WEBVTT - The Regret

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<v Speaker 1>Mojo in the Morning Show, Shannon, this topic that you're

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<v Speaker 1>about to bring up right now is a learning lesson

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<v Speaker 1>to all of our listeners that try to do what

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<v Speaker 1>you can in the moment, right now today, because you

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<v Speaker 1>never know if there will be another.

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<v Speaker 2>But what happened, I'm sorry about this.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I got some really, really terrible news on Saturday

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<v Speaker 3>evening that one of my friends from college, a sorority

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<v Speaker 3>sister of mine, passed away unexpectedly in the middle of

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<v Speaker 3>the night, younger than me.

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<v Speaker 4>She was two years two years.

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<v Speaker 3>Younger than me, and she an like an incredible person,

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<v Speaker 3>a teacher, a mom of a three year old little girl,

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<v Speaker 3>a wife, and it was just such a tragic thing

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<v Speaker 3>that happened that she died in her sleep and she

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<v Speaker 3>didn't wake up the next morning, and it just has

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<v Speaker 3>really it honestly, is still so surreal to me that

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<v Speaker 3>she's not here anymore. But it's one of those situations

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<v Speaker 3>where we were really close in college, especially being in

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<v Speaker 3>the same sorority. We lived together, you know, for a

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<v Speaker 3>handful of years, and then we kept in touch after college.

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<v Speaker 3>She came to my bachelorette party, my first wedding, and

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<v Speaker 3>then after that we just kind of like lost touch.

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<v Speaker 3>And it wasn't like we weren't friends anymore. It's just

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<v Speaker 3>the visits became phone calls, and then the phone calls

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<v Speaker 3>became texts, and then the text became a d M

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<v Speaker 3>here and there or a like on Instagram, and then

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<v Speaker 3>you hear that this this person is no longer here

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<v Speaker 3>and I have so much regret of not keeping in

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<v Speaker 3>better touch with her.

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<v Speaker 2>Did she did she battle an illness or what was?

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<v Speaker 5>No?

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<v Speaker 2>No, yeah they did. They tell you what's going on?

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<v Speaker 6>Is everything?

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<v Speaker 3>Essentially she had a seizure, a seizure in the middle

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<v Speaker 3>of the night and no no history of It's just

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<v Speaker 3>because her husband was out of town for so she

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<v Speaker 3>was by herself with the babies.

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<v Speaker 1>That's even worse because I know it's really terrible sus

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<v Speaker 1>bad saying this, but I feel like if if you

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<v Speaker 1>know that they're sick and you have time to be

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<v Speaker 1>able to go, hey, you know, I want to spend

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<v Speaker 1>some time with you. Yeah, but this gives it is

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<v Speaker 1>You're right, it is a lesson and you just don't know,

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<v Speaker 1>you don't know when your time is.

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<v Speaker 3>It really made me sit and reflect and go there

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<v Speaker 3>are certain people in my life that I love so

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<v Speaker 3>much and I hold, you know, such a special place

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<v Speaker 3>in my heart for and I don't necessarily, you know,

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<v Speaker 3>pick up the phone and keep in touch with them

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<v Speaker 3>or hang out with like we always say, oh we'll

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<v Speaker 3>get together, we'll get together, and you never get together.

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<v Speaker 3>And so that's the purpose of me bringing this up

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<v Speaker 3>is like, do those things that you say you're going

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<v Speaker 3>to do or call that person today that you they're

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<v Speaker 3>on your mind, but you're like, oh, yeah, you know,

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<v Speaker 3>the next time I'm on a long road trip, I'll

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<v Speaker 3>call her.

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<v Speaker 4>No, call them?

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<v Speaker 1>Well she uh, you know, you talked about how it

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<v Speaker 1>seemed like when you after your wedding, you guys kind

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<v Speaker 1>of stopped talking to each other. Was it a mutual

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<v Speaker 1>thing or did one of you try to call each other?

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<v Speaker 2>What was it?

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<v Speaker 4>No, She's just like, yeah, like proximity.

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<v Speaker 3>She lives in Indiana, lived in Indiana, and.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, do you what do you remember about her when

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<v Speaker 1>you first met her, you know, at college and you

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<v Speaker 1>guys first came so she.

