Speaker 1: All right, it is Mojo in the morning.
Speaker 2: We got a break in and entering Christmas wish coming
Speaker 2: up here in just a couple of minutes. Friday got
Speaker 2: faced with a little dilemma. It's like a moral dilemma,
Speaker 2: and I want to ask the listeners, what would you
Speaker 2: have done if you were me? Okay, let me explain
Speaker 2: this situation and you tell me what your thoughts are
Speaker 2: on this. So this weekend, Chelsea and I were going
Speaker 2: to go to Chicago to visit our son Jacob and
Speaker 2: his boyfriend Chris, and we were taking them as part
Speaker 2: of their Christmas gift to go see the Broadway musical Six,
Speaker 2: which I've heard it so good. I had no idea
Speaker 2: what it was about until I went in there, and
Speaker 2: then I was there and I'm going this.
Speaker 1: Hag so bad. I actually kind of liked it. I'll
Speaker 1: explain that in a second.
Speaker 2: So Chelsea and Jacob had been wanting to go see it,
Speaker 2: and it was something that they both wanted to do together,
Speaker 2: and then they let the two people in the relationship
Speaker 2: with them, myself and Chris, be part of it and
Speaker 2: to be part of a Christmas gift. We're gonna do
Speaker 2: dinner and all this stuff. Well, Friday morning, during the show,
Speaker 2: Chelsea sends me a text message at about maybe like
Speaker 2: six forty five. I am, hold on, let me read
Speaker 2: the extual thing here, because it's you got to almost
Speaker 2: hear the hair, the whole thing. Uh.
Speaker 1: She sends me back, look.
Speaker 2: At this one. Stop texting me. Hold on a second, No,
Speaker 2: some amazing Why are you bother me? Oh no, that's
Speaker 2: not that one. Aren't there?
Speaker 1: Uh? Friday? Where's Fridays Friday? Oh? Here you go.
Speaker 2: I am so sick. I have the worst sore throat,
Speaker 2: horrible headache and body aches. And I said, o f
Speaker 2: And I said, do you want to cancel? She says,
Speaker 2: I feel like I got hit by a truck. I
Speaker 2: am so sad. This is all I wanted to do
Speaker 2: with Jacob, and I do not want to get him
Speaker 2: sick before we're spending Christmas together. I really want him
Speaker 2: to come to Florida. So she sends me this text
Speaker 2: and I said, well, what do you want to do?
Speaker 2: She doesn't answer me, so I call her and this
Speaker 2: is where I asked the listeners. Okay, I got to
Speaker 2: be a good husband here. I got her very sick
Speaker 2: wife at home, But I also have my son and
Speaker 2: his boyfriend in a hotel room waiting in Chicago. So
Speaker 2: I say to myself, well, what I'm going to do
Speaker 2: is I'm gonna call Jacob and I'm going to see
Speaker 2: what Jacob's response is to his mom's being sick, and
Speaker 2: then say, yeah, you know, I know she feels horrible
Speaker 2: because Chelsea was like really really sad.
Speaker 1: She could hardly talk. She blames Kevin by the way, first,
Speaker 1: did you text her? Yeah? I text her.
Speaker 3: She texts me and asks me, when you got sick?
Speaker 3: What did it start with? And I could tell by
Speaker 3: the lining of questioning that it was a reason.
Speaker 4: For it, and her symptoms were so.
Speaker 3: I think her started with her throw hurting or started
Speaker 3: with a headache, and then it went down knows and
Speaker 3: then throwers.
Speaker 2: Okay, so will you guys making out a jacoballs? So
Speaker 2: I called Jacob up and he doesn't answer. So I
Speaker 2: text him and said, because he's you know, he's uh,
Speaker 2: Jacob's a psychologist, so he was in with patients. I said, hey,
Speaker 2: call me when you get a chance. He calls me
Speaker 2: right back. Within like ten or fifteen minutes. He says
Speaker 2: everything okay, And I said, actually, mom is really really sick.
Speaker 2: Everything's gonna be okay. She's just got you know, sore
Speaker 2: throat and stuff like that. He's like, oh man, he
Speaker 2: was like you he was bummed, and he said, but
Speaker 2: you know, just you know, tell her, don't worry about it.
Speaker 2: Whatever the deal is, I said, let me ask you.
