WEBVTT - She Had a Miscarriage 0:00:00.320 --> 0:00:03.160 All right, it is the mojo in the morning show here. 0:00:04.080 --> 0:00:07.480 Good to have you with us. Kevin, you actually found 0:00:07.520 --> 0:00:12.200 something out interesting. You found out that you were and 0:00:12.240 --> 0:00:14.880 I know in your family it's you and Melinda. Yeah, 0:00:14.920 --> 0:00:17.320 should I smuck a luckage? But you found out that 0:00:17.520 --> 0:00:21.680 mom almost had another baby? Is that right? 0:00:21.760 --> 0:00:21.960 Yeah? 0:00:22.000 --> 0:00:25.319 My mom had a miscarriage and it was something I 0:00:25.440 --> 0:00:28.600 never knew before. I don't know if she buried it 0:00:28.640 --> 0:00:30.880 away or if it was something that just happened before 0:00:30.920 --> 0:00:33.680 I was born and it just never came up. But 0:00:33.720 --> 0:00:35.479 it recently came up where she told me that she 0:00:35.560 --> 0:00:38.720 had a miscarriage and she was meant to have a 0:00:38.840 --> 0:00:43.000 child before she had me. And it just made me 0:00:43.040 --> 0:00:46.159 start thinking of how my entire life would have been different. 0:00:46.880 --> 0:00:49.160 First Off, who knows if I would have been born. 0:00:49.720 --> 0:00:52.120 I mean maybe they stopped after one, maybe the timing 0:00:52.120 --> 0:00:54.200 would have been different, maybe they would have waited longer, 0:00:54.320 --> 0:00:57.040 whatever the case may be. Or if they did have me, 0:00:57.520 --> 0:01:00.680 what would my life be like with an older or 0:01:00.880 --> 0:01:04.200 an older sister, And how much would that have affected me? 0:01:04.800 --> 0:01:06.480 I wouldn't be the person I am. And it just 0:01:06.480 --> 0:01:09.320 got me thinking, like damn, Like, first off, whyden' this 0:01:09.480 --> 0:01:12.959 ever come up in conversation and then just start, you know, 0:01:13.120 --> 0:01:15.080 not trying to think too much about what my life 0:01:15.080 --> 0:01:17.039 would be, but understanding that it could, you know, be 0:01:17.240 --> 0:01:18.520 very different than what it is now. 0:01:18.600 --> 0:01:19.880 How did it come out in conversation? 0:01:20.400 --> 0:01:22.200 I think we were looking through yearbooks my mom. She 0:01:22.360 --> 0:01:24.720 my mom has every not yearbooks, but like what do 0:01:24.720 --> 0:01:27.680 you call those things like extra albums? Photo albums? Like 0:01:27.720 --> 0:01:30.360 my mom has a ton of photo albums. She was 0:01:30.400 --> 0:01:33.200 the person that always took pictures. She takes pictures to 0:01:33.240 --> 0:01:35.319 this day, and she sends me a lot of these pictures. 0:01:35.680 --> 0:01:38.399 So we're looking through photo albums, she sends me stuff 0:01:38.400 --> 0:01:40.040 for looking through. I'm like, okay, what's this time? What's 0:01:40.040 --> 0:01:42.120 this time? We're kind of just reminiscing, and I think 0:01:42.160 --> 0:01:44.080 I forgot what picture of what the picture was that 0:01:44.160 --> 0:01:45.959 brought it up. We were just talking about the time, like, man, 0:01:45.959 --> 0:01:48.120 when was this? And then that's when it That's when 0:01:48.160 --> 0:01:48.600 she told me. 0:01:48.640 --> 0:01:52.280 I'm like, what, Yeah, I think that that would be 0:01:52.320 --> 0:01:54.920 something that your mom would not want to bring