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<v Speaker 3>Was really really she had grown up with one of

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<v Speaker 3>my best friends who I had already known, who was

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<v Speaker 3>my age, and so then she came to the school

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<v Speaker 3>and she was just She's one of those people that

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<v Speaker 3>loves everybody and everything. Like she she was a huge

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<v Speaker 3>cat lover, which you know my feelings on cats, so

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<v Speaker 3>she would always try to make me like cats and

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<v Speaker 3>I would say, Sam, it's not going to happen.

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<v Speaker 2>It's happened.

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<v Speaker 3>But she was just so sweet and she had such

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<v Speaker 3>a spunk about her.

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<v Speaker 2>You know, it's weird.

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<v Speaker 3>We worked together for a couple of years at the mall.

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<v Speaker 3>It just I literally we have a group like a

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<v Speaker 3>shared album that we're trying to make some memory books

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<v Speaker 3>for her daughter. Her daughter's only three, and we want

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<v Speaker 3>her to you know, know her tell stories about her

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<v Speaker 3>mommy and you know her mom.

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<v Speaker 4>So it's the we feel like our friend group.

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<v Speaker 3>It's the it's the least that we could do is

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<v Speaker 3>make like chat books or spat books or something. And

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<v Speaker 3>I look at photos, I'm like, this is not even

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<v Speaker 3>real and she's not here.

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<v Speaker 2>You know, it's weird.

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<v Speaker 1>I experienced death at such a young age when my

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<v Speaker 1>mom had passed, but I became kind of you know,

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<v Speaker 1>whenever you'd have like a relative that would die, I'd

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<v Speaker 1>be like, ohly, my uncle just died, or you know,

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<v Speaker 1>I kind of like because you already dealt with a

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<v Speaker 1>big death of a family member. It's not until you

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<v Speaker 1>lose somebody that is your age and or somebody that

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<v Speaker 1>was like a close friend of yours that you go,

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<v Speaker 1>holy crap. It makes things like life real At that moment, it.

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<v Speaker 3>Feels very fragile all of a sudden, that she went

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<v Speaker 3>to sleep on Thursday night, yeah, and didn't wake up

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<v Speaker 3>on Friday morning.

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<v Speaker 1>And it's wild to say this, but I I'll say

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<v Speaker 1>this guy had a bunch of buddies that committed suicide.

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<v Speaker 1>When we were in high school and then college and stuff.

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<v Speaker 1>We had probably three people that I knew that committed

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<v Speaker 1>suicide for you know, really sad situations for their family

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<v Speaker 1>and friends and all of us.

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<v Speaker 2>But when somebody just dies of like a natural.

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<v Speaker 1>Cause where they you know, or some kind of an

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<v Speaker 1>illness that's not a mental health illness, you sit there

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<v Speaker 1>and you go, oh, my god, that could happen to me,

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<v Speaker 1>you know what I mean, Like this really could happen.

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<v Speaker 1>And then you start realizing, holy crap, like you're right,

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<v Speaker 1>I want to connect. And it always takes something like

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<v Speaker 1>this to make you start reconnecting with people. Yes, But

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<v Speaker 1>then as time goes by, it fades and your go

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<v Speaker 1>back into your daily routines.

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<v Speaker 3>And I say I use the word proximity because I

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<v Speaker 3>feel like that is really important for friendship, Like you

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<v Speaker 3>tend to you tend to stay in touch with on

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<v Speaker 3>a daily basis, the people who you see all the time.

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<v Speaker 4>Right, Yeah, I'm sorry.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, and think of the time that you're wasting with us. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>you could have easily gone to know. No, it's funny

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<v Speaker 1>like back, you know, a couple of weeks back, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>seeing the people that that showed up at that occasion

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<v Speaker 1>that I had, you know that at the celebration, Like

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, man, you kind of realize who some of

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<v Speaker 1>your your true buddies are and friends are and family

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<v Speaker 1>members are and stuff like that.

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<v Speaker 2>But he said she was like two years younger than you,

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<v Speaker 2>like sixty eight at the time.

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<v Speaker 1>We're trying to make jokes because hey, hugs to uh

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<v Speaker 1>to you Shanning on that one. But also prayers we

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<v Speaker 1>have to keep prayers for that.

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<v Speaker 4>Yes, her husband and her daughter.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I could not imagine, Like I just I a

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<v Speaker 2>three year old.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, that is just that's just awful to know

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<v Speaker 1>that your your your mom is is not there anymore.

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<v Speaker 1>And the husband who's out of towne mm hm, you

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<v Speaker 1>know what I mean, like not to be there and

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<v Speaker 1>able to be there not only for your wife but

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<v Speaker 1>for your daughter needs to.

