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Speaker 1: I was reading about something called phantom life syndrome yesterday.

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Speaker 1: Phantom life, phantom life syndrome, and I do not I

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Speaker 1: do not participate in it. But think back to think

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Speaker 1: back to like your high school girlfriend. For me, that

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Speaker 1: would have been Shannon Collins, right, and we we dated

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Speaker 1: for a long time actually, But phantom life syndrome is

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Speaker 1: when you go and like start stalking there, not not

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Speaker 1: in a bad way, like that term sometimes has a

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Speaker 1: negative connotation.

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Speaker 2: Stalking, Yes, it does in all No.

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Speaker 3: No, no, no, not in this way.

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Speaker 1: Not in this way, but like where you start digging

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Speaker 1: through and going through their like online presence, like going

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Speaker 1: through Instagram, maybe going through Facebook.

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Speaker 2: It's not stalking. Well the article I was reading curiosity

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Speaker 1: But they'll say, but then it's like you you kind

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Speaker 1: of get lost in there, like what they're doing. So

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Speaker 1: they'll say, like you'll go back and find somebody that

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Speaker 1: I don't want to say it's the one that got away.

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Speaker 3: Like that's not the case.

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Speaker 1: Like you dated somebody in high school or the early

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Speaker 1: part of college, you break up, things happened, right, Linda,

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Speaker 1: and then like you just you move on. But then

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Speaker 1: at some point in kind of your mind you think

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Speaker 3: I don't know why you would, But.

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Speaker 4: A song could be anything that just reminds you of

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Speaker 4: a person.

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Speaker 3: I can't think of a song that makes me think

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Speaker 3: of Shannon.

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Speaker 5: Just maybe a song from that era. And then you

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Speaker 5: start thinking about people that you were hanging out with

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Speaker 5: at that time, and then you're like, oh, let's see

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Speaker 5: what's going on over on Instagram.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, but then if you were just thinking about a

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Speaker 1: song from high school, why are you so stuck on

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Speaker 1: going to seek Shannon and not somebody else.

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Speaker 4: I mean, it's you could see a bunch of people.

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Speaker 2: I find myself doing that.

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Speaker 3: We just going and looking at a bunch people.

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Speaker 2: Where something will remind me of somebody and then I'm like,

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Speaker 2: oh my god, what what is this person up to?

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Speaker 2: So it has there's no romantic history with him or her.

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Speaker 3: And I don't think that qualifies as phantom life.

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Speaker 2: But if you think, wait a second, we grew up

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Speaker 2: the same right to the same high school, graduated in

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Speaker 2: the same class. Why are they the VP of this company?

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Speaker 3: Now? No?

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Speaker 1: So okay, now we're getting to the life. Now we're

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Speaker 1: getting somebody.

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Speaker 2: It just happened to me last week. I was with

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Speaker 2: the kid in college who was a great guy. I

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Speaker 2: did a couple group of projects with him in business school,

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Speaker 2: but his name was brought up in a in a

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Speaker 2: group text that he's not a part of. So I

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Speaker 2: was like, God, I haven't heard that name since two

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Speaker 2: thousand and four. What's he doing? And very well?

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Speaker 3: Is how he is doing? Well? You think he is?

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Speaker 3: I know he is.

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Speaker 2: I saw what he does for a living.

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Speaker 1: I know plenty of vice presidents who are very unhappy

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Speaker 1: in their lives.

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Speaker 2: I'm not talking about how that's emotional, that's true. I'm

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Speaker 2: just I was very proud of him for the position

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Speaker 2: he's in that.

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Speaker 1: Maybe you shouldn't be, Like would you be proud if

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Speaker 1: he was miserable and unhappy and regretted that?

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Speaker 5: You're just taking surface You're taking his his his title

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Speaker 5: at at at face value.

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Speaker 1: Right And it could be it could he He could

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Speaker 1: be sitting at home right now taking a piss, going God,

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Speaker 1: damn it, I hate my job. I wish I would

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Speaker 1: have never gone down this road. You could take your

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Speaker 1: VP title and shove it.

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Speaker 2: So it's not exactly like where I'm envious of him.

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Speaker 2: I'm just wondering how that happened. And again, he's a

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Speaker 2: great guy. I don't want to I mean, he's like

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Speaker 1: The oh really yes, d Vance and it's a major

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Speaker 1: major company, is it really?

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Speaker 2: Yes?

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Speaker 3: And he's a vice president.

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Speaker 2: I almost felt dumb not knowing what he was doing.

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Speaker 1: Is he hiring I know someone looking? No, So they

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Speaker 1: were talking about it where it was it's almost more

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Speaker 1: they make phantom life syndrome sound because it's not.

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Speaker 3: And I'll tell you why that is.

