Speaker 1: All right, it is Mojo in the morning.
Speaker 2: I got a topic that I want to bring up,
Speaker 2: and I want to ask listeners just to weigh in
Speaker 2: on this. And if you have a question to add
Speaker 2: to this. Once you hear me get going, feel free
Speaker 2: to call in. You have an open airways right now.
Speaker 2: And Lydia, if a text call me to nine five
Speaker 2: five zero zero, that means they're on point with what
Speaker 2: we're talking about here. Here's the topic. Is it cheating?
Speaker 2: All right, let's weigh in a little bit here on
Speaker 2: this one. Is it cheating if I let a gay
Speaker 2: bestie see me naked?
Speaker 1: No, no, she's not even into you. What if he's
Speaker 1: bye or she's by Mike?
Speaker 3: I actually want to ask Wes that questions as I'm
Speaker 3: on a group convo right now with my two gay
Speaker 3: besties and Wes.
Speaker 1: Absolutely if they buy, if they're oh, if.
Speaker 3: They're bye, that's but that's not what to ask said,
Speaker 3: all right?
Speaker 1: Is it cheating.
Speaker 2: If I have a sex dream about another girl or
Speaker 2: guy depending on.
Speaker 4: You can't control your dreams unless you pray for the dream,
Speaker 4: where sometimes I do.
Speaker 1: Before I.
Speaker 4: You have prayed to have a dream, I'd be like,
Speaker 4: let me have I've you praying for a certain dreams you.
Speaker 1: Want, so you actually will literally say I want to
Speaker 1: have a dream about blah blah blah. Yep, wow, I.
Speaker 4: Pray for how long I want to sleep, how I
Speaker 4: want the rest to feel when I wake up. That's
Speaker 4: where we sturn. These four hours make you feel like
Speaker 4: forty absolutely?
Speaker 1: What about you, Shannon? What do you think on that one?
Speaker 3: Is it you think a dream wouldever constitute cheating?
Speaker 1: Agreed? So it's so you're subconscious. I just I don't know.
Speaker 3: I dream about stuff that I would never ever want
Speaker 3: to happen.
Speaker 1: Have you ever been conscious in a dream though?
Speaker 4: Like you you had the ability to make decisions even
Speaker 4: though you knew you were in a dream.
Speaker 1: Have you ever had that happen? I don't necessarily know
Speaker 1: what you're talking about.
Speaker 4: So, like, say you're in a dream, but you have
Speaker 4: consciousness like you're in a dream. You realize you're dreaming
Speaker 4: that happen. You know that you'll wake up, So everything
Speaker 4: that's taken place in the dream is in reality. But
Speaker 4: you're able to make decisions like you're conscious in the dream.
Speaker 4: You never had that? That's list the matrix.
Speaker 1: Usually it's a bad dream exactly.
Speaker 3: Yes, I'm like, this is going to be okay, you're
Speaker 3: going to you're going to wake up.
Speaker 2: Is it cheating? If I let a guy in front
Speaker 2: of me in line at Starbucks pay for my drink,
Speaker 2: You're just a whore?
Speaker 1: That thing is? Our listeners probably agree with you. I
Speaker 1: mean I don't. I don't think it's right. But is it? Actually?
Speaker 1: What about drinks at a bar too?
Speaker 3: I wouldn't call that cheating.
Speaker 1: So what's what's cheating?
Speaker 3: Maybe not right?
Speaker 1: It is flirting?
Speaker 4: Cheating flirting, I say absolute. So if you know that
Speaker 4: he's flirting with you by buying you a drink, how
Speaker 4: is that not cheating?
Speaker 1: Well, that's what I'm saying. Though maybe would be like, oh,
Speaker 1: that's so kind of you. I'm in a relationship. But
Speaker 1: if you really.
Speaker 2: Want to if if the guy then says or the
Speaker 2: you know, like, if this is happening, say this happens
Speaker 2: to my wife or whatever, and if the guy says, hey,
Speaker 2: let's sit down and enjoy it together, absolutely, then then
Speaker 2: that would scare me. But if somebody buys it is
Speaker 2: basically the paid forward right.
Speaker 3: When you first asked it, And that's why I was like, no,
Speaker 3: his intention.
Speaker 1: Is flirting with you and then let me drink.
Speaker 2: How about if it's in your car where it happens
Speaker 2: in the drive through and then he follows you home.
Speaker 2: Now I'm just kidding, I'm just having that. Is it cheating?
Speaker 2: If I follow my ex on Instagram just to see
Speaker 2: what they're up to, it's not cheating, but it is
Speaker 2: improper behavior.
Speaker 3: Though, and to stop doing it because you're just making
Speaker 3: yourself crazy.
Speaker 4: That's cheating and you like them a little bit? Still,
Speaker 4: Why why is it so definitive for you, Lydia?
