case, he's in
Speaker 10: a strip club, so it's kind of it's kind of
Speaker 10: you know where you're at, you got to know, well,
Speaker 10: we always talk about, you know, know the room you're
Speaker 10: you know, and who you're talking to. Yeah, so I
Speaker 10: mean she's there taking it and shaking it for cash.
Speaker 10: Come up with some cash, right, But the right thing
Speaker 10: to do. You paid the man who let you into
Speaker 10: the room. You did not pay her.
Speaker 1: Oh okay. I didn't understand that part.
Speaker 10: That's the impression that I've gotten and how that works.
Speaker 10: I don't know all of that business overall, but I
Speaker 10: just don't like the side eye and the aggressive nature
Speaker 10: that some of the tipping thing has gotten into. And
Speaker 10: I think a lot of people are in that place.
Speaker 1: Right, we talked about this today.
Speaker 2: Everybody has, you know, some sort of a tip function.
Speaker 2: I don't care if it's you know, going to get
Speaker 2: a coffee, going to get a smoothie, going, you know,
Speaker 2: going to get.
Speaker 1: Your hair cut.
Speaker 2: I mean everybody is now is now you know, very
Speaker 2: tip oriented, and we're all used to it. But some
Speaker 2: of us, you know, I do give tips. I do
Speaker 2: you know, I've worked for tips. Like we've said, some
Speaker 2: of it is getting to the point of extreme.
Speaker 10: Yeah. Sure, have you ever paid to have someone leave
Speaker 10: you alone or to go away aside from the person
Speaker 10: who's requesting the tip?
Speaker 6: I mean.
Speaker 10: No, I mean here, here's why I asked. Okay, I
Speaker 10: can go back before Times Square turned into Disneyland and
Speaker 10: more wholesome, which of course is right in my wheelhouse
Speaker 10: because I'm naive of the ways of the world.
Speaker 3: Done.
Speaker 10: Yes, I was in New York for a business thing
Speaker 10: and it was before everything got super gentrified in Times Square,
Speaker 10: and it was late and we had gone from bar
Speaker 10: to bar beer and shot beer and shot a lot
Speaker 10: of Irish pubs, bars, whatever, and then we ended up
Speaker 10: in an establishment where they shook it for cash. You know,
Speaker 10: I had to. I was just with the group and
Speaker 10: it usually you'd say, you know, the you know, the
Speaker 10: next girl on the stage or whatever. Now coming to
Speaker 10: the stage and it's a girl. This was this was
Speaker 10: a woman, and she was working very hard and doing
Speaker 10: things that it was. It was beyond just on the
Speaker 10: pole and being social. It was disturbing and I actually
Speaker 10: gave her money to go away. Everyone was very disturbed.
Speaker 10: She was very aggressive and she was quite scary. It
Speaker 10: wasn't a girl that you would hope that would come
Speaker 10: over and do that. And I paid her to lead
Speaker 10: instead of to do more.
Speaker 1: I mean she got her tips some way, right, Yeah,
Speaker 1: I was.
Speaker 10: Yeah, it was a different type of shakedown. And it's Almo.
Speaker 2: Listen, people, people really need to make money in this world.
Speaker 2: That's how we all live. And if you're you know,
Speaker 2: in especially in that industry. First of all, you know,
Speaker 2: when you go to a bar like that, a club
Speaker 2: like that, you got to have cash. You got to
Speaker 2: have money to give, because that's what that's all about,
Speaker 2: that's what making it rain. You know, you have to
Speaker 2: have so you know the fact that none of us
Speaker 2: carry cash anymore because everything is you know, Apple pay
Speaker 2: and everything else.
Speaker 1: You have to you have to be mindful of that.
Speaker 2: But the tipping thing is on another level, and seeing
Speaker 2: these girls. Like the story that that guy read today
Speaker 2: about the server that was waiting on ten people and
Speaker 2: it was a big birthday party and she filled all
Speaker 2: the drinks and she cut the cake and they left
Speaker 2: her five to one dollar bills. That's infuriating. That is infuriating.
Speaker 10: Week very weak.
Speaker 2: Well, you you know, you have to understand that even
Speaker 2: if you don't agree with tips, because that's what those
Speaker 2: people said, we don't agree in tipping, then then you know,
Speaker 2: don't go out to dinner and in a service place
Speaker 2: like that where you have to you have to tip
Speaker 2: and you have somebody working so hard. That's a big
Speaker 2: deal for a lot of people. What are your thoughts?
Speaker 2: Five one, three, seven, four nite seven eight hundred, the
Speaker 2: Big One.
Speaker 1: We've had a really good show. I don't know if you've.