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Speaker 1: Because at some point you had a relationship with this

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Speaker 1: person and at some point you were you had a

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Speaker 1: like emotional physical like you were invested in them. And

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Speaker 1: again not that you didn't like this guy, but you

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Speaker 1: don't see him, you don't see his his And again

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Speaker 1: I saw you, I know, I know, you just saw

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Speaker 1: what he does. It's not like you were going through

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Speaker 1: his Facebook and Instagram and all that and seeing what

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Speaker 1: he's doing. So but what they were saying with phantom

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Speaker 1: life is you'll find somebody. You'll find somebody like I

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Speaker 1: couldn't tell you what Shannon Collins A is doing, b

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Speaker 1: what her whole thing is.

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Speaker 3: But if I looked her up, right, and if you.

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Speaker 4: Gave Jackie a task, she could find her.

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Speaker 3: Oh, I would never go to jack do that.

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Speaker 2: That's true, Jesus, I just that.

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Speaker 1: Hey, Jackie, do me a favor. Will you see what

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Speaker 1: my ex girlfriend is doing?

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Speaker 2: You know, the activity I described this morning on the

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Speaker 2: air as stocking. Yeah, could you assist.

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Speaker 3: Christian? Will you do me a favor? Will you do

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Speaker 3: me a favor?

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Speaker 1: Will you find me somebody who a knows who the

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Speaker 1: their ex is? Well, everybody would know who their X is,

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Speaker 1: but like who their high school person is or early

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Speaker 1: college I'm willing to accept that. But has has sometime

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Speaker 1: in the last how long? How long do you want

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Speaker 1: to say the last year?

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Speaker 6: Yeah?

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Speaker 2: I think you can probably go more recent than that.

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Speaker 3: Oh, I'm sure, But I don't. As Diane pointed out

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Speaker 3: earlier during horoscopes.

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Speaker 1: We're broadcasting broadcasting, But somebody who's looked up their ex

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Speaker 1: within the last year?

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Speaker 3: Okay?

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Speaker 1: Please eight six six to Elliott eight six six two

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Speaker 1: care if it was a high school boyfriend girlfriend, early

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Speaker 1: saying early college. But maybe that's to eliminate like you

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't want you to have married that could

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Speaker 1: No, I need it to be a little bit maybe

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Speaker 1: maybe who am I to be picky?

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Speaker 3: Let's broadcast my it.

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Speaker 2: The better solicit will be for follow up phone calls tomorrow.

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Speaker 2: Those people who said, well, Elliott, last night, I looked

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Speaker 3: So yeah, I need somebody though. I need somebody though.

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Speaker 1: Hell, I'll even do it live on the air with

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Speaker 1: somebody if they know their acts and they've got an

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Speaker 1: Instagram account.

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Speaker 2: Okay, you're not messaging the person, no no.

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Speaker 3: No no no no no no no no no no.

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Speaker 2: No no, not in your head on their partner's face.

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Speaker 7: No.

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Speaker 1: So that gets into I'll give the number Kristen, thank

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Speaker 1: you eight six six to Elliott eight six six two

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Speaker 1: three five five four six eight. So anyway, they are

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Speaker 1: the quote one that got away and not because not

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Speaker 1: not because you were you were, you were really gonna

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Speaker 1: marry them, but mentally you go like, oh we were

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Speaker 2: I mean you're still pin I don't know that either.

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Speaker 2: I don't love that description.

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Speaker 1: No, no, okay, maybe not the one that got away,

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Speaker 1: but it was like somebody you were with, you were

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Speaker 1: you were with them, maybe you pop your cherry with it,

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Speaker 1: I don't know, whatever, whatever. But then you start looking

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Speaker 1: at their life and the phantom, the phantom life syndrome

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Speaker 1: turns into the what if game?

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Speaker 4: What if it had turned out differently? And I'm the

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Speaker 4: one what if.

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Speaker 1: I would have stayed with them? Look at look at

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Speaker 1: all the stuff they're doing. Look at that vacation, look

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Speaker 5: But it's like they say, you're getting the highlight reel,

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Speaker 5: thank you, thank you, You're.

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Speaker 4: Getting all the good stuff. Nobody posts anything bad.

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Speaker 3: Thank you, thank you. But people don't think that in

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Speaker 1: In the moment, people sit there and they go, yeah,

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Speaker 1: my life is some routine. I get up, I take

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Speaker 1: And then you see them and Diane's right, You're you're

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Speaker 1: not getting day to day, you're getting highlight and you're like, god, damn, man,

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Speaker 1: what if I would have stayed with that.

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Speaker 2: You may look at your life and not be able

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Speaker 2: to identify any highlights. So it doesn't matter that it's

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Speaker 2: just the highlights not talking about you. But if it's

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Speaker 2: just someone's superficial dinner last night highlight, real dinner was

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Speaker 2: a highlight.

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Speaker 3: It was Menino was there last night.

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Speaker 2: It doesn't Matt. You can't talk someone down. It's tough.

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Speaker 2: What do you mean if if somebody looks at their

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Speaker 2: or I'm not looking that good in a mirror. Yes,

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Speaker 2: there there may be something more negative happening with this

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Speaker 2: high school flame, but you still highlight or not go

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Speaker 2: damn they look good or wow, that looks good.

