Speaker 1: All right, it is Mojo in the morning. Uh.
Speaker 2: The phone number eight four to four Mojo Live eight
Speaker 2: four four six six five six five four eight. The
Speaker 2: text is nine to five five zero zero.
Speaker 1: Alright.
Speaker 2: So I was having a conversation with a female friend
Speaker 2: of Chelsea's and we were talking about we're talking about dating,
Speaker 2: and we were talking about second Date Update and talking
Speaker 2: about the show and stuff like that and some of
Speaker 2: the craziest second date updates that we've had and if
Speaker 2: you'd never heard second Date Update before, second Date Update
Speaker 2: is on our show where if you're not getting a
Speaker 2: call back after you went on a date with somebody,
Speaker 2: you know, we will call them and try to get
Speaker 2: their you know, involvement with you know, coming on our
Speaker 2: show as a way to find out why they're not
Speaker 2: calling you back. And usually there's always some kind of
Speaker 2: a weird situation from the ones that you you hear
Speaker 2: of that one. And we were talking about when do
Speaker 2: you call back after a date? And I always remember
Speaker 2: when I was dating, as there was the three day
Speaker 2: or the three day rule that when you go on
Speaker 2: a date with somebody, and this was please only explain something.
Speaker 2: I've been in a relationship for a long time. There
Speaker 2: was no dating apps at the time that I was
Speaker 2: in a relationship, let alone, there was not as much
Speaker 2: technology that was out there. We had cell phones, yes, okay,
Speaker 2: but we did not have what we have right now,
Speaker 2: which is basically an instant way to get the P. Nowadays,
Speaker 2: you can get P if you want and a man
Speaker 2: right penis or you know what. So there was the
Speaker 2: three day rule before you would call back when I
Speaker 2: was doing this, and I was talking to her about that,
Speaker 2: because she's like around my age actually, probably about six
Speaker 2: years younger than me, and she said, yeah, I remember that.
Speaker 2: I used to do the three day rule all the time.
Speaker 2: You'd go on a date on a Friday and you
Speaker 2: wouldn't call the person back until Monday or Tuesday. You
Speaker 2: never wanted to be the first one to call back,
Speaker 2: and you never would wait. And so we were having
Speaker 2: this conversation and she said, well, that's all old school. Nowadays,
Speaker 2: she says that the new approach is as soon as
Speaker 2: you're interested, you call, and if you're the woman interested,
Speaker 2: you call. You don't wait for him to call, because
Speaker 2: if you're waiting for him to call, he's got too
Speaker 2: much P to be able to find in the meantime
Speaker 2: between your date and the next p that he goes
Speaker 2: out there.
Speaker 3: And he goes and gets that reason, if you're interested,
Speaker 3: why are you wasting time?
Speaker 1: Exactly? Basically, she said, you snooze, you lose.
Speaker 2: So I wanted to ask some questions, and I want
Speaker 2: to ask some people like you guys. Well you Anna
Speaker 2: and Lydia And that's it because Kevin, Yes, Kevin too, Yes,
Speaker 2: I forgot about it, Kevi.
Speaker 1: Kevin's a single guy. Yes.
Speaker 2: I usually like to ask the women questions because I
Speaker 2: don't know. I like, Lydia's not in a relationship, I
Speaker 2: asked her in a relationship?
Speaker 1: Really? Yes? Wait, wait cald On a second, you're in
Speaker 1: a relationship?
Speaker 4: Yes?
Speaker 2: Are you guys official? I don't really know, are you
Speaker 2: Facebook official? I asked you last night you were going
Speaker 2: to going off and I'm married.
Speaker 4: If I was going to church with Bianca Bryce, And.
Speaker 1: I said, does Andy ever go to church with you?
Speaker 4: And you said no, no he doesn't.
Speaker 2: Well he needs to go to church with you. Yeah, Andy,
Speaker 2: if you're listening, you need to go to church. That
Speaker 2: would be a very nice gesture on your if you haven't.
Speaker 4: And Bryce is a man to go to church with
Speaker 4: you kid, just be going with the two miss.
Speaker 1: On a difficult time, you guys.
