WEBVTT - When Do You Call Back? 0:00:00.120 --> 0:00:04.160 All right, it is Mojo in the morning. Uh. 0:00:04.280 --> 0:00:06.280 The phone number eight four to four Mojo Live eight 0:00:06.320 --> 0:00:09.320 four four six six five six five four eight. The 0:00:09.480 --> 0:00:13.200 text is nine to five five zero zero. 0:00:14.480 --> 0:00:14.960 Alright. 0:00:15.160 --> 0:00:21.840 So I was having a conversation with a female friend 0:00:21.840 --> 0:00:25.640 of Chelsea's and we were talking about we're talking about dating, 0:00:25.840 --> 0:00:28.600 and we were talking about second Date Update and talking 0:00:28.600 --> 0:00:30.120 about the show and stuff like that and some of 0:00:30.120 --> 0:00:32.199 the craziest second date updates that we've had and if 0:00:32.200 --> 0:00:35.240 you'd never heard second Date Update before, second Date Update 0:00:35.320 --> 0:00:37.080 is on our show where if you're not getting a 0:00:37.120 --> 0:00:38.919 call back after you went on a date with somebody, 0:00:39.440 --> 0:00:42.240 you know, we will call them and try to get 0:00:42.280 --> 0:00:46.360 their you know, involvement with you know, coming on our 0:00:46.400 --> 0:00:48.320 show as a way to find out why they're not 0:00:48.360 --> 0:00:50.960 calling you back. And usually there's always some kind of 0:00:50.960 --> 0:00:53.159 a weird situation from the ones that you you hear 0:00:53.240 --> 0:00:57.160 of that one. And we were talking about when do 0:00:57.240 --> 0:01:00.000 you call back after a date? And I always remember 0:01:00.760 --> 0:01:03.120 when I was dating, as there was the three day 0:01:03.320 --> 0:01:06.280 or the three day rule that when you go on 0:01:06.360 --> 0:01:09.880 a date with somebody, and this was please only explain something. 0:01:09.880 --> 0:01:11.640 I've been in a relationship for a long time. There 0:01:11.680 --> 0:01:13.160 was no dating apps at the time that I was 0:01:13.160 --> 0:01:16.000 in a relationship, let alone, there was not as much 0:01:16.040 --> 0:01:19.000 technology that was out there. We had cell phones, yes, okay, 0:01:19.240 --> 0:01:21.720 but we did not have what we have right now, 0:01:21.959 --> 0:01:26.880 which is basically an instant way to get the P. Nowadays, 0:01:27.000 --> 0:01:29.880 you can get P if you want and a man 0:01:30.000 --> 0:01:34.240 right penis or you know what. So there was the 0:01:34.360 --> 0:01:37.360 three day rule before you would call back when I 0:01:37.440 --> 0:01:39.480 was doing this, and I was talking to her about that, 0:01:39.520 --> 0:01:42.720 because she's like around my age actually, probably about six 0:01:42.840 --> 0:01:46.000 years younger than me, and she said, yeah, I remember that. 0:01:46.040 --> 0:01:48.360 I used to do the three day rule all the time. 0:01:48.560 --> 0:01:50.920 You'd go on a date on a Friday and you 0:01:50.920 --> 0:01:53.680 wouldn't call the person back until Monday or Tuesday. You 0:01:53.760 --> 0:01:55.640 never wanted to be the first one to call back, 0:01:55.680 --> 0:01:58.160 and you never would wait. And so we were having 0:01:58.160 --> 0:02:02.000 this conversation and she said, well, that's all old school. Nowadays, 0:02:02.200 --> 0:02:05.240 she says that the new approach is as soon as 0:02:05.320 --> 0:02:09.080 you're interested, you call, and if you're the woman interested, 0:02:09.360 --> 0:02:12.320 you call. You don't wait for him to call, because 0:02:12.320 --> 0:02:14.560 if you're waiting for him to call, he's got too 0:02:14.639 --> 0:02:16.960 much P to be able to find in the meantime 0:02:17.000 --> 0:02:20.320 between your date and the next p that he goes 0:02:20.360 --> 0:02:20.760 out there. 