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Speaker 3: Right, Yeah, no, you you can do that. You can

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Speaker 3: totally do that.

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Speaker 2: It's not healthy.

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Speaker 1: It's not unhealthy. Phantom No, no, phantom life syndrome, they say,

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Speaker 3: What no? If you can just accept it on the surface.

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Speaker 1: From they do say, though, people typically assume they're looking

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Speaker 1: up an X because they still have feelings for them.

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Speaker 1: But that's not what's going on in a lot of cases,

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Speaker 1: and this is where you're right. It's often more connected

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Speaker 1: to self doubt or a desire for reassurance about major

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Speaker 2: Right Instagram, my ex girlfriend from high school is my

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Speaker 2: city council rep here in Richmond. By the way, I

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Speaker 2: don't need to look that person up. You're in your

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Speaker 2: face or there in your face.

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Speaker 1: But is that guy playing the does he? Does he

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Speaker 1: play the what if game?

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Speaker 2: I was the first man?

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Speaker 5: Yeah?

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Speaker 3: What if?

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Speaker 1: No? I mean you're making fun of him, but yeah,

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Speaker 1: like what if what if I would have stayed with her?

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Speaker 2: I think too, we'd be.

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Speaker 3: Running the city instead.

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Speaker 1: Look at me, I'm sitting here, I got dirty socks on,

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Speaker 1: I got a hole in this shirt.

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Speaker 2: I think the It may not only be relationship wise,

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Speaker 2: but it baby your ties to a town, and you

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Speaker 2: could look at stuff. Lindsay does this all the time

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Speaker 1: It could make you feel good. Anytime you pull up

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Speaker 2: Thank God, don't do that.

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Speaker 2: Did you date anyone there?

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Speaker 2: That was all those are all National Passo.

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Speaker 6: Oh?

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Speaker 3: Miserable, miserable?

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Speaker 2: Do you do that when you're looking at families, social media.

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Speaker 4: No, I mean I had a little boy crushed down

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Speaker 1: I wonder what Salpayan is doing now. His parents used

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Speaker 2: Instead of like soap, yeah, oh and hard.

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Speaker 1: And then our friend Darwin, he said a cuss word

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Speaker 3: Ah, and they made him eat a chili.

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Speaker 1: And darn, and Darwin's parents were pissed, do not yes,

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Speaker 1: But remember in El Paso. That's also where I kissed

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Speaker 1: Marcy Callahan. And Marcy Callahan had the sweaty upper lips.

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Speaker 1: She was also a big and.

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Speaker 2: So all of your names are from El Paso.

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Speaker 3: No, that group is from El Paso.

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Speaker 2: But those are the names you always mentioned Phantom life.

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Speaker 1: Yeah no, No, A lot happened there, A lot happened there. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: It just clicked. Why this topic?

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Speaker 3: But I don't know what any of them are doing.

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Speaker 1: I don't have I'm not on Instagram, I'm not on Facebook,

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Speaker 1: I don't have any of that.

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Speaker 2: Usually the listeners is do the research for you.

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Speaker 4: Please do Remember I told you there was like a

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Speaker 4: business how you found coach.

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Speaker 3: Coach spear. Now that was an l pass used tweek

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Speaker 3: my nuts, the.

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Speaker 6: The no no.

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Speaker 1: But remember with Marcy we were in they in our playground.

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Speaker 1: We had like these big concrete cylinders that you could

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Speaker 3: It also got you out of the sun.

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Speaker 1: But that's where Marcy and I snuck in and I

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Speaker 3: I bet today she could even fit in there. Where

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Speaker 3: am I going?

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Speaker 7: You?

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Speaker 3: I know that, I bet what she's like, she's like

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Speaker 3: like a hot model or something. Hi Elliott the morning.

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Speaker 6: Hey, good morning.

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Speaker 3: Yes, Hi, who is this?

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Speaker 6: Hey'sifa on Prodericksburg.

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Speaker 3: Yes, what can I do for you?

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Speaker 7: Oh?

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Speaker 3: Who's your high school boyfriend?

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Speaker 6: Sam Gilbert? Oh?

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Speaker 2: Give it to me Gilbert California.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, give it to me Gilbert.

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Speaker 4: What did she say? California?

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Speaker 3: Where in?

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Speaker 2: Uh?

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Speaker 6: Where in California?

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Speaker 3: Where the where in California?

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Speaker 6: Like a Polo Alto area, Oh, very area.

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Speaker 1: Very night.

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Speaker 4: He's like an Apple millionaire.

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Speaker 3: Gilbert came from money.

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Speaker 7: Good lawyer.

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Speaker 6: No, not really, but so when we were high school,

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Speaker 6: I was going to go for. But we both got

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Speaker 6: see what he did with his because I've got his removes.

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Speaker 6: Since his mom had to me on Instagram, I can't

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Speaker 6: find a picture just hind his arm. My name was.

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Speaker 6: That's the only thing I've been looking for.

