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Speaker 1: I mean, it was so great to see all those

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Speaker 3: Yes, absolutely. So It's funny because my wife just said

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Speaker 2: And really that's all you need to do.

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Speaker 5: The kids are old enough where I can get out

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Speaker 1: Wow, that's nice. Well, Mike, I appreciate you. I appreciate

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Speaker 2: I don't know what that is either. Do you have

440
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Speaker 2: that problem too, Mike?

441
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Speaker 6: I don't.

442
00:23:44,440 --> 00:23:46,600
Speaker 7: So I prefer to get like, I don't need anything

443
00:23:46,640 --> 00:23:49,879
Speaker 7: in return. I prefer to just hand out gifts or

444
00:23:49,920 --> 00:23:53,560
Speaker 7: do something somebody else. I don't need something in return necessary.

445
00:23:53,600 --> 00:23:57,320
Speaker 7: I guess just my personality type. But my ex wife

446
00:23:57,359 --> 00:24:00,159
Speaker 7: would be on the phone talking to a friend, all

447
00:24:00,280 --> 00:24:02,680
Speaker 7: laughing and happy, and then off the phone he gets

448
00:24:02,760 --> 00:24:05,520
Speaker 7: right into a modern tone voice towards me.

449
00:24:06,119 --> 00:24:10,239
Speaker 2: Yeah, what is that Like?

450
00:24:10,320 --> 00:24:12,480
Speaker 1: You're having so much fun with your friend and then

451
00:24:12,480 --> 00:24:15,200
Speaker 1: you get with me and and and it's like you

452
00:24:15,200 --> 00:24:16,800
Speaker 1: seem absolutely miserable.

453
00:24:17,000 --> 00:24:19,800
Speaker 2: And I didn't, you know, take the trash out or something.

454
00:24:21,359 --> 00:24:23,800
Speaker 7: Can't figure out. I can never get that one explained.

455
00:24:23,800 --> 00:24:24,919
Speaker 7: But yeah, that's a.

456
00:24:26,680 --> 00:24:29,200
Speaker 1: I think we just take for granted the people around us,

457
00:24:29,880 --> 00:24:32,119
Speaker 1: and and those are the ones we really need to

458
00:24:32,160 --> 00:24:35,199
Speaker 1: pay attention to and make sure that they feel loved

459
00:24:35,320 --> 00:24:39,040
Speaker 1: and and and and and respected and cared for and

460
00:24:39,040 --> 00:24:43,040
Speaker 1: and thought of, like a thoughtful thing, any kind of

461
00:24:43,119 --> 00:24:47,000
Speaker 1: like bringing flowers on a random day, Mike, Yes.

462
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Speaker 7: Spread love everybody, And yeah, don't just do it all

463
00:24:49,280 --> 00:24:51,840
Speaker 7: Valentine's Day. Do it throughout the year for no reason,

464
00:24:51,920 --> 00:24:54,840
Speaker 7: and then you know there's not as much pressure on Valentie's.

465
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Speaker 2: Day in my opinion, Yeah, yeah, I do. I do

466
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Speaker 2: appreciate the call, Mike, Thank you so much.

467
00:25:00,119 --> 00:25:00,600
Speaker 5: Thank Donald.

468
00:25:00,600 --> 00:25:02,919
Speaker 2: Okay, bye bye. So it is.

469
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Speaker 1: Always odd to me, I will say, I will say,

470
00:25:06,560 --> 00:25:11,480
Speaker 1: because I have people in my life that that are

471
00:25:11,560 --> 00:25:14,879
Speaker 1: hard on me, that are so nice to other people.

472
00:25:15,000 --> 00:25:17,600
Speaker 2: I just don't understand what the heck that is.

473
00:25:18,840 --> 00:25:22,320
Speaker 1: And you know, I mentioned it in a very weird

474
00:25:22,359 --> 00:25:24,680
Speaker 1: way of saying, you know, maybe they just take advantage

475
00:25:24,680 --> 00:25:27,080
Speaker 1: of us, or they're they're just used to us being around.

476
00:25:27,440 --> 00:25:32,119
Speaker 1: But if you think about it, what else is there?

477
00:25:32,960 --> 00:25:36,720
Speaker 1: What else is there to be other than to show

478
00:25:36,760 --> 00:25:39,760
Speaker 1: the people that we love and care for that they're

479
00:25:39,800 --> 00:25:42,760
Speaker 1: loved and cared for. I mean, I mentioned it earlier,

480
00:25:43,960 --> 00:25:44,280
Speaker 1: is it?

481
00:25:44,600 --> 00:25:44,880
Speaker 2: I mean?

482
00:25:45,119 --> 00:25:47,280
Speaker 1: We just not here just to pay bills and die.

483
00:25:48,040 --> 00:25:51,879
Speaker 1: We're here to create long standing relationships. And if and

484
00:25:51,960 --> 00:25:54,359
Speaker 1: if this sounds hokey to you, or it sounds like

485
00:25:54,880 --> 00:26:00,280
Speaker 1: you know your repulse even by talking about how how

486
00:26:00,320 --> 00:26:02,240
Speaker 1: we should be loving to each other, call me because

487
00:26:02,280 --> 00:26:04,800
Speaker 1: I want to discuss this with you. Because there's really

488
00:26:04,840 --> 00:26:09,480
Speaker 1: nothing more important than to evolve in this plan, especially

489
00:26:09,480 --> 00:26:12,000
Speaker 1: as we get older. You know those people where we

490
00:26:12,160 --> 00:26:15,120
Speaker 1: get off my lawn and they're cranky, you know, granky

491
00:26:15,160 --> 00:26:18,200
Speaker 1: old people. You don't want to go in that direction.

492
00:26:18,840 --> 00:26:21,520
Speaker 1: The direction is to be more loving and kind and

493
00:26:21,600 --> 00:26:25,679
Speaker 1: smile and hug and let the people know that you

494
00:26:25,800 --> 00:26:29,399
Speaker 1: care by doing either small things or telling them outright.

495
00:26:30,200 --> 00:26:33,240
Speaker 2: Gary Zukoff is a great writer love.

496
00:26:33,359 --> 00:26:35,679
Speaker 1: His book called The Seat of the Soul says the

497
00:26:35,800 --> 00:26:39,840
Speaker 1: longest journey in this life will be from your head

498
00:26:39,840 --> 00:26:43,439
Speaker 1: to your heart, and as we get older, we should

499
00:26:43,480 --> 00:26:46,800
Speaker 1: be more and more open to that. So I mentioned

500
00:26:48,160 --> 00:26:51,960
Speaker 1: earlier because I had two exercises. I started life coaching

501
00:26:52,040 --> 00:26:55,840
Speaker 1: and relationship coach, and I have a great couple of

502
00:26:56,320 --> 00:27:03,879
Speaker 1: couples and even single people and just solo people, and

503
00:27:03,960 --> 00:27:06,359
Speaker 1: I mentioned a couple of the exercises for the couple.

504
00:27:06,480 --> 00:27:11,160
Speaker 1: So I wanted to share an exercise that can be

505
00:27:11,240 --> 00:27:12,240
Speaker 1: for single.

506
00:27:11,880 --> 00:27:14,200
Speaker 2: People or not even single people.

507
00:27:14,240 --> 00:27:17,840
Speaker 1: It's just really to build the connection within yourself, which

508
00:27:17,880 --> 00:27:23,199
Speaker 1: also builds connection with others. So the exercise that I

509
00:27:23,320 --> 00:27:26,600
Speaker 1: would love to discuss with you because I do this

510
00:27:26,720 --> 00:27:29,040
Speaker 1: myself and it kind of sounds a little weird, but

511
00:27:29,119 --> 00:27:34,919
Speaker 1: it does. It does promote a confidence level and a

512
00:27:34,960 --> 00:27:38,000
Speaker 1: connection within yourself that that.

513
00:27:37,880 --> 00:27:39,919
Speaker 2: Maybe you haven't experienced in a while.

514
00:27:40,359 --> 00:27:42,560
Speaker 1: So set your timer on your phone for two to

515
00:27:42,640 --> 00:27:46,600
Speaker 1: three minutes, or you know, set a timer anywhere and

516
00:27:47,000 --> 00:27:50,040
Speaker 1: for that amount of time, say as many nice things

517
00:27:50,080 --> 00:27:51,400
Speaker 1: about yourself as possible.

518
00:27:52,480 --> 00:27:56,520
Speaker 2: And it sounds weird. It can feel weird for a minute.

519
00:27:56,520 --> 00:27:57,360
Speaker 2: It really can.

520
00:27:57,520 --> 00:27:58,120
Speaker 4: It could.

521
00:27:58,280 --> 00:28:01,359
Speaker 1: It could sound weird to do, and it can feel weird,

522
00:28:02,520 --> 00:28:04,200
Speaker 1: but just try it.

523
00:28:04,359 --> 00:28:05,560
Speaker 2: Be open to trying it.

524
00:28:05,640 --> 00:28:07,760
Speaker 1: So, for instance, you can start with I'm a really

525
00:28:07,840 --> 00:28:11,199
Speaker 1: kind person, I care a lot about people, I have

526
00:28:11,280 --> 00:28:15,160
Speaker 1: deep friendships in my life, and work hard on These

527
00:28:15,160 --> 00:28:19,119
Speaker 1: are important things to highlight because a lot of times

528
00:28:19,520 --> 00:28:23,280
Speaker 1: our mind can be very very negative. We can talk

529
00:28:23,520 --> 00:28:27,240
Speaker 1: really bad about ourselves, that inner self talk. So it's

530
00:28:27,320 --> 00:28:31,479
Speaker 1: important to kind of flip the scritch switch here. I

531
00:28:31,600 --> 00:28:35,000
Speaker 1: was coaching a young woman the other day and she

532
00:28:35,119 --> 00:28:37,960
Speaker 1: was pretty hard on herself, and I could tell that immediately,

533
00:28:38,920 --> 00:28:42,280
Speaker 1: and I asked her a question, and honestly, I had

534
00:28:42,280 --> 00:28:45,120
Speaker 1: no idea how she was going to answer it. So

535
00:28:45,240 --> 00:28:48,640
Speaker 1: I said to her, do you think you're a good person?

536
00:28:50,920 --> 00:28:55,840
Speaker 1: And she said no, and which hurt my heart, and

537
00:28:55,880 --> 00:28:58,480
Speaker 1: I said, okay, can I ask you a series of questions?

538
00:29:00,120 --> 00:29:02,360
Speaker 2: She said yeah? And I said, do you care about

539
00:29:02,360 --> 00:29:03,280
Speaker 2: people in your life?

540
00:29:03,360 --> 00:29:03,560
Speaker 5: Yes?

541
00:29:04,360 --> 00:29:07,160
Speaker 1: Do you love your friends and do they love you yes?

542
00:29:08,360 --> 00:29:11,120
Speaker 1: Do you care about animals yes? She has a job

543
00:29:11,920 --> 00:29:15,440
Speaker 1: that is important to her. Do you care and are

544
00:29:15,480 --> 00:29:17,200
Speaker 1: you concerned about the people you work with?

545
00:29:17,400 --> 00:29:21,000
Speaker 2: Yes? So I asked her again, do you think you're

546
00:29:21,040 --> 00:29:23,000
Speaker 2: a good person? Again? She said no.

547
00:29:24,280 --> 00:29:26,160
Speaker 1: And this went on for a few minutes, and at

548
00:29:26,200 --> 00:29:28,120
Speaker 1: the end I said, I'm going to ask you this

549
00:29:28,200 --> 00:29:30,040
Speaker 1: question one more time. So I went in through a

550
00:29:30,080 --> 00:29:34,040
Speaker 1: series of quick questions like that, and at the end

551
00:29:34,120 --> 00:29:36,080
Speaker 1: of it, because she answered all the questions that I

552
00:29:36,160 --> 00:29:39,320
Speaker 1: asked her, that you would think is a good person.

553
00:29:40,400 --> 00:29:42,280
Speaker 1: And so I said, do you think you're a good person?

