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Speaker 1: Well the Joe Show now eight hundred four oh nine

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Speaker 1: ninety three ninety three. Or if you don't use your

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Speaker 1: phone as a phone, text us at nine seven seven

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Speaker 2: Oh Hey, we're Tampa Bay's number one and only hit

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Speaker 2: music channel ninety three three FLZ, Welcome to the show.

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Speaker 2: Eight hundred and four O nine ninety three ninety three.

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Speaker 2: That is eight hundred four o'nane ninety three ninety three.

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Speaker 2: Did you have a friend breakup with you?

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Speaker 1: We're going through a friendship breakup. We're just drifting apart.

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Speaker 3: What happened?

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Speaker 1: Uh, Basically, it's a friend from back home and I've

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Speaker 1: known her since probably fifth grade, and I just think

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Speaker 1: the last couple of years, I've noticed the distance between us.

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Speaker 1: Granted she I feel like I was going through a lot.

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Speaker 1: I didn't hear from her, and I just feel like, yeah,

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Speaker 1: I don't typically need to hear from a friend every day.

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Speaker 1: I can go months without hear from somebody. But if

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Speaker 1: I'm going a year without hearing from you, I mean

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Speaker 1: the friendship doesn't exist anymore. And I just think that

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Speaker 1: breaking up with a friend is seems for me tougher

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Speaker 1: than breaking up with a significant other, because like I said,

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Speaker 1: I've known this girl since sixth grade. She literally knows

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Speaker 1: everything about me. And now the fact that she's just

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Speaker 1: completely out of my life, it's tough.

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Speaker 3: What what is worse?

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Speaker 2: Is a breakup with a friend worse than a significant other?

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Speaker 2: Is it the other way around? Eight hundred and four

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Speaker 2: ninety three, ninety three? You could text in at ninety

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Speaker 2: seven seven to zero? What is worse?

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Speaker 1: Imagine losing jed him just not being your friend anymore.

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Speaker 1: I feel like you'd be heartbroken.

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Speaker 4: Oh yeah, now myself, Now you would not, don't your body,

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Speaker 4: don't lie?

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Speaker 1: You gotta that when he went out of Tallas would.

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Speaker 3: I would be in tears.

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Speaker 4: I would throw a funeral, see because it'd be like,

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Speaker 4: if that person is dead to me and they don't

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Speaker 4: want to be with me as a friend anymore, I don't.

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Speaker 3: I don't know.

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Speaker 4: Maybe it's easy because I've broken with a lot of

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Speaker 4: people in my life and I just to me relationships.

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Speaker 1: But have you ever had to bring up with a friend?

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Speaker 4: Yes, I have, Yeah, when I it's actually well. So,

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Speaker 4: I lived in South Korea for two years and when

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Speaker 4: I moved back, there was a kid that I was

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Speaker 4: really close with in elementary school, and he and I

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Speaker 4: had reconnected and gotten back close again, and then my

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Speaker 4: had switched high schools. He kind of was I was

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Speaker 4: persona non grata in his eyes, so then I haven't

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Speaker 4: I did.

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Speaker 3: He say, I don't rub you anymore.

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Speaker 4: He's actually Polish, so I don't know. The older wanted

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Speaker 4: to be my friend. That's how he said it.

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Speaker 3: What what is worse?

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Speaker 2: Eight hundred four or ninety ninety three coun text in

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Speaker 2: at nine seven seven two zero. Would I be devastated

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Speaker 2: if Jed and I weren't friends anymore?

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Speaker 1: Absolutely, because he knows everything about you. It's literally you're

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Speaker 1: like your partner.

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Speaker 2: But majority of my friends I wouldn't care. Sorry, I'm

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Speaker 2: right there. Oh, I would be sad about it. There

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Speaker 2: is a select I would say, they're probably.

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Speaker 1: I can name them.

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Speaker 3: You only got five of them.

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Speaker 2: I would say you. I've known Ash since college. I

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Speaker 2: would say Jed. I would say.

