1 00:00:00,120 --> 00:00:02,440 Speaker 1: All right, Joe Show, we're live. Say, am I the 2 00:00:02,520 --> 00:00:05,040 Speaker 1: A hole? You make a decision second guess it's not 3 00:00:05,080 --> 00:00:06,600 Speaker 1: sure what to do? You get to call in a 4 00:00:06,680 --> 00:00:12,879 Speaker 1: ninety three three FLZ and we'll figure it out together. Hayley, Hello, Hi, 5 00:00:13,000 --> 00:00:13,680 Speaker 1: what's going on? 6 00:00:15,560 --> 00:00:16,000 Speaker 2: Okay? 7 00:00:16,040 --> 00:00:19,520 Speaker 3: So I need you all the way in here. I like, 8 00:00:19,640 --> 00:00:21,760 Speaker 3: don't think that I am, but I need to know him. 9 00:00:21,840 --> 00:00:26,520 Speaker 3: I the a hole because I am not allowing my 10 00:00:26,680 --> 00:00:31,080 Speaker 3: baby daddy to bring his girlfriend to our son's first 11 00:00:31,120 --> 00:00:34,120 Speaker 3: birthday party. 12 00:00:34,320 --> 00:00:35,280 Speaker 4: Why can't she come? 13 00:00:37,280 --> 00:00:40,159 Speaker 3: Well, because like I don't know her, my son doesn't 14 00:00:40,200 --> 00:00:45,400 Speaker 3: know her. And also she is the reason that, like 15 00:00:45,600 --> 00:00:49,400 Speaker 3: we broke up in the first place, and so you know, 16 00:00:49,560 --> 00:00:52,600 Speaker 3: I don't think she needs to be like number one 17 00:00:52,800 --> 00:00:56,720 Speaker 3: in my house and number two like in my life. Yeah, 18 00:00:56,720 --> 00:01:00,480 Speaker 3: it's in your house, right, Yeah, the bird they've already's 19 00:01:00,520 --> 00:01:01,240 Speaker 3: at my house. 20 00:01:02,400 --> 00:01:05,960 Speaker 4: Yeah, I'm not allowing that. That's not okay, especially you said. 21 00:01:05,760 --> 00:01:12,160 Speaker 3: She the reason, she's the reason. Yeah, Like also no, 22 00:01:12,280 --> 00:01:15,240 Speaker 3: go ahead, Sorry, I was just gonna say, like, also, 23 00:01:15,319 --> 00:01:18,920 Speaker 3: you know, I'm always around, like I basically, I mean 24 00:01:18,959 --> 00:01:21,000 Speaker 3: we haven't done the court thing, but like I basically 25 00:01:21,000 --> 00:01:24,280 Speaker 3: have full costy of him and so I've never met her, 26 00:01:25,080 --> 00:01:28,560 Speaker 3: she's never met her, and like, you know, is this 27 00:01:28,720 --> 00:01:29,600 Speaker 3: weird to me that. 28 00:01:31,840 --> 00:01:32,200 Speaker 5: Anyway? 29 00:01:32,319 --> 00:01:33,480 Speaker 6: Sorry, I could keep going. 30 00:01:33,840 --> 00:01:37,319 Speaker 4: Is this someone? Is this someone that I guess he 31 00:01:37,600 --> 00:01:40,600 Speaker 4: plans on being with forever? Because I mean, this is 32 00:01:40,640 --> 00:01:43,600 Speaker 4: gonna just add more fuel to the fire if you don't, 33 00:01:43,720 --> 00:01:44,039 Speaker 4: I mean. 34 00:01:43,920 --> 00:01:47,120 Speaker 3: He plans he planned on being with me forever, you 35 00:01:47,200 --> 00:01:47,640 Speaker 3: know what I mean? 36 00:01:47,720 --> 00:01:50,840 Speaker 7: So yeah, but no, But how can I ask a 37 00:01:50,880 --> 00:01:53,120 Speaker 7: few questions? Because I truthfully do think he should come? 38 00:01:53,120 --> 00:01:54,920 Speaker 7: And if it's a girl he's in a relationship with, and 39 00:01:54,960 --> 00:01:57,520 Speaker 7: it's both of your kids, okay, because I think people 40 00:01:57,600 --> 00:02:00,480 Speaker 7: also get