1 00:00:01,639 --> 00:00:05,360 Speaker 1: Welcome to Get Connected with Nina del Rio, a weekly 2 00:00:05,480 --> 00:00:09,440 Speaker 1: conversation about fitness, health and happenings in our community on 3 00:00:09,440 --> 00:00:12,200 Speaker 1: one oh six point seven Light FM. 4 00:00:12,560 --> 00:00:15,480 Speaker 2: Thanks for listening to Get Connected. We know there are 5 00:00:15,560 --> 00:00:19,360 Speaker 2: many thousands of caregivers in the city. In fact, AARP 6 00:00:19,640 --> 00:00:23,120 Speaker 2: estimates about a quarter of New Yorkers are family caregivers 7 00:00:23,120 --> 00:00:26,280 Speaker 2: to parents, spouses, and other loved ones. Maybe you are one, 8 00:00:26,720 --> 00:00:29,560 Speaker 2: in addition to all your other responsibilities, taking care of 9 00:00:29,560 --> 00:00:31,720 Speaker 2: a loved one. Of all the things that can be said, 10 00:00:32,080 --> 00:00:35,880 Speaker 2: it is not easy. This Friday is National Caregivers Day, 11 00:00:36,200 --> 00:00:39,720 Speaker 2: and my guest is Aisha Peacot, a social work care 12 00:00:39,760 --> 00:00:43,199 Speaker 2: manager at elder Plan Home First part of the not 13 00:00:43,280 --> 00:00:47,240 Speaker 2: for profit MJHS Health System, to talk about self care 14 00:00:47,360 --> 00:00:50,960 Speaker 2: for caregivers. Aisha Peacot, thank you for being on Get Connected. 15 00:00:51,720 --> 00:00:54,600 Speaker 3: Thank you so much for having me on your show, Nina, 16 00:00:54,640 --> 00:00:57,760 Speaker 3: And I'm so excited to talk about this because I 17 00:00:57,760 --> 00:00:59,760 Speaker 3: don't know if you know this, but there are overall 18 00:01:00,040 --> 00:01:03,760 Speaker 3: one million caregivers in New York City and that number 19 00:01:03,920 --> 00:01:04,920 Speaker 3: is just growing. 20 00:01:05,440 --> 00:01:10,160 Speaker 2: It's stunning and in fact, before this conversation started, I 21 00:01:10,200 --> 00:01:12,720 Speaker 2: took some time today to look at some of the 22 00:01:12,840 --> 00:01:17,200 Speaker 2: videos on your YouTube page. Anybody can find resources for caregivers, 23 00:01:17,240 --> 00:01:21,440 Speaker 2: by the way, at elderplan dot org and mjhs dot org. 24 00:01:21,959 --> 00:01:24,240 Speaker 2: And there are bite sized videos on YouTube on a 25 00:01:24,280 --> 00:01:27,440 Speaker 2: wide range of topics about burnout and guilt and even 26 00:01:27,480 --> 00:01:31,800 Speaker 2: tips about transferring people into wheelchairs and alleviating pain without meds. 27 00:01:32,880 --> 00:01:37,040 Speaker 2: Watching those which, by the way, I was totally fascinated by, 28 00:01:37,120 --> 00:01:40,600 Speaker 2: it reminds me Silent generation gen z many in the 29 00:01:40,640 --> 00:01:46,479 Speaker 2: Sandwich generation. You're in this position and you didn't even 30 00:01:46,520 --> 00:01:49,000 Speaker 2: realize you were going to be there. So many people 31 00:01:49,600 --> 00:01:53,280 Speaker 2: have become caregivers with no training about the most basic 32 00:01:53,320 --> 00:01:54,920 Speaker 2: of needs. 33 00:01:55,080 --> 00:01:59,760 Speaker 3: This is so important that you stated that, because you 34 00:02:00,120 --> 00:02:03,880 Speaker 3: don't necessarily know that you're going to be in this position. 