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Speaker 1: It's Marcus in the morning. We're doing second date update

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Speaker 1: right now. Let's just bring our guy Elliott on Elliott.

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Speaker 1: Good morning, Good morning guys. How you doing good man?

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Speaker 1: So Elliott went on a date. Lady's name is Serena.

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Speaker 1: She has ghosted. What can you tell me about the

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Speaker 1: date so we can help you maybe maybe barter a

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Speaker 1: second date.

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Speaker 2: Trying to figure out what's going on.

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Speaker 3: Well, basically, I for the life and we really can't

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Speaker 3: figure out why she kind of vanished after I thought

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Speaker 3: we had a pretty good first date, honestly, one of

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Speaker 3: the better ones I've had in quite a while.

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Speaker 2: Okay, what did you guys do?

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Speaker 4: So well, you.

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Speaker 3: Know, it took up to a really cute little Parisian

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Speaker 3: spot in Redwood City, and you know, she walked into

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Speaker 3: the media, made a joke about, you know, being five

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Speaker 3: minutes late because she circled for parking like three times,

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Speaker 3: so you know, she was making jokes and we were

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Speaker 3: just having a nice time. We split the bill and

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Speaker 3: split a ton of food. Actually in general and really

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Speaker 3: good and the conversation really never dragged that much. She

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Speaker 3: was fun to talk to, had a really wry, you know,

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Speaker 3: kind of sense of humor, and she she actually kind

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Speaker 3: of caught me off guard with some of her humor.

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Speaker 3: But but I I like someone that is a little

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Speaker 3: more daring like that.

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Speaker 2: So I was gonna say, it's.

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Speaker 1: Funny to me when people start out sarcasming each.

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Speaker 3: Other exactly, and that was and it was it was fun.

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Speaker 3: I was like, oh, I feel like I found like

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Speaker 3: a cool person, you know, in that way. The day

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Speaker 3: kept stretching on kind of longer and longer without either

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Speaker 3: of us wanting to really call it. So after dinner,

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Speaker 3: we went for a walk downtown. We we got tea. Uh,

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Speaker 3: we you know, we're talking about, you know, old jobs

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Speaker 3: we used to were. Uh. We talked about like the

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Speaker 3: weird hobbies that you know, you have that you don't

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Speaker 3: talk about on a first date often, you know that

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Speaker 3: that that kind of thing, and so it made me

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Speaker 3: feel closer to her, and uh, you know, she she

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Speaker 3: admitted that she's often suspicious of people who seem, you know,

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Speaker 3: too polished on a first date, the whole too good

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Speaker 3: to be true thing, and I kind of laughed it

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Speaker 3: off and I told her I definitely am not polished.

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Speaker 3: So and then she thought that was very fun. So yeah,

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Speaker 3: end of the night. We had a tight hug, a

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Speaker 3: little pause. We had one of those kind of moments

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Speaker 3: where if following a kiss might happen, but we decided

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Speaker 3: we kind of gave each other this kind of look

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Speaker 3: and said, you know what, let's let's just leave it

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Speaker 3: right here for now. And I text her when I

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Speaker 3: got home and I said I had a great time,

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Speaker 3: and she texted back and said she did too. So

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Speaker 3: it was the next day where it got a little weird.

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Speaker 3: I sent her a message and it got a little colder,

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Speaker 3: you know. I asked her about grabbing dinner the following week,

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Speaker 3: and no response. I followed up a couple of days later.

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Speaker 3: Didn't want to double text immediately, and I, you know,

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Speaker 3: made a joke and tried to get that vibe going again. Nothing.

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Speaker 1: Okay, Well, here's what we're gonna do. We're gonna call Serena.

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna get her vibe. I would love to get

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Speaker 1: you a second date. Let's see if we can broke

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Speaker 1: her that.

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Speaker 2: Okay, man, I would love that.

