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Speaker 1: A variety from the two thousands, the nineties, and today

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Speaker 1: star one on one three. It's Marcus back with second

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Speaker 1: Date update, literally trying to help you find love. The

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Speaker 1: more I talk to people about dating, the more treacherous

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Speaker 1: I hear that it is. So we're here to help.

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Speaker 1: If you go on a first date and let's say

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Speaker 1: you're date ghosts, we will call them with you on

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Speaker 1: the line to try to figure things out, see why

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Speaker 1: they might have ghosted you. You know, sometimes it works

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Speaker 1: out in a second date. Let's se if we can

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Speaker 1: get that done for our guy him. Are you there?

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Speaker 1: I am, Hey, Hey, so I want to hear all

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Speaker 1: about this date. Tell me about Eli. How'd you guys meet?

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Speaker 1: And then what'd you guys do for your first date?

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Speaker 1: All right?

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Speaker 2: Well, we we met on grinder, okay, but it wasn't

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Speaker 2: an immediate meet we like, it wasn't like a right away.

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Speaker 2: We talked for a little bit and then we met

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Speaker 2: a couple of days later for tacos and margaritos.

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Speaker 1: Okay, because it's currently if I'm wrong with like, Grinder

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Speaker 1: can be immediate, right, it can be like sitting ten

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Speaker 1: feet to your left. Let's go.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, pretty much that's what grinder grinder usually is.

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Speaker 3: Okay, but I don't know.

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Speaker 2: We we got to chat him, and we decided that

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Speaker 2: we wanted to see if it would be more than

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Speaker 2: just kind.

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Speaker 4: Of a.

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Speaker 1: Grinder slow play. How often does this happen? Not very Okay, So,

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Speaker 1: how was the d.

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Speaker 2: I mean it was really it was really awesome when

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Speaker 2: we both love musical theater and we both we both

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Speaker 2: cry at the last ten.

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Speaker 1: Minutes of so go. I mean, who doesn't, right, Yeah?

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Speaker 2: No, I thought he was really sweet and funny and

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Speaker 2: like he was really honest. We we really we really

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Speaker 2: had a lot to talk about.

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Speaker 1: Okay. Well, and he just ghosted, just gone.

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Speaker 2: He just ghosted. I haven't heard from him.

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Speaker 1: Huh. All right, let's call him. I mean, that's why

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Speaker 1: we're here. We're gonna call him. We're gonna have you

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Speaker 1: on the line. Have you been on second update before? No,

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Speaker 1: I have not. This is exciting. Okay, all right, hang

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Speaker 1: on the line. We're gonna play a song. Let's regroup.

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Speaker 1: You've got him on the phone. He was telling me

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Speaker 1: about his date with Eli. They met on on grinder

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Speaker 1: and connected for an actual date a couple of days later.

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Speaker 1: I mean, we were laughing, because like grinder is typically immediate,

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Speaker 1: it's typically like a like a homing device almost it is.

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Speaker 1: It is.

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Speaker 2: It's more like a hey, what are you into.

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Speaker 1: Right now in the moment, I'm on your left something

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Speaker 1: like that.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm on your left. Here, here's a picture of

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Speaker 2: my junk.

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Speaker 1: All right, Well you know what we're breaking dround. You

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Speaker 1: guys went out. It was tacos. It was in Oakland,

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Speaker 1: and you guys both love musical theater. I wrote it down,

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Speaker 1: you said, the conversation felt honest. The problem is Eli

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Speaker 1: has ghosted, So let's call him and try to figure

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Speaker 1: some things out. Okay, go ahead and mut your phone.

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Speaker 1: Here we go.

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Speaker 3: Okay, Hello, Hello, May I speak to Eli?

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Speaker 1: Please? This is him Eli. This is Marcus from Star

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Speaker 1: one on one three iHeartRadio.

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Speaker 3: Okay, what is there?

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Speaker 4: Did I win our conscious with him?

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Speaker 1: You don't listen to the morning show?

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Speaker 4: Do you heavy down there? But not like often?

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Speaker 1: Not religiously. Okay, we're doing second date update right now?

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Speaker 1: Does that mean anything to you?

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Speaker 4: It does not?