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Speaker 3: But now let me ask you this, how often do

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Speaker 3: you look him up?

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Speaker 5: Uh?

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Speaker 6: Ever, since his mom's out of me, like maybe every

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Speaker 6: few months, I'll be like, has she posted it?

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Speaker 1: Are the scientifically you're going specifically to see the tattoo

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Speaker 1: or do you play a little bit of that?

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Speaker 6: Huh?

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Speaker 3: I wonder what would have happened if we stayed together.

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Speaker 4: See how the holidays went.

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Speaker 6: There? You know, sometimes I'm like, I see that. The

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Speaker 6: funnier thing is when he when we started dating, he

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Speaker 7: We broke up.

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Speaker 6: He's now married to a Carmen different. So I find

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Speaker 6: But I want to know what he did with my name,

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Speaker 6: because he had my name, and then my eyes, and

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Speaker 3: So how old were you?

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Speaker 7: Guys?

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Speaker 3: How old were you?

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Speaker 6: And we did it seventeen eighteen.

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Speaker 3: But Gilbert, you and Gilbert were into each other. Hey

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Speaker 3: is Gilbert? Is Gilbert?

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Speaker 6: Who pop?

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Speaker 3: Is Gilbert? Who popped your cherry?

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Speaker 7: He actually was?

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Speaker 6: And I did his too?

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Speaker 3: Yeah that's good? You so horny?

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Speaker 1: Hey, what is the But now, now do we agree

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Speaker 1: that if you if you go stalking or looking up

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Speaker 4: A little I beg that happens.

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Speaker 6: Aline, I just want to ask, like, what did you do?

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Speaker 7: Like?

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Speaker 6: The only thing I can imagine is like a snake.

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Speaker 6: He has not changed it in high school, so he

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Speaker 3: Oh, let's call it. Let's call it.

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Speaker 6: You're amazing. But I got to get to work with that.

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Speaker 2: She just drove with you.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, all right, I don't care what time it is.

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Speaker 3: What's he gonna do?

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Speaker 1: Hate me?

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Speaker 3: All right? Very good? Very good.

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Speaker 5: I bet it doesn't happen a lot, but every once

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Speaker 4: I hope you're doing well.

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Speaker 3: Oh I don't like that.

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Speaker 4: I don't bet it happens.

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Speaker 3: I don't like that. Yeah, but I don't like it.

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Speaker 3: I don't like it.

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Speaker 2: This DM reads funny. You guys are talking about this.

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Speaker 2: I looked at my high school girlfriend two nights ago.

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Speaker 2: We dated for about three years my last year of

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Speaker 2: get out when she did. I'm so happy for her now,

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Speaker 2: But I would be a liar if I said I

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Speaker 2: never wondered how it would have gone if I got

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Speaker 1: By the way, Wow, I'll say this, that's great self reflection.

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Speaker 1: That is great self reflection, and it sounds like I

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Speaker 1: bet it would have turned out great. Has fostered a

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Speaker 3: Who's that for him?

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Speaker 2: The listener who wrote that.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, oh yeah, no, that's great self reflection.

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Speaker 2: Meanwhile, Joel writes, I have a fake profile on Facebook

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Speaker 2: so I can look up people from my past without

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Speaker 4: Thank you.

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Speaker 1: Line one, Hi Elliott in the morning. Hey, yeah, Hi,

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Speaker 1: who's we look up the nest?

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Speaker 3: Oh? Okay, yes, sir, yes, sir?

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Speaker 7: Wait?

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Speaker 3: Who artel a art?

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Speaker 7: So I hich I apologize?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, let's lang which I apologize?

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Speaker 6: Yes.

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Speaker 7: Whatever she wanted to do was fine by me because

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Speaker 6: Baby, but I don't want to release ship with you.

456
00:19:07,119 --> 00:19:11,720
Speaker 7: She understood that the once goes by hands up message

457
00:19:11,760 --> 00:19:14,160
Speaker 7: me says that it didn't work, which I found kind

458
00:19:14,200 --> 00:19:16,359
Speaker 7: of curious. So I asked her, you know what she

459
00:19:16,440 --> 00:19:18,160
Speaker 7: wanted me to do about it. She's like nothing, I'm

460
00:19:18,160 --> 00:19:19,320
Speaker 7: going to go back and try to get to die

461
00:19:19,320 --> 00:19:21,440
Speaker 7: of love whatever. And I've left with alone at that

462
00:19:22,600 --> 00:19:27,040
Speaker 7: ran through my early twenties and I met my current

463
00:19:27,119 --> 00:19:29,600
Speaker 7: wife and now we have five beautiful children. And I

464
00:19:29,640 --> 00:19:31,480
Speaker 7: was just looking it up and I've seen a picture

465
00:19:31,520 --> 00:19:35,320
Speaker 7: of her with a son who would be the same

466
00:19:35,440 --> 00:19:38,120
Speaker 7: age as if she were to actually have the child

467
00:19:38,200 --> 00:19:41,040
Speaker 7: that she said she had divorce him with. I haven't

468
00:19:41,080 --> 00:19:47,040
Speaker 7: reached out. Oh my gosh, the image of me when

469
00:19:47,119 --> 00:19:50,840
Speaker 7: I was his age, Like, there is no me denying

470
00:19:50,920 --> 00:19:53,960
Speaker 7: that kid. But no, I haven't reached out because, like

471
00:19:54,040 --> 00:19:55,960
Speaker 7: I said, I have my own life. I don't even

472
00:19:56,080 --> 00:19:58,800
Speaker 7: live I lived probably eight hours away from her anyways.