554
00:29:42,320 --> 00:29:44,080
Speaker 1: The last time? I said, this will be the last

555
00:29:44,120 --> 00:29:47,120
Speaker 1: time I asked this question, and she smiled and she

556
00:29:47,160 --> 00:29:52,080
Speaker 1: said yes, And I believed her at that point, because

557
00:29:53,120 --> 00:29:58,080
Speaker 1: sometimes you need a coach. Just like in sports, in

558
00:29:58,800 --> 00:30:02,560
Speaker 1: life too, you need some help in getting in the

559
00:30:02,640 --> 00:30:07,160
Speaker 1: right direction. You need sometimes to point out, hey, you've

560
00:30:07,160 --> 00:30:10,560
Speaker 1: been really hard on yourself. You got to check in

561
00:30:10,640 --> 00:30:14,280
Speaker 1: with your thoughts. It's like if somebody was walking you had,

562
00:30:14,440 --> 00:30:16,760
Speaker 1: like your best friend. You said, they're your best friend,

563
00:30:17,640 --> 00:30:21,440
Speaker 1: but they go everywhere with you and they're talking negative

564
00:30:21,480 --> 00:30:23,600
Speaker 1: about you all the time. That's what we do to

565
00:30:23,680 --> 00:30:26,640
Speaker 1: ourselves in our mind, and we really have to flip

566
00:30:26,680 --> 00:30:29,560
Speaker 1: that switch. And so sometimes when I say to single

567
00:30:29,600 --> 00:30:33,000
Speaker 1: people and myself included, but I've done this work for

568
00:30:33,120 --> 00:30:37,640
Speaker 1: years and years, you're alone because you should be alone.

569
00:30:38,560 --> 00:30:41,560
Speaker 1: You want to be the best partner that you can

570
00:30:41,640 --> 00:30:44,760
Speaker 1: be for the person that you're ready to meet, and

571
00:30:44,800 --> 00:30:48,760
Speaker 1: that entails being alone and feeling lonely and going through

572
00:30:48,760 --> 00:30:52,640
Speaker 1: those moments that are hard and getting stronger and learning

573
00:30:52,680 --> 00:30:57,280
Speaker 1: from them. It's really important to show that you care

574
00:30:57,320 --> 00:31:01,840
Speaker 1: about yourself and certainly concern about the people in your life.

575
00:31:01,880 --> 00:31:07,120
Speaker 1: Like going to get Valentine's Day flowers, right, you can

576
00:31:07,160 --> 00:31:12,520
Speaker 1: buy those for yourself, you can buy those for your partner. Again,

577
00:31:12,600 --> 00:31:15,640
Speaker 1: if the idea of being loving and kind feels uncomfortable,

578
00:31:15,960 --> 00:31:18,640
Speaker 1: please call me up five one, three, seven, four, nine,

579
00:31:18,760 --> 00:31:21,080
Speaker 1: seven thousand. Does this sound hokey to you? Are we

580
00:31:21,160 --> 00:31:25,480
Speaker 1: talking about hokiness and trying to figure out how to

581
00:31:25,480 --> 00:31:28,520
Speaker 1: connect within? Because I do believe there is a wait

582
00:31:28,640 --> 00:31:32,320
Speaker 1: and awakening coming. And we've talked about the year of

583
00:31:32,360 --> 00:31:37,120
Speaker 1: the of the Horse. We're just getting past the Year

584
00:31:37,160 --> 00:31:38,920
Speaker 1: of the Snake, and the Year of the Horse is

585
00:31:38,960 --> 00:31:45,080
Speaker 1: on February seventeenth. It's coming, and it's from step February seventeenth,

586
00:31:45,120 --> 00:31:50,880
Speaker 1: twenty twenty six to February fifth, twenty twenty seven. And

587
00:31:50,960 --> 00:31:56,200
Speaker 1: this is a powerful cycle. This is what we experience

588
00:31:56,400 --> 00:32:01,800
Speaker 1: once every sixty years. This high energy year is all

589
00:32:01,840 --> 00:32:07,280
Speaker 1: about passion and change and fierce independence. It changes up

590
00:32:07,480 --> 00:32:11,080
Speaker 1: everything from bad relationships to jobs that are not working.

591
00:32:12,080 --> 00:32:14,680
Speaker 1: And this will be one of the biggest years for

592
00:32:14,800 --> 00:32:18,440
Speaker 1: personal growth. I can tell you people that when I've

593
00:32:18,480 --> 00:32:21,680
Speaker 1: spoken to and that I have coached and friends that

594
00:32:21,720 --> 00:32:24,800
Speaker 1: are moving in a different direction, everybody is kind of

595
00:32:25,000 --> 00:32:29,800
Speaker 1: tired of the same old relationships that are not working.

596
00:32:30,360 --> 00:32:33,920
Speaker 1: They're tired of getting into the same old silly patterns

597
00:32:34,240 --> 00:32:38,360
Speaker 1: that they have been through with relationships and even within themselves.

598
00:32:39,040 --> 00:32:43,600
Speaker 1: It is really important to understand. It's really important to

599
00:32:43,720 --> 00:32:48,720
Speaker 1: understand that this year, in three days, you've got to

600
00:32:48,760 --> 00:32:51,640
Speaker 1: get ready to think big, to dream big, and to

601
00:32:51,720 --> 00:32:55,080
Speaker 1: be fearless and to embrace change. I'm gonna go to

602
00:32:55,160 --> 00:33:00,000
Speaker 1: James in Cincinnati. James, how are you doing on Valentine's

603
00:33:00,120 --> 00:33:00,840
Speaker 1: Day this year?

604
00:33:02,560 --> 00:33:03,240
Speaker 8: Not so good?

605
00:33:04,640 --> 00:33:06,880
Speaker 2: How you doing? How's Valentine's Day this year?

606
00:33:06,920 --> 00:33:07,239
Speaker 9: For you?

607
00:33:08,440 --> 00:33:11,120
Speaker 10: It's it's not good. I lost my wife last year

608
00:33:11,240 --> 00:33:13,680
Speaker 10: on June twenty ninth, for thirty eight years of marriage

609
00:33:13,680 --> 00:33:14,760
Speaker 10: and forty years of being together.

610
00:33:16,200 --> 00:33:21,120
Speaker 2: M and your this year, well.

611
00:33:20,960 --> 00:33:22,560
Speaker 10: Last year on June twenty.

612
00:33:22,320 --> 00:33:25,800
Speaker 1: Nine, Oh, June twenty So this is your first Valentine's

613
00:33:25,840 --> 00:33:27,120
Speaker 1: Day without her?

614
00:33:27,840 --> 00:33:33,880
Speaker 10: Yes, my first time without her with Christmas, Thanksgiving, her Birthday,

615
00:33:34,440 --> 00:33:38,640
Speaker 10: Valentine's due the hot ever since June twenty ninth, I've

616
00:33:38,640 --> 00:33:42,640
Speaker 10: been missing nervers since. So, okay, my kids all that.

617
00:33:43,040 --> 00:33:47,280
Speaker 10: I still got family. It's in the halls, my kids,

618
00:33:47,560 --> 00:33:51,440
Speaker 10: you know, my family. But it's not the same. Yeah,

619
00:33:51,480 --> 00:33:52,960
Speaker 10: And I have no I have no.

620
00:33:53,200 --> 00:33:53,320
Speaker 4: Uh.

621
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Speaker 10: I say I got energy, but I don't have energy,

622
00:33:58,800 --> 00:34:00,600
Speaker 10: you know what I mean? Sometimes I own I don't

623
00:34:00,640 --> 00:34:04,040
Speaker 10: shave hips on my face. I don't care less anymore

624
00:34:04,800 --> 00:34:07,240
Speaker 10: because I don't really have nothing to look forward to.

625
00:34:09,680 --> 00:34:10,839
Speaker 7: I mean, I don't know.

626
00:34:11,000 --> 00:34:13,080
Speaker 1: I can hear it in your voice, James, I'm so

627
00:34:13,120 --> 00:34:16,360
Speaker 1: sorry that that happened. And we all know that that

628
00:34:16,520 --> 00:34:20,680
Speaker 1: that's a big part of life. Are you talking or.

629
00:34:20,640 --> 00:34:22,600
Speaker 2: Have you spoken to somebody about this?

630
00:34:22,760 --> 00:34:25,759
Speaker 1: Because you don't want to get into the I mean

631
00:34:26,200 --> 00:34:28,400
Speaker 1: it's still new. I mean it's not even been a

632
00:34:28,480 --> 00:34:33,600
Speaker 1: year nearly, but uh, you want to have you still

633
00:34:33,600 --> 00:34:36,360
Speaker 1: have life to live because you're here, James. So have

634
00:34:36,520 --> 00:34:39,960
Speaker 1: you have you thought about maybe speaking to somebody about it?

635
00:34:41,120 --> 00:34:45,320
Speaker 10: Well, pough therapy, I talked. I talked to some counters

636
00:34:45,320 --> 00:34:47,640
Speaker 10: and stuff like that. I work for a school district,

637
00:34:47,719 --> 00:34:49,759
Speaker 10: so I talked to counselors there. I've talked to them

638
00:34:49,800 --> 00:34:52,000
Speaker 10: and they're you know, they've been very kind to me

639
00:34:53,360 --> 00:34:57,360
Speaker 10: and you know, and stuff like that. And uh, I

640
00:34:57,360 --> 00:34:59,840
Speaker 10: don't know. I just come home to an eppy house. Yeah,

641
00:35:00,000 --> 00:35:03,719
Speaker 10: and everything here and it's it's what's what everything here is?

642
00:35:03,800 --> 00:35:06,200
Speaker 10: With her? Michelle my wife's name.

643
00:35:08,160 --> 00:35:13,080
Speaker 1: I'm so sorry. Yeah, it is hard. There's there's there's

644
00:35:13,160 --> 00:35:16,080
Speaker 1: no way around it. It's hard and it's painful when

645
00:35:16,120 --> 00:35:19,560
Speaker 1: you lose somebody and the only thing I can say

646
00:35:19,560 --> 00:35:21,719
Speaker 1: to you, James, is that it's going to be it's

647
00:35:21,719 --> 00:35:23,920
Speaker 1: going to be important to embrace your family, which it

648
00:35:23,960 --> 00:35:26,840
Speaker 1: sounds like you are. And I would continue to speak

649
00:35:26,880 --> 00:35:31,480
Speaker 1: to somebody to get you some some new rituals. You've

650
00:35:31,520 --> 00:35:33,880
Speaker 1: been with the same woman for thirty years. It's going

651
00:35:33,920 --> 00:35:36,520
Speaker 1: to be hard, but maybe you can create some new

652
00:35:36,560 --> 00:35:40,560
Speaker 1: things for yourself and and and and start. Just because

653
00:35:40,560 --> 00:35:43,160
Speaker 1: you're living, you're here, you still have things to do,

654
00:35:43,640 --> 00:35:45,920
Speaker 1: you still have people to love, you have places to be,

655
00:35:46,040 --> 00:35:49,040
Speaker 1: and you have things to do. So you know you

656
00:35:49,160 --> 00:35:51,000
Speaker 1: want to do as much as you can. And you

657
00:35:51,000 --> 00:35:54,520
Speaker 1: can even support find find some support groups of people,

658
00:35:54,560 --> 00:35:57,239
Speaker 1: because I've had three men call me tonight in your

659
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Speaker 1: same situation, James, same thing.

660
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Speaker 10: So we was married for thirty eight years, it was

661
00:36:04,440 --> 00:36:05,600
Speaker 10: together for forty years.

662
00:36:05,680 --> 00:36:08,000
Speaker 6: So yeah, it's I know it's.

663
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Speaker 10: Hard. I mean I've been. There's times I got in,

664
00:36:12,800 --> 00:36:15,480
Speaker 10: I get energetic, and sometimes there's times where I just

665
00:36:15,560 --> 00:36:18,120
Speaker 10: could get to a low life. It's like, they don't

666
00:36:18,120 --> 00:36:19,760
Speaker 10: get me wrong. I'm not gonna kill.

667
00:36:19,600 --> 00:36:20,920
Speaker 3: Myself, no, no, no.

668
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Speaker 10: I got I got kids and grandkids I gotta look

669
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Speaker 10: out for, right, Its just it's just being said inside

670
00:36:28,440 --> 00:36:31,320
Speaker 10: all the time, and it's just terrible.

671
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Speaker 1: You know, it's a process. It is, it is a process.

672
00:36:35,160 --> 00:36:38,520
Speaker 1: I'm so sorry. But yeah, I really appreciate your call

673
00:36:38,560 --> 00:36:41,759
Speaker 1: because again I said, I've had two or three men

674
00:36:41,840 --> 00:36:45,160
Speaker 1: tonight in your same situation. So just even talking about

675
00:36:45,200 --> 00:36:48,680
Speaker 1: it and honored honoring her as well, is going to

676
00:36:48,719 --> 00:36:50,960
Speaker 1: make you move forward. So thank you so much, James

677
00:36:51,000 --> 00:36:52,759
Speaker 1: for the call. I really appreciate it.

678
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Speaker 10: Well, thank you very much. I appreciate you.