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Speaker 1: Okay, So I got a call from a gentleman that

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Speaker 1: you went out with not too long ago, went out

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Speaker 1: with for for tacos and his name's Hyman. He's saying

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Speaker 1: that you ghosted him, and I'm just calling kind of

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Speaker 1: on his behalf to try to figure out why if

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Speaker 1: you ghosted A and B, what happened? Did you ghost?

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Speaker 5: Yeah?

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Speaker 4: I did?

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Speaker 1: Okay, did he do something wrong?

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Speaker 4: I mean, honestly, I'll say that the date was fun, but.

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Speaker 1: Because so so here's what he told me. He told

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Speaker 1: me that, like and I wrote it again. He told

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Speaker 1: me that the date felt really honest.

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Speaker 4: So that's the problem.

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Speaker 5: It was too honest, Like but he was literally he

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Speaker 5: was talking about like.

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Speaker 4: Planning ahead, like his few games. He gave me his five.

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Speaker 5: Year plan, and it was like when he meets the

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Speaker 5: right guy, he wants to get married, he wants to

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Speaker 5: have like a house in Berkeley, he wants two.

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Speaker 6: Dogs, a share closet. Like he was telling me all

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Speaker 6: that before we ordered Cato, and then he reached over

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Speaker 6: and like touched my wrists and said, I can tell

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Speaker 6: you fall in love quickly as well. And I'm like, no,

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Speaker 6: I don't. Like I mean, don't get me wrong.

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Speaker 5: He was a nice guy. He's attractive. Like the conversation

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Speaker 5: was good, but like it was just intense, like really intense.

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Speaker 5: He kept correcting my spanness. Like when I was ordering something,

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Speaker 5: he would like correct me, which I thought was kind

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Speaker 5: of annoying.

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Speaker 1: Oh I wasn't ask you if annoying? All right?

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Speaker 5: The first time was cute, but the second time I

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Speaker 5: was like, Okay, I get it. Spanish isn't my first language.

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Speaker 5: Like this is getting kind of a bit much.

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Speaker 1: Right, okay, So basically like he was too fast, too furious, kind.

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Speaker 5: Of yeah, like he was telling me about like what

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Speaker 5: the dog's names would be just a.

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Speaker 1: Lot, sure hear. The thing about it is is that

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Speaker 1: time is actually listening right now. We'll try to use

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Speaker 1: this as a teachable moment. Sorry, I'd love to bring

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Speaker 1: him on, if that's okay, sure him? Are you there?

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Speaker 6: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Hey, Hi, so, uh you can see how this might

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Speaker 1: be a little bit accelerated.

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Speaker 2: Right, Yeah, I mean, I mean I was joking kind of.

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Speaker 2: I mean, you know, as I said, grinder is usually

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Speaker 2: wham bam, but since we were actually going on dates,

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Speaker 2: I figured it would be funny to joke about, Hey,

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Speaker 2: we've done the whole get grinder, immediacly, and now we're

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Speaker 2: clearly ready for a future together.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 4: I mean, I'm gonna be honest with you it didn't

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Speaker 4: seem jokingly to me, Like it seemed like you were

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Speaker 4: just genuinely looking for like something more and I'm just

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Speaker 4: trying to have fun. I'm not looking at that road

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Speaker 4: on the road. I'm not looking for relationship or dating

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Speaker 4: or a boyfriend or anything like you're on like a

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Speaker 4: whole other level. And I respect that you're honest about

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Speaker 4: whatever you're looking for, but I am not, in any way,

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Speaker 4: shape or form, I'm looking for any type of commitment

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Speaker 4: or anything like that at all.

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Speaker 2: Okay, I don't think that's too bad because I thought,

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Speaker 2: you know, if we were actually meeting up and having

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Speaker 2: a conversation instead of getting right to make and stuff.

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Speaker 4: I mean, sometimes I just want to get dinner, but

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Speaker 4: like I don't want to, but you were really just

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Speaker 4: pushing it.

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Speaker 1: Man.

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Speaker 5: It just seems like you're really looking.

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Speaker 4: For that guy, and I hope you find it, but

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Speaker 4: it's just I can't be that guy.

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Speaker 1: All right? Hang on you two? Yeah, going nowhere? Second date?

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Speaker 1: Update back again tomorrow morning right after seven o'clock. You

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Speaker 1: can binge listen. That'll be up with the rest of them.

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Speaker 1: It's got a podcast on the iHeartRadio app. You can

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Speaker 1: set a preset, love you for it,