Speaker 1: All right, it is Mojo in the morning.
Speaker 2: Uh.
Speaker 1: You cannot, as a parent ever give your child an
Speaker 1: empty threat, and you did this weekend. Shannon.
Speaker 3: Oh, well, okay, yes it was an empty threat, but
Speaker 3: I was Have you ever been in that situation where
Speaker 3: you're so frustrated with something and you're just like trying
Speaker 3: to come up with some sort of consequence, so like
Speaker 3: something comes out of your mouth and you're like, I know,
Speaker 3: I'm not going to follow through with this whatsoever.
Speaker 1: So every time I ever took the kid's phones away
Speaker 1: from them, I regretted it the moment, I think because
Speaker 1: then I had to actually talk to him.
Speaker 3: I'll be honest with you, I'm usually very mindful and
Speaker 3: cautious about the consequences that I give to the kids
Speaker 3: because I know I have to follow through. I also
Speaker 3: know I'm gonna pushover, but I know I need to
Speaker 3: follow through it. Well, this was like a different story.
Speaker 3: So we're taking a spring break trip this year, and
Speaker 3: it's myself and my husband Wes, my kids, Lucy and Smith,
Speaker 3: and then my stepdaughter Samantha is coming as well. Kieran,
Speaker 3: my step son. He's away at college. He has a
Speaker 3: totally different spring break and it is Samantha. She's a junior,
Speaker 3: so this is her last really family trip. I guess
Speaker 3: that she's going to be taking with us because next
Speaker 3: year she's going to go on saying senior spring break.
Speaker 1: She's going to be doing her own thing.
Speaker 3: So we had a family meeting a couple of weeks
Speaker 3: ago about where do we where should we go?
Speaker 1: Where do we want to go?
Speaker 3: And Wes and I had narrowed it down after a
Speaker 3: lot of research to three places. All of them were
Speaker 3: we're going to cost us about the same, so we
Speaker 3: didn't care where, you know, we chose as a family
Speaker 3: and the three destinations were the Florida Keys, Mexico, or London. Yes,
Speaker 3: believe it or not, flying to London and doing a
Speaker 3: trip there's the same as going.
Speaker 1: To the Florida case.
Speaker 3: So we gave everybody, we talked through all the choices.
Speaker 3: Then we voted and Lucy and I voted for London,
Speaker 3: Samantha and Smith voted for Mexico, and Wes was kind
Speaker 3: of on the fence. Well, we ended up going with Mexico.
Speaker 3: We're gonna go to Mexico and we're gonna We used
Speaker 3: Costco Travel to do this and they make it so
Speaker 3: dang easy. So we were like, okay, we're going to
Speaker 3: choose the easy, the easy route here. And also that's
Speaker 3: kind of where Sam wanted to go, and I thought
Speaker 3: her last spring break, we're gonna, you know, let her pick.
Speaker 3: Lucy not happy about that because we did not pick
Speaker 3: where she wanted to go, and she has been disgruntled
Speaker 3: about it since we made the decision and booked the trip.
Speaker 3: And so over the weekend, we went to the mall
Speaker 3: and I took the kids shopping for some warm weather
Speaker 3: clothes because I thought, okay, let's like start to get
Speaker 3: prepared for this. It's going to come up on us fast.
Speaker 3: We might as well, you know, buy some shorts and
Speaker 3: flip flops and whatnot. And she was acting pretty ungrateful
Speaker 3: about it, and was just complaining and complaining, and so
Speaker 3: I said, I stopped walking, and I said, fine, then
Speaker 3: just stay with dad while we all go on the trip,
Speaker 3: and she.
Speaker 1: Goes, fine, I will.
Speaker 4: I wanted to do that.
Speaker 3: Anyway, So I very dramatically pulled my phone out of
Speaker 3: my purse and I wrote my an email in all caps.
