1
00:00:00,160 --> 00:00:02,480
Speaker 1: Variety from the two thousands, the nineties, and today it's

2
00:00:02,640 --> 00:00:05,360
Speaker 1: Star one on one three, it's Marcus back with second

3
00:00:05,440 --> 00:00:08,119
Speaker 1: date Update. Let's just get right into it. This is

4
00:00:08,119 --> 00:00:10,320
Speaker 1: our dating segment, so let's pull on Grant.

5
00:00:10,320 --> 00:00:12,080
Speaker 2: Good morning, Grant, Hey, good morning guys.

6
00:00:12,119 --> 00:00:14,400
Speaker 1: Hey man, I just want to talk about your date

7
00:00:14,480 --> 00:00:20,800
Speaker 1: with Olivia before she ghosted, So, like, what do you

8
00:00:20,840 --> 00:00:23,040
Speaker 1: guys do for your first date? I understand you met online,

9
00:00:23,040 --> 00:00:24,279
Speaker 1: but like, what did you do for the first date,

10
00:00:24,320 --> 00:00:25,919
Speaker 1: because I'm trying to figure some things out here.

11
00:00:26,160 --> 00:00:28,680
Speaker 3: Yeah, of course, you know. We we hit up a

12
00:00:28,720 --> 00:00:33,440
Speaker 3: wine bar in the neighborhood and Pale Alto, and it

13
00:00:33,479 --> 00:00:35,960
Speaker 3: was it was a pretty great evening. I thought, you know,

14
00:00:36,120 --> 00:00:40,800
Speaker 3: she was very pretty, very stylish, put together everything I love.

15
00:00:40,840 --> 00:00:44,600
Speaker 3: We talked about our pets and traveling and our favorite

16
00:00:44,640 --> 00:00:48,200
Speaker 3: comedians and stand up specials and stuff, and it was great.

17
00:00:48,280 --> 00:00:51,559
Speaker 3: I really thought it was a great date and I

18
00:00:51,680 --> 00:00:55,000
Speaker 3: wanted to see her again. And you know, then she

19
00:00:55,240 --> 00:00:57,400
Speaker 3: just she just like stopped responding.

20
00:00:57,800 --> 00:01:00,200
Speaker 2: So nothing at all. This is like a full good.

21
00:01:00,920 --> 00:01:03,560
Speaker 3: Yeah, a ghost like it goes, you know, it was

22
00:01:03,640 --> 00:01:06,440
Speaker 3: just yeah, I don't know, it's very hurtful, you.

23
00:01:06,400 --> 00:01:09,240
Speaker 1: Know, Sure I've got Grant on the phoney's standing by

24
00:01:09,319 --> 00:01:13,080
Speaker 1: about to call his date Olivia. So very simple wine

25
00:01:13,160 --> 00:01:17,600
Speaker 1: date in Palo Alto. But she has ghosted, Is that right, Grant?

26
00:01:17,760 --> 00:01:21,040
Speaker 2: Yeah? Yeah, okay, and your estimation the date went fine,

27
00:01:21,240 --> 00:01:21,959
Speaker 2: like good times.

28
00:01:22,040 --> 00:01:24,039
Speaker 3: I thought it went great. I mean, yeah, we seem

29
00:01:24,120 --> 00:01:27,480
Speaker 3: to have good conversation and you know connection, and yeah,

30
00:01:27,520 --> 00:01:28,560
Speaker 3: I thought it was a great date.

31
00:01:28,800 --> 00:01:31,440
Speaker 2: Okay, go ahead and give her a call, Go ahead

32
00:01:31,480 --> 00:01:32,920
Speaker 2: and meet your phone bud. Here we go.

33
00:01:33,520 --> 00:01:34,480
Speaker 3: You got got it?

34
00:01:44,000 --> 00:01:48,640
Speaker 2: Well, is this Olivia? Olivia? This is Marcus from Star

35
00:01:48,720 --> 00:01:49,800
Speaker 2: one O one three.

36
00:01:51,200 --> 00:01:51,800
Speaker 4: From where?

37
00:01:51,960 --> 00:01:52,279
Speaker 2: Sorry?

38
00:01:52,280 --> 00:01:54,760
Speaker 1: I do a radio show for iHeartRadio on one on

39
00:01:54,760 --> 00:01:57,960
Speaker 1: one point three in San Francisco. I wonder if you

40
00:01:58,040 --> 00:01:58,960
Speaker 1: got a second to be.

41
00:01:58,960 --> 00:01:59,400
Speaker 2: On the show.

42
00:02:02,200 --> 00:02:03,920
Speaker 4: Sure, I don't know what is this show?