Speaker 2: Listened to Vicky Fairchild, who just left Sterling on you know,
Speaker 2: the psychic medium that I had on the show.
Speaker 10: Had you heard any I was hoping that you were
Speaker 10: not much the game, I mean, not the personal and
Speaker 10: we spent time together. You don't hate on me, but
Speaker 10: I had questions and I was a little upset she
Speaker 10: didn't stay over. Only to know, you know, well, the
Speaker 10: red signed for. Uh, you know what, will the Bengals
Speaker 10: beat the Browns? Will they? It will be they make
Speaker 10: they over the under on that. Well, you know, I
Speaker 10: have a lot of questions.
Speaker 1: Well she did.
Speaker 2: She did say that she's picked the Super Bowl winner
Speaker 2: every year since she started, which has been about I
Speaker 2: don't know, she said, five or six years.
Speaker 1: And I said, are they How can we prove that?
Speaker 10: By the way, you know what, I say that too,
Speaker 10: How does anyone know?
Speaker 1: We don't?
Speaker 2: But I did ask her if she saw the Bengals
Speaker 2: in the Super Bowl, at least in the Super Bowl?
Speaker 1: What do you think? She said, not this year?
Speaker 2: No, no, no, she said, they're not going to be
Speaker 2: in the super Bowl this year.
Speaker 10: They were a few a couple of years ago.
Speaker 2: Right, they made and they made it to Are you
Speaker 2: talking about playing the Rams?
Speaker 10: Yea yeah. I mean in this situation, you just got
Speaker 10: to hope that they can string some double us together
Speaker 10: and maybe, you know, a borough can go up there
Speaker 10: and upset Allan and all those Bills fans in the
Speaker 10: in the land where the wind blows across the lake
Speaker 10: and brings snow if they're expecting tomorrow, and then that's
Speaker 10: all you can do. I mean Blaine chose Toe. Well,
Speaker 10: I mean think about I mean seriously, they got an
Speaker 10: early start and then they were losing, and then he
Speaker 10: got healthy again, and here we are, So I mean,
Speaker 10: we wanted him to not start out for four or
Speaker 10: oh for three, and then we got it in the
Speaker 10: middle of the whole season there. So I mean it's
Speaker 10: I think with him in there, they've got a chance.
Speaker 10: So we'll see what happened. I have been born and
Speaker 10: bred to live better through lowered expectations, so I'm hoping
Speaker 10: for the best, but prepared for the worst, of course,
Speaker 10: which is also my relationship situation.
Speaker 2: But that's a whole See, you could have asked Vicky
Speaker 2: about it, she said, for me, I asked her about
Speaker 2: my relationship because it was the year of breakups. It's
Speaker 2: the year of shedding. It's the year of people not
Speaker 2: being together just out of fear. People want love.
Speaker 1: And she agreed with that.
Speaker 2: And I said, I broke up with someone this year,
Speaker 2: what is she see happening? And she said, it's going
Speaker 2: to take about a year before you find somebody new.
Speaker 10: She just break hearts all over the place.
Speaker 2: Well, this guy, this guy Mike, called in and he
Speaker 2: was interesting and he was very, very honest.
Speaker 1: He talked about women, Sterling.
Speaker 2: You and I have talked about this a ton of
Speaker 2: times in terms of how men don't know how to
Speaker 2: act with women anymore. They don't know should they pull
Speaker 2: out their chair at dinner, should they open their card door?
Speaker 1: What do they want?
Speaker 2: Ever since the Me Too movement, you haven't seen men
Speaker 2: step up and you know, ask women for days. They
Speaker 2: just don't know how to handle women anymore. And we've
Speaker 2: talked about it. Is there and what Vicky's response was
Speaker 2: that I absolutely loved is if you're respectful and you
Speaker 2: like to give respect, then just do what you feel
Speaker 2: you would want to represent well for yourself.
Speaker 1: If you're respectful, then be respectful, right yeah.
Speaker 10: I mean, think about it if it was your sister,
Speaker 10: or your mother or your daughter, and how you would
Speaker 10: hope that they'd be treated. It is a strange world
Speaker 10: to navigate at this point. But you know, I think
Speaker 10: the simple thing is no means no. But it's nice
Speaker 10: to have the woman make the first move and then
Speaker 10: you know, and that would make life better. I guess
Speaker 10: you don't want to be like, hey, I thought we
Speaker 10: were good and then the next thing, you know, you know,
Speaker 10: there's a problem. You don't be an idiot, a moron
Speaker 10: or a molester.
Speaker 2: Serling, don't you get signals from women on whether or not.
Speaker 1: You they're into you? Because women want to know go ahead.