679
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Speaker 1: Okay, thank you. All right, we're running late. When we

680
00:36:58,400 --> 00:37:02,360
Speaker 1: come back, more on this and certainly another exercise for

681
00:37:02,440 --> 00:37:03,200
Speaker 1: the single people.

682
00:37:03,239 --> 00:37:05,959
Speaker 2: We'll talk about that coming back.

683
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Speaker 1: Donna D Saturday Night, Valentine's Day on seven hundred WLW, Cincinnati, and.

684
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Speaker 2: We are back a goad to put my glasses on.

685
00:37:14,360 --> 00:37:17,160
Speaker 2: It's Donna D along with Russ Jackson producing the show.

686
00:37:17,239 --> 00:37:18,920
Speaker 2: Looks like rain has started.

687
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Speaker 1: We're going to continue throughout the day tomorrow, at least

688
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Speaker 1: until noon. Drive carefully if you're coming back from your

689
00:37:26,320 --> 00:37:29,360
Speaker 1: Valentine's Day dinner. I've had a lot of calls tonight,

690
00:37:29,800 --> 00:37:33,279
Speaker 1: some really great ones, and of course it's all about

691
00:37:33,600 --> 00:37:38,800
Speaker 1: Valentine's Day for the moment, but I did want to

692
00:37:38,880 --> 00:37:42,479
Speaker 1: shift gears. I mentioned this a little bit before going

693
00:37:42,520 --> 00:37:45,440
Speaker 1: into the break. This is the year of the fire Horse.

694
00:37:46,400 --> 00:37:50,560
Speaker 1: It starts February seventeen, twenty twenty six, and runs to

695
00:37:50,640 --> 00:37:55,680
Speaker 1: February fifth, twenty twenty seven. I am so excited to

696
00:37:55,680 --> 00:37:58,480
Speaker 1: see what this year is going to bring. I mean,

697
00:37:58,520 --> 00:38:03,160
Speaker 1: this is a powerful cycle that we experience once in

698
00:38:03,320 --> 00:38:10,200
Speaker 1: sixty years. That's how important and exciting and energizing. This

699
00:38:10,239 --> 00:38:14,719
Speaker 1: is a high energy year. It's all about passion. It's

700
00:38:14,760 --> 00:38:20,240
Speaker 1: about rapid change and fierce independence. It's about letting things

701
00:38:20,280 --> 00:38:21,920
Speaker 1: go that aren't serving us anymore.

702
00:38:21,960 --> 00:38:23,680
Speaker 2: We just went through the year the Snake.

703
00:38:23,760 --> 00:38:28,120
Speaker 1: In fact, we're still in it until its oner Sunday

704
00:38:28,160 --> 00:38:31,320
Speaker 1: Monday Tuesday of the seventeenth.

705
00:38:31,560 --> 00:38:33,239
Speaker 2: This is going to be.

706
00:38:34,480 --> 00:38:37,799
Speaker 1: One of the biggest years for personal growth for a

707
00:38:37,800 --> 00:38:40,399
Speaker 1: lot of people. Again, it starts in three days, So

708
00:38:40,520 --> 00:38:44,719
Speaker 1: start thinking big, start dreaming big, start being fearless, and

709
00:38:44,840 --> 00:38:50,520
Speaker 1: embrace change. Are you Are you someone that is change

710
00:38:50,600 --> 00:38:53,920
Speaker 1: hard for you? Is it hard for you to change?

711
00:38:53,960 --> 00:38:58,520
Speaker 1: Because a lot of people feel like change is really difficult.

712
00:38:59,560 --> 00:39:03,799
Speaker 1: This is the year to really embrace change. Remember, you

713
00:39:03,840 --> 00:39:08,280
Speaker 1: have designed your life. You have designed your life. Where

714
00:39:08,320 --> 00:39:12,239
Speaker 1: you are now has been a series of decisions and

715
00:39:12,360 --> 00:39:15,839
Speaker 1: choices to get you to this moment. You are the

716
00:39:15,880 --> 00:39:18,480
Speaker 1: writer of the script of your story. You are the

717
00:39:18,520 --> 00:39:21,680
Speaker 1: star of your movie. If you don't like the story,

718
00:39:22,080 --> 00:39:26,239
Speaker 1: change it. Where do you want to go? What do

719
00:39:26,280 --> 00:39:31,080
Speaker 1: you want to do? You can start choosing a different

720
00:39:31,080 --> 00:39:34,680
Speaker 1: path right now. What do you want to bring into

721
00:39:34,760 --> 00:39:39,399
Speaker 1: your life again? This is a once in sixty year

722
00:39:39,680 --> 00:39:44,439
Speaker 1: powerful cycle headed our way in three days the Year

723
00:39:44,520 --> 00:39:45,160
Speaker 1: of the Horse.

724
00:39:46,560 --> 00:39:47,720
Speaker 2: Do you want a new job?

725
00:39:49,360 --> 00:39:53,560
Speaker 1: A lot of people feel underappreciated at work, or maybe

726
00:39:53,600 --> 00:39:57,120
Speaker 1: you just want to change and do something differently. You

727
00:39:57,160 --> 00:39:59,439
Speaker 1: want to try something differently. You've been at your job

728
00:39:59,440 --> 00:40:03,360
Speaker 1: for ten years. You've done it, You've been successful. Be

729
00:40:03,480 --> 00:40:07,719
Speaker 1: open to looking, be open to the signs, because if

730
00:40:07,840 --> 00:40:11,480
Speaker 1: that's what you want, there's going to be signs, especially

731
00:40:11,560 --> 00:40:15,520
Speaker 1: this year. Are you ready to get fit and get healthy?

732
00:40:15,600 --> 00:40:18,400
Speaker 1: Maybe that is what you want this year. I was

733
00:40:18,440 --> 00:40:21,759
Speaker 1: in Vegas. It was crazy. I had seen I hadn't

734
00:40:21,760 --> 00:40:25,360
Speaker 1: seen probably quite a few people. It'd been probably a

735
00:40:25,400 --> 00:40:29,040
Speaker 1: couple of years, and I think there were four or

736
00:40:29,040 --> 00:40:31,640
Speaker 1: five people that I hadn't seen in a year or two,

737
00:40:32,120 --> 00:40:34,720
Speaker 1: and I am telling you unrecognizable.

738
00:40:35,640 --> 00:40:38,480
Speaker 2: They had lost so much weight. I couldn't.

739
00:40:39,120 --> 00:40:41,879
Speaker 1: I was talking to somebody and didn't even know who

740
00:40:41,920 --> 00:40:45,200
Speaker 1: it was until he said, donn it's Jeffrey. I was like,

741
00:40:45,320 --> 00:40:47,680
Speaker 1: oh my god, I mean, that's how crazy. He looked

742
00:40:47,680 --> 00:40:50,240
Speaker 1: ten years younger and he lost over one hundred pounds.

743
00:40:52,320 --> 00:40:56,080
Speaker 1: This is the year, though, in three days, this starts

744
00:40:56,120 --> 00:40:59,279
Speaker 1: the fire Horse. This is the year to really put

745
00:40:59,320 --> 00:41:02,680
Speaker 1: those things that you want to do, that you've wanted

746
00:41:02,719 --> 00:41:08,120
Speaker 1: to do, that has been maybe a bucket list or

747
00:41:08,160 --> 00:41:12,400
Speaker 1: a life goal, put those in the forefront and dream big.

748
00:41:12,440 --> 00:41:16,160
Speaker 2: This year. This is going to be the year of passion.

749
00:41:17,360 --> 00:41:18,520
Speaker 2: So if you've been.

750
00:41:20,800 --> 00:41:25,440
Speaker 1: In a hard life with somebody that you feel like, man,

751
00:41:26,000 --> 00:41:28,160
Speaker 1: I can't believe I'm still in this relationship.

752
00:41:29,520 --> 00:41:32,839
Speaker 2: I cannot believe you know.

753
00:41:35,040 --> 00:41:38,040
Speaker 1: That I have, that we haven't gone our separate ways.

754
00:41:40,280 --> 00:41:42,120
Speaker 1: One of the hardest things for me, I can tell

755
00:41:42,120 --> 00:41:45,479
Speaker 1: you right now is that I've experienced in this life

756
00:41:45,520 --> 00:41:50,480
Speaker 1: is it's not being lonely, It's not being single for me,

757
00:41:50,880 --> 00:42:00,840
Speaker 1: is being in a relationship that makes me feel lost, unloved, confused, insecure, unsafe.

758
00:42:00,920 --> 00:42:03,239
Speaker 1: I mean, for me, there is nothing worse than that.

759
00:42:03,600 --> 00:42:05,960
Speaker 1: And I figured that out. I didn't always know what

760
00:42:06,200 --> 00:42:10,279
Speaker 1: the feeling was. But I knew I didn't feel comfortable

761
00:42:10,680 --> 00:42:14,080
Speaker 1: in a relationship that I was in, particularly my marriage.

762
00:42:14,120 --> 00:42:17,080
Speaker 1: I was happy and for years and years and years,

763
00:42:18,239 --> 00:42:21,799
Speaker 1: and we were together for twenty years. And it wasn't

764
00:42:21,800 --> 00:42:24,520
Speaker 1: his fault, it wasn't mine. It's just we just grew

765
00:42:24,560 --> 00:42:29,840
Speaker 1: apart and then it's it felt there was like a

766
00:42:29,960 --> 00:42:38,799
Speaker 1: not loving energy between us. And so being open to

767
00:42:38,880 --> 00:42:45,360
Speaker 1: new possibilities, being open to new things, being open to

768
00:42:46,160 --> 00:42:50,200
Speaker 1: a new relationship, letting go of the one that hasn't

769
00:42:50,239 --> 00:42:55,959
Speaker 1: served you, understanding, being open to being single. My ex

770
00:42:56,040 --> 00:43:00,000
Speaker 1: husband went for me to another girl, to another girl.

771
00:43:00,560 --> 00:43:04,439
Speaker 1: He's never been single before, and I feel like I've

772
00:43:04,440 --> 00:43:08,640
Speaker 1: grown so much by being single. Embrace it. Put all

773
00:43:08,640 --> 00:43:11,359
Speaker 1: your focus and energy on yourself, if that's what you want.

774
00:43:13,520 --> 00:43:16,040
Speaker 1: I always say something ends, it's because it was supposed

775
00:43:16,080 --> 00:43:20,000
Speaker 1: to end. There's something better coming for you. And be

776
00:43:20,120 --> 00:43:22,600
Speaker 1: open to the new possibilities. And I'll tell you this year,

777
00:43:22,920 --> 00:43:24,960
Speaker 1: it couldn't be any more important. And I'm going to

778
00:43:25,080 --> 00:43:30,200
Speaker 1: keep saying it. The year the horse. I mean, we

779
00:43:30,280 --> 00:43:35,399
Speaker 1: don't get this kind of a powerful cycle more than

780
00:43:35,440 --> 00:43:37,239
Speaker 1: once in sixty years. So what do you want?

781
00:43:37,280 --> 00:43:37,400
Speaker 5: Five?

782
00:43:37,480 --> 00:43:39,960
Speaker 1: One, three, seven, four, nine, seven thousand and one to

783
00:43:40,000 --> 00:43:41,799
Speaker 1: eight hundred, the big one. What is going to make

784
00:43:41,800 --> 00:43:46,160
Speaker 1: a difference in your life? What is it that you

785
00:43:46,200 --> 00:43:48,600
Speaker 1: can put out there and understand? What do you have

786
00:43:48,800 --> 00:43:57,520
Speaker 1: passion for? Again, you write the script to your story.

787
00:43:57,560 --> 00:44:03,120
Speaker 1: I watched a really great story about this young young

788
00:44:03,160 --> 00:44:08,000
Speaker 1: guy he worked with was he worked with He was

789
00:44:08,040 --> 00:44:11,719
Speaker 1: a manager in record labels, so he worked with hip

790
00:44:11,760 --> 00:44:15,560
Speaker 1: hop artists, and he was way overweight, probably at least

791
00:44:15,560 --> 00:44:18,880
Speaker 1: one hundred and fifty pounds, he said, overweight. And he

792
00:44:19,000 --> 00:44:21,120
Speaker 1: went into his closet one day to get a pair

793
00:44:21,160 --> 00:44:27,120
Speaker 1: of shoes and he blacked out and passed out. And

794
00:44:27,160 --> 00:44:32,480
Speaker 1: he woke up in the hospital, young guy, and they

795
00:44:32,520 --> 00:44:37,239
Speaker 1: said he had a brain aneurysm. And he thought, this

796
00:44:37,360 --> 00:44:40,320
Speaker 1: is not how I'm going out. I am going to

797
00:44:40,320 --> 00:44:43,839
Speaker 1: rewrite this story because what a sad story this would

798
00:44:43,880 --> 00:44:48,120
Speaker 1: be for me. I am not going to live this story.