43
00:02:04,360 --> 00:02:07,320
Speaker 1: Sorry, So we do a segment on the show called

44
00:02:07,360 --> 00:02:11,600
Speaker 1: second Date Update, And I got sent your phone number

45
00:02:11,800 --> 00:02:13,240
Speaker 1: by a guy who's been on a day with you

46
00:02:13,320 --> 00:02:17,200
Speaker 1: recently said he had the best time. Feels like he's

47
00:02:17,200 --> 00:02:19,200
Speaker 1: getting ghosted and we're just trying to figure out did

48
00:02:19,240 --> 00:02:21,520
Speaker 1: my guy screw up? Did something happen? Maybe you've just

49
00:02:21,600 --> 00:02:25,040
Speaker 1: been busy. Do you have a second to talk about

50
00:02:25,040 --> 00:02:29,639
Speaker 1: your day with Grant. Sure, did you ghost and did

51
00:02:29,680 --> 00:02:30,440
Speaker 1: something go wrong?

52
00:02:30,720 --> 00:02:31,400
Speaker 2: What happened?

53
00:02:31,720 --> 00:02:35,000
Speaker 4: I don't know about ghosting, but I don't know what

54
00:02:35,040 --> 00:02:37,640
Speaker 4: to say. I mean, it was an okay dated.

55
00:02:37,560 --> 00:02:39,240
Speaker 1: Okay date that was gonna be my question. Was it

56
00:02:39,280 --> 00:02:41,720
Speaker 1: a good date? An okay date? Just at first?

57
00:02:41,760 --> 00:02:44,200
Speaker 4: You said? Well, at first I thought yeah, At first

58
00:02:44,280 --> 00:02:48,320
Speaker 4: it felt like it was going really well. Grant came

59
00:02:48,360 --> 00:02:51,480
Speaker 4: off pretty put together, but sudden, you know, the little

60
00:02:51,720 --> 00:02:53,840
Speaker 4: lad started kind of popping up.

61
00:02:54,400 --> 00:02:56,040
Speaker 2: Okay, what happened?

62
00:02:56,720 --> 00:02:59,919
Speaker 4: Well, early in the night he referred to his apart

63
00:03:00,120 --> 00:03:04,240
Speaker 4: meant as the pod, and I kind of thought he

64
00:03:04,360 --> 00:03:07,239
Speaker 4: was kidding, you know, like just that that's what he

65
00:03:07,320 --> 00:03:10,920
Speaker 4: calls his apartment, but he wasn't. He explained that he

66
00:03:11,040 --> 00:03:16,560
Speaker 4: lives in like a hyper efficient minimalist pod because unused

67
00:03:16,800 --> 00:03:22,680
Speaker 4: space is wasted energy. So that was sort of interesting.

68
00:03:23,880 --> 00:03:28,120
Speaker 4: Sure what to make of that? And then I guess

69
00:03:28,160 --> 00:03:31,959
Speaker 4: I can only say that he sort of like moved

70
00:03:32,000 --> 00:03:34,880
Speaker 4: into what I call like a lecture mode where he

71
00:03:35,040 --> 00:03:40,640
Speaker 4: spent almost ten minutes explaining something that he calls the

72
00:03:40,760 --> 00:03:45,160
Speaker 4: Alpha seating strategy. Strategy. To me, I've never heard of

73
00:03:45,200 --> 00:03:49,120
Speaker 4: it before. Basically, he was talking about how where you

74
00:03:49,200 --> 00:03:53,600
Speaker 4: sit on a gate affect attraction and power dynamics. And

75
00:03:53,640 --> 00:03:57,880
Speaker 4: then like half thruit way through his explanation, he stood

76
00:03:57,960 --> 00:04:00,680
Speaker 4: up and asked me to switch cares with him so

77
00:04:00,720 --> 00:04:03,440
Speaker 4: that I would be angled better towards the room.

78
00:04:03,840 --> 00:04:08,600
Speaker 2: That's what he said. Yeah, interesting, and did you did?

79
00:04:08,920 --> 00:04:11,480
Speaker 4: You did? Like I wanted to keep things moving. Yeah,

80
00:04:11,560 --> 00:04:16,360
Speaker 4: but it was weird. I felt really uncomfortable. Sure, so

81
00:04:16,400 --> 00:04:23,480
Speaker 4: that was interesting and then much more. Yeah, that's when

82
00:04:23,520 --> 00:04:28,320
Speaker 4: things really fell apart. When the check shut up, Grant

83
00:04:28,440 --> 00:04:31,039
Speaker 4: reached into his jacket and he just starts pulling out

84
00:04:31,120 --> 00:04:35,800
Speaker 4: all of this, like loose change to tip, like coins

85
00:04:35,960 --> 00:04:39,240
Speaker 4: just kind of keep on coming, and a few roll

86
00:04:39,320 --> 00:04:41,960
Speaker 4: on the floor and he's just gathering them up and

87
00:04:42,000 --> 00:04:46,320
Speaker 4: then placed them on the check presenter. Okay, it was

88
00:04:46,360 --> 00:04:46,680
Speaker 4: a lot.

89
00:04:47,200 --> 00:04:49,479
Speaker 2: I'm okay, I'm getting a visual now.