35 00:02:04,480 --> 00:02:08,600 Speaker 3: And caregivers come in all ages, and they have all 36 00:02:08,720 --> 00:02:13,760 Speaker 3: different kind of responsibilities like juggling college classes, maybe their 37 00:02:13,800 --> 00:02:17,480 Speaker 3: first time parents, maybe their first time grandparents, and then 38 00:02:17,480 --> 00:02:21,520 Speaker 3: they also have their own responsibilities maybe to their church, 39 00:02:22,000 --> 00:02:26,880 Speaker 3: their temple, their synagogue. And so my advice is learning 40 00:02:26,960 --> 00:02:29,800 Speaker 3: how to set boundaries for yourself can really try to 41 00:02:29,880 --> 00:02:35,120 Speaker 3: offset some of the stress that comes with this additional responsibility. 42 00:02:35,400 --> 00:02:38,120 Speaker 2: Those boundaries are just one of the things that you 43 00:02:38,280 --> 00:02:40,560 Speaker 2: help clients and patients do. Can you talk a little 44 00:02:40,560 --> 00:02:42,400 Speaker 2: bit more about your role as a social work care 45 00:02:42,520 --> 00:02:44,080 Speaker 2: manager at elder Plant Home First. 46 00:02:44,400 --> 00:02:48,320 Speaker 3: Yes, of course I have the incredible role of being 47 00:02:48,400 --> 00:02:52,000 Speaker 3: paired with our Home First members to help manage all 48 00:02:52,080 --> 00:02:55,960 Speaker 3: different components of their care. And what we've seen time 49 00:02:56,040 --> 00:03:00,000 Speaker 3: and time again is that the success of someone receives 50 00:03:00,280 --> 00:03:03,880 Speaker 3: care directly correlates to the caregiver's well being. 51 00:03:04,639 --> 00:03:07,560 Speaker 2: There's a statement I believe on there on the website. 52 00:03:07,600 --> 00:03:10,280 Speaker 2: It's something to the effect of you can't get water 53 00:03:10,280 --> 00:03:11,200 Speaker 2: from an empty well. 54 00:03:11,960 --> 00:03:15,560 Speaker 3: That is so correct. I say you can't pour from 55 00:03:15,560 --> 00:03:19,760 Speaker 3: an empty cup, and it's about the same thing. But 56 00:03:19,880 --> 00:03:23,600 Speaker 3: basically what that means is you have to take care 57 00:03:23,639 --> 00:03:27,000 Speaker 3: of yourself first before you can be an effective caregiver 58 00:03:27,160 --> 00:03:27,840 Speaker 3: to anyone. 59 00:03:28,600 --> 00:03:31,720 Speaker 2: You may not realize the stress that you're dealing with. Also, 60 00:03:31,800 --> 00:03:33,919 Speaker 2: what are some morning signs that a caregiver may be 61 00:03:34,000 --> 00:03:34,560 Speaker 2: burnt out? 62 00:03:35,200 --> 00:03:38,160 Speaker 3: Okay, so the warning signs that a caregiver may be 63 00:03:38,240 --> 00:03:44,760 Speaker 3: approaching burnout is that they're irritable, They feel on all 64 00:03:44,800 --> 00:03:48,600 Speaker 3: the time, which means that they feel on call, never 65 00:03:48,800 --> 00:03:54,280 Speaker 3: rest it, brain fog, forgetfulness, not wanting to respond to 66 00:03:54,400 --> 00:03:58,440 Speaker 3: calls or texts. This can signify that you need to 67 00:03:58,520 --> 00:04:01,920 Speaker 3: take a pause, take a step away for a second. 68 00:04:02,880 --> 00:04:06,480 Speaker 2: As you talk with caregivers, a lot of them, I assume, 69 00:04:06,480 --> 00:04:09,280 Speaker 2: would also feel guilty about how tired and overwhelmed they 70 00:04:09,320 --> 00:04:12,040 Speaker 2: may be, and like they'll be judged. Why is it 71 00:04:12,080 --> 00:04:15,120 Speaker 2: so important to recognize and address caregiver stress early? 72 00:04:15,840 --> 00:04:19,520 Speaker 4: This is such an important reason. 