up 0:01:55.000 --> 0:01:58.640 because she just doesn't want to keep yeah, keep remembering it. 0:01:58.680 --> 0:02:01.720 But my mom also had me carriage too, and my 0:02:01.800 --> 0:02:05.760 sister one time told me that that my mom was 0:02:05.800 --> 0:02:08.720 going to have a baby before us. And it's interesting because, 0:02:09.160 --> 0:02:12.600 like you just said, you may not have happened although 0:02:12.639 --> 0:02:16.040 your mom did have three children. My mom, I wonder 0:02:16.080 --> 0:02:18.359 if she would have stopped, you know what I mean, 0:02:18.560 --> 0:02:20.360 Like I wonder if she would have stopped after the 0:02:20.800 --> 0:02:24.200 you know, but they ended up having another baby, which 0:02:24.240 --> 0:02:24.440 was me. 0:02:24.639 --> 0:02:27.040 Afterwards, How do you think you would it would have 0:02:27.160 --> 0:02:32.720 changed you personally if you did have a older sibling, Well, I. 0:02:32.680 --> 0:02:34.040 Think, you know, like my I don't know if you 0:02:34.040 --> 0:02:35.600 know this, but my dad went to jail when I 0:02:35.639 --> 0:02:37.520 was like in the third grade, like the eighth grade, 0:02:37.840 --> 0:02:41.080 so there wasn't a lot of I guess leadership so 0:02:41.120 --> 0:02:43.560 to speak. Like my mom and my grandmother were amazing leaders. 0:02:43.639 --> 0:02:47.200 But like, I don't know, I feel like I I 0:02:47.320 --> 0:02:49.600 had to step up in many aspects of my life. 0:02:50.040 --> 0:02:51.840 I'm not sure if I would have had to do 0:02:51.919 --> 0:02:54.640 that or who would I've had to look up to, 0:02:54.880 --> 0:02:56.440 you know what I mean? I would have had, so 0:02:56.520 --> 0:02:58.400 to speak, like it's snowing outside, maybe I would have 0:02:58.440 --> 0:03:00.840 had some footprints to walk game that would have made 0:03:00.840 --> 0:03:01.760 the road a bit easier. 0:03:02.760 --> 0:03:06.919 Interesting, would you have been as big a big mouth 0:03:07.000 --> 0:03:08.960 as you are right now, it would have been bigger. 0:03:09.639 --> 0:03:12.840 You never know, middle children, they usually are are more 0:03:13.040 --> 0:03:14.120 reserved than you are. 0:03:14.280 --> 0:03:15.000 I couldn't imagine. 0:03:15.639 --> 0:03:19.359 You're bold and brash and you're an oldest on that one. 0:03:19.400 --> 0:03:20.920 But I'll be interested to know how people found out 0:03:20.960 --> 0:03:23.239 they had a sibling though, Well how about people that 0:03:23.320 --> 0:03:25.600 found out that they had a yeah, sibling and their 0:03:25.600 --> 0:03:28.720 siblings still you know, is in the world too, Like 0:03:28.760 --> 0:03:31.519 I wonder, like that would be wild, Like I think 0:03:31.560 --> 0:03:33.880 when I hear those stories when some. 0:03:33.800 --> 0:03:36.000 People, do you know, do people still do twenty three 0:03:36.040 --> 0:03:37.520 and me? Or did you guys get wise to that 0:03:37.600 --> 0:03:39.000 and not give anybody your DNA? 0:03:39.560 --> 0:03:40.480 Is that still around you? 0:03:40.520 --> 0:03:40.840 I think so? 0:03:41.000 --> 0:03:43.360 Yeah, if they sold all the DNA, didn't they? I 0:03:43.400 --> 0:03:45.800 know that that was the thing. We were all dumb 0:03:45.840 --> 0:03:50.400 with our with our DNA. But I wonder for you 0:03:50.560 --> 0:03:53.440 when you look at up because I