WEBVTT - Was Brian Reading the Signs Wrong with Chloe?

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<v Speaker 1>It's Marcus in the morning. We are doing second date

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<v Speaker 1>update right now. If you go on a date and

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<v Speaker 1>you feel like you're getting ghosted, I will call your

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<v Speaker 1>date and just try to figure some things out. Let's

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<v Speaker 1>go ahead and get started. Let's bring Brian on the call.

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<v Speaker 1>Good morning, Brian, morning. Hey dude, let's talk about your date.

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<v Speaker 1>Tell me about Chloe. Well, Chloe was great.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, we met for coffee and Walnut Creek. We

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<v Speaker 2>had a good conversation, it was flowing, the bogs were there.

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<v Speaker 2>It was just a really good first date and I

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<v Speaker 2>just felt like it nailed it, you know.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, So what has happened since the date?

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<v Speaker 2>Well, you know, I thought, like, like I said, that

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<v Speaker 2>there was a good enough connection to ask her out again.

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<v Speaker 2>But you know, when I did after the date, she

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<v Speaker 2>just never responded. She totally ghosted me.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, I would love to get you a second date, obviously,

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<v Speaker 1>but let's try to get you some answers. Did anything

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<v Speaker 1>weird happen? I've started asking recently just because people leave

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<v Speaker 1>stuff out.

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<v Speaker 2>We were there, it was a coffee date and we

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<v Speaker 2>were just talking back and.

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<v Speaker 1>Forth with coffee.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't feel like anything weird.

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<v Speaker 1>Happened about to make that phone call. We're going to

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<v Speaker 1>call his date Chloe and try to figure out why

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<v Speaker 1>she ghosted after there. It was a coffee date. What

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<v Speaker 1>could possibly go wrong? Brian? Go ahead and meet your phone.

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<v Speaker 1>Let's give her a call. Go ahead and listen in

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<v Speaker 1>all right, here we go.

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<v Speaker 3>Hello.

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<v Speaker 1>Hi, is this Chloe?

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<v Speaker 2>Yes?

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<v Speaker 3>Who's calling Chloe?

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<v Speaker 1>It's Marcus calling from Star one on one three. Good morning,

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<v Speaker 1>Good morning.

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<v Speaker 3>How are you good?

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<v Speaker 1>Do you listen in the morning to the show?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah? I do, I do listen.

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<v Speaker 1>Fantastic. We're doing second date update right now. Does that

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<v Speaker 1>mean anything to you?

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<v Speaker 3>Yes? It does? Okay, Yeah, so you're calling about Brian.

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<v Speaker 1>I am, and he probably on the phone at the

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<v Speaker 1>same time.

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<v Speaker 3>Brian I was assuming so.

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<v Speaker 1>Bridy there. Yeah, all right, yeah, let's do this, you guys.

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<v Speaker 1>This should be easy. Hey, Chloe, did you did you

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<v Speaker 1>go start our guy here after your date?

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<v Speaker 3>I mean yeah, but I have a good reason, Like, okay,

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<v Speaker 3>dating is so weird because you never know if someone

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<v Speaker 3>is just weird in some way, Like I thought, he

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<v Speaker 3>was perfectly nice, he was cute, he has a good job, whatever,

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<v Speaker 3>and he admitted that he practices handshakes every day, not

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<v Speaker 3>just one, but several types of handshakes.

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<v Speaker 1>Like hand like actual handshakes yeh.

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<v Speaker 3>Like he has a networking handshake or wedding handshake, a

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<v Speaker 3>job interview handshake, and then what he calls his high

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<v Speaker 3>value first impression handshake. I mean, don't you think that

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<v Speaker 3>sounds weird? I thought he was joking.

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<v Speaker 1>That sounds like a ted talk or something. Was it

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<v Speaker 1>what I learned?

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<v Speaker 3>Brian?

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<v Speaker 1>Are you serious with this?

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, yeah, I don't feel like that's the super

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<v Speaker 2>weird thing. We all meet people every day. We all

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<v Speaker 2>have handshakes when we meet people, especially new people in

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<v Speaker 2>person impressions or everything.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, but this is a little obsessive. You know. He

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<v Speaker 3>made me try the handshake again during dinner, like halfway

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<v Speaker 3>through the date. I was like, try what he said,

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<v Speaker 3>I want to try our handshake again. And he demonstrated

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<v Speaker 3>the proper grip and said that the web of your

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<v Speaker 3>thumb should touch each other first and that communicate confidence.

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<v Speaker 3>And he told me to squeeze about ten percent. Firmer,

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<v Speaker 3>I mean, does this sound for real? It's so weird?

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<v Speaker 1>Brian? What is this about?

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<v Speaker 2>Well? I felt like her handshake could use a little work,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, I mean it was fine, but I was

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<v Speaker 2>just trying to coach her. You know, that's honestly ultimately

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<v Speaker 2>what I want to do. You know, I want to

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<v Speaker 2>get into coaching. Do talk, so you know, I've been

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<v Speaker 2>practicing doing handshakes like you said, I do practice every day,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, different types of handshakes depending on the top.

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<v Speaker 3>On your date, on your date. I wasn't applying for

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<v Speaker 3>a management position. I was just trying to like drink

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<v Speaker 3>my latte. You know, Like if you're all about first impressions,

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<v Speaker 3>that's fine. You don't teach your date how to shake hands.

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<v Speaker 3>It's not very romantic either. Do you get that well?

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<v Speaker 2>I mean I wasn't trying to be romantic. I mean,

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<v Speaker 2>I mean I didn't think you did a bad first impression.

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<v Speaker 1>I just felt like you.

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<v Speaker 2>Would enjoy learning about how to improve it.

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<v Speaker 1>Ran you're on a date, Like how, Brian, are we

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<v Speaker 1>on a date or is this one on one coaching? Like?

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<v Speaker 1>How are you not trying to get romantic on a date?

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<v Speaker 2>No? I mean like I was just trying to get

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<v Speaker 2>along and tell her something that could benefit her life, like,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, especially on just a first date. Like I'm

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<v Speaker 2>not saying she made a bad first impression. If I'm

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<v Speaker 2>meeting someone, I love feedback that allowed me to grow

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<v Speaker 2>and improve and.

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<v Speaker 1>To that you're literally for that.

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<v Speaker 3>I did not need advanced handshake theory training in a date.

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<v Speaker 3>This is weird. You need to understand that different settings

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<v Speaker 3>are for different things. Like this is not the way

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<v Speaker 3>you're going to get dates, right.

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<v Speaker 2>See. I feel like most people really don't understand how

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<v Speaker 2>important body language is and how much a weak handshake

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<v Speaker 2>can tell.

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<v Speaker 3>It's not really appropriate to teach your female date about

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<v Speaker 3>handshakes and give that kind of feedback.

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<v Speaker 1>It's weird, right you guys, Hey, you guys, Hey, hang on,

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<v Speaker 1>hang on you too, hang on hey Chloe. Yeah, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>going to go ahead and go ahead and let him go.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, good, thank you. You see what I'm talking about.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, I'm so sorry. Thank you for listening. Every morning.

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<v Speaker 1>I'll take care of you. Don't need to date whatever

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<v Speaker 1>that was. Hang on for me, bro wow okay uh.

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<v Speaker 1>Second date update