WEBVTT - Do You Still Give Them a Gift?

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<v Speaker 1>All right, it is Mojo in the Morning show phone

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<v Speaker 1>number eight four to four Mojo Live. The text is

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<v Speaker 1>nine five five zero zero Text numbers nine five five

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<v Speaker 1>zeros here. All right, I got a quick question to ask.

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<v Speaker 1>So Chelsea and I are going to a wedding. We

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<v Speaker 1>got a wedding coming up, and it's an out of

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<v Speaker 1>It's not an out of town wedding, it's an out

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<v Speaker 1>of country wedding. Okay, So we're going to a destination

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<v Speaker 1>wedding and it's out of the country. Do you have

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<v Speaker 1>to buy a wedding gift for somebody that if you

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<v Speaker 1>go to a destination wedding, I'll.

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<v Speaker 2>Say, yeah, it doesn't have to be crazy expensive, but

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<v Speaker 2>it can be a token of eat your affection for them.

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<v Speaker 3>Really, the the've got to be none crazy. What do

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<v Speaker 3>you think, Shan.

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<v Speaker 4>I feel like I've been in this predicament before and

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<v Speaker 4>I'm always like, nah, I'm not going to give a gift,

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<v Speaker 4>And then I get there and I'm like, I got.

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<v Speaker 3>To give a gift, yeah, you.

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<v Speaker 4>Know, and I'm like running out and buying a card

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<v Speaker 4>and putting money in it.

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<v Speaker 3>So here, because here's the thing.

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<v Speaker 1>We are spending money on airfare we're spending money on hotel.

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<v Speaker 1>We're spending money on spending money, you know what I mean?

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<v Speaker 1>Like if it was a wedding and I was just

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<v Speaker 1>going to it and it was at the uh, you know, Whitney.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, what's what's the place on the east side

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<v Speaker 1>up by you Lydia.

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<v Speaker 5>Oh that's Pennas Shannondoa's on the west side.

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<v Speaker 1>Now what's the other place? Though I was thinking of that,

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<v Speaker 1>they were all the pla. I just like the name

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<v Speaker 1>of it. I just like saying Plazzo Grande. So if

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<v Speaker 1>I was, you know, going to a wedding at the

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<v Speaker 1>Palazzo Grande, all I got to do is just drive

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<v Speaker 1>there right and then. And then here's another question, And

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<v Speaker 1>I think Kevin and I are going to differ on

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<v Speaker 1>this one because I think I brought it up in

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<v Speaker 1>the pre show meeting with us. What is the how

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<v Speaker 1>much money do you give as a wedding gift? Because

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<v Speaker 1>I think nowadays one hundred dollars is cheap, Like I think,

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<v Speaker 1>and I know not everybody can afford one hundred dollars,

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<v Speaker 1>But if you're invited to a wedding and you know

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<v Speaker 1>they paid more than one hundred dollars probably for your

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<v Speaker 1>meal alone. Are you only giving them one hundred dollars

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<v Speaker 1>as a wedding gift? I think what's your threshold? Well,

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<v Speaker 1>even a even a happy meal now is now seventeen

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<v Speaker 1>to eighteen dollars?

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<v Speaker 3>Oh my god, Well, I mean you can't. You can't.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know.

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<v Speaker 2>I can't base my gift giving off of happy meals.

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<v Speaker 2>I got to base it off what I can afford. Well,

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<v Speaker 2>just because the world inflated, don't mean my pockets are.

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<v Speaker 1>But that's where That's what I'm saying. Maybe maybe there's

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<v Speaker 1>you know, needs, Like when the bride and groom open

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<v Speaker 1>up cards and they open up the gifts, I guarantee

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<v Speaker 1>you when now they see one hundred dollars, they're like, hey,

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<v Speaker 1>I bet he makes I bet Kevin makes more money

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<v Speaker 1>than that To give me one hundred dollars, I'm not

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<v Speaker 1>your five hundred dollars card guy.

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<v Speaker 3>But you got to open up the next what's your

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<v Speaker 3>relationship with them? If you're at their uncle, yes you

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<v Speaker 3>should give more. Also if you're in the wedding, like

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<v Speaker 3>I have to go to a bridle shower, I have

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<v Speaker 3>to get a dress. I'm not giving you five hundred dollars.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, I I don't know.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, you know the relationship of the people. Get

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<v Speaker 2>them something that symbolic of your relationship. You're not trying

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<v Speaker 2>to finance. They knew what they were doing when they

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<v Speaker 2>decided to have this type of wedding with this, you

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<v Speaker 2>know what I mean.

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<v Speaker 3>You know it's not up to you to pay for it.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm throwing a bunch out there, so I guess we

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<v Speaker 1>can tackle them all at the same time. But destination wedding,

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<v Speaker 1>I have to get them a gift. And if I'm

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<v Speaker 1>going to get them a gift, do I get them

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<v Speaker 1>something big because I spend a you know, we had

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<v Speaker 1>to spend money on the airline stuff.