Speaker 2: I saw last night on Lydia's social media that she
Speaker 2: was third wheeling it with Bianca and her boyfriend Bryce.
Speaker 1: All right, then I'll ask you. I'm going to ask Anna.
Speaker 2: And Kevin these questions too, because they're no, I'm not
Speaker 2: going to ask you, just say you can ask her.
Speaker 1: Okay? All right?
Speaker 2: So here here are my questions. If you're a single person,
Speaker 2: what do you do as far as when you wait
Speaker 2: to call back after a date? How long do you
Speaker 2: wait to reach out? That's one question I want to ask.
Speaker 2: Is waiting a power move or is it a red flag?
Speaker 2: That's another question I wanted to ask. Another question that
Speaker 2: we came up with was does calling too fast make
Speaker 2: you look desperate? Should a woman now call first or
Speaker 2: should she wait old fashioned for the guy to call back?
Speaker 2: And then you know, ask some questions like have you
Speaker 2: ever been lost in the mix, you know, by not
Speaker 2: calling or by calling too soon? Com answering you, guys,
Speaker 2: So you go on a date, you guys, have you
Speaker 2: know you're done?
Speaker 1: It's Friday night? Are you calling back Saturday? Or what
Speaker 1: are you doing? Kevin? I feel like it depends on
Speaker 1: how good the day was.
Speaker 5: Yeah, let's see you're very.
Speaker 6: Yeah, if it went great, then I'm probably checking on
Speaker 6: you to make sure you got home. If you didn't
Speaker 6: stay over, okay, And if you did stay over and
Speaker 6: you lift, then I'm probably sending like, you know.
Speaker 2: Are you checking on making sure she went home that night,
Speaker 2: that she leaves or that morning she I want to
Speaker 2: make sure you got to your destination?
Speaker 1: Okay, that's right, you got in like every case.
Speaker 2: Maybe what if she calls you as a guy right
Speaker 2: away and calls you fast, like on her way home,
Speaker 2: like nine am. You get a phone call from her,
Speaker 2: you know what I mean or something. Yeah, she was
Speaker 2: probably really feeling the key. Well okay, she was probably
Speaker 2: really feeling me. Okay, and then yeah that's good too.
Speaker 2: What about what about if she doesn't pick up your
Speaker 2: phone calls right away you think she's playing with you?
Speaker 7: Nah?
Speaker 8: No, just wait?
Speaker 1: Does she respond back? Okay? Anna? What do you do?
Speaker 9: I wouldn't call right at nine am and probably wouldn't
Speaker 9: text either, But if I did really like them, I
Speaker 9: would try to find something that happened on our date
Speaker 9: the night before and like bring that up in conversation,
Speaker 9: like maybe we were talking about how much I loved popcorn,
Speaker 9: and like I was sitting down to eat popcorn, I'd
Speaker 9: be like, oh, I was thinking about you or something
Speaker 9: like that. Yeah, you know what I'm saying, Like, I
Speaker 9: just want to keep I want to be top of
Speaker 9: mind if I really like you, But I'm definitely not
Speaker 9: waiting three.
Speaker 2: Days's funny you bring up that at like popcorn, I
Speaker 2: would always figure out something that came up on the
Speaker 2: date that night and send it to them the next
Speaker 2: day if I could, or drop it off at their
Speaker 2: house as a reason to go and see. But that
Speaker 2: came across kind of desperate sometimes too. Oh yes, drop
Speaker 2: it off, I would, yeah, because that's crazy.
Speaker 9: I mean, I love flowers and you sent me flowers.
Speaker 1: That's different. If that's different.
Speaker 3: But what if it's not going to come off desperate
Speaker 3: regardless of what you do. If you like the person,
Speaker 3: they're going to think it's cute.
Speaker 1: But don't and don't show up at their house, and that.
Speaker 5: Crazy, that's creepy.
Speaker 1: Let me ask this question.
Speaker 2: Has anybody ever lost someone like literally lost to another
Speaker 2: person because you didn't want to look too desperate by
Speaker 2: calling right away and you found out that they instantly
Speaker 2: started talking to somebody else.