convoluted sometimes, you know it's kid, I have 41 00:02:00,480 --> 00:02:02,480 Speaker 7: full custody. It's like, well, both of you created the kids, 42 00:02:02,520 --> 00:02:05,480 Speaker 7: so he has rights to see him too. Why not 43 00:02:05,840 --> 00:02:08,560 Speaker 7: have his girlfriend come? But if the girlfriend's the reason 44 00:02:08,600 --> 00:02:11,240 Speaker 7: why they broke up, but it's the girl that he's 45 00:02:11,280 --> 00:02:14,040 Speaker 7: currently dating, what it's gonna happen? What's gonna happen if 46 00:02:14,440 --> 00:02:17,600 Speaker 7: this situation does get a little bit more serious, they 47 00:02:17,600 --> 00:02:20,720 Speaker 7: do get married. You and your girlfriend, Yeah, you just 48 00:02:20,760 --> 00:02:24,800 Speaker 7: got her pregnant. Congratulations, congrats on the sex. Wait, she cheated, 49 00:02:26,360 --> 00:02:28,360 Speaker 7: but she's keeping the baby. Okay. 50 00:02:28,880 --> 00:02:32,200 Speaker 1: A year later, the baby's turning one, she's having a 51 00:02:32,280 --> 00:02:34,240 Speaker 1: birthday party for the baby kids. 52 00:02:36,680 --> 00:02:37,520 Speaker 2: The kid's mind at. 53 00:02:37,400 --> 00:02:41,000 Speaker 1: That fair enough, Hayley, are you questioning it all? If 54 00:02:41,040 --> 00:02:42,519 Speaker 1: your kid is yours? 55 00:02:42,800 --> 00:02:46,920 Speaker 5: I would assume no, definitely not okay eight hundred and. 56 00:02:46,880 --> 00:02:51,079 Speaker 1: Four nine ninety three, ninety three essentially, And tell me 57 00:02:51,120 --> 00:02:55,520 Speaker 1: if I'm wrong. You don't want your baby daddy's girlfriend 58 00:02:55,520 --> 00:02:57,679 Speaker 1: to come to your son's right son? 59 00:02:59,120 --> 00:03:02,239 Speaker 3: Yeah, it's my son, and also my whole family is 60 00:03:02,280 --> 00:03:04,200 Speaker 3: gonna be there, so like, I don't want. 61 00:03:04,080 --> 00:03:08,320 Speaker 1: Her there eight hundred ninety three. What would you do? 62 00:03:08,760 --> 00:03:11,600 Speaker 1: Jed seems to disagree with that. Ashley says, you're not 63 00:03:11,680 --> 00:03:15,000 Speaker 1: the aole. She shouldn't be there. Yeah, Jed says, yeah, you're. 64 00:03:14,880 --> 00:03:17,160 Speaker 7: Not gonna let your You're not gonna let your son 65 00:03:17,240 --> 00:03:19,480 Speaker 7: see his dad on his birthday? 66 00:03:19,720 --> 00:03:22,799 Speaker 1: My man, are. 67 00:03:22,680 --> 00:03:24,920 Speaker 2: Your own girl? God though she can't even pull up 68 00:03:24,919 --> 00:03:26,560 Speaker 2: in the driveway, that's a red. 69 00:03:27,520 --> 00:03:28,280 Speaker 1: It would bother me. 70 00:03:28,440 --> 00:03:32,000 Speaker 2: He better comfort Yeah, no, he could you go breath 71 00:03:32,080 --> 00:03:34,200 Speaker 2: the girl you cheating on your baby mama with for 72 00:03:34,240 --> 00:03:36,480 Speaker 2: the first d day party? It's not even that serious. 