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Speaker 1: Let's go ahead and see if we can get her

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Speaker 1: on the phone. Go ahead and meet your phone. Let's

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Speaker 1: get this thing started.

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Speaker 2: Here we go. Hello, I'm looking for Serena.

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Speaker 4: Please, who's calling?

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Speaker 2: This is Marcus calling from Star one on one three.

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Speaker 2: Good morning, Oh, good morning.

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Speaker 4: Hi.

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Speaker 2: Do you listen to the show ever?

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Speaker 4: Yeah?

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Speaker 3: Honestly sometimes.

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Speaker 2: Okay, are you familiar with Second Date Update?

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Speaker 4: No?

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Speaker 3: What is that?

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Speaker 2: We do it? Okay, we do on the radio? Is

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Speaker 2: that okay?

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Speaker 3: Oh?

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Speaker 2: Sorry? Hey, yeah, we do a dating segment. It's called

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Speaker 2: Second Date Update.

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Speaker 1: You go on a first date and then somebody gets ghosted,

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Speaker 1: so we call the other person to frankly figure.

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Speaker 2: Out what they did wrong.

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Speaker 1: And I got a call from a guy named Elliott,

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Speaker 1: who had the best time.

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Speaker 2: With you there. Well, by the way, there is a

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Speaker 2: baby in the background. I can't concentrate. Who is that?

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Speaker 5: Oh I'm babysitting for my sister.

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Speaker 1: Okay, cool, Auntie, I like it. Do you have a

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Speaker 1: second to talk about your date with Elliott?

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Speaker 6: Sure?

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Speaker 3: Yeah?

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Speaker 2: Great? Did you ghost I mean.

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Speaker 6: Yes, I actually did like Elliott. He was very charming,

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Speaker 6: he was we had a good time, good company, and

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Speaker 6: I actually thought like we were going to go on

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Speaker 6: a second date.

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Speaker 4: But that's well, there was one moment that I, honestly

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Speaker 4: I just could not get past, so like near when

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Speaker 4: we were close to the end, of.

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Speaker 6: The date, we were talking about weird hobbies and stuff.

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Speaker 5: We had a really good conversation throughout the date, but at.

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Speaker 6: The end we're talking about hobbies and Elliott this was

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Speaker 6: just weird. He like admitted that he runs these fake

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Speaker 6: arguments out loud in his car before dates and like

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Speaker 6: work meetings, and even he was talking about family events too.

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Speaker 1: Well, I don't know.

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Speaker 6: I think it's just like he runs through these scenarios

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Speaker 6: in his head, which I think it's just normal, like overthinking,

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Speaker 6: you know, that's kind of understandable, Like he's just he's

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Speaker 6: an overthinker. But no, he fully explained that he assigns

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Speaker 6: voices to imaginary people and he like predicts what they'll say,

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Speaker 6: and he he was just talking about this and he's like,

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Speaker 6: I practice winning the conversation in advance, and it was

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Speaker 6: just a little much. He actually even told me that

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Speaker 6: he did one before our date, just in case things

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Speaker 6: got awkward, he said, and once he said that the

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Speaker 6: whole night kind of.

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Speaker 1: Shit, literally practicing what he might say if things go sideways. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I see, all right, Well, here's the other half of

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Speaker 1: this is that Elliott is actually listening right now.

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Speaker 2: He called me, we're trying to learn some things.

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Speaker 1: He really dug you, so, like, I don't want you

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Speaker 1: to feel ambush necessarily, Elliott, are you there?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, Hi, yep, I'm here.

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Speaker 4: Hi.

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Speaker 1: So do you have conversations and arguments with yourself? Are

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Speaker 1: you like practicing for real life.

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Speaker 2: Or what are you doing?

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Speaker 3: Yeah? I mean, I'm really embarrassed about this, but I do.

