Speaker 1: Mojo in the Morning Show, Shannon, this topic that you're
Speaker 1: about to bring up right now is a learning lesson
Speaker 1: to all of our listeners that try to do what
Speaker 1: you can in the moment, right now today, because you
Speaker 1: never know if there will be another.
Speaker 2: But what happened, I'm sorry about this.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I got some really, really terrible news on Saturday
Speaker 3: evening that one of my friends from college, a sorority
Speaker 3: sister of mine, passed away unexpectedly in the middle of
Speaker 3: the night, younger than me.
Speaker 4: She was two years two years.
Speaker 3: Younger than me, and she an like an incredible person,
Speaker 3: a teacher, a mom of a three year old little girl,
Speaker 3: a wife, and it was just such a tragic thing
Speaker 3: that happened that she died in her sleep and she
Speaker 3: didn't wake up the next morning, and it just has
Speaker 3: really it honestly, is still so surreal to me that
Speaker 3: she's not here anymore. But it's one of those situations
Speaker 3: where we were really close in college, especially being in
Speaker 3: the same sorority. We lived together, you know, for a
Speaker 3: handful of years, and then we kept in touch after college.
Speaker 3: She came to my bachelorette party, my first wedding, and
Speaker 3: then after that we just kind of like lost touch.
Speaker 3: And it wasn't like we weren't friends anymore. It's just
Speaker 3: the visits became phone calls, and then the phone calls
Speaker 3: became texts, and then the text became a d M
Speaker 3: here and there or a like on Instagram, and then
Speaker 3: you hear that this this person is no longer here
Speaker 3: and I have so much regret of not keeping in
Speaker 3: better touch with her.
Speaker 2: Did she did she battle an illness or what was?
Speaker 5: No?
Speaker 2: No, yeah they did. They tell you what's going on?
Speaker 6: Is everything?
Speaker 3: Essentially she had a seizure, a seizure in the middle
Speaker 3: of the night and no no history of It's just
Speaker 3: because her husband was out of town for so she
Speaker 3: was by herself with the babies.
Speaker 1: That's even worse because I know it's really terrible sus
Speaker 1: bad saying this, but I feel like if if you
Speaker 1: know that they're sick and you have time to be
Speaker 1: able to go, hey, you know, I want to spend
Speaker 1: some time with you. Yeah, but this gives it is
Speaker 1: You're right, it is a lesson and you just don't know,
Speaker 1: you don't know when your time is.
Speaker 3: It really made me sit and reflect and go there
Speaker 3: are certain people in my life that I love so
Speaker 3: much and I hold, you know, such a special place
Speaker 3: in my heart for and I don't necessarily, you know,
Speaker 3: pick up the phone and keep in touch with them
Speaker 3: or hang out with like we always say, oh we'll
Speaker 3: get together, we'll get together, and you never get together.
Speaker 3: And so that's the purpose of me bringing this up
Speaker 3: is like, do those things that you say you're going
Speaker 3: to do or call that person today that you they're
Speaker 3: on your mind, but you're like, oh, yeah, you know,
Speaker 3: the next time I'm on a long road trip, I'll
Speaker 3: call her.
Speaker 4: No, call them?
Speaker 1: Well she uh, you know, you talked about how it
Speaker 1: seemed like when you after your wedding, you guys kind
Speaker 1: of stopped talking to each other. Was it a mutual
Speaker 1: thing or did one of you try to call each other?
Speaker 2: What was it?
Speaker 4: No, She's just like, yeah, like proximity.
Speaker 3: She lives in Indiana, lived in Indiana, and.
Speaker 1: Yeah, do you what do you remember about her when
Speaker 1: you first met her, you know, at college and you
Speaker 1: guys first came so she.
Speaker 3: Was really really she had grown up with one of
Speaker 3: my best friends who I had already known, who was
Speaker 3: my age, and so then she came to the school
Speaker 3: and she was just She's one of those people that
Speaker 3: loves everybody and everything. Like she she was a huge
Speaker 3: cat lover, which you know my feelings on cats, so
Speaker 3: she would always try to make me like cats and
Speaker 3: I would say, Sam, it's not going to happen.