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<v Speaker 3>You know, give them some batteries. Everybody needs batteries.

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<v Speaker 5>Awesome.

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<v Speaker 3>Great.

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<v Speaker 4>I feel like you're gonna feel yeah, like you're gonna

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<v Speaker 4>be You're gonna feel shamed if you get there and

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<v Speaker 4>you don't give them a gift.

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<v Speaker 5>That's what always happens to me. I'm telling you.

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<v Speaker 2>You probably in a situation, spend more money than you

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<v Speaker 2>would have if you ever got it. Sure.

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<v Speaker 1>Here's the thing, though, they're not going to know for

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<v Speaker 1>a while because nobody knows what they got his gifts

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<v Speaker 1>until a couple of days later. What's a nice I

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<v Speaker 1>wait and see what kind of fun we have, Tory,

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<v Speaker 1>what's up to a year?

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<v Speaker 3>Hey? Torri, what's going on?

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<v Speaker 2>Hi?

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<v Speaker 3>How are you? My brother is having a destination wedding

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<v Speaker 3>in the fall, and I'm.

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<v Speaker 4>Pretty sure they're expecting gifts.

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<v Speaker 3>So where is it? Where are you guys going?

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<v Speaker 5>We're going to the vineyard and it's in North Carolina,

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<v Speaker 5>so it's right on the border of North Carolina and.

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<v Speaker 4>Georgia, so it's like one country. It should be super pretty.

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<v Speaker 3>But it is a black tie optional.

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<v Speaker 1>So I if you go to a black tie wedding

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<v Speaker 1>and you only give one hundred dollars as a gift,

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<v Speaker 1>that's they already wants you to dress up. You can't

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<v Speaker 1>give one hundred dollars a person. I'm saying that you

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<v Speaker 1>got to give at least a couple hundred, two hundred

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<v Speaker 1>and fifty bucks.

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<v Speaker 3>No, not a person, No for well black five hundred.

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<v Speaker 2>Maybe I'm gonna be on the optional side.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I think you got to give more than that.

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<v Speaker 3>That's crazy.

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<v Speaker 1>Call text her about the the Arab weddings that they

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<v Speaker 1>said the Chaldean weddings and stuff like that. They wrote

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<v Speaker 1>Kaldian and Arab weddings and then they gave an amount.

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<v Speaker 3>Wait till you hear that amount? What's up, Eileen?

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<v Speaker 2>Hi?

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<v Speaker 3>Hi? What's what's your thoughts? Well, what I was thinking.

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<v Speaker 1>Is, first of all, if it's out of the country,

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<v Speaker 1>won't they have to claim that money when they come back?

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<v Speaker 3>If anything, I would think, you.

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<v Speaker 5>Know, give them a gift or you leave or not

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<v Speaker 5>at all.

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<v Speaker 3>Because you're already paying for the travels, your room, all

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<v Speaker 3>of that. That's an interesting thing.

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<v Speaker 1>If it's out of the country, do you have to

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<v Speaker 1>come back through customs and say I'm also coming back

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<v Speaker 1>with you know, a blender, right because.

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<v Speaker 5>They wouldn't be able to bring all the stuff.

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<v Speaker 2>You know, just think of how they did give them

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<v Speaker 2>a physical gift.

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<v Speaker 5>How to get that all back home too?

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<v Speaker 3>People?

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<v Speaker 1>Do they really want you to buy something off their

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<v Speaker 1>their Yes, for a wedding.

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<v Speaker 5>For a wedding, No, they want money, right.

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<v Speaker 1>Lydia can't get this person on the text. What's the

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<v Speaker 1>most says ready Keldyan and Arab weddings minimum five hundred dollars?

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<v Speaker 5>Now, why that's insane?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, it's true too, Like if it's a first cousin,

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<v Speaker 3>you're at least throwing five hundred dollars in that envelope

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<v Speaker 3>or what.

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<v Speaker 5>Well, it's because we're really close to them.

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<v Speaker 2>So I'm just saying, like, if you don't like you get,

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<v Speaker 2>you can't come to things.

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<v Speaker 3>Giving or like just say it.

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<v Speaker 5>But I almost feel like it's a little frowned upon.

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<v Speaker 3>You're going to need lydium Bion get to hold off.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm getting married, Michelle, what's up, Michelle?

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<v Speaker 5>Okay, So, if you guys are just acquaintances, it's a

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<v Speaker 5>minimum two hundred a person, and then obviously going.

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<v Speaker 4>Person two hundred dollars. So West and I go to

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<v Speaker 4>a wedding, it's four hundred dollars. Now then they then

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<v Speaker 4>everybody whose wedding I've gone to recently hates me.