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Speaker 3: I do kind of rehearse real life a little bit sometimes,

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Speaker 3: and I do, you know, assigned voices and kind of

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Speaker 3: about that, but I will say I'm going to try

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Speaker 3: and defend myself a little bit here. It's not like

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Speaker 3: a creepy manipulation thing. It's just how I manage anxiety.

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Speaker 3: I over prepare. I like to talk things out. And

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Speaker 3: you know, plenty of people practice conversations in the mirror

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Speaker 3: or think through scenarios in their head, and my version

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Speaker 3: is just it happens to me, me talking out loud

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Speaker 3: in the car, using different voices, and I'm completely myself

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Speaker 3: on the date. I'm completely in the moment, and if anything,

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Speaker 3: I think that I was trying to be honest and vulnerable,

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Speaker 3: you know, with with Serena.

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Speaker 5: Okay, I hear you, but honesty was not like the

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Speaker 5: real issue there. What kind of shifted for me, I

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Speaker 5: was like I had this image of you basically workshop

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Speaker 5: testing by reactions before we had even met, and then

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Speaker 5: just maybe feel like, in hindsight, like the night was

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Speaker 5: not really as organic as I thought, and like I

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Speaker 5: had stepped into a scene that you had already kind

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Speaker 5: of partially written out.

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Speaker 3: Okay, I get that, that's fair. I think that what's

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Speaker 3: important though, is that everybody anticipates first dates, right like

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Speaker 3: I just had the client part out loud. We've all

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Speaker 3: gamed out first dates in our head of what we're

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Speaker 3: going to say, how we're going to say it, you know,

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Speaker 3: all that kind of especially people you know, like you

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Speaker 3: and me, that have been on so many first dates

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Speaker 3: in the past. I was trying really hard to, you know,

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Speaker 3: tell the truth and be really transparent about myself because

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Speaker 3: we said, hey, let's let's let's tell each other something

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Speaker 3: that we don't often admit on a first date. And

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Speaker 3: this is something I don't often in the middle of

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Speaker 3: first date.

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Speaker 1: You know, Sarah, I feel like he's weirdly halfway got

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Speaker 1: a point.

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Speaker 6: Look, I don't think that you are a bad guy.

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Speaker 5: I actually think you're probably a really good boyfriend for

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Speaker 5: the right person.

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Speaker 6: I just don't think that person is me.

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Speaker 2: Okay, no second date or.

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Speaker 4: No.

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Speaker 5: Actually, but I just thought of something.

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Speaker 6: My best friend Allie, she actually.

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Speaker 5: Does almost the exact same thing, and it kind of

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Speaker 5: drives me crazy, like she overthinks everything. She's like kind

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Speaker 5: of exactly you, Elliott, And so I don't know.

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Speaker 2: And can we set her up with Elliott? I'm down,

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Speaker 2: I'm serious.

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Speaker 6: I think you two would either get married or you like,

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Speaker 6: start a podcast together.

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Speaker 1: I mean, I've broke her dates. I don't care how

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Speaker 1: it happens. So Elliott, your thoughts and.

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Speaker 3: After this, I am open to a referral. Will I

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Speaker 3: will take it. I trust Serena's judgment.

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Speaker 5: Okay, I will happily make the introduction.

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Speaker 1: See, he must have done something right. He's getting a

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Speaker 1: dating referra. This is amazing.

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Speaker 6: I think he's a great guy, like I think, actually they.

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Speaker 2: Would hit it off perfect.

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Speaker 1: I love all of this, Elliott. I'm calling this half

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Speaker 1: a win because you do have to go on to

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Speaker 1: another first date. But let's take it.

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Speaker 3: I'll take it. I'm very I'm very interested in this.

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Speaker 3: Said this sounds proversation.

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Speaker 2: Thank you, Serena appreciate it. Thanks guys, hang on you guys.

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Speaker 2: Is that victory from the jaws of defeat. I'll take it.

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Speaker 2: What a way to wrap up the week. Second date

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Speaker 2: update