73 00:04:20,240 --> 00:04:22,880 Speaker 3: You have to speak up. You have to speak up. 74 00:04:23,600 --> 00:04:27,120 Speaker 3: Caregivers burn out faster when everything stays in their head. 75 00:04:27,680 --> 00:04:30,640 Speaker 3: You have to express your feelings. Being a caregiver is hard, 76 00:04:31,080 --> 00:04:34,279 Speaker 3: and sometimes it's a twenty four to seven, three hundred 77 00:04:34,320 --> 00:04:37,640 Speaker 3: and sixty five day roll, and so it's okay to 78 00:04:37,720 --> 00:04:41,440 Speaker 3: acknowledge that it is hard. It's okay. You're not gonna 79 00:04:41,440 --> 00:04:46,120 Speaker 3: love every minute of caregiving, and that's okay. You should 80 00:04:46,160 --> 00:04:50,360 Speaker 3: express those feelings, whether it be journaling, whether it be 81 00:04:50,560 --> 00:04:55,520 Speaker 3: voice noting yourself, maybe just having a vent session with 82 00:04:55,640 --> 00:04:59,200 Speaker 3: the support system that you've put in place. And emotional 83 00:04:59,320 --> 00:05:01,800 Speaker 3: release so important. 84 00:05:02,440 --> 00:05:05,279 Speaker 2: My guest is Aisha Peacock. She's a social work care 85 00:05:05,360 --> 00:05:08,599 Speaker 2: manager at elder Plan Home First, part of the not 86 00:05:08,720 --> 00:05:12,600 Speaker 2: for profit MJHS Health System. We're talking about self care 87 00:05:12,640 --> 00:05:16,640 Speaker 2: for caregivers. This Friday is a National Caregiver's Day. You 88 00:05:16,640 --> 00:05:21,520 Speaker 2: can find out more at Elderplan dot org and MJHS 89 00:05:21,560 --> 00:05:24,320 Speaker 2: dot org. You're listening to get connected on one six 90 00:05:24,360 --> 00:05:27,479 Speaker 2: point seven light FM Amina del Rio. One of the 91 00:05:27,560 --> 00:05:30,560 Speaker 2: videos I looked at and again I was fascinated by 92 00:05:31,279 --> 00:05:33,520 Speaker 2: some of them. Hadn't thought about some of these things, 93 00:05:33,520 --> 00:05:35,719 Speaker 2: but most of us, a lot of us, are going 94 00:05:35,800 --> 00:05:39,520 Speaker 2: to get there alleviating pain without meds for your the 95 00:05:39,560 --> 00:05:43,640 Speaker 2: person you're caring for. The suggestions are playing music, getting 96 00:05:43,680 --> 00:05:46,680 Speaker 2: a foot rub giving a foot, rubber hands, reading to someone, 97 00:05:46,839 --> 00:05:49,440 Speaker 2: snuggling with a pet. It occurred to me that these 98 00:05:49,480 --> 00:05:52,080 Speaker 2: could be actually really useful for caregivers as well. 99 00:05:52,600 --> 00:05:57,480 Speaker 3: Oh absolutely, Nina, I say, do those things with the 100 00:05:57,520 --> 00:06:01,080 Speaker 3: person that you're giving care to, and so it can 101 00:06:01,160 --> 00:06:05,640 Speaker 3: be a group project for you guys to both alleviate 102 00:06:05,720 --> 00:06:09,240 Speaker 3: stress and stay active and stay healthy. There are so 103 00:06:09,360 --> 00:06:12,120 Speaker 3: many free things to do in New York and New 104 00:06:12,200 --> 00:06:15,360 Speaker 3: York City. You can take a walk in the park, 105 00:06:15,480 --> 00:06:19,680 Speaker 3: they have free museums. Really taking a walk is what 106 00:06:19,800 --> 00:06:24,719 Speaker 3: we really gear older adults towards. But of course any 107 00:06:24,760 --> 00:06:29,719 Speaker 3: age exercise is just beneficial for longevity, and so doing 108 00:06:29,760 --> 00:06:31,840 Speaker 3: those things can definitely help and. 109 00:06:31,800 --> 00:06:38,200 Speaker 2: Assist caregiver guilt. Whether it's hiring additional help or decisions 110 00:06:38,200 --> 00:06:41,160 Speaker 2: you've had to make like hospice care or full time 111 00:06:41,240 --> 00:06:44,760 Speaker 2: nursing facility, people can feel like they've given up. What 112 00:06:44,800 --> 00:06:46,200 Speaker 2: do you say about guilt? 