WEBVTT - Grant Was Certain There Would Be A Second Date with Olivia

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<v Speaker 1>Variety from the two thousands, the nineties, and today it's

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<v Speaker 1>Star one on one three, it's Marcus back with second

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<v Speaker 1>date Update. Let's just get right into it. This is

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<v Speaker 1>our dating segment, so let's pull on Grant.

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<v Speaker 2>Good morning, Grant, Hey, good morning guys.

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<v Speaker 1>Hey man, I just want to talk about your date

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<v Speaker 1>with Olivia before she ghosted, So, like, what do you

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<v Speaker 1>guys do for your first date? I understand you met online,

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<v Speaker 1>but like, what did you do for the first date,

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<v Speaker 1>because I'm trying to figure some things out here.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, of course, you know. We we hit up a

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<v Speaker 3>wine bar in the neighborhood and Pale Alto, and it

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<v Speaker 3>was it was a pretty great evening. I thought, you know,

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<v Speaker 3>she was very pretty, very stylish, put together everything I love.

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<v Speaker 3>We talked about our pets and traveling and our favorite

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<v Speaker 3>comedians and stand up specials and stuff, and it was great.

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<v Speaker 3>I really thought it was a great date and I

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<v Speaker 3>wanted to see her again. And you know, then she

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<v Speaker 3>just she just like stopped responding.

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<v Speaker 2>So nothing at all. This is like a full good.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, a ghost like it goes, you know, it was

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<v Speaker 3>just yeah, I don't know, it's very hurtful, you.

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<v Speaker 1>Know, Sure I've got Grant on the phoney's standing by

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<v Speaker 1>about to call his date Olivia. So very simple wine

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<v Speaker 1>date in Palo Alto. But she has ghosted, Is that right, Grant?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah? Yeah, okay, and your estimation the date went fine,

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<v Speaker 2>like good times.

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<v Speaker 3>I thought it went great. I mean, yeah, we seem

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<v Speaker 3>to have good conversation and you know connection, and yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>I thought it was a great date.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, go ahead and give her a call, Go ahead

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<v Speaker 2>and meet your phone bud. Here we go.

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<v Speaker 3>You got got it?

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<v Speaker 2>Well, is this Olivia? Olivia? This is Marcus from Star

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<v Speaker 2>one O one three.

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<v Speaker 4>From where?

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<v Speaker 2>Sorry?

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<v Speaker 1>I do a radio show for iHeartRadio on one on

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<v Speaker 1>one point three in San Francisco. I wonder if you

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<v Speaker 1>got a second to be.

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<v Speaker 2>On the show.

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<v Speaker 4>Sure, I don't know what is this show?

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<v Speaker 1>Sorry, So we do a segment on the show called

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<v Speaker 1>second Date Update, And I got sent your phone number

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<v Speaker 1>by a guy who's been on a day with you

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<v Speaker 1>recently said he had the best time. Feels like he's

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<v Speaker 1>getting ghosted and we're just trying to figure out did

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<v Speaker 1>my guy screw up? Did something happen? Maybe you've just

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<v Speaker 1>been busy. Do you have a second to talk about

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<v Speaker 1>your day with Grant. Sure, did you ghost and did

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<v Speaker 1>something go wrong?

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<v Speaker 2>What happened?

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<v Speaker 4>I don't know about ghosting, but I don't know what

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<v Speaker 4>to say. I mean, it was an okay dated.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay date that was gonna be my question. Was it

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<v Speaker 1>a good date? An okay date? Just at first?

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<v Speaker 4>You said? Well, at first I thought yeah, At first

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<v Speaker 4>it felt like it was going really well. Grant came

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<v Speaker 4>off pretty put together, but sudden, you know, the little

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<v Speaker 4>lad started kind of popping up.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, what happened?

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<v Speaker 4>Well, early in the night he referred to his apart

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<v Speaker 4>meant as the pod, and I kind of thought he

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<v Speaker 4>was kidding, you know, like just that that's what he

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<v Speaker 4>calls his apartment, but he wasn't. He explained that he

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<v Speaker 4>lives in like a hyper efficient minimalist pod because unused

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<v Speaker 4>space is wasted energy. So that was sort of interesting.