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<v Speaker 2>Feel a sense of guilt because he was sleeping next

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<v Speaker 2>to her. Would he have noticed? Yeah, yeah, I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>You don't you always hear these, uh these stories sometimes

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<v Speaker 1>of where somebody will have like that, like a seizure,

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<v Speaker 1>or they'll have like an aneurysm, And.

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<v Speaker 3>Yes, you're like, what is you want to know the

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<v Speaker 3>craziest part of this, they were able to pinpoint her

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<v Speaker 3>time of.

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<v Speaker 4>Death for Apple Watch really yeah, for Apple Watch.

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<v Speaker 1>Eight four fur mojoelive text nine five five zero zero

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<v Speaker 1>is is our telephone number? You know, it's kind of interesting.

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<v Speaker 1>I did this a few years ago, and I'm going

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<v Speaker 1>to go back to it now. Every day, memory, I

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<v Speaker 1>would tell you, or every week, I would try to

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<v Speaker 1>reconnect with somebody who I hadn't talked to in a while,

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<v Speaker 1>and just out of the blue call and leave even

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<v Speaker 1>a voicemail message. And so I would start calling people

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<v Speaker 1>that hadn't talked to in maybe a couple three years

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<v Speaker 1>or whatever. And I found myself, honestly reconnecting with people. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>maybe this is something to do again.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, because it's not that you don't like those people anymore.

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<v Speaker 3>It's just life gets in the way and there are

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<v Speaker 3>people that you love and you want a relationship with,

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<v Speaker 3>but we are like I hate the word busy, but

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<v Speaker 3>we all get to busy and there's so many things

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<v Speaker 3>and you forget about the things that are and the

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<v Speaker 3>people that are really really important pieces to your life.

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<v Speaker 1>Isn't this the time of year where we get caught

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<v Speaker 1>up in the crap, you know, we get caught up

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<v Speaker 1>in the holiday stuff, and we do get to the

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<v Speaker 1>point where it's like I feel like we're just in

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<v Speaker 1>this moment of our lives from now until the end

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<v Speaker 1>of the year. We're just trying to get to the

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<v Speaker 1>end of the year, and we're missing days, like we

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<v Speaker 1>really are missing moments and days and stuff. Like I

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<v Speaker 1>was looking at my calendar and I was looking at

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<v Speaker 1>the holiday party is on I think it's like the

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<v Speaker 1>sixteenth or something like that or whatever it is this,

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<v Speaker 1>I was looking at it. It was in my calendar and

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, oh God. But it's like I just race

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<v Speaker 1>through and just do appointments and I don't enjoy it.

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<v Speaker 1>And then yesterday, like we had that pod luck, she

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<v Speaker 1>enjoyed hanging out with her. It was really a lot

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<v Speaker 1>of fun. It was good to connect with some people

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<v Speaker 1>and just be able to sit there and just have

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<v Speaker 1>a meal. What's up, John, How you doing?

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<v Speaker 5>How you doing?

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<v Speaker 2>I'm okay, buddy, Shannon's the one struggling right now.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 5>I was calling in with a similar situation my fiance.

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<v Speaker 5>She had a friend come over and I met her

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<v Speaker 5>for the first time. We had some drinks that evening,

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<v Speaker 5>so we didn't let her drive home. Next morning, she says,

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<v Speaker 5>I'm gonna go see my son because she got a

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<v Speaker 5>call from her son.

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<v Speaker 7>I'll be back.

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<v Speaker 5>While she was gone, she ate something with pistachios and

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<v Speaker 5>had an allergic reaction, went straight to the hospital. While

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<v Speaker 5>she was there, wound up with pneumonia and died like

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<v Speaker 5>within twenty four hours. Here, I'm waiting for this here,

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<v Speaker 5>I'm waiting for this lady to come back this evening,

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<v Speaker 5>you know what I'm saying. And it never came back,

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<v Speaker 5>perfectly just that fast.

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<v Speaker 1>Perfectly healthy before that. And I'm sorry, buddy, I I'm

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<v Speaker 1>sure it's a struggle. I'm sure you're you're you're having

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<v Speaker 1>a tough time, and I hope that you listen to

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<v Speaker 1>this and know that we're we're going to comfort you,

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<v Speaker 1>buddy with some thoughts.