Speaker 1: If that's the case, call us up.
Speaker 4: This happened with me and Bryce in the beginning of
Speaker 4: last year when he first came into the studio and
Speaker 4: I met him, and I would I was just too
Speaker 4: scared to talk to him first. I wasn't really trying
Speaker 4: to show like interest because I wanted him to show
Speaker 4: me interest. And then I haven't talked to him for
Speaker 4: the full year until later on love last year is
Speaker 4: when I was like, all right, I don't care anymore.
Speaker 4: This is stupid. And then now we're dating.
Speaker 2: And then you picked up the phone and that's it. Yeah,
Speaker 2: which is interesting because you have to in your you know,
Speaker 2: culture with the guys. Sometimes you don't want to come
Speaker 2: across too yeah.
Speaker 4: Or I was trying to play hard to get or
Speaker 4: I was like a man should come on me first,
Speaker 4: and then.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, I was just like, it's.
Speaker 4: Never that deep.
Speaker 1: Can I also say this too, though, this is interesting.
Speaker 2: A lot of times when you're Caldan from my Keldan friends,
Speaker 2: you don't want to date somebody like your age or
Speaker 2: his age right now, because once you start dating now,
Speaker 2: you don't look at that as a future.
Speaker 1: You look at that as just the now.
Speaker 4: Well, no, I think it's how you intend to date someone.
Speaker 4: If you date someone with intention of marrying them, no
Speaker 4: matter how old you are, I feel like, if you
Speaker 4: want to marry them, you'll marry them. I don't think
Speaker 4: age should.
Speaker 2: Matter well a lot of times a lot of times,
Speaker 2: So isn't it just Hey, I'm looking for something for
Speaker 2: my twenties.
Speaker 9: You can.
Speaker 4: You can be twenty five and date someone I always
Speaker 4: want to hook up. I want short term or he
Speaker 4: could be his age nineteen or twenty and be like,
Speaker 4: I want to marry you. Let's see to marry.
Speaker 1: Does a nineteen or twenty year old look to date
Speaker 1: to marry? Well? Better be because I thought that was
Speaker 1: something that didn't happen.
Speaker 5: So head over heels in love with him?
Speaker 4: Well, I were locked in yesterday at Mass, like their
Speaker 4: hands were interlocked the entire time and we were in
Speaker 4: there for two hours. I was like, when you know
Speaker 4: what you want, you know what you want, it's not
Speaker 4: there's no games. I feel like, if you have your
Speaker 4: communications straight, your intentions straight, it doesn't matter what age
Speaker 4: you are.
Speaker 2: If he tries to break up with you, will you
Speaker 2: kill him and cut him up in little pieces.
Speaker 4: Yep, and I'll show him up to his house and
Speaker 4: I'm gonna blast him everywhere.
Speaker 1: As she went to church with him last night. Danny,
Speaker 1: what's up? Danny? Good morning? What's going on? Were you
Speaker 1: at then?
Speaker 7: I just wanted to I'm at Big B getting my
Speaker 7: coffee before.
Speaker 1: Me may make it. I'm sorry, I forgive what's going on?
Speaker 4: I just wanted to say.
Speaker 7: You guys are making dating way too complicated. If you
Speaker 7: go on a date, you like the person, call them,
Speaker 7: like you don't have to overthink it. That's what's wrong
Speaker 7: with dating these days. You enjoy someone's company, you call them.
Speaker 7: You don't have to, Oh should they call me first?
Speaker 7: You guys are doing too much, making it way too complicated.
Speaker 1: Are you okay?
Speaker 2: If the guy you know doesn't ever call you just
Speaker 2: to pick up the phone and call him a bunch
Speaker 2: of times?
Speaker 1: Or does that look desperate?
Speaker 4: Oh you won't Yeah, no, I won't do that.
Speaker 1: How many times would you call before you would give up?
Speaker 7: After like a week of no response, like, I'm good,
Speaker 7: I got other things to do.
Speaker 1: Twice yeah, our second date? Updates?
