Speaker 1: Friday, got faced with a little dilemma. It's like a
Speaker 1: moral dilemma, and I want to ask the listeners, what
Speaker 1: would you have done if you were me? Okay, let
Speaker 1: me explain this situation, and you tell me what your
Speaker 1: thoughts are on this. So this weekend, Chelsea and I
Speaker 1: were going to go to Chicago to visit our son
Speaker 1: Jacob and his boyfriend Chris, and we were taking them
Speaker 1: as part of their Christmas gift to go see the
Speaker 1: Broadway musical Six, which I've heard it so good. I
Speaker 1: had no idea what it was about until I went
Speaker 1: in there, and then I was there and I'm going
Speaker 1: I sang so bad.
Speaker 2: I actually kind of liked it. I'll explain that in
Speaker 2: a second.
Speaker 1: So Chelsea and Jacob had been wanting to go see it,
Speaker 1: and it was something that they both wanted to do together,
Speaker 1: and then they let the two people in the relationship
Speaker 1: with them, myself and Chris, be part of it and
Speaker 1: to be part of a Christmas gift, We're going to
Speaker 1: do dinner and all this stuff. Well, Friday morning, during
Speaker 1: the show, Chelsea sends me a text message at about
Speaker 1: maybe like six forty five.
Speaker 2: I am hold on.
Speaker 1: Let me read the extual thing here, because it's you
Speaker 1: got to almost hear the hair, the whole thing.
Speaker 2: Uh. She sends me back.
Speaker 1: I look at this one. Stop texting me. Hold on
Speaker 1: a second, noave me some of these things. Why are
Speaker 1: you bother me? Oh no, that's not that one. That
Speaker 1: aren't there? Uh Friday?
Speaker 2: Where's Friday's Friday? Oh? Here you go.
Speaker 1: I am so sick. I have the worst sore throat,
Speaker 1: horrible headache and body aches. And I said, oh f
Speaker 1: And I said, do you want to cancel? She says,
Speaker 1: I feel like I got hit by a truck. I
Speaker 1: am so sad. This is all I wanted to do
Speaker 1: with Jacob, and I do not want to get him sick.
Speaker 1: So she sends me this text and I said, well,
Speaker 1: what do you want to do? She doesn't answer me,
Speaker 1: so I call her, and this is where I asked
Speaker 1: the listeners, Okay, I got to be a good husband here.
Speaker 1: I got her very sick wife at home. But I
Speaker 1: also have my son and his boyfriend in a hotel
Speaker 1: room waiting in Chicago. So I say to myself, well,
Speaker 1: what I'm gonna do is I'm gonna call Jacob and
Speaker 1: I'm going to see what Jacob's response is to his
Speaker 1: mom's being sick and then say, yeah, you know, I
Speaker 1: know she feels horrible because Chelsea was like really really sad.
Speaker 1: She could hardly talk. She blames Kevin by the way,
Speaker 1: fast did you text her?
Speaker 3: Yeah?
Speaker 2: I text her. She texts me and asks me, uh,
Speaker 2: when you got sick? What did it start with?
Speaker 4: And I could tell by the lining of questioning the
Speaker 4: reason for it.
Speaker 3: And her symptoms were.
Speaker 4: I think her started with her throw hurting. He started
Speaker 4: with a headache and then it went down nose and
Speaker 4: then throwers.
Speaker 1: Okay, so h are you guys making out a jingle ball?
Speaker 1: So I called Jacob up and he doesn't answer. I
Speaker 1: text him and said, because he's you know, he's Jacob's
Speaker 1: a psychologist. So he was in with patients. I said, hey,
Speaker 1: call me when you get a chance. He calls me
Speaker 1: right back. Within like ten or fifteen minutes. He says,
Speaker 1: everything okay, And I said, actually, mom is really really sick.
Speaker 1: Everything's gonna be okay. She's just got you know, sore
Speaker 1: throat and stuff like that. He's like, oh man, he
Speaker 1: was like you he was bummed, and he said, but
Speaker 1: you know, just you know, tell her don't worry about it.
Speaker 2: Whatever the deal is.
Speaker 1: I said, let me ask you, would you be okay
Speaker 1: if I still came. He got really excited. And Jacob
Speaker 1: and I do not have the relationship that Chelsea and
Speaker 1: Jacob have. Chelsea and Jacob's relationship is like they are
Speaker 1: in you know, what is it a simpectico?