Speaker 3: The subject line was cancel Lucy's flight. And I made
Speaker 3: sure that she could see it. I'm like, okay, I'll
Speaker 3: remember on Monday to go, you know, into the account
Speaker 3: and cancel, cancel your you're part of the tread. She
Speaker 3: was so quiet for the rest of the day and
Speaker 3: so quiet when we got home, and then that evening
Speaker 3: I got an apology from her that she was acting,
Speaker 3: you know, she was being ungrateful and she did want
Speaker 3: to go and she was just saying that. And she
Speaker 3: also goes, mom, I knew you weren't going to cancel
Speaker 3: that ticket, Like yeah, I was like, no, I really
Speaker 3: was going.
Speaker 1: To have you done that before where you said you
Speaker 1: were going to do something and you didn't do it,
Speaker 1: and that's why she knew it or what do you think?
Speaker 3: I think that it was such a big threat that
Speaker 3: she knew that.
Speaker 1: I was not. I was not going to do that.
Speaker 1: I'm always amazed at the parents that make the big
Speaker 1: threat and do the follow through, like the parents who
Speaker 1: will say I'm turning this car around and turn the
Speaker 1: car around like it's pretty wild. Like when you do that,
Speaker 1: I give you guys tons of credit. Chelse would give
Speaker 1: me so much crap over time, because I would go
Speaker 1: right for the gusto man, I'd go for the big one.
Speaker 1: I'd do them. I would do the grand slam of
Speaker 1: you know your I'm grounding you for the summer, and
Speaker 1: Chelsea would look go job yeah eight four four mojo
Speaker 1: live eight four four six six five six five four eight.
Speaker 1: Uh do you okay? So here's here's a topic that
Speaker 1: I've always wanted to know. Has anybody ever had like
Speaker 1: some huge punishment that they had to follow through on
Speaker 1: and what was it? And then also what's the biggest
Speaker 1: punishment you remember as a kid. There was a kid
Speaker 1: in my neighborhood that I remember was grounded for the
Speaker 1: whole summer. Oh yeah, I remember, kids. I mean it
Speaker 1: was wid Do you remember what he did? He failed
Speaker 1: like three classes in school and it was all because
Speaker 1: he just wasn't doing anything. He wasn't showing up or
Speaker 1: anything of that, and had to do summer school. The
Speaker 1: kid had to go. We literally we would drive our bikes,
Speaker 1: ride our bikes by his house and he would be
Speaker 1: inside the house or he'd be outside doing lawn work
Speaker 1: and he couldn't even talk to us for the whole summer.
Speaker 3: But I have a friend who made the threat of
Speaker 3: she got lions tickets like good seats Lions tickets. She
Speaker 3: the family never gets to do something like that, and
Speaker 3: her and her husband saved up got tickets for all
Speaker 3: the kids, and two of the kids were being, you know, bad,
Speaker 3: and so she was like, that's it, you know, gave
Speaker 3: them a final warning of we're I'll sell the tickets,
Speaker 3: we're not going to the game, and she ended she
Speaker 3: actually ended up selling the tickets and they all didn't
Speaker 3: go to the game, and she's like, I'm pissed because
Speaker 3: I wanted to go to the game so bad, but
Speaker 3: she followed through with that threat.
Speaker 1: That's amazing. I always think it's wild that that the
Speaker 1: one parent that does make that threat does stay home.
Speaker 1: And let's sometimes because sometimes the best threat is not
Speaker 1: just selling the tickets, it's letting the others in the
Speaker 1: family go and you having to stay home with your kid. Morgan,
Speaker 1: what's going on?
Speaker 5: Hey, I was just calling.
Speaker 6: So when I was younger, back when phones had like
Speaker 6: the prepaid minute, I without thinking realizing what I was doing,
Speaker 6: racked up like four hundred dollars worth of internet charges.
Speaker 6: And so for Christmas, my mom worked it out with
Speaker 6: all of my family, where for cousins, they gave me
Speaker 6: the exact amount of money that I owed.
Speaker 2: For the bill that I was unaware of.
Speaker 6: And then she turned around, showed me the bill and said,
Speaker 6: now you can give me all your Christmas money.
Speaker 1: Oh wow, and took it all. You know, your first
Speaker 1: dose of the bill collector right there, having them come
Speaker 1: right at you. Uh, what is it they? What do
Speaker 1: they do to your wages?
Speaker 5: They?