0:02:20.680 --> 0:02:23.480 And he goes and gets that reason, if you're interested, 0:02:23.480 --> 0:02:24.320 why are you wasting time? 0:02:24.400 --> 0:02:27.680 Exactly? Basically, she said, you snooze, you lose. 0:02:28.400 --> 0:02:31.120 So I wanted to ask some questions, and I want 0:02:31.120 --> 0:02:34.400 to ask some people like you guys. Well you Anna 0:02:34.639 --> 0:02:40.119 and Lydia And that's it because Kevin, Yes, Kevin too, Yes, 0:02:40.160 --> 0:02:41.160 I forgot about it, Kevi. 0:02:41.440 --> 0:02:42.720 Kevin's a single guy. Yes. 0:02:42.919 --> 0:02:45.760 I usually like to ask the women questions because I 0:02:45.919 --> 0:02:49.360 don't know. I like, Lydia's not in a relationship, I 0:02:49.400 --> 0:02:51.399 asked her in a relationship? 0:02:52.919 --> 0:02:56.679 Really? Yes? Wait, wait cald On a second, you're in 0:02:56.720 --> 0:02:57.440 a relationship? 0:02:57.600 --> 0:02:58.000 Yes? 0:02:58.200 --> 0:03:01.520 Are you guys official? I don't really know, are you 0:03:01.600 --> 0:03:05.240 Facebook official? I asked you last night you were going 0:03:05.280 --> 0:03:08.280 to going off and I'm married. 0:03:08.000 --> 0:03:10.079 If I was going to church with Bianca Bryce, And. 0:03:10.040 --> 0:03:11.959 I said, does Andy ever go to church with you? 0:03:12.040 --> 0:03:14.079 And you said no, no he doesn't. 0:03:14.200 --> 0:03:16.960 Well he needs to go to church with you. Yeah, Andy, 0:03:17.000 --> 0:03:18.840 if you're listening, you need to go to church. That 0:03:18.880 --> 0:03:22.600 would be a very nice gesture on your if you haven't. 0:03:22.639 --> 0:03:24.800 And Bryce is a man to go to church with 0:03:24.919 --> 0:03:26.679 you kid, just be going with the two miss. 0:03:26.600 --> 0:03:28.000 On a difficult time, you guys. 0:03:28.240 --> 0:03:31.920 I saw last night on Lydia's social media that she 0:03:32.040 --> 0:03:35.800 was third wheeling it with Bianca and her boyfriend Bryce. 0:03:35.840 --> 0:03:38.080 All right, then I'll ask you. I'm going to ask Anna. 0:03:38.200 --> 0:03:41.320 And Kevin these questions too, because they're no, I'm not 0:03:41.320 --> 0:03:43.880 going to ask you, just say you can ask her. 0:03:44.040 --> 0:03:44.760 Okay? All right? 0:03:45.280 --> 0:03:49.120 So here here are my questions. If you're a single person, 0:03:50.000 --> 0:03:51.760 what do you do as far as when you wait 0:03:51.840 --> 0:03:56.920 to call back after a date? How long do you 0:03:57.000 --> 0:03:59.160 wait to reach out? That's one question I want to ask. 0:03:59.880 --> 0:04:03.720 Is waiting a power move or is it a red flag? 0:04:03.880 --> 0:04:06.920 That's another question I wanted to ask. Another question that 0:04:06.960 --> 0:04:09.760 we came up with was does calling too fast make 0:04:09.800 --> 0:04:16.479 you look desperate? Should a woman now call first or 0:04:16.520 --> 0:04:19.440 should she wait old fashioned for the guy to call back? 0:04:20.480 --> 0:04:22.560 And then you know, ask some questions like have you 0:04:22.560 --> 0:04:24.400 ever been lost in the mix, you know, by not 0:04:24.520 --> 0:04:28.080 calling or by calling too soon? Com answering you, guys, 0:04:28.080 --> 0:04:32.400 So you go on a date, you guys, have you 0:04:32.440 --> 0:04:33.279 know you're done? 0:04:33.440 --> 0:04:36.560 It's Friday night? Are you calling back Saturday? Or what 0:04:36.560 --> 0:04:39.039 are you doing? Kevin? I feel like it depends