473
00:20:00,600 --> 00:20:03,320
Speaker 7: And I ain't trying to disrupt hers either because it

474
00:20:03,400 --> 00:20:04,920
Speaker 7: looked like she had a man and they had a

475
00:20:05,000 --> 00:20:07,399
Speaker 7: child together too, So I'm not going to disrupt that.

476
00:20:07,520 --> 00:20:09,280
Speaker 7: And I'm like, you know, if he wants to come

477
00:20:09,280 --> 00:20:10,879
Speaker 7: find out who his real father is, then he'll come

478
00:20:10,920 --> 00:20:12,840
Speaker 7: find out that's not well then to harmless out.

479
00:20:13,320 --> 00:20:15,720
Speaker 2: Wow, dude, dude.

480
00:20:16,080 --> 00:20:19,119
Speaker 7: I know it's hard, right, It's hard right, because I

481
00:20:19,160 --> 00:20:20,840
Speaker 7: mean I got my kids that I love to death

482
00:20:20,880 --> 00:20:22,639
Speaker 7: and I would do anything for it. And here I

483
00:20:23,160 --> 00:20:26,120
Speaker 7: have one that I'm ninety eight percent sure that's mine.

484
00:20:26,600 --> 00:20:28,159
Speaker 7: Like that was a spitting image of me. If I

485
00:20:28,200 --> 00:20:32,640
Speaker 7: were four of the fixture of his age. He's the face, haired, eyes,

486
00:20:32,720 --> 00:20:34,720
Speaker 7: hold nine yards like it is a spitting image of me.

487
00:20:34,800 --> 00:20:35,760
Speaker 7: It is unreal.

488
00:20:35,920 --> 00:20:38,840
Speaker 3: I know they're eight hours away, but about it. Phone

489
00:20:38,880 --> 00:20:40,280
Speaker 3: calls are immediate. Do you want me to call her

490
00:20:40,320 --> 00:20:40,680
Speaker 3: and ask?

491
00:20:41,880 --> 00:20:43,639
Speaker 7: I don't know her, I don't know her number or

492
00:20:43,640 --> 00:20:46,680
Speaker 7: anything like that. I don't have I don't have anything

493
00:20:46,760 --> 00:20:49,320
Speaker 7: that like that. Literally, I can't even find her on Facebook.

494
00:20:50,160 --> 00:20:55,000
Speaker 3: You found me, you've oh deleted because you.

495
00:20:56,280 --> 00:20:57,960
Speaker 7: And since then it's been deleted because I said, this

496
00:20:58,000 --> 00:20:59,280
Speaker 7: is about a year and a half, two years ago

497
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Speaker 7: that I came across. Damn.

498
00:21:01,280 --> 00:21:02,920
Speaker 3: Oh, I don't even know what I would do there.

499
00:21:03,119 --> 00:21:05,760
Speaker 6: Oh wait, what can you do?

500
00:21:06,440 --> 00:21:08,560
Speaker 1: I'm trying to find Marcy Callahan with a big swell

501
00:21:08,640 --> 00:21:09,760
Speaker 1: and fat, sweaty upper lip.

502
00:21:09,840 --> 00:21:12,119
Speaker 2: Oh you're trying to see if someone still has a bubble.

503
00:21:12,200 --> 00:21:17,640
Speaker 2: But yes, and he found a child. Yeah, all right,

504
00:21:17,880 --> 00:21:19,920
Speaker 2: very good, very good, thank you. I don't even know

505
00:21:19,960 --> 00:21:22,960
Speaker 2: what to do there. Wow, damn.

506
00:21:24,600 --> 00:21:27,040
Speaker 5: That's a lot more serious than certainly something to think

507
00:21:27,040 --> 00:21:29,960
Speaker 5: about when you're in the car by yourself, you know,

508
00:21:30,880 --> 00:21:33,080
Speaker 5: seeing what something. Wow, I have a child and have

509
00:21:33,240 --> 00:21:35,200
Speaker 5: no idea what their deal is, you know?

510
00:21:35,640 --> 00:21:39,720
Speaker 3: Wow? Oh my god, oh my god. Well what are

511
00:21:39,760 --> 00:21:43,440
Speaker 3: you supposed to do? You don't reach out? That crosses

512
00:21:43,480 --> 00:21:43,879
Speaker 3: the line.

513
00:21:44,200 --> 00:21:47,320
Speaker 4: I didn't find Vanessa, By the way, what.