Speaker 2: Would you be okay if I still came. He got
Speaker 2: really excited. And Jacob and I do not have the
Speaker 2: relationship that Chelsea and Jacob have. Chelsea and Jacob's relationship
Speaker 2: is like they are in you know, is it a
Speaker 2: sympatico you know what I mean? Like they are like
Speaker 2: literally like how Kevin is with Josiah, how you are
Speaker 2: with Lucy? How I am with Joe, you know, and
Speaker 2: Luke we kind of you kind of have your your
Speaker 2: kids that you're really close with. And he was he
Speaker 2: seemed really excited. He goes, oh my god, that would
Speaker 2: be so great. He goes, that would be cool, Chris,
Speaker 2: and I will hang with you. And I'm like, okay,
Speaker 2: And I was excited about that, but then I hung
Speaker 2: up the phone and I go, I really feel like
Speaker 2: I'm being a dick husband, because here she is, she
Speaker 2: just got over being really really sick and then now
Speaker 2: she's sick with this and I'm leaving her. I'm going
Speaker 2: out of town. She's got to take care of the dogs,
Speaker 2: you know, which the dogs are a holes, you know,
Speaker 2: why couldn't they be sick? And so we're going, so
Speaker 2: going through this whole thing. So I kept asking her,
Speaker 2: Am I okay? Am I okay? And she's like, yes,
Speaker 2: go go go, So I go. And then I thought
Speaker 2: to myself the whole weekend, I'm like, oh, I don't
Speaker 2: think she's happy with me, you know, but I think
Speaker 2: you heard I don't think she's happy with me? Was
Speaker 2: I was also calling her every five minutes because I
Speaker 2: had guilt over the fact. I was did I do
Speaker 2: wrong by going? Or should I have stayed with Chelsea
Speaker 2: and just ate the hotel room for the night and
Speaker 2: just gave Jacob the tickets to go with Chris and
Speaker 2: one of his friends.
Speaker 1: Thank you, one million percent, without question, made the right decision,
Speaker 1: you think, so, yes, And by the.
Speaker 5: Way, when you're sick, you want to be by like
Speaker 5: at least me, I want to be by myself because
Speaker 5: all I'm gonna do is sleep.
Speaker 1: I don't know, I don't know.
Speaker 5: And you had a great weekend with Jacob.
Speaker 1: I did have a great weekend with Jacob.
Speaker 4: I think you made the right decision. But I do
Speaker 4: know from what I've heard about people in relationships that
Speaker 4: are getting therapy, they keep telling me that you're supposed
Speaker 4: to make your spouse like priority.
Speaker 5: Yes, priority, get out of the house, so I can't
Speaker 5: just rest.
Speaker 2: Kevin was shaking his head over there, guys answering what
Speaker 2: do you think was Chelsea alone?
Speaker 1: Chelsea had Luke at home. Okay.
Speaker 3: The only reason I say you're not an AO, and
Speaker 3: it's very tough for me to say that, is because
Speaker 3: Jacob really wanted you to go. Yeah, if Jacob had
Speaker 3: to said you know what, Dad, No, it's okay, moms,
Speaker 3: and you were just like, no, I understand this is
Speaker 3: important and you went, I'd be like, yeah, you come.
Speaker 2: And honestly, that's how I felt like. If Jacob would
Speaker 2: have done that, I would have not gone, because honestly,
Speaker 2: I didn't want to drive eight you know, basically, it's
Speaker 2: nine hours of driving, it's four and a half hours
Speaker 2: therefore and a half hours back.
Speaker 5: And it ended up being right.
Speaker 2: But I but I will tell you it was really
Speaker 2: fun to be able to just be me and I
Speaker 2: and try to be more present. But also we spent
Speaker 2: the day together on Saturday, just kind of hanging it
Speaker 2: at Jake's uh and Chris's condo that they live in,
Speaker 2: and I don't ever get to go over there, Like
Speaker 2: I'm never really.
Speaker 5: There as a mom, like I love. I would love
Speaker 5: the idea of like dad getting to spend quality time
Speaker 5: with one of them. And I think that's really really important.
Speaker 2: And I will say this, in our relationship, mine and Jacob's,
Speaker 2: it would not be anything if it wasn't for Chelsea
Speaker 2: when Jacob was younger, saying to me, you need to
Speaker 2: find something that you can have with him, and for
Speaker 2: us it's always been like scary movies. This was pretty
Speaker 2: wild to go see, although Jacob was upset because he
Speaker 2: said that I was looking at my phone NonStop.