Speaker 2: Some of these both men and women are calling five
Speaker 2: or six times. And why I say calling, they're texting
Speaker 2: five or six times, and then they're even trying to
Speaker 2: call or trying to send messages you know, uh dms.
Speaker 1: What's going on?
Speaker 10: Rob, not too much.
Speaker 1: Just make sure they're morning routine, right if you call
Speaker 1: her text that you're not interrupting anything. What do you mean,
Speaker 1: so my girlfriend she's not a morning person. I found
Speaker 1: this out our first day when I said, hey, let's
Speaker 1: go grab breakfast and I'm like eight in the morning,
Speaker 1: and she's like, people get up that early. So she's
Speaker 1: a sleeping girl.
Speaker 2: Huh oh absolutely so yeah, but I also want to
Speaker 2: say thank you guys for making my morning for the
Speaker 2: last twenty years.
Speaker 1: You guys are amazing keeping I appreciate it for that
Speaker 1: long robin. Do you think this girl is the girl?
Speaker 7: Oh?
Speaker 1: Absolutely yeah.
Speaker 2: So she's the one you locked in with her even
Speaker 2: though you can never have breakfast anymore.
Speaker 1: Oh okay, I can. I'm I'm up every morning five thirty.
Speaker 1: You eat by yourself? No, she doesn't eat. That doesn't
Speaker 1: mean he doesn't have.
Speaker 2: By the way, I kind of wonder sometimes if you're
Speaker 2: in a relationship, can you be in a relationship with
Speaker 2: a person that's not a morning person, but you're a
Speaker 2: morning person and you know a late night person, Like
Speaker 2: can a late night person be with a morning person?
Speaker 1: What's up? Kevin? The listener here on the phone, not
Speaker 1: the one in the studio. What's up?
Speaker 11: How's it going?
Speaker 1: Good man? What's going on? Good?
Speaker 10: So?
Speaker 11: I'm Kaldyan my wife. I want to shut her out
Speaker 11: with Marlena Dallo. So she I met her and I
Speaker 11: pretty much proposed her in a year and got married
Speaker 11: a year after. I mean, once you know, you kind
Speaker 11: of know. And I made that very clear.
Speaker 1: She made that very How old how old are you? Guys?
Speaker 11: I got May when I was twenty six and now
Speaker 11: I'm thirty one.
Speaker 1: Okay, So Kevin, how old was she?
Speaker 4: Was?
Speaker 1: She same age? Similar age?
Speaker 11: He's actually about eight months older than me.
Speaker 2: Okay, so you knew right away? But were you dating
Speaker 2: before or she dating before?
Speaker 11: I mean we, I mean we dated, but like you know,
Speaker 11: it's very clear that, like you know, what our intentions were,
Speaker 11: and we just made that very clear, and you know,
Speaker 11: I just put things to action, you know. I mean,
Speaker 11: we weren't messing around, we weren't old, we weren't young.
Speaker 5: I mean, but your mid twenty settle down and get married.
Speaker 11: Yeah, yeah, yeah, but now we got two kids. My
Speaker 11: son just earned a little over a year. My daughter's
Speaker 11: turning four in March.
Speaker 1: That's great, buddy, that's great. Yeah.
Speaker 2: I think I think certain cultures though still do younger.
Speaker 2: But I don't see a lot of twenty somethings or
Speaker 2: young twenties or mid twenties getting married. When Chelsea and
Speaker 2: I got married, that everybody was still getting married at
Speaker 2: that age.
Speaker 1: Now it's like, wait until you're thirties.
Speaker 3: Everything's getting pushed back, yeah, married.
Speaker 1: Including baby.
Speaker 5: Yeah. I can't tell you how many friends.
Speaker 3: Well I do have friends that are, you know, right
Speaker 3: around my age that either just had a baby or
Speaker 3: thinking about having a baby all.
Speaker 1: Of a sudden.
Speaker 9: Compare yourself for is about to walk down that I'm
Speaker 9: telling you in twenties?
Speaker 1: I bet you what's up? Jay? I was going there,
Speaker 1: good morning, good morning, what's going on?