113 00:06:46,520 --> 00:06:48,200 Speaker 4: You really can't do it alone. 114 00:06:48,839 --> 00:06:52,040 Speaker 3: And I want to make your listeners very aware that 115 00:06:52,200 --> 00:06:55,760 Speaker 3: caregiving wasn't meant to be done alone. When you look 116 00:06:55,800 --> 00:07:00,159 Speaker 3: back in history, we were in villages we weren't and 117 00:07:00,320 --> 00:07:06,839 Speaker 3: tribes we were in group settings, and everybody helped everybody else. Unfortunately, 118 00:07:07,760 --> 00:07:11,520 Speaker 3: here in America there seems to be a separation of 119 00:07:12,120 --> 00:07:15,720 Speaker 3: the older adults and younger adults, and everybody's kind of 120 00:07:15,800 --> 00:07:18,840 Speaker 3: out and winging it on their own. And that's not 121 00:07:18,920 --> 00:07:22,160 Speaker 3: how we're meant to live, and that's how caregiver burnout 122 00:07:22,200 --> 00:07:26,360 Speaker 3: has become a thing. So it's very important to ask 123 00:07:26,560 --> 00:07:30,800 Speaker 3: for help and accept the help. Accepting help is not weak. 124 00:07:31,080 --> 00:07:34,000 Speaker 3: It's a form of strength to say you can't do 125 00:07:34,120 --> 00:07:37,760 Speaker 3: this by yourself. Even if family members have moved away, 126 00:07:38,240 --> 00:07:41,000 Speaker 3: they can contribute in some other way. Maybe they can 127 00:07:41,080 --> 00:07:46,320 Speaker 3: deliver groceries, maybe they can just give financial contribution. What 128 00:07:46,520 --> 00:07:51,240 Speaker 3: friends can help you do is vent give you a 129 00:07:51,280 --> 00:07:54,760 Speaker 3: space where you can not be judged and say, you 130 00:07:54,840 --> 00:07:58,440 Speaker 3: know what, this really sucks today, But guess what. 131 00:08:00,040 --> 00:08:01,120 Speaker 4: Person I'm giving care to. 132 00:08:01,400 --> 00:08:04,880 Speaker 3: They have dementia, and today they remembered my name, you know, 133 00:08:05,080 --> 00:08:09,400 Speaker 3: and that gives you an elation that is just so wonderful. 134 00:08:09,680 --> 00:08:12,160 Speaker 3: And then later on in that day they could have 135 00:08:12,240 --> 00:08:16,160 Speaker 3: an accident and then you're back down into that you know, 136 00:08:16,200 --> 00:08:18,720 Speaker 3: feelings of this is very hard. So it's going to 137 00:08:18,880 --> 00:08:22,600 Speaker 3: be a rollercoaster of emotions. And this is why you 138 00:08:22,680 --> 00:08:26,880 Speaker 3: just have to get yourself a group of besties. This 139 00:08:26,920 --> 00:08:30,440 Speaker 3: is where again I go back to that support system, friends, family, 140 00:08:30,720 --> 00:08:34,040 Speaker 3: even online caregivers support groups. I found that they've been 141 00:08:34,440 --> 00:08:37,280 Speaker 3: very helpful with caregivers. 