remember John Ivy, 0:03:53.440 --> 0:03:57.160 who's one of our big executives here and one of 0:03:57.160 --> 0:03:59.440 the smartest guys I've ever met in radio. I remember 0:03:59.480 --> 0:04:02.080 he found out that he had a sister. And while 0:04:02.080 --> 0:04:04.600 the thing was they lived in the same. 0:04:04.680 --> 0:04:08.880 Town, like John, John had moved from I think it 0:04:08.920 --> 0:04:12.160 was Nashville, or Lexington maybe I can't remember, some one 0:04:12.160 --> 0:04:17.440 of the southern cities or whatever. And he moved to 0:04:17.560 --> 0:04:20.839 LA was running things in LA, and he moved back 0:04:21.040 --> 0:04:23.520 to go to his old hometown or whatever and found 0:04:23.560 --> 0:04:25.679 out that she was still there. So that was pretty 0:04:25.680 --> 0:04:27.280 a while, Nicole, what's going on? 0:04:27.400 --> 0:04:32.400 Hi? Hi, I am the mom that had the miscarriage. 0:04:32.560 --> 0:04:35.280 And I'm not saying that. I'm saying boy had it. 0:04:36.080 --> 0:04:36.720 But I would not. 0:04:36.800 --> 0:04:38.000 Have my daughter, who. 0:04:37.880 --> 0:04:40.839 Is the same most awesome little girl if I had 0:04:41.240 --> 0:04:42.919 hadn't had that miscarriage. 0:04:42.920 --> 0:04:46.160 And I also have a child of a Heaven interceded 0:04:46.200 --> 0:04:47.160 for me and my children. 0:04:47.560 --> 0:04:48.400 Is very comfortable. 0:04:48.440 --> 0:04:50.599 Yeah, Nicole, do you mind me asking you a question 0:04:50.880 --> 0:04:52.200 about the miscarriage or no? 0:04:52.640 --> 0:04:52.960 Sure? 0:04:53.200 --> 0:04:55.080 Sure? How far along were you? 0:04:56.040 --> 0:04:56.200 Oh? 0:04:56.279 --> 0:04:58.680 I was really early. I was probably about eight weeks. Okay. 0:04:59.040 --> 0:05:02.880 My sister mayor Joe had a miscarriage almost at the 0:05:02.920 --> 0:05:03.599 time of birth. 0:05:03.839 --> 0:05:04.280 Oh my. 0:05:04.480 --> 0:05:07.800 And and that was uh And that was honestly one 0:05:07.839 --> 0:05:10.080 of the hardest things. And she actually the you know, 0:05:11.360 --> 0:05:14.000 her babies, you know, in a in a cemetery, and 0:05:14.040 --> 0:05:17.720 so it was such as it's so traumatic to think that, 0:05:18.000 --> 0:05:20.520 and it's wild because this woman has had so much 0:05:20.800 --> 0:05:23.279 trauma happening in her lives over the years. But that 0:05:23.440 --> 0:05:25.440 is one of those things where I thought it would 0:05:25.440 --> 0:05:28.039 cripple her, and it actually, you know, it's one of 0:05:28.040 --> 0:05:30.080 those things that made her stronger. She's a great mom, 0:05:30.279 --> 0:05:35.839 but that's that's such a tough thing to deal with. Samantha, Hello, 0:05:35.920 --> 0:05:37.920 good morning, good morning. What's going on? 0:05:38.960 --> 0:05:42.520 A little lighter note, My mom had sent her DNA 0:05:42.600 --> 0:05:45.640 and when she was five she was adopted out. 0:05:45.760 --> 0:05:46.880 So fifty years. 0:05:46.760 --> 0:05:50.480 Later she found two of her siblings plus her birth mother, 0:05:51.600 --> 0:05:54.520 and she got to reunite with her before she passed away. 0:05:54.680 --> 0:05:56.800 Oh my gosh, Wow. 0:05:56.680 --> 0:05:59.880 She found her and exactly two months later she passed away. 0:06:00.440 --> 0:06:02.160 Wow, that's actually was waiting for. 0:06:02.600 --> 0:06:03.840 Yeah, that is wild. 0:06:03.960 --> 0:06:06.800 Yeah, look in fifty years and then she finally found there. 