514
00:21:47,440 --> 00:21:48,720
Speaker 2: Do you do in that situation?

515
00:21:48,960 --> 00:21:51,680
Speaker 3: Nothing? Nothing, forget.

516
00:21:53,680 --> 00:21:57,040
Speaker 2: I thought it was a dream. No, I don't know.

517
00:21:57,200 --> 00:21:59,119
Speaker 3: Oh god, you.

518
00:21:59,160 --> 00:22:02,199
Speaker 1: Can't do anything. And you know what, He's right, he's right,

519
00:22:02,480 --> 00:22:06,280
Speaker 1: he's right. She wanted nothing to do with me. She

520
00:22:06,720 --> 00:22:08,680
Speaker 1: even she even lied to me to tell me that

521
00:22:08,920 --> 00:22:11,480
Speaker 1: I wasn't going to have the kid. She wanted nothing

522
00:22:11,520 --> 00:22:12,040
Speaker 1: to do with me.

523
00:22:12,119 --> 00:22:13,119
Speaker 2: He wanted nothing to do with her.

524
00:22:13,400 --> 00:22:15,120
Speaker 3: Right, No, No, and that's true, that's true.

525
00:22:15,119 --> 00:22:16,800
Speaker 4: And he probably her decision.

526
00:22:16,960 --> 00:22:20,000
Speaker 3: No, you don't know that she's an independent thinker, an

527
00:22:20,040 --> 00:22:20,920
Speaker 3: independent parent.

528
00:22:21,000 --> 00:22:22,600
Speaker 4: I don't know if somebody is saying like that to

529
00:22:23,400 --> 00:22:24,879
Speaker 4: to me, that would have stuck with me.

530
00:22:25,119 --> 00:22:26,159
Speaker 3: What they don't want to be with you?

531
00:22:26,280 --> 00:22:26,399
Speaker 7: Right?

532
00:22:26,680 --> 00:22:28,680
Speaker 3: Because no, because I would have yelled louder. Finally, I

533
00:22:28,680 --> 00:22:29,560
Speaker 3: don't even want to be with you.

534
00:22:31,520 --> 00:22:33,560
Speaker 2: You say. He had told his current wife.

535
00:22:34,400 --> 00:22:37,520
Speaker 3: No, he never said. He never said. Maybe he did

536
00:22:42,080 --> 00:22:43,200
Speaker 3: telling your current wife.

537
00:22:43,320 --> 00:22:48,200
Speaker 4: Yes, that's that's a hard secret to keep.

538
00:22:48,280 --> 00:22:49,520
Speaker 3: The No, it's a hard secret.

539
00:22:49,760 --> 00:22:52,240
Speaker 2: Yeah, I agree, it's a hard reality to face when

540
00:22:52,320 --> 00:22:53,000
Speaker 2: she finds out.

541
00:22:53,400 --> 00:22:54,800
Speaker 3: Well, I was going to go the.

542
00:22:54,880 --> 00:22:56,119
Speaker 4: Other way that I was dreaming.

543
00:22:58,520 --> 00:23:00,720
Speaker 1: No, but then all of a sudden a kid comes

544
00:23:00,800 --> 00:23:04,200
Speaker 1: forward and wants to find you as the father or something.

545
00:23:04,480 --> 00:23:05,720
Speaker 3: That's when you got to go to your wife and

546
00:23:05,840 --> 00:23:09,639
Speaker 3: be like, what, you're never believe this. This kid's psycho.

547
00:23:09,920 --> 00:23:11,679
Speaker 4: I think I forgot to mention something.

548
00:23:12,240 --> 00:23:13,440
Speaker 2: Oh my god.

549
00:23:13,760 --> 00:23:15,600
Speaker 3: No, But you know what, like I get it.

550
00:23:15,840 --> 00:23:17,639
Speaker 1: I don't know that I would. I don't have it,

551
00:23:17,880 --> 00:23:19,600
Speaker 1: and I don't have as far as I know, I

552
00:23:19,640 --> 00:23:23,880
Speaker 1: don't have any kids out there running around the at all.

553
00:23:24,560 --> 00:23:26,719
Speaker 1: But if I if I did, if I even if

554
00:23:26,920 --> 00:23:29,399
Speaker 1: and he's not one hundred percent sure, although.

555
00:23:29,160 --> 00:23:30,919
Speaker 2: That kid is the succidity image.

556
00:23:31,080 --> 00:23:33,440
Speaker 3: Well that's the other thing. You gotta play dumb, care teeth,

557
00:23:33,560 --> 00:23:35,400
Speaker 3: skin everything. You gotta play dumb.

558
00:23:35,480 --> 00:23:40,320
Speaker 1: I know, no, no, but maybe you played dumb and

559
00:23:40,400 --> 00:23:42,440
Speaker 1: then sometimes they're like, oh my god, I remember that.

560
00:23:43,080 --> 00:23:44,560
Speaker 2: That's not a good approach.