799
00:44:49,640 --> 00:44:51,840
Speaker 1: So as he got out of that hospital bed and

800
00:44:51,840 --> 00:44:54,839
Speaker 1: he got home, he had a dream and he said

801
00:44:54,840 --> 00:44:57,040
Speaker 1: he was going to be in this Nike commercial with

802
00:44:58,320 --> 00:45:03,520
Speaker 1: Serena Williams and Lebron James and it was a dream

803
00:45:03,640 --> 00:45:08,879
Speaker 1: for him, and he said it felt so real. So

804
00:45:08,920 --> 00:45:11,200
Speaker 1: he decided that he was going to leave this very

805
00:45:11,280 --> 00:45:15,560
Speaker 1: lucrative company that he was a manager of, you know,

806
00:45:15,640 --> 00:45:19,960
Speaker 1: in the record industry, very lucrative. He decided he was

807
00:45:20,000 --> 00:45:21,960
Speaker 1: not going to do that anymore because it put him

808
00:45:21,960 --> 00:45:26,279
Speaker 1: in the place where he was very overweight, unhealthy. And

809
00:45:26,360 --> 00:45:31,359
Speaker 1: he moved out to California and started running marathons. And

810
00:45:31,400 --> 00:45:35,040
Speaker 1: he ran five marathons and was training for an iron

811
00:45:35,120 --> 00:45:41,680
Speaker 1: Man competition, and he took a video and he said,

812
00:45:42,040 --> 00:45:45,759
Speaker 1: he sent it to Nike. He talked about his brain aneurysm,

813
00:45:46,320 --> 00:45:49,839
Speaker 1: where he was, how he left, he lost so much

814
00:45:49,880 --> 00:45:54,239
Speaker 1: weight by running marathons, and within he said, a few

815
00:45:54,320 --> 00:45:57,520
Speaker 1: days one of the heads of Nike called him for

816
00:45:57,600 --> 00:45:58,359
Speaker 1: a meeting.

817
00:45:59,600 --> 00:46:00,600
Speaker 2: And they put him in.

818
00:46:00,600 --> 00:46:05,960
Speaker 1: This commercial and Serena Williams and Lebron James was in

819
00:46:06,000 --> 00:46:09,320
Speaker 1: this commercial and it was titled something like dream Big

820
00:46:10,880 --> 00:46:14,239
Speaker 1: or Big Dreams or something like that. So what he

821
00:46:14,360 --> 00:46:18,719
Speaker 1: did was actually create a whole new story for himself.

822
00:46:19,040 --> 00:46:24,240
Speaker 1: He saw it in a dream, he followed the dream,

823
00:46:25,520 --> 00:46:29,719
Speaker 1: he made it happen, and now he said, that's the

824
00:46:29,800 --> 00:46:32,000
Speaker 1: story I want to tell. And now he helps kids,

825
00:46:32,640 --> 00:46:35,520
Speaker 1: young kids handle cancer and things like that. So he's

826
00:46:35,560 --> 00:46:38,000
Speaker 1: giving service. This is the story of his life. He

827
00:46:38,080 --> 00:46:42,359
Speaker 1: wanted not the one that had a brain aneurysm, overweight

828
00:46:42,880 --> 00:46:45,960
Speaker 1: and was going to die. He was not going to

829
00:46:46,040 --> 00:46:49,000
Speaker 1: go out like that, so he changed his life completely.

830
00:46:49,440 --> 00:46:51,799
Speaker 1: This is that kind of a year to do that.

831
00:46:52,040 --> 00:46:54,080
Speaker 1: This is one of those years where you can say,

832
00:46:54,560 --> 00:46:57,799
Speaker 1: you know what, maybe it is time for me to

833
00:46:57,880 --> 00:47:01,560
Speaker 1: start going on seven vacations out of a year. Maybe

834
00:47:01,560 --> 00:47:04,520
Speaker 1: it is time to take my kids on this trip

835
00:47:04,560 --> 00:47:06,799
Speaker 1: that I've been planning that we never can get to

836
00:47:07,000 --> 00:47:10,160
Speaker 1: because we're all so busy. Maybe it's this time of

837
00:47:10,239 --> 00:47:14,120
Speaker 1: year where you decide, I'm switching jobs. I know nothing

838
00:47:14,160 --> 00:47:17,239
Speaker 1: about what I want to do next, but I am

839
00:47:17,360 --> 00:47:21,239
Speaker 1: I'm going to go in the direction of that. I mean,

840
00:47:21,280 --> 00:47:23,600
Speaker 1: we only have one life to live. None of us

841
00:47:23,640 --> 00:47:28,000
Speaker 1: are getting out unscathed. We only have one life to live.

842
00:47:28,120 --> 00:47:30,840
Speaker 1: Why not go for it? And this year is the

843
00:47:30,920 --> 00:47:33,600
Speaker 1: year to go for it. Speaking of vacations, by the way,

844
00:47:35,080 --> 00:47:38,960
Speaker 1: a new study said we need at least seven vacations

845
00:47:39,040 --> 00:47:41,759
Speaker 1: every year to relieve stress and depression.

846
00:47:43,040 --> 00:47:45,080
Speaker 2: I mean, who has time for that.

847
00:47:45,920 --> 00:47:49,959
Speaker 1: I didn't go on one vacation in twenty twenty five.

848
00:47:50,480 --> 00:47:52,879
Speaker 1: That is something I am going to switch this year.

849
00:47:53,480 --> 00:47:56,480
Speaker 1: I am absolutely gonna go on vacations. We even missed

850
00:47:56,480 --> 00:48:00,520
Speaker 1: our sisters trip this year. But if if you look

851
00:48:00,560 --> 00:48:04,560
Speaker 1: into the study, it says your brain is not designed

852
00:48:04,600 --> 00:48:09,960
Speaker 1: to go NonStop. There's got to be frequent time away

853
00:48:10,040 --> 00:48:13,799
Speaker 1: for routine stresses to help the nervous system. So we

854
00:48:14,000 --> 00:48:18,560
Speaker 1: have to get away from the routine the sitting at

855
00:48:18,840 --> 00:48:20,960
Speaker 1: our desks for six or seven hours, which I do,

856
00:48:21,160 --> 00:48:25,520
Speaker 1: or longer, the routine of you know, being in my

857
00:48:25,640 --> 00:48:28,200
Speaker 1: house and cooking and taking the dog out and getting

858
00:48:28,200 --> 00:48:31,840
Speaker 1: behind the computer and the zoom calls and the NonStop

859
00:48:31,920 --> 00:48:34,760
Speaker 1: conferences and stuff like that. We've got to get away

860
00:48:34,800 --> 00:48:38,400
Speaker 1: from that so that our nervous system can relax and

861
00:48:38,440 --> 00:48:42,560
Speaker 1: return to baseline faster. Even small trips, they say make

862
00:48:42,600 --> 00:48:47,000
Speaker 1: a big difference. Staycations and stuff like that. Even you know,

863
00:48:47,239 --> 00:48:49,560
Speaker 1: you go to a weekend down in Kentucky, deep down

864
00:48:49,560 --> 00:48:54,279
Speaker 1: in Kentucky to go to like a beautiful park and hike.

865
00:48:57,760 --> 00:49:00,480
Speaker 1: I mean, do you agree we should be taking at

866
00:49:00,560 --> 00:49:05,240
Speaker 1: least seven vacations a year, whether it's a mini vacation.

867
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Speaker 1: You can even hear my voice, my voice from working

868
00:49:08,160 --> 00:49:12,800
Speaker 1: all weekend all week rather at a huge conference.

869
00:49:13,040 --> 00:49:14,520
Speaker 2: That's what I meant strained.

870
00:49:14,920 --> 00:49:18,319
Speaker 1: We don't even know how much work we're doing that

871
00:49:18,440 --> 00:49:20,719
Speaker 1: causes our nervous system to be activated.

872
00:49:21,120 --> 00:49:24,320
Speaker 2: So I do think that even like little mini.

873
00:49:24,160 --> 00:49:27,799
Speaker 1: Vacations or stay vacations or the big vacations in Hawaii

874
00:49:28,239 --> 00:49:32,600
Speaker 1: or things like that, I do think that is going

875
00:49:32,680 --> 00:49:34,480
Speaker 1: to help our nervous system, and I think it will

876
00:49:34,520 --> 00:49:38,160
Speaker 1: help us calm down. What do you think? Five one, three, seven, four, nine,

877
00:49:38,400 --> 00:49:40,799
Speaker 1: seven thousand. Do you have something you want to do

878
00:49:40,880 --> 00:49:41,239
Speaker 1: the year?

879
00:49:41,400 --> 00:49:41,840
Speaker 2: The horse?

880
00:49:42,320 --> 00:49:45,640
Speaker 1: What's going to make a difference in your life? Do

881
00:49:45,680 --> 00:49:49,840
Speaker 1: you even believe this stuff? Because a lot of people

882
00:49:50,120 --> 00:49:52,080
Speaker 1: and I can tell you right now, if you don't

883
00:49:52,120 --> 00:49:54,200
Speaker 1: believe it, then it's not going to happen for you.

884
00:49:54,560 --> 00:49:56,799
Speaker 1: It's just like the same thing we said, we talk

885
00:49:56,880 --> 00:50:00,040
Speaker 1: about this kind of stuff. If you you don't I

886
00:50:00,040 --> 00:50:02,120
Speaker 1: don't feel like there's somebody out there that you're going

887
00:50:02,200 --> 00:50:04,279
Speaker 1: to find love, guess what, you're not going to find it.

888
00:50:05,239 --> 00:50:07,920
Speaker 1: If you feel like you're never going to be successful

889
00:50:08,200 --> 00:50:10,440
Speaker 1: in a better job and you just want to stay

890
00:50:10,520 --> 00:50:13,080
Speaker 1: where you are because it's safe, that's what you're going

891
00:50:13,160 --> 00:50:17,239
Speaker 1: to get. If you don't feel like you can lose

892
00:50:17,280 --> 00:50:22,200
Speaker 1: weight or get in shape, you know, the answer to that.

893
00:50:24,200 --> 00:50:27,399
Speaker 1: If you're open to thinking that this is a year

894
00:50:28,160 --> 00:50:32,600
Speaker 1: that's going to change everything for you. Imagine if you

895
00:50:33,040 --> 00:50:36,840
Speaker 1: were to dream big and feel like this is the

896
00:50:36,960 --> 00:50:41,680
Speaker 1: year that's going to hit it for me, whatever that

897
00:50:41,800 --> 00:50:46,400
Speaker 1: dream is, then likely it will happen.

898
00:50:49,120 --> 00:50:51,879
Speaker 2: Do you think there's love for you? Do you put

899
00:50:51,920 --> 00:50:52,839
Speaker 2: yourself out there?

900
00:50:53,600 --> 00:50:56,359
Speaker 1: If you say yeah, and you feel like, all right,

901
00:50:56,840 --> 00:50:59,680
Speaker 1: I'm not worried about it. I'm going to take I'm

902
00:50:59,680 --> 00:51:03,680
Speaker 1: going to take this time and I'm going to feel

903
00:51:03,719 --> 00:51:07,560
Speaker 1: really good about where i am, being single, being happy,

904
00:51:07,760 --> 00:51:12,200
Speaker 1: working on myself, and I'm not in any rush to

905
00:51:12,280 --> 00:51:16,160
Speaker 1: meet somebody. But when I'm ready, when I'm available, when

906
00:51:16,200 --> 00:51:20,480
Speaker 1: I've done the work on myself, that's when they show up.

907
00:51:21,520 --> 00:51:25,279
Speaker 1: When the teacher is ready, the student appears. When the

908
00:51:25,320 --> 00:51:28,120
Speaker 1: student is ready, the teacher appears. I had that backwards.

909
00:51:28,320 --> 00:51:32,560
Speaker 1: But the same kind of thing is true for all

910
00:51:32,600 --> 00:51:35,440
Speaker 1: of us. If you believe it will happen. I think

911
00:51:35,480 --> 00:51:38,160
Speaker 1: there was any if you dream it and it will come,

912
00:51:38,239 --> 00:51:41,120
Speaker 1: Do you believe it will come? Feel to dreams? Same

913
00:51:41,200 --> 00:51:44,960
Speaker 1: kind of concept. What is it that you want to

914
00:51:45,080 --> 00:51:48,799
Speaker 1: change in your life this year? In three days, You've

915
00:51:48,800 --> 00:51:52,560
Speaker 1: got three days left to start thinking about this and

916
00:51:52,640 --> 00:51:56,480
Speaker 1: start being open to it, and start understanding the signs,

917
00:51:57,200 --> 00:52:00,279
Speaker 1: because it's going to be pretty important to understand what

918
00:52:00,320 --> 00:52:03,120
Speaker 1: you want so that you can have it.