0:06:07.040 --> 0:06:10.760 What a story, man, that's an amazing story. Uh, Kirsten, 0:06:10.839 --> 0:06:11.440 what's going on? 0:06:12.520 --> 0:06:14.880 Hey? So mine's a little sad too. But when I 0:06:14.960 --> 0:06:17.159 was younger, I knew my father wasn't my real dad. 0:06:17.200 --> 0:06:18.800 So I knew, you know, the man raised me, it 0:06:18.839 --> 0:06:21.320 wasn't my dad. So later on in life, when I 0:06:21.320 --> 0:06:24.320 was twenty seven, I actually was pregnant with my third child. 0:06:25.080 --> 0:06:27.920 I had a still birth at nine months pregnant, and 0:06:27.960 --> 0:06:32.120 it really it changed my world. Right, So, I was 0:06:32.160 --> 0:06:33.920 going through this huge thing and I just wanted to 0:06:33.960 --> 0:06:35.919 figure out, like maybe maybe there was something in my 0:06:35.920 --> 0:06:37.919 genetics that was wrong, you know, and I wanted to 0:06:37.960 --> 0:06:40.799 know more about my family. So I did ancestry DNA. 0:06:40.839 --> 0:06:43.800 I told my mom and a couple of weeks or 0:06:43.839 --> 0:06:45.400 a couple months later and I'll get the results back, 0:06:45.400 --> 0:06:48.640 and my mom called me right away. Hey, so and so, 0:06:48.720 --> 0:06:50.240 you know the guy I told you wasn't your dad, 0:06:50.320 --> 0:06:52.880 you know, was your dad your whole life. He's not 0:06:52.920 --> 0:06:55.680 your dad, and this is actually your dad. Also, he 0:06:55.800 --> 0:06:58.400 passed away when he was you were fifteen, and you 0:06:58.400 --> 0:07:00.599 went to school high school with your brother and I'm like, 0:07:02.160 --> 0:07:05.320 so I go to find it out, and lo and behold, 0:07:05.520 --> 0:07:09.640 my cousin was best friends with my two brothers, and 0:07:09.640 --> 0:07:12.160 they used to hang out all the time, and it 0:07:12.280 --> 0:07:14.480 was just I knew of them. I just never met them, 0:07:14.520 --> 0:07:15.960 you know. I always hung out with my cousin when 0:07:16.400 --> 0:07:17.160 he wasn't with them. 0:07:17.400 --> 0:07:21.040 So finding my brothers when you called you, she was 0:07:21.080 --> 0:07:23.440 trying to call you before it came out from the ancestry. 0:07:23.520 --> 0:07:25.760 Oh yes, yeah, she had my I gave her my 0:07:25.920 --> 0:07:28.880 password and everything, and she she knew. So I have 0:07:28.960 --> 0:07:32.840 a feeling she probably knew ahead of time. A chance, 0:07:32.920 --> 0:07:36.240 but you know, she was really, I don't know how 0:07:36.280 --> 0:07:38.920 to say it, sad about it, you know, anxiety. She 0:07:38.960 --> 0:07:40.640 went through a lot of stuff when she was younger too, 0:07:40.880 --> 0:07:42.560 and I finally had to tell her like, Mom, you know, 0:07:43.520 --> 0:07:45.480 it's it's a long time ago, you know, don't worry 0:07:45.480 --> 0:07:48.080 about it. It is what it is. I'm glad, you know 0:07:48.240 --> 0:07:50.200 nothing happened. It would have been nice to know, you know. 0:07:50.160 --> 0:07:53.800 But what if your brother did. 0:07:53.880 --> 0:08:00.400 I I thought it was crazy, which is one of 0:08:00.440 --> 0:08:03.520 my best friends was best he's still best friends with them, 0:08:03.520 --> 0:08:05.960 and I'm like, what, like, even I've met my brothers 0:08:05.960 --> 0:08:07.920 now we've kind of pashed it all out, kind of 0:08:07.920 --> 0:08:09.240 told him everything, and they were like, yeah, that was 0:08:09.240 --> 0:08:09.760 a close call. 0:08:09.800 --> 0:08:13.880 And I'm like, oh, yeah, wow, I actually. 