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Speaker 3: Gooch, Aaron Jacobson, Aaron, is that it?

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Speaker 2: Well, here's the thing, because I'm a big believer in this,

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Speaker 2: I think that you you don't understand what a friend

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Speaker 2: really is like. And I'm talking about like a close friend, yeah,

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Speaker 2: talking about an acquaintance. You may not have any close

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Speaker 2: friends if you think you have like ten close friends.

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Speaker 2: I don't trust people in big friend groups. I think

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Speaker 2: that there's something like not like I can't think of

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Speaker 2: the word. The word that keeps popping up in my

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Speaker 2: head is immature, But I don't necessarily think it is.

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Speaker 3: Well.

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Speaker 2: I just think that like, having a bunch of friends

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Speaker 2: is something for like your teens to mid twenties, and

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Speaker 2: then once you hit like twenty five twenty six, your

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Speaker 2: friend group starts to really shrink.

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Speaker 3: What about five?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, And it doesn't really like devastate me when like,

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Speaker 2: you know, a college friend, like I just don't talk

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Speaker 2: to him anymore because you kind of grow apart.

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Speaker 3: And it doesn't mean that I don't like them any differently.

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Speaker 2: It just means that, like I don't have time, and

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Speaker 2: you probably don't have time either, And if we see

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Speaker 2: each other, it's Hi, how are you everything going?

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Speaker 1: Well?

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Speaker 2: We catch up, that's amazing. I'll talk to you probably never, I.

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Speaker 1: Know, but I guess maybe with me, Like I said,

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Speaker 1: I've known this girl for so long and I don't

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Speaker 1: talk to her every day, but just knowing I have

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Speaker 1: a lot of friends, I do, but I like that

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Speaker 1: with these people and they've just been They've been in

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Speaker 1: my life forever, to the same.

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Speaker 3: School for eight h What is that?

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Speaker 2: How many friends do you have now? I feel like

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Speaker 2: your friends has shrunk. No, it's shrunk quite a bit

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Speaker 2: over the last couple of years. I would say, I

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Speaker 2: have you, I had my my three college roommates that

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Speaker 2: I'm really close with, obviously my brother.

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Speaker 4: I mean, you can't get rid of family, but you.

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Speaker 4: I would say, he's a close, close friend and tell

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Speaker 4: that to Jacob right with me.

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Speaker 3: I don't know.

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Speaker 4: I would say probably less than ten, less than ten

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Speaker 4: like people I would consider good friends.

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Speaker 3: I mean, mine is like small, But.

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Speaker 4: That's good because then that means you don't have a

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Speaker 4: lot of people that are gonna you have to invite

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Speaker 4: to your wedding buddy.

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Speaker 2: For some reason, my list is still very big, Oh, Jennifer, Yes,

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Speaker 2: hi Hi. Friend breakups are a lot worse than relationship breakups.

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Speaker 5: Yes they are.

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Speaker 3: Why is that?

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Speaker 5: I can't explain why. But there's a friendship that I

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Speaker 5: had from about twenty years ago when I was active duty,

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Speaker 5: first new, brand new booter, and I still think about

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Speaker 5: that friendship that I lost, But I don't remember an

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Speaker 5: intimate relationship from twenty years ago.

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Speaker 1: And all those memories you guys made. Mm hmm.

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Speaker 2: How many friends do you now have, Jennifer? Do you

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Speaker 2: do you at least see where I'm coming at, where it's.

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Speaker 5: Like quality not to quantity.

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Speaker 2: Very much so well, And that's the thing, Like, you know,

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Speaker 2: if Aaron called me, who's one of our buddies, if

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Speaker 2: he called me at eight o'clock at night, I wouldn't go,

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Speaker 2: oh god, I got to pick up the phone on

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Speaker 2: But if majority of people did.

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Speaker 5: I go, I say that, what are you talking about?

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Speaker 3: That's fair