Speaker 10: Calling about the uh trying to play it too cool
Speaker 10: or whatever? And yeah, I ended up missing back in
Speaker 10: the Marine Corps. I was getting some work done late
Speaker 10: night with one of my co workers, like kind of
Speaker 10: adjacent co workers, uh, you know, to pull around just
Speaker 10: like made out great night, just vibes, got the work
Speaker 10: done around about our day, played it cool for like
Speaker 10: a week, didn't contact her nothing, And three weeks later,
Speaker 10: maybe a month later, she was in a relationship. And
Speaker 10: then maybe two two months later she was married.
Speaker 1: Oh man, do you think about her?
Speaker 2: That's heartbreak. So you waited too long, you tried to
Speaker 2: play it too cool.
Speaker 10: Yeah, because you know, I was friends with some of
Speaker 10: her female friends. I don't want them going back to
Speaker 10: you know, my friends women, but they you know, they
Speaker 10: talk and I don't need that.
Speaker 1: So do you ever hope that she gets divorced? Yeah?
Speaker 10: Yeah, tuesdays. Uh.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's interesting because I have a couple of friends
Speaker 2: of mine that were telling me a story about the
Speaker 2: girl that got away, and they actually look at her
Speaker 2: and go, I hope that she ends up divorcing because
Speaker 2: they say that they missed out on the opportunity to
Speaker 2: be with who they thought they should have been, and
Speaker 2: the same situation where they ended up finding somebody else,
Speaker 2: and they literally are just like the standby or waiting
Speaker 2: for that to happen.
Speaker 1: You don't, I don't know if you believe in.
Speaker 6: It or I think you miss out on what you
Speaker 6: think will be Yeah, if you miss out on what
Speaker 6: actually is though.
Speaker 2: Chelsea and I were having this conversation like sometimes you
Speaker 2: see giddy people and I always say, you know what
Speaker 2: that's called, and she goes, yeah, second marriages. It seems
Speaker 2: like the people who are in second marriages or remarried
Speaker 2: afterwards are giddy about their relationships, Shannon, where you get excited?
Speaker 2: Has anybody ever told you that? No, that's they say that.
Speaker 2: They say that that happens a lot people in second
Speaker 2: people who get divorced, they get remarried, are like giddy
Speaker 2: about things.
Speaker 1: What's up, Bill?
Speaker 8: What's going on? Mojo?
Speaker 9: You know what?
Speaker 1: First time calling?
Speaker 7: Yeah?
Speaker 2: Thanks, Boddy, appreciate you. Yeah, we've been together longer than
Speaker 2: you and your relationship. What's going on?
Speaker 8: Well, it was going on. Yeah. I was on that
Speaker 8: public to where I hooked up with this we met,
Speaker 8: We hooked up the first day we met. But he
Speaker 8: just so happened to be the girl. I was the girl.
Speaker 8: I had a kid with her best friend. Now we
Speaker 8: stayed friends for five years, but then she left her
Speaker 8: baby's father for me, and I left my baby's mother
Speaker 8: for her, and then my baby's mom and her baby's
Speaker 8: father like teamed up against us, and everybody was pissed off.
Speaker 8: They were sabotaging our cars, they were throwing stuff at
Speaker 8: our house. They would seem like the whole world got
Speaker 8: mad at us because we looked but we should have
Speaker 8: been together in the first place, but both of us waited,
Speaker 8: so we didn't act on our feelings. But then as
Speaker 8: years went by, Yes, through this, I'm not happy in
Speaker 8: my relationship, you're not happy in yours. We both walked
Speaker 8: out to be but fifteen years later we're still together.
Speaker 1: Wow, that's amazing.
Speaker 8: But still the whole world our boat need nobody from
Speaker 8: our ears, kind of our families will talk to us
Speaker 8: over it.
Speaker 2: Or do you guys regret that you didn't get together
Speaker 2: in the first place the first go around before you
Speaker 2: end up marrying and having babies with the other people?
Speaker 8: Absolutely we did. We both said that we should have
Speaker 8: just hooked up in the first place, and life dragged
Speaker 8: us two different ways, but it's never changed the way
Speaker 8: we felt about each other. So we did. It was
Speaker 8: like at the time, we didn't care who we pissed off.