Speaker 3: Because I've dated guys who will follow girls on Instagram
Speaker 3: while we're in a relationship, and I think that boundary
Speaker 3: and that's cheating.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 2: I think it's interesting though that sometimes you just want
Speaker 2: to see if they're doing bad like you want to
Speaker 2: you want that, or you're hoping that they're doing bad,
Speaker 2: like you know, Kevin praise for good sleep. We pray
Speaker 2: for our access to have. By the way, when Kevin
Speaker 2: says it's not cheating, but it reminded me of it's
Speaker 2: not illegal.
Speaker 4: It's frowned upon, like masturbating on an airplane exactly.
Speaker 1: That's what it sounded like. Ok, this is a good one.
Speaker 1: Is it cheating. Oh, this is bad.
Speaker 2: This is bad, because yes, is it cheating if I
Speaker 2: talk to a coworker about problems in my relationship?
Speaker 4: No, no, as long as you don't have your your
Speaker 4: penis out.
Speaker 2: But there's a lot of times where you're giving out
Speaker 2: too much information.
Speaker 3: Yeah, you have to be very careful because that can
Speaker 3: snowball very quickly.
Speaker 1: My therapist Dennis thinks it's not proper. Agree is not cheating?
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's probably not good for your relationship not cheating.
Speaker 1: It can open the door.
Speaker 4: I think that's where it's at because if y'all build
Speaker 4: an emotional connection chased, y'all, let's go out for drinks
Speaker 4: and talk about our problems and one thing leads to another.
Speaker 1: This next one.
Speaker 2: And by the way, I want to hear some of yours,
Speaker 2: and you guys, ask us your questions about is it
Speaker 2: cheating and whatever? Maybe from your personal experiences eight four
Speaker 2: to forur Mojo Live. I thought I thought right away
Speaker 2: would get like calls of people commenting on all these ones,
Speaker 2: because I know you're in your car or you're sitting
Speaker 2: there wherever at work, and you got your ear pods
Speaker 2: and you're like no, yes, no, you know what I mean,
Speaker 2: you're answering these things. This last one is a big one,
Speaker 2: and this one is one where I sat there and thought,
Speaker 2: what will they say to this? Is it cheating if
Speaker 2: I let a person drive me home from the bar
Speaker 2: because I can't get an uber? If you have if
Speaker 2: you're out, if you're in a relationship and you're out
Speaker 2: and you can't get an UBER and you let somebody
Speaker 2: drive you home, like somebody that's you know that you
Speaker 2: would trust to drive you home, stranger, stranger, a stranger
Speaker 2: or or another or a guy that maybe you come
Speaker 2: in contact with or grow you come in contact with.
Speaker 2: Is it cheating just to let them drive you home?
Speaker 2: I'm say no, I would have would.
Speaker 3: I'm going to agree with you, but I have what
Speaker 3: go ahead? No, I don't think it's cheating. However, I
Speaker 3: would never do it, and Wes would be so upset
Speaker 3: if I did do that.
Speaker 4: That would be my question. Did you try to call
Speaker 4: me first? Like are you reaching out to your spouse
Speaker 4: before you just let the stranger?
Speaker 3: And in the same vein, I would be so upset
Speaker 3: if he got in the car, had some random girls
Speaker 3: and he's intoxicated.
Speaker 2: Yeah, like it would be it would be one of
Speaker 2: those things where if all you pulled into the driveway,
Speaker 2: got out.
Speaker 1: Of the car, came in, nothing happened, and then you
Speaker 1: had to say to your.
Speaker 2: Spouse if I'm questioning you, like like nobody's ever going
Speaker 2: to believe that nothing didn't happen exactly, And it would
Speaker 2: be weird when you say the next morning, hey, you know,
Speaker 2: so how'd you get home to say to them, this
Speaker 2: is how I got home?
Speaker 1: I don't know.
Speaker 2: Let's see what Stacy has to say. Stacy, you have
Speaker 2: a question or comment or complaint?
Speaker 1: What do you got? All right?
Speaker 5: Comment?
Speaker 6: Chatting with a coworker about troubles in your marriage that
Speaker 6: leads to cheating leads.
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's why I said.
Speaker 3: It can snowball no fast.
Speaker 2: It can be bad, especially especially if you're not telling
Speaker 2: the truth, you know what I mean, or or or
Speaker 2: over exaggerating stuff, you know what I mean.
Speaker 1: I can't tell you.
Speaker 2: I cannot tell you how many times I have had
Speaker 2: stories be told to me of guys going, yeah, they
Speaker 2: told their they told their spouses that I was like
Speaker 2: this horrible, horrible person, and then you find out that
Speaker 2: they're having an affair with that person.
Speaker 1: So that has happened before.
Speaker 6: Absolutely, they com misbrate together and it leads one thing
Speaker 6: to another. In my case, Yeah, knocked up.
Speaker 1: Stacy.
Speaker 2: All these ones that we asked about, obviously that was
Speaker 2: the one that came to mind for you. Any of
Speaker 2: the other ones pinpoint for you, like the you know,
Speaker 2: letting somebody buy you a drink at Starbucks or following
Speaker 2: your action on Instagram that got Lydia hot.