142 00:08:37,760 --> 00:08:40,520 Speaker 2: What are some practical needs that a hospice team or 143 00:08:40,559 --> 00:08:42,000 Speaker 2: social work team can help with. 144 00:08:42,600 --> 00:08:47,400 Speaker 3: So we definitely have a lot of durable medical equipment 145 00:08:47,520 --> 00:08:49,840 Speaker 3: that we can help with. Let's say that they need 146 00:08:49,880 --> 00:08:52,040 Speaker 3: to be lift the person you're caring for and needs 147 00:08:52,080 --> 00:08:56,160 Speaker 3: to be lifted up. There are Hoyer lifts, Okay, there 148 00:08:56,240 --> 00:08:59,160 Speaker 3: are shower chairs in case you know you need to 149 00:08:59,160 --> 00:09:03,240 Speaker 3: help bathe them. So we have different medical devices that 150 00:09:03,440 --> 00:09:07,600 Speaker 3: can help and support in doing these things. Practically, there 151 00:09:07,640 --> 00:09:12,920 Speaker 3: are walkers, there are lifts, there are ramps that can 152 00:09:12,960 --> 00:09:16,880 Speaker 3: be installed in some homes. This can help with wheelchairs, 153 00:09:16,960 --> 00:09:20,000 Speaker 3: this can help with role laters. So those are the 154 00:09:20,120 --> 00:09:23,440 Speaker 3: practical things that we can do. Also, I wanted to 155 00:09:23,520 --> 00:09:27,520 Speaker 3: mention Nina, I know that you said that we have 156 00:09:27,640 --> 00:09:31,120 Speaker 3: the website. We also have a newsletter that can be 157 00:09:31,160 --> 00:09:35,480 Speaker 3: found on Elderplan dot org. It's called Alltogether Healthy, and 158 00:09:35,720 --> 00:09:39,000 Speaker 3: our social medias are at elder Plan, so we can 159 00:09:39,040 --> 00:09:41,079 Speaker 3: be found on Facebook and on Instagram. 160 00:09:41,960 --> 00:09:45,280 Speaker 2: Caregiving also takes a toll on people financially. How do 161 00:09:45,320 --> 00:09:48,040 Speaker 2: you help caregivers navigate the financial part? 162 00:09:49,040 --> 00:09:53,400 Speaker 3: I love this website called finehelp dot org. It is 163 00:09:53,480 --> 00:09:57,680 Speaker 3: such a wealth of information. You can get things from 164 00:09:58,080 --> 00:10:01,880 Speaker 3: food pantries that can help offset some of the financial 165 00:10:01,920 --> 00:10:05,199 Speaker 3: costs for food because food is very expensive right now 166 00:10:05,760 --> 00:10:08,800 Speaker 3: in New York City and I know people are feeling it, 167 00:10:09,440 --> 00:10:13,319 Speaker 3: especially with snap benefits and some people know it as 168 00:10:13,360 --> 00:10:16,280 Speaker 3: food stamps, some of them have been cut and so 169 00:10:16,840 --> 00:10:20,320 Speaker 3: finding I can help you find pantries to get additional food. 170 00:10:20,640 --> 00:10:23,280 Speaker 3: We do have a social care network that we refer 171 00:10:23,360 --> 00:10:29,280 Speaker 3: people to, but also there are different free services that 172 00:10:29,320 --> 00:10:35,480 Speaker 3: you can find online for clothing for legal help. There 173 00:10:35,480 --> 00:10:40,080 Speaker 3: are just so many free resources out there, and really 174 00:10:40,280 --> 00:10:43,679 Speaker 3: utilizing the Internet or asking someone if they know about 175 00:10:43,880 --> 00:10:47,240 Speaker 3: any of these resources could definitely help. 176 00:10:47,679 --> 00:10:51,880 Speaker 2: There are great resources online. There's also social media. What's 177 00:10:51,920 --> 00:10:56,280 Speaker 2: your view of the impact of social media on caregivers? 178 00:10:56,679 --> 00:11:00,280 Speaker 3: So social media, of course it has you know, good 179 00:11:00,320 --> 00:11:04,440 Speaker 3: and bad, like everything does, pros and cons. But my 180 00:11:04,800 --> 00:11:08,040 Speaker 3: advice is to find a safe space on the internet right. 