Speaker 2: Women ultimately like the man for the most part, like
Speaker 2: the man to make the first move, or you know,
Speaker 2: be the man in the relationship.
Speaker 6: Right.
Speaker 17: Can I chime in, well, sure, yeah, I wish you would.
Speaker 17: I just this has been a fun topic to talk about.
Speaker 17: I think I think it's such a tricky world to navigate,
Speaker 17: like you guys were saying, because speaking from my experience
Speaker 17: I'm twenty five. For those who don't know, I do
Speaker 17: agree that it is kind of hard to navigate from
Speaker 17: the standpoint of a man because I feel like we
Speaker 17: really don't We don't want to be embarrassed. We don't
Speaker 17: want to be publicly like shamed because you know, everything
Speaker 17: goes on the internet these days, or it feels like
Speaker 17: it will. You know, you don't want a girl to
Speaker 17: call you a creep. That's the biggest thing. So it's
Speaker 17: it's really tricky in that sense, and I don't really
Speaker 17: know what to do either. But I think you guys
Speaker 17: made a great point that you have to do what
Speaker 17: you would want someone to do to you know, your
Speaker 17: sister or whoever that you know, any any girl that's
Speaker 17: related to you, and kind of stick to who you are.
Speaker 10: Yeah, do what you think you should be doing to
Speaker 10: your sister.
Speaker 12: No, no, no, if someone else.
Speaker 10: I mean, but you basically echoed what I said. But
Speaker 10: when I heard you say it, I don't want to
Speaker 10: think about my sister. I don't even have sister, but
Speaker 10: I mean it sounded weird, like, yeah, I just want
Speaker 10: you to do it to her like you would my sister.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 12: It was not the best phrasing from my end either.
Speaker 12: I will admit I've.
Speaker 10: Made a career out of saying things in weird ways.
Speaker 10: We don't worry about it. I was just like, man,
Speaker 10: that's it is challenging. I felt pretty good about it,
Speaker 10: and then you made me more nervous.
Speaker 2: Sean is the is the worst thing that you could
Speaker 2: be called creepy by a girl.
Speaker 17: I think it's a huge blow to a guy's self
Speaker 17: esteem because I think a lot of the time guys
Speaker 17: just want to be upfront and honest, and they want
Speaker 17: direct answers. And when a girl calls you a creep
Speaker 17: even though you're you might be genuinely trying your best
Speaker 17: not to be like you are trying to be courteous
Speaker 17: because like you guys brought up the whole chivalry thing. Like, yes,
Speaker 17: a lot of women seem to shame that these days,
Speaker 17: and it's like, what do I do? What's the right
Speaker 17: move here? It's it's incredibly it can be incredibly frustrating.
Speaker 17: It's not the same for every woman out there. It's
Speaker 17: not the same for every guy. It's obviously a person
Speaker 17: to person experience, but yeah, it is kind of like
Speaker 17: a minefield nowadays, more so than it's ever been.
Speaker 3: So.
Speaker 2: Sean McMahon is producing the show and he's twenty five
Speaker 2: years old. It's tough, I know, at this age with
Speaker 2: iPhones and social media and things like that, can you
Speaker 2: even tell at a point, Wait, you're on a date
Speaker 2: and you're liking her, can you tell if she likes you?
Speaker 2: It's all in the body language?
Speaker 17: Yeah, it is completely in Honestly, the eyes kind of
Speaker 17: tend to be the dead giveaway. But it's it's really
Speaker 17: tough sometimes because I've seen examples online of girls who
Speaker 17: are like, yeah, if she flicks her hair at you,
Speaker 17: she likes you. That's a sign I'm supposed to look
Speaker 17: for that. What are you talking about that? There's no way,
Speaker 17: I Donna. You mentioned the whole idea of women want
Speaker 17: men to make the first move. Yeah, I think there
Speaker 17: has to be a bit of a societal shift. Personally.
Speaker 17: I think women have to be less afraid to make
Speaker 17: the first move on a guy, because a lot of
Speaker 17: the time guys are afraid to make the move nowadays,
Speaker 17: and guys like confident women just as you know, women
Speaker 17: like confident men. And I feel like that needs to
Speaker 17: be brought up a lot, and it's not talked about enough.
Speaker 1: Charlie, you agree with what Sean just said.
Speaker 10: Yeah, it makes all kinds of sense there, I mean absolutely,
Speaker 10: I mean it. Ever, I mean I like a woman
Speaker 10: who's like, here, let's go. Yeah, you know I'm digging
Speaker 10: you because then, you know, yeah, rather than And I've
Speaker 10: never even thought about the whole calling me a creepy
Speaker 10: online that never even I've been called so much worse.
Speaker 10: I can't I might be I don't even know.