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<v Speaker 4>Sure what to make of that? And then I guess

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<v Speaker 4>I can only say that he sort of like moved

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<v Speaker 4>into what I call like a lecture mode where he

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<v Speaker 4>spent almost ten minutes explaining something that he calls the

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<v Speaker 4>Alpha seating strategy. Strategy. To me, I've never heard of

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<v Speaker 4>it before. Basically, he was talking about how where you

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<v Speaker 4>sit on a gate affect attraction and power dynamics. And

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<v Speaker 4>then like half thruit way through his explanation, he stood

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<v Speaker 4>up and asked me to switch cares with him so

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<v Speaker 4>that I would be angled better towards the room.

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<v Speaker 2>That's what he said. Yeah, interesting, and did you did?

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<v Speaker 4>You did? Like I wanted to keep things moving. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 4>but it was weird. I felt really uncomfortable. Sure, so

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<v Speaker 4>that was interesting and then much more. Yeah, that's when

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<v Speaker 4>things really fell apart. When the check shut up, Grant

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<v Speaker 4>reached into his jacket and he just starts pulling out

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<v Speaker 4>all of this, like loose change to tip, like coins

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<v Speaker 4>just kind of keep on coming, and a few roll

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<v Speaker 4>on the floor and he's just gathering them up and

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<v Speaker 4>then placed them on the check presenter. Okay, it was

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<v Speaker 4>a lot.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm okay, I'm getting a visual now.

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<v Speaker 1>So yeah, Olivia. Part of the segment is Grant is

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<v Speaker 1>actually listening in. We're trying to use this as a

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<v Speaker 1>teachable moment. I'd like to bring him on so we

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<v Speaker 1>can discuss if that's okay with you.

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<v Speaker 4>Sure, sure, Grant?

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<v Speaker 2>Are you there right?

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<v Speaker 4>Hello?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I'm here.

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<v Speaker 2>This is a lot of stuff, man, Yeah, you.

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<v Speaker 3>Know, listening to Olivia talk about this stuff. I didn't

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<v Speaker 3>think it was a big issue at the time. And

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<v Speaker 3>you know, I'm very true to who I am. You know,

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<v Speaker 3>I live in a pod because you know, I'm a

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<v Speaker 3>minimal minimalist.

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<v Speaker 2>Is that actual pod?

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<v Speaker 3>It's like the size of like, you know, like a

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<v Speaker 3>walking closet, I'd say, you know, with the with the

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<v Speaker 3>with a little bed and and very minimal things. And

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<v Speaker 3>that's that's how I live.

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<v Speaker 2>But also deal with change.

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<v Speaker 3>Well, you know, I'm gonna say change is everywhere in

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<v Speaker 3>our life right now, on the world climate, you know.

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<v Speaker 2>And no, no, I mean I'm sorry.

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<v Speaker 3>Coins yeah, yeah, yeah, changes coins in my in my vision,

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<v Speaker 3>you know, the cash currency is out there and we

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<v Speaker 3>have to spread it around because you know, what are

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<v Speaker 3>we going to do with it?

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<v Speaker 2>You know?

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<v Speaker 3>And and the tip seems appropriate with with it's change.

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<v Speaker 3>You know, I don't know what else to do with

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<v Speaker 3>it besides paid forward.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, what about this alpha seating strategy, you.

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<v Speaker 3>Know, it's it's more about posture and energy. I'm just

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<v Speaker 3>trying to make the date go better for both of us.

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<v Speaker 3>And you know where Olivia was seated, it just wasn't

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<v Speaker 3>wasn't working for me.

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<v Speaker 2>And I needed.

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<v Speaker 3>I need to have better angles because when you have

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<v Speaker 3>a when you have a correct angle, there's a better

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<v Speaker 3>connection for everyone.

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<v Speaker 2>Olivia, do you so? I ask, are you resonating with

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<v Speaker 2>all of this now that we have some explanations or not.

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<v Speaker 4>No, it just felt a lot less like a date

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<v Speaker 4>and more like being coached. Didn't corrected all night. So

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<v Speaker 4>it's not you weren't rude or anything, but like I

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<v Speaker 4>just I didn't feel relaxed or myself or anything.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, our hang on, hang on. There were a lot

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<v Speaker 1>of moving parts, sir. Second date update seven oh five,

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<v Speaker 1>weekday mornings,