on 0:04:39.080 --> 0:04:40.240 how good the day was. 0:04:40.839 --> 0:04:42.240 Yeah, let's see you're very. 0:04:43.960 --> 0:04:47.040 Yeah, if it went great, then I'm probably checking on 0:04:47.120 --> 0:04:49.960 you to make sure you got home. If you didn't 0:04:50.000 --> 0:04:52.680 stay over, okay, And if you did stay over and 0:04:52.720 --> 0:04:55.560 you lift, then I'm probably sending like, you know. 0:04:55.800 --> 0:04:58.080 Are you checking on making sure she went home that night, 0:04:58.240 --> 0:05:00.320 that she leaves or that morning she I want to 0:05:00.320 --> 0:05:01.880 make sure you got to your destination? 0:05:02.000 --> 0:05:03.840 Okay, that's right, you got in like every case. 0:05:03.839 --> 0:05:07.280 Maybe what if she calls you as a guy right 0:05:07.320 --> 0:05:09.839 away and calls you fast, like on her way home, 0:05:09.920 --> 0:05:11.880 like nine am. You get a phone call from her, 0:05:11.880 --> 0:05:13.919 you know what I mean or something. Yeah, she was 0:05:13.960 --> 0:05:18.080 probably really feeling the key. Well okay, she was probably 0:05:18.080 --> 0:05:22.599 really feeling me. Okay, and then yeah that's good too. 0:05:23.240 --> 0:05:25.920 What about what about if she doesn't pick up your 0:05:25.920 --> 0:05:27.760 phone calls right away you think she's playing with you? 0:05:28.040 --> 0:05:28.200 Nah? 0:05:28.480 --> 0:05:29.080 No, just wait? 0:05:29.120 --> 0:05:31.360 Does she respond back? Okay? Anna? What do you do? 0:05:31.480 --> 0:05:34.279 I wouldn't call right at nine am and probably wouldn't 0:05:34.279 --> 0:05:36.839 text either, But if I did really like them, I 0:05:36.839 --> 0:05:39.880 would try to find something that happened on our date 0:05:39.920 --> 0:05:43.479 the night before and like bring that up in conversation, 0:05:43.680 --> 0:05:47.279 like maybe we were talking about how much I loved popcorn, 0:05:47.400 --> 0:05:49.400 and like I was sitting down to eat popcorn, I'd 0:05:49.400 --> 0:05:52.120 be like, oh, I was thinking about you or something 0:05:52.200 --> 0:05:54.280 like that. Yeah, you know what I'm saying, Like, I 0:05:54.360 --> 0:05:55.800 just want to keep I want to be top of 0:05:55.880 --> 0:05:58.760 mind if I really like you, But I'm definitely not 0:05:58.800 --> 0:05:59.520 waiting three. 0:05:59.400 --> 0:06:01.800 Days's funny you bring up that at like popcorn, I 0:06:01.800 --> 0:06:04.480 would always figure out something that came up on the 0:06:04.560 --> 0:06:07.560 date that night and send it to them the next 0:06:07.640 --> 0:06:09.560 day if I could, or drop it off at their 0:06:09.560 --> 0:06:12.160 house as a reason to go and see. But that 0:06:12.240 --> 0:06:15.560 came across kind of desperate sometimes too. Oh yes, drop 0:06:15.600 --> 0:06:18.640 it off, I would, yeah, because that's crazy. 0:06:18.880 --> 0:06:21.640 I mean, I love flowers and you sent me flowers. 0:06:21.640 --> 0:06:23.680 That's different. If that's different. 0:06:23.760 --> 0:06:25.880 But what if it's not going to come off desperate 0:06:26.279 --> 0:06:28.640 regardless of what you do. If you like the person, 0:06:29.400 --> 0:06:30.560 they're going to think it's cute. 0:06:30.360 --> 0:06:33.599 But don't and don't show up at their house, and that. 0:06:35.800 --> 0:06:36.839 Crazy, that's creepy. 0:06:37.080 --> 0:06:39.040 Let me ask this question. 