Speaker 6: Now following on social media, I think that's cheating that
Speaker 6: that also can lead to stuff. But buying a drink,
Speaker 6: buying a simple coffee, that's not a big deal.
Speaker 1: That's a nice gesture.
Speaker 2: Yeah, what if you guys drink out of one straw together?
Speaker 7: Absolutely not, that's gross.
Speaker 1: The social media thing is hey, Jennifer, what's up? Hey guys?
Speaker 1: Good morning, good morning?
Speaker 5: Okay, So is it cheating when you're partner che's the
Speaker 5: coworker of the opposite sex and the weeks the.
Speaker 2: Messages acause your friend's a little echoy?
Speaker 1: What does say?
Speaker 5: Oh sorry, hold on, So is it cheating when your
Speaker 5: partner is texting a coworker of the opposite sucks and
Speaker 5: delete the messages going on?
Speaker 1: That is a little shady. Did that happen in your personal.
Speaker 5: Life a lot shady.
Speaker 7: Uh.
Speaker 5: Yeah. It was a reason why we broke up in
Speaker 5: October because he was hiding text messages, deleting them. We
Speaker 5: were on vacation and she was deleting. She was texting him,
Speaker 5: and he was deleting the messages and he was saying
Speaker 5: he was saying like, oh, it's about work, and I said, well,
Speaker 5: if it's about work, then keep the message so I
Speaker 5: can see it. And then he was like, well, it's
Speaker 5: just because you're crazy, and I know you're gonna start
Speaker 5: an argument.
Speaker 2: When we start calling you crazy is when you got
Speaker 2: to realize that there's something going on there. Read the
Speaker 2: deleted messages then, oh yeah, did you know you could
Speaker 2: read the leader.
Speaker 5: Well, so this was his second time being caught doing this.
Speaker 5: He learned how to delete from recently deleted Okay, I
Speaker 5: found out I found through his phone records.
Speaker 1: Wow we're engaged.
Speaker 5: They were engaged. We've been together five years, so there's
Speaker 5: still deep Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1: You dumped him. I thought you guys broke this is
Speaker 1: a pattern we did.
Speaker 5: We did break up in our Cobra, but we got
Speaker 5: back together and then yeah, it's been wrough, like we've
Speaker 5: been working on it, but it's you.
Speaker 1: Deserve better, man. I don't know for real, believe me. Lso, yeah,
Speaker 1: it's crazy. You need to hear it. It'll be tough.
Speaker 3: It'll be tough in the short term, but this is
Speaker 3: the rest of your life.
Speaker 1: Where are you right now? Are you at work? It
Speaker 1: sounds like it's loud.
Speaker 5: Yeah, I'm at work.
Speaker 2: Go talk about this to the hottest guy in the
Speaker 2: office and just have an affair with him.
Speaker 5: I work with all females.
Speaker 4: Okay, send me on Instagram. We'll go out after link after.
Speaker 2: Wow.
Speaker 1: Hang on the lawn. Haley, Haley, what's yours?
Speaker 4: The cheating?
Speaker 7: If your spouse hugs a coworker of the opposite sex
Speaker 7: because they won't see them for a week they're going
Speaker 7: on vacation.
Speaker 1: That's hugs. The mojo's cheating. Everybody in this room, we
Speaker 1: hug all of you.
Speaker 7: That what?
Speaker 1: What? What is I I'm kind of wondering what exactly
Speaker 1: is going on?
Speaker 5: Uh.
Speaker 7: This happened to my friend about a year ago. She
Speaker 7: was just concerned that she basically just didn't want her
Speaker 7: man touching another female, just touching, you know, being a
Speaker 7: co worker, you eight hours with them a day, So
Speaker 7: she was being a little parentally.
Speaker 1: How long was the hood? Yeah? How long was the hug?
Speaker 1: Was it more of an embrace? Was the rubbing of
Speaker 1: the bag? It was an embrace? Then there's something.
Speaker 2: There might be something too, if it's lingering, if it's long,
Speaker 2: and if she's.
Speaker 1: Not hugging everyone else could exactly, then there's something. Give
Speaker 1: that little slut hook. Yeah, not good.
Speaker 7: He called him out for it, and there was like
Speaker 7: a little fight, but they he just communicated like it
Speaker 7: wasn't like that.
Speaker 1: She's just a coworker.
Speaker 7: But well the situation of like him not going to
Speaker 7: be there for a week, is this a little weird
Speaker 7: for her?
Speaker 1: Yeah, just for I'm going to miss you for that's crazy.
Speaker 1: I like that as an excuse. What do they do
Speaker 1: for a living? I want to know where where is
Speaker 1: all this cheating going on?
Speaker 7: They worked at the They worked at a gym, and
Speaker 7: this worker was.
Speaker 5: A trainer, so she was in.
Speaker 1: Her sport brawl.
Speaker 3: You have missed a lot of details when you first
Speaker 3: told us this story.
Speaker 1: Thank you for the call, Haley.
Speaker 5: Yeah, no problem.
Speaker 7: Bye.