Speaker 2: You know what I mean?
Speaker 1: Like they are like literally like how Kevin is with Josiah,
Speaker 1: how you are with Lucy, How I am with Joe,
Speaker 1: you know, and Luke we kind of you kind of
Speaker 1: have your your kids that you're really close with. And
Speaker 1: he was he seemed really excited. He goes, oh my god,
Speaker 1: that would be so great. He goes, that would be cool, Chris,
Speaker 1: and I will hang with you. And I'm like, okay,
Speaker 1: And I was excited about that. But then I hung
Speaker 1: up the phone and I go, I really feel like
Speaker 1: I'm being a dick husband because here she is, she
Speaker 1: just got over being really really sick, and then now
Speaker 1: she's sick with.
Speaker 2: This and I'm leaving her. I'm going out of town.
Speaker 1: She's got to take care of the dogs, you know,
Speaker 1: which the dogs are a holes, you know, why couldn't
Speaker 1: they be sick? You know, and so we're going, so
Speaker 1: going through this whole thing. So I kept asking her,
Speaker 1: Am I okay? Am I okay? And She's like, yes,
Speaker 1: go go go, So I go. And then I thought
Speaker 1: to myself the whole weekend, I'm like, oh, I don't
Speaker 1: think she's happy with me, you know, but I think
Speaker 1: you heard I don't think she's happy with me. Was
Speaker 1: I was also calling her every five minutes because I
Speaker 1: had guilt over the fact I was going.
Speaker 2: Did I do wrong by going?
Speaker 1: Or should I have stayed with Chelsea and just ate
Speaker 1: the hotel room for the night and just gave Jacob
Speaker 1: the tickets to go with Chris.
Speaker 5: One of his friends, think you one million percent, without question,
Speaker 5: made the right decision.
Speaker 2: You think so, yes. And by the.
Speaker 5: Way, when you're sick, you want to be by like
Speaker 5: at least me, I want to be by myself because
Speaker 5: all I'm going to do is sleep.
Speaker 2: I don't know. I don't know.
Speaker 6: And you had a great weekend with Jacob.
Speaker 2: I did have a great weekend with Jacob.
Speaker 3: I think you made the right decision. But I do
Speaker 3: know from what I've heard about people in relationships that
Speaker 3: are getting therapy, they keep telling me that you're supposed
Speaker 3: to make your spouse like priority.
Speaker 5: Yes, priority, get out of the house so I can
Speaker 5: just rest.
Speaker 1: Kevin was shaking his head over there. You guys are answering,
Speaker 1: what do you think was Chelsea alone? Chelsea had Luke
Speaker 1: at home.
Speaker 2: Okay.
Speaker 4: The only reason I say you're not an AO, and
Speaker 4: it's very tough for me to say that, is because
Speaker 4: Jacob really wanted you to go. Yeah, if Jacob had
Speaker 4: to said you know what, Dad, No, it's okay, moms,
Speaker 4: and you were just like, no, I understand this is
Speaker 4: important and you went, I'd be like.
Speaker 1: And honestly, that's how I felt like. If Jacob would
Speaker 1: have done that, I would have not gone, because honestly,
Speaker 1: I didn't want to drive eight you know, basically, it's
Speaker 1: nine hours of driving, it's four and half hours therefore
Speaker 1: and a half hours back.
Speaker 2: And it ended up being right.
Speaker 1: But I but I will tell you it was really
Speaker 1: fun to be able to just be me and I
Speaker 1: and try to be more present. But also we spent
Speaker 1: the day together on Saturday, just kind of hanging it
Speaker 1: at Jake's uh and Chris's condo that they live in,
Speaker 1: and I don't ever get to go over there.
Speaker 2: Like I'm never really.
Speaker 6: There as a mom like I love.
Speaker 5: I would love the idea of like dad getting to
Speaker 5: spend quality time with one of them.
Speaker 6: And I think that's really really important.
Speaker 1: And I will say this in our relationship, mine and Jacob's,
Speaker 1: it would not be anything if it wasn't for Chelsea.
Speaker 1: When Jacob was younger, saying to me, you need to
Speaker 1: find something that you can have with him, and for
Speaker 1: us it's always been like scary movies. This was pretty
Speaker 1: wild to go see, although Jacob was upset because he
Speaker 1: said I was looking at my phone NonStop.