919
00:52:04,480 --> 00:52:06,319
Speaker 2: All Right, we're gonna come back. We're going to talk

920
00:52:06,360 --> 00:52:07,440
Speaker 2: about more about this.

921
00:52:07,520 --> 00:52:10,080
Speaker 1: You can call in five one three, seven, four nine seven,

922
00:52:10,680 --> 00:52:12,359
Speaker 1: eight hundred The Big One. I do want to hear

923
00:52:12,400 --> 00:52:16,399
Speaker 1: from you. Thank you so much. Russ Jackson, producing the show.

924
00:52:16,400 --> 00:52:19,320
Speaker 1: We're back in just a few minutes. It's Donnade on

925
00:52:20,080 --> 00:52:24,719
Speaker 1: seven hundred WLW, Cincinnati. Yeah, maybe he might have to

926
00:52:24,719 --> 00:52:26,839
Speaker 1: get his own place by one, three, seven, four nine,

927
00:52:26,920 --> 00:52:29,760
Speaker 1: seven thousand, way to eight hundred, The Big One.

928
00:52:29,880 --> 00:52:30,759
Speaker 2: Would you like that?

929
00:52:31,920 --> 00:52:34,360
Speaker 1: Would you want to have your own house, your own

930
00:52:34,440 --> 00:52:39,280
Speaker 1: space away from your husband? Would that be a lonely

931
00:52:39,360 --> 00:52:42,520
Speaker 1: scenario or would it be appealing to you? Again, this

932
00:52:42,640 --> 00:52:44,920
Speaker 1: is the year, the year of the Horse. This is

933
00:52:44,960 --> 00:52:49,360
Speaker 1: where you dream big. If that is something that that

934
00:52:49,480 --> 00:52:52,279
Speaker 1: you would like to do, a lot of couples are

935
00:52:52,280 --> 00:52:55,640
Speaker 1: now doing it, and it's saving their relationship. That's the

936
00:52:55,719 --> 00:52:58,280
Speaker 1: whole point of why they are doing it. They're giving

937
00:52:58,320 --> 00:53:02,280
Speaker 1: themselves enough space so that they have their own place,

938
00:53:03,840 --> 00:53:07,360
Speaker 1: and it's and it's actually creating a more more of

939
00:53:07,360 --> 00:53:10,680
Speaker 1: a connection for these couples. They're doing it to preserve

940
00:53:11,200 --> 00:53:14,440
Speaker 1: because you know, living with somebody is not always easy.

941
00:53:15,960 --> 00:53:21,200
Speaker 1: Even the whole cleanliness thing can be very challenging. If

942
00:53:21,239 --> 00:53:24,399
Speaker 1: you're a clean person and your spouse is not, that's

943
00:53:24,440 --> 00:53:27,840
Speaker 1: frustrating and how the heck do you get over that?

944
00:53:27,840 --> 00:53:31,879
Speaker 1: That's another reason why there it's an advantage to having

945
00:53:31,880 --> 00:53:35,120
Speaker 1: your individual house. I was, you know, I was I

946
00:53:35,200 --> 00:53:41,319
Speaker 1: talk about the couples that I am counseling and the

947
00:53:41,400 --> 00:53:46,880
Speaker 1: husband had moved out, and they're doing so well, and

948
00:53:46,920 --> 00:53:49,720
Speaker 1: they're communicating and they're doing the text. We talked about

949
00:53:49,719 --> 00:53:52,479
Speaker 1: the text, and they're having what did I do right?

950
00:53:53,160 --> 00:53:57,040
Speaker 1: And what could I have worked better on? And all

951
00:53:57,080 --> 00:54:00,920
Speaker 1: of these things that they're connecting and they're both really

952
00:54:01,000 --> 00:54:03,319
Speaker 1: reaching for each other. When you have a bid for

953
00:54:03,440 --> 00:54:07,920
Speaker 1: connection and somebody comes back and meets you, that's a

954
00:54:07,960 --> 00:54:11,000
Speaker 1: connection and that will be a strong bond, and that

955
00:54:11,440 --> 00:54:15,279
Speaker 1: can create a whole new relationship. You can go from

956
00:54:15,280 --> 00:54:19,640
Speaker 1: being very very angry and very upset in your relationship

957
00:54:19,920 --> 00:54:25,320
Speaker 1: and then you start being kind and you start reaching

958
00:54:25,320 --> 00:54:27,840
Speaker 1: out and saying, hey, you know, I noticed that you

959
00:54:27,920 --> 00:54:30,239
Speaker 1: put those dishes away and that was so nice. I

960
00:54:30,320 --> 00:54:32,040
Speaker 1: was so tired at the end of the day, and

961
00:54:32,080 --> 00:54:34,560
Speaker 1: I noticed that. And you send a sweet text the

962
00:54:34,560 --> 00:54:37,520
Speaker 1: next day, Watch what happens.

963
00:54:38,719 --> 00:54:39,800
Speaker 2: Watch what happens.

964
00:54:40,040 --> 00:54:45,640
Speaker 1: That person, your spouse will so appreciate that text, and

965
00:54:45,680 --> 00:54:48,759
Speaker 1: then they'll come back and say something nice about you

966
00:54:49,880 --> 00:54:52,520
Speaker 1: or even respond to I was happy to do it.

967
00:54:52,520 --> 00:54:53,560
Speaker 2: I knew you were tired.

968
00:54:54,000 --> 00:54:58,360
Speaker 1: Those types of things, those little types of things have

969
00:54:59,000 --> 00:55:05,959
Speaker 1: helped the husband moved back into the house, and they're very,

970
00:55:06,120 --> 00:55:10,520
Speaker 1: very connected at this point, those little types of things

971
00:55:10,800 --> 00:55:12,760
Speaker 1: reaching out and as she said, her house was cleaner

972
00:55:12,760 --> 00:55:15,160
Speaker 1: before he moved back in. But and she made a

973
00:55:15,239 --> 00:55:20,680
Speaker 1: joke about it, seriously, but joking too, because she was

974
00:55:20,880 --> 00:55:27,919
Speaker 1: very upset that he wasn't in the house. And when

975
00:55:27,960 --> 00:55:32,760
Speaker 1: you talk, when you start showing kindness, and you start

976
00:55:32,800 --> 00:55:38,120
Speaker 1: showing thoughtfulness, and you start caring about your partner in

977
00:55:38,239 --> 00:55:41,880
Speaker 1: ways that maybe you did when you first got together.

978
00:55:44,000 --> 00:55:48,120
Speaker 1: But because life got in the way and kids and

979
00:55:48,200 --> 00:55:52,640
Speaker 1: responsibilities and everybody has jobs and you have a whole

980
00:55:52,680 --> 00:55:56,480
Speaker 1: house and you have pets and everything else, you forget

981
00:55:56,520 --> 00:56:00,480
Speaker 1: to be sweet to one another, and you forget to

982
00:56:00,520 --> 00:56:05,080
Speaker 1: do those little tiny things that are kind and asking, hey,

983
00:56:05,120 --> 00:56:10,520
Speaker 1: am I doing a good job as your husband, What

984
00:56:10,880 --> 00:56:15,920
Speaker 1: do you think I can do better? Imagine your husband

985
00:56:16,000 --> 00:56:22,080
Speaker 1: asking you that question, and you don't have to wait

986
00:56:22,120 --> 00:56:22,960
Speaker 1: for him to do it.

987
00:56:23,600 --> 00:56:26,760
Speaker 2: You can ask the question too, my good wife.

988
00:56:30,840 --> 00:56:34,879
Speaker 1: It takes courage to do it, because you know, if

989
00:56:34,880 --> 00:56:37,560
Speaker 1: it's not a normal thing, this is going to be

990
00:56:37,640 --> 00:56:41,840
Speaker 1: a different thing for you to do. But everyone, most people,

991
00:56:43,560 --> 00:56:46,920
Speaker 1: most people will reach back if you're loving and kind.

992
00:56:47,840 --> 00:56:53,200
Speaker 1: Most people as certainly if you're in a relationship, a

993
00:56:53,280 --> 00:56:57,200
Speaker 1: committed relationship, If they're not reaching back when you have

994
00:56:57,239 --> 00:57:02,400
Speaker 1: a bid for connection, there's a problem. It might not

995
00:57:02,560 --> 00:57:10,200
Speaker 1: be just communication. It might be compatibility. It might be

996
00:57:10,280 --> 00:57:15,279
Speaker 1: something that, hey, this happens to couples. We've gone so

997
00:57:15,600 --> 00:57:20,720
Speaker 1: long without being connected that we don't know each other anymore,

998
00:57:21,160 --> 00:57:25,000
Speaker 1: and we've just been in the house taking care of business.

999
00:57:25,600 --> 00:57:32,440
Speaker 1: That happens. That doesn't mean it has to stay that way.

1000
00:57:32,520 --> 00:57:36,440
Speaker 1: You can ask those questions. You can surprise your husband.

1001
00:57:36,520 --> 00:57:41,640
Speaker 1: You can surprise your wife and say, you know, am

1002
00:57:41,640 --> 00:57:43,960
Speaker 1: I doing a good job, my doing a good job

1003
00:57:44,000 --> 00:57:44,520
Speaker 1: with the kids.

1004
00:57:44,520 --> 00:57:46,120
Speaker 2: What do you feel like I can do better?

1005
00:57:46,480 --> 00:57:49,960
Speaker 1: Imagine if your husband asked you that, or your wife

1006
00:57:49,960 --> 00:57:53,600
Speaker 1: asked you that, how good would that feel to say,

1007
00:57:54,240 --> 00:57:59,360
Speaker 1: you know, I think you're doing good overall, but we

1008
00:57:59,440 --> 00:58:04,600
Speaker 1: can work some things, okay, tell me, And then the

1009
00:58:04,640 --> 00:58:09,000
Speaker 1: connection starts from there sending. And that could start with

1010
00:58:09,120 --> 00:58:12,440
Speaker 1: sending a loving text on a daily basis, something that

1011
00:58:12,480 --> 00:58:17,000
Speaker 1: you're looking for that he's done right or that she's

1012
00:58:17,440 --> 00:58:20,800
Speaker 1: been amazing at, or something that you absolutely love. When

1013
00:58:20,840 --> 00:58:23,560
Speaker 1: I talked to couples, one of the things, especially if

1014
00:58:23,560 --> 00:58:28,280
Speaker 1: they're really really struggling, one of the things I ask

1015
00:58:28,600 --> 00:58:31,360
Speaker 1: them to tell me is how did you meet?

1016
00:58:31,680 --> 00:58:34,440
Speaker 2: Tell me the story about how you guys got connected.

1017
00:58:35,800 --> 00:58:42,000
Speaker 1: And it's really great because it brings them back to

1018
00:58:42,280 --> 00:58:46,640
Speaker 1: why they're together, why did what was it that brought

1019
00:58:46,640 --> 00:58:47,280
Speaker 1: them together?

1020
00:58:48,680 --> 00:58:50,200
Speaker 2: What was it that.