561
00:23:44,960 --> 00:23:49,280
Speaker 1: You playing dumb works all the god or but like

562
00:23:49,520 --> 00:23:51,639
Speaker 1: like like if you went to Lindsay and we're like, hey,

563
00:23:51,720 --> 00:23:54,280
Speaker 1: we had a discussion on the air today, and I

564
00:23:54,600 --> 00:23:57,479
Speaker 1: just I never said anything. But I'm going to tell

565
00:23:57,520 --> 00:23:59,920
Speaker 1: you now, I have a kid out there, and I

566
00:24:00,160 --> 00:24:02,000
Speaker 1: know a year and a half ago on Facebook I

567
00:24:02,080 --> 00:24:02,440
Speaker 1: saw him.

568
00:24:02,600 --> 00:24:05,840
Speaker 3: I'm ninety nine percent sure like that that's going to

569
00:24:05,920 --> 00:24:06,560
Speaker 3: cause a problem.

570
00:24:07,080 --> 00:24:08,920
Speaker 1: Yeah, I realize that, but I feel that's why you

571
00:24:08,960 --> 00:24:11,080
Speaker 1: don't say anything, like why stir up the nest?

572
00:24:11,200 --> 00:24:11,360
Speaker 7: Now?

573
00:24:11,920 --> 00:24:15,679
Speaker 2: I'm also why a year and a half later, am

574
00:24:15,720 --> 00:24:17,880
Speaker 2: I saying something because you heard it on the show

575
00:24:17,960 --> 00:24:21,439
Speaker 2: today and you were like I needed your memory as

576
00:24:21,560 --> 00:24:27,040
Speaker 2: we've totally forgotten about that on air talk triggering any

577
00:24:27,200 --> 00:24:30,399
Speaker 2: thought it's never good to bring home with you now.

578
00:24:30,560 --> 00:24:31,800
Speaker 3: I agree. I agree.

579
00:24:31,840 --> 00:24:34,399
Speaker 1: But if you haven't said anything and you decide now

580
00:24:34,440 --> 00:24:36,960
Speaker 1: it's just eat natcha and you're like, no, I gotta

581
00:24:37,040 --> 00:24:37,639
Speaker 1: say something.

582
00:24:38,000 --> 00:24:39,440
Speaker 3: You're gonna stir up a hornet's nest.

583
00:24:39,520 --> 00:24:41,960
Speaker 1: Now, you're better off just waiting to see if you

584
00:24:42,000 --> 00:24:43,880
Speaker 1: ever have to stir up, why go kick the news?

585
00:24:44,040 --> 00:24:45,280
Speaker 3: But if you don't, never ever.

586
00:24:45,240 --> 00:24:49,800
Speaker 2: Have to, I just can't imagine living with that albatross.

587
00:24:50,040 --> 00:24:51,080
Speaker 3: It's not an albatross.

588
00:24:51,880 --> 00:24:52,840
Speaker 4: That's pretty heavyweight.

589
00:24:54,200 --> 00:25:01,120
Speaker 3: TI TTG. Take it to the grave. And it's clear

590
00:25:01,320 --> 00:25:02,480
Speaker 3: she doesn't want you to know.

591
00:25:03,760 --> 00:25:10,800
Speaker 1: Yeah, oh wait, he's calling back, Hey, did you does

592
00:25:10,880 --> 00:25:13,280
Speaker 1: your does your current does your current old lady know?

593
00:25:14,920 --> 00:25:17,560
Speaker 7: So I've been with my current wife for eleven years

594
00:25:18,080 --> 00:25:21,359
Speaker 7: and twelve or thirteen hold on, hold on. When we

595
00:25:21,480 --> 00:25:23,680
Speaker 7: first got together, me and my wife were very open,

596
00:25:24,000 --> 00:25:26,119
Speaker 7: and yes, I told her as a possibility because I

597
00:25:26,160 --> 00:25:27,800
Speaker 7: didn't know because it seems fishy to me that she

598
00:25:27,880 --> 00:25:30,080
Speaker 7: messages me a couple months after saying that it didn't work.

599
00:25:30,720 --> 00:25:33,960
Speaker 7: So a year or so it goes by, and me

600
00:25:34,080 --> 00:25:36,320
Speaker 7: and my current wife end up getting together and I

601
00:25:36,440 --> 00:25:38,480
Speaker 7: ended up letting her know because we're trying to start

602
00:25:38,480 --> 00:25:40,800
Speaker 7: our own family, of course, but we got so many kids.

603
00:25:42,560 --> 00:25:45,040
Speaker 7: But yes, so she does know it's a possibility. And

604
00:25:45,119 --> 00:25:47,640
Speaker 7: her reaction to that was, well, it's very nobody reaching

605
00:25:47,680 --> 00:25:49,399
Speaker 7: out to you. That kid's not yours. You don't doing

606
00:25:49,440 --> 00:25:52,320
Speaker 7: anything with the kid. You know, she's not reaching out

607
00:25:52,359 --> 00:25:52,520
Speaker 7: to you.