181 00:11:08,160 --> 00:11:13,280 Speaker 3: Facebook has been a wonderful source of groups where there 182 00:11:13,320 --> 00:11:16,040 Speaker 3: are big caregiver groups and then you can see that 183 00:11:16,120 --> 00:11:18,440 Speaker 3: other people are going through the same thing. 184 00:11:18,480 --> 00:11:19,640 Speaker 4: That you're going through. 185 00:11:20,000 --> 00:11:23,319 Speaker 3: You can also get caught in a comparison trip because 186 00:11:23,360 --> 00:11:26,880 Speaker 3: someone may be posting everything's going great, you know over 187 00:11:26,920 --> 00:11:31,720 Speaker 3: here on my caregiving you know space, but don't just 188 00:11:32,040 --> 00:11:36,319 Speaker 3: I advise not to fall into that. Everybody is dealing 189 00:11:36,480 --> 00:11:40,000 Speaker 3: with different, you know, different things with their loved one, 190 00:11:40,360 --> 00:11:43,439 Speaker 3: and so you just find people who can get you 191 00:11:43,840 --> 00:11:46,719 Speaker 3: and get what you're going through and just know that 192 00:11:46,800 --> 00:11:48,800 Speaker 3: you can't do it alone. 193 00:11:48,840 --> 00:11:53,280 Speaker 2: What are some realistic, practical tips for caregivers to take 194 00:11:53,280 --> 00:11:55,280 Speaker 2: care of their own well being even if they only 195 00:11:55,320 --> 00:11:57,920 Speaker 2: have fifteen minutes to themselves, and it. 196 00:11:57,880 --> 00:12:00,600 Speaker 3: Can even be five minutes. You just need to take 197 00:12:00,640 --> 00:12:04,600 Speaker 3: a beat. Maybe go outside, take a deep breath that 198 00:12:04,640 --> 00:12:08,120 Speaker 3: will help. Maybe walk around the building. Also have a 199 00:12:08,120 --> 00:12:12,200 Speaker 3: cry if you need to. It is lethartic, cathartic. It 200 00:12:12,200 --> 00:12:15,280 Speaker 3: gets everything out. And don't worry, it's New York City. 201 00:12:15,280 --> 00:12:20,560 Speaker 3: Nobody will look at you anyway. You can also take 202 00:12:21,000 --> 00:12:26,120 Speaker 3: five to ten minutes to read your favorite book on Kindle, 203 00:12:26,240 --> 00:12:27,760 Speaker 3: listen to your favorite podcast. 204 00:12:29,240 --> 00:12:31,760 Speaker 4: You can listen to music moving your body. 205 00:12:32,120 --> 00:12:36,400 Speaker 3: Literally, a five minute dance break can just really increase 206 00:12:36,480 --> 00:12:40,120 Speaker 3: those happy endorphins, those happy chemicals in your brain and 207 00:12:40,160 --> 00:12:43,920 Speaker 3: you can get back to it. Also, the boundaries. Boundaries 208 00:12:43,920 --> 00:12:47,319 Speaker 3: are very important. I want the listeners to really really 209 00:12:47,360 --> 00:12:50,520 Speaker 3: get this. You need to set time for being a caregiver. 210 00:12:50,960 --> 00:12:53,760 Speaker 3: Caregiving is a job, so you have to treat it 211 00:12:53,800 --> 00:12:57,120 Speaker 3: as a job, and you have to put breaks in 212 00:12:57,200 --> 00:13:00,880 Speaker 3: place for yourself. Okay, there needs to be a timeframe 213 00:13:00,920 --> 00:13:03,920 Speaker 3: when you're on which means that you are available for 214 00:13:04,160 --> 00:13:08,120 Speaker 3: running errands, going to doctor's appointments, and there has to 215 00:13:08,160 --> 00:13:11,680 Speaker 3: be a plan in place for emergency. Let's say that 216 00:13:12,160 --> 00:13:14,880 Speaker 3: you're at work right you probably have a nine to five, 217 00:13:15,880 --> 00:13:19,520 Speaker 3: and then you get a text from your loved one. Oh, 218 00:13:19,559 --> 00:13:22,079 Speaker 3: I need this picked up, Okay, you