1021
00:58:52,880 --> 00:58:56,320
Speaker 1: They found attractive in each other? And those stories are

1022
00:58:56,360 --> 00:59:00,760
Speaker 1: great and usually usually they both say no, you go ahead,

1023
00:59:00,840 --> 00:59:04,000
Speaker 1: You go ahead, and they'll laugh and they'll joke and

1024
00:59:04,040 --> 00:59:08,440
Speaker 1: you can see their personalities come out talking about the

1025
00:59:08,520 --> 00:59:11,800
Speaker 1: day they met and why they were attracted to each

1026
00:59:11,840 --> 00:59:15,960
Speaker 1: other and what drew them to each other and can

1027
00:59:16,000 --> 00:59:20,480
Speaker 1: they still see those beautiful things in each other? I

1028
00:59:20,760 --> 00:59:25,640
Speaker 1: love asking that question, And even if you're not seeing somebody,

1029
00:59:25,680 --> 00:59:29,480
Speaker 1: a coach or something like that, and you're having problems

1030
00:59:29,480 --> 00:59:34,680
Speaker 1: in your marriage, you can remind them remember when we

1031
00:59:34,720 --> 00:59:37,720
Speaker 1: first met, and it was when Top Gun was out

1032
00:59:38,600 --> 00:59:43,520
Speaker 1: and we just watched that top It was so great

1033
00:59:43,520 --> 00:59:50,160
Speaker 1: to relive that. Something about reminding you we've been together

1034
00:59:50,240 --> 00:59:53,960
Speaker 1: for a while, but remember where we started, Remember why

1035
00:59:54,000 --> 00:59:57,320
Speaker 1: we were even attracted to each other, Remember us before

1036
00:59:57,360 --> 01:00:03,160
Speaker 1: we had kids, Remember the you and I. That's the

1037
01:00:03,200 --> 01:00:07,440
Speaker 1: big part of it. And I really feel like couples

1038
01:00:07,480 --> 01:00:12,760
Speaker 1: that do want to live apart, those living apart together,

1039
01:00:13,440 --> 01:00:17,920
Speaker 1: those lack couples, they're doing things to support their relationship

1040
01:00:18,200 --> 01:00:23,080
Speaker 1: because if something in your relationship is not working and

1041
01:00:23,160 --> 01:00:25,680
Speaker 1: it's been like that for a while, space is needed.

1042
01:00:26,880 --> 01:00:28,000
Speaker 2: It's it.

1043
01:00:28,080 --> 01:00:32,600
Speaker 1: And it doesn't mean that you have to have new houses,

1044
01:00:33,360 --> 01:00:36,360
Speaker 1: but you can just change it up. Hey, whatever this

1045
01:00:36,600 --> 01:00:39,960
Speaker 1: is is not working, I'm going to go here for

1046
01:00:40,000 --> 01:00:41,960
Speaker 1: a minute. I'm going to stay with my sister whatever

1047
01:00:42,000 --> 01:00:46,160
Speaker 1: it is, and then you can really come back together stronger.

1048
01:00:47,600 --> 01:00:50,520
Speaker 1: So if you change up something that's not working, that's

1049
01:00:50,600 --> 01:00:53,800
Speaker 1: a big deal. And that's what these lack couples are doing.

1050
01:00:55,160 --> 01:00:58,320
Speaker 1: They're saying, listen, I have enough money to buy my

1051
01:00:58,440 --> 01:01:01,520
Speaker 1: own house. You have enough money to keep your house

1052
01:01:02,880 --> 01:01:07,880
Speaker 1: let's have our own separate houses and see how it goes. Right,

1053
01:01:08,320 --> 01:01:11,760
Speaker 1: Let's just see where this relationship takes us, and let's

1054
01:01:11,760 --> 01:01:14,200
Speaker 1: see how how much fun we can have. It would

1055
01:01:14,280 --> 01:01:18,600
Speaker 1: be like dating again, going picking you up at at

1056
01:01:19,200 --> 01:01:22,160
Speaker 1: her house, or come watch a movie at my house

1057
01:01:22,160 --> 01:01:22,880
Speaker 1: and then go home.

1058
01:01:23,960 --> 01:01:24,440
Speaker 2: Can you met?

1059
01:01:24,520 --> 01:01:32,000
Speaker 1: That's like dating again. Let's go to Thomas in Springfield. Hi, Thomas,

1060
01:01:32,080 --> 01:01:35,080
Speaker 1: you're on with Donnade at seven hundred WLW.

1061
01:01:35,200 --> 01:01:39,000
Speaker 8: Thanks radio on in the background, so if you get

1062
01:01:39,040 --> 01:01:41,880
Speaker 8: any feedback, you know you know where it's coming from.

1063
01:01:41,880 --> 01:01:42,840
Speaker 2: Oh, okay, thank you.

1064
01:01:43,200 --> 01:01:45,560
Speaker 8: I have not seen somebody for three much.

1065
01:01:47,280 --> 01:01:48,640
Speaker 3: Okay, she was a nurse.

1066
01:01:50,160 --> 01:01:54,200
Speaker 8: She came to visit where I live in an apartment building.

1067
01:01:55,280 --> 01:01:55,360
Speaker 4: And.

1068
01:01:57,160 --> 01:02:01,080
Speaker 8: Uh, I would like to know how she is doing

1069
01:02:01,160 --> 01:02:05,400
Speaker 8: at least her name is d O R E n

1070
01:02:05,520 --> 01:02:08,360
Speaker 8: E Dorian Dorene.

1071
01:02:08,600 --> 01:02:15,800
Speaker 1: Okay, do you want to do you want to Valentine today?

1072
01:02:16,640 --> 01:02:18,400
Speaker 8: You know, I figured this was a good time for

1073
01:02:18,440 --> 01:02:22,360
Speaker 8: me to pick up the phone and not be isolated.

1074
01:02:22,560 --> 01:02:25,000
Speaker 1: Okay, well I love that. First of all, Now, does

1075
01:02:25,160 --> 01:02:28,080
Speaker 1: does Doren have a cell phone? Has she not been picking?

1076
01:02:28,400 --> 01:02:28,520
Speaker 8: How?

1077
01:02:29,040 --> 01:02:31,360
Speaker 2: How is it that you can't.

1078
01:02:30,240 --> 01:02:31,080
Speaker 5: Read the nurse?

1079
01:02:31,240 --> 01:02:35,400
Speaker 8: She has that cell phone. Okay, she is married, her

1080
01:02:35,480 --> 01:02:43,240
Speaker 8: husband knows that I was a semi patient of hers. Okay, Okay,

1081
01:02:43,320 --> 01:02:47,600
Speaker 8: he did me a favor that she asked him to do,

1082
01:02:48,200 --> 01:02:56,160
Speaker 8: and it is it's long, convoluted and stuff like that,

1083
01:02:56,840 --> 01:03:00,840
Speaker 8: but I'm interested in how she is doing at least

1084
01:03:00,920 --> 01:03:05,400
Speaker 8: that she is alive and well, and if she doesn't,

1085
01:03:06,400 --> 01:03:09,560
Speaker 8: just a telephone call or somebody else calling for.

1086
01:03:09,360 --> 01:03:12,120
Speaker 2: Her, okay, would be okay with mete.

1087
01:03:12,200 --> 01:03:15,320
Speaker 1: Okay, So she's married, and you're you were a former

1088
01:03:15,360 --> 01:03:17,720
Speaker 1: patient of hers and you haven't spoken to her for

1089
01:03:17,720 --> 01:03:22,000
Speaker 1: a while. Obviously Doreen has much Okay, So obviously Doren

1090
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Speaker 1: has made an impact in your life.

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Speaker 2: And nurses do that.

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Speaker 1: Let me tell you my mother was a nurse, Thomas,

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01:03:27,760 --> 01:03:31,720
Speaker 1: and we used to have people in our at our

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01:03:31,760 --> 01:03:34,200
Speaker 1: Thanksgiving dinner from the hospital.

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01:03:34,320 --> 01:03:36,480
Speaker 2: None of us knew who they were sitting. I mean.

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Speaker 2: So nurses are so.

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01:03:38,000 --> 01:03:41,920
Speaker 1: Caring and giving, and that's part of why they go

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01:03:42,040 --> 01:03:46,520
Speaker 1: into that profession is they have that amazing Yeah, that

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01:03:46,680 --> 01:03:51,680
Speaker 1: amazing care. It's not it's not so much caretaker, but yeah,

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01:03:51,800 --> 01:03:55,640
Speaker 1: compassionate and stuff. So you're just looking to see maybe

1101
01:03:55,680 --> 01:03:58,880
Speaker 1: her husband can let you know or or somebody can

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01:03:58,960 --> 01:04:00,680
Speaker 1: let you know that she's okay.

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01:04:01,920 --> 01:04:06,360
Speaker 8: She has a couple of sisters, Okay. I believe my brother,

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01:04:07,600 --> 01:04:15,440
Speaker 8: her father, you know. Then there are other people I

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01:04:16,280 --> 01:04:20,080
Speaker 8: am calling. I believe her agency telephone.

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01:04:19,600 --> 01:04:23,480
Speaker 1: Number, okay, and so have you asked that what the

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01:04:23,560 --> 01:04:24,320
Speaker 1: agency is?

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01:04:24,560 --> 01:04:25,040
Speaker 2: Okay.

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01:04:25,640 --> 01:04:30,000
Speaker 8: I don't know precisely where she lives. I know about

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01:04:30,880 --> 01:04:35,040
Speaker 8: and that's why I say about Cincinnati area. It's north

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01:04:35,560 --> 01:04:42,760
Speaker 8: of Cincinnati. I'm listening to myself.

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01:04:43,280 --> 01:04:44,000
Speaker 2: I can hear it.

1113
01:04:44,000 --> 01:04:46,680
Speaker 1: It's it's it's a it's a little bit of an echo.

1114
01:04:46,760 --> 01:04:49,800
Speaker 1: But Thomas, okay, so listen, we'll we'll try and figure

1115
01:04:49,840 --> 01:04:52,440
Speaker 1: this out for you. So he so, basically, you just

1116
01:04:52,480 --> 01:04:55,240
Speaker 1: want to see if she's okay, Doreen. If you're a

1117
01:04:55,320 --> 01:04:59,120
Speaker 1: nurse in the Cincinnati area, and if you can remember

1118
01:04:59,160 --> 01:05:03,760
Speaker 1: Thomas about three three months ago that you you supported him,

1119
01:05:03,800 --> 01:05:06,280
Speaker 1: and he just wants to make sure that you're doing well.

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01:05:06,640 --> 01:05:09,120
Speaker 1: That's all that's all you care about, right Thomas. You

1121
01:05:09,160 --> 01:05:13,200
Speaker 1: want their marriage, your your you're respectful of her husband.

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01:05:13,560 --> 01:05:16,120
Speaker 1: You just want to make sure that she's doing okay.

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01:05:17,440 --> 01:05:19,040
Speaker 6: That's right, Okay, all.

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01:05:19,000 --> 01:05:21,840
Speaker 2: Right, Well, maybe does she know does she call.

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01:05:21,680 --> 01:05:24,360
Speaker 8: You again another time to tell you what I think

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01:05:24,480 --> 01:05:28,760
Speaker 8: of you? And uh what you McCall Sterling?

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01:05:30,520 --> 01:05:32,600
Speaker 1: Yeah, Sterling, Well what do you think of us? You

1128
01:05:32,640 --> 01:05:34,800
Speaker 1: can tell me and I'll tell Sterling.

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01:05:36,080 --> 01:05:40,480
Speaker 8: You can talk a lot, that's part of the business. Yes,

1130
01:05:41,040 --> 01:05:48,240
Speaker 8: I have wondering, uh, but sometimes he rambles.

1131
01:05:48,600 --> 01:05:51,800
Speaker 1: Sometimes sometimes he well listen, let me just tell you

1132
01:05:51,840 --> 01:05:54,760
Speaker 1: something about Sterling and Thomas. I. I love that you

1133
01:05:54,920 --> 01:05:57,680
Speaker 1: just brought this up because people have said that when

1134
01:05:57,760 --> 01:06:00,240
Speaker 1: you have been doing talk radio for a while, and

1135
01:06:00,520 --> 01:06:03,920
Speaker 1: this is this is not even me, you know, trying

1136
01:06:03,920 --> 01:06:07,240
Speaker 1: to get through you know, you sometimes have fifteen minute

1137
01:06:07,240 --> 01:06:10,040
Speaker 1: breaks and when you're doing it alone, and this is

1138
01:06:10,120 --> 01:06:12,840
Speaker 1: I chose to do it alone, which is interesting tonight.

1139
01:06:13,160 --> 01:06:16,360
Speaker 1: I chose to do it alone on Valentine's Day because

1140
01:06:16,400 --> 01:06:19,120
Speaker 1: I didn't want to have doctor Wes or a safety

1141
01:06:19,160 --> 01:06:21,280
Speaker 1: net in here to have a community. I wanted to

1142
01:06:21,320 --> 01:06:24,480
Speaker 1: speak to the listeners. I wanted it to be interactive

1143
01:06:24,840 --> 01:06:27,840
Speaker 1: with callers, and I wanted to I wanted to take

1144
01:06:27,880 --> 01:06:30,440
Speaker 1: this time to go over some of the things that

1145
01:06:30,480 --> 01:06:34,120
Speaker 1: I felt on a Valentine's Day, on a loving holiday

1146
01:06:34,240 --> 01:06:40,840
Speaker 1: would be a a good conversation to have. And when

1147
01:06:40,880 --> 01:06:43,840
Speaker 1: you when you when you talk by yourself, sometimes you

1148
01:06:43,960 --> 01:06:45,840
Speaker 1: ramble like I just did.