Speaker 1: She garnished your Christmas presents? What's going on? Megan?
Speaker 4: Hey guys, I just wanted to comment that I'm now
Speaker 4: in my forties, but when I was back in high school,
Speaker 4: I told my parents I quit smoking. They caught me
Speaker 4: several times and they said, well, we catch you again.
Speaker 4: You're not going on your senior trip to Cedar Point
Speaker 4: and you we will drive you to prom and home
Speaker 4: from Prom, and you will not go out with your
Speaker 4: friends after. Well, I was working at Best Buy one
Speaker 4: day and sitting in my car smoking on break, and
Speaker 4: my parents rolled up. I just dropped the cigarette and
Speaker 4: I knew right then and there I was done.
Speaker 7: And they held me to it.
Speaker 4: And to this day, I'm still like dramatized.
Speaker 1: They drove you to prom, yes, oh my god?
Speaker 4: And my boyfriend to prom and came and picked.
Speaker 1: Me up and no spring break at all? Was that
Speaker 1: the last cigarette you had? Yes? Is that drue? Where
Speaker 1: do you take the cigarette? It was brutal?
Speaker 7: Yeah.
Speaker 1: Wait are you joking with us when you said that
Speaker 1: was the last cigarette you ever had? I?
Speaker 4: Well, no, yeah, I am joking because it was I
Speaker 4: cont you to smoke after that, but I did, like
Speaker 4: in two thousand and fourteen.
Speaker 1: God, okay, all right, we just want to, uh, what's up?
Speaker 4: By?
Speaker 1: Is it? Is it Jaysa?
Speaker 8: Yeah, it's Jisa.
Speaker 1: What's up? Look at you?
Speaker 2: Hey?
Speaker 8: My story is that when I was in high school,
Speaker 8: I was like a sophomore and I'm a sophomore in college,
Speaker 8: I got my phone took them away for like three months.
Speaker 5: It was like the worst push but ever, because.
Speaker 8: When you're in high school, everybody has the phones and
Speaker 8: it's just like wow, like you don't have your phone.
Speaker 8: And me and my friend Jocelyn, we would doom call
Speaker 8: and we would set up doom calls and we would
Speaker 8: email each other about what would happened and stuff.
Speaker 1: And wait, what did you get grounded for three months
Speaker 1: from your phone for what'd you do?
Speaker 8: My mom was really really strict. It was because I
Speaker 8: had a boyfriend.
Speaker 1: Ah, well, you were doing something with your boyfriend too,
Speaker 1: besides just having a boyfriend. Naughty? Am I right?
Speaker 4: Well not really, I was.
Speaker 8: I was good, but she just she.
Speaker 1: Just didn't want you to have them. Okay, all right?
Speaker 1: Three months without a phone, man, I'd lose my mind.
Speaker 1: What's up, Ashley, Take guys.
Speaker 9: Good morning, Good morning. I I am the youngest of
Speaker 9: three daughters and I had have still have the best
Speaker 9: parents growing up, though my oldest sister was the troublemaker.
Speaker 7: She would push all the boundaries, and my dad just
Speaker 7: he he set the tone for parenting.
Speaker 5: So my sister brought.
Speaker 7: Home an interim halfway through a you know, report card season,
Speaker 7: and she had a dep and my dad said, if
Speaker 7: you do not get this great up to at least
Speaker 7: ab you know, it can be like low B whatever.
Speaker 7: You're going to be granted for the whole next quarter,
Speaker 7: the whole nine weeks. Well, my sister, not thinking he's
Speaker 7: going to be serious about it, she got a D.
Speaker 2: He said, that's it.
Speaker 7: You're done. No friends, no sporting events, nothing. Wow, it's
Speaker 7: the most social person.
Speaker 1: And that was, Oh, that's crazy. That's a long time
Speaker 1: that you're without it, because you're great and the worst
Speaker 1: is you're waiting for the good grades to come out. Man,
Speaker 1: I hope she got good grades. What's that, Bresa?