know, I can 219 00:13:22,120 --> 00:13:23,920 Speaker 3: do it at lunch, or I can do it this 220 00:13:24,240 --> 00:13:28,560 Speaker 3: you know at this time. Also emergency plan. If the person, 221 00:13:28,600 --> 00:13:30,920 Speaker 3: if your loved one calls twice in a row, that 222 00:13:30,960 --> 00:13:33,400 Speaker 3: means it's an emergency and so maybe I should step 223 00:13:33,440 --> 00:13:36,079 Speaker 3: out of you know where I am to take that call. 224 00:13:36,360 --> 00:13:38,480 Speaker 3: But there has to be that plan in place for 225 00:13:38,640 --> 00:13:42,720 Speaker 3: you at the beginning so that you don't approach burnout. 226 00:13:43,200 --> 00:13:47,559 Speaker 2: I love that tip. Any final thoughts for caregivers, Yes. 227 00:13:47,760 --> 00:13:51,280 Speaker 4: Just know that you are not alone. You are not alone. 228 00:13:51,320 --> 00:13:55,360 Speaker 3: I myself am a caregiver for my mother and I 229 00:13:55,400 --> 00:13:58,559 Speaker 3: definitely sometimes have to step away from work and I'll 230 00:13:58,679 --> 00:14:01,280 Speaker 3: go on a zoom call like a FaceTime call to 231 00:14:01,320 --> 00:14:05,000 Speaker 3: be in the room with her and her doctor, and 232 00:14:05,040 --> 00:14:07,840 Speaker 3: then I take a beat after I'm done with that call, 233 00:14:08,200 --> 00:14:11,400 Speaker 3: take a few deep breaths, and then transition back to 234 00:14:11,840 --> 00:14:14,840 Speaker 3: what I'm going to what I was doing in my job. 235 00:14:15,200 --> 00:14:20,239 Speaker 3: So my tip is definitely set those clear boundaries for yourself. 236 00:14:20,920 --> 00:14:24,800 Speaker 3: Speak up about how you're feeling. It's okay to not 237 00:14:25,000 --> 00:14:28,440 Speaker 3: be okay, and to voice that, and then definitely lean 238 00:14:28,560 --> 00:14:30,040 Speaker 3: on your support system. 239 00:14:30,800 --> 00:14:35,400 Speaker 2: I love your energy. You're so so calm and present. 240 00:14:35,480 --> 00:14:37,920 Speaker 2: It's so lovely and this is a perfect conversation to 241 00:14:37,960 --> 00:14:41,000 Speaker 2: have with you. I think. My guest is Ayisha Peacot. 242 00:14:41,240 --> 00:14:44,320 Speaker 2: She's a social work care manager at elder Plan Home First, 243 00:14:44,720 --> 00:14:48,080 Speaker 2: part of the not for profit MJHS Health System. Again, 244 00:14:48,120 --> 00:14:50,960 Speaker 2: they have many free resources for caregivers on their website 245 00:14:51,040 --> 00:14:56,440 Speaker 2: and their YouTube page at Elderplan dot org and MJHS 246 00:14:56,520 --> 00:14:59,040 Speaker 2: dot org. Is should Peacot. It's a pleasure to speak 247 00:14:59,040 --> 00:15:00,560 Speaker 2: with you. Thank you for being on Connected. 248 00:15:00,800 --> 00:15:02,640 Speaker 4: Thank you so much for having me on your show. 249 00:15:02,720 --> 00:15:06,560 Speaker 1: Me then this has been Get Connected with Nina del 250 00:15:06,600 --> 00:15:09,480 Speaker 1: Rio on one oh six point seven light Fm. The 251 00:15:09,600 --> 00:15:12,320 Speaker 1: views and opinions of our guests do not necessarily reflect 252 00:15:12,320 --> 00:15:14,560 Speaker 1: the views of the station. If you missed any part 253 00:15:14,600 --> 00:15:16,720 Speaker 1: of our show or want to share it, visit our 254 00:15:16,720 --> 00:15:19,800 Speaker 1: website for downloads and podcasts at one O six seven 255 00:15:19,880 --> 00:15:22,440 Speaker 1: lightfm dot com. Thanks for listening.