1149
01:06:46,560 --> 01:06:49,480
Speaker 8: I can understand that. I can understand the situation.

1150
01:06:49,800 --> 01:06:52,520
Speaker 1: And he's been doing it for a lot longer than

1151
01:06:52,560 --> 01:06:55,400
Speaker 1: I have, So Sterling is actually very good at rambling.

1152
01:06:57,720 --> 01:06:59,920
Speaker 2: Thomas, I appreciated law.

1153
01:07:00,600 --> 01:07:00,840
Speaker 4: Well.

1154
01:07:01,880 --> 01:07:05,480
Speaker 8: The situation with me is that I listened to two

1155
01:07:05,600 --> 01:07:10,840
Speaker 8: radio stations that's WTBN in Columbus.

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01:07:10,440 --> 01:07:13,959
Speaker 1: Uh huh and WLW yeah yep.

1157
01:07:14,560 --> 01:07:17,880
Speaker 8: And one during the day, one during the night. I

1158
01:07:17,960 --> 01:07:21,120
Speaker 8: listened to talk yeah huh. And basically that's all I

1159
01:07:21,240 --> 01:07:21,680
Speaker 8: listened to.

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01:07:23,360 --> 01:07:25,560
Speaker 2: Well, some people are better at this. This is an

1161
01:07:25,680 --> 01:07:26,800
Speaker 2: art form. I'll tell you.

1162
01:07:26,840 --> 01:07:29,840
Speaker 1: If you listen to Willie during the day, he's a lawyer.

1163
01:07:29,920 --> 01:07:32,720
Speaker 1: He speaks for I mean, there's there's there's some amazing,

1164
01:07:32,880 --> 01:07:37,160
Speaker 1: incredible talented people people that are doing talk radio. And

1165
01:07:37,200 --> 01:07:39,280
Speaker 1: you do have to have a little bit of a

1166
01:07:40,280 --> 01:07:42,960
Speaker 1: gift for gab, Thomas, is what I would say.

1167
01:07:43,280 --> 01:07:45,040
Speaker 2: And sometimes.

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01:07:47,120 --> 01:07:51,560
Speaker 1: Eight forty this morning, oh wow, well listen, we're up

1169
01:07:51,600 --> 01:07:55,160
Speaker 1: against the clock. So I speaking of rambling, I gotta run, Thomas,

1170
01:07:55,200 --> 01:07:57,840
Speaker 1: I appreciate it. I hope you get a hold of uh,

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01:07:58,240 --> 01:08:03,240
Speaker 1: dear what was her name again, Dear Deira, be with you? Okay,

1172
01:08:03,280 --> 01:08:06,120
Speaker 1: Thanks Thomas, Hey, Chris, I see your calling. I'm gonna

1173
01:08:06,120 --> 01:08:08,360
Speaker 1: get right back to you. Please hang out because we've

1174
01:08:08,400 --> 01:08:10,320
Speaker 1: got to take a commercial break. We've got news, weather

1175
01:08:10,400 --> 01:08:12,960
Speaker 1: and traffic coming up. It's raining, it's going to rain

1176
01:08:13,040 --> 01:08:16,160
Speaker 1: all night, sometimes heavy at times, and it's gonna rain

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01:08:16,240 --> 01:08:17,960
Speaker 1: until at least noon tomorrow.

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01:08:18,200 --> 01:08:20,840
Speaker 2: So drive carefully. We'll be back. It's Donna D seven

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01:08:20,920 --> 01:08:22,960
Speaker 2: hundred WLW, Cincinnati.

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Speaker 6: They maintain separate domiciles.

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01:08:25,720 --> 01:08:28,400
Speaker 2: Uh huh, yeah, some of it.

1182
01:08:29,200 --> 01:08:34,280
Speaker 9: Most of it is because well he's an old fat

1183
01:08:34,320 --> 01:08:39,479
Speaker 9: blues guy. Yeah, and sleeps with the sea pack and

1184
01:08:39,560 --> 01:08:42,759
Speaker 9: has a lot of cats, and she's allergic to cats.

1185
01:08:42,960 --> 01:08:44,679
Speaker 2: Well, yes, that would be a problem.

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01:08:46,640 --> 01:08:49,559
Speaker 6: Prob They get together.

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Speaker 11: What was the Conway twitty Lorretto lin Soong, Louisiana woman,

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Speaker 11: Mississippi man.

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Speaker 6: We get together anytime we.

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01:08:58,080 --> 01:09:02,720
Speaker 1: Can, Yes, exactly, and you can see how it can.

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01:09:02,840 --> 01:09:05,320
Speaker 11: That's the way they that's the way they live down

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01:09:05,360 --> 01:09:09,920
Speaker 11: in Tennessee. They live in the same city. They are married.

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01:09:10,120 --> 01:09:15,839
Speaker 11: They are monogamous, and they make it work. And mostly

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01:09:15,880 --> 01:09:20,520
Speaker 11: because of physical and mental health reasons.

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01:09:20,120 --> 01:09:23,080
Speaker 2: Right right, the cat the cat thing alone.

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01:09:23,080 --> 01:09:25,880
Speaker 1: But one of the main things Chris, and I know

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01:09:25,920 --> 01:09:29,240
Speaker 1: you've probably heard me say this is snoring and wanting

1198
01:09:29,280 --> 01:09:32,360
Speaker 1: to wanting to sleep in the bed so that you

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01:09:32,400 --> 01:09:37,120
Speaker 1: can actually get sleep, because study after study after studying.

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01:09:37,360 --> 01:09:40,719
Speaker 1: The number one help, the top of the line, number

1201
01:09:40,720 --> 01:09:43,240
Speaker 1: one thing you can do. And it's the problem for

1202
01:09:43,280 --> 01:09:45,760
Speaker 1: me because I fight sleep all the time. Is to

1203
01:09:45,880 --> 01:09:47,960
Speaker 1: get a good night sleep for your health. If you

1204
01:09:48,000 --> 01:09:50,240
Speaker 1: are you can be very very healthy if you are

1205
01:09:50,240 --> 01:09:51,559
Speaker 1: getting eight hours sleep.

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01:09:52,479 --> 01:09:54,120
Speaker 2: It is that important.

1207
01:09:54,200 --> 01:09:57,479
Speaker 1: And a lot of times couples can't get enough sleep

1208
01:09:57,920 --> 01:10:00,360
Speaker 1: because one of them snores, one of them's on the phone,

1209
01:10:00,439 --> 01:10:02,600
Speaker 1: one of them steals, you know, whatever it is, and

1210
01:10:03,120 --> 01:10:06,000
Speaker 1: the temperature of the house is kind of a big

1211
01:10:06,040 --> 01:10:06,559
Speaker 1: deal too.

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01:10:07,280 --> 01:10:09,720
Speaker 6: So we are all different, are we not.

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01:10:10,040 --> 01:10:12,360
Speaker 1: Yes, we are, And I do think that if you can,

1214
01:10:12,600 --> 01:10:15,519
Speaker 1: it's appealing because I have my own house and I

1215
01:10:15,600 --> 01:10:17,960
Speaker 1: dated a guy. Obviously he's got to have his own

1216
01:10:17,960 --> 01:10:20,760
Speaker 1: house because he was in Vegas, so he had his

1217
01:10:20,840 --> 01:10:23,680
Speaker 1: house and I had mine. And you know, when when

1218
01:10:23,760 --> 01:10:26,000
Speaker 1: he would come and stay with me, be two to

1219
01:10:26,080 --> 01:10:28,479
Speaker 1: three weeks or so, and then by the time he

1220
01:10:28,680 --> 01:10:30,120
Speaker 1: was left, I was happy to have.

1221
01:10:30,120 --> 01:10:31,519
Speaker 2: My house back again.

1222
01:10:32,040 --> 01:10:34,559
Speaker 1: I mean, and I've lived with my husband for twenty

1223
01:10:34,640 --> 01:10:36,720
Speaker 1: years too, so and that was fine as well, but

1224
01:10:37,479 --> 01:10:42,400
Speaker 1: you know, people are moving into different, different, you know,

1225
01:10:42,560 --> 01:10:47,120
Speaker 1: ways to preserve their relationship, and apparently lat couples, which

1226
01:10:47,160 --> 01:10:50,640
Speaker 1: is living apart together, is one of those things that

1227
01:10:50,760 --> 01:10:53,479
Speaker 1: is working. Chris, thank you so much for waiting again,

1228
01:10:53,520 --> 01:10:54,960
Speaker 1: and I really appreciate the call.

1229
01:10:55,080 --> 01:10:56,200
Speaker 2: Was so nice talking to you.

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01:10:56,240 --> 01:11:01,040
Speaker 11: Happy valentime, you as will a great first speaking that

1231
01:11:01,160 --> 01:11:01,559
Speaker 11: you missed.

1232
01:11:01,880 --> 01:11:05,120
Speaker 1: I appreciate it. Thanks so much. It's been really nice

1233
01:11:05,160 --> 01:11:09,599
Speaker 1: to hang tonight. And I was telling my previous caller,

1234
01:11:10,280 --> 01:11:14,360
Speaker 1: I purposely did the show tonight by myself because I've

1235
01:11:14,360 --> 01:11:16,479
Speaker 1: had you know, I've had doctor Wess on Sterling and

1236
01:11:16,520 --> 01:11:19,120
Speaker 1: I've done this before. I've had plenty of guests on

1237
01:11:19,160 --> 01:11:23,000
Speaker 1: this relationship show, because when you talk for fifteen seventeen

1238
01:11:23,120 --> 01:11:26,639
Speaker 1: eighteen minutes during these breaks, it can be hard without

1239
01:11:26,680 --> 01:11:31,240
Speaker 1: passing a question to, you know, a partner on the show.

1240
01:11:31,320 --> 01:11:33,519
Speaker 1: And I'm just being honest, this is the inside. It's

1241
01:11:33,560 --> 01:11:38,439
Speaker 1: not always easy to you know, go fifteen seventeen minutes

1242
01:11:38,479 --> 01:11:43,880
Speaker 1: in a studio by yourself. And I really wanted the callers,

1243
01:11:44,120 --> 01:11:48,360
Speaker 1: the listeners to really call in tonight and and just

1244
01:11:48,520 --> 01:11:54,120
Speaker 1: be with them and be with you. And it's really

1245
01:11:54,160 --> 01:11:56,400
Speaker 1: been so fun. And as I'm saying that I'm going

1246
01:11:56,439 --> 01:11:58,960
Speaker 1: to pick up this phone, I think it's Dia on

1247
01:11:59,000 --> 01:11:59,720
Speaker 1: the on the call.

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01:11:59,840 --> 01:12:04,640
Speaker 2: D from Glendale. Hi, Donna, Hi, how are you?

1249
01:12:05,720 --> 01:12:08,800
Speaker 4: I'm doing really well. We had a nice It was

1250
01:12:08,840 --> 01:12:12,920
Speaker 4: actually a dessert date because I was over at my

1251
01:12:13,000 --> 01:12:16,040
Speaker 4: oldest daughter who has the two little ones babysitting, so

1252
01:12:16,080 --> 01:12:19,280
Speaker 4: that they could go out on a date, a dinner date.

1253
01:12:19,920 --> 01:12:23,840
Speaker 4: So Mark and I met over at the restaurant that

1254
01:12:24,160 --> 01:12:27,439
Speaker 4: I mentioned, and it was really fun. It was we

1255
01:12:27,479 --> 01:12:29,719
Speaker 4: said at the bar and had we shared a piece

1256
01:12:29,720 --> 01:12:34,080
Speaker 4: of carrot cake, nice, had a glass of wine, so

1257
01:12:34,120 --> 01:12:35,720
Speaker 4: it was I love it.

1258
01:12:35,840 --> 01:12:39,160
Speaker 1: So that's what you did with your husband for Valentine's Day?

1259
01:12:40,160 --> 01:12:40,719
Speaker 4: That's right?

1260
01:12:40,920 --> 01:12:43,840
Speaker 2: Did he now? Now I mentioned Dia.