0:06:39.279 --> 0:06:44.640 Has anybody ever lost someone like literally lost to another 0:06:44.680 --> 0:06:48.040 person because you didn't want to look too desperate by 0:06:48.040 --> 0:06:50.440 calling right away and you found out that they instantly 0:06:50.440 --> 0:06:51.720 started talking to somebody else. 0:06:52.560 --> 0:06:53.680 If that's the case, call us up. 0:06:53.880 --> 0:06:55.920 This happened with me and Bryce in the beginning of 0:06:56.000 --> 0:06:58.000 last year when he first came into the studio and 0:06:58.080 --> 0:07:00.360 I met him, and I would I was just too 0:07:00.400 --> 0:07:02.360 scared to talk to him first. I wasn't really trying 0:07:02.360 --> 0:07:05.200 to show like interest because I wanted him to show 0:07:05.200 --> 0:07:06.680 me interest. And then I haven't talked to him for 0:07:06.720 --> 0:07:09.600 the full year until later on love last year is 0:07:09.640 --> 0:07:11.080 when I was like, all right, I don't care anymore. 0:07:11.080 --> 0:07:13.120 This is stupid. And then now we're dating. 0:07:13.000 --> 0:07:16.200 And then you picked up the phone and that's it. Yeah, 0:07:16.200 --> 0:07:18.720 which is interesting because you have to in your you know, 0:07:18.840 --> 0:07:21.200 culture with the guys. Sometimes you don't want to come 0:07:21.200 --> 0:07:22.320 across too yeah. 0:07:22.440 --> 0:07:23.840 Or I was trying to play hard to get or 0:07:23.840 --> 0:07:25.760 I was like a man should come on me first, 0:07:25.920 --> 0:07:26.440 and then. 0:07:26.360 --> 0:07:28.480 Oh yeah, I was just like, it's. 0:07:28.320 --> 0:07:28.880 Never that deep. 0:07:28.960 --> 0:07:32.040 Can I also say this too, though, this is interesting. 0:07:32.120 --> 0:07:35.520 A lot of times when you're Caldan from my Keldan friends, 0:07:36.040 --> 0:07:39.040 you don't want to date somebody like your age or 0:07:39.440 --> 0:07:42.400 his age right now, because once you start dating now, 0:07:42.480 --> 0:07:44.120 you don't look at that as a future. 0:07:44.200 --> 0:07:45.640 You look at that as just the now. 0:07:46.160 --> 0:07:50.360 Well, no, I think it's how you intend to date someone. 0:07:50.480 --> 0:07:53.120 If you date someone with intention of marrying them, no 0:07:53.120 --> 0:07:55.320 matter how old you are, I feel like, if you 0:07:55.360 --> 0:07:57.120 want to marry them, you'll marry them. I don't think 0:07:57.480 --> 0:07:58.280 age should. 0:07:58.040 --> 0:08:00.000 Matter well a lot of times a lot of times, 0:08:00.080 --> 0:08:02.480 So isn't it just Hey, I'm looking for something for 0:08:02.840 --> 0:08:03.440 my twenties. 0:08:03.520 --> 0:08:03.760 You can. 0:08:03.880 --> 0:08:06.360 You can be twenty five and date someone I always 0:08:06.360 --> 0:08:07.880 want to hook up. I want short term or he 0:08:07.880 --> 0:08:10.520 could be his age nineteen or twenty and be like, 0:08:10.560 --> 0:08:13.280 I want to marry you. Let's see to marry. 0:08:13.560 --> 0:08:15.960 Does a nineteen or twenty year old look to date 0:08:16.000 --> 0:08:18.800 to marry? Well? Better be because I thought that was 0:08:18.800 --> 0:08:19.880 something that didn't happen. 0:08:21.240 --> 0:08:22.840 So head over heels in love with him? 0:08:23.040 --> 0:08:26.240 Well, I were locked in yesterday at Mass, like their 0:08:26.360 --> 0:08:29.200 hands were interlocked the entire time and we were in 0:08:29.240 --> 0:08:31.360 there for two hours. I was like, when you know 0:08:31.400 --> 0:08:32.920 what you want, you know what you want, it's not 0:08:33.800 --> 0:08:35.880 there's no games. I feel like, if you have your 0:08:36.120 --> 0:08:39.360 communications straight, your intentions straight, it doesn't matter what age 0:08:39.360 --> 0:08:39.680 you are. 0:08:39.800 --> 0:08:41.640 If he tries to break up with you, will you 0:08:41.760 --> 0:08:43.320 kill him and cut him up in little pieces. 