0:08:13.520 --> 0:08:16.800 Have I actually have six brothers. And then I found 0:08:16.840 --> 0:08:20.240 out they have I have twelve ants and uncles. Oh 0:08:20.280 --> 0:08:23.480 my god, I have twelve uncles and one ant. Holy 0:08:23.520 --> 0:08:25.440 ca So I mean so I guess thirteen total. 0:08:26.120 --> 0:08:26.320 Dad. 0:08:26.400 --> 0:08:28.840 Thanksgiving, it was very difficult at that table that you 0:08:28.920 --> 0:08:32.760 have I can't imagine that that you went to school 0:08:32.760 --> 0:08:35.320 with your your brothers. Nikki, what's up? 0:08:36.559 --> 0:08:36.679 Hi? 0:08:36.760 --> 0:08:40.840 Good morning. So I'll try to make this as quick 0:08:40.840 --> 0:08:43.200 as I can. But I was around twelve years old 0:08:44.200 --> 0:08:47.160 and going through my dad's wallet, like the pictures of 0:08:47.200 --> 0:08:49.719 us when we were like little or whatever, and came 0:08:49.760 --> 0:08:52.040 across like a picture underneath the picture and it was. 0:08:52.080 --> 0:08:55.480 Some girl and I asked my dad, I said, who 0:08:55.559 --> 0:08:56.000 is this. 0:08:56.160 --> 0:08:58.840 And he just kind of looked down and looked like, uh, 0:08:58.960 --> 0:09:02.679 that's just sipped her. And I'm like what He's like, Yeah, 0:09:02.720 --> 0:09:04.000 I had it before I met your mom. 0:09:04.040 --> 0:09:04.959 Blah blah blah. 0:09:05.080 --> 0:09:08.160 Long story short, Like I said, I grow up, I 0:09:08.200 --> 0:09:10.920 have my first child, cut my own family. I go back, 0:09:11.040 --> 0:09:13.200 you know Olin Mills. I had my son's first pictures 0:09:13.320 --> 0:09:15.840 done there. Once it came out to go pick up 0:09:15.880 --> 0:09:17.760 my Olin Mills pictures of my son, and they hold 0:09:17.760 --> 0:09:20.280 me a packet of some little girls pictures and I 0:09:20.360 --> 0:09:22.320 was like, oh, no, this isn't mine, and they're like 0:09:22.440 --> 0:09:24.760 they repeated my last name and I was like, yeah, 0:09:24.760 --> 0:09:26.280 that's my last name, but these aren't mine. I have 0:09:26.320 --> 0:09:28.560 a little boy. And she was like, oh you're not. 0:09:28.920 --> 0:09:30.160 I'm not going to say her name in case she 0:09:30.280 --> 0:09:33.760 was because it's awkward. But she's like, that's not and 0:09:33.800 --> 0:09:36.600 I was like, oh my god, that's my sister. I'm like, 0:09:36.640 --> 0:09:39.640 hold on a minute, and I'm like, can I please 0:09:39.679 --> 0:09:43.000 get her informationally? Like no, I can get fix trouble anyway. 0:09:43.360 --> 0:09:46.400 I like begged it, begged and begged, and she ended 0:09:46.480 --> 0:09:49.040 up like studying the information down in front of me 0:09:49.200 --> 0:09:51.679 and then like walked away. 0:09:51.080 --> 0:09:51.320 Yeah. 0:09:51.880 --> 0:09:54.560 I was like, thank you grabbed the number. I reached 0:09:54.600 --> 0:09:57.960 out to my set sister. She said she knew about me, 0:09:58.200 --> 0:09:59.640 my brother, my sister, my dad. 0:09:59.760 --> 0:10:01.640 She I grew up in like a park. She grew 0:10:01.760 --> 0:10:04.800 up in Taylor, so literally like neighbors. You guys were 0:10:04.800 --> 0:10:06.120 cruising Eureka next to each other. 