Speaker 1: During the during a musical.
Speaker 2: During the musical, I didn't I didn't have it on
Speaker 2: or anything like that, but I was looking at it
Speaker 2: to see what the time was.
Speaker 1: What's up, Sarah? How you doing good? How are you good?
Speaker 1: Did did I do wrong? Or what do you think?
Speaker 1: Am I the a hole? As Kevin says, You're not.
Speaker 6: The a hole. I think the fact that you feel
Speaker 6: like you're an a hole. Says enough that you're not
Speaker 6: an a hole and speaks to the fact that you're
Speaker 6: a good husband. You asked Chelsea over and over again
Speaker 6: if it was okay, you were considerate of her, and
Speaker 6: the fact that you feel so guilty about it, I
Speaker 6: just think shows that you're a good husband, because there's
Speaker 6: a lot of guys that would just go not even
Speaker 6: I don't know.
Speaker 1: I don't know.
Speaker 2: I think the fact that I feel guilty about it is
Speaker 2: the fact that I've done wrong a lot in this relationship,
Speaker 2: you know what I mean, Like I have not chosen
Speaker 2: Chelsea to be the priority in a lot of our relationship,
Speaker 2: and I feel like this could be considered one of
Speaker 2: those same times, and I, you know, that was like
Speaker 2: my biggest thing. And then the other thing too, is
Speaker 2: I didn't want it to become Sarah one of those
Speaker 2: things where it was like, oh good, we're not going,
Speaker 2: and then it makes it look like I don't care
Speaker 2: about Jacob, like I wanted to make the effort to
Speaker 2: go so that.
Speaker 6: Do you think Chelsea would speak up and tell you
Speaker 6: though if she was upset about it?
Speaker 2: Yeah, now she would, I think after this whole thing,
Speaker 2: but I do really think. I think she would have
Speaker 2: told me ahead of time and she didn't want me
Speaker 2: to go. Now, I will say this, she did say
Speaker 2: that the dogs were total pain in the ass. And
Speaker 2: why didn't Luke belp with the dogs? Well, I think
Speaker 2: Chelsea didn't want Luke to get sick, so she was
Speaker 2: staying away from Luke.
Speaker 1: But it is true though Luke should have helped you
Speaker 1: a little bit. I think, Marcia, what's up?
Speaker 7: You know what? Sometimes things happened.
Speaker 6: I think your wife gets sick only.
Speaker 7: So you can spend time with your son and Chicago.
Speaker 2: Marcia think, Marcia, you know what? Thank you for saying that,
Speaker 2: because honestly, it was a really cool weekend. We had
Speaker 2: really an awesome time.
Speaker 6: Okay, one thing, it would have been great if you
Speaker 6: had got the dog, got them a whole hotel, whatever
Speaker 6: you do with your dog.
Speaker 2: If I if I euthanized them, I should have euthanized them.
Speaker 1: This would be the reason to put them down. I
Speaker 1: should have.
Speaker 6: My heart.
Speaker 1: I should have put him down. What's up, Mike? How
Speaker 1: you doing I'm doing fine?
Speaker 7: Thank you?
Speaker 1: How are you doing good? Mike? This has turned into
Speaker 1: a version of am I the a hole that was
Speaker 1: just the a whole move. But what are you serious?
Speaker 1: Speak on it?
Speaker 7: Mike?
Speaker 1: Do you think I'm an a hole for what I did?
Speaker 1: I love you guys.
Speaker 7: You know.
Speaker 1: You gotta stick with your wife. Sorry, m m M, Mike.
Speaker 1: You don't happen to be a guy trying to hit
Speaker 1: on my wife, are you?
Speaker 7: No?
Speaker 1: Okay, I'm just making sure on that one there.
Speaker 2: So I should have stuck with the be home with
Speaker 2: my sick wife, and she's my priority over my sons.
Speaker 7: In my opinion.
Speaker 6: Yeah, my wife used to be Uh, I don't know.
Speaker 1: She's kind of sweetheart.
Speaker 4: What do you think?
Speaker 1: Right there with you? Let's hear what she says?
Speaker 6: Actually, my wife agrees with you.
Speaker 1: Well, do you have an imaginary wife? I can't hear.
Speaker 1: Where is she at? Uhwe honey? Where you at?
Speaker 2: Sweetheart?