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<v Speaker 5>I mean, it's for them, but it just really played

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<v Speaker 5>with my psychology in my mind.

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<v Speaker 8>You know.

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<v Speaker 5>You know here, I just met this lady. She says

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<v Speaker 5>she's coming back, and next day I know she's passed away. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 5>you know, it's weird.

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<v Speaker 1>That's awful, buddy. Thank you, thank you for calling in

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<v Speaker 1>and sharing that. Man, we're thinking of those guys. What's up,

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<v Speaker 1>Hey Chock.

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<v Speaker 7>Hey, hey Mojo.

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<v Speaker 2>What's going on?

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<v Speaker 7>So my mom bugged us for three months to pre

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<v Speaker 7>come and help her pre plan her funeral. She was

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<v Speaker 7>not sick or anything, and eight days later she was

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<v Speaker 7>in a car accident and died.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh my god, did she did? What do you what

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<v Speaker 2>do you equate that to?

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, is it one of those things where she

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<v Speaker 1>kind of had a a feeling or something?

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<v Speaker 7>So yep, she was, Yep, perfectly fine. We were planning

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<v Speaker 7>a trip to Sicily later the year and wow, he

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<v Speaker 7>and same thing that Shannon talked about her Apple watch

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<v Speaker 7>told us she was in an accident. That's how we

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<v Speaker 7>found out.

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<v Speaker 1>That reminds me of a story about a radio mentor

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<v Speaker 1>friend of mine that I've talked about before on the air.

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<v Speaker 1>But Kid Kradick was a legend in the radio business.

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<v Speaker 1>He's a Hall of Famer and Kid he for years

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<v Speaker 1>woke up so many different people. But he also gave

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<v Speaker 1>guys like me and people like Shannon and Kevin and

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<v Speaker 1>Anna somebody to listen to and aspire to be. And

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<v Speaker 1>he did a radio topic on Friday about planning your

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<v Speaker 1>own funeral and then died that weekend. And uh, And

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<v Speaker 1>it's like it's almost kind of like you think to yourself,

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<v Speaker 1>like your his you know, mom planning this funeral. It's

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<v Speaker 1>almost like something sending you this, you know what, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>going to do this thing, so it makes it nice.

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<v Speaker 1>But it's almost like maybe God's way of telling you, Hey,

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<v Speaker 1>you know what, you're coming home. What's going on?

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<v Speaker 2>Kelly?

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<v Speaker 8>So my dad we all met up for Sunday breakfast

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<v Speaker 8>and he was going to come to my house afterwards.

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<v Speaker 8>And I just had a baby, so I wasn't paying

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<v Speaker 8>attention to the time. My mom called me and she's like, Hey,

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<v Speaker 8>has your dad made it over there? I haven't heard

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<v Speaker 8>from him. And I was like, no, I haven't. And

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<v Speaker 8>it turns out he had a heart attack while he

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<v Speaker 8>was driving over to my house and he got resuscitated

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<v Speaker 8>three times but ended up passing away in.

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<v Speaker 6>The hospital after that.

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<v Speaker 8>But good. I mean it's been three years now, so

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<v Speaker 8>you know, he was just a jokester. So my best

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<v Speaker 8>advice is when you're feeling sad, just think us their jokes,

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<v Speaker 8>Just think of their personality. Just kind of just be

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<v Speaker 8>like ah, dang, like you know, you have to get

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<v Speaker 8>mad for them not being here, but at the same time,

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<v Speaker 8>it's just better just to joke around, be like, oh,

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<v Speaker 8>he would have done this. Yeah, Kelly, you gotta you

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<v Speaker 8>gotta have a positive outlook and make sure that you

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<v Speaker 8>just honor them.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, that's a great a they wouldn't want to be sad. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>that's a great plan.

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<v Speaker 1>And actually something I tell Chelsea all the time, especially now,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, since after she she got diagnosed with cancer,

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<v Speaker 1>was take pictures, like she never would want to be

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<v Speaker 1>in a picture. Take a picture. Who cares how you

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<v Speaker 1>feel like you look. Take a picture because we all

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<v Speaker 1>want to remember whoever that person is through the eyes

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<v Speaker 1>of pictures, you know, and going through you know, pictures

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<v Speaker 1>for you has to be amazing to be able to

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<v Speaker 1>look at some of the stuff that you guys did

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<v Speaker 1>when you're in college, funeral home. Tom, we haven't heard

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<v Speaker 1>from you in a while, Tom, where have you been?