Speaker 2: It's happened.
Speaker 3: But she was just so sweet and she had such
Speaker 3: a spunk about her.
Speaker 2: You know, it's weird.
Speaker 3: We worked together for a couple of years at the mall.
Speaker 3: It just I literally we have a group like a
Speaker 3: shared album that we're trying to make some memory books
Speaker 3: for her daughter. Her daughter's only three, and we want
Speaker 3: her to you know, know her tell stories about her
Speaker 3: mommy and you know her mom.
Speaker 4: So it's the we feel like our friend group.
Speaker 3: It's the it's the least that we could do is
Speaker 3: make like chat books or spat books or something. And
Speaker 3: I look at photos, I'm like, this is not even
Speaker 3: real and she's not here.
Speaker 2: You know, it's weird.
Speaker 1: I experienced death at such a young age when my
Speaker 1: mom had passed, but I became kind of you know,
Speaker 1: whenever you'd have like a relative that would die, I'd
Speaker 1: be like, ohly, my uncle just died, or you know,
Speaker 1: I kind of like because you already dealt with a
Speaker 1: big death of a family member. It's not until you
Speaker 1: lose somebody that is your age and or somebody that
Speaker 1: was like a close friend of yours that you go,
Speaker 1: holy crap. It makes things like life real At that moment, it.
Speaker 3: Feels very fragile all of a sudden, that she went
Speaker 3: to sleep on Thursday night, yeah, and didn't wake up
Speaker 3: on Friday morning.
Speaker 1: And it's wild to say this, but I I'll say
Speaker 1: this guy had a bunch of buddies that committed suicide.
Speaker 1: When we were in high school and then college and stuff.
Speaker 1: We had probably three people that I knew that committed
Speaker 1: suicide for you know, really sad situations for their family
Speaker 1: and friends and all of us.
Speaker 2: But when somebody just dies of like a natural.
Speaker 1: Cause where they you know, or some kind of an
Speaker 1: illness that's not a mental health illness, you sit there
Speaker 1: and you go, oh, my god, that could happen to me,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean, Like this really could happen.
Speaker 1: And then you start realizing, holy crap, like you're right,
Speaker 1: I want to connect. And it always takes something like
Speaker 1: this to make you start reconnecting with people. Yes, But
Speaker 1: then as time goes by, it fades and your go
Speaker 1: back into your daily routines.
Speaker 3: And I say I use the word proximity because I
Speaker 3: feel like that is really important for friendship, Like you
Speaker 3: tend to you tend to stay in touch with on
Speaker 3: a daily basis, the people who you see all the time.
Speaker 4: Right, Yeah, I'm sorry.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and think of the time that you're wasting with us. Yeah,
Speaker 1: you could have easily gone to know. No, it's funny
Speaker 1: like back, you know, a couple of weeks back, you know,
Speaker 1: seeing the people that that showed up at that occasion
Speaker 1: that I had, you know that at the celebration, Like
Speaker 1: I'm like, man, you kind of realize who some of
Speaker 1: your your true buddies are and friends are and family
Speaker 1: members are and stuff like that.
Speaker 2: But he said she was like two years younger than you,
Speaker 2: like sixty eight at the time.
Speaker 1: We're trying to make jokes because hey, hugs to uh
Speaker 1: to you Shanning on that one. But also prayers we
Speaker 1: have to keep prayers for that.
Speaker 4: Yes, her husband and her daughter.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I could not imagine, Like I just I a
Speaker 2: three year old.
Speaker 1: You know, that is just that's just awful to know
Speaker 1: that your your your mom is is not there anymore.
Speaker 1: And the husband who's out of towne mm hm, you
Speaker 1: know what I mean, like not to be there and
Speaker 1: able to be there not only for your wife but
Speaker 1: for your daughter needs to.