1261
01:12:44,000 --> 01:12:46,680
Speaker 1: I didn't mention your name earlier, but I said one

1262
01:12:46,680 --> 01:12:48,840
Speaker 1: of my friends when I was in Vegas took my

1263
01:12:49,280 --> 01:12:52,439
Speaker 1: my foster dog and watched her. This is Dia, and

1264
01:12:52,520 --> 01:12:56,760
Speaker 1: this morning I went to buy flowers for you and

1265
01:12:56,840 --> 01:13:00,000
Speaker 1: a bottle of wine for Mark, her husband, because they

1266
01:13:00,240 --> 01:13:01,920
Speaker 1: it was a team effort to take care of the

1267
01:13:01,960 --> 01:13:03,920
Speaker 1: dog and Da, you're a dog trainer and want to

1268
01:13:03,920 --> 01:13:08,479
Speaker 1: talk to you about that. But it was so lovely

1269
01:13:08,680 --> 01:13:12,080
Speaker 1: I was talking about dia to see all the men

1270
01:13:12,280 --> 01:13:15,400
Speaker 1: buying flowers. There were probably I mean, it was a

1271
01:13:15,479 --> 01:13:19,439
Speaker 1: beautiful section of flowers too, by the way, and there

1272
01:13:19,439 --> 01:13:22,479
Speaker 1: were maybe about seven or eight guys in there choosing

1273
01:13:22,520 --> 01:13:25,719
Speaker 1: flowers and getting help from the women in the counter

1274
01:13:25,800 --> 01:13:28,400
Speaker 1: and all that stuff. And it was only nine o'clock

1275
01:13:28,439 --> 01:13:31,479
Speaker 1: in the morning, and I'm thinking, oh, man, it was

1276
01:13:31,560 --> 01:13:35,080
Speaker 1: so nice to see that energy. Because when you have

1277
01:13:35,120 --> 01:13:38,040
Speaker 1: a day like Valentine's Day, it's a good day to

1278
01:13:38,640 --> 01:13:41,360
Speaker 1: get flowers, and it's a good day to give flowers

1279
01:13:42,160 --> 01:13:44,320
Speaker 1: to your spouse. And it made me feel good to

1280
01:13:44,360 --> 01:13:47,679
Speaker 1: get you flowers. So you're kind of my Valentine today.

1281
01:13:47,920 --> 01:13:48,479
Speaker 5: So nice.

1282
01:13:48,520 --> 01:13:52,080
Speaker 4: That was a really nice surprise. But that was the

1283
01:13:52,360 --> 01:13:55,559
Speaker 4: subject I thought maybe to expand on because I was

1284
01:13:55,640 --> 01:14:00,559
Speaker 4: married for eighteen years and then was unmarried but divorced

1285
01:14:00,720 --> 01:14:04,080
Speaker 4: back in two thousand and nine. But along the way

1286
01:14:04,320 --> 01:14:08,920
Speaker 4: and just with my husband now, Mark, I always try

1287
01:14:08,920 --> 01:14:14,680
Speaker 4: to have a creative approach to gift giving. Sometimes it's practical.

1288
01:14:15,240 --> 01:14:20,479
Speaker 4: We're leaving for a trip together to Acapulco, and so

1289
01:14:20,560 --> 01:14:24,560
Speaker 4: my gift to him was a gift bag full of sunscreen,

1290
01:14:27,400 --> 01:14:31,160
Speaker 4: you know, the face the bomb that has the sun screen,

1291
01:14:31,680 --> 01:14:34,880
Speaker 4: and I thought that and put a nice card in there,

1292
01:14:35,520 --> 01:14:38,680
Speaker 4: and he gave me this really amazing gift. It was

1293
01:14:39,360 --> 01:14:42,680
Speaker 4: a picture from our wedding and I guess you can

1294
01:14:42,720 --> 01:14:45,759
Speaker 4: get it made into almost looks like an oil painting.

1295
01:14:47,560 --> 01:14:51,400
Speaker 4: I'm sure it's something digital, but it looks like somebody

1296
01:14:51,439 --> 01:14:54,880
Speaker 4: hand painted the actual photo that he said, And then

1297
01:14:55,240 --> 01:14:56,400
Speaker 4: it was really cool.

1298
01:14:57,720 --> 01:14:58,639
Speaker 2: That you could.

1299
01:15:00,160 --> 01:15:02,760
Speaker 4: Be creative with And I think that shows a lot

1300
01:15:02,800 --> 01:15:08,040
Speaker 4: of you know, the attention or the gesture to someone.

1301
01:15:08,160 --> 01:15:14,240
Speaker 4: But my fundamental way to approach daily, and this might

1302
01:15:14,240 --> 01:15:16,720
Speaker 4: be a good advice for everybody married or has that,

1303
01:15:16,840 --> 01:15:20,320
Speaker 4: who has a boyfriend or girlfriend, is what can you

1304
01:15:20,479 --> 01:15:26,080
Speaker 4: do today to make the other person's day better? Yeah,

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Speaker 4: it can be it can be a gesture, it can

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Speaker 4: be a note, it can be a message.

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Speaker 6: It doesn't have to cost.

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Speaker 4: Anything, and it's easy to do. And I think you

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Speaker 4: had touched on that a little bit ago. The things

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Speaker 4: that you can do to you know, make make the

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Speaker 4: other person feel special.

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Speaker 1: Well, we get caught up in myself included, when you're

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Speaker 1: in a long term relationship, and I feel like twenty

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Speaker 1: years is a long time to be with some fifteenth

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Speaker 1: anything really after eight years is a pretty long time

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Speaker 1: to be in a relationship. Certainly we've had callers all

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Speaker 1: night thirty five forty years together. But you can get

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01:16:06,040 --> 01:16:10,720
Speaker 1: caught up easily in resentment and blame and judging and

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01:16:10,800 --> 01:16:14,120
Speaker 1: being in your head about something that maybe he didn't

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Speaker 1: do or she did wrong, or she this or that,

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Speaker 1: or revealed something at a dinner, whatever it is. And

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Speaker 1: then that's the stuff you give to your partner without

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01:16:25,160 --> 01:16:28,360
Speaker 1: even realizing, Hey, I haven't said anything nice to her

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Speaker 1: in a week.

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Speaker 2: I haven't I've just been the to do list.

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Speaker 1: It doesn't mean that you're not still working well together

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Speaker 1: as a couple, especially when you have kids and dogs

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Speaker 1: and pets and things like that. You may be working

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01:16:42,680 --> 01:16:46,880
Speaker 1: well together, but did you forget to say, hey, you

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Speaker 1: look beautiful last night at dinner, even with your sweatpants on,

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Speaker 1: you know? Or I love the story that you told

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Speaker 1: all right. I loved watching a movie with you just

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Speaker 1: sitting there. And if you get like this text from

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Speaker 1: your loved one, somebody you know, your closest ally, your partner,

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Speaker 1: that that person that it makes you feel safe and loved.

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Speaker 1: If you if you get those messages from them, how

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Speaker 1: meaningful is it?

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Speaker 2: Dia.

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Speaker 4: Oh, it's extremely meaningful. If it's coming from their heart,

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Speaker 4: it's sincere. And that's what I was going to also

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Speaker 4: mention about the is it LAT the acronyms.

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Speaker 1: For living, living apart together, last together?

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Speaker 6: Ye okay.

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Speaker 8: Yeah.

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Speaker 4: As long as the two individuals are honestly saying they

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Speaker 4: agree on and are okay with, and both of them

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Speaker 4: are honest about how they feel, then it should be

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Speaker 4: okay for some. But there might be a couple who

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01:17:48,320 --> 01:17:51,920
Speaker 4: one's not so sure about it, and that might cause

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Speaker 4: some problems.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: I mean, if you've got if you have several, like

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Speaker 1: the Thomas said, several cats, and you're you know, very overweight,

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01:18:02,640 --> 01:18:05,679
Speaker 1: and you have a CPAP and she's allergic, that might

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01:18:05,880 --> 01:18:08,120
Speaker 1: mean you might get your own residence.

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Speaker 2: That might be a reason to do that.

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Speaker 1: But if it's just like boredom, maybe maybe maybe not

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01:18:15,080 --> 01:18:18,439
Speaker 1: so much. But these couples are doing it, that's the

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01:18:18,520 --> 01:18:22,040
Speaker 1: majority are saying that they want to preserve the relationship.

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01:18:22,120 --> 01:18:24,760
Speaker 1: They just have been living with someone for too long

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01:18:24,760 --> 01:18:27,400
Speaker 1: that they want their own space and there's nothing wrong

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Speaker 1: with it. And so far a lot of people say

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Speaker 1: it is working. So it's not for everybody. That's for sure,

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01:18:34,680 --> 01:18:38,439
Speaker 1: but some couples maybe they maybe they like it. And

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Speaker 1: you know, as we would say, we're on the back nine.

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01:18:40,840 --> 01:18:43,840
Speaker 1: You got to do whatever's is going to make you

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01:18:43,920 --> 01:18:47,200
Speaker 1: feel happy and loved and loving and if you don't

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01:18:47,200 --> 01:18:49,280
Speaker 1: want to lose somebody, and that's the way to do it,

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Speaker 1: and that's the way to do it. Thank you, my

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01:18:51,680 --> 01:18:55,760
Speaker 1: friend for calling in. I really appreciate it. And yeah,

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Speaker 1: and I'll call you tomorrow. Thanks so much. I love

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Speaker 1: your advice too. Be kind, do little things, make somebody's

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Speaker 1: day better, do something and make someone's stay better.

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Speaker 2: I love it. Da thank you. Okay, Bobby.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it's raining out by the way, and it's going

1376
01:19:11,400 --> 01:19:12,880
Speaker 1: to be heavy at time, so make sure you.

1377
01:19:12,840 --> 01:19:16,759
Speaker 2: Give space on the road. Don't drive on top of somebody.

1378
01:19:16,800 --> 01:19:19,640
Speaker 1: Please give space because it's it's like gets slick on

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Speaker 1: the road. So I I really am so grateful to

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01:19:23,200 --> 01:19:28,320
Speaker 1: have this time to to communicate this. This relationship show

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01:19:28,600 --> 01:19:32,599
Speaker 1: is is so meaningful to me. I've spent thirty years

1382
01:19:32,640 --> 01:19:36,080
Speaker 1: of my life looking for searching for meaning.

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Speaker 2: What does it all mean?

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Speaker 1: And I've mentioned this several times. Tonight, I just I

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01:19:42,680 --> 01:19:45,960
Speaker 1: just realized I was working myself to death and I

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01:19:46,320 --> 01:19:51,559
Speaker 1: I just thought there was more to pay bills, and

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Speaker 1: and then and then.

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Speaker 2: Leaving this this earth.

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Speaker 1: It is the longest study in history, the Harvard study

1390
01:19:57,960 --> 01:20:01,240
Speaker 1: that followed human activity for years and years and years.

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01:20:01,240 --> 01:20:04,799
Speaker 2: They asked one question, what makes you happy?

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Speaker 1: And of course, at least no surprise to me, it

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01:20:08,120 --> 01:20:11,200
Speaker 1: was the strength of the relationships that you have. The

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01:20:11,240 --> 01:20:15,240
Speaker 1: stronger relationships in your life, the more passion, the more

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01:20:15,280 --> 01:20:19,360
Speaker 1: fulfilling your life will be. And it's never too late.

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01:20:20,360 --> 01:20:23,519
Speaker 1: It's never too late. Even if you haven't been that

1397
01:20:23,640 --> 01:20:27,360
Speaker 1: loving in your life and you don't know where to

1398
01:20:27,400 --> 01:20:32,400
Speaker 1: start to start creating healthy, loving relationships, maybe go to counseling,

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01:20:32,880 --> 01:20:35,639
Speaker 1: Maybe speak to the people in your life, ask them directly,

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01:20:36,000 --> 01:20:38,080
Speaker 1: what can I do to be a better friend, a

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01:20:38,080 --> 01:20:41,000
Speaker 1: better husband, a more loving brother or sister. The more

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01:20:41,080 --> 01:20:47,120
Speaker 1: you give, the more you understand what you're not giving.

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01:20:49,600 --> 01:20:54,599
Speaker 1: If you're lacking love in your life's a clear sign

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01:20:55,280 --> 01:20:58,400
Speaker 1: that you're not giving it. And it really can be

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01:20:58,479 --> 01:21:01,200
Speaker 1: as easy as just reaching out to the people that

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01:21:01,240 --> 01:21:03,960
Speaker 1: you love and saying what can I do better? It

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Speaker 1: is my time to get out of here tonight. I

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Speaker 1: am going to drive home. It's been a really fun show.

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Speaker 1: Thank you, for all my callers tonight. You made the

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Speaker 1: entire show, so thank you so much. Thanks Russ Jackson

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Speaker 1: for producing. We're going to be back next Saturday, and

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Speaker 1: Sterling and I I'll be on air Saturday afternoon. I

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Speaker 1: think it is, but we'll certainly post it. Thank you

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Speaker 1: so much. It's don A d seven hundred WLW, Cincinnati,