0:08:43.800 --> 0:08:45.640 Yep, and I'll show him up to his house and 0:08:45.760 --> 0:08:47.000 I'm gonna blast him everywhere. 0:08:47.440 --> 0:08:50.199 As she went to church with him last night. Danny, 0:08:50.240 --> 0:08:55.439 what's up? Danny? Good morning? What's going on? Were you 0:08:55.480 --> 0:08:56.040 at then? 0:08:56.120 --> 0:08:58.440 I just wanted to I'm at Big B getting my 0:08:58.440 --> 0:08:59.280 coffee before. 0:08:59.400 --> 0:09:03.920 Me may make it. I'm sorry, I forgive what's going on? 0:09:04.400 --> 0:09:05.440 I just wanted to say. 0:09:05.480 --> 0:09:08.240 You guys are making dating way too complicated. If you 0:09:08.280 --> 0:09:10.440 go on a date, you like the person, call them, 0:09:10.480 --> 0:09:12.760 like you don't have to overthink it. That's what's wrong 0:09:12.800 --> 0:09:16.160 with dating these days. You enjoy someone's company, you call them. 0:09:16.200 --> 0:09:17.880 You don't have to, Oh should they call me first? 0:09:18.120 --> 0:09:20.080 You guys are doing too much, making it way too complicated. 0:09:20.160 --> 0:09:20.920 Are you okay? 0:09:21.240 --> 0:09:24.480 If the guy you know doesn't ever call you just 0:09:24.480 --> 0:09:25.800 to pick up the phone and call him a bunch 0:09:25.800 --> 0:09:26.000 of times? 0:09:26.080 --> 0:09:26.960 Or does that look desperate? 0:09:28.840 --> 0:09:30.839 Oh you won't Yeah, no, I won't do that. 0:09:31.000 --> 0:09:33.360 How many times would you call before you would give up? 0:09:36.920 --> 0:09:39.720 After like a week of no response, like, I'm good, 0:09:39.840 --> 0:09:41.760 I got other things to do. 0:09:43.000 --> 0:09:46.280 Twice yeah, our second date? Updates? 0:09:46.360 --> 0:09:50.040 Some of these both men and women are calling five 0:09:50.160 --> 0:09:52.600 or six times. And why I say calling, they're texting 0:09:53.000 --> 0:09:54.880 five or six times, and then they're even trying to 0:09:54.920 --> 0:09:59.320 call or trying to send messages you know, uh dms. 0:09:59.520 --> 0:09:59.920 What's going on? 0:10:00.240 --> 0:10:02.400 Rob, not too much. 0:10:02.640 --> 0:10:04.839 Just make sure they're morning routine, right if you call 0:10:04.880 --> 0:10:08.040 her text that you're not interrupting anything. What do you mean, 0:10:09.440 --> 0:10:13.640 so my girlfriend she's not a morning person. I found 0:10:13.640 --> 0:10:15.360 this out our first day when I said, hey, let's 0:10:15.400 --> 0:10:17.280 go grab breakfast and I'm like eight in the morning, 0:10:17.679 --> 0:10:20.800 and she's like, people get up that early. So she's 0:10:20.800 --> 0:10:21.680 a sleeping girl. 0:10:21.760 --> 0:10:24.760 Huh oh absolutely so yeah, but I also want to 0:10:24.760 --> 0:10:26.439 say thank you guys for making my morning for the 0:10:26.520 --> 0:10:27.320 last twenty years. 0:10:27.320 --> 0:10:30.120 You guys are amazing keeping I appreciate it for that 0:10:30.280 --> 0:10:33.360 long robin. Do you think this girl is the girl? 0:10:34.760 --> 0:10:34.920 Oh? 0:10:34.920 --> 0:10:36.199 Absolutely yeah. 0:10:36.240 --> 0:10:38.480 So she's the one you locked in with her even 0:10:38.480 --> 0:10:40.080 though you can never have breakfast anymore. 0:10:40.920 --> 0:10:43.839 Oh okay, I can. I'm I'm up every morning five thirty. 