Speaker 2: Oh gosh, well, I hope both of you stay around
Speaker 2: for the next segment because we have to continue this. Sean,
Speaker 2: you're still in the studio, Sterling, can you hang on
Speaker 2: for a minute and stay.
Speaker 10: Anything else to do, but spend this time with you.
Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, good, all right, we'll be back. We'll continue
Speaker 2: what guys have to do and what they really want
Speaker 2: for women in this day and age.
Speaker 1: They want them to make the move. We'll see.
Speaker 2: Welcome back, Donna D seven hundred WLW, Cincinnati, Woo.
Speaker 1: Our last segment of the night. What a fun night
Speaker 1: it's been here in the.
Speaker 2: iHeart Studio, seven hundred WLW. I am Dona D talking
Speaker 2: about relationships. We do it a little bit different on
Speaker 2: Saturday nights, and before the break, we started having an
Speaker 2: interesting conversation. Sterling, my co host is on the line
Speaker 2: with us right now, and Sean McMahon producing the show.
Speaker 2: The three of us started talking about how guys don't
Speaker 2: really know how to behave around women. And I think
Speaker 2: it started with the Me Too movement where women were
Speaker 2: coming out and saying men were, you know, inappropriate here
Speaker 2: and inappropriate there, and guys just really started to overcorrect and.
Speaker 1: Said, I'm not doing this.
Speaker 2: I'm not saying that, I'm not giving her a hug,
Speaker 2: I'm not touching her, I'm not in any way. I
Speaker 2: don't want to be looked at as inappropriate at all, Sterling,
Speaker 2: do you agree with that?
Speaker 10: Well, yeah, I don't want to be considered inappropriate at all.
Speaker 2: No, but do you feel like we've done an over correction?
Speaker 2: I mean, and we'll we'll get to Sean here too,
Speaker 2: because he will get to Sean in a minute.
Speaker 1: What do you think, Sterling?
Speaker 10: Look, I've been sort of dumb my whole life when
Speaker 10: it comes to this. There was a girl that a
Speaker 10: woman that we had worked together, that not work together,
Speaker 10: used to hang out. I thought she was not interested.
Speaker 10: I thought she was incredible and fun and apparent. Then
Speaker 10: years later we've got together at some sort of reunion
Speaker 10: thing and she's like, why did you never ask me out?
Speaker 10: And I'm like, because I didn't think you were interested.
Speaker 10: She goes, well, we wasted like five years. I'm like
Speaker 10: what and had no clue. And I've talked to so
Speaker 10: many dudes, and every there there was at least one
Speaker 10: of those that most of us guys can say, yeah,
Speaker 10: I've had a situation like that. I don't know that
Speaker 10: it's a generational thing. I think that we're dense and
Speaker 10: most of us don't want to offend, and sometimes we
Speaker 10: get intimidated especially when it's someone that we you know,
Speaker 10: are really really interested in sometimes but you know that's
Speaker 10: that's just me. But I like it. One and one
Speaker 10: tells me let me know. And the do you guys
Speaker 10: give off the signals? I mean, you know, eye contact,
Speaker 10: getting clothes, touchy feely, suggesting you get together and do stuff,
Speaker 10: you know, inviting you. That's a telltale sign. Usually, well
Speaker 10: that's that's.
Speaker 1: A giant green flag. If a girl is saying, you
Speaker 1: know all those things that.
Speaker 2: You just yeah, Sean, you, Sean McMahon, You prefer the
Speaker 2: girl at this point to make the first move.
Speaker 1: Tell me why.
Speaker 17: I Well, I wouldn't say I prefer that she make
Speaker 17: the first move.
Speaker 12: I would not hate if she did.
Speaker 17: I would I would love if she did because that
Speaker 17: would make me feel pretty good about myself. And I again,
Speaker 17: I don't know that I prefer, but if I'm gonna
Speaker 17: make the first move, she better respond with a with
Speaker 17: a good amount of energy that I can be like, oh, okay,
Speaker 17: she liked the way that I approached her. She's responding
Speaker 17: well to this, you know, if it's if I go
Speaker 17: up and I'm getting at my best shot. But it's
Speaker 17: not clear that she likes it. Yeah, that's where it
Speaker 17: gets really tricky. So I think you have to give
Speaker 17: a firm response, like you have to show the other
Speaker 17: person that you like the attention that you're getting from them,
Speaker 17: and not just for selfish reasons, but because you are
Speaker 17: also interested in them and their feelings for you.
Speaker 12: So it is a two way street.
Speaker 17: But yeah, I mean, if a girl came up to
Speaker 17: me and made the first move, I'm not gonna lie.