73 00:03:36,480 --> 00:03:39,440 Speaker 2: What if they get engazed, then you gotta get sibil 74 00:03:39,480 --> 00:03:42,400 Speaker 2: and all that bit. Nah, listen, if you got a 75 00:03:42,480 --> 00:03:44,720 Speaker 2: ring camera, if she pops up, if if you got 76 00:03:44,760 --> 00:03:47,280 Speaker 2: a ring camera, stay behind the door, let her come 77 00:03:47,280 --> 00:03:50,520 Speaker 2: in and start screaming I'm hitting me, and then just 78 00:03:50,560 --> 00:03:51,720 Speaker 2: beat the brakes on us. 79 00:03:53,000 --> 00:03:57,040 Speaker 1: Okay, no, no, lent No, I don't hate that. Move. 80 00:03:57,640 --> 00:03:59,960 Speaker 1: I can't move. 81 00:04:00,320 --> 00:04:01,119 Speaker 4: Maybe the next day. 82 00:04:01,400 --> 00:04:04,200 Speaker 1: I think, though, isn't it crazy that this guy even 83 00:04:04,200 --> 00:04:06,640 Speaker 1: wants to be there? Like, do you have to? My 84 00:04:06,760 --> 00:04:09,160 Speaker 1: question would be, do you even have to invite the dad? 85 00:04:09,560 --> 00:04:12,480 Speaker 6: It's his kid, his kid's first birthday. 86 00:04:12,680 --> 00:04:16,600 Speaker 1: Kid, it's the first kid's not gonna remember. 87 00:04:18,320 --> 00:04:19,080 Speaker 5: The first birthday. 88 00:04:19,040 --> 00:04:22,520 Speaker 1: Yeah, but he he decided to step out, like you got. 89 00:04:22,560 --> 00:04:30,960 Speaker 1: You make stupid decisions, you get stupid results. 90 00:04:28,960 --> 00:04:30,839 Speaker 7: Stupid games, you win, stupid prices. 91 00:04:32,839 --> 00:04:36,760 Speaker 1: To thank you, my man, I'll talk to you later, Stephanie. 92 00:04:37,400 --> 00:04:39,120 Speaker 6: Why can't he throw his own party? 93 00:04:40,080 --> 00:04:41,640 Speaker 1: I mean, that's crazy to me. 94 00:04:41,720 --> 00:04:44,200 Speaker 5: If you treated on her for your own. 95 00:04:44,040 --> 00:04:45,560 Speaker 2: Party, that's what I did. 96 00:04:45,839 --> 00:04:48,080 Speaker 1: In other words, this guy shouldn't even be at this 97 00:04:48,160 --> 00:04:49,800 Speaker 1: party him or the girl home. 98 00:04:49,920 --> 00:04:50,840 Speaker 6: No, no, he could. 99 00:04:51,279 --> 00:04:52,599 Speaker 2: I mean they're not together anymore. 100 00:04:52,600 --> 00:04:54,479 Speaker 3: He might as well start a life without her and 101 00:04:54,640 --> 00:04:56,440 Speaker 3: throw his own birthday party for his child. 102 00:04:56,880 --> 00:04:59,160 Speaker 1: All right, something to think about, Haley, Maybe you need 103 00:04:59,160 --> 00:05:02,000 Speaker 1: to uninvite him. Bruce, what's up? 104 00:05:03,120 --> 00:05:03,560 Speaker 6: Anybody? 105 00:05:03,560 --> 00:05:05,640 Speaker 2: What took Bruce Graving work? 106 00:05:06,640 --> 00:05:09,520 Speaker 1: Talk to me about Haley's situation? What do you think? 107 00:05:09,600 --> 00:05:10,440 Speaker 1: You're level headed? 108 00:05:11,800 --> 00:05:14,200 Speaker 5: So I'm just looking at it, and you know, get 109 00:05:14,320 --> 00:05:18,720 Speaker 5: a charitable comor you know, hopefully that this young man 110 00:05:18,800 --> 00:05:21,640 Speaker 5: or old man, young man whatever his stays part of 111 00:05:21,720 --> 00:05:23,919 Speaker 5: his son's life for the rest of his life. And 112 00:05:24,480 --> 00:05:27,120 Speaker 5: number one, you've got seventeen more years of this that 113 00:05:28,240 --> 00:05:30,800 Speaker 5: is going to take place. And I think if the 114 00:05:30,880 --> 00:05:34,960 Speaker 5: shoe was on the other foot and he had custody 115 00:05:35,000 --> 00:05:37,880 Speaker 5: as a child timporarily, which it will be in the 116 00:05:37,880 --> 00:05:42,480 Speaker 5: state of Florida, definitely temporarily, especially days's child support, you know. 117 00:05:42,640 --> 00:05:45,280 Speaker 5: And he told her that