0:10:43.880 --> 0:10:46.320 You eat by yourself? No, she doesn't eat. That doesn't 0:10:46.320 --> 0:10:47.040 mean he doesn't have. 0:10:47.760 --> 0:10:50.680 By the way, I kind of wonder sometimes if you're 0:10:51.360 --> 0:10:53.760 in a relationship, can you be in a relationship with 0:10:53.800 --> 0:10:55.400 a person that's not a morning person, but you're a 0:10:55.440 --> 0:10:58.160 morning person and you know a late night person, Like 0:10:58.160 --> 0:10:59.959 can a late night person be with a morning person? 0:11:00.760 --> 0:11:02.880 What's up? Kevin? The listener here on the phone, not 0:11:02.960 --> 0:11:04.240 the one in the studio. What's up? 0:11:05.400 --> 0:11:06.040 How's it going? 0:11:06.400 --> 0:11:08.680 Good man? What's going on? Good? 0:11:08.720 --> 0:11:08.760 So? 0:11:08.800 --> 0:11:11.480 I'm Kaldyan my wife. I want to shut her out 0:11:11.480 --> 0:11:16.520 with Marlena Dallo. So she I met her and I 0:11:16.559 --> 0:11:18.840 pretty much proposed her in a year and got married 0:11:18.880 --> 0:11:20.600 a year after. I mean, once you know, you kind 0:11:20.600 --> 0:11:21.960 of know. And I made that very clear. 0:11:22.000 --> 0:11:25.280 She made that very How old how old are you? Guys? 0:11:25.800 --> 0:11:27.719 I got May when I was twenty six and now 0:11:27.720 --> 0:11:28.400 I'm thirty one. 0:11:28.600 --> 0:11:31.120 Okay, So Kevin, how old was she? 0:11:31.280 --> 0:11:31.319 Was? 0:11:31.360 --> 0:11:33.240 She same age? Similar age? 0:11:33.480 --> 0:11:35.480 He's actually about eight months older than me. 0:11:35.679 --> 0:11:38.480 Okay, so you knew right away? But were you dating 0:11:38.520 --> 0:11:40.040 before or she dating before? 0:11:42.640 --> 0:11:44.520 I mean we, I mean we dated, but like you know, 0:11:44.520 --> 0:11:47.200 it's very clear that, like you know, what our intentions were, 0:11:47.320 --> 0:11:49.360 and we just made that very clear, and you know, 0:11:49.440 --> 0:11:51.280 I just put things to action, you know. I mean, 0:11:51.320 --> 0:11:53.600 we weren't messing around, we weren't old, we weren't young. 0:11:53.679 --> 0:11:56.560 I mean, but your mid twenty settle down and get married. 0:11:56.640 --> 0:11:59.440 Yeah, yeah, yeah, but now we got two kids. My 0:11:59.520 --> 0:12:02.160 son just earned a little over a year. My daughter's 0:12:02.200 --> 0:12:03.319 turning four in March. 0:12:03.520 --> 0:12:05.720 That's great, buddy, that's great. Yeah. 0:12:05.800 --> 0:12:09.319 I think I think certain cultures though still do younger. 0:12:09.880 --> 0:12:12.800 But I don't see a lot of twenty somethings or 0:12:13.000 --> 0:12:16.040 young twenties or mid twenties getting married. When Chelsea and 0:12:16.080 --> 0:12:18.679 I got married, that everybody was still getting married at 0:12:18.679 --> 0:12:19.240 that age. 0:12:19.520 --> 0:12:21.559 Now it's like, wait until you're thirties. 0:12:21.720 --> 0:12:24.000 Everything's getting pushed back, yeah, married. 0:12:23.840 --> 0:12:24.760 Including baby. 0:12:25.320 --> 0:12:27.720 Yeah. I can't tell you how many friends. 0:12:27.800 --> 0:12:31.360 Well I do have friends that are, you know, right 0:12:31.400 --> 0:12:34.280 around my age that either just had a baby or 0:12:34.400 --> 0:12:36.000 thinking about having a baby all. 0:12:35.840 --> 0:12:36.280 Of a sudden. 0:12:36.480 --> 0:12:39.319 Compare yourself for is about to walk down that I'm 0:12:39.320 --> 0:12:40.559 telling you in twenties? 