Speaker 2: Feel a sense of guilt because he was sleeping next
Speaker 2: to her. Would he have noticed? Yeah, yeah, I don't know.
Speaker 1: You don't you always hear these, uh these stories sometimes
Speaker 1: of where somebody will have like that, like a seizure,
Speaker 1: or they'll have like an aneurysm, And.
Speaker 3: Yes, you're like, what is you want to know the
Speaker 3: craziest part of this, they were able to pinpoint her
Speaker 3: time of.
Speaker 4: Death for Apple Watch really yeah, for Apple Watch.
Speaker 1: Eight four fur mojoelive text nine five five zero zero
Speaker 1: is is our telephone number? You know, it's kind of interesting.
Speaker 1: I did this a few years ago, and I'm going
Speaker 1: to go back to it now. Every day, memory, I
Speaker 1: would tell you, or every week, I would try to
Speaker 1: reconnect with somebody who I hadn't talked to in a while,
Speaker 1: and just out of the blue call and leave even
Speaker 1: a voicemail message. And so I would start calling people
Speaker 1: that hadn't talked to in maybe a couple three years
Speaker 1: or whatever. And I found myself, honestly reconnecting with people. Yeah,
Speaker 1: maybe this is something to do again.
Speaker 3: Yeah, because it's not that you don't like those people anymore.
Speaker 3: It's just life gets in the way and there are
Speaker 3: people that you love and you want a relationship with,
Speaker 3: but we are like I hate the word busy, but
Speaker 3: we all get to busy and there's so many things
Speaker 3: and you forget about the things that are and the
Speaker 3: people that are really really important pieces to your life.
Speaker 1: Isn't this the time of year where we get caught
Speaker 1: up in the crap, you know, we get caught up
Speaker 1: in the holiday stuff, and we do get to the
Speaker 1: point where it's like I feel like we're just in
Speaker 1: this moment of our lives from now until the end
Speaker 1: of the year. We're just trying to get to the
Speaker 1: end of the year, and we're missing days, like we
Speaker 1: really are missing moments and days and stuff. Like I
Speaker 1: was looking at my calendar and I was looking at
Speaker 1: the holiday party is on I think it's like the
Speaker 1: sixteenth or something like that or whatever it is this,
Speaker 1: I was looking at it. It was in my calendar and
Speaker 1: I'm like, oh God. But it's like I just race
Speaker 1: through and just do appointments and I don't enjoy it.
Speaker 1: And then yesterday, like we had that pod luck, she
Speaker 1: enjoyed hanging out with her. It was really a lot
Speaker 1: of fun. It was good to connect with some people
Speaker 1: and just be able to sit there and just have
Speaker 1: a meal. What's up, John, How you doing?
Speaker 5: How you doing?
Speaker 2: I'm okay, buddy, Shannon's the one struggling right now.
Speaker 6: Yeah.
Speaker 5: I was calling in with a similar situation my fiance.
Speaker 5: She had a friend come over and I met her
Speaker 5: for the first time. We had some drinks that evening,
Speaker 5: so we didn't let her drive home. Next morning, she says,
Speaker 5: I'm gonna go see my son because she got a
Speaker 5: call from her son.
Speaker 7: I'll be back.
Speaker 5: While she was gone, she ate something with pistachios and
Speaker 5: had an allergic reaction, went straight to the hospital. While
Speaker 5: she was there, wound up with pneumonia and died like
Speaker 5: within twenty four hours. Here, I'm waiting for this here,
Speaker 5: I'm waiting for this lady to come back this evening,
Speaker 5: you know what I'm saying. And it never came back,
Speaker 5: perfectly just that fast.
Speaker 1: Perfectly healthy before that. And I'm sorry, buddy, I I'm
Speaker 1: sure it's a struggle. I'm sure you're you're you're having
Speaker 1: a tough time, and I hope that you listen to
Speaker 1: this and know that we're we're going to comfort you,
Speaker 1: buddy with some thoughts.
Speaker 5: I mean, it's for them, but it just really played
Speaker 5: with my psychology in my mind.