Speaker 1: Sweetheart? Where you at? Yeah? Hi, hi wife? What did
Speaker 1: you want to what did you want to say? Mike's wife? Which?
Speaker 1: What's Mike's wife's name?
Speaker 6: Laura?
Speaker 1: Hey, la, Laura? What are you? What are your thoughts?
Speaker 7: Well? I just think you she's gonna be homesick anyhow.
Speaker 7: So the kid wanted to go.
Speaker 2: So, okay, let me ask you, is this guy just
Speaker 2: trying to cause problems in my relationship. I don't think so, Okay,
Speaker 2: is he a good guy?
Speaker 1: Is Mike a good guy?
Speaker 4: Oh?
Speaker 1: Definitely, he's the best. All right, that's great? Hold on
Speaker 1: a second, hold on, Kevin wants away? And what did
Speaker 1: you want to say, Kevin?
Speaker 6: I think Selsea would be just.
Speaker 2: Okay this guy, Kevin listener, Kevin, that's.
Speaker 1: Me, Mike.
Speaker 7: I think I think Selsea would be just fine.
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah. I say that because my father passed
Speaker 1: away few years ago. So for me, I would die
Speaker 1: for my dad to call me one lafet time to
Speaker 1: me that.
Speaker 7: You know that.
Speaker 2: I'm telling you you never know when the last moment
Speaker 2: you're going to have a time to spend time with
Speaker 2: your kid. I want to make make every moment good.
Speaker 1: Facts. Yeah, no, you made a good movie.
Speaker 2: And thank god I came home and Chelsea was was
Speaker 2: you know, alive and everything was good.
Speaker 1: What's up, Joni? How you doing good?
Speaker 5: How are you?
Speaker 1: I can't believe you know that reference that's crazy? What's
Speaker 1: going on? Jony?
Speaker 7: I have a quick question for you, Mojoe. Why do
Speaker 7: you think you were the a whole for doing what
Speaker 7: you did?
Speaker 2: Because because in the past my relationship with my wife,
Speaker 2: I have not made her the priority, and I felt
Speaker 2: like it was another one of those moments where in
Speaker 2: the past it's been worse moments, and that I started
Speaker 2: thinking about that as I was driving. As I got
Speaker 2: to zeb Rhoades exit there, marian R, I'm like, God,
Speaker 2: I shouldn't I should just turn around. And then I thought,
Speaker 2: you know what, Jacob was so excited when I talked
Speaker 2: to him. And Jacob does not seem like the type
Speaker 2: that would not tell me the truth of his excitement level.
Speaker 1: No, like that was the thing. So that's why I
Speaker 1: felt that way.
Speaker 7: Okay, all right, as a mother of three boys, and
Speaker 7: if I were ill and I would be so thankful
Speaker 7: that my husband did that for my son because of
Speaker 7: how you say your relationship is with the other two
Speaker 7: and not him for you. That was amazing that you
Speaker 7: did that for him and his boyfriend. I think that's
Speaker 7: a beautiful thing that you did.
Speaker 1: So we had a great time. A Yeah, we had
Speaker 1: a great time.
Speaker 2: We had a great time, and I love Chris and
Speaker 2: it was so much fun getting a chance to hang
Speaker 2: with those guys.
Speaker 1: It was wild.
Speaker 2: I will tell you I have one thing though, I'm
Speaker 2: gonna bring it up as a topic later this week.
Speaker 2: I think I'm I think I'm allergic to my my
Speaker 2: grand dog. They have a dog together, and that dog
Speaker 2: made me itch and scratch. It's I don't even know
Speaker 2: it like it looks like a mutt. You don't like
Speaker 2: any dogs. No, but I started itching and it's cratching.
Speaker 2: I had hair all over me. I was like what,
Speaker 2: but I was there. I was taking it like a champ.
Speaker 2: I was sneezing and I thought I was getting sick
Speaker 2: from Chelsea's room.
Speaker 7: Know.
Speaker 1: Their house is clean, Believe it or not. Their house
Speaker 1: is clean.
Speaker 2: They've got a little couple too many figurines and things
Speaker 2: like they like you. They have like they have like
Speaker 2: crazy stuff all over the place. Talk about Joe and
Speaker 2: his Star Wars stuff. These guys, Oh my god, it's
Speaker 2: like crazy. But but they're cute. They're they're they're they're
Speaker 2: two good, good guys. I love them all right,