0:12:40.600 --> 0:12:44.200 I bet you what's up? Jay? I was going there, 0:12:44.360 --> 0:12:45.880 good morning, good morning, what's going on? 0:12:48.280 --> 0:12:50.600 Calling about the uh trying to play it too cool 0:12:50.679 --> 0:12:54.000 or whatever? And yeah, I ended up missing back in 0:12:54.040 --> 0:12:55.679 the Marine Corps. I was getting some work done late 0:12:55.800 --> 0:12:58.240 night with one of my co workers, like kind of 0:12:58.240 --> 0:13:01.760 adjacent co workers, uh, you know, to pull around just 0:13:01.800 --> 0:13:04.440 like made out great night, just vibes, got the work 0:13:04.440 --> 0:13:07.000 done around about our day, played it cool for like 0:13:07.040 --> 0:13:11.720 a week, didn't contact her nothing, And three weeks later, 0:13:11.800 --> 0:13:14.560 maybe a month later, she was in a relationship. And 0:13:14.600 --> 0:13:16.439 then maybe two two months later she was married. 0:13:16.679 --> 0:13:19.520 Oh man, do you think about her? 0:13:19.640 --> 0:13:22.320 That's heartbreak. So you waited too long, you tried to 0:13:22.320 --> 0:13:23.240 play it too cool. 0:13:24.520 --> 0:13:27.080 Yeah, because you know, I was friends with some of 0:13:27.120 --> 0:13:29.439 her female friends. I don't want them going back to 0:13:29.559 --> 0:13:31.640 you know, my friends women, but they you know, they 0:13:32.040 --> 0:13:33.680 talk and I don't need that. 0:13:34.800 --> 0:13:39.160 So do you ever hope that she gets divorced? Yeah? 0:13:39.240 --> 0:13:40.400 Yeah, tuesdays. Uh. 0:13:42.160 --> 0:13:46.120 Yeah, it's interesting because I have a couple of friends 0:13:46.120 --> 0:13:47.560 of mine that were telling me a story about the 0:13:47.600 --> 0:13:50.679 girl that got away, and they actually look at her 0:13:50.840 --> 0:13:53.600 and go, I hope that she ends up divorcing because 0:13:54.080 --> 0:13:56.800 they say that they missed out on the opportunity to 0:13:56.920 --> 0:13:59.440 be with who they thought they should have been, and 0:13:59.480 --> 0:14:02.760 the same situation where they ended up finding somebody else, 0:14:03.240 --> 0:14:06.480 and they literally are just like the standby or waiting 0:14:06.480 --> 0:14:07.240 for that to happen. 0:14:10.360 --> 0:14:11.760 You don't, I don't know if you believe in. 0:14:11.760 --> 0:14:14.360 It or I think you miss out on what you 0:14:14.440 --> 0:14:16.480 think will be Yeah, if you miss out on what 0:14:16.600 --> 0:14:17.400 actually is though. 0:14:18.200 --> 0:14:20.480 Chelsea and I were having this conversation like sometimes you 0:14:20.520 --> 0:14:23.160 see giddy people and I always say, you know what 0:14:23.160 --> 0:14:26.600 that's called, and she goes, yeah, second marriages. It seems 0:14:26.640 --> 0:14:29.360 like the people who are in second marriages or remarried 0:14:29.400 --> 0:14:35.360 afterwards are giddy about their relationships, Shannon, where you get excited? 0:14:36.240 --> 0:14:38.560 Has anybody ever told you that? No, that's they say that. 0:14:38.680 --> 0:14:40.880 They say that that happens a lot people in second 0:14:41.160 --> 0:14:43.920 people who get divorced, they get remarried, are like giddy 0:14:43.960 --> 0:14:44.560 about things. 0:14:45.200 --> 0:14:45.960 What's up, Bill? 0:14:48.360 --> 0:14:49.480 What's going on? Mojo? 0:14:49.760 --> 0:14:50.080 You know what? 0:14:51.840 --> 0:14:52.640 First time calling? 