Speaker 17: I'm I'm not gonna turn her away immediately. I'm to
Speaker 17: be like, oh, this is different.
Speaker 1: Okay.
Speaker 2: So that's different from the last caller Mike, which he
Speaker 2: basically said girls have taken on the role of men
Speaker 2: in this society right now, where they're the aggressors there,
Speaker 2: and he doesn't like that. You haven't witnessed that, Sterling.
Speaker 2: You haven't witnessed that either.
Speaker 10: No, women are strong and they are aggressive and all
Speaker 10: those things. Yeah, I mean, my observation or hallucination, there
Speaker 10: is a generational thing. You know, I'm a guy in
Speaker 10: my fifties and you know dat a woman in her
Speaker 10: mid thirties to forty, and they are not the same.
Speaker 10: And that's not a bad thing.
Speaker 16: You know.
Speaker 10: I might want to be held in coddle and they're
Speaker 10: done and leave me at home, and I you know,
Speaker 10: that's okay. It used to be me that would leave,
Speaker 10: But there's a whole other story. Now I just feel used.
Speaker 1: Five seven four nine, seven thousand.
Speaker 2: Sean McMahon, who is producing this show, went to get
Speaker 2: a caller who's calling in guys too much. Don Yes,
Speaker 2: you always share way too much, Sterling.
Speaker 10: I should, I'm sorry.
Speaker 1: We want to know. We want to know, guys.
Speaker 2: And add to the add to the opinions of Sterling
Speaker 2: and our producer Sean McMahon, guys, do you want a
Speaker 2: woman to make the first move?
Speaker 1: Is that off putting to you?
Speaker 2: Because sometimes, and you know, Sterling, I am a very
Speaker 2: strong woman, and I have no problem in in in
Speaker 2: if I really like somebody, I'm going to let them
Speaker 2: know that. You really will know whether I like you
Speaker 2: or not. But I also like the men. The man
Speaker 2: to make the first move, and that's one of the
Speaker 2: indicators of of me liking them or not. Right sure,
Speaker 2: it's one of the indicators of a woman. So Sean
Speaker 2: just said, basically, if I make the first move and
Speaker 2: he's using courage to do it, she better be receptive.
Speaker 1: But what if you don't know yet?
Speaker 2: What if?
Speaker 1: What if? What if you think you like Sean?
Speaker 2: What if I think I like Sean and Sean makes
Speaker 2: the first move and I don't.
Speaker 1: I'm not quite there yet. Is it so alarming to.
Speaker 2: The guy that it's it hurts It hurts his heart
Speaker 2: and he doesn't want to try From there?
Speaker 10: You're asking me, Yes.
Speaker 1: I'm asking you.
Speaker 2: Sean is answering phone. We've got calls coming up long, okay,
Speaker 2: all right?
Speaker 10: Because I can't see you, and normally I can. I mean,
Speaker 10: it helps to know, and you don't want to necessarily
Speaker 10: be in the dark, But you know, I guess the
Speaker 10: trick is to be able to ask and not be
Speaker 10: so offended and crushed if they say.
Speaker 1: No, right right, right exactly.
Speaker 10: And that's the thing. People have a fear of rejection.
Speaker 10: But here's the other side. I mean, you're an attractive woman, right,
Speaker 10: professional woman, smart woman, and all the fun and all
Speaker 10: that other stuff, breaking hearts all over the place. But
Speaker 10: men come out of the woodwork. How how annoying and
Speaker 10: testering are we to you?
Speaker 1: Guys?
Speaker 10: Because why I ask, even if I'm not being flirtacious
Speaker 10: or hanging around, I get the impression sometimes that younger
Speaker 10: woman maybe thinking that you're like being creepy even though
Speaker 10: you're not. So when where is that line for you? Well,
Speaker 10: not to turn it around, but I'm turning it around.
Speaker 1: No, no, no, here's one here.
Speaker 2: I will I will divulge something because yes, I had
Speaker 2: a breakup this year. I will talk about it. This
Speaker 2: is the first time I've ever been on a dating app.
Speaker 2: So I have gone on a couple of dates lately.
Speaker 2: And Sandra, we're going to get to you in a minute.
Speaker 2: When the guy moves so close to me in the chair,
Speaker 2: that feels a little uncomfortable. So he'll say, you know,
Speaker 2: get I want to get a little bit closer to you,
Speaker 2: and I'm not ready for that. That feels a little uncomfortable.
Speaker 2: Let's get to Sandra from Cleave. Sandra, what do you
Speaker 2: think about this? Help us figure this out? For uh,
Speaker 2: this this topic here.
Speaker 1: Well, I'm a great grandmother.