Speaker 6: During the during the musical.
Speaker 1: During the musical, I didn't I didn't have it on
Speaker 1: or anything like that, but I was looking at it
Speaker 1: to see what the time was.
Speaker 2: What's up, Sarah? How you doing good? How are you good?
Speaker 2: Did I did I do wrong? Or what do you think?
Speaker 2: Am I the a hole? As Kevin says, You're not.
Speaker 3: The a whole.
Speaker 7: I think the fact that you feel like you're an
Speaker 7: a hole says enough that you're not an a hole
Speaker 7: and speak to the fact that you're a good husband.
Speaker 7: You asked Chelsea over and over again if it was okay,
Speaker 7: You were considerate of her and the fact that you
Speaker 7: feel so guilty about it, I just think shows that
Speaker 7: you're a good husband, because there's a lot of guys
Speaker 7: that would just go not even I don't know.
Speaker 2: I don't know.
Speaker 1: I think the fact I feel guilty about it is
Speaker 1: the fact that I've done wrong a lot in this relationship,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean, Like I have not chosen
Speaker 1: Chelsea to be the priority in a lot of our relationship,
Speaker 1: and I feel like this could be considered one of
Speaker 1: those same times, and I, you know, that was like
Speaker 1: my biggest thing. And then the other thing too, is
Speaker 1: I didn't want it to become Sarah one of those
Speaker 1: things where it was like, oh good, we're not going,
Speaker 1: and then it makes it look like I don't care
Speaker 1: about Jacob, like I wanted to make the effort to
Speaker 1: go so that.
Speaker 8: Do you think.
Speaker 7: Chelsea would speak up and tell you though she was
Speaker 7: upset about it?
Speaker 1: Yeah, now she would, I think after this whole thing,
Speaker 1: But I do really think I think she would have
Speaker 1: told me ahead of time and she didn't want me
Speaker 1: to go. Now, I will say this, she did say
Speaker 1: that the dogs were total.
Speaker 2: Pain in the ass.
Speaker 1: And why with the dogs, Well, I think Chelsea didn't
Speaker 1: want Luke to get sick, so she was staying away
Speaker 1: from Luke. But it is true though Luke should have
Speaker 1: helped you a little bit. I think, Marcia, what's up?
Speaker 7: You know what?
Speaker 8: Sometimes things happened. I think your wife got sick only
Speaker 8: so you can spend time with your son and Chicago.
Speaker 1: Marcia got thank Marcia, you know what. Thank you for
Speaker 1: saying that, because honestly, it was a really cool weekend.
Speaker 1: We had really an awesome time.
Speaker 8: Touch Okay, one thing, it would have been great if
Speaker 8: you had got the got them a whole hotel, whatever
Speaker 8: you do with you if.
Speaker 1: I if I euthanized them, I should have euthanized them.
Speaker 2: This would be the reason to put them down. I
Speaker 2: should I should have put them down. What's up, Mike?
Speaker 2: How you doing?
Speaker 7: I'm doing fine?
Speaker 1: Thank you?
Speaker 7: How are you doing?
Speaker 2: Good? Mike? This has turned into a version of am
Speaker 2: I the a whole? That was just the a whole move?
Speaker 2: But what are you serious? Speak on it? Mike? Do
Speaker 2: you think I'm an a hole for what I did?
Speaker 2: I love you guys.
Speaker 3: You know.
Speaker 2: You gotta stick with your wife. Sorry, Mike, you don't
Speaker 2: happen to be a guy trying to hit on my wife,
Speaker 2: are you no? Okay? I'm just making sure on that
Speaker 2: one there.
Speaker 1: So I should have stuck with the be home with
Speaker 1: my sick wife, and she's my priority over my.
Speaker 3: Sons in my opinion.
Speaker 2: Yeah, my wife, she used to be.
Speaker 7: A I don't know.
Speaker 2: She's kind of sweetheart. What do you think? Right there
Speaker 2: with you? Let's hear what she says.
Speaker 7: Actually, my wife agrees with you.
Speaker 2: Well, do you have an imaginary wife? I can't hear anybody.
Speaker 2: Where is she at?
Speaker 1: Uh?
Speaker 2: Honey, where you at? Sweetheart? Sweetheart? Where you at?
Speaker 7: Yeah?