608
00:25:52,920 --> 00:25:54,800
Speaker 6: The kid's not reaching out to you exactly.

609
00:25:55,000 --> 00:25:56,600
Speaker 4: So it is what it is.

610
00:25:57,040 --> 00:26:00,280
Speaker 7: It may be yours like biologically, but you're not the.

611
00:26:00,280 --> 00:26:00,920
Speaker 2: Father of that kid.

612
00:26:00,960 --> 00:26:02,399
Speaker 7: You're not the dad to that kid. You don't have

613
00:26:02,480 --> 00:26:04,040
Speaker 7: any part in his life. And I was like, take

614
00:26:04,080 --> 00:26:04,720
Speaker 7: it to the grade.

615
00:26:05,320 --> 00:26:09,800
Speaker 3: He didn't. Yeah yeah that year later.

616
00:26:10,160 --> 00:26:11,920
Speaker 1: So like when you guys were like, hey, let's we

617
00:26:12,000 --> 00:26:14,159
Speaker 1: want to start a family, were you like, hey, by

618
00:26:14,200 --> 00:26:15,120
Speaker 1: the way, I already did.

619
00:26:15,560 --> 00:26:16,520
Speaker 4: I can't use this name.

620
00:26:18,440 --> 00:26:20,879
Speaker 7: So everything moves kind of quick. With me and my

621
00:26:21,000 --> 00:26:23,280
Speaker 7: current wife, we literally was dating for two months before

622
00:26:23,320 --> 00:26:25,720
Speaker 7: we were pregnant, planned pregnancy with our first child.

623
00:26:25,880 --> 00:26:26,120
Speaker 4: Wow.

624
00:26:26,680 --> 00:26:29,960
Speaker 7: So when we first got planned, when we first got together,

625
00:26:30,160 --> 00:26:32,320
Speaker 7: we I was already ready to settle down because I

626
00:26:32,320 --> 00:26:33,760
Speaker 7: was in my mid twenties and so was she. We

627
00:26:33,840 --> 00:26:36,800
Speaker 7: already had our little fun through our late teens early twenties.

628
00:26:36,560 --> 00:26:37,040
Speaker 6: You know what I mean.

629
00:26:38,119 --> 00:26:39,760
Speaker 7: She was ready to settle down and so was us.

630
00:26:40,080 --> 00:26:40,280
Speaker 6: Yeah.

631
00:26:41,040 --> 00:26:43,120
Speaker 7: Yeah, I want to be young with my kids. Don't

632
00:26:43,119 --> 00:26:44,560
Speaker 7: want to be able to have fun and play with

633
00:26:44,640 --> 00:26:45,760
Speaker 7: my kids. I don't want to be old and to

634
00:26:45,760 --> 00:26:47,520
Speaker 7: cripping and broken while I'm trying to have kids and

635
00:26:47,640 --> 00:26:49,560
Speaker 7: this that andeling I'm sitting there watching them have fun.

636
00:26:51,000 --> 00:26:52,800
Speaker 1: I still walk into the store down the street to

637
00:26:52,840 --> 00:26:54,080
Speaker 1: get my phone turned back off.

638
00:26:54,560 --> 00:26:56,159
Speaker 3: Like I wasn't ready for anything.

639
00:26:56,600 --> 00:26:59,280
Speaker 7: I'm thirty seven, now, I'm thirty seven now, and it's

640
00:26:59,280 --> 00:27:01,160
Speaker 7: like I said, it's been by twelve thirteen years since

641
00:27:01,200 --> 00:27:05,200
Speaker 7: all of this has happened. So it's it's worked out

642
00:27:05,480 --> 00:27:09,760
Speaker 7: and we're I couldn't imagine myself being in a better

643
00:27:09,800 --> 00:27:12,040
Speaker 7: place than I am right now with my family.

644
00:27:12,200 --> 00:27:15,840
Speaker 3: Oh, my life is great. My life is great. What abbs?

645
00:27:16,760 --> 00:27:19,320
Speaker 7: No, no, no, I didn't say that. I'm saying within

646
00:27:19,440 --> 00:27:22,040
Speaker 7: my family, with my meed, I understood I couldn't be

647
00:27:22,119 --> 00:27:24,160
Speaker 7: in a better place, and that's good. Yeah.

648
00:27:24,200 --> 00:27:26,159
Speaker 3: No, no, listen, I'm on, I'm on. I'm team him.

649
00:27:26,320 --> 00:27:28,760
Speaker 3: I'm teaming him. All right, very good, very good. I

650
00:27:28,840 --> 00:27:32,480
Speaker 3: appreciate it, Thank you, sir. They it's a lot. Yeah,

651
00:27:32,840 --> 00:27:33,520
Speaker 3: good for him.

652
00:27:34,119 --> 00:27:36,840
Speaker 2: Stupid social media that wasn't playing.

653
00:27:36,880 --> 00:27:38,639
Speaker 3: What if my life was like that? Guys,