Speaker 8: You know.
Speaker 5: You know here, I just met this lady. She says
Speaker 5: she's coming back, and next day I know she's passed away. Yeah,
Speaker 5: you know, it's weird.
Speaker 1: That's awful, buddy. Thank you, thank you for calling in
Speaker 1: and sharing that. Man, we're thinking of those guys. What's up,
Speaker 1: Hey Chock.
Speaker 7: Hey, hey Mojo.
Speaker 2: What's going on?
Speaker 7: So my mom bugged us for three months to pre
Speaker 7: come and help her pre plan her funeral. She was
Speaker 7: not sick or anything, and eight days later she was
Speaker 7: in a car accident and died.
Speaker 2: Oh my god, did she did? What do you what
Speaker 2: do you equate that to?
Speaker 1: I mean, is it one of those things where she
Speaker 1: kind of had a a feeling or something?
Speaker 7: So yep, she was, Yep, perfectly fine. We were planning
Speaker 7: a trip to Sicily later the year and wow, he
Speaker 7: and same thing that Shannon talked about her Apple watch
Speaker 7: told us she was in an accident. That's how we
Speaker 7: found out.
Speaker 1: That reminds me of a story about a radio mentor
Speaker 1: friend of mine that I've talked about before on the air.
Speaker 1: But Kid Kradick was a legend in the radio business.
Speaker 1: He's a Hall of Famer and Kid he for years
Speaker 1: woke up so many different people. But he also gave
Speaker 1: guys like me and people like Shannon and Kevin and
Speaker 1: Anna somebody to listen to and aspire to be. And
Speaker 1: he did a radio topic on Friday about planning your
Speaker 1: own funeral and then died that weekend. And uh, And
Speaker 1: it's like it's almost kind of like you think to yourself,
Speaker 1: like your his you know, mom planning this funeral. It's
Speaker 1: almost like something sending you this, you know what, I'm
Speaker 1: going to do this thing, so it makes it nice.
Speaker 1: But it's almost like maybe God's way of telling you, Hey,
Speaker 1: you know what, you're coming home. What's going on?
Speaker 2: Kelly?
Speaker 8: So my dad we all met up for Sunday breakfast
Speaker 8: and he was going to come to my house afterwards.
Speaker 8: And I just had a baby, so I wasn't paying
Speaker 8: attention to the time. My mom called me and she's like, Hey,
Speaker 8: has your dad made it over there? I haven't heard
Speaker 8: from him. And I was like, no, I haven't. And
Speaker 8: it turns out he had a heart attack while he
Speaker 8: was driving over to my house and he got resuscitated
Speaker 8: three times but ended up passing away in.
Speaker 6: The hospital after that.
Speaker 8: But good. I mean it's been three years now, so
Speaker 8: you know, he was just a jokester. So my best
Speaker 8: advice is when you're feeling sad, just think us their jokes,
Speaker 8: Just think of their personality. Just kind of just be
Speaker 8: like ah, dang, like you know, you have to get
Speaker 8: mad for them not being here, but at the same time,
Speaker 8: it's just better just to joke around, be like, oh,
Speaker 8: he would have done this. Yeah, Kelly, you gotta you
Speaker 8: gotta have a positive outlook and make sure that you
Speaker 8: just honor them.
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's a great a they wouldn't want to be sad. Yeah,
Speaker 2: that's a great plan.
Speaker 1: And actually something I tell Chelsea all the time, especially now,
Speaker 1: you know, since after she she got diagnosed with cancer,
Speaker 1: was take pictures, like she never would want to be
Speaker 1: in a picture. Take a picture. Who cares how you
Speaker 1: feel like you look. Take a picture because we all
Speaker 1: want to remember whoever that person is through the eyes
Speaker 1: of pictures, you know, and going through you know, pictures
Speaker 1: for you has to be amazing to be able to
Speaker 1: look at some of the stuff that you guys did
Speaker 1: when you're in college, funeral home. Tom, we haven't heard
Speaker 1: from you in a while, Tom, where have you been?