0:10:06.320 --> 0:10:10.400 That is exactly, Oh my god, at the same place. 0:10:10.760 --> 0:10:11.720 That is so crazy. 0:10:11.760 --> 0:10:15.680 After we're going to her and I just left it 0:10:15.720 --> 0:10:17.440 open for her to reach back out because. 0:10:17.240 --> 0:10:19.959 I felt like she was the one who was abandoned, 0:10:20.160 --> 0:10:20.920 you know what I mean, Like. 0:10:20.920 --> 0:10:23.480 I didn't want to be pushy and she never back. 0:10:23.360 --> 0:10:26.040 Out, but that's fine, but whatever. Yeah, So, yeah, I 0:10:26.040 --> 0:10:27.560 have a sister, and I talked to my cousins about 0:10:27.600 --> 0:10:29.480 it that were her age and they're like, yeah, we 0:10:29.520 --> 0:10:31.240 went to school with her. I'm like, nobody told me, 0:10:31.520 --> 0:10:32.480 Oh my god. 0:10:32.720 --> 0:10:34.800 That's wild though, that your dad carried the picture all 0:10:34.840 --> 0:10:36.920 around and took just looking at that picture for you 0:10:37.000 --> 0:10:41.080 to realize what was going on. John, what's up? 0:10:42.240 --> 0:10:44.760 Good morning, Mojo, Hi, first time, long time. 0:10:47.559 --> 0:10:49.360 Big jay. 0:10:49.640 --> 0:10:49.960 Uh. 0:10:49.960 --> 0:10:53.720 So, fourteen wonderful years ago, we were told that we 0:10:53.720 --> 0:10:55.440 were going to have a miscarriage and we had to 0:10:55.480 --> 0:10:56.199 come back for. 0:10:56.200 --> 0:10:59.800 The evac and when we went back, we found. 0:10:59.559 --> 0:11:02.680 Out that there was another baby there, my daughter, Nala, 0:11:03.240 --> 0:11:05.960 we believe you know. Sometimes she's sweet and sour, so 0:11:06.559 --> 0:11:08.320 when you're speaking to her, you're like looking at her 0:11:08.320 --> 0:11:10.520 like man, am I talking to your sister, am I 0:11:10.559 --> 0:11:12.520 talking to you. But we had we had twins and 0:11:12.559 --> 0:11:15.160 we didn't know it, but we lost one. 0:11:15.440 --> 0:11:19.280 So what that is wild? So one survived and that's Nala, 0:11:19.360 --> 0:11:23.440 who's with us right now. And what do you what 0:11:23.520 --> 0:11:24.600 happens in that case? 0:11:24.800 --> 0:11:24.920 Uh? 0:11:25.160 --> 0:11:26.840 Do you have to wait then until the birth of 0:11:26.960 --> 0:11:29.000 Nalah for anything? 0:11:29.080 --> 0:11:31.680 Or what they said that they said that she absorbed her. 0:11:31.920 --> 0:11:36.040 That basically that's wild. They became one. 0:11:36.920 --> 0:11:37.680 That's amazing. 0:11:37.720 --> 0:11:38.120 It happened. 0:11:38.160 --> 0:11:42.079 It happened so early one early on in the pregnancy 0:11:42.200 --> 0:11:44.360 that they just they said, she just absorbed her. 0:11:44.559 --> 0:11:46.320 That's so really like sweet and sour. 0:11:46.440 --> 0:11:49.559 You joke about that, but yeah, that's kind of technically true. 0:11:50.520 --> 0:11:51.560 I believe man. 0:11:52.520 --> 0:11:54.840 That is an amazing story. Thank you for the call, Buddy, 0:11:54.880 --> 0:11:56.199 appreciate it. Thanks for sharing that with you. 0:11:56.480 --> 0:11:59.839 All right, join in the morning show to your appreciations 0:12:00.080 --> 0:12:03.480 on our free iHeartRadio app and never miss the show.