you can't free your new 118 00:05:45,320 --> 00:05:49,320 Speaker 5: boyfriend to your son's birthday party. And it was conditional, 119 00:05:49,960 --> 00:05:52,680 Speaker 5: not saying who's right, not saying who's wrong. All I'm 120 00:05:52,720 --> 00:05:55,160 Speaker 5: saying is put the shoe on the other foot. And 121 00:05:55,279 --> 00:05:56,560 Speaker 5: what decision would you make? 122 00:05:57,760 --> 00:05:58,760 Speaker 4: How would you feel him? 123 00:05:59,279 --> 00:06:02,680 Speaker 1: Well, Bruce, this is Ami the a hole. So what 124 00:06:02,720 --> 00:06:05,279 Speaker 1: do you think if you had to think, you know 125 00:06:05,360 --> 00:06:06,960 Speaker 1: of say who's right? And who's wrong. 126 00:06:08,200 --> 00:06:11,200 Speaker 6: I mean, that's a pretty harsh word for me to 127 00:06:11,520 --> 00:06:13,599 Speaker 6: call anyone, especially someone that I don't know. 128 00:06:15,360 --> 00:06:19,840 Speaker 1: But the whole point of this segment, and Haley, let's 129 00:06:19,880 --> 00:06:23,719 Speaker 1: me know, Hailey, are you giving him a free pass 130 00:06:23,800 --> 00:06:25,640 Speaker 1: to call you an a hole? If you're being an ale? 131 00:06:27,520 --> 00:06:30,400 Speaker 3: I mean, I'm not in this situation, but like, you 132 00:06:30,400 --> 00:06:31,640 Speaker 3: can call me whatever you want. 133 00:06:31,680 --> 00:06:34,000 Speaker 1: I guess, grand Bruce, what do you think? 134 00:06:35,160 --> 00:06:35,520 Speaker 2: All right? 135 00:06:35,560 --> 00:06:38,080 Speaker 5: I would say this, Hailey overall, I'm sure you're a 136 00:06:38,120 --> 00:06:40,800 Speaker 5: wonderful person, but in this situation, you're being an a 137 00:06:40,920 --> 00:06:44,880 Speaker 5: hot Okay. 138 00:06:43,279 --> 00:06:45,960 Speaker 1: God, you don't talk to me like that. Thank you, 139 00:06:46,040 --> 00:06:49,279 Speaker 1: Bru and the man Bruce. We got to talk to 140 00:06:49,400 --> 00:06:52,960 Speaker 1: Ricky who stepped out. Hold on, this is interesting, Haley, 141 00:06:53,160 --> 00:06:57,800 Speaker 1: uh not wanting her baby daddy to go to her 142 00:06:57,839 --> 00:07:00,960 Speaker 1: son's first birthday party? Well, let me change that because 143 00:07:00,960 --> 00:07:02,719 Speaker 1: that's not necessarily correct. 144 00:07:03,000 --> 00:07:03,360 Speaker 7: Hayley. 145 00:07:03,400 --> 00:07:07,720 Speaker 1: You say, if he's there, that's one thing. But his girlfriend, 146 00:07:07,760 --> 00:07:11,440 Speaker 1: who he stepped out on me, he left me for 147 00:07:11,480 --> 00:07:16,400 Speaker 1: this woman. She's not invited Ricky. Yes, Ricky, you are 148 00:07:16,440 --> 00:07:17,800 Speaker 1: the one that stepped out. 149 00:07:19,560 --> 00:07:24,720 Speaker 8: So being the one that stepped out that invitation is 150 00:07:24,840 --> 00:07:30,840 Speaker 8: a courtesy, not a right. He needs to honor her 151 00:07:30,880 --> 00:07:33,080 Speaker 8: wishes that she doesn't want the one that he stepped 152 00:07:33,120 --> 00:07:35,680 Speaker 8: on her, stepped out on her with, to not be 153 00:07:35,760 --> 00:07:37,520 Speaker 8: there because. 154 00:07:37,520 --> 00:07:39,160 Speaker 6: He is the one that left in the first place. 