0:14:55.120 --> 0:14:55.360 Yeah? 0:14:58.760 --> 0:15:01.720 Thanks, Boddy, appreciate you. Yeah, we've been together longer than 0:15:01.760 --> 0:15:03.760 you and your relationship. What's going on? 0:15:04.840 --> 0:15:07.560 Well, it was going on. Yeah. I was on that 0:15:07.720 --> 0:15:10.960 public to where I hooked up with this we met, 0:15:11.080 --> 0:15:13.400 We hooked up the first day we met. But he 0:15:13.640 --> 0:15:16.960 just so happened to be the girl. I was the girl. 0:15:17.000 --> 0:15:20.560 I had a kid with her best friend. Now we 0:15:20.640 --> 0:15:24.360 stayed friends for five years, but then she left her 0:15:24.400 --> 0:15:27.320 baby's father for me, and I left my baby's mother 0:15:27.400 --> 0:15:32.600 for her, and then my baby's mom and her baby's 0:15:32.600 --> 0:15:37.520 father like teamed up against us, and everybody was pissed off. 0:15:37.880 --> 0:15:41.520 They were sabotaging our cars, they were throwing stuff at 0:15:41.560 --> 0:15:44.800 our house. They would seem like the whole world got 0:15:44.840 --> 0:15:47.200 mad at us because we looked but we should have 0:15:47.280 --> 0:15:50.560 been together in the first place, but both of us waited, 0:15:51.040 --> 0:15:53.800 so we didn't act on our feelings. But then as 0:15:53.960 --> 0:15:56.960 years went by, Yes, through this, I'm not happy in 0:15:57.040 --> 0:16:00.200 my relationship, you're not happy in yours. We both walked 0:16:00.200 --> 0:16:03.120 out to be but fifteen years later we're still together. 0:16:04.200 --> 0:16:05.160 Wow, that's amazing. 0:16:05.280 --> 0:16:08.920 But still the whole world our boat need nobody from 0:16:08.920 --> 0:16:11.240 our ears, kind of our families will talk to us 0:16:11.280 --> 0:16:11.800 over it. 0:16:12.320 --> 0:16:16.120 Or do you guys regret that you didn't get together 0:16:16.160 --> 0:16:18.120 in the first place the first go around before you 0:16:18.200 --> 0:16:20.400 end up marrying and having babies with the other people? 0:16:21.880 --> 0:16:25.320 Absolutely we did. We both said that we should have 0:16:25.440 --> 0:16:28.360 just hooked up in the first place, and life dragged 0:16:28.400 --> 0:16:32.280 us two different ways, but it's never changed the way 0:16:32.320 --> 0:16:34.520 we felt about each other. So we did. It was 0:16:34.560 --> 0:16:36.400 like at the time, we didn't care who we pissed off. 0:16:36.400 --> 0:16:37.520 We just wanted to be together. 0:16:37.840 --> 0:16:38.920 I get it. 0:16:39.000 --> 0:16:42.080 Yeah, it's interesting that the relationships that you were in, though, 0:16:42.120 --> 0:16:45.800 were trying to both come after you guys, a lot 0:16:45.840 --> 0:16:49.160 of a lot of what a lot of fun coming 0:16:49.200 --> 0:16:52.200 after and that hey you telling you? There you go 0:16:52.240 --> 0:16:55.440 again this week. You've been all over the place with that. 0:16:56.880 --> 0:16:59.680 I think you either are getting too much much sex 0:16:59.760 --> 0:17:00.880 or not enough and we need to. 0:17:00.800 --> 0:17:04.320 Get it out of here. I'm not doing anything. What's John? 0:17:04.520 --> 0:17:05.400 John's Keldan? 0:17:05.600 --> 0:17:08.320 And this one goes to Bianca and us, maybe thinking 0:17:08.359 --> 0:17:10.760 that Bianca might be the next on the show to 0:17:10.800 --> 0:17:11.320 get married. 0:17:11.600 --> 0:17:11.879 John. 0:17:11.920 --> 0:17:16.879 You're there, Yeah, go ahead, you're Kldian guy, right, No, 0:17:17.080 --> 0:17:17.720 you go ahead. 0:17:17.800 --> 0:17:19.120 No, Actually I'm not killed Dean. 0:17:19.359 --> 0:17:23.680 Your wife is Caldian? Yes, okay? And how how quick 0:17:23.720 --> 0:17:25.600 did you propose to her? 0:17:26.640 --> 0:17:27.119 I met her? 0:17:27.760 --> 0:17:30.800 Funny story, I met a September eighth of twenty eleven, 0:17:31.240 --> 0:17:32.959 so two days before nine to eleven. 0:17:33.200 --> 0:17:34.879 I knew her for three weeks and got married. 0:17:35.520 --> 0:17:37.000