90
00:04:50,080 --> 00:04:53,160
Speaker 1: So yeah, Olivia. Part of the segment is Grant is

91
00:04:53,160 --> 00:04:55,400
Speaker 1: actually listening in. We're trying to use this as a

92
00:04:55,440 --> 00:04:58,080
Speaker 1: teachable moment. I'd like to bring him on so we

93
00:04:58,120 --> 00:05:00,000
Speaker 1: can discuss if that's okay with you.

94
00:05:00,360 --> 00:05:01,800
Speaker 4: Sure, sure, Grant?

95
00:05:01,839 --> 00:05:02,560
Speaker 2: Are you there right?

96
00:05:02,920 --> 00:05:03,160
Speaker 4: Hello?

97
00:05:03,640 --> 00:05:04,280
Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm here.

98
00:05:05,320 --> 00:05:09,800
Speaker 2: This is a lot of stuff, man, Yeah, you.

99
00:05:09,760 --> 00:05:13,559
Speaker 3: Know, listening to Olivia talk about this stuff. I didn't

100
00:05:13,560 --> 00:05:15,920
Speaker 3: think it was a big issue at the time. And

101
00:05:16,640 --> 00:05:19,120
Speaker 3: you know, I'm very true to who I am. You know,

102
00:05:19,160 --> 00:05:21,760
Speaker 3: I live in a pod because you know, I'm a

103
00:05:21,760 --> 00:05:22,680
Speaker 3: minimal minimalist.

104
00:05:22,839 --> 00:05:23,920
Speaker 2: Is that actual pod?

105
00:05:24,320 --> 00:05:26,039
Speaker 3: It's like the size of like, you know, like a

106
00:05:26,080 --> 00:05:28,719
Speaker 3: walking closet, I'd say, you know, with the with the

107
00:05:28,920 --> 00:05:32,560
Speaker 3: with a little bed and and very minimal things. And

108
00:05:32,600 --> 00:05:33,680
Speaker 3: that's that's how I live.

109
00:05:35,160 --> 00:05:37,120
Speaker 2: But also deal with change.

110
00:05:37,839 --> 00:05:40,760
Speaker 3: Well, you know, I'm gonna say change is everywhere in

111
00:05:40,800 --> 00:05:43,320
Speaker 3: our life right now, on the world climate, you know.

112
00:05:43,400 --> 00:05:45,200
Speaker 2: And no, no, I mean I'm sorry.

113
00:05:45,200 --> 00:05:50,480
Speaker 3: Coins yeah, yeah, yeah, changes coins in my in my vision,

114
00:05:50,600 --> 00:05:54,760
Speaker 3: you know, the cash currency is out there and we

115
00:05:54,880 --> 00:05:56,880
Speaker 3: have to spread it around because you know, what are

116
00:05:56,920 --> 00:05:57,640
Speaker 3: we going to do with it?

117
00:05:57,680 --> 00:05:57,880
Speaker 2: You know?

118
00:05:57,920 --> 00:06:00,640
Speaker 3: And and the tip seems appropriate with with it's change.

119
00:06:00,680 --> 00:06:01,960
Speaker 3: You know, I don't know what else to do with

120
00:06:02,000 --> 00:06:03,320
Speaker 3: it besides paid forward.

121
00:06:03,839 --> 00:06:07,599
Speaker 2: Okay, what about this alpha seating strategy, you.

122
00:06:07,600 --> 00:06:10,760
Speaker 3: Know, it's it's more about posture and energy. I'm just

123
00:06:10,839 --> 00:06:12,920
Speaker 3: trying to make the date go better for both of us.

124
00:06:13,000 --> 00:06:15,880
Speaker 3: And you know where Olivia was seated, it just wasn't

125
00:06:16,040 --> 00:06:17,560
Speaker 3: wasn't working for me.

126
00:06:17,720 --> 00:06:19,160
Speaker 2: And I needed.

127
00:06:19,279 --> 00:06:21,320
Speaker 3: I need to have better angles because when you have

128
00:06:21,360 --> 00:06:23,440
Speaker 3: a when you have a correct angle, there's a better

129
00:06:23,440 --> 00:06:24,520
Speaker 3: connection for everyone.

130
00:06:24,760 --> 00:06:29,120
Speaker 2: Olivia, do you so? I ask, are you resonating with

131
00:06:29,160 --> 00:06:31,479
Speaker 2: all of this now that we have some explanations or not.

132
00:06:32,920 --> 00:06:37,400
Speaker 4: No, it just felt a lot less like a date

133
00:06:37,560 --> 00:06:40,960
Speaker 4: and more like being coached. Didn't corrected all night. So

134
00:06:41,360 --> 00:06:44,760
Speaker 4: it's not you weren't rude or anything, but like I

135
00:06:44,800 --> 00:06:47,680
Speaker 4: just I didn't feel relaxed or myself or anything.

136
00:06:48,120 --> 00:06:51,960
Speaker 1: Okay, our hang on, hang on. There were a lot

137
00:06:51,960 --> 00:06:56,520
Speaker 1: of moving parts, sir. Second date update seven oh five,

138
00:06:56,520 --> 00:06:57,320
Speaker 1: weekday mornings,