155 00:07:39,640 --> 00:07:42,119 Speaker 8: So if he wants to be at his son's first 156 00:07:42,120 --> 00:07:45,720 Speaker 8: birthday party, since he is the one that left anyways, 157 00:07:46,480 --> 00:07:47,840 Speaker 8: it is a courtesy to. 158 00:07:47,840 --> 00:07:51,080 Speaker 6: Send that invitation, not a right he has. No, he 159 00:07:51,120 --> 00:07:52,640 Speaker 6: has no right to be there because he's the one 160 00:07:52,640 --> 00:07:55,240 Speaker 6: that stepped out in first place for another woman. 161 00:07:57,120 --> 00:08:00,520 Speaker 1: Did you stay with the woman that you stepped out 162 00:08:00,560 --> 00:08:03,800 Speaker 1: on or stepped out with? 163 00:08:05,360 --> 00:08:05,480 Speaker 2: No? 164 00:08:05,480 --> 00:08:08,000 Speaker 6: No, no, I didn't. I didn't step out. I'm saying 165 00:08:08,000 --> 00:08:09,400 Speaker 6: that he's the one that steps out. 166 00:08:09,560 --> 00:08:14,200 Speaker 1: Oh I thought you were thought. I'm thinking I had 167 00:08:14,240 --> 00:08:15,280 Speaker 1: an expert witness. 168 00:08:15,360 --> 00:08:19,720 Speaker 6: Un Well, no, no, no, I I I I did 169 00:08:19,760 --> 00:08:24,600 Speaker 6: she on my ex wife. 170 00:08:25,480 --> 00:08:26,200 Speaker 2: I tried to. 171 00:08:26,160 --> 00:08:28,520 Speaker 6: Make it work. She never forgave me I did it. 172 00:08:28,600 --> 00:08:30,640 Speaker 6: I stayed with her for four years and then I 173 00:08:30,680 --> 00:08:34,600 Speaker 6: called it quits because if she she said she wanted 174 00:08:34,640 --> 00:08:36,680 Speaker 6: to go ahead and work it out, but she wasn't 175 00:08:37,080 --> 00:08:38,640 Speaker 6: showing me that she wanted to work it out. And 176 00:08:38,720 --> 00:08:42,640 Speaker 6: four years of taking abuse and you know, not you know, 177 00:08:42,760 --> 00:08:45,640 Speaker 6: not seeing any change in her and how she was 178 00:08:45,720 --> 00:08:47,800 Speaker 6: treating me. I was done. 179 00:08:48,800 --> 00:08:53,920 Speaker 1: All right. Yeah, thank you so much for sharing your story. 180 00:08:54,000 --> 00:08:57,839 Speaker 1: And and you know, I think Ashley definitely agrees with you. 181 00:08:58,480 --> 00:09:01,600 Speaker 1: I mean, Jed probably did. That's the whole point of 182 00:09:01,640 --> 00:09:04,160 Speaker 1: this whole entire moment, right, Someone's got to look out 183 00:09:04,160 --> 00:09:06,559 Speaker 1: for the dad, and the dad writes it, Well, the 184 00:09:06,640 --> 00:09:12,560 Speaker 1: dad shouldn't cheat, Haley. Yeah, best of luck. It sounds 185 00:09:12,600 --> 00:09:14,560 Speaker 1: like you're not an a hole from a lot of people. 186 00:09:14,600 --> 00:09:16,320 Speaker 1: Some people, you know, they could say what they want, 187 00:09:16,400 --> 00:09:19,960 Speaker 1: but it sounds like majority says, hey, listen, this woman 188 00:09:20,000 --> 00:09:22,959 Speaker 1: shouldn't be at this birthday party. Let us know how 189 00:09:23,000 --> 00:09:26,360 Speaker 1: it goes, and please call in after the party and 190 00:09:26,400 --> 00:09:27,520 Speaker 1: tell us if she shows up. 191 00:09:27,559 --> 00:09:29,840 Speaker 2: All right, I definitely will. 192 00:09:29,880 --> 00:09:31,120 Speaker 6: Thank you guys, Haley. 193 00:09:31,160 --> 00:09:33,440 Speaker 1: We'll talk to you later. That's ay am I The 194 00:09:33,440 --> 00:09:35,400 Speaker 1: A Hole. You can listen back to it on our 195 00:09:35,600 --> 00:09:37,440 Speaker 1: free iHeartRadio app.