Speaker 8: We just wanted to be together.
Speaker 1: I get it.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's interesting that the relationships that you were in, though,
Speaker 2: were trying to both come after you guys, a lot
Speaker 2: of a lot of what a lot of fun coming
Speaker 2: after and that hey you telling you? There you go
Speaker 2: again this week. You've been all over the place with that.
Speaker 2: I think you either are getting too much much sex
Speaker 2: or not enough and we need to.
Speaker 1: Get it out of here. I'm not doing anything. What's John?
Speaker 1: John's Keldan?
Speaker 2: And this one goes to Bianca and us, maybe thinking
Speaker 2: that Bianca might be the next on the show to
Speaker 2: get married.
Speaker 1: John.
Speaker 2: You're there, Yeah, go ahead, you're Kldian guy, right, No,
Speaker 2: you go ahead.
Speaker 10: No, Actually I'm not killed Dean.
Speaker 1: Your wife is Caldian? Yes, okay? And how how quick
Speaker 1: did you propose to her?
Speaker 10: I met her?
Speaker 8: Funny story, I met a September eighth of twenty eleven,
Speaker 8: so two days before nine to eleven.
Speaker 10: I knew her for three weeks and got married.
Speaker 8: And I was trying to tell my family I was
Speaker 8: Mary to Keldan and they did not want to hear it.
Speaker 1: After nine to eleven? What are what? Wit? What are you?
Speaker 9: What?
Speaker 1: Are you just a white dude?
Speaker 10: I'm Macedonian?
Speaker 1: You're Macedonian? Are you still married? Wait? After nine to eleven?
Speaker 1: What do they think they think the nine to eleven.
Speaker 3: Guys, eleven September eleventh happened, not.
Speaker 1: Eleven or September eleven.
Speaker 2: I don't know what do you mean September all that
Speaker 2: one in two thousand and one, September September the eleven,
Speaker 2: two thousand.
Speaker 1: What he's say, are you still together? Yes? We are, well,
Speaker 1: we are still together. Look at that. That's did you
Speaker 1: have family come around? Stop being ignorant?
Speaker 8: Yeah?
Speaker 7: Yeah they did, they did, they did.
Speaker 10: But it was interesting at first.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 2: I think the part of the story that got a
Speaker 2: little bit shaded by the fact that I didn't know
Speaker 2: he was going to bring up the whole nine to
Speaker 2: eleven crap. Was he proposed to her in after three
Speaker 2: weeks of dating.
Speaker 1: That's crazy.
Speaker 10: Three weeks dating.
Speaker 1: That's a little fast, all right.
Speaker 4: Me and Bryce like three months in, so I guess
Speaker 4: we can start ring shopping now.
Speaker 1: Yeah, God, you already did.
Speaker 2: Yeah, get hurt, We actually did. What do you think
Speaker 2: what do you think that your families would say? If
Speaker 2: you guys did that.
Speaker 4: My mom would be like, you're crazy, Go get your
Speaker 4: life together first.
Speaker 1: Would what would his family do? Would they be mad
Speaker 1: about that?
Speaker 4: His mom told me we can't get married or have
Speaker 4: kids anytime soon because she's still in her prime. So
Speaker 4: she wants to live for prime and not have to
Speaker 4: worry about me or any stuff for grandchildren.
Speaker 2: His mom does not want a grand baby when she's
Speaker 2: not grandmother material right now.
Speaker 4: She's still in her prime. She looks like Kim kay,
Speaker 4: so she has to be in her prime first before I.
Speaker 5: Can have I want to see a picture of his of.
Speaker 4: My prime to guys, come on, baby, got that.
Speaker 3: Bryce's mom is a beautful I saw a picture of
Speaker 3: her from when you guys all met, but everybody was
Speaker 3: bundled up.
Speaker 1: Yeah, when you want to see her body or something,
Speaker 1: she looks pretty.
Speaker 4: She looks like she could be a Kardashian. I'm so frue.
Speaker 1: Well, nobody wants to be a Kardashian, but she looks
Speaker 1: like she looks like when she's like, I don't call
Speaker 1: her that