Speaker 6: I'm content at times and never got through. But that's okay, okay,
Speaker 6: questions for me. Listen. You gotta remember, you guys, we
Speaker 6: come to this world naked, and we come into this
Speaker 6: world with somebody needing to take care of us. The
Speaker 6: same thing happens when we die. We're gonna come leave
Speaker 6: this world naked and someone's gonna give us our lands bath.
Speaker 6: You have to remember, too, every day is a blessing. Okay,
Speaker 6: every minute that you have, there's one minute less that
Speaker 6: you're gonna have. So you got to put all the
Speaker 6: petty stuff behind you.
Speaker 2: Tom.
Speaker 1: You look at it as a customer, don't you.
Speaker 6: No, I don't.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you do, you son of.
Speaker 3: A beer, and look at like the old men and
Speaker 3: old ladies and go, I'm probably gonna see your No.
Speaker 6: But the funny part is when I go to church
Speaker 6: and stuff, all the old ladies and old man come
Speaker 6: up and give me big hugs.
Speaker 1: Yeah there's Tom. It makes me look to Tommy owns
Speaker 1: one suit. It's black, right, you know.
Speaker 6: I own several suits, but yeah, most of them are blasted.
Speaker 6: All right.
Speaker 5: Yeah.
Speaker 6: The fact of the matter is we have to reach
Speaker 6: out to the people that we love because so much time.
Speaker 1: He doesn't count sheep when he sleeps, he counts casket
Speaker 1: he does, and those caskedes add up to dollars for
Speaker 1: a funeral time.
Speaker 6: You guys, you guys all joke about it, but it's
Speaker 6: a lifestyle with funeral directors. You see people that you know,
Speaker 6: you see people that you talk to every day. Another
Speaker 6: week later, they're not there anymore. Man. Question for you, Tom,
Speaker 6: if somebody close to you passed away, would you be
Speaker 6: the one to the naked like, Oh, well, I'm not.
Speaker 6: I'm not actually a license More atation. My son is,
Speaker 6: and and we have all license more atticians working for us,
Speaker 6: So I wouldn't be the one necessarily preparing you.
Speaker 4: You're doing the plan.
Speaker 2: Would you want your son to prepare you?
Speaker 6: You know, that's a tough question, that really is. I
Speaker 6: don't know that. I didn't want to. That'd be up
Speaker 6: to Hill.
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, all right. Will you take care of yourself?
Speaker 7: Tom?
Speaker 1: We love you so much. You go hold on real quick.
Speaker 1: Hold on stand on the phone bill, What did you
Speaker 1: want to say?
Speaker 6: Hey, hey, Mojoe, I told my daughters put me in
Speaker 6: a basebook cap, polo shirt and shorts.
Speaker 2: Breathe in a suit?
Speaker 1: Has anybody ever been buried Tom? And anything other than
Speaker 1: a suit? I want to be buried in some.
Speaker 6: Guys, Hey, people come in.
Speaker 1: I couldn't afford it to Oh jeez, hey Tom, you yeah, yeah?
Speaker 2: Do you give them something?
Speaker 6: Well? I have I have suits in my closet. I
Speaker 6: got like just for that. Don't put me in a suit?
Speaker 2: Can I can I be?
Speaker 6: I can put I can put mold you on one
Speaker 6: until Tom come up to his.
Speaker 1: Ample and they won't just keep yeah, keep the other
Speaker 1: end closed, Tom. Can I be buried in the Lion's jersey?
Speaker 1: That's what I would like, And I want to be
Speaker 1: buried in the lions.
Speaker 6: You can be. You can memorialize your you can memorialize
Speaker 6: your you know, any way you want. There's you can
Speaker 6: we can get a cast especially maybe that's alliance casket
Speaker 6: for you.
Speaker 1: All right, Well, take care of yourself. Guys, appreciate you
Speaker 1: being on with us and Shannon. Our prayers to your
Speaker 1: friend's family. That's that's sad,