Speaker 2: Hello? First time one time? Well round? Yeah, I ground
Speaker 2: I grounded my son when he was fifteen. He's twenty
Speaker 2: five now. He would refuse to do anything but to
Speaker 2: play video games, and his grades were suffering so much
Speaker 2: so with my husband, and I actually was more him
Speaker 2: than than I did, but I allow it there I'm remarried.
Speaker 2: So he took all everything away, all video games, consoled
Speaker 2: anything that was in the house, and lastly was the
Speaker 2: phone was six months rounded without it. We will used
Speaker 2: to tell him, ah.
Speaker 1: Six months no electronics, man.
Speaker 2: Not nothing. And he actually and I treld him with
Speaker 2: the week. He told me he was gonna go leave
Speaker 2: with his dad and I said, okay, you are, you
Speaker 2: are going, I said, but you're not going with your dad.
Speaker 5: You're going to a board in school.
Speaker 1: Oh my god, in a boarding school. I remember when
Speaker 1: in the boarding school. Brisa, Can I ask you an
Speaker 1: honest question, at any point during the grounding that you had,
Speaker 1: did you regret it because you had to actually deal
Speaker 1: with him the whole time?
Speaker 2: Absolutely not. My son came back to be a normal kid.
Speaker 2: To have some conversations, eye contact. See he starts playing guitar.
Speaker 1: He's great, that's awesome. See when I round my kids,
Speaker 1: when I brought ground my kids, it's more of a
Speaker 1: punishment for me than it is for them. Thank you.
Speaker 2: He's married and he finished college.
Speaker 1: So good good work. Thank you Bresa for the call.
Speaker 2: Thank you, Thank you guys.
Speaker 1: Bye bye real quick, one last call here, Martha. We
Speaker 1: were talking about the people that will threaten. I'll turn
Speaker 1: the car around. What happened, Martha.
Speaker 10: So when I was like going into high school, it
Speaker 10: was my boyfriend's first time going to Thanksgiving with us,
Speaker 10: and this was back in California, and it was like
Speaker 10: a three hour drive and me and my brother did
Speaker 10: not want to go. So we just kept fighting and
Speaker 10: acting up in the back seat, and my dad kept threatening, like,
Speaker 10: if you guys don't behay. My mom had cooked the turkey,
Speaker 10: everything that was in the trunk, and my dad kept
Speaker 10: threatening like, if you guys don't stop, we're going home.
Speaker 10: And we're like, well that's what we want. So we
Speaker 10: kept going and finally he got fed up, pulled over.
Speaker 10: We ended up. We're like, what are we doing? He
Speaker 10: made everyone get down and we ended up having Thanksgiving
Speaker 10: at a truck.
Speaker 3: Stop around.
Speaker 10: Yeah, so my boyfriend's first time.
Speaker 4: Going to Thanksgiving with us and we're having.
Speaker 1: Dinner at a truck Was your boyfriend thinking your family's weird?
Speaker 10: Yeah, well he's my husband now, so he's still.
Speaker 1: By the way. Ever, when you're at your family's house,
Speaker 1: you ever sit there and go, God, those days were
Speaker 1: better than now, like sitting at a truck shop eating.
Speaker 10: Definitely, definitely talking, That's what my husband.
Speaker 5: Definitely, we talked about it all the time.
Speaker 10: And the funniest thing was he made us unload everything
Speaker 10: when we got home, put it away, and then he
Speaker 10: made us all go back to my grandma's house the.
Speaker 1: Next day, Oh and do it make good.
Speaker 10: Dinner with her and then work the farm.
Speaker 1: Did the truckers forever look at you guys like, what
Speaker 1: the hell is this family doing eating turkey?
Speaker 5: And yes, we got especially because my brother's like, what
Speaker 5: the heck are we doing here? He's like, mom, but
Speaker 5: we have a turkey in the trunk. So yeah, it was.
Speaker 1: It was funny.
Speaker 5: I was shocking at the time, and I kept apologizing
Speaker 5: to my husband and my well my boyfriend then, but
Speaker 5: to my husband and but I will never forget that.
Speaker 10: I think that was one of our best things giving.
Speaker 1: That's cool, that's awesome. Good family, mommies right there, mommies.
Speaker 1: I'm a man now