Speaker 7: But somebody told me that I didn't have enough education
Speaker 7: to be somebody like doctor Ruths. But I've read a
Speaker 7: couple of books of doctor ruth and she said, try
Speaker 7: a different position. And it seems to me like the
Speaker 7: golden rule that says do unto others, as you would
Speaker 7: have them to do unto you. And Solomon, the wisest
Speaker 7: man who ever lived, he had seven hundred wives and
Speaker 7: three hundred concubines. And he didn't ask for that specifically.
Speaker 7: He asked the Lord to give him with him to
Speaker 7: you know, be the ruler of the people. But along
Speaker 7: with that, God gave him a lot of extra things.
Speaker 7: But even having that many wives and concubines get in there,
Speaker 7: he said, it was all. It was all a vexation.
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's too much. That's too much on anybody's plate. Yeah, sure, Sandra, thank.
Speaker 2: You so much for the call. I appreciate it. Adding
Speaker 2: a little bit of how did we get this? And
Speaker 2: there we go, Sterling? Do you Sterling?
Speaker 1: Are you there? Oh?
Speaker 10: I lot you?
Speaker 1: Okay?
Speaker 10: God, yeah, you hung up on me for a minute.
Speaker 10: All I can't.
Speaker 12: For a second.
Speaker 17: That's the technology is full. Well, there he goes. Now
Speaker 17: he's actually gone.
Speaker 2: I was trying to hang up on Sandra because we
Speaker 2: were done with the calls.
Speaker 1: Sean, Can you do that for me?
Speaker 17: Yeah, I got it. I think I'll get him back here.
Speaker 17: There he is right there, all right, Sterling.
Speaker 12: Can you hear us?
Speaker 1: Oh? I can hear you, O, car is good.
Speaker 10: So so you lost me before you lost me. The
Speaker 10: first time I heard her say, I bounce back and
Speaker 10: I hear something about being a concubine. What the hell happened?
Speaker 17: She was talking about Solomon, the wisest man that ever lived,
Speaker 17: and how he had She said, hundreds of concubine. Nobody
Speaker 17: wants that trust me on that ask for wisdom. And
Speaker 17: she basically her point was due unto others as you
Speaker 17: would want them to.
Speaker 12: Do unto you. So basically, treat people the way you
Speaker 12: want them to.
Speaker 1: And I think it's very good advice.
Speaker 2: But Sean Sterling said something while you were answer calls
Speaker 2: and things like that, when.
Speaker 1: Because here here's what I heard.
Speaker 2: When you get the courage to say, hey, I'm gonna
Speaker 2: I want to move forward with this girl.
Speaker 1: We've been on a date all night.
Speaker 2: This is our second maybe it's a second or third date,
Speaker 2: and you've been dating her and you like her and
Speaker 2: everything seems mutual, right, But then you go in and
Speaker 2: move a little bit and whatever that means, hold her
Speaker 2: hand or ask for another date, or do we want
Speaker 2: to you know, move go to go, you know, sit
Speaker 2: sit by yourself somewhere and she doesn't respond accordingly.
Speaker 1: Are you going to be able to not get offended
Speaker 1: by that? Oh?
Speaker 17: Man, it's tough, because if you're that far into the
Speaker 17: dating side of the relationship, if you're two or three
Speaker 17: in and it seemed like things are going well, it
Speaker 17: definitely is going to sting.
Speaker 12: I think.
Speaker 17: I think I'm at the point in my life where, yeah,
Speaker 17: I can learn to accept that, and I can learn
Speaker 17: to say, Okay, maybe this isn't going as well as
Speaker 17: I thought. I'm gonna go home and I'm going to
Speaker 17: be pretty bummed about it, and it might take me
Speaker 17: a little bit of time to get over it. In
Speaker 17: the moment, it might be hard not to kind of
Speaker 17: show that emotion because then things can get pretty awkward
Speaker 17: after that. I haven't I have, Fortunately, I haven't been
Speaker 17: in that position yet. Yes, but I cannot. I would
Speaker 17: like to think that I'm mature enough that I could
Speaker 17: handle that if that were happened to me.
Speaker 1: It's hot. It's hard.
Speaker 2: It's hard to be rejected, Sterling. That's what you were
Speaker 2: talking about earlier.