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<v Speaker 5>I am not writing a check for four hundred dollars.

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<v Speaker 4>Listen, No, it honestly stops, especially having so many weddings

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<v Speaker 4>coming back to Bath.

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<v Speaker 5>But at this point nothing feels enough or do you

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<v Speaker 5>have a shock on my face?

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<v Speaker 3>I'm sorry, but I'm.

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<v Speaker 5>Not writing a check for four hundred dollars.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, that's I remember all the Kaldian weddings that I've

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<v Speaker 1>gone to.

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<v Speaker 3>It's been a lot of money. What's going on, Wally?

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<v Speaker 2>Hi? Hi, yoe?

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<v Speaker 3>What's up? You guys are talking about one hundred dollars?

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<v Speaker 3>You know, we Arabs and Chaldeans. The minium you would

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<v Speaker 3>say at a wedding, it's five hundred. Yeah, nonimal Who decides?

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<v Speaker 3>Who decided?

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<v Speaker 2>Because you know the banquet hells are so expensive in

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<v Speaker 2>the wedding.

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<v Speaker 5>Guess what that's on you. I hate this rule, I

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<v Speaker 5>really do.

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<v Speaker 4>It bugs me so bad whenever we talk about Keldian

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<v Speaker 4>weddings and they're like, well, we have to make our

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<v Speaker 4>money back. Well, that's not the purpose of throwing a wedding.

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<v Speaker 4>A purpose of throwing the wedding is to celebrate two

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<v Speaker 4>people and starting their life together and having your friends

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<v Speaker 4>and family.

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<v Speaker 5>But for that coach to your guest to pay for

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<v Speaker 5>the wedding.

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<v Speaker 3>Listen, they got to pay for the champagne bar in the.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh.

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<v Speaker 3>No, hold on, Heather, what's up, Heather? This is an

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<v Speaker 3>absolutely ridiculous expectation to get that kind of money at

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<v Speaker 3>a wedding. I don't agree with you often, Kevin, but

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<v Speaker 3>you are right on this one. I agree with you.

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<v Speaker 3>Welcome to the right side. You're right.

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<v Speaker 4>It's just they should be happy that you're there.

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<v Speaker 1>To celebrate them in the day.

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<v Speaker 3>It's not all about the money in the gifts. What's

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<v Speaker 3>your name?

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<v Speaker 1>I'm going to write it down, Heather, like you, Heather, Heather,

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<v Speaker 1>Hold on real quick, Alex is joining our party line here, Alex.

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<v Speaker 3>What's up, Alex? Alex? Well, it's because our weddings cost

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<v Speaker 3>on hundred and twenty grand.

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<v Speaker 4>You gotta be putting you are stupid on your wedding.

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<v Speaker 3>Stupid, it cost costs lots of money.

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<v Speaker 4>Well choice, how much money a wedding?

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<v Speaker 5>Dang?

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<v Speaker 3>And it costed about one hundred and thirty five grades.

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<v Speaker 3>All right, so stupid, Alex. Are you talking about your wedding? Yeah?

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, so so tell me how how you got to

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<v Speaker 2>one hundred and thirty thousand in your wedding.

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<v Speaker 3>Break it down for me. Flowers twenty grand, let's just

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<v Speaker 3>start there. Twenty two grand maybe, okay, but.

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<v Speaker 2>That you made money on a weddowers.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm sorry, I'm sorry, but you will be shunned if

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<v Speaker 1>you don't. They'll all talk about you.

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<v Speaker 3>Heather.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, then you have really crappy friends and family. Now,

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<v Speaker 4>if they're going to be like he didn't spend thirty

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<v Speaker 4>grand on his flowers.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh what are you going to give Lydia? When Lydia

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<v Speaker 3>gets married?

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<v Speaker 4>You're not going to give her that I love like

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<v Speaker 4>I will give Lydia. I work with Lydia. I feel

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<v Speaker 4>like Lydia's part of my family. That's different.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm giving it like if it's.

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<v Speaker 4>Somebody said earlier in a somebody that you're an acquaintance of,

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<v Speaker 4>and you could invite it into the wedding. I'm not

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<v Speaker 4>writing them a check for five hundred, for even four

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<v Speaker 4>hundred dollars. No, no way, then don't invite me because

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<v Speaker 4>I'm telling you right now, you're gonna open the card

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<v Speaker 4>and be and it's.

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<v Speaker 5>Gonna be a cute card.

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<v Speaker 3>They're gonna be.

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<v Speaker 5>Probably you're gonna be very disappointed.

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<v Speaker 1>Wait, the file and the chicken and all that hummus

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<v Speaker 1>probably did my options.

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<v Speaker 3>All right, It's Mojo in the Morning Show.