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Speaker 2: It's The Joe Shows. Am I the A Hole? In

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Speaker 2: ninety three three fl z Hi Zoe Hi Hi so Zoe.

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Speaker 1: Jed kind of filled me in on what you're going

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Speaker 1: through right now. And well, on Monday, obviously it's a

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Speaker 1: it's a holiday, and your boyfriend wants to do what

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Speaker 1: with his family?

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Speaker 3: Well, he wants us to visit his family, Okay, And

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Speaker 3: I'm wondering, yeah, and I'm wondering if I'm a terrible

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Speaker 3: person because I don't want to go.

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Speaker 2: And you told him that, right? He got pretty mad?

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Speaker 3: Oh yeah, no, no, no, I said this time, you know what, No,

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Speaker 3: I'm passing. This is I'm I'm I'm playing my card.

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Speaker 3: I'm saying we're not doing it this time.

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Speaker 1: Why uh?

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Speaker 3: If I can be honest, it really sucks like you've

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Speaker 3: been putting up with it. We've been dating for like

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Speaker 3: three years. I've been putting up with it. But I

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Speaker 3: just I'm not going to spend my holiday with his family.

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Speaker 3: We we've we've done, we did Christmas with them, and

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Speaker 3: I'm putting my foot down here.

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Speaker 1: Eight hundred four nine ninety three, ninety three. What do

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Speaker 1: you think? Do you do you not like your significant

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Speaker 1: others family? Uh? Do you find yourself in Zoe's spot?

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Speaker 1: Sometimes eight hundred four and nine ninety three ninety three.

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Speaker 1: Maybe maybe you know you hear this and you think, Okay,

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Speaker 1: Zoe might have made the wrong decision. You know, talk

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Speaker 1: some sense into her if you feel that way. You

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Speaker 1: look very passionate about this whole entire thing when you.

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Speaker 4: Yes, because I love me some me time, and it

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Speaker 4: is okay to have him go be with his family.

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Speaker 4: You already say like, hey, I'm wait. Have you told

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Speaker 4: him you're not a fan of his family? You said

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Speaker 4: you spend Christmas with them? Like, let me just have

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Speaker 4: this one weekend. And to myself, I don't think you're

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Speaker 4: in the wrong by not wanting to spend time with

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Speaker 4: his family, especially if you go and spend a lot

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Speaker 4: of time with them already as is, Nah, it's okay,

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Speaker 4: you gotta He's just got to own it and like, yo,

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Speaker 4: I'll just go with my family this weekend, eat by yourself.

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Speaker 2: He's got to respect that, Katie honesty.

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Speaker 1: What is the relationship like with you and Sean your

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Speaker 1: fiance's parents, it's good.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, they're great.

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Speaker 5: We go over there quite often, like to hang out,

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Speaker 5: take the dogs over there so the puppies can play.

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Speaker 5: But we do like rotate holidays, rotate, you know, weekend stuff.

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Speaker 5: You know, you know you went there last weekend, maybe

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Speaker 5: this weekend you stay home to keep.

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Speaker 2: The balance, you know.

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Speaker 4: Has there ever been a moment where he's like, yeah,

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Speaker 4: we gotta go hang out with my family.

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Speaker 2: You're like, oh, I don't want to do it this weekend.

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Speaker 2: I just can't. If it's not that.

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Speaker 5: I don't want to, but if I have stuff to do,

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Speaker 5: I'll just be like, you know, you can go solo

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Speaker 2: And then how does he like give you, like now

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Speaker 2: not all Zoe's like lucky.

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Speaker 5: You are being pressured.

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Speaker 6: Zoe.

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Speaker 5: Can you just like be like, oh, you know, I

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Speaker 5: don't have bandwidth for this right now?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah exactly. It's like his cousin is she's she's

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Speaker 3: graduating from high school this year, and he wants to

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Speaker 3: like really make a big deal because she's the first

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Speaker 3: person in this family to do this and I'm just like,

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Speaker 3: that's that's wonderful for her, But I don't see how

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Speaker 3: that makes it my responsibility to.

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Speaker 6: Be there celebrated.

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Speaker 2: He's going to be fine with out of especially if

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Speaker 2: you hate correctly. The pressure would make me annoyed.

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Speaker 1: Thank you, uh, thank you Zoe for bringing this tired attention,

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Speaker 1: because it sounds like there's a lot of people that

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Speaker 1: potentially are going through.

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Speaker 2: This or maybe they have.

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Speaker 1: Questions for you. Let's talk to Brenda, who does have

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Speaker 1: a question. So we just found out and Zoe just

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Speaker 1: to make sure. So it's like a celebration of a

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Speaker 3: I mean, it's one of the many things. I feel

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Speaker 3: like his family have to celebrate everything.

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Speaker 2: And that is.

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Speaker 1: Exactly Yeah. Here, Brenda, go ahead and talk to Zoe.

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Speaker 3: Well, Zoe, I just had a question. Is there any

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Speaker 3: other story behind it?

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Speaker 1: Why you don't want to go?

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Speaker 2: Seems like it.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, Like like I said, they kind of they have

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Speaker 3: to celebrate everything. And then I feel like, I don't.