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<v Speaker 6>I'm content at times and never got through. But that's okay, okay,

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<v Speaker 6>questions for me. Listen. You gotta remember, you guys, we

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<v Speaker 6>come to this world naked, and we come into this

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<v Speaker 6>world with somebody needing to take care of us. The

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<v Speaker 6>same thing happens when we die. We're gonna come leave

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<v Speaker 6>this world naked and someone's gonna give us our lands bath.

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<v Speaker 6>You have to remember, too, every day is a blessing. Okay,

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<v Speaker 6>every minute that you have, there's one minute less that

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<v Speaker 6>you're gonna have. So you got to put all the

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<v Speaker 6>petty stuff behind you.

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<v Speaker 2>Tom.

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<v Speaker 1>You look at it as a customer, don't you.

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<v Speaker 6>No, I don't.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, you do, you son of.

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<v Speaker 3>A beer, and look at like the old men and

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<v Speaker 3>old ladies and go, I'm probably gonna see your No.

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<v Speaker 6>But the funny part is when I go to church

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<v Speaker 6>and stuff, all the old ladies and old man come

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<v Speaker 6>up and give me big hugs.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah there's Tom. It makes me look to Tommy owns

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<v Speaker 1>one suit. It's black, right, you know.

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<v Speaker 6>I own several suits, but yeah, most of them are blasted.

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<v Speaker 6>All right.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 6>The fact of the matter is we have to reach

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<v Speaker 6>out to the people that we love because so much time.

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<v Speaker 1>He doesn't count sheep when he sleeps, he counts casket

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<v Speaker 1>he does, and those caskedes add up to dollars for

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<v Speaker 1>a funeral time.

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<v Speaker 6>You guys, you guys all joke about it, but it's

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<v Speaker 6>a lifestyle with funeral directors. You see people that you know,

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<v Speaker 6>you see people that you talk to every day. Another

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<v Speaker 6>week later, they're not there anymore. Man. Question for you, Tom,

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<v Speaker 6>if somebody close to you passed away, would you be

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<v Speaker 6>the one to the naked like, Oh, well, I'm not.

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<v Speaker 6>I'm not actually a license More atation. My son is,

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<v Speaker 6>and and we have all license more atticians working for us,

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<v Speaker 6>So I wouldn't be the one necessarily preparing you.

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<v Speaker 4>You're doing the plan.

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<v Speaker 2>Would you want your son to prepare you?

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<v Speaker 6>You know, that's a tough question, that really is. I

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<v Speaker 6>don't know that. I didn't want to. That'd be up

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<v Speaker 6>to Hill.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, yeah, all right. Will you take care of yourself?

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<v Speaker 7>Tom?

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<v Speaker 1>We love you so much. You go hold on real quick.

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<v Speaker 1>Hold on stand on the phone bill, What did you

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<v Speaker 1>want to say?

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<v Speaker 6>Hey, hey, Mojoe, I told my daughters put me in

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<v Speaker 6>a basebook cap, polo shirt and shorts.

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<v Speaker 2>Breathe in a suit?

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<v Speaker 1>Has anybody ever been buried Tom? And anything other than

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<v Speaker 1>a suit? I want to be buried in some.

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<v Speaker 6>Guys, Hey, people come in.

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<v Speaker 1>I couldn't afford it to Oh jeez, hey Tom, you yeah, yeah?

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<v Speaker 2>Do you give them something?

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<v Speaker 6>Well? I have I have suits in my closet. I

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<v Speaker 6>got like just for that. Don't put me in a suit?

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<v Speaker 2>Can I can I be?

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<v Speaker 6>I can put I can put mold you on one

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<v Speaker 6>until Tom come up to his.

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<v Speaker 1>Ample and they won't just keep yeah, keep the other

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<v Speaker 1>end closed, Tom. Can I be buried in the Lion's jersey?

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<v Speaker 1>That's what I would like, And I want to be

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<v Speaker 1>buried in the lions.

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<v Speaker 6>You can be. You can memorialize your you can memorialize

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<v Speaker 6>your you know, any way you want. There's you can

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<v Speaker 6>we can get a cast especially maybe that's alliance casket

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<v Speaker 6>for you.

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<v Speaker 1>All right, Well, take care of yourself. Guys, appreciate you

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<v Speaker 1>being on with us and Shannon. Our prayers to your

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<v Speaker 1>friend's family. That's that's sad,