Speaker 10: Yeah, absolutely it is. And that's for anybody. I mean,
Speaker 10: I don't I don't care where you are, you know,
Speaker 10: whether you're back in the dating pool after or being
Speaker 10: you know, in a committed saying married or otherwise for
Speaker 10: a long period of time. I've never been married, but
Speaker 10: I'm a serial monogamoust in long term relationships and that's
Speaker 10: just one of those things you do. But I will say, uh, women,
Speaker 10: seemingly confident women will just simply tell you. And when
Speaker 10: they call you or tell you, you know, hey, I
Speaker 10: want to come over and it's ten or eleven o'clock
Speaker 10: at night, you kind of pretty much have an idea
Speaker 10: as to why you're getting together. Yeah you know, and
Speaker 10: that's but sometimes you don't know. But it's like, let's
Speaker 10: let's just be honest here. You know, we've been out
Speaker 10: for a couple of drinks and you ask me over
Speaker 10: and it's one thirty. Okay, we know why we're here.
Speaker 12: Yep.
Speaker 1: Usually I I am okay.
Speaker 17: I've had conversations with with girls that I know who
Speaker 17: they go on dating apps or they're like, oh, there's
Speaker 17: a cute guy over there. I'm like, listen, men are
Speaker 17: incredibly simple. You walk up to a guy, you tell
Speaker 17: him you like, and you tell him he's cute whatever,
Speaker 17: He's probably gonna respond pretty well.
Speaker 6: To that.
Speaker 17: And I get that women are just as afraid of
Speaker 17: rejection as men are, but I feel like men, more
Speaker 17: often than not, are probably going to respond pretty positively
Speaker 17: to a girl walking up to them because we're not
Speaker 17: used to having to do that, and like I said,
Speaker 17: we're incredibly simple. A girl walks up says you're cute,
Speaker 17: I might get a little scared at first, but I'm
Speaker 17: I'm gonna get over that.
Speaker 12: I'm gonna be way more scared to go up to bear.
Speaker 17: I'm just saying, man, it's it's scary, but if she
Speaker 17: comes up to me that that makes me feel a
Speaker 17: little less intimidated.
Speaker 2: Okay, what would you like her to say she comes
Speaker 2: up to you? Because here's the thing, Sean, I don't
Speaker 2: want you and Sterling to go over correct on this
Speaker 2: because men women want you to be assertive. It's a
Speaker 2: sign of confidence, it's a sign of courage.
Speaker 1: It's a sign of you.
Speaker 2: Being able to not be offended and get over it quickly,
Speaker 2: and and and that's all.
Speaker 1: All of that stuff is appealing.
Speaker 2: So I don't want you guys to think that women
Speaker 2: don't want that. But if a girl came up to
Speaker 2: you in a bar, what would be something if she
Speaker 2: said to you that that would be appealing.
Speaker 12: Sterling, you want to go first on this, Hey, what
Speaker 12: are you doing here?
Speaker 10: I mean I don't that's all you got.
Speaker 1: What are you doing here?
Speaker 2: Sean?
Speaker 5: You go?
Speaker 10: So you said what I would want her to say,
Speaker 10: or I.
Speaker 2: Want her to say to you? Sean said, if hello?
Speaker 10: I mean, I don't know what are you doing later?
Speaker 10: I mean what I want her to say?
Speaker 6: Yeah, I.
Speaker 10: Don't have anything in particular that I'm looking for necessarily,
Speaker 10: but I mean, if she's coming over and engaging in conversation,
Speaker 10: my guess is she's interested, or she wouldn't be coming
Speaker 10: over to talk. But I don't I don't necessarily have
Speaker 10: a menu of ideas that.
Speaker 1: I wanted to say less and so much.
Speaker 10: I mean, I mean, Sean, what about you? I mean,
Speaker 10: do you immediately do you have an idea as to
Speaker 10: what you want to be hearing from her? I mean,
Speaker 10: unless you're looking at her already, what.
Speaker 2: Would be what would be cool for her to say
Speaker 2: if she walked up to If she walked up to
Speaker 2: me and she just said, Hey, I saw you across
Speaker 2: the bar, I thought you were cute.
Speaker 12: I just wanted to come say hello, and introduce myself.
Speaker 17: If it was that plain and simple, I'd be like,
Speaker 17: this is amazing, this is a great start.
Speaker 12: Because I feel like that's probably what the donna. Can
Speaker 12: you help me with? Is that what women would want?
Speaker 12: If I walked up and I said that exactly.
Speaker 2: I was just going to say the same thing if
Speaker 2: any guy and I and they used to do it,
Speaker 2: used to do it, like I used to have guys
Speaker 2: come up to me as a tender and would say,
Speaker 2: would say just those things. Hey, I saw you across
Speaker 2: the room, you're you're really pretty, and I just wanted
Speaker 2: to come up and talk to you.
Speaker 1: And that works. It absolutely works.
Speaker 2: And guys don't do that anymore because of the Me
Speaker 2: Too movement. They don't ask women out. They don't know
Speaker 2: how to handle women. But I promise you if you
Speaker 2: went up to a girl and said that, she would
Speaker 2: be as receptive as you.