Speaker 3: Hi?
Speaker 2: Hi wife? What did you want to What did you
Speaker 2: want to say? Mike's wife? Which? What's Mike's wife's name?
Speaker 3: Laura? Hi?
Speaker 2: La, Laura? What are you? What are your thoughts?
Speaker 1: Well?
Speaker 8: I just think you she's gonna be homesick anyhow. So
Speaker 8: the kid wanted to go.
Speaker 1: So, okay, let me ask you. Is this guy just
Speaker 1: trying to cause problems in my relationship?
Speaker 8: I don't think so?
Speaker 2: Okay? Is he a good guy? Is Mike a good guy?
Speaker 6: Oh?
Speaker 2: Definitely, he's the best. All right, that's great. Hold on
Speaker 2: a second, hold on, Kevin wants away? And what did
Speaker 2: you want to say? Kevin, I think Chelsea would be
Speaker 2: just okay, Kevin. Listener, Kevin, that's me, Mike.
Speaker 8: I think I think Chelsea would be just fine.
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, yeah. I say that because my father passed
Speaker 2: away few years ago. So for me, I would die
Speaker 2: for my dad called me one last time and help me.
Speaker 1: So that I'm telling you, you never know when the
Speaker 1: last moment you're going to have a time to spend
Speaker 1: time with your kid.
Speaker 2: I want to make make every moment good. Yeah, you
Speaker 2: made a good.
Speaker 1: And thank god, I came home and Chelsea was was,
Speaker 1: you know, alive and everything was good.
Speaker 2: What's up, Joni? How you doing good? How are you?
Speaker 2: I can't believe you know that reference that's crazy? What's
Speaker 2: going on? Jonny? I have a quick question for you, Mojoe.
Speaker 8: Why do you think you were the a whole for
Speaker 8: doing what you did?
Speaker 1: Because because in the past my relationship with my wife,
Speaker 1: I have not made her the priority and and I
Speaker 1: felt like it was another one of those moments where
Speaker 1: in the past it's been worse moments. And in that
Speaker 1: I started thinking about that as I was driving, as
Speaker 1: I got to zeb Rhodes exit Therenarian RB, I'm like God,
Speaker 1: I shouldn't I should just turn around. And then I thought,
Speaker 1: you know what, Jacob was so excited when I talked
Speaker 1: to him, And Jacob does not seem like the type
Speaker 1: that would not tell me the truth of the excitement level,
Speaker 1: you know, like that was the thing.
Speaker 2: So that's why I felt that way, Okay, all.
Speaker 7: Right, as a mother of three boys, and if I
Speaker 7: were ill and I would be so thankful that my
Speaker 7: husband did that for.
Speaker 8: My son because of how you say your relationship is
Speaker 8: with the.
Speaker 6: Other two and not him.
Speaker 2: Yeah, for you, that was amazing that you did that
Speaker 2: for him and his boyfriend. I think that's a beautiful
Speaker 2: thing that you did. So we had a great time.
Speaker 8: You did absolutely the right thing.
Speaker 2: Yeah, we had a great time.
Speaker 1: We had a great time, and I love Chris and
Speaker 1: it was so much fun getting a chance to hang
Speaker 1: with those guys. It was wild. I will tell you.
Speaker 1: I have one thing though, I'm going to bring it
Speaker 1: up as a topic this week. I think I'm I'm
Speaker 1: I think I'm allergic to my uh my grand dog.
Speaker 1: They have a dog together, and that dog dog made
Speaker 1: me itch and scratch. It's I don't even know it
Speaker 1: like it looks like a mutt, you don't like any dogs. No,
Speaker 1: but I started itching and scratching. I had hair all
Speaker 1: over me. I was like, what the but I was there.
Speaker 1: I was taking it like a champ. I was sneezing,
Speaker 1: and I thought I was getting sick from Chelsea's only.
Speaker 2: Know. Their house is clean. Believe it or not. Their
Speaker 2: house is clean.
Speaker 1: They've got a little couple too many figurines and things
Speaker 1: I don't like they have. They have like they have
Speaker 1: like crazy stuff all over the place. Talk about Joe
Speaker 1: and his Star Wars stuff. These guys, Oh my god,
Speaker 1: it's like crazy. But but they're cute. They're they're they're
Speaker 1: they're two good, good guys.
Speaker 2: I love them.