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Speaker 3: I don't even really know this girl, So why why

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Speaker 3: do I have to be there for the celebration? I

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Speaker 3: I don't. I don't want to be. I feel like

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Speaker 3: there's a pressure for me to be there and show up,

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Speaker 3: and I just want to I just want to have

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Speaker 3: a weekend to us. I just want to relax. Have

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Speaker 3: you tell him, do you just want to have time

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Speaker 3: for you too?

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Speaker 2: Oh?

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Speaker 3: Yes, I've made it very clear, and I think I'm

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Speaker 3: going to win. I think I'm going to win this time.

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Speaker 3: But I also don't want to I don't want to

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Speaker 3: be I don't want to be in the jerk.

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Speaker 4: Yeah.

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Speaker 3: If if I'm in the wrong here, I don't think

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Speaker 3: you went wrong.

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Speaker 1: Thank you, Brenda. Here's here's my thing. And we talked

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Speaker 1: about it. A couple of months ago. My mom was

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Speaker 1: diagnosed with varying cancer and my my grandmother. I never

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Speaker 1: got to meet her because she died of cancer. And

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Speaker 1: my dad, you know, had always told me because that

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Speaker 1: was his mom always told me like you never really

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Speaker 1: know like when that time is done.

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Speaker 2: Family is very very very important to me.

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Speaker 1: And you know, like my my fiance, especially over the holidays,

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Speaker 1: kind of had like a tough situation with her brothers.

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Speaker 1: I think that the three of them were just like

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Speaker 1: going through their own things. So then they kind of

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Speaker 1: had like arguments and stuff, and and what it was

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Speaker 1: was causing strain on you know, her her mom, because

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Speaker 1: her mom wanted to have everyone like in the same house,

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Speaker 1: like getting along with each other and I like because

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Speaker 1: of how I am with my family, Like I don't

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Speaker 1: like cry, right, I don't ever want to say goodbye

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Speaker 1: to my mom. I don't ever want to say goodbye

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Speaker 1: to my dad, like I want to be with them

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Speaker 1: at all times. So to me, I want, you know,

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Speaker 1: my fiance to really understand, like these are your brothers.

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Speaker 2: God gave you two of them. He's not going to

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Speaker 2: give you more unless you know.

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Speaker 1: Uh, Tony decides to get a little freaking with someone

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Speaker 1: I don't know, but like, you know, this is who

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Speaker 1: you have, so like I don't know. To me, like

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Speaker 1: even if I don't want to go, because there are

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Speaker 1: times I don't want to go over there, like I'm

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Speaker 1: tired too, I still go and I'll just like chill

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Speaker 1: on the couch and just do my own thing, just

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Speaker 1: because I do think it's important he spends time with

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Speaker 1: not only his family. But maybe I don't know, if

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Speaker 1: you see yourself long term with it, was probably for

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Speaker 1: the best you do it.

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Speaker 2: Then again, Ashley doesn't.

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Speaker 4: Care, so I know, Yeah, save those tears.

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Speaker 1: Let's go to Lauren because Lauren says you're not the

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Speaker 1: a hole and I like that.

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Speaker 2: Go ahead, Lauren, Well.

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Speaker 6: Don't know what you just said. You're making me racing right.

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Speaker 2: To speak your truth.

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Speaker 4: You have my bed.

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Speaker 6: Girl, Come on, what I was gonna say is I

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Speaker 6: think it's okay that you know, you guys take a

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Speaker 6: weekend without family. I don't think every waking minute that

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Speaker 6: you guys have free you needs to be spent with family.

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Speaker 6: But I would try to make it less about like

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Speaker 6: you not liking the family and you not wanting to

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Speaker 6: see them, and try to make it like a hey,

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Speaker 6: why don't we do something. Let's plan it. Like I

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Speaker 6: would just plan something for the long weekend and just

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Speaker 6: tell them, Hey, this is what we're doing. I've got planned.

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Speaker 2: Is it too Is it too late to do that

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Speaker 2: the long weekends? Now?

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Speaker 7: Yeah?

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Speaker 6: No, are you joking? I can plan a long weekend

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Speaker 6: in like twenty minutes.

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Speaker 1: Girl, what are we doing? I like it, Lauren, Thank

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Speaker 1: you so much. This is one of these things where

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Speaker 1: I do feel like we could spend eight thousand years

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Speaker 1: on But at the end of the day, Zoe, it

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Speaker 1: said's your decision, and maybe you could come on next

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Speaker 1: week and tell us what happened.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, Oh, I like this vacation idea. I think that's

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Speaker 3: a really good ankle all right, because I mean, like, yeah,

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Speaker 3: we do get some time to ourselves exactly.

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Speaker 1: We'll figure it out. Zoe, love you and thank you

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Speaker 1: so much for calling in.

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Speaker 4: Guys, enjoy your self care weekend.

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Speaker 2: Actually, this is hey.

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Speaker 1: Now that she now that she's off, Yeah, it's nice

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Speaker 1: now that she's off. I really hope her boyfriend's mom doesn't.

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Speaker 7: Yeah, if if, if it did, Hello, unidentified uh mother,

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Speaker 7: that was you know, she didn't mean what she said.

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Speaker 2: How about that?

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Speaker 1: Hey, pick a fun throwback. I want a fun throwback

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Speaker 1: right now. It's Friday, it's cold, so I want to what.

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Speaker 2: That's a tasty one right there. Man.

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