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Speaker 1: All right, Hi, is Aisa Fox with you on our

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Speaker 1: first iHeart So cal show of the new year.

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Speaker 2: And what do we have the perfectest and topic for

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Speaker 2: us to focus on.

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Speaker 1: If you've been struggling to get things done or meet

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Speaker 1: your goals in the past, the problem isn't that you're

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Speaker 1: not trying hard enough, it's that you're only trying.

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Speaker 2: In the first place.

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Speaker 1: There's a new book that's going to help us stop trying,

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Speaker 1: the life transforming power of trying less and doing more. Oh,

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Speaker 1: it's the change we all need people to kick off

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Speaker 1: the new year, right, So let's go on to tell

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Speaker 1: us how we can seriously kick some serious you know

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Speaker 1: what and congress and major goals this year. Is the

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Speaker 1: author and my friend Carla andros Carla.

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Speaker 3: Happy New Year, High Lisa, Happy New Year.

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Speaker 2: So excited, so excited to have you on to kick

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Speaker 2: off the new year.

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Speaker 1: And since I had you on the show last September,

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Speaker 1: you got me so fired up on this thing. And

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Speaker 1: I know it's a simple concept, but once you really

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Speaker 1: harness it, you're going to free up so much potentially

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Speaker 1: wasted time in your brain and in your life. You know,

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Speaker 1: just needed to right then and there. If you catch

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Speaker 1: yourself saying the word tried it, say no, no, no, Let

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Speaker 1: me just decide yes or no if I'm going to

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Speaker 1: do this, yes or no. And especially if you know,

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Speaker 1: if Eric is in the room, my honey, Eric, and

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Speaker 1: the T word comes up, he'll.

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Speaker 2: Call me out. I'll call him out, or like no, no, no,

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Speaker 2: no no. In honor of Carla.

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Speaker 1: And Carla's new book, and in honor of actually changing

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Speaker 1: and getting more things done, put a quarter in the

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Speaker 1: try jar and make a decision right then and there

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Speaker 1: if you're going to do it, yes or no.

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Speaker 3: Oh. It's so great to have a partner to call

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Speaker 3: you out. It's awesome.

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Speaker 1: It is like keeps us both accountable. So it's a

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Speaker 1: good thing. But I just gotta say, it's been very

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Speaker 1: empowering you planting the seed this way of thinking, trying

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Speaker 1: to change that language in our brains, and actually getting

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Speaker 1: more things accomplished, getting more things done. I mean, that's

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Speaker 1: been our reaction since embracing this whole thing, since you

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Speaker 1: put your book out. What reactions are you seen?

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Speaker 3: It's been amazing. It debuted, I was number one on

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Speaker 3: a lot of the Amazon you know things, and I've

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Speaker 3: been asked to speak so much this year, and it

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Speaker 3: just keeps going. And that means I get to share

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Speaker 3: this message and help so many people to achieve all

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Speaker 3: their goals that they want. So it's been a great ride.

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Speaker 3: It's been a lot of fun.

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Speaker 1: And right on Amazon, where your book is available, Stop

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Speaker 1: Trying the life transforming power of trying less and doing more,

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Speaker 1: just some time for the new year. I love this

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Speaker 1: this quote of many quote endorsements writer on Amazon about

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Speaker 1: your book from so many fun people, including one of

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Speaker 1: my favorites and inspirational, very inspirational, Meil Robbins. She's a

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Speaker 1: best selling author and the host of the Mail Robins podcast.

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Speaker 2: She's all over.

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Speaker 1: Social media and I reshare her inspirational tidbits on social

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Speaker 1: all the time.

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Speaker 2: She says this about your book. Lots of books.

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Speaker 1: Promise change, but the book Stop Trying is the change.

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Speaker 1: Carla Andressic gives you one simple, yet insanely powerful tool

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Speaker 1: that'll flip your life into high gear. If you're ready

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Speaker 2: This book shows you exactly how to do it. Oh

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Speaker 2: so good.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, it's a great endorsement and She's right there. Really,

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Speaker 3: this is a really powerful message that gets you from

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Speaker 1: So your goal to write this book is to change

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Speaker 1: the mindset of people who say I'll try, I'll try,

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Speaker 1: And again based on your real life examples of doing

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Speaker 1: Like, why do we say try, I'm gonna try this,

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Speaker 3: That you are willing to do Okay, that you're willing

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Speaker 1: So. In addition to your book, Stop Trying, the life

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Speaker 1: Once again, your book Stop Trying, the life transforming power

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Speaker 3: Are it's stop dash trying dot com so boom, stop

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Speaker 2: Let's make it the year and buy the book.

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Speaker 3: Buy the book on Amazon or anywhere books are sold.

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Speaker 3: That's going to be the greatest gift you can give yourself,

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Speaker 2: Here we go. Thank you, Carla. Happy New Year, You're amazing.

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