Speaker 17: Would be Sean. I think also the other thing, too,
Speaker 17: is this is the setting. You have to be in
Speaker 17: the right setting to do that, you know, Like I like,
Speaker 17: one thing that gets brought up in the dating world
Speaker 17: is like, oh, should you talk to your gym crush?
Speaker 17: And I've seen videos about this and people will walk
Speaker 17: up to girls at the gym and they're like, hey,
Speaker 17: would you want a guy to ask you out while
Speaker 17: you're working out?
Speaker 12: And it's so fifty to fifty? So that's setting? Is
Speaker 12: I just avoid that entirely.
Speaker 1: That is amazing.
Speaker 2: So if you walked up to a girl in the
Speaker 2: gym setting and you said, listen, I know this is awkward.
Speaker 1: This is awkward.
Speaker 2: I've seen the TikTok videos where it's fifty to fifty,
Speaker 2: but I have to say, I have to take a
Speaker 2: shot when I see it, and you are gorgeous? Do
Speaker 2: you have a boyfriend? Should I leave you alone? Should
Speaker 2: I never speak to you again?
Speaker 12: Door spotter?
Speaker 1: Right? Do you need a spotter? Because I'm available any
Speaker 1: What time do you come here? I mean, so you
Speaker 1: can women love comedy too.
Speaker 2: You can actually joke about it and say, I know
Speaker 2: this is super absurd and weird and stuff, but like,
Speaker 2: I don't come across many women that look like you,
Speaker 2: and I know it's a gym setting and you want
Speaker 2: to be left alone. But can can Is it okay
Speaker 2: if I just say that you're pretty? And can we
Speaker 2: can I get your Instagram? Because even the Instagram, even.
Speaker 1: The Instagram instead of your phone number is way cooler, right.
Speaker 12: I don't know.
Speaker 17: Does that play into the confidence thing, Like if I
Speaker 17: ask for a girl's phone number, does that make me
Speaker 17: seem more confident? Or do you think asking for the
Speaker 17: Instagram is a bit of a safer play.
Speaker 2: It's a safer play and it and also if you're
Speaker 2: in the gym where it's already fifty to fifty and
Speaker 2: women are like, I'm just here to work out. But
Speaker 2: if you because Sean, you're a good looking guy, if
Speaker 2: you walked up to a girl that was your equal
Speaker 2: in terms of looks and age and everything, and you're
Speaker 2: both working out, I think you would have a very
Speaker 2: good shot of getting her Instagram and then you message,
Speaker 2: and then you talk a little bit and then you
Speaker 2: get her number.
Speaker 12: Yeah, well there is a girl in my gym that
Speaker 12: is like that, I think.
Speaker 17: So I don't know. Maybe she's out of my league,
Speaker 17: but I'm here to help you. I've been debating this
Speaker 17: for weeks, so maybe I don't know. Maybe I've been
Speaker 17: getting signs from the universe to tray.
Speaker 2: There's one for you. There's one for you. You could
Speaker 2: have asked Vicky, she was here all night. I can't
Speaker 2: believe it's time to go. You're gonna shoot me in
Speaker 2: a minute, Sterling. The big what are you doing for
Speaker 2: the big game tomorrow? Bengals and Bills. It's gonna be
Speaker 2: a good one.
Speaker 10: You're gonna sit quietly in the house mine in my
Speaker 10: own business, just focused at what I'm doing. Here's the
Speaker 10: one simple thing. If you're out somewhere, though, and if
Speaker 10: you see a woman and she may or may not
Speaker 10: be with the guy, let's just say, and she looks
Speaker 10: like she's not having the best of time to take
Speaker 10: if you could find like either a napkin or a
Speaker 10: sugar pack or something like that, you say, drop the zero,
Speaker 10: get with the hero, and then you give it to
Speaker 10: her and then you see if she comes back over
Speaker 10: how that's going. I did do that and it did
Speaker 10: work out.
Speaker 2: Or Sean, you can do if you want to come
Speaker 2: on a date with me and leave that guy behind,
Speaker 2: check this box yes or no. Gosh, Sterling, you are
Speaker 2: the best. Sean McMahon, thank you so much. Have a
Speaker 2: great rest of your night. Is Stanade.
Speaker 1: I am out of here.
Speaker 2: Go Bengals, come in for the big win tomorrow and
Speaker 2: we'll see you next week, right, Sterling, We're on Saturday.
Speaker 10: Yeah, Saturday, I think six to nine, and I'll be
Speaker 10: on Friday night too, or on Monday night.
Speaker 1: Holy crap, them all over.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you're all over. So my seven hundred WLW. Thank
Speaker 2: you so much. Cincinnati,